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Dealing with Noisy Neighbours

By: Jeff Durham - Updated: 2 Jun 2020 | comments*Discuss
 
Dealing With Noisy Neighbours

Some of us will have had to deal with noisy neighbours at one time or another. Often, this might be simply because of the types of personality they have and not because they want to be disruptive.

Remember, we’re not all the same ‘types’ of people. You might prefer the quiet life or you’d much rather enjoy doing all of your socialising down at the pub. Others, however, might enjoy socialising at home and having parties, they might be DIY enthusiasts, or have a small tribe of children and we’re all aware of how much noise a group of kids can generate.

The problems arise when the noise becomes excessive and it can escalate even further over time if ignored. It can cause stress to those it affects as well as inflicting sleepless nights and can, in effect, completely ruin your enjoyment of your own life in your own home. However, you might be surprised to discover that many people who are considered ‘noisy’ and disruptive are often totally unaware of the effects they are having on others, and a simple polite conversation will often resolve the issue.

Speaking to your Neighbour First

No one should have to tolerate Excessive Noise Pollution, but it's not very neighbouring if you immediately call the police or your local Environmental Health Department at the first sign of any loud noise. Many noisy neighbours might consider this to be a bit like ‘going behind their back’ instead of speaking to them first and, if a complaint is made anonymously, it can often cause an even deeper sense of resentment. They may then become suspicious of everybody in their immediate neighbourhood, and their mistrust can sometimes lead to them becoming even more disruptive.

That doesn’t mean you, as the person under sufferance, should have to put up with their behaviour, but talking to them first about the situation can often nip in the bud a potential long-term noise problem. What is important, however, is the way in which you choose to speak to them and, quite often, the timing.

Choosing the Right Moment

Even if you’ve been tearing your hair out, it’s important that when you go to speak to your neighbour, you stay calm and remain polite. Simply point out to them what effects their behaviour has had on you and your family. You can be firm and get your point across in a polite manner. Most neighbours should be reasonable enough to understand and to take your views on board which should keep things harmonious between you, and also should ensure that they do not repeat the same mistake again.

If you’ve hardly spoken to them previously, you’ll naturally feel a little apprehensive about doing this, but it’s usually the best solution and stops the problem from escalating. However, the other crucial issue is the timing and not simply what you say and how you say it. A house party is a good example.

The Right Timing

If a party is in full swing yet the noise is excessive, it’ll be no doubt very tempting to go and confront your neighbours there and then. The best advice would be to leave it until the following day, as they may have had a few drinks too many and be right in the party spirit. So, if you confront them when the party’s in full flow, they may simply see you as a ‘killjoy’ and/or will simply not be in the frame of mind to give any thought to how their behaviour is affecting you. So, whether it’s a party or a DIY project that’s giving you grief, you’re much more likely to get your points across and produce the desired result if you wait a day or so.

The fact is that most excessive noise problems with neighbours can often be better resolved between neighbours themselves. Sometimes it’s even more effective if a few neighbours who have been affected go round together and state their case, as nobody likes to feel a social outcast within their own neighbourhood.

This all said, however, there may be several reasons why you might not wish to have a chat with your neighbour first to try to resolve matters. Perhaps they are renowned for making people’s lives difficult, or they might want to provoke you into a confrontation that might get out of hand. So, it may be a ‘judgement call’ depending upon the ‘personalities’ involved.

However, no one has the legal right to make someone else’s life a misery through excessive noise, so don't feel guilty about Contacting Your Local Environmental Health Department or even the police, if you strongly suspect that by confronting the issue directly yourself, you could be putting yourself at risk of harm in any way.

