What counts as stalking by a neighbour
Stalking is often treated lightly in conversation, but when you are on the receiving end it can be deeply unsettling. A neighbour who keeps watching you, follows you, turns up wherever you go, or makes unwanted contact may have crossed the line from awkward behaviour into something the law takes seriously.
Under the Protection from Harassment Act 1997, expanded by the Protection of Freedoms Act 2012 which introduced specific stalking offences, stalking includes behaviour such as following a person, watching or spying on them, monitoring their use of the internet or email, and contacting or attempting to contact them repeatedly. It can also include loitering near your home, interfering with your property, or sending unwanted gifts or messages.
Not every uncomfortable encounter with a neighbour amounts to stalking. A single odd incident, or someone who is simply over-friendly, may not meet the threshold. However, if the behaviour forms a pattern and causes you alarm or distress, it may well qualify. The key factor is usually repetition combined with the effect the conduct has on you.
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Staying calm can be difficult, but it often helps. People who engage in stalking behaviour sometimes seek a reaction. If you can appear unbothered, even when you do not feel it, they may lose interest. That said, your safety comes first. If you feel genuinely threatened, protect yourself rather than worrying about how you come across.
Keep a written record of every incident. Note the date, time, what happened, and whether anyone else witnessed it. Save any messages, emails, letters or evidence of unwanted gifts. This log will be useful if you decide to report the matter to the police or take legal action later.
Avoid engaging with the person more than necessary. Do not respond to messages or attempts at contact unless you have to. If you do speak to them, keep exchanges brief and neutral. Arguing or confronting them directly can sometimes make matters worse.
Tell someone you trust what is happening. Friends, family members or colleagues can offer support and may also serve as witnesses. If you live with others, make sure they know about the situation so they can help you stay safe and keep an eye out for unusual behaviour.
If the behaviour has not yet escalated into clearly criminal conduct, mediation services may help resolve the dispute. Local councils and community mediation organisations offer schemes designed for neighbour conflicts. This will not suit every situation, and you should consider whether direct contact through a mediator might inflame things further.
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Reporting stalking and getting help
Stalking is a criminal offence. You can report it to the police by calling 101, or 999 if you are in immediate danger. When you report, explain the pattern of behaviour rather than describing it as a single event. Officers are trained to recognise stalking, but giving a clear picture of the repeated nature of the conduct will help them assess the risk.
The police can issue warnings, arrest the person, or refer the case to the Crown Prosecution Service. Since January 2020, they can also apply for a Stalking Protection Order to protect you at an early stage, before a prosecution is complete. In serious cases, the offender may face prosecution and, if convicted, a restraining order or prison sentence.
You can also apply for a civil injunction through the courts if you want to take action separately from, or alongside, a police report. A solicitor or legal adviser can explain which option suits your circumstances and help you weigh the risks, including the possibility that legal proceedings may increase tension with a neighbour you still live beside.
Several organisations offer support to stalking victims in the UK. The Suzy Lamplugh Trust runs the National Stalking Helpline on 0808 802 0300. Victim Support provides free and confidential help regardless of whether you have reported to the police. Citizens Advice can explain your legal options and signpost local services. Check their websites for current contact details before calling.
Protecting yourself day to day
While you wait for matters to be resolved, there are practical steps you can take. Vary your routines where possible so your movements are less predictable. Check your home security and consider whether better locks, lighting or a doorbell camera would help you feel safer.
Review your privacy settings on social media. Stalkers sometimes use online information to track their targets. Limiting what you share publicly can reduce the risk.
If the stalking continues or escalates, update the police. Each new incident adds to the record and may prompt them to take stronger action. You are entitled to ask for a review of your case if you feel the response has been inadequate.
Legal protections exist and support is available, though the process can be slow and outcomes are not guaranteed. Taking the situation seriously from an early stage, keeping records, and reaching out for help can make a real difference.
Is this behaviour normal and I the one in the wrong or have I got a legitimate complaint?
Police, they said we are problem, because my husband wanted to explain property rights. We tried putting up fencing, but the yard in 650 feet only and expensive. So he has people sit across street from our yard and we watch them
Go to his house before or after. We have cameras up.
I have similar experience when I lived in a flat for 4 years.
I thought been on the top floor which was 3rd floor will minimize hearing noises from below but found out I was so.wrong.
Moved to a house where I was at the end of the terrace and was having the neighbours following me from room to room.
Where they can't follow, they come out of their house so that you can see them.
Basically stalking in my own house.
I they do these things as a form.of intimidation and control.
I reported this while ago but it has gotten so far. They are exploding me now in the house I'm staying at. They don't want to leave but I hear the phones dropping from high areas and keep waking up to loud banging down stairs and them making noises abusing me verbally, I'm sick and tired of the waiting for me to respond to the police, they said they want to sue that they are recording little excuses... Told them to go but they have another day and I Hurd they said they are staying to continue another week Exploding us. It's abuse he's allowing to disturb people's homes. Everyone outside expect someone to call cops and calling it out like everyone is and he's not doing nothing about it but allowing it to stay in house
((Classifying the Types of Liars · Deceitful liars: those who lie to others about facts · Duplicitous liars: those who lie to others about their values · Delusional))
In killers and psychopaths, however, these brain processes are effectively desensitized… Telling a lie and a truth is one and the same for them.
