Why noise from next door causes problems
Many people will encounter noisy neighbours at some stage. It might be loud music, late night gatherings, a dog that barks for hours, building work that seems to go on forever, or a stream of short-term holiday let guests next door. Whatever the cause, excessive noise can make life at home genuinely miserable.
The thing is, not everyone lives the same way. Some people prefer quiet evenings in, while others like to socialise at home. Some households have young children who run about and shout. Others have shift patterns that mean they are active at unusual hours. None of this makes someone a bad neighbour, and a certain amount of everyday noise is simply part of living near other people.
Problems tend to arise when noise becomes excessive or happens at antisocial hours. Most councils consider the hours between 11pm and 7am to be night time, when residents can reasonably expect quieter conditions. Persistent disturbance over time can cause real stress. It can affect your sleep, your concentration, and your ability to relax in your own home. Ignoring the issue may lead to increased stress or further complications.
What might surprise you is that many people who cause noise disturbance have no idea they are doing it. Sound travels differently between properties, and what seems reasonable from one side of a wall can be unbearable from the other. A polite conversation is often enough to sort things out.
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Try our Noise Meter free, here on this site →Talking to your neighbour first
Before taking any formal steps, it is usually best to speak to your neighbour directly. This does not need to be confrontational. Many noise issues are resolved quickly once the person responsible understands there is a problem.
Choose a calm moment to raise the matter. Knocking on the door in the middle of a party rarely goes well. Instead, try speaking to them the following day when things have settled down. Be polite and specific about what is causing the disturbance. Bear in mind that cultural backgrounds and personal circumstances can influence how people respond to these conversations. Some neighbours may be more receptive to a written note than a face to face discussion.
Most people respond reasonably when approached in a friendly way. They may not have realised how much sound carries between your properties. In some cases, simple changes like moving a speaker away from a shared wall or putting down rugs on hard floors can make a real difference.
If you are uncomfortable speaking in person, or if talking to them has not worked, putting your concerns in writing can be a sensible next step. A letter gives you a record of the complaint and allows your neighbour to consider the issue without feeling put on the spot. Keep the tone polite and factual. A template can help you craft a clear and reasonable letter.
Your situation may be slightly different. ask a question below ↓ and our editorial team will reply with our advice.
What counts as a statutory nuisance
Not all noise complaints will qualify as something your council must act on. Under the Environmental Protection Act 1990, local authorities have a duty to investigate noise that amounts to a statutory nuisance. This means noise that unreasonably and substantially interferes with someone's use or enjoyment of their home.
Everyday sounds like children playing, occasional parties, or normal DIY will not usually meet this threshold. But persistent loud music at night, frequent shouting, or a constantly barking dog may well do so, depending on factors such as the volume, frequency, time of day, and duration.
If you contact your council about a noise problem, they will usually ask you to keep a diary of incidents. This record should include the date, time, duration, and type of noise. Some councils provide recording equipment or have apps that allow you to submit evidence. You can also find smartphone apps that measure decibel levels, which may help you document the severity of disturbances. The council's environmental health team will assess whether the noise amounts to a statutory nuisance and what action to take.
Councils typically start with informal steps, such as sending a letter to the person causing the noise or providing advice on reducing it. If this does not resolve the problem and the council is satisfied that a nuisance exists, it can serve an abatement notice on the person responsible. Breaching this notice is a criminal offence and can result in a fine. In serious cases, councils can also seize equipment used to cause the noise.
For full details on how councils handle noise complaints, check the guidance on GOV.UK or your local council website.
Other options if things do not improve
If informal approaches and council involvement have not resolved the issue, there are still further steps you can take.
You may be able to take civil action yourself. Under Section 82 of the Environmental Protection Act 1990, you can apply to the magistrates court for an order requiring your neighbour to stop causing a nuisance. You will need to give them written notice of your intention to do so and be prepared to present evidence in court. This route involves preparation and potential costs, so getting legal advice beforehand is sensible.
If you rent your home, speak to your landlord or housing association. Many tenancy agreements include clauses about not causing nuisance to neighbours. If your neighbour is also a tenant of the same landlord, the landlord may be able to take action against them. Renters should also check whether their tenancy agreement places any obligations on them when making complaints, and whether their landlord has a formal antisocial behaviour policy.
In cases involving harassment, threats, or antisocial behaviour that goes beyond noise, you may want to report the matter to the police. Local authorities can also apply for community protection notices or other orders under the Anti-social Behaviour, Crime and Policing Act 2014.
Mediation is another option worth considering. Many areas have community mediation services that can help neighbours resolve disputes without going to court. These services are sometimes offered free of charge, depending on your area and the provider. This can be particularly useful where the relationship has broken down but both parties are willing to find a way forward. You can search for local mediation services through organisations such as the Civil Mediation Council.
While living with noise can be challenging, many people find that patience and the right approach often lead to resolution. Start with a conversation, keep records, and seek help from your council or other services if needed.
I’ve recently moved home I’m now in a ground floor flat ( due to have many disabilities ) the neighbours above me have 2 young children who constantly run around the flat upstairs from 7am -10pm everyday the oldest child is school age approx 6/7 the youngest definitely under 5. I have spoken too the parents on a few occasions and they claim they don’t understand what I’m asking and what are the supposed to do with them. ( we live approximately less than 5mins away from a local park) I understand that’s children are loud and noisy I’m a mum myself but this is ridiculous. I recently had enough and approached the father again about the noise .I was angry and explained that I’m disabled and need rest during the day and on occasions my teenage son stays who works night shifts and needs to sleep during early evening and is unable to due to constant noise.
I have contacted my HA about noise and they said I need to speak to the neighbour which I’ve done many times but the HA said there is nothing they can do about noise
Yet last week I’ve received a letter from HA saying I was aggressive and angry with neighbour how is this fair and can anyone suggest any help
I live in UK from five years now,all this years i move to so many homes,cities,but every house i live in it is same story repeated with me again and again!
In every house i suffer from housemates or nighbours who are noisy 24/7 and racist and bully too!
I suffer all kind of abuses physically and mentally,i never recive any help or support from any organisations at all,not councils or polices or landlords!
Every time i complain all those organisations for disgusting reasons they only take the bad tenants sude and protect them and justify their noise and all their violence and ASB!!!!
they always take bad people side not the victims!!!!!
Now to make this more unfair and horrible,i was being evicted previously unfairly from housing association and throwing to die in cold streets just because i insist to complain and refuse to (shut up and put up)when i suffer 24/7 harmful nuisance and abuses from nighbours!
Now i live in council housing and now council want to do the same by me by taking me ro court to evict me hecause i was annoy their precious ASB racist nkisy tenants by my complains since nobody still do anything to stop them!!!!!!!!!
So now i am titally destroyed mentally physically financially from suffer long years of this hell,and they want to compensation me by get rid of me and evict me to die in streets in most cold days ever in the year,so i don't annoy them again by keep try to push them to do their duty in protect me from noise and abuse from nighbours!!!!!!!
Anybody else was being evicted unfairly just because they are victim of noise and abuse and insist to complain and refuse to shut up when authority try to shut you up instead of help or protect you?!
Very unfair and disgusting.
The laws and guidelines in this country assumes people are nice and respectful….
Part of society abuse the system, and we the respectful tax paying idi@ts suffer.
The woman that lives there doesn’t work and her partner did tattoos from home. She constantly shouts at her children, the children scream back. Anyways around 2 months ago now her husband left her. She decided to have parties every Wednesday and every Friday starting from 5pm and I would hear people getting into taxis and leaving around 5am! After a couple of weeks of this I got my boyfriend to go round and ask if they could keep the music down as we have a two year old and the partying was waking him up. She screamed at my boyfriend saying she can do whatever she likes in her own home, so I went out and said “look it’s not fair I’m pregnant and he has work in the morning” and she was punching her fist into her hand saying “don’t start,ooo sorry for you that your pregnant” then she slammed the door. I was raging! The partying carried on that night until 6am. I think she does drugs as well as drink.
Since then I’ve managed to find out who her landlord is and spoke to him, he said if she carries on she’ll be thrown out. Two days later she came round and apologised. I
Since then it’s been slightly better. No parties but her children are driving me mad, up running round until 3am every day! Thudding up and down the stairs, howling to the dogs to make the dogs bark. I don’t know what to do I don’t want to go round again Incase she kicks off again, I feel awkward telling her landlord cause he probably won’t kick her out for her children making noise…I’m in no position to move for a while yet either.
Your situation is very similar to my own which started in 2019.
I have persistently recorded disturbances and reported them. When I did not think my landlord was doing enough or taking any notice of me, I went to the council and got the environmental team involved.
Things are not perfect, but it is greatly improved for me.
If the noise is bad, try and record it to get the landlord to listen.
You poor thing.. everyone on here understands how you feel. We have lived in housing Assoc homes and had to move 4 times due to noisy neighbours. Then we bought our terrace house and it is just as bad. Next door slamming their back door too many times to count to let their 3 dogs in and out. Just thick people. There is no peace. I have friends in detached who are suffering with neighbours parties all day. If you can, please try to move. Get the doctor to write a letter to housing. There will be help available for the cost. Your mental health is suffering and you need help. You are not alone. This problem is worldwide.
I can hear music and people laughing and moving furniture in the middle of the night despite using ear plugs..
Why are some people so inconsiderate??!
For about 6 years now since my evil neighbours moved in they've have been constantly building and drilling much so that my health has suffered severely and I have trauma/ptsd from he way they've treated me. Since day 1 they've been building and it never ends. Last week he drilled so loudly and banged so lots my bathroom wall cracked and the kitchen floor was shaking.
In the past I've tried calling the council and when I do the neighbors make some lies up about me and call the police ON ME!!!!! They're clearly experienced psychopaths and because they're not English the police always believe them.