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I moved into this detached property 6 months ago after doing research into the area for the general crime stats or noise issues. It all came back OK, however, you can never truly know what the area is like until you move.So for the past 6 months I've put up with very noisy neighbours with thier dogs going ballistic when they are out and every night they have their mates round drinking and smoking weed. It stinks, I'm sick to the back teeth of the constant drunk talk constant swearing. I've approached them before about the noise and it did calm down for a few weeks but then it started again. The last straw was when they had a party until 4am! With that horrible heavy bass music rattling through the walls, not even my ear plugs could block it out. No one should have to live in there own home and feel this way. I've now made a complaint to the housing who are dealing with it, I've kept a noise diary for the past few months and recordings of the horrible noise. I wish I never moved here, the street would be sooo much quieter if they weren't here, after the expense that has been put into this house getting it right I can't afford to move. It's now starting to affect my mental health quite badly, I'm angry all the time and on edge. I hate coming home now. Even through this lockdown, that hasn't meant anything to them, they still have their mates round. All young 20s drunk and high, very intimidating.
Annoyed neighbour - 2-Jun-20 @ 1:39 AM
I have never had issues with neighbours before, but in a semi-detached with the most inconsiderate drunks next door.Fuming as really pressed what neighbours were like during the sale and were told no issues. However Thursday to Sunday night, up late talking loud, slurring, crashing furniture booming laughs, heckling and singing (terribly).Have done the talk to them nicely thing to which they gave their number, and they said they were putting signs up around their house to remind them to keep it down (bizarre!).Music stopped after 6months when I went around at 2am as it was unbearable. I have messaged a few times about the human noise and get an apology back, only to have to go on the following evening.1:30am on Monday morning, knocked on the wall and got a massive attack back including the immitation on the dog that we were looking after (once every 3-4months, which we now don't do).Have rung council and started diary sheet - but don't know if it is worth the hassle, is it 'Standard living' noise from their own house?Have never complained about the stomping up the stairs etc which is throughout the day and night too as this I understand can be 'normal'.They are just completely inconsiderate, and only like it when on the booze, which appears to be constantly. They're in their 50's.Our household in 30's working jobs 6am-5pm.Absolutely knackered today after they went on until after 1:30am last night.Lockdown has added sitting against the party wall yelling at Skype etc.They know the walls are thin.Not sure why they want us hearing them so much.Horrendous people.Reading up on Council and ASB advice today.It has been 2 years.
Tired - 1-Jun-20 @ 3:40 PM
I have never had issues with neighbours before, but in a semi-detached with the most inconsiderate drunks next door.Fuming as really pressed what neighbours were like during the sale and were told no issues. However Thursday to Sunday night, up late talking loud, slurring, crashing furniture booming laughs, heckling and singing (terribly).Have done the talk to them nicely thing to which they gave their number, and they said they were putting signs up around their house to remind them to keep it down (bizarre!).Music stopped after 6months when I went around at 2am as it was unbearable. I have messaged a few times about the human noise and get an apology back, only to have to go on the following evening.1:30am on Monday morning, knocked on the wall and got a massive attack back including the immitation on the dog that we were looking after (once every 3-4months, which we now don't do).Have rung council and started diary sheet - but don't know if it is worth the hassle, is it 'Standard living' noise from their own house?Have never complained about the stomping up the stairs etc which is throughout the day and night too as this I understand can be 'normal'.They are just completely inconsiderate, and only like it when on the booze, which appears to be constantly. They're in their 50's.Our household in 30's working jobs 6am-5pm.Absolutely knackered today after they went on until after 1:30am last night.Lockdown has added sitting against the party wall yelling at Skype etc.They know the walls are thin.Not sure why they want us hearing them so much.Horrendous people.Reading up on Council and ASB advice today.It has been 2 years.
Tired - 1-Jun-20 @ 3:29 PM
Our neighbours are great and they have a relative staying with them who is also lovely. But she has a male friend who likes to come round and sit in their garden for hours on a Saturday and he has the loudest braying laugh I have ever heard. EVER. The whole neighourhood must hear him guffawing from 3pm until midnight. Most people are still in full lockdown and it's a quiet area apart from when Mr Hyena is here! Next time I must thank him for ruining my Saturdays....
Legogal - 30-May-20 @ 11:02 PM
