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Protection from Harassment

By: Jeff Durham - Updated: 18 Jun 2018 | comments*Discuss
 
Harassment Laws Neighbours Police Victim

Nobody has to suffer persecution or harassment from their neighbours, no matter what has motivated the perpetrator to do this to you in the first place, and you are protected by the law in this regard. Some instances of harassment arise as a result of a dispute between neighbours which has escalated out of control.

Sometimes it’s down to anti-social behaviour by irresponsible youths, other times it may be due to a long-running dispute with a neighbour. Your harassment may be motivated by perceived differences between you and the rest of your neighbourhood by a neighbour(s) and these are usually of a Discriminatory Nature which is dealt with in another article contained on this website.

What Constitutes Harassment?

Harassment can occur in many forms. It's described as 'causing alarm or distress' and also as 'putting people in fear of violence'. It can include, but is not limited to, the following types of behaviour:

  • Threats of violence against you or an actual act of violence committed upon you
  • Abusive and/or insulting behaviour or words
  • Threats of damage to your property and possessions or actual damage to them
  • Any written form of abuse or threat made to you, including letters, graffiti or any other kind of written material such as posters being put up that are derogatory towards you

Basically, harassment can be any type of behaviour or action taken towards you which threatens your own sense of security and peace or which causes you unnecessary inconvenience. For more detailed information surrounding harssment and the laws governing it take a look at www.cps.gov.uk

What You Can Do if You Become a Victim of Harassment

If you feel that you are being harassed, you should immediately notify the police. It’s also useful if you have Kept Written Records of all the occasions when any harassment has took place, including what form of harassment you suffered, the date and time it took place, and a name or description of the perpetrator(s). Even if you haven’t gathered all of this information or you don’t know who might be responsible, just give the police as much information as you can.

The more you can tell them, the quicker and easier it will be to get the harassment to stop and to instigate any legal proceedings that might be necessary. Once you have been interviewed by the police, they will be on hand to offer you any advice while they conduct their investigations.

What Happens Next?

The police take harassment issues very seriously. They will be there to support you although the level will vary depending upon the severity of the harassment which has taken place. They will also offer you all the required information and guidance you might need if the matter goes to court. Depending on the nature of the harassment, they’ll also put you in touch with relevant external organisations or agencies that will be able to give you specialised support and further counselling assistance, if needed.

If You Live in Rented Accommodation

If you live in rented accommodation, you should also inform your landlord, local authority or housing association. They can offer additional support which might include fitting locks, vandal-proof letterboxes, fences and lighting, and installing alarms which might even be linked to your local police station. If your perpetrator lives in the same building as you, they can also confront them and warn them about possible tenancy agreement breaches, and the possibility of eviction.

In the case of local authorities and housing associations, they might also be able to assist in re-housing you elsewhere if that’s the decision you feel would be best for you. However, if you like living in your present home, you should feel under no compulsion to move, and your local authority will take all the necessary steps and offer you the support to enable you to remain put. Nobody should ever feel compelled to be driven out of their home and neighbourhood against their wishes because of a harassment issue.

Harassment is a serious offence, can cause unbearable stress and will be dealt with harshly by the Police and the Legal System.

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Jaydaws - Your Question:
We have experienced almost two years of ASB from two neighbours close by after ending a friendship with one of them. We’ve had dog poo thrown on our drive which was handled by local dog warden etc. After a renter moved in next door the behaviour escalated and she has joined in with the others in the same vein, yesterday the couple came to our door and threatened to finish it because my husband said hello to workmen laying their driveway. They are captured on CCTV and I’ve written down the threats while I can still remember them. The police have been a number of times , they’ve opened a case and say that they are impartial and we could also be baiting the neighbours. We are not , we care for a bed bound daughter and to be truthful I am terrified this will escalate into violence. The police don’t seem to want to do anything to stop this.What more can we do.?