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I had a new neighbour move next door to me a year and four months ago
From the first day he moved in i haven’t had one day where he hasn’t blasted music singing so loud you feel like he’s in the same room as you this goes on all day and into the late evening myself and my daughter haven’t slept a full night since he moved in I didn’t say anything at first but after six months of putting up with it we had had enough i work and my daughter is at college and it was affecting thay but also us mentally I suffer with ptsd due to fleeing an abusive relationship and was placed here for safety reasons we reported tje noise to our housing association they told him his behaviour wasn’t acceptable so he then started retaliating by getting louder making stupid noise late at night tapping on the walls and antagonising my dog when he is in the back garden I reported it again it eventually got passed to our local council anti social behaviour team we were offered mediation he refused to do it
But now his behaviour is actually turned wierd and I really am frightened
He installed cameras outside his house which he’s well within his rights to do but he’s only got them installed to watch me he’s got three out the front of his house he’s positioned them so there is one where he can see me coming in and out of our street one so he can see me walking past his gate and one pointing into my front garden there is one in his back garden looking into my garden everytime me or my daughter are in our garden he comes to his window and either records us on his phone or try’s to hide behind his curtain and record us
Or he leans right out of his window glaring at us until we feel uncomfortable and go inside he knows exactly what times I’m coming and going from my house as he told another neighbour he hates me and is watching me and told them he knows what time I leave he told the neighbour he’s gonna get me back that beighbour reported it but nothing got done about it .
Two weeks ago I was coming home from work and he said to me I know where you work and was laughing at me
And only two days ago as I was coming out of work he was driving past my work could be coincidence but I doubt it
My freind said he is stalking me but I don’t know I don’t know what to do
You are quite correct. It is men and women and what you are experiencing is bullying in a particularly nasty form.
I would advise you to document everything no matter how trivial you think it is, and also find a way to get back to your family, hiding away or moving away simply doesn't work it actually excites and incites, perversely, even worse behaviour as the bullies treat it like a game. They enjoy seeing what they can get you to do. Live your life. Try to find work and learn to stare through the bullies who follow you or turn a deaf ear to your banger next door. For you they no longer exist. Start to make new friends. Strong friends. There are still plenty of normal and genuinely nice people out there. Don't be afraid to try and make friends maybe at a church or class of some sort, painting, music. Anything you think you would enjoy and if you are followed feel sorry for them and don't acknowledge it. They are doing it anyway aren't they.
Hope this helps and I wish you very good luck and happiness in the future.
Kiki.
Young people possibly leaning percentage wise more to young men under 35 are bored.
They aren't being mentally challenged. Without mental challenge a mind will fill with junk and seek more and more quick fix challenges.
Stalking (especially from within the home) offers people a ' quick fix' that gives the perpetrator an easy buzz knowing they can seemingly innocently terrorise and harrass neighbors, co-workers without fear of reprisal.
It can be something as simple as listening to your every move in the home 24/7 and letting you know by creaking a floor board/door or clicking a light switch each time you move from room to room, make a meal, just generally going about your normal day.
The stalking neighbor however normal they seem are of low intelligence and lack social stimulus even if they appear to have a network of friends and family.
They are inclined to surround themselves with other friends who tend to live nearby (a lot of younger people rent property) so it is easier to move around. So you may find yourself with a neighbor who rents a property below you or next door to you and has several friends/family who also rent maybe across the street from you or in the same building as you or a few streets away where you can be observed easily.
Mobile phones and working from home have all lent stalking from within the home a new relentless freedom where unlimited amounts of time can now be devoted (almost like the jobs younger people can no longer get) to quite literally controlling the life of a neighbor by terrorising and harrassing them mentally in their own home, as mentioned earlier by staying silent and listen to your movements, but letting you 'know' they are listening by clicking a light switch (which can be clearly heard through thin walls) or creaking a floor board when you get up to do anything or closing a door in response to your movements.
It is almost always in response to your movements, which is how you can tell you are being stalked/harrased.
The neighbor will study your habits i.e shopping/work/recreation and either jump into their car and follow you or text a 'friend' or neighbor close by and they will follow you either to work/shops/pubs/other family members etc.
Nothing is done. You will just be aware that you have a 24/7 'guard'.
You will never be allowed the freedom to go anywhere without the neighbor or their co-stalker being nearby either sitting in the car outside your office until you go in or leave before they drive off, or hanging around the car park in the pub so you can see them when you arrive, again letting you know you are under constant watch, to walking round the supermarket watching you until you finish shopping, then they will rush to til ahead of you and buy a small bar of chocolate to 'justify' being there.
You may find that no matter what time you go to bed they will text a co-stalker who will own a car with
My elderly female neighbour has a son and lives with her grandson, the family moved next door in 2013. It took years for me to realise what they were doing. They've set up a system to track and monitor me by amplifying the sound of our conversations in the living room. Whenever I or we left or leave home, the mother lurks outside with the son so he can see me. He stared into my bedroom window every day for two years and two months whilst his mother stood in the doorway watching with an odd expression. Then they began inviting groups of men to look into the window. The police instructed the group of males to move and they gravitated to standing outside of the property beside the bathroom.
Her son knows when I'm home, which room I'm occupying whilst home and arrives immediately after my partner leaves the house. His mother and nephew provide him with this knowledge.
He's broken into our home, vandalised and started a fire. He speaks to me through the window in every room. He smeared me to our neighbours and his mother contacts the police and local authority to make false complaints. They have even had the police open and close a rape investigation whilst listening and then laughing loudly afterwards.
My relationship is abusive and he/they have caused me to be assaulted four or five times, they enjoyed doing this. The family pursue me physically as I move around the home and there's a disturbing shared sexual energy between them (the child was 12 when the mother and son began doing this together). The disturbing shared sexual energy is hypersexuality caused, in my opinion, by the psychiatric illness, malignant narcissism - the son and grandson are 'flying monkeys' to the mother (about 80 years old) and she created a co-dependent relationship with each, offering sexual gratification from stalking and peeping tom behaviours in exchange for her controlling and dominating both.