I moved into this detached property 6 months ago after doing research into the area for the general crime stats or noise issues. It all came back OK, however, you can never truly know what the area is like until you move.So for the past 6 months I've put up with very noisy neighbours with thier dogs going ballistic when they are out and every night they have their mates round drinking and smoking weed. It stinks, I'm sick to the back teeth of the constant drunk talk constant swearing. I've approached them before about the noise and it did calm down for a few weeks but then it started again. The last straw was when they had a party until 4am! With that horrible heavy bass music rattling through the walls, not even my ear plugs could block it out. No one should have to live in there own home and feel this way. I've now made a complaint to the housing who are dealing with it, I've kept a noise diary for the past few months and recordings of the horrible noise. I wish I never moved here, the street would be sooo much quieter if they weren't here, after the expense that has been put into this house getting it right I can't afford to move. It's now starting to affect my mental health quite badly, I'm angry all the time and on edge. I hate coming home now. Even through this lockdown, that hasn't meant anything to them, they still have their mates round. All young 20s drunk and high, very intimidating.
Annoyed neighbour - 30-May-20 @ 5:37 PM
I moved into this detached property 6 months ago after doing research into the area for the general crime stats or noise issues. It all came back OK, however, you can never truly know what the area is like until you move.So for the past 6 months I've put up with very noisy neighbours with thier dogs going ballistic when they are out and every night they have their mates round drinking and smoking weed. It stinks, I'm sick to the back teeth of the constant drunk talk constant swearing. I've approached them before about the noise and it did calm down for a few weeks but then it started again. The last straw was when they had a party until 4am! With that horrible heavy bass music rattling through the walls, not even my ear plugs could block it out. No one should have to live in there own home and feel this way. I've now made a complaint to the housing who are dealing with it, I've kept a noise diary for the past few months and recordings of the horrible noise. I wish I never moved here, the street would be sooo much quieter if they weren't here, after the expense that has been put into this house getting it right I can't afford to move. It's now starting to affect my mental health quite badly, I'm angry all the time and on edge. I hate coming home now. Even through this lockdown, that hasn't meant anything to them, they still have their mates round. All young 20s drunk and high, very intimidating.
Annoyed neighbour - 30-May-20 @ 1:35 AM
I moved into this detached property 6 months ago after doing research into the area for the general crime stats or noise issues. It all came back OK, however, you can never truly know what the area is like until you move.So for the past 6 months I've put up with very noisy neighbours with thier dogs going ballistic when they are out and every night they have their mates round drinking and smoking weed. It stinks, I'm sick to the back teeth of the constant drunk talk constant swearing. I've approached them before about the noise and it did calm down for a few weeks but then it started again. The last straw was when they had a party until 4am! With that horrible heavy bass music rattling through the walls, not even my ear plugs could block it out. No one should have to live in there own home and feel this way. I've now made a complaint to the housing who are dealing with it, I've kept a noise diary for the past few months and recordings of the horrible noise. I wish I never moved here, the street would be sooo much quieter if they weren't here, after the expense that has been put into this house getting it right I can't afford to move. It's now starting to affect my mental health quite badly, I'm angry all the time and on edge. I hate coming home now. Even through this lockdown, that hasn't meant anything to them, they still have their mates round. All young 20s drunk and high, very intimidating.
Annoyed neighbour - 30-May-20 @ 1:34 AM
I moved into this detached property 6 months ago after doing research into the area for the general crime stats or noise issues. It all came back OK, however, you can never truly know what the area is like until you move.So for the past 6 months I've put up with very noisy neighbours with thier dogs going ballistic when they are out and every night they have their mates round drinking and smoking weed. It stinks, I'm sick to the back teeth of the constant drunk talk constant swearing. I've approached them before about the noise and it did calm down for a few weeks but then it started again. The last straw was when they had a party until 4am! With that horrible heavy bass music rattling through the walls, not even my ear plugs could block it out. No one should have to live in there own home and feel this way. I've now made a complaint to the housing who are dealing with it, I've kept a noise diary for the past few months and recordings of the horrible noise. I wish I never moved here, the street would be sooo much quieter if they weren't here, after the expense that has been put into this house getting it right I can't afford to move. It's now starting to affect my mental health quite badly, I'm angry all the time and on edge. I hate coming home now. Even through this lockdown, that hasn't meant anything to them, they still have their mates round. All young 20s drunk and high, very intimidating.
Annoyed neighbour - 29-May-20 @ 10:18 PM
My neighbours have two young girls who have the ability to scream, shout and generally make noise far beyond their years. It went on all day yesterday and when my partner came home from work (he works for the NHS by the way so stressful day) he wanted to sit with me outside before we had our evening meal, the noise was so bad we could hardly hold a conversation, eventually i snapped and called over the fence to please keep it down. I don't think it's unreasonable to expect them to be considerate to others as we would be to them, however I don't think they have this mentality unfortunately, so I have probably made matters worse. We could both do without the stress at the moment, been living here 21yrs but I am considering moving .
Evaready - 29-May-20 @ 7:49 AM