Our Response:
There isn't much more you can do if the police don't feel there is enough to act upon, apart from perhaps to consider private legal action? Citizens' Advice might be a good place to start with that.
ProblemNeighbours - 20-Jun-18 @ 10:11 AM
I have a nosey neighbor that used to live next door to me and she has moved across the street because she was living with her brother and he had passed away so she moved in the house across the street well she used to harass the people that live in the house she currently live in now but they moved way tired of the harassment so she moved into their house and now is harassing me and another neighbor on a daily basis we listen to her talk about us and make slide comments peeks through my fence which is a privacy fence as well as plants flowers up against a fence that she knows gets poison spray tan just so that she can complain and say we killed her plant she is intentionally stolen my newspaper in front of me and then when I asked her what she was doing she threw it at me and flipped me off and told me to go to hell now this is just some of the things I've had to deal with with her what can I do about my noisy nosey neighbor PS she even had her dog poop in my yard knowing I like to walk Barefoot and when she seen that I walked in the dog poop she started laughing frustrated neighbor please help
Linda lou - 18-Jun-18 @ 3:27 PM
We have experienced almost two years of ASB from two neighbours close by after ending a friendship with one of them. We’ve had dog poo thrown on our drive which was handled by local dog warden etc. After a renter moved in next door the behaviour escalated and she has joined in with the others in the same vein, yesterday the couple came to our door and threatened to finish it because my husband said hello to workmen laying their driveway. They are captured on CCTV and I’ve written down the threats while I can still remember them. The police have been a number of times , they’ve opened a case and say that they are impartial and we could also be baiting the neighbours. We are not , we care for a bed bound daughter and to be truthful I am terrified this will escalate into violence. The police don’t seem to want to do anything to stop this. What more can we do .?
Jaydaws - 16-Jun-18 @ 10:22 AM
I have suffered almost daily from threats, offensive comments. i.e ? is coming down to sort her out and make her move even if its in a wooden box, her son better watch his back, she's a prostitute, drug dealer all sorts of rubbish. Neighbour is a council tenant and has 2 or 3 other adults I am an adult living alone with an adult son who visits every 2 or 3 months. The daughter n mother next door repeat my private conversation yet accuse me of listening to them, yes, the mother shouts most of the time. Bang doors after midnight and laugh between each bang. It is quite worrying and has triggered off anxiety for which I am being treated. I spoke to the council who said that their tenant is vulnerable due to mental health issues caused by husband offending? He stays from time to time and is polite. I spoke to police and she knew as the following morni g was screaming about it. Don't know how she knew as made call away from house. Police said my best option was to move if I didn't want to make it official which would have to be declared when selling house. Am now trying to sell at a low price to save my sanity. I don't have visitors and limit phone calls as I have no privacyand can't relax.
Blues - 13-Jun-18 @ 8:15 PM
Sammyb - Your Question:
I live in purpose built flats. We have a communal car park to the front and car ports to the rear. I have been parking my car in front of one of the car port because the housing association have advised I can park there as long as I’m not blocking anyone. However my neighbour who parks there had a go at me telling me not to park there, I found out that the car port does not belong him but is allocated to another neighbour. I explained I’m not blocking him but he insists it’s hard for him to get his car out and he started arguing. I also told him that it wasn’t his car port but he continued arguing and saidhe had permission. I am a single mum and I’m frightened of him he was very loud and aggressive. What can I do?

