Dealing with Noisy Neighbours

Some of us will have had to deal with noisy neighbours at one time or another. Often, this might be simply because of the types of personality they have and not because they want to be disruptive.

Remember, we’re not all the same ‘types’ of people. You might prefer the quiet life or you’d much rather enjoy doing all of your socialising down at the pub. Others, however, might enjoy socialising at home and having parties or they might be DIY enthusiasts or have a small tribe of children and we’re all aware of how much noise a group of kids can generate.

The problems arise when the noise becomes excessive and it can escalate even further over time if ignored. It can cause stress to those it affects as well as inflicting sleepless nights and can, in effect, completely ruin your enjoyment of your own life in your own home. However, you might be surprised to discover that many people who are considered ‘noisy’ and disruptive are often totally unaware of the effects they are having on others and a simple polite conversation will often resolve the issue.

Speaking To Your Neighbour First

Whilst you shouldn’t have to tolerate excessively noisy neighbours, one of the things that annoys them most is when you immediately call the police or your local Environmental Health Department at the first sign of any excessive ‘noise disruption’. Many noisy neighbours might consider this to be a bit like ‘going behind their back’ instead of speaking to them first and, if a complaint is made anonymously, it can often cause an even deeper sense of resentment whereby they become suspicious of everybody in their immediate neighbourhood and their mistrust can sometimes lead to them becoming even more disruptive.

That doesn’t mean you, as the person under sufferance, should have to put up with their behaviour but talking to them first about the situation can often nip in the bud a potential long-term noise problem. What is important, however, is the way in which you choose to speak to them and, quite often, the timing.

Choosing The Right Moment

Even if you’ve been tearing your hair out, it’s important that when you go to speak to them, you stay calm and remain polite. Simply point out to them what effects their behaviour has had on you and your family. You can be firm and get your point across whilst also being polite at the same time. Most neighbours should be reasonable enough to understand and to take your views on board which should firstly keep things harmonious between you and also should ensure that they do not repeat the same mistake again.

If you’ve hardly spoken to them previously, you’ll naturally feel a little apprehensive about doing this but it’s usually the best solution and stops the problem from escalating. However, the other crucial issue is the timing and not simply what you say and how you say it. A house party is a good example.

Timing

If a party is in full swing yet the noise from it is excessive, it’ll be no doubt very tempting to go and confront your neighbours there and then. The best advice would be to leave it until the following day as they may have, perhaps, had a few drinks too many and be right in the party spirit. So, if you confront them when the party’s in full flow they may simply see you as a ‘killjoy’ and/or will simply not be in the frame of mind to give any thought to how their behaviour is affecting you. So, whether it’s a party or a DIY project that’s giving you grief, you’re much more likely to get your points across and produce the desired result, if you wait a day or so.

The fact is that most excessive noise problems with neighbours can often be better resolved between neighbours themselves. Sometimes it’s even more effective if a few neighbours who have been affected go round together and state their case as nobody likes to feel a social outcast within their own neighbourhood and it’s much harder to justify calling more than one person a ‘killjoy’.

This all said, however, there may be several reasons why you might not wish to have a chat with your neighbour first to try to resolve matters. Perhaps they are renowned for making people’s lives difficult or they might want to provoke you into a confrontation that might get out of hand. So, it may be a ‘judgement call’ depending upon the ‘personalities’ involved. However, no one has the legal right to make someone else’s life a misery through excessive noise so do not feel guilty about contacting your local authority’s Environmental Health Department or even the police and having them deal with the problem if you strongly suspect that by confronting the issue directly yourself, you could be putting yourself at risk of harm in any way.