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Dealing with Noisy Neighbours

By: Jeff Durham - Updated: 6 Aug 2020 | comments*Discuss
 
Dealing With Noisy Neighbours

Some of us will have had to deal with noisy neighbours at one time or another. Often, this might be simply because of the types of personality they have and not because they want to be disruptive.

Remember, we’re not all the same ‘types’ of people. You might prefer the quiet life or you’d much rather enjoy doing all of your socialising down at the pub. Others, however, might enjoy socialising at home and having parties, they might be DIY enthusiasts, or have a small tribe of children and we’re all aware of how much noise a group of kids can generate.

The problems arise when the noise becomes excessive and it can escalate even further over time if ignored. It can cause stress to those it affects as well as inflicting sleepless nights and can, in effect, completely ruin your enjoyment of your own life in your own home. However, you might be surprised to discover that many people who are considered ‘noisy’ and disruptive are often totally unaware of the effects they are having on others, and a simple polite conversation will often resolve the issue.

Speaking to your Neighbour First

No one should have to tolerate Excessive Noise Pollution, but it's not very neighbouring if you immediately call the police or your local Environmental Health Department at the first sign of any loud noise. Many noisy neighbours might consider this to be a bit like ‘going behind their back’ instead of speaking to them first and, if a complaint is made anonymously, it can often cause an even deeper sense of resentment. They may then become suspicious of everybody in their immediate neighbourhood, and their mistrust can sometimes lead to them becoming even more disruptive.

That doesn’t mean you, as the person under sufferance, should have to put up with their behaviour, but talking to them first about the situation can often nip in the bud a potential long-term noise problem. What is important, however, is the way in which you choose to speak to them and, quite often, the timing.

Choosing the Right Moment

Even if you’ve been tearing your hair out, it’s important that when you go to speak to your neighbour, you stay calm and remain polite. Simply point out to them what effects their behaviour has had on you and your family. You can be firm and get your point across in a polite manner. Most neighbours should be reasonable enough to understand and to take your views on board which should keep things harmonious between you, and also should ensure that they do not repeat the same mistake again.

If you’ve hardly spoken to them previously, you’ll naturally feel a little apprehensive about doing this, but it’s usually the best solution and stops the problem from escalating. However, the other crucial issue is the timing and not simply what you say and how you say it. A house party is a good example.

The Right Timing

If a party is in full swing yet the noise is excessive, it’ll be no doubt very tempting to go and confront your neighbours there and then. The best advice would be to leave it until the following day, as they may have had a few drinks too many and be right in the party spirit. So, if you confront them when the party’s in full flow, they may simply see you as a ‘killjoy’ and/or will simply not be in the frame of mind to give any thought to how their behaviour is affecting you. So, whether it’s a party or a DIY project that’s giving you grief, you’re much more likely to get your points across and produce the desired result if you wait a day or so.

The fact is that most excessive noise problems with neighbours can often be better resolved between neighbours themselves. Sometimes it’s even more effective if a few neighbours who have been affected go round together and state their case, as nobody likes to feel a social outcast within their own neighbourhood.

This all said, however, there may be several reasons why you might not wish to have a chat with your neighbour first to try to resolve matters. Perhaps they are renowned for making people’s lives difficult, or they might want to provoke you into a confrontation that might get out of hand. So, it may be a ‘judgement call’ depending upon the ‘personalities’ involved.

However, no one has the legal right to make someone else’s life a misery through excessive noise, so don't feel guilty about Contacting Your Local Environmental Health Department or even the police, if you strongly suspect that by confronting the issue directly yourself, you could be putting yourself at risk of harm in any way.