Our Response:
Do you not have a car port allocated to your own flat that you can use? Are there designated spaces in front of the car ports? That sounds a little strange. Sorry we'd need more information.
ProblemNeighbours - 5-Jun-18 @ 10:09 AM
I live in purpose built flats. We have a communal car park to the front and car ports to the rear. I have been parking my car in front of one of the car port because the housing association have advised I can park there as long as I’m not blocking anyone.However my neighbour who parks there had a go at me telling me not to park there, I found out that the car port does not belong him but is allocated to another neighbour. I explained I’m not blocking him but he insists it’s hard for him to get his car out and he started arguing. I also told him that it wasn’t his car port but he continued arguing and saidhe had permission. I am a single mum and I’m frightened of him he was very loud and aggressive. What can I do?
Sammyb - 4-Jun-18 @ 9:12 AM
We have lived in our house for over 7yrs and have not had problems in that time, just over a month ago we got new neighbours, for the most part they where quiet and talked in their own language, said hi once or twice, but no bother apart from music in the afternoon, but over the past week or so we've started having problems, banging and drilling til gone midnight, watching us over the fence looking in the windows, and now theyre letting their kids & teenagers climb out of the back bedroom window onto the half roof which joins onto ours, I now feel like I'm being spied on when I go to the bathroom and at night as we have a sky light in our kitchen which you have to go through to get to the bathroom, I'm really stressed out to the point where I nearly ended up in hospital with hypertension and chest pains, I just dont feel safe anymore, and now weve been told that theyre buying the house from the landlord, if this is true then we're going to have to move for my health from not just a house we love but our other neighbours that have become more like family
34 tinx - 4-Jun-18 @ 1:34 AM
I have been living in my house for just over 3 years now. In November myself and my Fiance rescued a dog from the SSPCA and we love her to absolute pieces. In March while we were in the garden my dog managed to dig a hole under our garden fence (a bit of the fence was higher as there used to be decking there) and get into my neighbours garden and chased their cat. Her and the cat got into a bit of a scrap but neither were hurt as I jumped the fence to split it up and the neighbour also came out. We apologised over and over again and even said to get the cat checked out and we would pay the vet bill. We went back half an hour later to check on them and the man in the house said "don't worry about it, these things happen. The cat is at the vet now but I got a text to say its ok". We apologised again and hoped it was behind us. Only to find out 2 days later that they had called the police on us! Since that incident we patched our fence and kept a closer eye on our dog, we even started keeping her on leash while out walks to be safe. One day we were going a drive and I had her by the collar, when we opened the front door there was a cat in our garden and our dog slipped my grip and chased it. I called her back and she came to me. The cat belonged to the next neighbour along from the 1st incident and confronted us, we apologised again. They then also reported us to the police. Since this has happened they have been watching us from their windows every time we are in the garden and even stand at their doors and watch us when we drive away. Myself and my fiancé are getting so stressed and feel judged in our own home. We are starting our own dog walking business and are worried that they will be spreading bad word about us and could really put us in a position where the business fails. Please help me.
Helpmeplease - 10-May-18 @ 2:36 PM
I've lived in this house for about 3 years now and the past two years have been someone calling the social on me about my partner as my partner doesn't live with me, he stays two nights a week most of the time but someone on my estate called the social three times on me and no action was taken. Then just recently I get a phone call from social services saying somebody has reported me that I don't look after my kids properly that they are scruffy etc they have phoned my kids school and everything is fine and no action was taken, I think I have an idea who it is but what can I do to get at the bottom of this. I've moved here to move away from another property that a family was harassing me and now this, I just want to get on with my life but I just want to know what I can do with whoevers doing it.
Gem - 9-May-18 @ 9:01 PM
My new neighbors moved in next door,two months later I noticed my children's playtent they've had for over a year I set on the balcony mid Feb. Well it disappears over the next couple weeks I noticed..cut yo mid April I see it on my neighbor's balcony. And its dirty and tornnow. A very distinctive tent. Obviously mine 1000% surehave pics of my kids in it and it disappeared off my second story nonaccesable unless you reach over the rail to grab it balcony! Well I take it back and tie it up to my doorknob this time worth a note to please leave my children's belongings and return the other items that are gone. Well the next day the tent had been ripped from the knots I tied it with and stolen from my kids once more. She was confronted and claimed it was hers. I didn't back down. I cant believe what I was dealing with. How dare her. By the end of my rant to her she had admitted it was mine and I said I KNOW. SLAMMED THE DOOR. Prior to all this the first length she moved in she had placed her trash cans on the side of my windows. And we placed them in the dedicated area and a note to let her know they belong there. No offense was made she understood and life went on as usual. Well the next day after we caught her with the theft. She decides to take her trash and recycling cans and put them under our windows. O have moved them 9 times in 2 weeks. It's a game and its caused me so much anxiety,my autistic child seen his belongings next door and tries to go in their home to retrieve them. The landlord just says shell talk to her. Or she try to come by and "check things out" Its petty, immature, I can't take the anxiety and living in discomfort. Smelling nasty garbage and used baby diapers. I'm feeling harrassed.