It's difficult to be home and my thoughts are with anyone experiencing similar or any form of stalking. Everyone's home should be their sanctuary, stalkers who target victims in their home take so much away from the victim. Small pleasures like reading or enjoying the sunshine become an ordeal. My mind is damaged and sometimes it feels like there's nowhere to escape and this situation is endless. The police are powerless, they are in their home or just outside, it's not illegal to stand on a public path or park outside, this emboldens his behaviour. His mother infantilises his behaviour and mocks and ridicules me frequently.
It's hard but I still manage to believe that good is a greater force and by trusting we are protected somehow we are. It's helped me to type this and I hope you find relief from sharing and talking of your experiences.
Long story a my upstairs neighbour has alliance with my next door neighbour who i really dislike.
My mother once saw this next door woman exchange something with the upstairs man.
I don’t know but i can assume ….. ,that.
I need help because the upstairs neighbour is always in a speed downstairs whenever i tempt to make a recent delivery for my everyday life.
Even when i look for help he does that, so i need help to catch them in the act but without them knowing.
I can assume the upstairs neighbour has two alliances because one came to check on me. I also dislike the upstairs neighbour because long story short i don’t know who it might be but i have a feeling i have seen them before.
I hqve nwver been into this sort of situation before because whenever i tempt to put up cameras for security, they always know. So how do i stop that?. I have no choice because one of his alliances came to chwck on me twice near the my living room window. The first time i was at home the second time I came from a friend’s house with a taxi, i am often worried for both my safety anf belongings because i have stuff needed for wvery day. I am a university student so i have things like computers more. Luckily i did get all my important stuff before my friend came to pick me up. I can’t hwlp bit feel anxhous because as soon as i saw this man he was shocked because he knew i’d seen him he turned a corner next to when my bathroom window was and started drilling something in or out of the wall. I called the police foolishly i never told em about the grill because i was so shocked.
I have tried to contact the landlord to let me look at the cctv but he is a stubborn person.
So he left me no choice but to set some C s for myself if you know what i mean myself.
But he said no it’s a restricted private area. But for the more resson id its so private then why not allow access to any stalker?.
Going back to the stalker he keeps informing someone about me everytime i itend to do some shopping, sometimes i have scjool work, i go to certian websites of my university or even whatever identity i have. Who i talk to they get a good listening. I have apps so whenever i receive certain notifications they emediently react and i can’t catch em doing that because i feel powerless. I want to become powerfull.
I have tried contacting the police when i managed to take a photo of the stalker’s friend. There is a second stalker who plays his or her cards closer to the chest who i once had also a history just once. I was seeking help because i was asking about the area of theft. At the very beggining when someone tried to test my windows and i was new. I had no idea things would be this way and by test i mean testing to see if i was there.
I had seen two boys running away once they knew i was there.
I am not a drug dealer or a theif ,I am just a normal student whos int
Don’t my feel safe
Plz help me
Absolutely horrendous I’m alone
Don’t know how much more I can take
Please help??
When I had visitors, he came over to ask for random items such as a screw driver or can opener and I knew he already had them. What he really wanted was for me to invite him in to join us. No. Just, no. When I saw my guests out to their cars, he would go outside to check his meter box or sweep up non-existent dirt from his side of the driveway.
Eventually, he opened his front door whenever I opened mine. Then he would close it when I closed mine. This happened many times a day. One night I came home and he was opening and slamming his door. He'd go into our communal driveway and scream expletives and call me names that I won't repeat here. Suddenly, he was vandalizing my porch and urinating on the timber.
I called the police who interviewed us separately. He told them I was a crazy #$%^ and #$%&&. We went to court and the magistrate ordered him to stay away from my premises for 12 months. It didn't stop him. He knew when I was catching a bus and I watched him from the bus as he walked up to my back gate to have a look into my yard.
That was six years ago and he will not stop. His stalking is escalating and I have not reacted to it at all but inside, I am exhausted to the point of depression. I have had cancer and its treatments and surgeries during all of this, not that he was aware of that and knowing about it would have made him more violent. It is violence of the most insidious and systematic kind.
He continues to pass me in the driveway. He hears my door shut and then he goes out through his back door so he can pass me. It's unnerving.
I have to move ASAP. As long as I keep on staying non-reactive, the worse he will get and I fear for my physical safety. I hate my life right now. I hate him more
And they have the house wired to shake if they don't like what I do. It's absolutely maddening! I still don't what to do. Everyone thinks that I'm crazy.
I am like holy Crud!
An unknown gang guy or person was heard talking about this he says it does what they want! I was like................ What?'
Read: "The invisible crime" a true story!
nothing is unbelievable anymore!
I hope no one has a neighbor/or knows anyone like that!
The robotic future is here!?
She appeared nice, friendly at first. We chatted often, we both have dogs so the dogs enjoyed playing together in the garden. I soon realised this woman was a bit different, she didn’t go out. She smoked a lot.
After a few months summer came, washing hang out. Every time I was in the back garden I could feel her staring at me. Next thing she is copying things I wear, even bed sets I hang out on line. Sounds silly, but It is really upsetting and very creepy.
She added me on Facebook, started messaging me. Then somehow got my phone number. She was taking over the building putting big notes on doors telling us to keep doors closed etc.
Any time I take my rubbish out she’s there at the window, any time I hang washing out she’s there at the window. Very creepy.