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I moved to a village for the first time in my life and expected peace and quiet. No chance. Next door's yapping Jack Russells all day long but worse than that is the aviary a couple of doors along. Constant bird noise and not pleasant sounds like the chirping of a blackbird or robin.I spoke to them and they said they didn't like keeping birds in cages! Well, why do it then?I'll keep on at them until they get fed up of me.The problem now though is that others in the village now see me as the issue. Well, it isn't them that have to live with their anti-social behaviour.
Janine - 5-Aug-20 @ 4:49 PM
We live next door to an idiot who runs his washer/dryer at least five times a week for an hour in the evening right next to our party wall. We're convinced he has it installed against the chimney breast and the thump thump thump is really annoying. We live in a semi-detached property next to this family and we can't talk to them about anything because when we have in the past he's become aggressive and calls us racists. I'm keeping a noise diary because although the council says it can't do anything about household appliance noise, when I told them, they asked us to complete the diary.
Cypria - 4-Aug-20 @ 6:17 PM
Three single people live in a two bedroom house so use the living room as a bedroom.They have a gazebo which they use as a living room all year long, only going inside from November to February if we are lucky.It is only a small space but they still feel the need to shout at each other all of the time, sometimes all day long. Even when we are inside with the windows shut you can hear them.At the weekends you can hear the empty bottles being tossed into the bin and you know that things will only get louder.You just cannot enjoy being in the garden with their constant shouting.They just don't care.Theirs is a rental property and I keep hoping they will move but it has been 5 years so far.The only good thing is that they usually stop at about 10 pm.I have had to spend a fortune putting up noise blocking screens but these still cannot compete with their loud mouths.
Myrtle - 30-Jul-20 @ 11:07 AM
I'm a senior lady living alone and my new neighbor is a young man. ... He complains about everything he hears .We live in a apt so your bound to hear something ,but for him he a a complainer . He complains if you walk to hardhe complains if tv is too loud for him,music,anything. I was here 1st and he has been next door for about 2 years now .and He walked around my apt taking pictures of mesitting on my porch in pj's . Yeshe wants to fight with a old lady. My music is not loudI need to hear it . My TV is not loud .I need to hear it .My grandkids, when they come, are loud , But they come every 2 weeks .Nothing is on all night peace and quite. So what's his problem .Im scared of him .he is now stalking me .taking pictures of me outside. with his phone.
Honey2356 - 26-Jul-20 @ 1:38 PM
My neighbours have only lived next door for 20 days and have played extremely loud music for hours on end every day most of the time until 11pm sometimes until 2 or 3 am we tried to be nice we tried asking nicely but no all we have had is verbal abuse since day 1 me and the roomies are all nurses working all hours we want sleep but no council sent a letter as other neighbours complained to council but nothing has been done
Banksy - 24-Jul-20 @ 8:57 PM
My case isn't as bad as other people here, some of these would be enough to drive you crazy. It's your home and you deserve to have some peace at any time of day. Some loudness here and there is fair enough but constantly is ridiculous. For me I've rented the same flat for 3 years, first 2 years fantastic. Occasion noise from others probably once or twice a month. Last year sone people moved in downstairs who would play music loudly. Could be any time of day (even 4am) and kept us awake. They moved out and we had a nice peaceful month. Now worse people have moved in below. Complained about their loud music on the 3rd day. This was (partly) dealt with as they play it quieter but can still be heard. Next problem was they smoke weed and the smell was entering our flat. Now they have woken us up 3 nights in a row by banging between 3am and 4am. They also played loud music one of these nights. These guys sleep during the day and are awake all night. I don't want people like this living below me! It makes me think they are annoyed at noises we make during the day (legal) so they retaliate by banging during the night (not legal). Do these people not have a job or anything? It's stressful knowing every night I'll be woken up when I have to go to work (currently work from home though). Don't want to discuss with them because they smoke weed and the fact they have no consideration for others by being loud every night indicates they won't be nice people. We won't stop doing what we need to do during the day even if it means it disturbs their sleep. Sleep at night like most normal people! Really hoping to move out in 2 months but god help the next people who move in here.
