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By: Jeff Durham - Updated: 13 Jun 2017 | comments*Discuss
 
Neighbour Noise Nuisance Slamming Door

Q.

I live in a rented townhouse. My neighbour has a habit of slamming her door several times a day and it has actually knocked a shelf from my wall. I've asked her not to and her reason for doing it is that she has a problem with the door locking because of weatherstripping.

On two occasions she has screamed obscenities at a neighbour and someone doing roofing at 8am, which was followed by her door being slammed 5 times in anger.

My nerves are frayed as you never know when to expect it. I've also had the landlords send her a complaint letter but still it continues.

(Miss J M, 17 September 2008)

A.

So far, you have taken exactly the right steps to try to resolve this issue. You’ve asked your neighbour not to slam the door and, when the behaviour has persisted, you’ve also asked your landlord to intervene without any success.

Your local authority has the powers to take action against any problems related to Noisy Neighbours. However, this will usually be related to issues which persist continually over a sustained period of time, such as problems with loud music, Dogs That Bark Constantly and people using loud power tools at unreasonable hours in the likes of workshops, garages and garden sheds. This is because these activities can be monitored and recorded.

The problem here would seem to be ‘catching her in the act’ because as you said, “you never know when to expect it”. The chances are that an environmental health officer from your local authority’s noise nuisance team would be unlikely to come out to investigate the matter as it would be virtually impossible to predict when these outbursts might occur. It would certainly be worth giving them a call, however, to explain the situation.

Meanwhile, it is probably worth trying to have another polite chat with her. Given that she’s also been involved in screaming obscenities at a neighbour, it would appear that she might not be all that approachable, but this is no excuse. Try to catch her on a ‘good day’ and politely explain to her about the way her behaviour has affected your nerves and about the shelf falling down. Quite often when a person is angry or upset, they have no concept of the effects of any outbursts on others, so speaking to her may just prick her conscience.

Alternatively, it wouldn’t harm you to have another word with the landlords. A complaint letter can easily be disregarded unless it’s backed up with threats of eviction, so perhaps suggesting to the landlords that they go and speak with your neighbour will have the desired effect. As far as the slamming door goes, perhaps you could suggest to your neighbour that they ask the landlord to come out and arrange for it to be repaired or replaced.

If the problem still persists, the more evidence you can gather the better. You mentioned the fact that another neighbour was on the receiving end of verbal abuse. This could Constitute Harassment and, once again, this would not be tolerated by your local authority. Therefore, the more people who will back up your claims that your next door neighbour is causing a nuisance, the more likely it will be that your local environmental health officer will come out to investigate matters.

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grace - 13-Jun-17 @ 10:49 PM
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Distressed - 5-Jun-17 @ 4:02 PM
I really feel for all of the people here going through hell, trying to reason with animals - that's just it though, animals can't be reasoned with! My advice is to fight fire with it too! There are many ways one can annoy the hell out of them too; such as move your noisy appliances close to their wall too if that's what they're doing, then use it at a time when it'll annoy the crap out of them, pop some nice noise cancelling headphones on and relax knowing they're getting theirs too! Noisy neighbours in their gardens? Cook someting really smelly and nasty and vent it out to them! Using a good quality subwoofer you can play very low frequency sound that they'll physically feel but will be under the maximum db limit. I'm not advocating that anyone should do this to annoy good neighbours but vulgar people are not to be given any quarter when they offer you none. No sympathy for the devil.
El Tone - 2-Jun-17 @ 9:33 PM
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grace - 21-May-17 @ 1:49 PM
There is absolutely NOTHING you can do. 1. Police have absolutely no power over noise nuisance as they handed all complain issues to the councils 2. Councils have absolutely no power over noise nuisance as they handed all complaints to charity - mediation. 3, Mediation can do absolutely nothing but encourage some new age hand shake with the people who make your life a living hell. 4. Without legal aid, the law will not help either, a solicitor refusing to even take a case about noise nuisance or harrassment. 5. In the event that a neighbour threatens you, the council might just issue a warning, a light wrist slap to the tenant. Then again, they might not bother. 6. Even if the tenant has a known history of harassing their bneighbour, the council will sit back and do nothing, informing you that the problem is structural. They will not come out to do any noise testing that might help you. 7. The advise you will recieve will be to simply move somewhere else while the perpetrator gets to sit pretty in their nice home, ready to annoy the next tenant. All this happened with me. Now on a list to swap homes. Your neighbour is simply exploiting the way this country has been set out.
Steve - 16-Apr-17 @ 4:45 PM
Sarah - Your Question:
My neighbour has just taken it upon himself to lean over our fence onto our property to cut a bush on our property. I know that he has the right to cut any over hanging branches on his side but he has quite literally leaned over on to our property to trim the bush, without our permission (he hasn't spoken to us for years, we fell out over his dog constantly barking and consulted the local council and police - he was very threatening - we never took any further action as it would mean a "blight" on our property, as well as his). I seriously need help with this. Advice on legalities would be most welcome. Thank you so much.