I’m very uncomfortable in my own environment.I stopped chatting to her as much once I realised something wasn’t quite right. She had no conversation, other than talking about folk, not in a nice way. More new neighbours came and before they even moved in she was bad mouthing them, saying the girl looked down her nose at her. And that they were not a nice couple. ( they are lovely)
In October things got better, then this day her son visited. And I was cleaning the close. I could hear their conversation all about me, and him ( who I don’t know) mimicking me. It was very hurtful. But gave me a reason to cut her off completely.
She realised I had done this but didn’t know why. She called me I bumped her calls. She approached me and answered in one word reply and walked away. She then came and asked if I had done something tho offend me. So I told her I’d overheard, that it was fine and I just wanted to keep myself to myself.
January she approached me again, saying I’d had been walking I the street telling folk not to talk to her.I laughed and put her straight that I had much better things to talk about than her, and that I had not interest in her. Hindsight she was just looking for a reaction and got it.
Now we are approaching summer and washing time again, she is still sitting looking out staring. It’s horrible and I don’t know what if anything I can do to stop this creepy behaviour. It’s really affecting me .
Cops cant do much.
Instead of a lengthy paragraph on my situation Im interested in answer. Please reach out to me for those of you who found a harmless revenge strategy or something that got them to finally leaver you alone.
I think the maintenance men and my neighbors put cans in my house and are harrassed me stalked me and terrorized me and my wife and children for mo tha what's should I do?
Although we have talked about this for years, myself and my family have decided that it is best we move as no one is prepared to do anymore to help us.
My advice to anyone being harassed/stalked by a neighbour is just to pack up and go. Unless you can prove without a shadow of doubt that your neighbour is harassing you in a signifcant way DO NOT bother contacting the authorities. They literally ask for the perpetrator to state their name and D.O.B to your CCTV cameras before they commit the crime and then to give a wave after they’ve finished destroying your property or harassing you.
I am so sorry you are experiencing this difficulty. I am also, hence was searching information on the internet about stalkers/peeping toms. I live alone in a country town and my married neighbour (the husband) is obsessed with me. I found him looking through my bathroom window at midnight, whilst I was in the bath. I have a vacant block of land on the bathroom side of the house. I called the police, but he had fled by the time police arrived at my property (5 acre hobby farm). I did not have security cameras to provide evidence to the police. He has also been following me with a drone over the years whilst I walk around the farm with my horses. I suggest you go to your local police station and report your experiences. Do not delete any voice mail/text messages you receive from him. Document everything that may occur, inclusive of date and time in a diary. You could organise an intervention order against him, the police will advise you of this possibility. I would not respond to any further text messages/voice mail messages from him. It may be a good idea to change your phone number all together, from my experience stalkers can be relentless in trying to initiate attention or contact from you. I would not exhibit fear in any way, just set clear boundaries to be left alone and then completely ignore him.
Well obviously he does. He is obsessed with me and his wife gets in on it also. They seem to not like it if I go out of my own house and in my own driveway. One day I was taking care of my car and they show up just sitting in their drive way. I notice the wife has her phone up like she is recording me! I got pissed at that and flipped them off while I walked inside my home. Now granted that doesn't help but I am sick of them They now have cameras pointing at my car so they can watch me even more coming and going.
For instance I go to work. Ten minutes later or same time he will be in his car and leave. I get home from work, minutes later he pulls in. I got so fed up with it I put ring camera to avoid this person. Even if I change schedules he will adjust to mimic me. I don't understand why someone would spend so much time and energy on someone it doesn't make any sense! It sounds crazy but it is all true I even have it on video to prove it.
I know I was told the only solution is to move but easier said than done. Complications I won't get into here. But even the people we rent from have no sympathy to my plight and tell me to contact police or court.
Why do tou watch your neughbor and why do you do sports where he can see you?
Why do you tell us first you are minor? Is that why you do sports at home in stead of a play ground/ field, because you are minor?
Well it is just a patriarchal norm/ convention/ cultural curiosity that if you are minor or a man you are allowed to habg around making a racket, a noise/ =play ball.
I believe If you were really afraid of your neighbor or if you would respect him you would keep yourself away from him. From his sight.
Tell me what is it that excites you about you saying, i m just a boy and i m afraid and still it is you who enjoys being on his face, neck, how do you say this. I find it sick, it makes me sick that you and many parents dont respect other people. Sad also. parents teaching that it is ok to hang around when you know it is you who is watchibg him, it is you who bring noise and people in stead of going to play somewhere else.
Just think about it. Kids in 3 . World countries grow chocolate, mine, work in shifts etc from age 5. They get metals for your computer, grow cotton for your shirt etc but you are too lazy to govto a field and you like bullying your neighbor. Disgusting.
Yes I have a few visitors to my home but nothing different to my previous home, part from more family members popping in.
I have a neighbor on either side and it doesn’t seem to bother the gentleman who lives on the other side of me. However it very apparent it bothers her. I have been told she discusses comings and going’s to my home ( again they could be late at night) with the local shop keeper as well as describing one of my best friends. She has called my landlord and advised them I have people coming to my home at odd times . My landlord even popped to see me 2 weeks back and she made a point of going out and speaking to him after he left my property. I was also overheard part of her conversation with him. She was implying I was possibly doings something illegal from my home. ( which is outrageous). What rights do I have or advice anyone can give
Any advice thank you in advance.. I been through hell and back but this is really taking a mental toll on me
THE CROWN PROSECUTION LADY WHO PROTECTED THE CRIMINAL FAMILY
( 8 people in total did something to me from this family, who should all go to jail)
The CPS lady knew all about my stalker but she became to be a witness for me and became to be a defender of the whole situation. The police are very evil people and choose who to stick up for.