They even put up illegally high fences so I have no light and they have completely destroyed my life
I moved here for the garden and can't use it anymore it used yo be my hapoy place. Now I spend my life in misery and pain being bullied and have noone to call coz 5hyere viscious and don't think twice about lying to get me into trouble for things didn't even do and wouldn't dream of doing. Compulsive liars like psychopathic 5 year old.
I wish someone could help me Im Suicidal all the time due to this. Noone is protecting the innocent peaceful people of this world.
The law is retarded and I'm scared to call the council coz when I do they lie about me and get believed voz they're foreign!!!
Help , I'm desperate please someone help me
If you want to have problems, i have aspergers, then you won't be well treated. Don't be fooled by the shallow media points it's not the best place to be. Sensitive people will get heckled and riled for ages. If you want a quiet life the right thing to do is avoid this dump and find somewhere else.
If you don't think i'm being honest then i can assure you that my starsign is Scorpio and we don't lie.
Screaming coming through the walls regularly from their grown up adult sons whether it's about the football or the bloody playstation that still live with them. They don't give a toss about anyone else, have 5 cars between them and regularly entertain visitors late at night on weekdays.
They couldn't care less about keeping my young children up even on school nights and have made multiple threats to my family including hurling sexist abuse at me when confronted.
Neither the council or police are the tiniest bit interested in dealing with them despite the fact their noise is a nuisance to the neighbouring properties.
Honestly sometimes I wonder what I did in a previous life to end up in a situation like this, I now hate my own home and get anxiety at night or anytime I know the football is on
The only diffrent is my noisy nighbour is a psychopath woman in her 40 and feel jealous of me,so she keep banging literally all the time,she keep make one bang every second,not every hour or every minute,no,i am serious when i tell you she make bang every second,so i live in my flat and this upstair sick jealous psychopath make me sufffer in every second.
I record her and police and council do nothing as everybody said here!
And i am exactly same nmf situation,can't move out and have nowhere to go.
Situation make me very depressed and drive me to think about suicide.
I am left under dirty evil woman control who is dirty by her jealous and evilness.
What make it more painful is council and everybody take her side and believe her lies,and every time i complain they return accuase at me and accuase me that i am the one who make the noise which is a very big evil dirty lie.
WHY haven't I moved? Because there is literally NO WHERE to go to, seriously, NO WHERE. I'm TRAPPED.
Council and landlady won't do anything. I just want it all to be over. Everything ended.
I can't even sleep. As she plays music at night too and there is random loud crashes and bangs all through the day and night. Her daughter is terrifying, her own family is afraid of her and she controls the situation. She wants me out because I dared to complain once Sunday morning when it was blasting at 9am. They completely dominate the entire property.
I sit in a 2m x 2m space all day every day with headphones on and I can still hear it. I'm mentally ill, I'm not right in the head now because of it, it's gone too far for too long.
I shouted out the window and asked them to be quiet. They told me to F off. We then went round and received verbal abuse. They said a one month old baby was in the house so If the baby was asleep then we should be! I have notified the local housing office as their house is owned by Incommunities housing in Bradford.
I did phone the police at 3am when they became abuse at us but the police never turned up.
She’s been asked numerous times in the past but she ignores and has no consideration for others.
Now lock down is over she’s building a bar in her garden to host parties. It makes me anxious I can’t go through another year with the partying starting. It ruined my weekends as I was so tired.
Ive lived here for 30 years and this is the first problem I’ve had. I really don’t know what to do.
As an NHS worker its been a very hard year, sometimes working multiple 12 hour shifts in a row and naturally I'm exhausted by the end but my neighbours will be having one huge part from 3pm until 5am. I regularly go multiple days without sleep.
Police can't help, council won't even with 6 months of complaints by various people and even as I type this they are blasting music so loud its audible from my noise cancelling headphones.
I just don't understand how some people can lack such common decency.
You would find people don't sleep, and you are strange to sleep at night.
Talk?
Council?
Police?
Kill him?
In Britain, all above are useless. Nobody can be changed. Do you believe they don't know after 11pm, neighbours are sleeping. Do you think they are totally unaware of the effects they are having on others?
So, this article is useless. It's teaching you how to be a good citizen, or how to be a good victim.
The only solution is not politely to talk or call police. Instead, only when many noisy guys are killed, the law will start work and the police would start to warn people that if you want another party then stop it at 11pm.
I am currently experiencing some issues with my neighbour. He leaves the apartment to its relatives for days, sometimes they invite additional people ( for instance, this week there are all teenagers and despite they are kind of quite I can dill hear their music, doors slamming, teenagers in and out at every time of the night and day. Furthermore we are in Tier 3 so they are not supposed to do that.
I am planning to speak for the last time with the owner and tell him that if he does not control the people that are here we will be forced to ask additional help as we do not feel safe by not knowing which people are below us.
I can't believe people really do not have responsibilities in life such as jobs or studies in order to carry on a normal life....any additional advice on how should I deal with this situation?
The neighbor slams and bashes the door every morning, at 6:30 7:00 oclock, it’s not one slam it’s bashing opening the door and slamming it continuously I’m woken up every day with this.
I suffer from insomnia so I don’t get to sleep until 4 o’clock in the morning so being woken up continuously every day and having broken sleep is really afffecting me, I’m at my wits end with it as I’m a quite living person and have to put up with this family.
Along with numerous chiming dream catchers and other witch like paraphernalia. The noise has been incessant 24/7. Loud discordant noises jumbled together with no room escaping and at night audible through triple glazing. The council won't help. But additionally now, someone who has all windows open all year round has tv and radio on full blast not only all morning but until the early hours sometimes four am. Along with other antisocial behaviour, spending many hours stalking our movements overtly, finger up etc, not to mention threats to damage our property it is tough trying to lead a normal life. What can be done? Two visits from the police who strongly advised her made matters worse. The council are too afraid to deal with this. The witch is old but fully there. Ideas please
It's delite rate verbal abuse criminal damage threatenng behaviour slander.ASBO given for damage but still had muck thrown in garden stone thrown whilst weeding. Environmental health can't hear music whatever music it is. Then in the press white privilege I am white don't feel privileged husband made redundant May we get £74 a week to live on. I don't get anything. Next door white large hatchbacks middle and eldest son aged 38 42 on cannabis daughter 35 nasty piece of work. Moved back in then had second day child. Their Dad on pension says he's dying for over 10 years but instead his wife died in May. Before she went into hospital she blamed me for her illness. Last year she told our other neighbour I'd Killed her cat. I love cats. Over the years me gardening upset her dogs. I love gardening Four weeks ago accused of being paedophiles like Fred and Rose West. I love children. No evidence no action by police apart from ASBO. If music not picked up by machine case closed. If one or both of us can't get jobs were o the streets. Welcome to Britain 2020.
Sadly, 2 of the houses perpendicular to ours (in another close) are rented and the tenants of one is multi-occupancy.... Now let to 3 x 19-21yr old boys. We had polite words twice due to crazy loud music, bad swearing and late night /early morning garden antics. They were great, apologised & tried their best. However, they are night owls and sit out most evenings until 1.30am or later, chatting & laughing, going in a and out leaving doors to slam. This is exacerbated by the fact they don't sit close to their house, they sit right by our party fence, which is about 12 feet away from our bedroom window. They've actually woken us up 3 nights in a row this week between 12-1.30am.
On the last day, I actually went out & politely (but grumpily) told them off. They dispersed & apologised (again) but they just don't get it.
It makes me so cross and sad at the same time that they are so inconsiderate and don't understand that noise travels. Especially at night! Surely it's just manners to consider your neighbours!
I have two ypung boys .. asked them to keep it down and they said sorry no worries but its a monday fgs ...why do we have to tell people to be considerate.. Do i have to live in a field. Honestly its a joke !
For me I've rented the same flat for 3 years, first 2 years fantastic. Occasion noise from others probably once or twice a month. Last year sone people moved in downstairs who would play music loudly. Could be any time of day (even 4am) and kept us awake. They moved out and we had a nice peaceful month. Now worse people have moved in below. Complained about their loud music on the 3rd day. This was (partly) dealt with as they play it quieter but can still be heard. Next problem was they smoke weed and the smell was entering our flat. Now they have woken us up 3 nights in a row by banging between 3am and 4am. They also played loud music one of these nights. These guys sleep during the day and are awake all night. I don't want people like this living below me! It makes me think they are annoyed at noises we make during the day (legal) so they retaliate by banging during the night (not legal). Do these people not have a job or anything? It's stressful knowing every night I'll be woken up when I have to go to work (currently work from home though). Don't want to discuss with them because they smoke weed and the fact they have no consideration for others by being loud every night indicates they won't be nice people. We won't stop doing what we need to do during the day even if it means it disturbs their sleep. Sleep at night like most normal people! Really hoping to move out in 2 months but god help the next people who move in here.
They have 1 dog and 3 cats.
It's a small 3 bed house joined to mine.
The male adult has had 2 parties in the last two weekends and today excessively shouting and screaming in the house.
I've confronted his partner who apologised and it was ok for a short time but today it's been all day. I have anxiety depression and PTSD my MH is severely affected by this and I am beginning to get stressed I dont sleep and I'm in fear.
I have a 4 year old son who when hears the shouting asks me what that noise is.
He doesnt sleep either and when going to bed asks to sleep with me.
I've been told the male adult is not of nice nature and I should be careful as he is aggressive and so is his family.
I'm afraid to go to the council or the police as they'll know it's me I just dont know what to do anymore.
I'm actually terrified.
Spoke to Council - they said it is more of a Social Services matter - spoke to Social Services who say "there isnt enough evidence of neglect" try speaking to the landlord. The landlord does not live here and lives in another part of the country. After instructing solicitors it turns out he has moved out of his property and now have to find tracing agents. Haven't had a decent night's sleep since last year. Police say there is a marker on the house due to the smoking of cannabis outside but cant do nothing about the child.