Be Quiet - 24-Jul-20 @ 10:21 AM
We live in a semi detached and the neighbours causing us misery are the ones actually detached from us in the end of terrace close next door. For 3 years they have been constantly arguing at all times of day and night! The volume of the shouting is unbearable at times and we’ve heard things about this couple that no neighbour should have to hear whilst trying to enjoy a nice sunny day in the garden! We have previously confronted them about the stress it’s causing us and sleepless nights whilst being trying to be diplomatic, but nothing has changed! Just don’t know what to do and whether we’ll be listened to if we make a formal complaint about it then!
RL - 19-Jul-20 @ 10:47 AM
Our neighbours have set up a marquee right along the bottom of our small garden and are using it as a gym... meaning loud male conversation from 6am, the banging and clinking of weights, music playing and different people coming and going all day. This is happening 5 metres from my bedroom window as I sleep on the ground floor. They are known for being noisy, their children shriek loudly at all hours, their house alarm used to drive us mad and their dog used to bark incessantly before they got rid of it. We’ve tried speaking to them in the past, so that’s not an option as they are very hostile but this is driving us mad. I’m fighting serious health problems at the moment and being woken every morning like this really isn’t helping. I’m going to contact the council but I’m not hopeful of it changing anything. Some people really are so inconsiderate of others... in what planet is it ok to make a racket from 6am!
Darcey - 17-Jul-20 @ 7:20 AM
No one can ear it they all turn a deaf ear and have there head in the sand
Snowy - 16-Jul-20 @ 12:16 AM
Thats dreadful Al, feel so bad for you. Does anyone else think its a disgrace that environmental health seems to be useless over all these cases? We should write to our MPs and constantly get on at them about this. ALL OF US! As only one or two people doing it won't help! How about getting a petition going with thousands of signatures to get this debated in parliment? Meaning, there should be laws that you should feel safe in your own home. In your case Al, extra work it is for you, but can you record and keep a diary (video would be the best, can you get cctv, as long as its pointing at your property not theirs it's ok?) Then don't give up complaining to the agency that manages the house. I go totally dimissed when I complained as I'm just a single female renter, worthless it seems, as the agency just fobbed me off and environmental health was the same. Bet if being a homeowner, you got a lawyer onto it they'd pay attention!
nmf75 - 7-Jul-20 @ 3:00 PM
Sorry, I meant to ask...surely people shouldn't have to put up with this. Has anyone successfully sued a letting agency for constantly putting unsuitable tenants into a property. This has surely devalued our house and caused us numerous mental health issues...this can't be right that we have to constantly deal with this
Al - 6-Jul-20 @ 8:49 PM
Hi .we are homeowners (end terrace) but the house next door is a rental property. Over the last few years there has been a new tenant on an almosy yearly basis and nearly all of them have been awful. Music/tv blaring, shouting, parties, talking and screaming outside in the garden at all hours,you name it, we've had to deal with it. New neighbours currently moving in and have already caused problems with swearing on the phone all night, dog barking constantly and gangs of people in and out all day and night slamming doors. I have no idea what you do as previous approaches to environmental health have come to nothing. Feel like I'm having a nervous breakdown
Al - 6-Jul-20 @ 8:44 PM
I live next door to a family of 5 2 adults 3 kids but recently they had 2 others move in a 1 with a child of 3. They have 1 dog and 3 cats. It's a small 3 bed house joined to mine. The male adult has had 2 parties in the last two weekends and today excessively shouting and screaming in the house. I've confronted his partner who apologised and it was ok for a short time but today it's been all day. I have anxiety depression and PTSD my MH is severely affected by this and I am beginning to get stressed I dont sleep and I'm in fear. I have a 4 year old son who when hears the shouting asks me what that noise is. He doesnt sleep either and when going to bed asks to sleep with me. I've been told the male adult is not of nice nature and I should be careful as he is aggressive and so is his family. I'm afraid to go to the council or the police as they'll know it's me I just dont know what to do anymore. I'm actually terrified.
Unhappymummy - 1-Jul-20 @ 8:22 PM