I HOPE YOU GET THIS STORY- WHICH IS THE SECOND BIT. NEVER TRUST THE POLICE THEY ARE A WASTE OF TIME. JUST RUBBISH, SHEAR RUBBISH.
My stalker also used to get very large RAT's 24 inch, very , very , long rats, because I told the cops about him.
Where Ru from? having thought about talking to this neighbour who is stalking you ? And just explaining how her behaviour is upsetting maybe if she understands that she will stop and maybe she can give her side of the story
I am a very private person and detest her behavior.
Is this considered stalking?
But he refuses and told his 13 year old to sit and look inside my window...he is a control freak,bully,and thinks all women are beneath him...im 60 yeat old disabled lady walk with a cane due to 26 car pile up accident i was i years ago....owner wants to pretend every things ok....its not...he broke me windshield...and e erynight he would wait for me to come ba k to apt...he put cameras i parking lot and had one facing my front...door...
He stands in front of my windows and talks on cell....he keeps breaking secure lock on hall way door....and put on building a motion sensor light as bright as staduim lights....they stay on 30 minutes at a time and go off for 5 minutes...then he acts like he owns the building threatening to get me evicted...no matter what he has to do....i do not talk to him hes disrespectful....when ever he is super nice acting like hes trying to help u....
He wants to take over ur home and life all ur belongings...i saw right threw him....now i. Filing a new stalking complaint and injunction,and small claims i have filed and talk to police about online reports....he thinks it so funny....but guess who will get the last laugh....
When he sees my head spin round and round...he will become a believer...calling on jesus.....he will see he messed up...bad.....hes always watching me and wants me to know hes there....creepy as hell....in front of my window as if he could kiss it....to much weed smoking....find him a women who hates men and they hate each other.....something is broken inside his head....i do not live in ur house,we have no relationship....im just a tenant...he does not mess with the men...only me a women....this is a learned behavior....hes been doing this for a long time...the women divorced him....she wont eve see her kids....she knew he is crazy.....i want him in jail to say hes innocent....lying....its fun for him to go to court....its attention....
all of this will stop or hes going to jail,hospital,cemetary he can choose....im sick of people not minding their own busi ness.....let me live my life without the abuse....i do not want him near me.. .
It has been so eye opening and soul crushing to see how little help there is out there for people who are victims of stalking. I wouldn’t wish this type of behaviour upon anyone (aside from those who are already stalkers). It is an absolutely horrendous thing to experience.
She’s in her 60’s, throws tantrums like a child and is foul mouthed. She’s made a fool of herself a number of times publicly and now others try to avoid her.
The police have now been involved as she was ranting one day and her on/off drunk of a boyfriend shouted at her “You’ll go to prison!”. She’s already had the police round kicking in her door!
She shouts about me every opportunity she gets, because she wants me to react-I ignore her. That seems to make her worse.
She’s aggressive and repulsive.
I am a strong independent person and not changing my routine to suit someone else . The thing is, she is 55 years old and her daughter is 33 it’s not Even her house is her mums at 80 years old . She is squatting there rent free both of them because she is a complete psycho and every man leaves her
More recently, he has been found guilty of harrassment to his ex-wife and yet the police are not concerned despite our children being referred to Safeguarding due to his well documented nature and special, but self claimed characteristics.
Question: Has anyone actually received any proactive help from the police?
I am currently not only keeping a contemporaneous notes, but also video footage, Its both the husband and the wife seem to have a pathetic need to watch. I have bit back several times and confronted there behaviour only to have the police land at my door as they say i have been anti social.
Thankfully the police seen through the BS and warned them about using the police as a tool.
The scum next door has said a number of times that 'we are going to keep complaining until you are kicked out'
By the end of this week/next week i plan for formally make a complaint for police intervention, will update how I get the perverts dealt with
I’m experiencing the same thing and much worse with the neighbours upstairs. It’s beyond frustrating, creepy and vile. I feel harassed and as though I have 0 privacy. Did someone say something about starting a group chat? I’d be up for this. We could do it on Telegram or something similar. Other people don’t understand this unless it’s happened to them. I’ve given up trying to tell my landlord and I’m a new tenant here. Definitely could do with some empathetic support - I think we all could as this is driving me to despair! Who’s in? I could start a group or Charley, as suggested. Let me know. Thanks
But if its more than one neighbour chances are thet are gangstalking especially if ain't got jobs you have and your getting anoyonmous notes or letter(s)
Since I live in a house with paper thin walls, the bathroom is where I can hear her / him or them being near by, so whenever I go there, I hear a toilet flush from next door. This has become more than a coincidence as it has happened way too many times and I fed up with it. I'm afraid to confront them about it because the issue is personal. Just wish they will go away.
I don't know how to gather evidence. They don't say anything, just watch. One sprayed perfume as I was approaching one time, so there's that. I have no one to talk to about this. Most people will think I'm insane so I just keep it to myself but it's bad man. It's so bad.
Terrorism for 22 years so I can not leave my house anymore. The police sit right outside my door and film my house 24/7. The police and their neighbors provoke me.
They are getting other neighbors involved.
My name is Mary I live on NW 52 Court in Oakland Park, Florida. Please pray for me. I picture myself walking with Jesus and the angels for my safety when I check the mail once a week and bring garbage out only once a month. Thank you. Amen
Jodi Sherman
Carmel Valley, Ca 93924
i understand now that people dont need a reason or an excuse to be horrible, they just are! its nothing you or i did or didnt do, so let them do their thing because its their own time they waste by putting all that pathetic effort into you and that says a lot about them dont you think? keep being nice and dont change your routine because of them..once they realise they aren't getting the desired reaction from you they'll find another passtime or risk exposure and they won't let that happen..so, please dont worry, things will work out fine, take care of yourself and your loved ones because they are the only ones who matter..