You got to be kidding. Eveeyone makes noises. But it's stupid and it's devilish too make *excessive noise! Excessive noise is! Another form or bullying and harassing your neighbor's and it's a "crime". Whoever put this note out! Needs *wisdom knowledge s And understanfing! Noises is not! *privilege or right*. Everyone makes noises but let! It! Be normal. Too much noises is! Disturbing! Just! Like! Profane languages loud and excessive noises people's cannot rest or sleep! This! Is! Life! *reality not yours or theirs cartoon shoes*this comment or this advice is foolish and comments or so called advice above! Should nr Ever! Be posted! It's foolish too say these thing's! Everything! Is limited on earth! Even our years on earth! Is! "Numbered" so what! A foolish advice or something called comment! I myself and nobody on this *whole entire earth* has a right to be excessively loud! And out! Uncontroling and out! Of order in their home job outside public dewelling your inside your home apartment's schools stores and no! Inside or outside! Dwelling's! Peoole's are not having it! It's very! Distrubing! And very out! Of line. You cannot! Hear! Anything in your home car or yards! That's why! Loud noises is called *disturbing the peace! Of all outside and living areas even forest and mountains loud and excessive noise distract people's attention and it! Also gets people killed on the highways and in their homes and dwelling's! People are evil most! Everyone needs too hear all their surrounding's! Jesus and our loving Father our god requires all! People's of the earth to contain a quiet and sensible spirit! And self control of your minds ways paths a actions and ? heart's! We all! Must contain and live in self! Control! And live in holiness and pureness of heart's righteousness of our loving jesus and our loving father god! We are living around people's everyday and surrounded by! Millions and self control and containing is! A must! Nobody! Can have right's too be! A disturbing person and overloud!That's! Not! Normal that's why! *excessively and too loud! A noise! Is! A crime! It's the law! And it! Will be enforced rather you like it! Or not! This world doesn't not be as you or one person want's it! It's * laws policies and Reginald! And the! (Word of jesus and our father god! Over it!Be n Bless all! ? And love and pray! For yourselves families enemies and one another all over the world! That all be! Sensible about life and help and care for all! And watch your *thought's your ways and your paths and directions! In life! "For to be foolish is decietfull and the ways too death and destruction's says our loving jesus and our loving father god! We must think of other's and thier lives too! And we must! Put the Lord first in our lives and *serve and follow him! Now till eternity! ? Much love and peace faith love and prayers! Be blessed as all and your families and all! ? Blessing*s!!!!!!!
lain - 25-May-20 @ 11:16 AM
Thanks nmfim sorry i forgot the numbers after your username. That is a good point everyone has bbqs in summer is just through bad experiences that i get uptight i had ones who had raves til early hours. Elderly arent always quiet luckily either side mine are lovely so i count that blessing. Im not sure if environmental health have any support groups on their website?I hope you find some peace one day theres nothing worse than having nightmare neighbours and ive gone through all sorts of them. Maybe i should run a support group myself.I always say if you can move do it , try and meet the neighbour beforehand , go past at night..shame we cant all live by eachother tbh!
Rach - 25-May-20 @ 9:32 AM
Im being driven insane and its beginning to seriously affect me.A few months ago the group of 5 terraced houses behind me were covered into assisted living accommodation. One of the houses lives a young severely disabled man who has constant 24hr care. When he is in the garden he let's off the most horrendously loud squawking that goes on and on constantly It is monotone. It goes on in my head even after he has stopped.I feel the carers put him outside a lot more than is necessary even on very blustery rainy days. Its difficult to know what, if anything I can do considering the sensitivity around this, even asking other neighbours opinions as I don't want to come across the wrong way.
Kevlar - 24-May-20 @ 9:31 AM
I hope the new neighbours turn out to be ok Rach. Glad to hear you finally got somewhere detached. Even if they do have bbqs etc, it may only be a few days out of the whole year, I hope so for you anyway. Thats my dream, to find a detached cottage not too far from amenties,and I SO wish I'd focused on that and just that from a young age. Now I'm middled aged and have no savings for a deposit, not that buying is the answer, in fact renting is a plus in that I can, after a lot of expense and effort, get away from nightmare neighbours. But quiet homes are so hard to find. Landlords lie just to get a tenant in or even don't know themselves how bad the neighbours can be. I moved into this current place as I thought elderly neighbour, how bad could it be? WRONG!!!! SO WRONG!!! Does anyone know if there is any support for people dealing with difficukt neighbours? I don't trust the council, in my previous experience they don't care what I'm going through.
nmf75 - 22-May-20 @ 10:16 AM
Ive never had luck with neighbours. Ive been through the lot. It made me so ill. And now i suffer with anxiety. People are so inconsiderate.We moved to a new area , bought detatched and im still dreading new neighbours moving in opposite as there was a quiet elderly man there before. I feel sick, and i know im gonna be a nightmare. They mentioned they have bbqs but respectful, thing is you never know do you. Id advise anyone if you have neighbours from hell ..,Move.. environmental health wont help and they will string it out.
Rach - 21-May-20 @ 6:46 PM