Tearing my hair out. Cannot move. I own my own house and have no money to move.
I had a neighbour carry out DIY everyday, all day throughout lockdown without any regard for anyone else and you couldn’t even have the windows open in hot weather, he was so noisy. Now lockdown is easing, he has returned to his usual weekend parties and as I write, is still going at 1am. When I wrote to the council the reply stated they didn’t have time to deal with “sensitive people”! Added to that, a complaint has to be logged on your property when you move. Disgraceful, all round. The law absolutely doesn’t protect the council tax payer (he’s recent and I’ve lived here 30 years). I’m tempted to hold back my payments. Come on councils, start applying some common sense and stop lousy neighbours ruining it for everyone else!!!!!
I'm stuck where I am for now, it's AWFUL, but I'm making plans on how to move, saving money, packing up my household bit by bit and always on the lookout every day for somewhere better to move to, even if there is compromises. I might have to have the patience and strong will of a saint right now, I'm hating it so much, but eventually something will come up. Best of luck to you and everyone on this forum!
I am worried about complaining as to put myself in the firing line for retribution, and our car would be an obvious first target on the drive as we have no garage.
I have not spoken to my neighbours as they are not the mentality you can reason with and it would also give away it was me if I do report it to the council or housing association.
I'm at my witts end on what to do, I cannot stand the stress of it all its making me ill.
Been aroumd to see them and wrote a letter to explain that my illness keeps me awake at night and being woken at 5.15am each morning is making me stressed and ill
They have not stopped doing thr banging driving me mad what can i do
I've really started to feel ill over it all. I wish our previous neighbours had never moved!
Added tothe hell is this lockdown, which some of us are still very firmly in, and NO signs of it changing in terms of working from home.
I have never felt so trapped and panicky in my whole life. In the past I've had neighbours from hell and have thrown everything into effort getting away from them.
Now there is NOWHERE NICE coming up for rent, and like many of us, job prospects are shaky.
Every single day is a round of putting up with excessive noise, which like someone pointed out, is a form of BULLYING and HARRASSMENT. Landlords don't care! Councils don't care!
I just have to haul myself through each day keeping the hope alive that one day I can find somwhere better and get away from here!
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One neighbour chose the day the lockdown started to start refurbishing a house despite the house being vacant for the past few years. So I've had drilling, banging and constant noise there.
Below me I have a family who only know how to shout and leap around. Literally the children crash and leap around from 10am -5pm and only then do they go out for an hour, it's bizarre - we've told them we're working from home yet they stay in ALL day and leave once we've finished work. The parents are even worse, all I hear all day long is the mum shouting loudly.
I can't wait until I can afford a detached house!
The noise is unbearable to the point that we are unable to relax in our garden. We understand that the lockdown is difficult for everyone, especially for families with young children but the level of noise is causing us a great deal of angst.The children scream constantly and the parents never ever ask them to tone it down, even a little. We are reluctant to complain as we do not know them very well and are unsure how they will react. I would have hoped that since we are all in lockdown, a little more consideration for everyone, would be in order. The parents seem content to leave the children to scream and shout in the garden while they remain indoors. They may be working from home but I cannot imagine that they would be able to work with the level of noise from the garden.There is effectively no parental supervision and the children are simply left to their own devices.
We are worried that if we complain we will be seen as unreasonable and they will say that it’s just the noise of children playing. I recorded the noise and sent it to my daughter who has three children. She said that it was completely unacceptable and that she would not be able to cope with it either. I really don’t know what to do for the best and wonder if anyone else is dealing with a similar problem.
My other half wants to play music from their speaker bar in the garden when the sun is out for a couple of hours every week or so. She is mindful however that their volume is at a level in which you have a normal conversation without having to raise your voice.
With that said, our neighbor will complain that the noise is far too loud and that she has to close her conservatory windows/doors and is still able to hear it.
Because of this, my other half feels paranoid that she is being too loud and cannot be comfortable in her own home. Bear in mind, that there is a lot of stress going on outside of the home, so she wants to feel comfortable in our house.
I'm stuck in the middle, I don't want to have bad relations with my neighbor but at the same time, I want my other half to feel comfortable listening to music from her speaker. To be sure, I investigated myself and closed all doors to the garden, put on the TV and it was fine, I could not hear a thing, however my neighbor says that they had to put their TV on "97" to be able to hear it. I'm also aware that my neighbor could be picking faults in order to maintain a totally quiet house (but I'm sure that this is me being cynical).
I'm struggling to find a solution for both my other half and my neighbor, here are two solutions:
1) Tell the neighbor that music in the garden at a level where you can have a casual conversation is fine, especially on a bank holiday (VE day). So they are just going to have to suck it up and put up with it - it's not like we do this every day? just every 1-2 weeks (nice weather etc.).
2) Go to the neighbor's and say that we will turn it down to an even quieter volume and ask to hear it for ourselves to judge if it's too loud on their part. (they could have hard furnishing which can amplify the sound, so I'm told).
Any advice, would be appreciated, thanks.
In 2018 the neighbours on our left decided to privately rent out their home; it was rented to a large group of young Romanians, not necessary a nuclear family but more couples. I do not know who lives in the property as they have new faces and cars parked outside almost every couple of months.
From the moment they moved in they have been loud, selfish and entitled; massive parties every couple of months, awful bass type music every weekend and grown women screaming and screeching most evenings in their living rooms. I'm not sure if they work and I have occasionally seen kids at the property.
They barely speak English and usually flock in large groups made up of intimidating looking men making challenging them useless (tried it once and it was met with so much hostility and ego- properly annoyed a young women of colour challenged them). They seem traditional where the men are the lead/ dominate of the household.
There have no consideration that both their neighbours on both sides are elderly and majority of families on this road are peaceful families. Complaints to the council has been fruitless and their landlord (who we use to have a good relationship with as they were our old neighbours) have done nothing- im sure its because there is money involved.
Unfortunately the lockdown has only amplified this; there is loud music everyday, they sit in the garden all day shouting in their native language. Yesterday (5/05/2020) they even held a family birthday!! They had families who came by and put a massive table outside in their garden. No shame or care whilst they blast their music and shrieked ! I am also working from home and work in education meaning I have things that need to get done.
One thing this has taught me is money does not buy class. These people are classless. They think privately renting or driving nice BMW gives them power and control.. when really they have none. They are low lives who think they are above the law.. when really its effecting all of us! I even pray they get it .. that's how angry I am..
Unfortunately in 2018 my neighbours decided to privately rent out their home to a group of young Romanian/ eastern European.
Since 2018 there has been new faces and cars at the property. They are loud, entitled and selfish.
Their music taste is awful and they have thrown various parties throughout the last year and a half with no consideration of timing or the fact that the neighbourhood is filled with elderly and families with children that have school or work
I do not know whether they work nor do I know who actually lives at the address as the people are always changing ( a few times I do see some children come over)
They barely speak in English and act oblivious when asked in the past to turn things down or asked when things may end. They also flock in massive groups of mainly men making it very intimidating and pointless to challenge.
Although we had a good relationship with the landlord ( they were our old neighbours) very little has been done ( I'm guessing because it involves money. The council as well has been useless)
Since lockdown it has only amplified; staying up super late screaming and laughing.. Yesterday there was a large gathering for someone birthday. As selfish as I sound I do PRAY they get convid. These people think money buys class but there are so so wrong.
And before anyone makes a comment I am a women of an ethnic minority background that is a key worker in education that working from.home ! My feelings of anger are extremely valid and I will not back down.
Now that the UK is on lock-down I am unable to go to my partners house and am working from home, so I cannot escape the noise. To make matters worse he is now having his kids stay three days through the week and over weekends. So it is now more or less constant.
I know from the level of noise that the children and chasing each other around the flat for hours at a time, climbing on the furniture and jumping off, and I suspect that he doesn't have rugs or carpets so nothing to soften the noise or vibrations.
I am now finding it impossible to concentrate on my work and can feel the vibrations from the flat above from 7am until 10:30pm. I have even had a couple of ceiling spot lights drop from their fittings due to the vibrations.
I have only nodded to the neighbor a couple of times on the stairs and never spoken to him. He actively seems to avoid contact. On a couple of occasions when we have both pulled into the car park at the same time, he has actually sat and waited in his car until I am up the stairs and in my flat (not just me either, I've seen him do the same with other neighbors). So I do not feel it would be appropriate to knock on his door to discuss the noise. I am considering leaving a polite note in his mailbox, but dreading if he takes this the wrong way and escalates the noise. I fully appreciate that children will make noise, but also know that this is excessive, I am not unreasonable but am starting to feel like a prisoner in my own home (and not due to the lock-down). Any advice from anyone who has gone through something similar, is it worth the hassle?
I left it two weeks before asking them to stop but they still persist using lockdown as an excuse. It’s constant when me and partner are trying to work
They’re very polite which makes it even worse as they’re saying sorry then starting again it is truly unbearable
It's impossible to get a better property as I'm paying well over a third of my income on rent already, and there's nowhere even available in good areas to rent. All I hear all day is BOOM BOOM BOOM BOOM BOOMBOOM THUMP THUMP THUMP THUMP THUMP she's over 80 years old but all day every day its loud high energy bass music, its not normal.
It's SHEER HELL.
Can anyone advise me?.
I know at this hard time during lockdown everyone wants to enjoy there gardens & it’s not like me to complain but the neighbours next doors boyfriend is so loud!!..he really shouts all the time In the garden & out the front of the house..omg his so loud.
When I’m in my garden all I can hear is his big mouth..I know they want to enjoy there garden like us all but surely there is something I can do.