Angiepants80 - 8-May-18 @ 5:05 AM
I am in rented accommodation tucked in a corner of a cul de sac for access to my driveway I have to drive over neighbours drive. The estate agent of the property failed to inform me of parking dispute with previous tenant or advise there is a line of bricks that run across the top of my drive and up to that line it is the neighbours property. I parked on my driveway but my back wheel was inches over the line, the neighbour photographed it and sent it to the agent and the landlady. It is difficult for anyone visiting to know there is a line to clear as the drive is badly designed and they have the space for reversing out of their drive, but they never go within 3 feet of the line, they reverse the other way out on to the road. Anyone visiting would think the top of my drive is mine as it's where I access my drive.. Now whenever anyone visits I have to make sure the wheels or even back end of car is not anywhere near the line, on the very few occassions there has been an overhanging of wheels they photograph it and send it to agent and landlady. I have never blocked him in or parked my car on their bit of tarmac, only had my wheel inches over the line. I am constantly being spied on they record the time and date of my visitors, they even leave part of a blind open so they can guard their little piece of tarmac in case me or a visitor parks too close or over the line. I feel very stressed and angry that they are monitoring me, they even sent a photo of damaged tarmac to the agent, I had a panic attack when I read the accusation, when I went to see where the damage is, it is only close to their door where their car repeatedly goes over, my wheels never touch that area. I am moving out and the landlady asked me not to report them, they never speak to me they just smirk. I really want to report them for the stress they have caused me and my family, is monitoring and photographing my drive and keeping a diary of numberplates and times we didn't quite go over the line harassment, because I feel harassed, I fear of what they are going to do, as previous tenant told me he tried to sue them for driving over a plant. I am going to video my move as I'm sure he will try and say I've damaged something. I'm really looking forward to moving from this horrible situation and from being spied on, I am thinking of letting the establishment where he works know I am going to take action for harassment from him. I would welcome any advice. Thanks
Caz - 26-Apr-18 @ 11:55 AM
Hello, we have recently (approximately four months ago) bought a new puppy into our house. We all love him with all our heart and today like most days he was playing outside in our front yard and I was supervising him and popped back in the house twice for about a 30 seconds each to get him something to eat. Three ladies who live at a house down the road came and started screaming and shouting at us and complaining that my German Shepherd puppy had gotten out of my front yard and tried to attack their children. They also were shouting constantly and said that their children were frightened and could have been hit by a car. These children are around three or four years old and are always left to play outside on the road alone and unsupervised. A couple of children were watching with my puppy from he fence of my front yard so I was watching my puppy with caution just in case one of the children got too close from over the fence and accidentally got hurt by my playful puppy jumping as he has slightly sharp nails. I am certain that my puppy did not get out of the front yard as it is secured with a fence and he can’t jump over it as he’s unable to jump that high. These ladies started shouting at me and my younger brother (I’m 19 and brother is 18) and they were around 25,35 and 50 years of age. They threatened to kill my innocent puppy by hitting him with a baseball bat and stoning him if they ever see my puppy playing in our front yard again. I’m absolutely in shock as they have dogs themselves and have threatened to kill my puppy so brutally when he was playing in the garden and maybe their kids got scared because he barks but he isn’t aggressive, he’s just playful and I don’t understand why they thought my puppy tried attacking their children when they were not even there to see that happen themselves. I just froze in shock because it was incredibly upsetting hearing them say all that about my puppy and I cried for hours after the incident. I am traumatised by the words they used and the way they were shouting at us as if we’ve committed a crime. We have been living in the neighbourhood for years and are a respected family. A lot of people came out of their houses today to watch the incident and I feel so distressed and humiliated by this incident. What can I do about this?
K - 26-Apr-18 @ 1:05 AM
YoungK - Your Question:
Me and my partner have lived in our first flat for 5 months, we are a young couple in love and have the off squabble every now and then (more specifically once every 2-3 weeks). We try to keep it down, however when we’re distressed our volume gets a little loud. This is not a constant thing, usually lasts between 10 minutes to 2 hours. One night when I wasn’t in the flat, I came home in the early hours (2am) after a night out with friends. As walking up my stairs just past the front door, I heard very loud banging on our front door. I raced down and my neighbour started shouting at me complaining of noise, I informed my neighbour I just walked in the front door and denied any noise. To which my partner came racing down the stairs as he could hear her screaming at me, telling her to leave me alone. My partner was in the flat and was watching TV (normal volume). We tried to tell our neighbour she was wrong and she started shouting at us referring back to our arguments she had obviously been hearing in the past. She got very personal, to which lead me to cry and feel in total shock. Anyway a month or so later she stopped me on the street and threatened to sue me for making loud noises. She has also called the police on us which we now believe she’s being malicious. Me and my partner are very hard working, young couple that hardly make any noise (not compared to our other neighbours with their music and arguing, which we don’t complain about). Is there anything we can do? We are renting and have informed our agents. I’m so scared what she’ll do next.