Feel so sorry for all those suffering with noisy neighbours in this lockdown. I'm still struggling with my elderly neighbour and her daughter playing LOUD bass music between 8- 6 every day. Yes, you did read that right! You think it's not too bad? It's driving me INSANE! The constant thumping, omg its so loud and makes me feel sick and dizzy and can't concentrate or think. I ended up confronting the daughter but she denys its a problem, even though I got her to go into my property and hear it for herself. I asked her why should I have to listen to her music. She never answered, she just insists her mother needs to have it really loud. What are we in, week 8 or is it 9 of this now? Even more bizarre, I've now totally lost hearing in my right ear and only have a little audio in my right - I started putting foam ear plugs in my ears, but that has caused irritation with wax in my ears (sorry, gross) and blocked my hearing. Now I can barely hear a thing, but can STILL hear the bass clearly, due to the low frequency sound! You could not make it up! The doc can't clear my ears as they are not taking appointments just now. I'm on week 5 of furlough and my line manager is expecting me to be completing online courses - I'm struggling to focus and concentrate on anything, feel so TRAPPED!!! Can't move as I'm unsure how secure my job is right now. Terrified to end up in another flat or even a terraced or semi house incase the neighbours are similar or worse. There's barely anything available in the market just now anyway, nobody with a decent place is gonna move! Just want it all to STOP.
nmf75 - 21-May-20 @ 12:07 PM
My boyfriend and I moved into a lovely rented house a year ago, the house next door was empty and needed refurbishment. We were unaware at the time that someone had bought the property. Unfortunately my other half was rushed to hospital just before Christmas, he was out on Christmas Eve but ordered bed rest for the next few weeks. 7am 2nd January we were awoken by banging, drilling and walls being ripped down. Fortunately we do not yet have any children but no one thought to check prior. I went round to find builders had moved into the empty house and were gutting the property. We informed our landlady who went round, which unfortunately solved nothing. The banging continued 6 days a week. Eventually I caught sight of the owner and explained that it is common courtesy to let your neighbours know, as well as not using loud equipment until 8am. She reluctantly apologised and informed of the 'awful situation and had been aware of my visit to the builders- to which I mentioned that this was her opportunity to come and explain to us what was happening. Instead she informed me she had been having constant "nightmare non stop phone calls " with needing to choose tiles for her new kitchen' we left it on good terms, she informed that the work would only continue for another 6 Weeks, this was towards the end of February. Once the lockdown came along, the builders continued to turn up. She eventually moved in at the end of April. Alas! No more banging! Then low and behold... landscape gardeners turned up and began by cutting up the concrete slabs with a rather loud piece of machinery. Then today- the hottest day so far and we have been stuck indoors because the delightful neighbour was having the overgrown trees cut down, my fresh washing on the line covered in dust. Not one thought process to let us know what was happening.it all may sound completely trivial to some but it has been very difficult to live with non stop banging for the past 5 months. Me and my partner have argued so much over it.I work as a wedding coordinator so have had a tricky job of rearranging couples big days, I can honestly say it has been hard to concentrate. In light of the situation, I still have my physical health and my family are well. It Sounds stupid writing it down but with the noise next door and the upset brides to handle taking their anger and frustration out on you, lockdown has most certainly affected my well being. My other half doesn't seem to understand and I don't feel like I have anyone to talk to. I have come so close to going round to the neighbour but worry that I will just stand and cry. I just want to let them know how it's made me feel, how they have not considered us throughout, only themselves. It was noisy at the best of times but during Lockdown has been unbearable and there is nowhere to run to escape it. It's been good to come across this forum to open up. Sorry for the long read. Stay safe and well all.
LY89 - 20-May-20 @ 7:22 PM
Being stuck indoors with noisy neighbours is such hard work. One neighbour chose the day the lockdown started to start refurbishing a house despite the house being vacant for the past few years. So I've had drilling, banging and constant noise there. Below me I have a family who only know how to shout and leap around. Literally the children crash and leap around from 10am -5pm and only then do they go out for an hour, it's bizarre - we've told them we're working from home yet they stay in ALL day and leave once we've finished work. The parents are even worse, all I hear all day long is the mum shouting loudly. I can't wait until I can afford a detached house!
London - 20-May-20 @ 3:03 PM
We moved in a year ago and our next door neighbour has a big workshop in his garden that has a window opening into our garden as the wall of the workshop is apart of the boundary now.He works there as his job all day during the week, some evenings and some weekends. The noise and sometimes Stink from his machinery is driving me mad. He also has music in thre house on loud at the same time which we hear inside too so no escape from the noise. My partner is ill long term and we moved to somewhere with a garden so he can get much needed sunshine. He cannot go in the garden, worse is the neighbour spends more time out there making noise with his machinery more when the weather is nice. Its impacting our lives and making our home life unbearable sometimes. I work for home now because of lockdown and I cannot open he window as its too distracting and its too hot and stuffy with it shut. I am at the end of my tether. He must know!? I want to speak to him but I'm not good with confrontation.