They copy clothes, shoes, handbags. Pot plants, curtains our car, every conceivable thing and opportunity. They burn firewood in an area where it us banned and only really affects us, as we are right next door.
Every single time we go into the back garden and I mean EVERY SINGLE time, the younger woman comes out to bang around and be heard. If I start to mow the lawn she gets hers out and starts mowing, regardless of whether she did it the day before. I immediately stop mowing and move to the front garden. She immediately stops and then moves to the front too.
In the last 2 years her behaviour has grown even more stalkery. We do not talk to this family at all. In fact we keep our distance. The more we ignore, the more desperate for our attention the younger woman is. We have logged in excess of 60 times she has come into the front garden when we come home. She bangs her bins very loudly for attention, which we ignore. She will not stop watching us. To put things into perspective, the other neigbours we really like, have never encountered them in the garden at the same time more than 10 times in one year. Sick of the unwanted attention.
Since moving out he has been coming by sometimes in his car taking pictures on his phone of the extensions progress. Its finished now but every week nearly always on a Thursday he finds a reason to be in our road. The latest he followed us back to our road and then gave the excuse he'd come to see his ex- next-door neighbour, I think he has developed an obsession with trying to keep an eye on the road but also is full of inquisitiveness regarding the extension. Fortunately the new neighbour is on to him. She also finds his behaviour peculiar. It makes me very nervous, he used to watch us on his cctv trained on our drive as his excuse was the cars he had for sale in the road. I'm trying very hard not to let his behaviour worry me. I don't really have anyone to discuss this with which makes it harder.
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Blessedly I've found someone who's taken interest in my case - - Faith and closeness to God is what it takes in cases like this - - also in every day life.
Though there may be trials, it'll only make you closer to God when you give your life to our Lord and Savior Jesus Christ - he works out everything in life - as he died for all sins - crimes included.
Bless You All
Amen
Police was given the heads up a few weeks before i was attacked as my neighbours was threatening to kill me and break my families legs the police told me to only contact them after i was attacked not before So i basically let my neighbours attacked me in a unproved attack and i went back to the police with broken ribs and police said they dont have it on record of my previous visit to give them the heads up on me being attacked police are useless said its a council issue and council said its a police issue? I dont trust police now.
But we are not protected at all.
Who is policing this country, when a person is battered by this type of person?
They're over-crowding the location indefinitely and attempting to harass me into leaving my rented property at the edge of an inner-city suburb. Spitting saliva into my mouth and body, sucking blood out of my legs/feet, barging/crowding/debalancing my physical movements, disrupting my sleep EVERY night, etc.
Can't get my new business started successfully while they're doing this ... the security monitoring equipment HAS to be upgraded to correctly identify "floaters" as being located in the BELOW apartment.
The housing crisis will not be solved by this endless anti-social harassment behaviour which will actually discourage new home construction.
My Boss told them to leave if they arent going to buy anything. I told my Boss abiut them ahead of time. Then they started sending people in to fight with me but my Boss told me not to worry.They cant get me fired.The anxiety became so high .I git into another store and the anxiety has slowly gone away.
I haven't done anything criminal.
And I live a simple life.
I want my private life back.
I don't want to be followed by strangers or have techies telling reporting my every move.
I cannot function this way anymore.
I feel threatened and do not have any idea why I should continue to endure such treatment.
Basically I can't step out with out the 2 neighbors walking out. one hops in their car and the other walks to their car goes for a walk what ever. I installed a camera in my garage and I was right but to bad I had it on live mode so it didn't record sadly. they actually said they have code words they send by phone texting "go home" if I show up riding down the street they will pull up every single time either neighbor or both almost exactly at the same time when ever I step out or come home. guy walks his dog waits every day on a corner has his camera on so every time I take my kid from and to school he is right there soon as I'm pulling out. this can be at any time of day even 6 am in the morning. it doesn't matter they are persistent. I really think others are joining in cause I take note other neighbors times when they normally leave and well now I been purposefully changing my schedule by a 30 mins at a time and they keep matching it. I talk to 2 of my neighbors and they gave me both dirty looks and said I'm just being paranoid and there's just no such thing and they back the others 100% said I must be the crazy one for even thinking it. they even defend them saying everyone has to go some where no one is following no one. there is sooo much more so much more I just can't put it all down. I honestly think the they are trying to trap me with harassment cause I'm not the type to back down if someone challenges me. all these years gone by dealing with this slowly elevating situation I just try to look at trevally and say its harmless. cause they are not physically doing anything to me other than following me every where. I'll end it with 1 last note the last new neighbor of the rental house has a thing of matching me of everything I buy.
1:bought my kid a power wheel he went got a used exact same one but the
bigger version for bigger kids...2: I had some nice deep dish 22 inch rims on my car already Chrysler 300 guess he got jealous when I bought new rims again better ones lol. then he rented the same car for like 3 months wit hout of state plates. 3: I went bought a brand new Kawasaki motorcycle and 2 weeks later he gets a salvage title wreck 1000cc Kawasaki motorcycle. 4: I buy a kids 90cc motorcycle for my kid and he buys 2 weeks later a power wheel motorcycle for his kid leaves it out on the curb o
Long story cut short, I am a true victim of constant harassment and intimidation but this person has got away with it so much after having harassed other females over many years, it's unreal.