I used to be friends with her but when I did up my garden she stopped talking to me,we had no row or nothing but since her boyfriends moved in it’s a joke..his out the front banging the bins from as early as 5.30am!..they have got a hot tub & it’s so noisy..but honestly it’s his shouting it’s doing my head in..I know it’s during the day so maybe I cannot do anything,there’s also another neighbour complaining about how loud he is.
Is there anything I can do?..I will not knock on there door as they are uncivilised & it might make matters worse.
I feel your pain and I know exactly what you are going through. I have banging, music, slamming, TV and house vibrating due to my neighbours and her 5 children. We were told this was A working area yet she doesn’t work and is a neighbour from hell. All day and night they are noisy and I can’t work from home
Properly. The housing association will not do anything and always have an excuse to protect her or say my recordings are insufficient. I can’t even confront her as she has been racist and mimickes me all the time. I have a terminally ill mother and sister on top of being the bread winner. I can’t sleep and it’s affected me so bad. I’m suffering from anxiety and depression and feel useless. Manchester City Council won’t help either. I know my housing association is being biased and I feel like it’s because of my race. Anyone have any advice for me?
It's one thing to advise "speak to your neighbour first"-and we did, but when the neighbours believe it is their "right" to behave the way they do, & they fail to modify their behaviour, there is really no solution to the problem. Our local council does not call out to "everyday domestic noise" as they call it. If it were a loud party, disturbing > 1 flat, it would be easier to get them to call out-especially if the noise is long in duration, i.e., a few hours. But with thumping above, or children running...there is really no chance of them witnessing it-cause by the time they call out, the noise would have stopped. The toddler next door has been up as early as 6:40AM this week...running back and forth in their shoes...this vibration reverberates through our flat. Nothing we can do. As a 50-something, hard-working professional, I can honestly say that the neighbours I have had noise problems with over the years have all been in the same age bracket (early 30's) with the attitude "we can do what we want". It's certainly not conducive to communal living but because there are no consequences to their disturbing behaviour, it continues. I wish there were private companies (independent of the Councils) who we could call out to witness the noise & report back to the Council-Councils are definitely stretched, but when living in a block of flats, with people who have different sleep/work patterns to you, there has to be some enforcement of "etiquette" and considerate behaviour.
Though they are diminutive sub-continent Asians, they make more noise than a rock concert.
Man, woman and 3 horrendous brats, nicknamed Hooty, Whooper and Bump, living in a 2 bedroom house.
Running/jumping on wooden floors and staircase, slamming doors, banging on walls, hooting, howling, screeching and shouting, day in and day out.
Confronting parents on the matter, it's the usual " no understand English".
Fell out with neighbour about a year ago after I informed her about being able to hear the constant shouting swearing and agruing between her and her partner. She became very aggressive and tbh I had to walk away before things really exploded.
They have a disabled teenage daughter who has always made lots of noise i.e shouting and loud moaning, which I do understand is part of her disability.
Since my 'chat' with the neighbour, the daughters moaning has become so loud. It goes on for hours and is really affecting the enjoyment of my home.
I really dont know how to approach the situation and I know the young lady has problems but surely I'm allowed to enjoy my own home.
To comment about a disabled person isn't deemed as 'politically correct' but it really has become a problem. Any constructive advise welcome. Thankyou.
I sympathize with what you were enduring when you wrote on 30-Dec -19 about your anti-social neighbors.
What you described is a situation that is increasingly common especially now that the UK is very multi-racial even though being anti-social isn't dependent on skin color.
I suggest that it is a combination of poor quality housing, too many people living in areas where crime and unemployment are high, a lack of help from the local authority
and so the situation goes from bad to worse because little or nothing is done to address it.
I live in the London Borough of Brent and I can honestly tell you that living here leaves much to be desired especially in reference to housing and nice neighbors.
When I moved to Wembley back in 1988, if I could have had a glimpse of what I would be subjected to in terms of poor quality housing, horrible neighbors, dirty environment, serious depression, and neverending despair, I would have looked elsewhere.
Living here is comparable to living in a desert and what I mean is you quickly find yourself searching (in vain)for shade and refreshment from the horrible, tormenting conditions.
This is why I no longer vote because this is what you get in return is endless torment and frustration while the hypocrite politicians get the best of everything.
I'm glad that you seem to have faith in God but with respect,
I don't think that loving your enemies and praying for them will change anything.
In many cases, the problems with noise are due to a lack of noise insulation material
and, of course, a lack of consideration for one's own neighbors.
I think that people need practical help to deal with those issues rather than turning oneself into a veritable doormat or punchbag.
I've tried that and I can honestly say that it didn't work for me but if you believe it works for you then I'm glad for you
but most people need practical assistance rather than spiritual.
Don't get me wrong though, 'turning the other cheek' does have some benefits
but, again in a situation that is stressful and frustrating due to poor quality building
and a lack of care for the feelings of one's neighbors,
that can't be addressed by prayers alone which is what your comments seemed to imply.
my neighbor's grandchild is running around below my flat and the sound travels up into my flat and drives me to despair with frustration.
I have asked my neighbor to control her grandchild but she doesn't and so the problem goes on.
I have been putting up with this situation for over 10 years and my patience is rapidly running out.
Right now I feel so angry I feel like stamping down on the floor with all my might but that won't change the situation at all
having done that many times over the years.
I may have to write a letter of complaint to my landlord again because I shouldn't be putting up with this again as the new year has begun and I find myself feeling frustrated, depressed and quite frankly effing angry.
Other tenants have told me that I am quiet, that previous tenants had similar problems and that they think the family below me are schizophrenics. I doubt this as I know they are doing this just to be vindictive a-holes and that they are exploiting the council's inability to do anything about their juvenile mentality.
I know that one person does not live there, but visits the property as a relative. They sneak and creep around outside late at night, and they use the place as a crack den. I have seen the red eyes of this creepy sneaky snake creature for myself, and just one look was enough for me to know they need a straightjacket.
I have tried it all - mediation, complaints, letters, the lot. Still they sit there. Still they carry on the nursery school behaviour, throwing all the toys at the ceiling while I try to sleep at night.
Newsflash: Get a F***** life you pathetic (cannot even find a word to describe you)
I don’t want to be in a war zone with them but I just don’t know how to approach them again if they didn’t listen at the first place. I know council can’t do anything with it as due to poor isolation between the walls but it’s just getting too much!
is out at work all day, but lets his front bedroom out to two of his friends who are noisy as hell. They bang every single door in the house, they are like elephants up and down the stairs, they put they dog in the yard and leave him there barking his head off from 9.30 onward (evening) We approached our neighbor as he seemed friendly, approachable and helpful. Where we wrong!! His tenant was abusive and threatening to me and the neighbor who rents the house just stood there and said or did nothing.
Now they deliberately make noise and we hear them laugh about it. Told the housing association who sent a bit of a kid out to speak to us... nothing was done except to call the neighbor in for a chat with them. They are still noisy and stomp around and slam doors. Solicitors don't want to know unless there is money in it for them. What do we do now my husband is 71 and I am 56 and have Mental health issues it is really affecting me badly. The housing association wants me to keep a recording them when they make a noise, but it's difficult to do ad they may make short bursts of noise! Not everyone stands there slamming their doors 3 or 4 times, so recording them is difficult. What can we do next The housing association says he cannot have anybody living there with him but these people are. Now they are aware and the housing association has told this Tennant they cant live there what they do is come home at around 10.30 am and they band around giggling and laughing waking me up. It was 2 am last night they woke me. They park their car around the corner to make us believe they are not there but we hear them!! I only see one way out for myself as I cannot live like this with these nasty people, they know what they are doing and don't care they run rings around the housing association whom are as thick as two short planks.
Many Thanks,
Jim
The buyers lied to us about which neighbour they had a dispute about. Our neighbours the other end are awful, now come to light these are the neighbours the buyer had problems with.
The noise is excessive, banging and screaming from 5.30 every morning which can last all day. The mother swearing and screaming at her son most of the day. We have him knocking on our door and trying to get into our car when we go out. As a quiet family ourselves this is very difficult especially when our 2 and a half year old is hearing and seeing all of this. We've spoken to the mother once we apologised yet it's continued. Every morning at 5.30 he begins banging. Both the mother and son have additional needs. We're going to contact our local council however is there anything else we can do?
The main noise now, is not as much the dog, but them slamming these doors waking me day in day out. The council have been involved also the police, but these neighbours put on a caring front that they will adjust their doors, and they are trying their best, when they clearly don't.
I am now thinking about getting cctv, purely to record their behaviour, I am 72 and was so looking forward to my retirement, but it's a living torture due to these couldn't care less neighbour.
Since late 2017 DEFRA have published new guidelines written by Professor Moorhouse, Salford University for Environmental Health when identifying LFN caused by external forces such as White Appliances, Central Heating and other mechanical devices. This actually reverses their initial techniques and regulations when communicating to people affected by LFN and vibrations.
Firstly Tinnitus which the EH attempt to blame DOESN'T affect the ability to identify Low Frequency Noise and Vibrations, in fact studies show the opposite. Thus the guidelines were updated that a check up is not needed.
Secondly the Environmental Health have to correctly calibrate their equipment C weighted to identify any low frequency noise below 50hz. Unfortunately their sound equipment is ill equipped to identify or register infrasound, thus the problem when identifying the source. Also many speakers or headgear have issues or unable to playback infrasound. Thus the difficulty of the officers replicating and identifying the sound and vibrations!
Thirdly the government and local councils have updated the rules when interpreting building materials in flats and housing that could affect the transference and extrapolation of noise. There are guidelines on how low frequency noise can be transferred by laminated flooring.
Hope this helps yourself or others fighting against LFN and vibrations. As currently I've seen or read hundreds of complaints, but not one successful prosecution or cease and desist.