Ads - 20-May-20 @ 12:42 PM
Myself and my husband moved into our first bought home about 3 years ago, the same time as our neighbours as it was a new estate. They have a dog which barks to the point that it can be heard streets away from ours, we have been approached by a neighbour who lives in a different street, to complain about my neighbours dog barking. It’s been constant, and it’s not even when the dog has been left, they let the dog get excited and it barks for ages after that. Since lockdown it has become unbearable, Im working from home and the barking is driving me insane,to the point that I’ve politely approached them on one occasion and so has my husband. I had to leave a note through their door because I can’t keep leaving my work to ask them to keep the dog barking to a minimum. I just feel like I’m going to lose my rag over it! I’ve been in touch with my local council, but want to give my neighbours a chance before I proceed with it. Why aren’t people more considerate?
Fedup2themax - 20-May-20 @ 12:08 PM
I feel for everyone at moment because we all stuck indoors because lock down with neighbours from hell I’ve had 8 weeks off it from my neighbours! Can’t sit relax in my garden been drilling banging making racket everyday and there old not young I might add . I understand people have right too make and improve there home’s but no break from it or respect .. I have teenagers my youngest goes in garden sometimes but we tell her if she gets too loud too keep it down ect . We now moving hoping find something pretty quick ! As can’t take this much more ,, all I can say is if you can move is move only way get away from this sort people ...
Loulou79 - 16-May-20 @ 2:45 PM
Since the lockdown, our neighbours seem to cope by allowing their three children to run riot in the garden. The noise is unbearable to the point that we are unable to relax in our garden. We understand that the lockdown is difficult for everyone, especially for families with young children but the level of noise is causing us a great deal of angst.The children scream constantly and the parents never ever ask them to tone it down, even a little. We are reluctant to complain as we do not know them very well and are unsure how they will react. I would have hoped that since we are all in lockdown, a little more consideration for everyone, would be in order. The parents seem content to leave the children to scream and shout in the garden while they remain indoors. They may be working from home but I cannot imagine that they would be able to work with the level of noise from the garden.There is effectively no parental supervision and the children are simply left to their own devices. We are worried that if we complain we will be seen as unreasonable and they will say that it’s just the noise of children playing. I recorded the noise and sent it to my daughter who has three children. She said that it was completely unacceptable and that she would not be able to cope with it either. I really don’t know what to do for the best and wonder if anyone else is dealing with a similar problem.
Kat - 12-May-20 @ 9:27 AM
Myself and the other half are having a massive falling out over our neighbor complaining about our noise levels. My other half wants to play music from their speaker bar in the garden when the sun is out for a couple of hours every week or so. She is mindful however that their volume is at a level in which you have a normal conversation without having to raise your voice. With that said, our neighbor will complain that the noise is far too loud and that she has to close her conservatory windows/doors and is still able to hear it. Because of this, my other half feels paranoid that she is being too loud and cannot be comfortable in her own home. Bear in mind, that there is a lot of stress going on outside of the home, so she wants to feel comfortable in our house. I'm stuck in the middle, I don't want to have bad relations with my neighbor but at the same time, I want my other half to feel comfortable listening to music from her speaker. To be sure, I investigated myself and closed all doors to the garden, put on the TV and it was fine, I could not hear a thing, however my neighbor says that they had to put their TV on "97" to be able to hear it. I'm also aware that my neighbor could be picking faults in order to maintain a totally quiet house (but I'm sure that this is me being cynical). I'm struggling to find a solution for both my other half and my neighbor, here are two solutions: 1) Tell the neighbor that music in the garden at a level where you can have a casual conversation is fine, especially on a bank holiday (VE day). So they are just going to have to suck it up and put up with it - it's not like we do this every day? just every 1-2 weeks (nice weather etc.). 2) Go to the neighbor's and say that we will turn it down to an even quieter volume and ask to hear it for ourselves to judge if it's too loud on their part. (they could have hard furnishing which can amplify the sound, so I'm told). Any advice, would be appreciated, thanks.
JinxG3 - 10-May-20 @ 9:39 AM
I am currently a bag on anxiety over this, my neighbour was sitting in the garden having a BBQ and playing music from his front room so loud that it was vibrating through every room in my house. Why couldn't he take a speaker outside to listen to music rather than play it so loud from the house?! I eventually knocked on the fence and asked him to turn it down which for once he did. Later when I went back outside he started talking really loudly on his phone about how rude I was to ask him! I've tried using the council's noise app but it is rubbish and they keep saying it's not considered a nuisance. How is not being able to concentrate or get away from someone else's racket not a nuisance?! I have spoken to the neighbours and sent them notes but I only get snarky replies about how they aren't loud and it's my problem. I'm running out of patience and my other half is on the verge of breaking down sometimes. This is seriously affecting our lives and it's so much worse now we are on lockdown and can't escape him. He also has a major attitude problem and thinks his rights to loud TV, music and shrieking are more important than ours to not hear him every day. If anyone has any advice that doesn't include me screaming through his letterbox I would appreciate it. So far I have managed to deal with him calmly but I am a n actual pain from the anxiety of it now!