Our Response:
Your neighbour would have to take this to environmental health or as a private action through the courts if she wanted to take it further. In either case, evidence would be required before any action could be taken and as it's unlikely that evidence would be forthcoming, you should be fine.
ProblemNeighbours - 25-Apr-18 @ 12:33 PM
Caz - Your Question:
I am in rented accommodation tucked in a corner of a cul de sac for access to my driveway I have to drive over neighbours drive.The estate agent of the property failed to inform me of parking dispute with previous tenant or advise there is a line of bricks that run across the top of my drive and up to that line it is the neighbours property.I parked on my driveway but my back wheel was inches over the line, the neighbour photographed it and sent it to the agent and the landlady. It is difficult for anyone visiting to know there is a line to clear as the drive is badly designed and they have the space for reversing out of their drive, but they never go within 3 feet of the line, they reverse the other way out on to the road. Anyone visiting would think the top of my drive is mine as it's where I access my drive.Now whenever anyone visits I have to make sure the wheels or even back end of car is not anywhere near the line, on the very few occassions there has been an overhanging of wheels they photograph it and send it to agent and landlady.I have never blocked him in or parked my car on their bit of tarmac, only had my wheel inches over the line.I am constantly being spied on they record the time and date of my visitors, they even leave part of a blind open so they can guard their little piece of tarmac in case me or a visitor parks too close or over the line.I feel very stressed and angry that they are monitoring me, they even sent a photo of damaged tarmac to the agent, I had a panic attack when I read the accusation, when I went to see where the damage is, it is only close to their door where their car repeatedly goes over, my wheels never touch that area.I am moving out and the landlady asked me not to report them, they never speak to me they just smirk.I really want to report them for the stress they have caused me and my family, is monitoring and photographing my drive and keeping a diary of numberplates and times we didn't quite go over the line harassment, because I feel harassed, I fear of what they are going to do, as previous tenant told me he tried to sue them for driving over a plant. I am going to video my move as I'm sure he will try and say I've damaged something. I'm really looking forward to moving from this horrible situation and from being spied on, I am thinking of letting the establishment where he works know I am going to take action for harassment from him.I would welcome any advice. Thanks