Woman moved in next door to us with her 5 year old child.Apparently he has autism so he doesnt sleep and runs around the house all night and I mean all night.She tries to resolve it but what is deeply annoying is she has a relative who brings her two young children 4 and 1 to the house most nights at 11.00.There is then a children's party through to the early hours.These people dont materialise until 5.00 p.m. every day.The autistic child thinks it is party time every night and then the parents are losing control over the madness and start screaming at the children. Spoke to Council - they said it is more of a Social Services matter - spoke to Social Services who say "there isnt enough evidence of neglect" try speaking to the landlord.The landlord does not live here and lives in another part of the country.After instructing solicitors it turns out he has moved out of his property and now have to find tracing agents. Haven't had a decent night's sleep since last year.Police say there is a marker on the house due to the smoking of cannabis outside but cant do nothing about the child. Tearing my hair out.Cannot move.I own my own house and have no money to move.
End of my tether - 30-Jun-20 @ 10:07 AM
Going thru some challenges with neighbors just about every nigh around 9 this neighbor with big truck blast you can fill vibration from music I know God hears my prayers it's a spiritual war fair I am fighting with the word it wins every time I will not be moved
Donnie - 30-Jun-20 @ 4:33 AM
I really feel for everyone commenting here and I’m exactly in the same boat! I’m a key worker and have stayed on during lockdown while both my neighbours (unemployed and partners now furlough are living it up) I also have 2 young children and really need my sleep! I’m a first time buyer and only just moved to the area and have neighbours from hell! They are up all hours of the night, banging, shouting, parties, music, dog barking both in the rear and front of our house. It’s been so hot and we have to keep our windows shut with fans on just to drown them out a bit. I am stressed, angry and tired and eventually snapped! I asked them nicely to keep the noise down at 2am and got the backlash since then I’m now the target! Feel like a prisoner in my own home! Friends/family don’t like coming over anymore, constant verbal abuse, banging on walls all night, chucking all sorts of trash on our drive and even throwing junk at my wife! Multiple complaints to the council and police and just ignored and passed around! Managed to get the police to give them a verbal warning which they found hilarious! Then one day as well as the usual threats of violence they threatened my children! And I snapped and gave them a taste of their own medicine (of course I didn’t swear at them or threaten them but told them what I thought of them and their behaviour!) and what happened I got a police caution after they complained! Absolutely unreal! I can’t move, I can’t retaliate I have to just put up with it and be left to it! Children now have to share the quieter room, soundbloc boards on route it’s a nightmare! The system just doesn’t help the victims.
Ja - 27-Jun-20 @ 11:23 PM
Hi, Just found this website and have to agree that thelaws concerning noisy, disruptive and usually selfish neighbours, are nothing short of pathetic.If you live in Europe, people complain and the police take action.It shouldn’t be the minority making the majority miserable.Rather than the onus being on the minority to prove noise nuisance, the council should automatically contact all surrounding neighbours and get their opinion, after receiving a complaint. I had a neighbour carry out DIY everyday, all day throughout lockdown without any regard for anyone else and you couldn’t even have the windows open in hot weather, he was so noisy.Now lockdown is easing, he has returned to his usual weekend parties and as I write, is still going at 1am.When I wrote to the council the reply stated they didn’t have time to deal with “sensitive people”!Added to that, a complaint has to be logged on your property when you move.Disgraceful, all round.The law absolutely doesn’t protect the council tax payer (he’s recent and I’ve lived here 30 years).I’m tempted to hold back my payments.Come on councils, start applying some common sense and stop lousy neighbours ruining it for everyone else!!!!!
Tired of waiting - 27-Jun-20 @ 1:14 AM
Poor you Davey, feel so bad for you, but I agree with Rach's comments, start making plans to get away from them, I know its a massive hassle and you might love your house, but people like that are scary, uncontrollable and won't change, in my experience. They maybe don't even have any awareness of how dominating they are being, it's just the way they've always been. Best thing to do is get away from them. I'm stuck where I am for now, it's AWFUL, but I'm making plans on how to move, saving money, packing up my household bit by bit and always on the lookout every day for somewhere better to move to, even if there is compromises. I might have to have the patience and strong will of a saint right now, I'm hating it so much, but eventually something will come up. Best of luck to you and everyone on this forum!
nmf75 - 20-Jun-20 @ 2:39 PM