JC - 8-May-20 @ 9:10 PM
We have a council tenant in one of houses on our close they bang music out all times of the day and have parties even when there is social distance 8n place. We are starting to get really upset and depressed now we are about to Foster our 1st child but might have to stop the process as we can't put the child through sleepless nights as the child will have the front bedroom as all the other rooms are taken and the Foster child are not allowed to room share. I can't believe people who get free housing can have such of a lack of respect when there are people queueing for social houses who are such nice people
Dol - 6-May-20 @ 8:17 PM
In 2014, my elderly parents purchased a property in 2014; the location and neighbours were lovely. In 2018 the neighbours on our left decided to privately rent out their home; it was rented to a large group of young Romanians, not necessary a nuclear family but more couples. I do not know who lives in the property as they have new faces and cars parked outside almost every couple of months. From the moment they moved in they have been loud, selfish and entitled; massive parties every couple of months, awful bass type music every weekend and grownwomen screaming and screeching most evenings in their living rooms. I'm not sure if they work and I have occasionally seen kids at the property. They barely speak English and usually flock in large groups made up of intimidating looking men making challenging them useless (tried it once and it was met with so much hostility and ego- properly annoyed a young women of colour challenged them). They seem traditional where the men are the lead/ dominateof the household. There have no consideration that both their neighbours on both sidesare elderly and majority of families on this road are peacefulfamilies. Complaints to the council has been fruitless and their landlord (who we use to have a good relationship with as they were our old neighbours) have done nothing- im sure its because there is money involved. Unfortunately the lockdown has only amplified this; there is loud music everyday, they sit in the garden all day shouting in their native language. Yesterday (5/05/2020) they even held a family birthday!! They had families who came by and put a massive table outside in their garden. No shame or care whilst they blast their music and shrieked ! I am also working from home and work in education meaning I have things that need to get done. One thing this has taught me is money does not buy class. These people are classless. They think privately renting or driving nice BMW gives them power and control.. when really they have none. They are low lives who think they are above the law.. when really its effecting all of us! I even pray they get it .. that's how angry I am..
Kumbi - 6-May-20 @ 7:19 PM
My parents and I brought a property in a residential area in 2014; the location and neighbours were lovely. Unfortunatelyin 2018 my neighbours decided to privately rent out their home to agroup of young Romanian/ eastern European. Since 2018 there has been new faces and cars at the property. They are loud, entitled and selfish. Their music taste is awful and they have thrown various parties throughout the last year and a half with no consideration of timing or the fact that the neighbourhood is filled with elderly andfamilies with children that have school or work I do not know whether they work nor do I know who actually lives at the address as the people are always changing ( a few times I do see some children come over) They barely speak in English and act oblivious when asked in the past to turn things down or asked when things may end. They also flock in massive groups of mainly men making it very intimidating and pointless to challenge. Although we had a good relationship with the landlord ( they were our old neighbours) very little has been done ( I'm guessing because it involves money. The council as well has been useless) Since lockdown it has only amplified; staying up super late screaming and laughing.. Yesterday there was a large gathering for someone birthday. As selfish as I sound I do PRAYthey get convid. These people think money buys class but there are so so wrong. And before anyone makes a comment I am a women of an ethnic minority background that is a key worker in education that working from.home ! My feelings of anger are extremely valid and I will not back down.
Kumbi - 6-May-20 @ 6:42 PM
My parents and I brought a property in a residential area in 2014; the location and neighbours were lovely. Unfortunatelyin 2018 my neighbours decided to privately rent out their home to agroup of young Romanian/ eastern European. Since 2018 there has been new faces and cars at the property. They are loud, entitled and selfish. Their music taste is awful and they have thrown various parties throughout the last year and a half with no consideration of timing or the fact that the neighbourhood is filled with elderly andfamilies with children that have school or work I do not know whether they work nor do I know who actually lives at the address as the people are always changing ( a few times I do see some children come over) They barely speak in English and act oblivious when asked in the past to turn things down or asked when things may end. They also flock in massive groups of mainly men making it very intimidating and pointless to challenge. Although we had a good relationship with the landlord ( they were our old neighbours) very little has been done ( I'm guessing because it involves money. The council as well has been useless) Since lockdown it has only amplified; staying up super late screaming and laughing.. Yesterday there was a large gathering for someone birthday. As selfish as I sound I do PRAYthey get convid. These people think money buys class but there are so so wrong. And before anyone makes a comment I am a women of an ethnic minority background that is a key worker in education that working from.home ! My feelings of anger are extremely valid and I will not back down.