My partner & I moved into our new home last September, our neighbours are a couple in their 70s, she is ok & friendly if a little nosy but he takes it all to another level. He constantly stands either at the window or in his garden watching us. We're doing work to the garden so spend much time outside & he's always there. When we leave the house he then climbs onto a step his side to look over into our garden (we have CCTV) its horrible & upsetting its making us not want to be here. If I'm at home alone I won't go outside for fear he us there. Can anyone offer some advice?
a: parked in front of your house leaving their own driveway free
b: sat in their car outside your house for hours.
c: put a spy cam in their passenger seat to film you intimately in your home
d: followed you home
The above are the standard MO of stalkers.
If they:
d: Floodlight your house and film you intimately in your bedroom
e: Try to break in your property
This level of stalking is extreme perversion.
Remember that stalkers are without exception sick cowards who get aroused by their victim's disgust. If they have done any of the above, carry a personal alarm at all times. If they haven't they're probably not stalkers .
I used to do what you do. I never look through the window anymore. It took me a while to break the habit but I have stopped doing it now.
He constantly drills/saws/hammers...all day...everyday....yet this is seemingly fine for him to do this. It seems to be one rule for him and different rules for us...ie...DO NOT EVEN BREATHE
I've been here 3 years now and its not getting any better. Although my Landlord has been brilliant with us, he doesnt have to live like we do. Please advise ?? Thankyou.
Yes, bottom feeders that's what they are.
If I could afford It I would have a bodyguard, she is that scary and intimidating. If you saw her and witnessed her ranting youd definately understand.
Of it I sometimes hallucinate things watching me. Something that might stop them is this film for your windows that is so you can see outside but people can't see inside. It doesn't mean full sunlight, but if it really is a sunny day then lots of sun will still come in.
My car was tampered with on a number of occasions, punctures, removing wipers etc. There were occasions when it was clear that someone had been in the garden and left signs or tampered with things; there were also uninvited house visits! One of them held keys to the house so it wasn't a poltergeist. If that wasn't enough, other neighbours joined in with this harassment. After a prolonged period, they stopped but it was replaced by excessive nosiness, repeated, unwanted house visits and some following by another neighbour. It's been a frightening experience and i hope that Karma knocks on their door at some point and gives them a gift they don't want.
If I hadn't gone through it, I would never understand.
These people are masters of harrassment. They try, and often succeed in making a person who is being stalked look paranoid, but this is far from the case.
Imagine year after year a neighbour(s) who go out of their way to stalk you. Their behavior can be so low key, that your average on-looker sees nothing wrong: So what if she is standing by her window watching you?! But imagine it happens every day you come home, for months, then years. The person doesn't work, and her husband joins in.
Some people have not life, or the life they have is so unappealling this behavior gives them a feeling of power...
It is a no win situation--at least not for the person being stalked.
A similar situation happened to my mom years ago. When we moved, the husband divorced his wife within 1 year. See? For a behavior to go on like this, they have to get something from it. Harrassing my mom, meant they were not dealing with conflict in their relationship. Once my mom moved, they had to deal with each other, and that was the end of the relationship.
My best advise is move. It is not a cop out. You are not losing anything. In reality, it is probably the best thing you can do for yourself and the worst thing you can do for them.
Arm your self with a digital video recorder, night vision cameras, PTZ are best.
Arm your self with three smart phones with a plug in roxy microphone to record any noise. Phone one for personal use, phone two to record evening noise, and phone three to recored when you sleep to the time you leave for work. Never make personal phone calls at home, they are listening.
If you fined you having a problem with wifi, they are probably using baby monitors against you. Always use cabled equipment not wifi, to stay safer. Move if you can, no one wants to live next to these people. They will never stop, your stuff is not safe if it is not protected. And you also may not be safe. Believe me!
Life trolls are not right in the head, they will use anything in their power to make your life a living hell. It's quite sad that a person could be such a sad act. Remember it's them, not you that's messed up in the head!
Tell the police and the environmental agency. Keep a diary, but remember that it all come down to this. Move, or you must stay and fight them, but it's all going to be down to you. You can win if they mess up given time. Take them to court yourself, because no one else is going to do it for you. The police can only act if they commit a criminal act, and if you have cctv or audio evidence. Enviromental health is a gost council department. They don't have the money and wil power to help you. Much easier to fob you off with threats or labelling you the trouble maker.
Stay safe good people, life is about living not lowering your self to their level.
And to all life trolls, your all going to hell.
they must have got hold of your post some how. Have any letters not been delivered?
Just today i was packing stuff in my car and he stands at the window watching me, everytime i open my bathroom window he goes in the garden to look up at my window and he has followed me to the end of the road. They keep saying he is making "noise complaints" about me but how does this mean its okay for him to stalk me? lets say i was making noise, so his stalking behavior is justified to them because i am making UNPROVEN noise?
Should i just go to the police? this has been going on for a year now, he used to flush his toilet as well every time i was in the bathroom but i KNOW if i told anyone this they would think i was crazy.
The other has outright said he is attracted to me and interested in me. The third one, who I actually thought wasn't as intimidating, has just recently found me on facebook and sent me a friend request. What is most worrying about this is that I have never told him my name. The only way I can think that he has found this information, is from my card receipts when I have paid for items in the shop. But even then, my full name on my cards is different to my name on facebook. Furthermore, I stopped going into this shop months ago, so there should not even be any recent card receipts in their possession.
There is no way he would have found out this information through any legal or conventional methods. I have contacted the police, but I am becoming increasingly worried and uncomfortable about this, especially as I live alone.