My neighbours daily use alcohal and shout in their families.my study is disturbing..My family has been disturbed due to 2-3 people.In bihar,it is banned but they use taari..And they daily do the same act..I m unable to concentrate on my study due to it..Please help me
Next door neighbour installed a monster trampoline so squealing, shouting, crying starts in earnest about 3:30 when the 3 young children return from school & continues all evening, I have never once heard the parent asking them to quieten down, even when the noise is earsplitting.
When they're back indoors the tantrums proceed as the kids want to be outside on their trampoline. So, tantrums & screaming continue sometimes until the early hours, with banging against the walls that causes my pictures to vibrate & rattle against the walls, it's really affected my sleep & mental health.
Property management agency who manage the estate & local council don't seem to want to help, even though there is a clause within the agreement of all residents that anything that causes a nuisance or annoyance is not allowed.
Unfortunately my only solution is to move as I can't live with this continuous cacophony of noise and the most annoying thing is that a little consideration could really solve the issue but I have never once heard a parent asking their child to quieten down, not once, unfortunately consideration is in very short supply in my area......
I feel like getting authorities involved, but I am unsure of what to do. Both me and my wife work alternated weekends and we get up at 5 AM. Last week I woke up after a very disruptive night and she was still playing music at 5...
One kid is just screaming constantly and of course loads of running around and dropping toys, etc. I have been in arguments with them for about 11 months now. Have talked to them directly, wrote a letter, kept a noise log for 3 weeks (as suggested by my landlord), then submitted it to my landlord and the building managers. The porters also talked to them several times. My next door neighbors seem to take it down, but their upper neighbors are still a nightmare to deal with. they pointed their fingers to the child,and saying they cannot do about it, instead of laying down floor carpet all around and actually taking the kids to the fresh air and a playhouse. i don’t hear them taking the kids out a lot, and when I went up to ask them to calm the domestic situation (they even let the child driving around in the flat in an electric car!), the woman looked down at the child and was just telling him: “look what you have done” . They have been asked by the building managers to lay down floor carpet but nothing happened ever since, and the carpet was of course not placed, and the building manager never officially replied to my complaints - actually they never replied to my email, my landlord was chasing them for 3 months, before I said it was enough and I am now
looking for another flat, in a Victorian house without families.
I think this ignorance is to my rights for a healthy and relaxing life at home; is topped up with bad parenting, as toddlers are full ot energies and they need to run- but just not in a block of flats kind of place.
In the end, I am moving to regain my sanity and to be able to sleep and not woken up every singl day at 7am.
we are noisy from 7.30-8.30am then 1pm-7.30 at night, after7.30 there is no noise. Due to my sons disability he often makes a lot of noise screaming, slamming doors, breaking things the list goes on. It is not his fault he has a neurological condition, and it’s not my fault either. It is very distressing that I can’t even have a privet conversation in flat I’m renting with out her going out of her way to listen in. She has bought her flat, we privet let. I’m not sure what to do, she is lovely to our faces give kids gifts at Easter Xmas Halloween, I don’t know what to do?! I would rather she kept her “gifts” to herself as I don’t want to assosate with her after hearing her and her friend discussing my family! Iv found out she talks to other people on the street about our noise! We are not noisy after 7.30 pm, I can’t make my son be quiet. We don’t make noise all night, it is very very stressful and is making me paranoid to even have a conversation in my home!
My new neighbours have been in about 5 weeks almost, I understood when you first move in there can be alot of noise obviously ... but. They're loud constantly throughout the day (banging, shouting, slamming doors, loud music), my days off work I've been going out the house and not returning till late because I can't cope with the noise. I've started hating being in my house and I love my house.
I've been woken up just after 6am every morning by their kids screaming and shouting and banging on the walls and slamming doors, closely followed by the parents shouting and screaming at them back .I work late shifts and it's wearing me down now the lack of sleep. I've taken to trying to sleep on the sofa in the room furthest away from next door and can still hear them through 2 walls . They're not the kind of people who are approachable and I'm scared if I do something will happen to my house or car if that makes sense . I've contacted the council (it's a council property) to make a report but didn't peruse it further. What's the laws on noise before a certain time? I'm worried that if the council come out it's going to be 10x worse but I can't keep up the way it's going either. Need some advice please , I'm desperate
I live in a reasonable quiet street, our neighbours a few doors down keep putting in complaints about my barking puppy. Now my pup only barks when there’s stuff going on, such as the kids jumping on the trampolines, the screaming kids next door and the odd bird that’s comes into the garden (which is not often) but each time I bring the pup in. Where do I stand, it’s been 30c and it’s got to the point where our dog is not even allowed to go out because the minute he goes out we get another letter through the door (even when it’s not even him barking). We have spoken to the neighbours and they just don’t care. What do I do?
Hi Bob
Not sure where you live, but I'd try contacting the local council. Ask them about noise officers / noise police. They're not real police, they wear plain clothes and unmarked vehicles. They first arrive to your flat, measure the noise level in your flat and if it exceeds the acceptable level they go to the neighbour and ask to turn it down. After this repeats maybe a couple of times they can take further action (e.g. letter to housing association, informing the police, etc.). You must check what hours they work though. Could be e.g. 5pm till 4am etc. All the best!
And i dint just call the police first, i have spoken to the tenants before around the noise above my bedroom in the early hours of the morning and their response was 'its not us must be someone else' we are at the end of the block and their is literally no other building anywhere near us to be creating the noise!
I am honestly at a lose at what to do? Its like i have no rights at all in my own home. They have ripped my door bell off the wall outside, rang my door bell at 4.30 AM and deliberately jumped up and down on the floor above my bedroom numerous times, usually at around 1 AM on a Monday morning and it seems i just need to sit here and be bullied by them?
Every time I have previously tried to talk to them I am told that I am making their life hell etc etc which is actual lies given i haven't spoken to them at all in anyway since September 2017. I have just ignored the noise as best as i can.
Has anyone had similar experience of neighbors like this? The situation is now just making me ill. I never have a minute in my own home where it is not being invaded by them!!!
Their upstairs neighbor has done nothing but cause them grief. We have lost three immediate family members, and my mom has already felt the full brunt of that. The neighbors are aware that we have been going through hard times but they don’t seem to care.
A couple weeks before my dad passed they walked in without knocking and tried to sell stolen goods! Obviously with my dad dying they didn’t want to report it and endanger themselves even further soy mother stuck her head down.
They fight and scream at eachother all night, you can hear them being physically violent towards eachother... the girl their is (diagnosed) bipolar and absolutely unapproachable now. She stomps and screams and smashes about.
It’s keeping my mother awake all night every night and we are not sure what to do anymore... tried speaking to them and contacted police and council, they just ask that it continues to be reported. They are fully aware of how bad it is, having heard their daylight noise!
Is their anything else we can do? My mother is now at breaking point and struggling to cope.
It has effected my enjoyment of my house, having to turn the tv up, I've had to buy wireless headphones as the volume on iPad only goes up so far, I listen to radio quite a bit, using earplugs at night a lot more, I'm sure I'm getting an ear infection, it seems that I return from work and just wait for the loud conversations to start
I live in a top flat in a four in a block and have had my bottom neighbours downstairs from me since last year. I have been in my flat just over 2 years and they just have been in there just over a year. Everything was fine when they moved in but now they are dead noisy, slamming doors constantly, and stomping about like elephants it all happens at nighttime when i am going to my bed as they sleep all day and are up all night. I live by myself and they are a couple. I am at my wits end with them. I am with a housing association and they are with the council so they cant do anything about it. What can I do? I have tried talking to them but they just ignore me. Please help thanks
Thanks
Tom
I have an autistic daughter who is really suffering with the noise.
I need help asap please.
I have complained to them about the noise, so has their neighbours on the other side but they seem to thing that dogs just do that.
On the right side our neighbours have 3 kids under 5 that they can't control. Everyone is screaming in that house 24/7. They're always shouting. I understand that toddlers don't know how loud they are, but the parents scream and shout a lot more than their kids, especially in the garden. The adults constantly whine and whinge while the kids are trying to play. Thankfully they only go out in the garden for about a minute at a time before they're back inside arguing, but they seem to be getting worse as the kids get older.
The shouting starts at 5:30am every morning and it doesn't stop until around 10-11pm when they eventually go to bed.
I used to love working from home, but now it's driving me insane. We have confronted the baby factory next door about the noise and we fell out with her over it. We politely asked if they could keep the noise down a little and she accused us of being bullies telling us that her kids only form of communication is crying. It's not the crying that bothers us it's her yelling non stop.
Last year we had our roof redone, the tiling took about 3 days. Our builders worked during the day while everyone was out of the house 10am to 2pm, they were very tidy and respectful of our neighbours properties. When the job was finished, we were standing on the drive talking to the builders, when neighbour with the dogs decided to come out and have a go at us. She said 'if I were a bloke she would knock me out' because I smiled when she complained about the noise of the builders. She was home for 1 hour while they were clearing away some rubble. Her dogs bark all day every day. She's such a hypocrite.
I've never had such selfish neighbours in all my life. Other than moving, I have no idea what to do.
My neighbour use the kitchen which is close to my bedrooms during the night with loud kitchen noises. Is this legal?
A few weeks ago, a mysterious humming/whirring/vibrating sound began.It goes on 24 hours a day. I can't get away from it anywhere in the flat. If i try and go to sleep in my bed, i can feel the bed shaking. If i sit on the sofa in the living room its the same. I can even hear it in the bathroom. I have tried earplugs but they don't block out the high pitched humming at all.
I was driving myself crazy trying to work out what it was, and were it was coming from. I had plumbers, electricians and gas engineers round to see if anything was wrong. It wasn't, I've had my hearing checked for tinnitus and it wasn't that. I asked all the neighbours below, and opposite me in my block and they don't know anything about what it is. So i reasoned it must be coming from the adjoining block.