Our Response:
If you feel this is an issue you could take legal action for damage or trespass. If it's done no real harm however, it might be better to simply grit your teeth and move on!
ProblemNeighbours - 27-Mar-17 @ 12:00 PM
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Sarah - 25-Mar-17 @ 5:06 PM
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Mishy - 23-Mar-17 @ 9:46 PM
moog. - Your Question:
I live in a council house my neighbour bought his. Since he moved in about eight years ago, live has been a noghtmare. The poice have been in volved several times.i was promised he would get a ASBO, but he jusyt got a warning. he constantly provkes me with loud music at night, banging doors. Calling me a gayboy and how much he hates me, a retatd, constantly reporting me to the council for my garden. I am disabled and don't always have the energy. Complaints about my dogs, even though dogs around us bark constantly, then my parrots that are not noisy. His sister told me he wants to control me. He has lied to the police and council. I tried to be friends when he moved in, but he has just been nasty. Even banging to make my dogs bark on bonfire night. Life is a nightmare. I'm depressed, n one is listening. He has been told by the police not to talk to me he has filmed me and recorded me in the garden making it clear, holding phone over fence when playing with dogs.in daytime. he can do anything he wants, but I can't even sit in the garden. I'm so unhappy but won't move. it is making me ill. I keep myself to myself, but he keeps on bulling. What do I do. I tried makng peace, but he wants war.