Our Response:
If you want to take private action that's up to you. We wouldnt' advise informing his employers of this. If you've already decided to move out there will be nothing to gain from this except revenge, which simply "keeps a wound open".
ProblemNeighbours - 25-Apr-18 @ 11:17 AM
I have had issues which began over there neighbour over hanging my drive and after I asked him.politly to move over they began verbal abuse and a vendetta up to now theyv had 2 tenancy warnings regarding this but they have continued to watch my husband reverse aswel as calling us names when were at the front of the property also moving my bins ,so the council have said they don't have a budget to deal with it and unless I have audio cctv they can't do anything they were asked to mediation which they declined and when invited into the council also declined I have now complained as theyv said it's not there problem however theyhave logged a complaint stating We Are causing problem what can I do any advise they make allegations but iv never seen any evidence were as when I complain I provide evidence the last cctv that got them a warning wasn't audio i just feel there harassing us and trying to intimidate us we have 4 children under 7 and I worry of the impact on them besides my own health they simply don't want to move on
C - 24-Apr-18 @ 4:52 PM
I am in rented accommodation tucked in a corner of a cul de sac for access to my driveway I have to drive over neighbours drive. The estate agent of the property failed to inform me of parking dispute with previous tenant or advise there is a line of bricks that run across the top of my drive and up to that line it is the neighbours property. I parked on my driveway but my back wheel was inches over the line, the neighbour photographed it and sent it to the agent and the landlady. It is difficult for anyone visiting to know there is a line to clear as the drive is badly designed and they have the space for reversing out of their drive, but they never go within 3 feet of the line, they reverse the other way out on to the road. Anyone visiting would think the top of my drive is mine as it's where I access my drive.. Now whenever anyone visits I have to make sure the wheels or even back end of car is not anywhere near the line, on the very few occassions there has been an overhanging of wheels they photograph it and send it to agent and landlady. I have never blocked him in or parked my car on their bit of tarmac, only had my wheel inches over the line. I am constantly being spied on they record the time and date of my visitors, they even leave part of a blind open so they can guard their little piece of tarmac in case me or a visitor parks too close or over the line. I feel very stressed and angry that they are monitoring me, they even sent a photo of damaged tarmac to the agent, I had a panic attack when I read the accusation, when I went to see where the damage is, it is only close to their door where their car repeatedly goes over, my wheels never touch that area. I am moving out and the landlady asked me not to report them, they never speak to me they just smirk. I really want to report them for the stress they have caused me and my family, is monitoring and photographing my drive and keeping a diary of numberplates and times we didn't quite go over the line harassment, because I feel harassed, I fear of what they are going to do, as previous tenant told me he tried to sue them for driving over a plant. I am going to video my move as I'm sure he will try and say I've damaged something. I'm really looking forward to moving from this horrible situation and from being spied on, I am thinking of letting the establishment where he works know I am going to take action for harassment from him. I would welcome any advice. Thanks
Caz - 24-Apr-18 @ 8:20 AM
Me and my partner have lived in our first flat for 5 months, we are a young couple in love and have the off squabble every now and then (more specifically once every 2-3 weeks). We try to keep it down, however when we’re distressed our volume gets a little loud. This is not a constant thing, usually lasts between 10 minutes to 2 hours. One night when I wasn’t in the flat, I came home in the early hours (2am) after a night out with friends. As walking up my stairs just past the front door, I heard very loud banging on our front door. I raced down and my neighbour started shouting at me complaining of noise, I informed my neighbour I just walked in the front door and denied any noise. To which my partner came racing down the stairs as he could hear her screaming at me, telling her to leave me alone. My partner was in the flat and was watching TV (normal volume). We tried to tell our neighbour she was wrong and she started shouting at us referring back to our arguments she had obviously been hearing in the past. She got very personal, to which lead me to cry and feel in total shock. Anyway a month or so later she stopped me on the street and threatened to sue me for making loud noises. She has also called the police on us which we now believe she’s being malicious. Me and my partner are very hard working, young couple that hardly make any noise (not compared to our other neighbours with their music and arguing, which we don’t complain about). Is there anything we can do? We are renting and have informed our agents. I’m so scared what she’ll do next.
YoungK - 23-Apr-18 @ 3:44 PM
My neighbor is a old man with dementia he's already flooded my bathroom (council property ) his daughter who doesn't live there has parked a dirty big caravan on the drive Infront of my bedroom window (ground floor) and shes called the council to cancel a gate being fitted to my property for my safety so they agreed she's also reported me for fraud. She's says she's his full time carer but she's only there a hour or two a day she will not speak to me without screaming and shouting im disabled and suffer with depression and agraphobia she also worked for the council I'm under and keeps complaining even though I'm not doing anything wrong she wants to buy my flat of the council and she's doing anything to get me out she owns quite a few flats in the area all brought off the council where the residents have ended up being evicted just by her keep putting in complaints. She isn't my neighbor her father is but she's the one harassing me
Harl - 21-Apr-18 @ 2:15 PM
Cat woman- Your Question:
I have learning difficulties and mental health issues, and my downstairs neighbour is banging around and throwing things, today at 07.35 AM there was 2 loud bangs on my floor which frightened me so much I was shaking, then about a minute later my doorbell rang, he kept his finger on it so it was one long constant ring, I went to the window and he accused me of banging I tried to explain that it wasn’t me and that I was asleep, but he wouldn’t listen and kept talking over me, then he accused my friend who comes to check on me, but he was at home in bed now he’s threatening to complain to our landlord. I am scared out of my wits, I don’t know what to do, can someone please advise me, Thanks