Not knowing what the noise was or what was causing it, i put a polite note on the entrance door of the next block asking them if they could move the offending object or turn it off at night so i could get some sleep. This was ignored.
I worked out eventually where the noise had to be coming from and reported it to my landlord and they said they would write to them. I don't know wether they did and have just been ignored or wether they just haven't contacted them at all, but the noise still continued. So in desperation I contacted environmental health, who sent someone around quite quickly, and she heard the noise, and said they would contact them promptly.The problem is she said that as the noise isn't what you would call a traditional nuisance, it may be hard to deal with.
That was last Thursday and the noise is still continuing.
I haven't slept more than an hour a night since the 4th of April and I am at my wits end.
I am trying to heal from surgery and get much needed rest but can't. Has anyone else experienced anything similar? And if so did you manage to resolve it? Many thanks
During the night the staffs use the kitchen with noises and turn on machines which affected our sleep. During the day they turn on kitchen machines with constantly loud kitchen noises. We cannot open our patio door and use the garden. The machine was turned on from 7am to 7pm or later.
Are these called nuisance? How can I show the evidence to the court, as the council won't give the evidence and they did not monitor the loud machines' noises.
Last year after several months of my neighbour's kids shouting and screaming etc etc right by my fence (they live behind me in a cul-de-sac and I live at the entrance of the road, so the pavement is adjacent to my garden). This was not just playing - they had they huge pump action water canons and then they decided to go up and down racing bikes and scooters. the noise was horrendous and seriously was way above "just normal kids playing". I should also point out that one of their kids has a drum kit, which is in their garage - so when he "plays", they have their garage door open so their is no escape.
All of this was happening where I was trying to sit on my patio in my garden, sadly I lost my patience as it was in the Summer and I wanted to cool down in my own garden. I asked them (over the fence) to move away and play by their own house please. I was polite and non-threatening, but within 5mins I had their mother on the warpath banging on my door! She was possessed with rage!!!! Completely disproportionate. We got on OK before (she even looked after my dog when I had to go to hospital for day surgery!) so I was gobsmacked to be met with a torrent of threatening abuse... She bluntly told me that I was being grumpy and that her children could do what they like and where they like - and basically how dare I complain and if I didn't like it - I should move. She accused me of shouting at her kids and also complained that my dog barks early in the morning too much and I was in no position to complain!
This left me completely distressed... and to aggravate the situation instead of calling her kids in, they witnessed this and then she encouraged them to make MORE noise and do what they like. If it had been me, I would have told the kids to move away - so that this didn't escalate etc to try and diffuse the situation... but she didn't and now the kids think they definitely can do what they like!
As we had got one before, I wrote a letter to her (which I signed and left a box of chocs as a peace offering)... In the letter I was polite, I apologised for the drama but said that her children were making a great deal of noise and that I did not shout (despite what the kids told her - I didn't!!!) and although I don't have children, perhaps I'm not as de-sensitised to kids noise as a busy mum of 3. I tried to explain that my dog (a small Jack Russell) is ill and have a chronic eating disorder - this means I am awake through the night as he is frequently sick and needs to eat grass to purge his stomach and will not make old bones... and that if my dog had barked before 6am it was only 2-3 small barks and that I would do my best to stop him. However, he is not left out in the garden alone, is on a lead to drag him in, and only barks if there is a fox/cat/ or someone bangs a car door or even walks past. He is not left
The next door neighbour flat renovated after a floor I reported, and put in new hardwood type of floorings. In Feb, the flat was let out to a family with a kid and I had been having terrible and continuous noises from their bare foot heavy walking, dropping heavy items to floor and the worst of them all, the child’s jumping, running and screaming ever since.
I wrote to the tenants, management company and the flat owner, the tenants lied initially about their making noise to the management company and then the management company said they didn’t want to get involved because it’s a neighbour dispute. They then said they didn’t want to take actions because tenants said they would move out at July. July came and went, the tenants lied about moving out by July and kept staying. I contacted Newham council in London many time by email and phone calls, they sent out their standard letters to the tenants twice, then nothing else happened. I called the flat owner last Friday, he was full of abusive words and said he had asked the tenants to stay as long as possible to keep making noises. The tenants themselves didn’t have tiny amount of consideration even by wearing slippers or having a rug to reduce the noises for four months I had been complaining, and the impact on my and my family’s daily living and sleep were terribly bad.
I went through the lease of the flats and the next door flat owner’s braches of lease are clear as below and the flat owner doesn’t even have Freeholder’s permit to sublet nor Newham council’s landlord license to legally let out the flat. Can someone wiser suggest what else I can do the stop them?
Many thanks
Forth Schedule
8(a) not to assign or transfer the whole of the Demised Premises without the prior written consent of the Landlord which shall not be unreasonable withheld
The Fifth Schedule
1(a) Not to do or permit or suffer to be done in the Apartment and/or in the Building anything which may cause damage or inconvenience or be or become a nuisance or annoyance to the Landlord or to the lessee or occupier of any other flat or part of the Building or to any person lawfully in the Building or in the neighbourhood generally (and the generality of this paragraph shall not be restricted by the remaining paragraphs of this Schedule)
8(a) To ensure that all guests and other invitees or licensees of the Tenant while in the Building confirm to the stipulations and regulations contained or referred to in this Schedule
11. To keep the floors of the Apartment (apart from the kitchen floor and (if applicable) any balcony floor) covered with carpet or some other suitable sound deadening material or utilising some suitable sound deadening mechanism
I suspect this because I have never had a wrong word from him in the past and weird he has suddenly started being nasty and also the neighbour told my husband the other day he had thought of buying a holiday cottage in Europe, but had decided against it (he is quite well off). Then said he is buying old motor bikes to do up (see my other post if you are interested) as he had nowhere to put his money (should we be so lucky!) as interest in the bank is not very good. I am very suspicious and this was my first instinct that he had some sort of motive for the nastiness, so I think your instincts may be right that your neighbour wants to buy your house, and making people sell up quick, is a way of reducing the price of the house. Thank you.
REcently, my neighbour has told my husband he is setting up a business to make some profits by doing up old bikes. He then had 2 delivered after 2300 the other night (bit of commotion outside our house), ok, although he woke us up, these things happen.
But the next day, he revved one up outside our front window, very loud and noisy an ancient bike from the early 70's, and the fumes came into our windows. Today, his mate across the road has had a bike delivered, and was revving this up on and off several times this afternoon, as well as my neighbour revving one or two of his 6-7 motor bikes up now and again. The noise was awful and I got cross, went out and stood in my drive, the neighbour's mate across the road must have seen me as he switched his bike off. A few more times of bikes revving up until 1530 today approx, and the neighbour has now put his bikes away. If this continues on a daily basis though, with the neighbour doing up old bikes and revving them up, I may ask other neighbours what they think and/or contact my local environmental department at the council. I dare not approach the neighbour because I had verbal abuse the other day when I was walking out with my little dog, he was abusive and accused my dog of barking and 'doing his head in'. My dog had been out at the vets for over an hour that morning, and so it must have been someone else's dog barking, not mine. My dog has a defective jaw and cannot bark properly anyway, just a tiny yip. He is a tiny dog. Thank you.
its gotten to the point where i think she's actually doing it on purpose to force us to move so she can buy our house and do it up.
And their dogs bark as soon as we go in the garden or just randomly if no one is out there and then at about 10 at night they start Barking, then stop about 20-30 mins later . Again waking my baby up. We haven't spoken to these neighbours yet as they don't come across as approachable they are the only ones in the street who we haven't met and they only the only ones that everyone has told us aren't very nice(they tried to get my neighbour the other side of them an asbo for loud music she is 70 probably because she complained about the noise).
What should we do? Thank you
On past experience, people don't like being confronted about daily living noise, it's not their fault, it's the lack of soundproofing. I have tolerated it for over a year, but don't know what to do.
Now that the weather gets warmer it's even worse as they are in the garden and we simply cannot enjoy our garden.
My partner asked them once to turn it down but and they replied 'Yeah we are leaving in a bit' (!!!) And they kept playing it loud until the left the house. I thought that was really rude and it shows that they have no respect. They also leave the tv on all night and their bedroom is on the other side of our bedroom wall so somethimes I fall asleep and wake up with the same tv sound buzzing in my ears.
Please advice what to do as they have been ruining our Sundays. I don't want to be planning outings on Sundays just because I cant stand staying at my home!
Thank you in advance.
C
But we laugh a lot in my house it's me and my 2 children. However the ppl next door knock on our wall for laughter and even when we are playing games this is all before 11 pm may I add .
It's really shameful when I have people over and we are laughing and they start knocking on the walls ...like I am 15 years old
When it fires up it 'hums' and this wakes us up. Particularly in the mornings.
The Council has investigated and put noise monitoring equipment which identified early morning firing (various times between 06:30 to 07:30) no statutory nuisance exists.
As we are woken up surely this conclusion is wrong??? advice please
Noise is so bad i just want to move police wont jelp he pays people
I moved into my property about 8wks ago (owned) the neighbours that I share a wall with argue a lot!!! Sometimes during the day,late at night & early hours of day. Bad language, slamming of doors, smashing of plates. I can hear everything. I have a 3yr old & I don't want her realising/hearing what is going on, the language used & being disturbed. Sometimes it lasts moments & other times goes on, calms down & restarts but its v often. They are not approachable. What can I do?
6. They leave the front door of the house open constantly to let in the other tenants and their friends. This makes me nervous because I am on the ground floor flat and this is just asking for burglars to walk in (I have been burgled this exact way in the past). I have asked them to stop, but they ignored me.