Our Response:
Neighbours like this are so hard to deal with. Unfortunately,there is not a great deal you can do short of legal action. Your council's housing officer may be sympathetic and willing to go round and have a word with the neighbour on your behalf. Try the police again (it's worth trying your PCSO if you have one in your area) to see if they can warn him etc. Legal action might result in an injunction etc, so you could look around and see if you can find a solicitor who offers a first time free consultation.
ProblemNeighbours - 20-Mar-17 @ 11:57 AM
I live in a council house my neighbour bought his. Since he moved in about eight years ago, live has been a noghtmare. The poice have been in volved several times.i was promised he would get a ASBO, but he jusyt got a warning. he constantly provkes me with loud music at night, banging doors. Calling me a gayboy and how much he hates me, a retatd, constantly reporting me to the council for my garden. I am disabled and don't always have the energy. Complaints about my dogs, even though dogs around us bark constantly, then my parrots that are not noisy. His sister told me he wants to control me. He has lied to the police and council. I tried to be friends when he moved in, but he has just been nasty. Even banging to make my dogs bark on bonfire night. Life is a nightmare. I'm depressed, n one is listening. He has been told by the police not to talk to me he has filmed me and recorded me in the garden making it clear, holding phone over fence when playing with dogs.in daytime. he can do anything he wants, but I can't even sit in the garden. I'm so unhappy but won't move. it is making me ill. I keep myself to myself, but he keeps on bulling . What do I do. I tried makng peace, but he wants war.
moog. - 17-Mar-17 @ 1:32 PM
My Mum went through all of these sort of problems & really affected her health so she went to doctors & got a certificate & doctors note for stress & anxiety & the housing office eventually took notice & got her moved. Now I know you may be private or have a mortgage & dnt have that option of just moving but getting a certificate of the doctor & threaten the landlord with legal action may be an option as they are not helping you especially as you went to them for help & this has caused so much misery in life I've experienced it as well & can ruin your life it's time to take action against these people
rg - 3-Mar-17 @ 8:28 PM
Hi, We have had the tenants from hell living next door to us in an end of terrace since 20th March 2016. The tenant is a lady with 4 children between 7 and 16 and a dog. We had awful noise practically everyday since they moved in even more so during the school hols. Blazing rows arguments, screaming and shouting, running around the house, sobbing, crying. The inner front door will constantly be slammed every time the mother leaves the house. It's slammed so hard that it makes me jump. The kids row before they leave for school and as soon as they all get home until around 9pm. Then on the weekend this carries on and even if the arguing stops the youngest is constantly pounding the floorboards running around the house. The tenant is not approachable and we feel extremely vulnerable. My Son has autism and from his bedroom can constantly hear the rows. It is so upsetting. The estate agent has written her letters about the noise in the past but the landlord isn't interested in evicting them as he hasn't got any evidence of the noise. I have even recorded some.of the fights and sent them to the agent but I am.not getting anywhere. For the past three evenings the arguing and tantrums have been awful as has the door slamming.Is there anything that we can do as the stress from this is so hard to cope with any longer. Thank you .
Bettybow - 26-Jan-17 @ 6:29 PM
Hi, We have had the tenants from hell living next door to us in an end of terrace since 20th March 2016. The tenant is a lady with 4 children between 7 and 16 and a dog. We had awful noise practically everyday since they moved in even more so during the school hols. Blazing rows arguments, screaming and shouting, running around the house, sobbing, crying. The inner front door will constantly be slammed every time the mother leaves the house. It's slammed so hard that it makes me jump. The kids row before they leave for school and as soon as they all get home until around 9pm. Then on the weekend this carries on and even if the arguing stops the youngest is constantly pounding the floorboards running around the house. The tenant is not approachable and we feel extremely vulnerable. My Son has autism and from his bedroom can constantly hear the rows. It is so upsetting. The estate agent has written her letters about the noise in the past but the landlord isn't interested in evicting them as he hasn't got any evidence of the noise. I have even recorded some.of the fights and sent them to the agent but I am.not getting anywhere. For the past three evenings the arguing and tantrums have been awful as has the door slamming.Is there anything that we can do as the stress from this is so hard to cope with any longer. Thank you .
Bettybow - 26-Jan-17 @ 3:22 PM
I'm driven off my head because of next doors very noisy tumble dryer, I can hear it all over the house and every cycle it goes through. I've had a word with the husband who told me its always been in the cupboard under stairs...I've only started hearing it recently.I'mputting my house on the market soon and dreading it being on when people are coming to view.
ecky - 23-Jan-17 @ 5:31 PM
The councils arent interested in noise complaints!! Ive had 8 months of hell since the new neighbour moved in upstairs. He is always banging doors and windows, ( one time I gave him some wd40 ) his music vibrates across my ceiling, he has 'episodes at night where he cant sleep and the noise is awful it sounds like he is ransacking his flat. He gets up for work at 5am for work and wakes me up!! Its all made me ill through lack of sleep. Ive complained to him face to face but he seems oblivious to it all. Ive done everything by the book ie keeping a diary for months, what have the council done, sod all!! I actually got a letter from the council saying that as my neighbour has health issues they cant do anything, what a joke, Im coming up for 70 and have health issues but the council dont give a toss. Whats next! Im looking for somewhere else to live as I cant take anymore!!
Tyjen - 20-Jan-17 @ 3:28 PM
Just about every 'so called' piece of advice form this website is basically "the Council can't (and wont) take any action!" This website is actually correct, the Council NEVER takes action and you end up facing years of hell. Welcome to the Liberal Socialist nightmare that this Country has become! AA toothless society where decent people suffer at the hands of anti-social neighbours who have all the protection!
Anonomous - 17-Jan-17 @ 11:00 PM
keegs - Your Question:
We have a neighbour who constantly has his cctv cameras poined at our house monitoring our every move. It starts at about 7.30 in the morning and stays directed at our back door, kitchen window and patio doors. We have spoken to the police on numerous occasions and each time we are told its a civil matter. the police have spoken to the neighbour but he refuses to move his cameras. He has told the police they are motion and sound activated which is a lie as I am a trained cctv operator. All of this is getting my wife to the state of a breakdown where the other night I found her sat on the floor in the kitchen crying her eyes out with the stress of it. It has been going on now for weeks and we are keeping a diary and photographic evidence of the cameras on us. To go to court would cost a minimum of £2000 with no guarantee of being awarded costs. I am at my wits end as what to do. Please offer advice on what to do.

Our Response:
Unfortunately if the police will not do anything, legal action may be your only option.
ProblemNeighbours - 22-Nov-16 @ 11:01 AM
We have a neighbour who constantly has his cctv cameras poined at our house monitoring our every move. It starts at about 7.30 in the morning and stays directed at our back door, kitchen window and patio doors. We have spoken to the police on numerous occasions and each time we are told its a civil matter. the police have spoken to the neighbour but he refuses to move his cameras. He has told the police they are motion and sound activated which is a lie as I am a trained cctv operator.All of this is getting my wife to the state of a breakdown where the other night I found her sat on the floor in the kitchen crying her eyes out with the stress of it.It has been going on now for weeks and we are keeping a diary and photographic evidence of the cameras on us. To go to court would cost a minimum of £2000 with no guarantee of being awarded costs. I am at my wits end as what to do.Please offer advice on what to do.
keegs - 21-Nov-16 @ 2:16 PM
E - Your Question:
What's your advice?I live in an old house that's been converted into two flats, and I live in the bottom flat. The conversion wasn't done properly and the walls are thin. Things were okay with the upstairs neighbours, an elderly couple, until last year when a relative and a female moved in with them. Since then they've been causing disturbances by regularly complaining at various times of the day and night about a female listening to them, using abusive language, shouting, etc. They've had police around several times and others have informed me of strange behaviour that they've noticed about the upstairs neighbours.It's stressed me out a lot. I've also had a lot on my plate and had to seek help to alleviate the effects of the stressful situations I was dealing with. The behaviour of the neighbours has added to the stress I was already suffering before they moved in. It was early last year that I left my job due to stress and have been at home more often, and it was around this time that the trouble started with the upstairs neighbours.I've already spoken to one of the upstairs neighbours a few weeks ago about the disturbances and explained how unpleasant it is, but the behaviour hasn't stopped since then. The landlord has been spoken to about it as well, but it still hasn't stopped. What do I do about this?