Our Response:
Why don't you talk to the landlord about this? Have you tried the police (on a non-emergency number?)
ProblemNeighbours - 6-Apr-18 @ 11:57 AM
I have learning difficulties and mental health issues, and my downstairs neighbour is banging around and throwing things, today at 07.35 AM there was 2 loud bangs on my floor which frightened me so much I was shaking, then about a minute later my doorbell rang, he kept his finger on it so it was one long constant ring, I went to the window and he accused me of banging I tried to explain that it wasn’t me and that I was asleep, but he wouldn’t listen and kept talking over me, then he accused my friend who comes to check on me, but he was at home in bed now he’s threatening to complain to our landlord. I am scared out of my wits, I don’t know what to do, can someone please advise me,Thanks
Cat woman - 5-Apr-18 @ 9:00 AM
Hi my mum lives in a council house and her neighbour owns their house my mum has a big family and she likes all the family when they come over on Saturday my mum 91 years old but the neighbour all ways complaining to the counciland the council don't Care what my mum wants she been told she can't have family over she can't decorate and so my mum kept to the agreement but the neighbour is still keep complaining to the council I think this is harassment don't know what to do to get the council to believe her
Spurs - 25-Mar-18 @ 12:22 PM
I have been having on going problems with my neighbour for four years over a shared drive.We have both been told nobody is allowed to park on it, it is for access to out garages only.My neighbour parks in front of his garage, which causes us problems getting past to our garage.Which means we have to knock and ask him to move it.This has lead to verbal arguments and threats for which police have been called.He has now resorted to taking photos of us coming and going off the drive and now parking on the road in front of our property. Even when we are unloading shopping etc.Can this be harassment?It certainly feels like it.
Sarah - 22-Mar-18 @ 6:10 PM
Hi there my names Katrina and I have to kids I’ve been wear I am for 6 years and never had any trouble up in till 4 mouths ago when a new naber moved in beside me he has ago at me and my kids all the time I’m not allowed to talk on my phone at my oun front door and I’m not aloud to have visitors park in the Speer car park because he gos off at me and also sees that he’s over me stilling he’s stuff which I do no never have he knocks on my front door and tells me to tell me kids to shut up at 7am in the morning what do I do I’m really over it i am not moving because off him
Kat - 21-Mar-18 @ 11:25 AM
Hi. I recently moved. A couple with a child are living at the 1st floor . I live at ground floor. In the first days he was knocking at my door almost everyday asking me very rude not to smoke in the house because he has a child. I am not smoking in the house and some of my neighbours seen me outside smoking a lot of times. Every morning I wake up because the daughter of this neighbour is running in the house , playing with the ball , screaming ... she does them all to annoy me. I understand that children's are protected by law but i think parents have to educate them and teach them how to act in the society. Over the street we have a big park with children playground area. Instead of keeping his child in the house why they don't go across the street at the playground ? If they are at work .. who takes care of this child ? Any advice of how to solve this. Thanks
VFS - 8-Mar-18 @ 9:34 AM
Jen - Your Question:
My neighbour over the road asked me not to park out side her house as she has a small baby and needs to park right out side the gate. I park my car after a 10 hour shift at work where ever there is a space to park and normally park so your house is clear. The next evening another neighbour that lives on the same side as her parks right outside her house. Nothing said to this person. The lady then came at 12.30am banging on the door with a small baby in her arm think of snow and freezing out side. Woken me up got work in the morning aswell at 6am. Telling me my children aged 5 -15 Are throwing snow balls at her house 30 mins ago. Both children as fast asleep in bed. Stood there for 30 mins with this small baby. I feel this person has something against me as it's fine for others to park here but not me