7. They have friends visiting constantly and the neighbours at the back of the flat (the ones that kindly put these terrible people's garbage in the wheelie bin for them) say they can hear them pounding up and down the stairs in the hallway all the time. I have encountered some of these guests and they always act strange. I am uncomfortable with their behaviour, especially when the front door is left open for them to come in and out as they please.
Please help me!! I loved living in this flat, but these new neighbours are ruining it for everyone in the house! I am renting but the lovely couple at the back of the house own their flat and they are very upset. I have given them the landlord's number, but I don't know if they have called him. Frankly, I don't know if he would do much as when I talked to him, he didn't want to know.
1. There are 5 people living in a small 2 bed flat above me. They claim to work all hours so come home/leave at various hours of the night. They stomp around above my head between early evening, going all night until 8am in the morning. Earplugs do not work and I am kept up all night by the squeaking and stomping (I have resorted to sleeping pills so that I can get a full night's sleep without hearing them). I have located and spoken to their landlord who claims it is "not his problem" that there is no soundproofing between the original wood floor and a thin carpet (I have a photo of this). I have tried to resolve this by offering to pay half for laying down soundproofing, but the landlord says he will only put £100 towards it because he doesn't think it is his responsibility. Is there anything I can do to get him to contribute more?
2. He DID say that there was only 2 people on the lease and that if there were more, he would have to evict them. He spoke to them and they told him that they had their mother visiting from Italy. They did not account for the other 2 guys living there. I know the two other guys are definitely living there because when I have gone up to talk to them about the noise, I have seen a double bed in the bedroom and two single mattresses in the lounge. I am assuming the mother is staying in the tiny single bedroom. The landlord became belligerent when I requested his help with the noise and now does not believe me when I tell him that there are definitely more people in the flat than the two he is aware of.
3. On top of the stomping, they are very noisy by playing loud music and/or shouting. They keep their windows open, so you can hear the shouting across the entire street and the neighbours above them have told me the music and the shouting is driving them crazy. The neighbours above them said they can hear them stomping too.
4. They don't recycle and go through a bin bag minimum a day. They throw their big bags untied in the front garden, so that the garbage spills out all over the place. They neighbours another flat in the house have resorted to taking this garbage and putting in the wheelie bin, but because they don't recycle and go through so much garbage (again, 5 tenants), the wheelie bin is full by Thursday (our pick up is Tuesday morning), leaving no room for the other people living in the house. They don't put their garbage on the street for rubbish pick up day and just leave it festering in the front garden. I have asked them to please recycle, but they ignored me. (I have a photo of the garbage also)
5. They smoke in the flat and chuck their cigarette butts out the window on to the front garden. Other neighbours in the flat have asked them to stop, but they ignored them too.
6. They constantly leave the front door of the house open for their flatmat
I really can't deal with this any more. I suffer with anxiety and I have alopecia triggered by stress... These neighbours are literally making me loose my hair!
Me and my son (now 7) haven't had a decent nights sleep in over 2 years and I can't take it much more.
Please can somebody tell me what I should do?
But this is driving me nuts. It is a horrible aggressive dog and it does not shut up, and this has been going on for 2 years now. I complained to the authority over a year ago, but she was given notice of the appointment and hid her dog at her son's house and claimed that the dog didnt live with her and blamed the neighbour's dog. The council actually bought this pack of lies and even felt sorry for her because she played them.
Well, I've phoned them again, it's definitely her dog as I've gone to the door to confirm it's this little s**t and can hear the loud barking on the other side of it, and now hopefully they will do something about this. Vile woman, vile dog. She should not be allowed to have this monster with her if she cannot control it. Absolute lack of regard for neighbours, disgraceful.
No excuses, either.
to 4/5 in the morning, I have a young daughter that they keep awake.
The dogs bark constantly at nite and sleep during the day.
Apart from that the two dogs are boarded in with wood so I reckon there
distressed,They never bring their two dogs for a walk .
Please help as they aren't the nicest people to aproach.
I live in an ex council block of flats with my friend. We are having problems with our neighbours who live directly under us. As far as we can work out, the lady's son comes to visit on most week days and they always seem to have massive shouting matches that last for up to 30 minutes (lots of door slamming and shouting etc.)
These arguments are regularly at very unsociable times (this morning at 6.30am, late at night and sometimes even at 3am!). We strongly suspect that the lady is a drug user, and from what we have heard of her son he seems like he could be quite violent. We once heard another neighbour go and ask them to keep it down (it was late, probably 11pm) and he just got a lot of verbal abuse. We don't really feel safe to talk to this neighbour about this issue. Any advice please? I don't know if her flat is council owned or not.
A majority of people would like to know if they have been noisy, decent ones that is. But the ones who don't care of believe they are entitled or think they have pub license rules ("I can make as much noise as I want until 11pm!!!!") or try to reason "I'm young (and you are old!)" I find are not sensible at all no matter how many times you try to explain. Those are the anti-social rabble who blight our neighbourhoods. I finally got through to one of my noisy neighbours by contacting their housing association. Worked a treat even though the property manager didn't believe me (and I had several witnesses to boot even though she only talked to one - I think because if there were more than 1 then the tenant would be deemed anti-social, beats me...) However because I have contacted the housing association, the noisy tenant must have been warned as miraculously, the noise has been turned down. The tenant now informs me she is having a party and if it gets too noisy to let her know before calling the council. I thanked her kindly and it's not so bad now. It seems people don't like it when someone goes to the officials but had they been reasonable in the first place, we wouldn't have had to inform the housing association!!! I have Brazilian neighbours who love to party outside but come 10 pm, it dies down and by 11 pm they are inside. I was sooo amazed! They explained to me that they realise people have young children or might want to go to sleep so they don't want to be annoying. I thought they were so thoughtful. I only wish my other neighbours were that way.
It's quiet during the day and then it starts about 9-10 at night and can
go on till (like on Christmas Eve) 3.00am.
This goes on about 5/6 days of the week.
It's not drink - they are Muslim it's a cultural thing.
It stresses me so much and it's making me ill now.
How should I approach this.
I don't understand how they could have so little respect for one another.
I have been there with both my parents,in the last 10 years.
Beleive me Mark the best thing you can do for the poor sole is to contact social services and let them do something for the lady.
If she's in such a situation,she would be better going into care,if she has no family you know of
Or relatives.as for care costs,if she has less than stated savings,and doesn't own her home,she will be a " state service user". If she owns her house it will be sold for her keep.
Eventually something will happen,such as a fire,or found wandering in the street.
So my suggestion to you is phone social services,tell them of your neighbourly concerns.
I was once a perfectly fit, hard working happy gent, with 3 children and a girlfriend, and I would have done anything for anybody, helped out where I could, been there for people in their hour of need, even helped financially if friends were in trouble.
Now I am a seriously stressed, jobless wreck, who's health has diminished to such an extent that I can't even climb my own stairs to go to bed any more.
My relationship broke down & I now live with the one remaining Son, who hasn't fled the nest just yet.
I'm now forced to sleep in the living room, downstairs, and can't walk 30 yards down the street without wanting to pass out and collapse, why??
Nuisance neighbours.
We used to have the best neighbours ever, none of us complained or made a nuisance of ourselves, we put each others bins out and collected them, cut each others hedging when the other of us were either busy or under the weather and couldn't do it ourselves, and even collected things from the shop for each other.
That all changed when they died, and each neighbour then became gradually worse than the last.
It all started when one side began partying from 7pm to 5am & throwing rubbish over the gardens, one side even thought it was funny to throw over soiled nappy's and mouldy food waste.
I saw them throw it over one day & promptly threw it back, only to have them bang on my door and begin raging at me, claiming i'd thrown it over their side first.
The worst part about it is that both the police, and the council don't seem to care in the slightest.
After no amount of asking them to keep the volume down had any effect, I wrote to the local council to complain.
The only thing that came from that was a letter, & the neighbour must have known who made the complaint, since I promptly had bricks come through the windows at 2am several days later.
A phone call to the police did nothing, in fact, a second brick came through as I was on the line to the emergency services.
Completely pointless, I could have been the victim of a robbery and ended up hurt, or even dead.
Why do I say that? Well, it only took the police 4 days to actually bother to send anybody round, then they did absolutely nothing about it, even though it could be proven that the bricks, specifically made from a sandstone, actually came from around next doors pond.
After a time, they eventually moved out only to be replaced by even worse neighbours, a thing I never thought was possible.
The moment they moved in, the loud music began from cars in the driveway, along with the threats when any attempt to have them lower the volume was made.
I now have one side shouting, screaming & slamming doors from as early as 6am, to the extent that the sliding door in their living room literally vibrates the walls and windows when slammed shut, even the floors and any furniture y
My neighbour n pal,got banned,by the committee of the loch.That was in june2011.
On July 12 2012 the two guys returned,I was duty bailiff,they were told they'll not be getting permits as they're banned.I had to endure extremely foul mouthed language,threats,not only
Against me but my wife.At that I lost my cool,tried to hit him,ended up on the ground,with him on top of me.He left shouting,Quote"I'll fix you,you bastard".I ended up in court.
He had walked into the police station,with blood running from his nose,saying I'd jumped on him
From3 ft punched his nose,and knocked him to the ground.
Funny thing is,there was no blood coming from his nose,when he was sitting on me,must've been delayed reaction.since then he has terrorised my wife,we can't speak in the kitchen,as
What hears is repeated on Facebookto his friends.
We are both pensioners,my wife has not got over that day,we are not looking forward to new year cos that's when it gets really bad.What can we do!
I felt so embarrassed as I had no idea that we were so Loud. Now I am heartbroken and feel like I am stepping on eggshells in my own house, a house that I sacrificed so much to have. I keep telling my 5 year old to be quiet and every time my baby cries I panic. I don't know what to do, should I keep trying to be quiet or is my neighbour being unreasonable by wanting us to be quiet at 8.00 pm?