Aw Davey im so sorry to hear this, ive been through it myself but being that you are just out of hospital as well. Thats awful!Are they council, renting or homeowners?I know how you feel re retaliation its a tricky one. Id say if you can move do it as its a long process , also if you want to sell youd have to tell the buyer if theres complaints. You can go down the route of either reporting them to environmental health and log a diary, or exchange , sell up get out of there. My advise the last two .
Rach - 15-Jun-20 @ 10:00 AM
I just came out of hospital recently after a heart problem, my partner is stressed and we have a 2 year old. Our life has been turned upside down with new neighbours who moved in. The play loud thumping music, shout and swear, slam doors. I'm not sleeping and the stress is not good for me at this time. I am worried about complaining as to put myself in the firing line for retribution, and our car would be an obvious first target on the drive as we have no garage. I have not spoken to my neighbours as they are not the mentality you can reason with and it would also give away it was me if I do report it to the council or housing association. I'm at my witts end on what to do, I cannot stand the stress of it all its making me ill.
Davey - 15-Jun-20 @ 8:34 AM
Grouchy I don't think they will pay any attention to you, sadly. You could try the Environmental Health route by finding the contact at your council and calling them. One plus point is that your neighbours are probably not permanant - do you know who their landlord/agency is? Worth contacting them? As you are ill, get an online or phone GP appointment and tell them? I would see if I could rearrange the furniture so to minimise the disruption best you can. Is it a house or flat? Can you sleep in a different room? I know you shouldn't have to, but I resorted to this, well I turned my bed around, it helped a bit. Google headphones you can wear while sleeping, theres a headband thing, might help? Feel so bad for you and all of us suffering this torment!
nmf75 - 14-Jun-20 @ 5:54 PM
I sympathise with you all. I had neighbours from hell and theyve left me with noise anxiety. Id advise if you can move, do it. The council, police wont do much. Youll end up doing diaries for ages and it only makes you feel worse. I now dread my new neighbour moving opposite which i know sounds mad also as im in a detached house , so just shows the effect it can have. More should be done its not right!
Rach - 14-Jun-20 @ 4:03 PM
My neighbours are polish and have been running an ebay business for many months but now they are selling lots they are up at 5am every morning banging and clanking. Been aroumd to see them and wrote a letter to explain that my illness keeps me awake at night and being woken at 5.15am each morning is making me stressed and ill They have not stopped doing thr banging driving me madwhat can i do
Grouchy - 13-Jun-20 @ 3:13 PM
Since lockdown has started, two of my neighbours have started having parties together. They've been reported and all I get back is "talk to them". No, I'm a small, single woman with children and some of the offenders are huge men. They already make life hell enough without adding to it! They show no respect to anyone else living around here. I have to listen to their awful garden karaoke at full blast until 3am and then loud chatting and laughing which is still happening at nearly 5am!! I wish councils would take it a little bit more seriously and start caring about people. Sadly, I can't see that happening any time soon.
Angry - 7-Jun-20 @ 4:52 AM
A few months ago new neighbours moved in next door and our lives have been turned upside down with constant noisy loutish parties every Friday to Sunday. We have a 2 year old and my partner is disabled and the constant thumping music, swearing and shouting is effecting our health. They are not the kind of people you can reason with and we don't really want to put ourselves in the firing line of retribution. I've really started to feel ill over it all. I wish our previous neighbours had never moved!
Dave - 6-Jun-20 @ 11:48 PM
Just wanted to reach out with sympathy to those that have posted in the last few days, awful drunken loud inconsiderate neighbours are the definition of hell! Added tothe hell is this lockdown, which some of us are still very firmly in, and NO signs of it changing in terms of working from home. I have never felt so trapped and panicky in my whole life. In the past I've had neighbours from hell and have thrown everything into effort getting away from them. Now there is NOWHERE NICE coming up for rent, and like many of us, job prospects are shaky. Every single day is a round of putting up with excessive noise, which like someone pointed out, is a form of BULLYING and HARRASSMENT. Landlords don't care! Councils don't care! I just have to haul myself through each day keeping the hope alive that one day I can find somwhere better and get away from here!
nmf75 - 4-Jun-20 @ 4:30 PM