Our Response:
Just carry on as normal and avoid confrontation, hopefully eventually she will get bored and leave you alone.
ProblemNeighbours - 6-Mar-18 @ 2:14 PM
My neighbour over the road asked me not to park out side her house as she has a small baby and needs to park right out side the gate. I park my car after a 10 hour shift at work where ever there is a space to park and normally park so your house is clear. The next evening another neighbour that lives on the same side as her parks right outside her house. Nothing said to this person. The lady then came at 12.30am banging on the door with a small baby in her arm think of snow and freezing out side. Woken me up got work in the morning aswell at 6am. Telling me my children aged 5 -15 Are throwing snow balls at her house 30 mins ago. Both children as fast asleep in bed. Stood there for 30 mins with this small baby. I feel this person has something against me as it's fine for others to park here but not me
Jen - 4-Mar-18 @ 3:34 PM
My wife and I live in the country.Unfortunately, her ex owns adjoining property and is in close proximity almost every day.Lately, he has seen fit to be very loud and obnoxious late in the evening, say around 11pm to 12am.He even left a nice doughnut in our yard courtesy of his 4x4 truck.We called police, they filed a report, and paid him a visit.He has slacked off only slightly and I don't think he's finished by a long shot.Some of his own family members have said they're surprised he hasn't burned out house down.That's the attitude and idiocy he's known for around the community.How?How in the world do we deal with this?I have put up trail cameras around the house and I keep lights on at night but I'm told nothing phases this guy?We're afraid to even have our grandchildren over.I'm just afraid he strikes me as one of these who won't stop until we're all on one of these investigative homicide tv shows.
Burt - 19-Feb-18 @ 4:33 PM
I am currently going through a nightmare from neighbours on both sides of me. With both there have been occasions of crossed words and in my opinion standing up for myself because of provoked anti social behaviour. Over a period of 5 years it went from loud music, banging, stomping, child being screamed at for kicking a ball to invasion of my privacy and basic human rights.The sad thing about it all is no one from the police or council will help because what is happening can't be proved and if it wasn't happening to me I wouldn't think any human would do this to another. They have got in to my water supply and make all kinds of sounds through taps, washing machine, pipes and even the boiler is affected by it all. The main leader of this evil torment is a wait for it.. Plumber and gas engineer. Anyway at times my radiators will go very cold or extremely hot, the council said it is impossible for anyone to have access to your supply. In my mind that is what I thought but living through it all the stalking, organised tactics, family and friends being told that I'm the trouble maker are parking outside my house they are being pulled into this evil. All of it is being done to make me look crazy!! I stopped complaining to the council and anybody else if I can, they know that because it is so hard to prove it's hard to believe. It's only my loved ones that over time have heard and seen things and know me that know what I'm living next door too. I've had to persevere and educate myself so much about what is going on here, because I decided to do that the little traps have started to bring no fruit for them. I don't react anymore I let them do what ever they want to do I refuse to give them what they want from me. It is hard to live through this daily but I've learned a lot and still am, it is sad because so many people are going through this turmoil but have no support. Never in my life could I have imagined that a person could wake up daily with the intention and goal to do so much torment on another it's pure evil. Through faith and refusing to allow myself to sink is the reason why I am not in a psychiatric ward, you don't know how strong you are until being strong is the only choice you have. If I went into detail about some of the things they have done it would sicken many. But I'd be here all night stay strong who ever is going through this form of harrassment. You are so much more powerful than them when you gain your self control back, when they can no longer make you tick because they say so.. no reaction means no power haha.
Kay - 31-Jan-18 @ 8:54 PM
My wife and I have been seriously harassed by a neighbour that I caught acting like a peeping tom ten years ago. He'd just moved in. I tried to sort it discretely, face-to-face, with a request that he stop. I didn't call the police as we'd heard that he was a copper, and I thought he'd lose his job (he had a wife and two kids) if I made a complaint. He went beserk and began to trespass, damage our property, drive his car at us when we walked the dog. Signs were put up outside our house. There were also three assaults. When I told him that he'd get into trouble he said that, 'no one would take my word against his!'. Nastiest of all is that he's been visiting neighbours who have kids and lied that I was a paedophile (I am not!) and that he has a file about me on his computer. This resulted in a vigilante atmosphere, a lot of 'stalking', and an attempt to kill me by a new neighbour. On Christmas eve our mains water was turned off. This officer has been warned at least three times. Each time he's made it clear - he does a little pantomime dance on his drive - that there's nothing we can do to stop him. The police have virtually borne this out, ignoring evidence that we've supplied; although their insistence that I install cctv has stopped the trespass. He has admitted running my name through the police computer for his own use - he said that he was just 'nosy'; he also admitted trying to interfere with an investigating officer (we've had over thirty over the ten years!) who told him to 'piss off', although she didn't use the word 'piss'. I dialled 101 on Christmas day to update the police about his turning our water off (we have it on cctv). It's now 26th January and we're still waiting for a response (not unusual - when my neighbour tried to kill me I called 999 and had to wait five hours for a visit!). Of course the guy's deranged. There's nothing on the police computer about me. We've not responded at all to his aggression and observed all the advice that we've had from solicitors, the local council, and the police. What should we do?
Bewildered - 25-Jan-18 @ 11:53 AM
My wife and I have been seriously harassed by a neighbour that I caught acting like a peeping tom ten years ago. He'd just moved in. I tried to sort it discretely, face-to-face, with a request that he stop. I didn't call the police as we'd heard that he was a copper, and I thought he'd lose his job (he had a wife and two kids) if I made a complaint. He went beserk and began to trespass, damage our property, drive his car at us when we walked the dog. Signs were put up outside our house. There were also three assaults. When I told him that he'd get into trouble he said that, 'no one would take my word against his!'. Nastiest of all is that he's been visiting neighbours who have kids and lied that I was a paedophile (I am not!) and that he has a file about me on his computer. This resulted in a vigilante atmosphere, a lot of 'stalking', and an attempt to kill me by a new neighbour. On Christmas eve our mains water was turned off. This officer has been warned at least three times. Each time he's made it clear - he does a little pantomime dance on his drive - that there's nothing we can do to stop him. The police have virtually borne this out, ignoring evidence that we've supplied; although their insistence that I install cctv has stopped the trespass. He has admitted running my name through the police computer for his own use - he said that he was just 'nosy'; he also admitted trying to interfere with an investigating officer (we've had over thirty over the ten years!) who told him to 'piss off', although she didn't use the word 'piss'. I dialled 101 on Christmas day to update the police about his turning our water off (we have it on cctv). It's now 26th January and we're still waiting for a response (not unusual - when my neighbour tried to kill me I called 999 and had to wait five hours for a visit!). Of course the guy's deranged. There's nothing on the police computer about me. We've not responded at all to his aggression and observed all the advice that we've had from solicitors, the local council, and the police. What should we do?
Bewildered - 25-Jan-18 @ 10:41 AM
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