Kumbi - 6-May-20 @ 6:41 PM
So we have been living in our house for 11 years we love it and love the area it’s so peaceful I now have a 3 year old and nearly 1 year old. We have alway got on with all of our neighbours prob had about 5 different ones since we been here. Last 2 years we have had new ones everything was fine got on really well the guy used to like doing jobs around the house or garden (it’s rented) but for the last year he has been doing it every single day. The banging the dust the smell of it constant noise and when I say everyday I mean everyday. Now it has got to us there’s not a day where we can just go and sit outside and it be peace and quiet my partner sat outside with his dressing gown on the other day for 5 mins and he was caped in sawdust. Anyway he went round to have a word and ask them to sort it out but it then got a little heated coz seems like the guy was being a little cocky. Next door did sort the sawdust situation out by cutting wood under a tent but yesterday I could still smell it after having my back doors open with the kids playing outside so I messaged them and the response back was ridiculous they said they won’t be stopping they don’t no how long they will make noise for if we have problem then go council because there doing nothing wrong. What should we do I feel like it affecting my life the man next door don’t work so has nothing better to do and i think it’s crazy all the work there doing as it’s rented house so they don’t own it. If I wanted someone to do work everyday I’d go to a construction site being at home is ment to be your happy place and I’m not happy here no more. Advise please ??
Kj - 5-May-20 @ 12:33 PM
I live in a 3rd floor flat with one other flat above me.I have been here for 6 years and love the place, but the most recent neighbor to move in upstairs (18 months ago) has got me seriously considering moving.He normally has his 2 children on a weekend and they cause a lot of noise, but I normally leave my home on a weekend to stay with my partner so have managed to avoid the majority of the noise, until lock-down. Now that the UK is on lock-down I am unable to go to my partners house and am working from home, so I cannot escape the noise.To make matters worse he is now having his kids stay three days through the week and over weekends.So it is now more or less constant. I know from the level of noise that the children and chasing each other around the flat for hours at a time, climbing on the furniture and jumping off, and I suspect that he doesn't have rugs or carpets so nothing to soften the noise or vibrations. I am now finding it impossible to concentrate on my work and can feel the vibrations from the flat above from 7am until 10:30pm.I have even had a couple of ceiling spot lights drop from their fittings due to the vibrations. I have only nodded to the neighbor a couple of times on the stairs and never spoken to him.He actively seems to avoid contact.On a couple of occasions when we have both pulled into the car park at the same time, he has actually sat and waited in his car until I am up the stairs and in my flat (not just me either, I've seen him do the same with other neighbors).So I do not feel it would be appropriate to knock on his door to discuss the noise.I am considering leaving a polite note in his mailbox, but dreading if he takes this the wrong way and escalates the noise.I fully appreciate that children will make noise, but also know that this is excessive, I am not unreasonable but am starting to feel like a prisoner in my own home (and not due to the lock-down).Any advice from anyone who has gone through something similar, is it worth the hassle?
AndyC - 5-May-20 @ 11:57 AM
So we have been living in our house for 11 years we love it and love the area it’s so peaceful I now have a 3 year old and nearly 1 year old. We have alway got on with all of our neighbours prob had about 5 different ones since we been here. Last 2 years we have had new ones everything was fine got on really well the guy used to like doing jobs around the house or garden (it’s rented) but for the last year he has been doing it every single day. The banging the dust the smell of it constant noise and when I say everyday I mean everyday. Now it has got to us there’s not a day where we can just go and sit outside and it be peace and quiet my partner sat outside with his dressing gown on the other day for 5 mins and he was caped in sawdust. Anyway he went round to have a word and ask them to sort it out but it then got a little heated coz seems like the guy was being a little cocky. Next door did sort the sawdust situation out by cutting wood under a tent but yesterday I could still smell it after having my back doors open with the kids playing outside so I messaged them and the response back was ridiculous they said they won’t be stopping they don’t no how long they will make noise for if we have problem then go council because there doing nothing wrong. What should we do I feel like it affecting my life the man next door don’t work so has nothing better to do and i think it’s crazy all the work there doing as it’s rented house so they don’t own it. If I wanted someone to do work everyday I’d go to a construction site being at home is ment to be your happy place and I’m not happy here no more. Advise please ??
Kj - 5-May-20 @ 10:30 AM
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