I moved into this detached property 6 months ago after doing research into the area for the general crime stats or noise issues. It all came back OK, however, you can never truly know what the area is like until you move.So for the past 6 months I've put up with very noisy neighbours with thier dogs going ballistic when they are out and every night they have their mates round drinking and smoking weed. It stinks, I'm sick to the back teeth of the constant drunk talk constant swearing. I've approached them before about the noise and it did calm down for a few weeks but then it started again. The last straw was when they had a party until 4am! With that horrible heavy bass music rattling through the walls, not even my ear plugs could block it out. No one should have to live in there own home and feel this way. I've now made a complaint to the housing who are dealing with it, I've kept a noise diary for the past few months and recordings of the horrible noise. I wish I never moved here, the street would be sooo much quieter if they weren't here, after the expense that has been put into this house getting it right I can't afford to move. It's now starting to affect my mental health quite badly, I'm angry all the time and on edge. I hate coming home now. Even through this lockdown, that hasn't meant anything to them, they still have their mates round. All young 20s drunk and high, very intimidating.
Annoyed neighbour - 2-Jun-20 @ 1:39 AM
I have never had issues with neighbours before, but in a semi-detached with the most inconsiderate drunks next door.Fuming as really pressed what neighbours were like during the sale and were told no issues. However Thursday to Sunday night, up late talking loud, slurring, crashing furniture booming laughs, heckling and singing (terribly).Have done the talk to them nicely thing to which they gave their number, and they said they were putting signs up around their house to remind them to keep it down (bizarre!).Music stopped after 6months when I went around at 2am as it was unbearable. I have messaged a few times about the human noise and get an apology back, only to have to go on the following evening.1:30am on Monday morning, knocked on the wall and got a massive attack back including the immitation on the dog that we were looking after (once every 3-4months, which we now don't do).Have rung council and started diary sheet - but don't know if it is worth the hassle, is it 'Standard living' noise from their own house?Have never complained about the stomping up the stairs etc which is throughout the day and night too as this I understand can be 'normal'.They are just completely inconsiderate, and only like it when on the booze, which appears to be constantly. They're in their 50's.Our household in 30's working jobs 6am-5pm.Absolutely knackered today after they went on until after 1:30am last night.Lockdown has added sitting against the party wall yelling at Skype etc.They know the walls are thin.Not sure why they want us hearing them so much.Horrendous people.Reading up on Council and ASB advice today.It has been 2 years.
Tired - 1-Jun-20 @ 3:40 PM
I have never had issues with neighbours before, but in a semi-detached with the most inconsiderate drunks next door.Fuming as really pressed what neighbours were like during the sale and were told no issues. However Thursday to Sunday night, up late talking loud, slurring, crashing furniture booming laughs, heckling and singing (terribly).Have done the talk to them nicely thing to which they gave their number, and they said they were putting signs up around their house to remind them to keep it down (bizarre!).Music stopped after 6months when I went around at 2am as it was unbearable. I have messaged a few times about the human noise and get an apology back, only to have to go on the following evening.1:30am on Monday morning, knocked on the wall and got a massive attack back including the immitation on the dog that we were looking after (once every 3-4months, which we now don't do).Have rung council and started diary sheet - but don't know if it is worth the hassle, is it 'Standard living' noise from their own house?Have never complained about the stomping up the stairs etc which is throughout the day and night too as this I understand can be 'normal'.They are just completely inconsiderate, and only like it when on the booze, which appears to be constantly. They're in their 50's.Our household in 30's working jobs 6am-5pm.Absolutely knackered today after they went on until after 1:30am last night.Lockdown has added sitting against the party wall yelling at Skype etc.They know the walls are thin.Not sure why they want us hearing them so much.Horrendous people.Reading up on Council and ASB advice today.It has been 2 years.
Tired - 1-Jun-20 @ 3:29 PM
Our neighbours are great and they have a relative staying with them who is also lovely. But she has a male friend who likes to come round and sit in their garden for hours on a Saturday and he has the loudest braying laugh I have ever heard. EVER. The whole neighourhood must hear him guffawing from 3pm until midnight. Most people are still in full lockdown and it's a quiet area apart from when Mr Hyena is here! Next time I must thank him for ruining my Saturdays....
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