Our Response:
Really your landlord should be helping with this situation. Go back and make your point more strongly. If the noise is regularly after 11 at night and goes on for some time you should contact your local environmental health department
ProblemNeighbours - 17-Nov-16 @ 11:36 AM
What's your advice? I live in an old house that's been converted into two flats, and I live in the bottom flat.The conversion wasn't done properly and the walls are thin. Things were okay with the upstairs neighbours, an elderly couple, until last year when a relative and a female moved in with them.Since then they've been causing disturbances by regularly complaining at various times of the day and night about a female listening to them, using abusive language, shouting, etc.They've had police around several times and others have informed me of strange behaviour that they've noticed about the upstairs neighbours. It's stressed me out a lot.I've also had a lot on my plate and had to seek help to alleviate the effects of the stressful situations I was dealing with.The behaviour of the neighbours has added to the stress I was already suffering before they moved in.It was early last year that I left my job due to stress and have been at home more often, and it was around this time that the trouble started with the upstairs neighbours. I've already spoken to one of the upstairs neighbours a few weeks ago about the disturbances and explained how unpleasant it is, but the behaviour hasn't stopped since then.The landlord has been spoken to about it as well, but it still hasn't stopped.What do I do about this?
E - 16-Nov-16 @ 10:48 AM
My neighbour has had there kitchen and lounge altered, since the alteration I can here a noise coming from my water pipes every time the washing machine is put on,also there kitchen is now next to our lounge wall, my hubby did say to neighbour can you make sure that sound proofing is put on the wall so we do not hear dish washer, but unfortunately I don't think they could have as I can hear the dish washer , at first I thought it was my boiler making a funny noise ,so I got a man out to check my boiler. Then the summer came and then I relived that it was there dishwasher as my boiler was off.I have spoken to them about both issues even had council out but nothing has been done.It really does my head in and do not know what else I can do.
Fazza - 29-Oct-16 @ 11:20 AM
hi thank you for your response it certainly is not day to day living noise as it has got more frequent and louder since we have asked them to try and be more quiet with the doors. as stated this occurs over 200 times a day!!!!!! they seem to love the fact that it is distressing us and they smirk and laugh when they see us. we are owners and they are housing association, we have looked into soundproofing but all the quotes we have received are far too much money which we cannot afford
distressed - 11-Oct-16 @ 4:16 PM
distressed - Your Question:
Hiwe have lived in our terraced house since september 2015. ever since we moved in we have had next door slamming doors and cupboards in their kitchen which backs onto our lounge. we approached the neighbours politely on a number of occasions asking them to try to be more quiet but the noise is now worse and can happen around 200 times a day.we had contacted their housing association who have not done much to help the situation and we have contacted the council filled in diary sheets but the council say they do not deal with slamming of the doors. we have had help from the community police who have tried to talk to them and wont agree to mediation. they now say they cannot help anymore.please help!!!