Please help I haven't been able to sleep as I wonder what my neighbours think of us as a family.
I always been so proud of what nice people we are and how well behaved my son is. This as been a total nightmare : (
Thank you in advance for any suggestions.
Worse not on our part,he threatened me with his garden fork,cos I made a
Remark about a party he held the previous Saturday.For which I apologised.
Things went from bad to terrible, when he was banned from fishing,at at which
I protested.
It got so bad that we had to call the police,several times,our windows had eggs thrown at them,our car was scratched a few times.
Then on July 12 2012 I was daft enough to assault him,he saw to it that I was charged,as I was duty bailiff at loch glow,in fife,although his nose was alright
When he left me.
On Sat 11 August 2012,when I wasn't at home,he terrorised my wife who was
68 at that time,the police were called but nothing was done,as my wife requested.
My wife has not gotten over that day,and is terrified to be left on her own,when
she hears his voice,her expression changes.
We are now living in fear,of him,and his friends,but we own our house and
Cannot afford to move,Any suggestions,don't say talk to them,they just laugh.
if you want to blast your music, get yourself head phones.
Thank you so much for teaching me about gang stalking noise
I knew some of who are causing my problems, but did not have a name for it
I read everything and understood the general wider meaning
The one at the centre of it also targeted our personal lives and some of our activities
Some of those doing it are also showning signs of mental illness themselves and looks evil and different on the eyes
I read it and see that it can be sneakily done as well to make others believe you are mental
One of the guys did not deny it after telling me I am mental I looked at the wretch and thought only a mental person that do not enjoy their own lives and is thinking each day how to make another life a misery will sit there dropping heavy objects for hours
New year 2012 I thought o heck it's new year nobody won't mind some music a bit later than usual, they were hitting the floor with something heavy for hours, maybe the females think my son sleep there he don't not anymore.
If the ones that is involved think I am crazy I think they are crazy as this is not enjoyable for them either it could never be.
I could say a lot more about them dropping heavy objects at unusual times for a lenght of time but instead Thanks a lot for confirming my suspicions.
Thank God one of the ones under is gone but above is still there. They used to work together at times and with some others
And would you believe some are people with children lol
I like their music lol bloody evil drug heads
I'ts better than people peddling drugs in your area
It's better than old ladies are afraid to walk in their own neighbourhoods
Don't you people have nothing to do but to put your ears to your neighbours, floor
look at your own Tv , cook or wash some clothes
Nuisance is when your neighbour deliberately wake you up letting go heavy objects on the area they knows you maybe sleeping continuously for hours until you are provoked then they stop
Nuisance is continously harassment from your neighbours or other people aimed at you directly, why make a person occasionally music be a nuisance
Nuisance is when you get depressed because of these circumstances, it when you cant see a way out, its when the housing association or some authurity seems gives to give your neigbours the right away to harass you by being unreasonable at your complaint and you have to deal with iy.
Nuisance is when a child who were not born yet when you came to your block starts pretending you are harassing her and bring all her friends to start jumping up and down, nuisance is nothing to do with peoples music so long as the music is not violent or threathening and so long as the person is not blasting the music while you are asleep, if you mind your own business this will never bother you
In fact you are sitting there with your ears to the floor in some cases
read carefully and know that when you have noise nuisance you do not have back up because you maybe the only one hearing the loud heavy object dropping for hours on end until a reaction is provoked from you.
The old lady Is not continously banging when she is awake just to tell you to get up this is what some people have to put up with.
They maybe stuck in rented local authority housing and cant get move because of unreasonable judgement .
While one is getting evicted for loud music in the day, the real perpertrators gets away with it freely saying you are mad.
There are many nuisance behaviour we can discuss right here
stop picking on those people they not really troubling you
your problems seems to be personal against some people
If the old lady Tv is bothering you there must be some way to get that adjusted it may be the Ads to they can get quite loud all of a sudden.
Have peace with your neighbours
I read somewhere on a blog every weekend a young man washes his car and put his music on full blast while he does, give him a break let him have a little enjoyment while he washes his car just on this particular weekend, its that just what this poor guy does, he dont wake you up in your sleep with loud thuds for hours sometimes making you jump
lawd jesus my gawd!
Nice young man leave him alone its weekend he is washing his car! why some people so wicked!
Believe me The real victims are in this
Whilst I fully accept that this is not her fault, I have had ongoing problems with the volume of her TV. It is so loud I can hear it word for word through the walls often late into the night and all through the weekends. I have tried asking her politely to turn it down and have offered her assistance with any problems she has, but her condition has turned her nasty and she now seems to delight in turning her volume up to the max.
I know there will be people who will take me to task for complaining about an elderly dementia sufferer, but I'm really at the end of my tether. She won't answer her door so I'm reduced to posting notes through her letterbox asking her to show some consideration, but the care worker who visits twice a day says these mean nothing to her and that I should call social services.
I hate having to complain and I really do want her to be safe and happy in her own home during her final years, but this excessive noise intrusion has gone too far and shows no sign of ending.
She does go to a care home for short periods now and again and the relief is fantastic, but the family to whom her house is left keep pulling her back out - I can't imagine why (a bit of sarcasm there - care costs?).
Should I speak to social services? Trust me, I don't want to, but this has been going on for 6 years now and is getting worse.
Downstairs is now a young family with no common sense or common courtesy. They have one of those little yappy dogs who has never been trained and can wonder in and out to all hours of the day and night, barking constantly, sometimes until 2am (last week, someone from the area, we're not sure who started screaming to shut the dog up at 11:45 on a tuesday night), and which they never trained not to go for other people or animals - just this week we ordered from the local pizza hut. We got a call from the delivery driver asking us to come to the gate because the dog was down there barking and growling, and my two cats have never been outdoors because it'd go for them and I'm pretty sure that if one of them ran, I'd never see her again because she'd be too nervous to get home and wouldn't let people near enough to her to get her to a vet. Hell, when we go to the front door, we have to make sure the door at the top of the stairs is shut because the woman downstairs once said that the dog didn't like cats and tended to go for them - we don't want the dog getting in and traumatizing the cats (or the dog to do something which would end with me ending the dog permanently). They spent 2 years doing up the place with power tools (the amount of drilling, I honestly expected walls to collapse) 7 days a week, from like 8am to 8pm. We came home, he'd installed a satellite dish on his shed, pointed straight at our kitchen window, which acted as a huge mirror for the frankly ridiculous motion sensor light he has outside his back door (when its on, I don't need lights at that end of the house, its only a hair below daylight, I've actually read cooking instructions off a late night snack by its light). A month later, another one installed on the wall outside my parent's bedroom window. When they have people over, they have no concept of what's reasonable - sat in the garden under the bedrooms talking at a completely unnecessary volume at 1:30am. There's six people, but you'd think they were addressing a group of 50. Or the m
The person who put you there is one of those nasty human beings who will rot in hell as your notes would have said you suffer from depression
Did you tell your case officer? or maybe they do not know about the noise from upstairs
You will have made more progress in another accommodation according to how severe yur depression is
Do not discuss your depression with your neighbours as people twist things
and if them upsatairs hear about your mistfortune they could make more noise
When I moved in where I am about 18 years ago there were a little girl who made so much noise, but she was a child so knowing how I am I did not want to make her feel restricted in her own home, her mother apologised at those time and said the girl was into dancing, I tried to make them feel ok and said thats ok waking me she is a child which i know it was not ok, especially if I was drained
The girls grow up now and is still making more noise, screaming, banging in tune to wake me, fights with family you name it. I told them the noise is not ok now especially since they are deliberately dragging me into their life with the provocation
I know how you feel, good luck with complaining, because if they know how to they can create you as the one with the problem, if you are not it will be hurtful for you especially since all you want is a fresh start, most people all they want is a fresh start when they feel that they had enough,if you deserve to progress and to get a fresh start and you did not get it according to their decision
It can worsen your depression, I hope your depression is not severe for your sake
and there are also some bright days with your dark days
I think I have it to when it's bad the only time i feel good some days is after a bath, a bath is a temporary solution for depression (smile)
Remember I never got the fresh start II needed the girl is still waking me about 10 years later this time deliberately with her banging
They even said i dont suffer from depression with all the notes they had they should tell Simone battle and that Robin Williams that, they think a depressed person is someone who looks rough and dirty or they just do not care.
I have learnt
It's even nicer when hypocrites get on so even if you dont like her and she dont like you try to be civil
If they had your notes and you were on the list they should give you appropriate accommodation from the day one regardless
Brace yourself for later years
good luck be careful hope you get people for you, on your side
By the way careful with lawyers they after your money
"but this article is correct in saying that they probably don't know they're doing it, and if you get a peaceful life by being polite then just freaking do it and stop complain.
You are just kidding yourself if you believe that it all lies in your attitude. Noisy people are often selfish people and no matter how polite you are, they will do what they want. The many comments here show that the answer is not just to be "polite" with your neigbour. Many people suffer dearly at the hands of unconsiderate bastards and their politeness will never get them anywhere. And you comment is another nail in the coffin for those people. Perhaps you need to suffer it to understand.
If you're going to be hostile towards other people they're going to be hostile back, this is the problem, you'll get more success out of a neighbour if you go down there with a smile and ask if it's alright to turn the music down because you have work tomorrow, they'll see you as a real person and will most of the time do as you ask, if you go there screaming and threatening you're just going to piss them off to which they will respond by doing what they know annoys you.
Before you say it, I know, it isn't fair that we have to talk to them like they're doing us the favour by not disrupting our lives, but this article is correct in saying that they probably don't know they're doing it, and if you get a peaceful life by being polite then just freaking do it and stop complaining.
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