Totally at a loss of what to do; I own the flat and I really don't want to move, but I am beginning to think my only option is to rent it out and live elsewhere.
akes sly comments towards us and bangs on the wall in the early hours of the morning ie(between 1am@3am) and the police and local housing association aren't doing anything to help and a police officer actually heard him drilling at 1.30am and nothing is being done
I ran into another neighbor that night and hangout for awhile. It appeared that he had gone out anyways but when he got back he 'caught' me with the other neighbors hanging out. after being gone all weekend for the holiday he now wants to talk.
Is this stalker behavior? I understand it only happened once but what happened is not normal behavior by any means. I do also understand that I should have been more straightforward with my feelings about tuesday morning, but I have a hard time with upsetting other people, especially if I have to live near them. I figured it was just common sense.
Let me know what you think. I would greatly appreciate it.
Leaving his wast in my toilet letting me know that he has been...
Deletes my CCTV I have change the locks - but he still gets in I have reported this to the police...
I ended up with a 1000 gas bill - while I was a work... Now I stay at my fiends cos I am scare to stay at home.
He puts salt in my milk and sugar over the past 4 yrs and last year I got high blood pressure and now I have problems with my bones... Still the police... Will not act ... He leaves Messages to say that he's been that day... Wrote a note on my window sil saying his never going to go away...
It's scary .... I live in fear...
This boy he is only 26 years old, he will not go to bed unless I do. Everywhere I go in my flat he follows me, when I am in the bath he will be below listening, when I sit on the toilet he will be underneath also. While I am writing this he is under the armchair I am sitting in, if I go to draw the curtains he will follow me. Every move I make he is there; what do you suggest I do please?
Its so hard to find another property and all the hassle of moving but I know I cant live like this .
My neighbour kept putting their BBQ umbrella over the fence and they use to do it to annoy me initially. I soon accepted this is how they are, and thought nothing of it.
I came home one day to find the said object on my property and i kindly asked them to remove it.
Since then, I've had nothing but indirect abuse, conspiring with others to harass me but knocking in the walls and having their children shouting abuse towards me outside my door.
So far I've not reacted, but, now every movement i make they seem to be stalking me, even when others come over to mine they seem to be trying to draw them in to their world.
It's all provocative and the stalking goes as far as they come right up to my door and be listening in on my conversations. They have taken my right of privacy completely out of the normal scope.
This is caused me severe harm and distress, with all their intent, I wonder what is next. I do not feel safe in my home nor for any of my property, I have done everything in my will not to retaliate and it's caused my anxiety to hit it's worst levels.
What can I do about this? They will play innocent and as i'm the only person affected, i'm not sure what can be done.
I have tried to talk to her, but she never comes out. We are going to see if we can speak to her when she gets the mail this afternoon. She knows about everything! Our band, our love for scooters, even my address.
It work folks believe me!..
My wife wanted to buy a new home, but I was resistant to the idea due to problems in the past. When the rent increase became intolerable, we looked around and purchased a home near my parents' house. Again, they followed me. They initially went to the attic, but gave up because they found a way into the floorboards. I eventually found out their route in. Drainpipes that I immediately greased. Voila! Before, noises were harassing and very frequent while we slept. My wife was oblivious due to her deep sleep, but I usually woke up. Now, only the pros strong enough to pull themselves up on a low lying roof were under the floorboards.
The maintenance and his father would go around stalking me....( and my friends ) giving me death threats....saying , one of them was a former Army Sniper - had a sniper rifle in his house.
Also, would go around spreading vicious rumors about me and They called the local authorities on me and had me kicked out. the maintenance ( father ) is good friends with the police and made it a point to ruin my life.
Then , when I moved...I moved to a new apartment complex....I was receiving death threats, while I went to , a new apartment complex to move again....the maintenance man started living and working there...since I complained to the previous complex about this guy's behavior.....now he lives in the apartment complex where I grew up and he knows it..because a week before, i put an application in and he started working there & living there a week later?
This is psychologically damaging....please give me all the advice along with any information I may need to stop this crazy psychotic behavior..because i've received death threats previously.....after i moved again :(
Has clearly been done for spite as he told the Police Sergeant he may put a 6foot fence on other side as well. I need to keep them thinned out as they are already sticking over my side of wall. I don't want to speak to him due to the order in place. Can I use an intermediary to do this and should it be the Police as they are involved, or the County Council??.
She seems to want to run the whole directorate and probes into my personal affairs a little too much on communal emails.
I told her to effectively mind her own business and not to knock on my door so hard. She called the police the following weekend and pretended that she was concered I was dead.! I had to deal with a broken lock!
Now having not spoken to her for at least 8 months she called the local council - mental health - pretending she was concerned! I received a letter and discovered she had called them. She denies on approaching her even though the social worker gave me her name and number and I recorded the calls.
Can I get a restraining order on her for calling authorities maliciously.
he had 3 cars of which 1 was constantly used and the others sat in his Drive and 1 constantly on the road permanently parked and never moved! then the trouble started when I started working away from home.. he would stand & stare in the dark at our house when my wife was alone in the house after work. he then complained on a number of occasions to the police that WE had placed a camera in the window adjecant to his house (it was a solar powered headphone stand).. the police came up to investigate and found the above was harmless.. needless to say my car was damaged and my Merc van had it's badge removed.... my wife said he was watching her at the bus stop and the vertical blinds were moving frantically?? this person was a dangerous menace and he was never charged with this!!
Also, breakages at work. Get a camera (one which records date picture taken) and photograph your work tools and equipment in your working area, when you leave them at end of day. This also is evidence that something funny is going on and it is not your fault. My equipment kept breaking at my place of work, but my boss and co-workers knew I was being got at so I didn't get into trouble. But others might not be so lucky.
this woman has been making my life misserable. I think she is paranoid
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