Our Response:
Is this simply day to day living? It doesn't sound as though they're deliberately slamming does to offend/upset you. Have you considered extra sound proofing on your walls? Are you renting? If so, would your landlord look at providing more soundproofing for you?
ProblemNeighbours - 11-Oct-16 @ 12:38 PM
hi we have lived in our terraced house since september 2015.ever since we moved in we have had next door slamming doors and cupboards in their kitchen which backs onto our lounge.we approached the neighbours politely on a number of occasions asking them to try to be more quiet but the noise is now worse and can happen around 200 times a day. we had contacted their housing association who have not done much to help the situation and we have contacted the council filled in diary sheets but the council say they do not deal with slamming of the doors.we have had help from the community police who have tried to talk to them and wont agree to mediation.they now say they cannot help anymore. please help!!!
distressed - 10-Oct-16 @ 2:01 PM
hi i moved into a private property quite a new flat in a three storey block 6 months ago the rent is shocking i am single its in a nice location but the neighbours are not so good lets start with the neighbours above me- funnily enough their living noise is not that bad but every morning 7.30-8.00am they leave their flat above me with their two kids and charge down the stairs with their kids like a pack of elephants and knock on lady opposite from mes door-(i think she might be their granny or something i think she related to them) i certainly do not need an alarm clock now for neighbour opposite from me-shes an oldish lady 50-60 who leaves her street door open all day until early evening -now shes up and down those stairs she makes so much noise her phone rings 20 times a day is a street door not meant for privacy as i barely have any mine is closed hers is open and i get all her interior noise these people carry on like they are royalty or they own the block they have no respect for outsiders please help me -do i put a letter through someones door i am desperate
gez - 26-Sep-16 @ 5:54 PM
@smith. You sound as though you are being unreasonable to me. You've decided you don't like him and that he's doing it on purpose but with no foundation for this. If you can't be bothered talking to him and persist in being judgmental, you'll find the problem will escalate.
HerNextDoor - 16-Sep-16 @ 12:15 PM
I live in a high rise tower block and the flat above me has been empty for 8 months now someone has moved in there seems like a African person and since he has moved in all he does is bang the floors and make noise throw out the night i no this person is doing it on purpose don't no why my neighbours underneath me are alright they don't make noises its just that person above me he is getting on my nervs i don't like the person to be honest that has moved above me he is doing it on purpose i don't even wanna speak to him or see him that's what he wants me to do bit i don't wanna he should be kicked out makeing so much noise every single day what is he doing up there i think he has some mentally iusses and he is a weird person to be honest I am trying to look for a other flat off the council cant stand the person if anything he should go they should of moved someone else in that flat them kind of people are always seeking attention
smith - 15-Sep-16 @ 10:36 AM
grey hair - Your Question:
Hi, we have stayed here coming on for 10 years. we have put up with bulling and provoking from neighbours in our area. some issues we have had are my eldest daughter being sexually assaulted with ended in a not proven verdict, kids heads been split open with stone throwing, kids bikes been damaged, my partner and myself being verbally assaulted and myself been physically assaulted. my children been physically assaulted outside and at school by neighbours children. a year ago my partner had a stroke and has been left with aphaisa which affects the way he talks. since this neighbours and there children are constantly provoking us to boiling point. we have informed housing and police. they have been calling police and housing making up lies about us and we have now been called into our housing.where do we stand on this.

Our Response:
What is your question?
ProblemNeighbours - 8-Sep-16 @ 11:28 AM
hi, we have stayed here coming on for 10 years. we have put up with bulling and provoking from neighbours in our area. some issues we have had are my eldest daughter being sexually assaulted with ended in a not proven verdict, kids heads been split open with stone throwing, kids bikes been damaged, my partner and myself being verbally assaulted and myself been physically assaulted. my children been physically assaulted outside and at school by neighbours children. a year ago my partner had a stroke and has been left with aphaisa which affects the way he talks. since this neighbours and there children are constantly provoking us to boiling point. we have informed housing and police. they have been calling police and housing making up lies about us and we have now been called into our housing.where do we stand on this.
grey hair - 7-Sep-16 @ 10:53 AM
Sam - Your Question:
We have a neighbour next door who I feel must be mentally unstable, or potentially a drug addict. Since we moved in 2 years ago she has been a problem because she will start wailing, screaming and crashing around her flat in the early hours of the morning. Never before 1am and never for less than 30 minutes. It sounds as if she throws furniture, most of her screaming is unintelligible and I do not exaggerate when I say she sounds as if possessed. I am not sure how anyone's throat can make that noise at all, let alone for so long. At first it was perhaps once a month or so, before peaking at 2 to 3 times a week. Then, we heard nothing for around two months, but now it is steadily rising in frequency again. Several times we have observed her leaving the house and getting in cars but leaving her door wide open. We are certain she lives alone, and I've pulled the door to for her. She is also unhealthily thin.Both me and my partner have to get up very early for work so her screaming fits are really having a negative impact on our lives as we struggle to sleep well and are becoming increasingly irritable.The police have told us that they cannot do anything and we cannot prove anything to environmental health, what should we do now?

Our Response:
You could try approaching social services if you're worried about her mental health and/or ability to look after herself. You can still report it to environmental health and they have a duty to investigate complaints. They will ask you to make a note of when it happens and how long etc.
ProblemNeighbours - 26-Aug-16 @ 11:05 AM
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