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Protection from Harassment

By: Jeff Durham - Updated: 11 Dec 2018 | comments*Discuss
 
Harassment Laws Neighbours Police Victim

Nobody has to suffer persecution or harassment from their neighbours, no matter what has motivated the perpetrator to do this to you in the first place, and you are protected by the law in this regard. Some instances of harassment arise as a result of a dispute between neighbours which has escalated out of control.

Sometimes it’s down to anti-social behaviour by irresponsible youths, other times it may be due to a long-running dispute with a neighbour. Your harassment may be motivated by perceived differences between you and the rest of your neighbourhood by a neighbour(s) and these are usually of a Discriminatory Nature which is dealt with in another article contained on this website.

What Constitutes Harassment?

Harassment can occur in many forms. It's described as 'causing alarm or distress' and also as 'putting people in fear of violence'. It can include, but is not limited to, the following types of behaviour:

  • Threats of violence against you or an actual act of violence committed upon you
  • Abusive and/or insulting behaviour or words
  • Threats of damage to your property and possessions or actual damage to them
  • Any written form of abuse or threat made to you, including letters, graffiti or any other kind of written material such as posters being put up that are derogatory towards you

Basically, harassment can be any type of behaviour or action taken towards you which threatens your own sense of security and peace or which causes you unnecessary inconvenience. For more detailed information surrounding harssment and the laws governing it take a look at www.cps.gov.uk

What You Can Do if You Become a Victim of Harassment

If you feel that you are being harassed, you should immediately notify the police. It’s also useful if you have Kept Written Records of all the occasions when any harassment has took place, including what form of harassment you suffered, the date and time it took place, and a name or description of the perpetrator(s). Even if you haven’t gathered all of this information or you don’t know who might be responsible, just give the police as much information as you can.

The more you can tell them, the quicker and easier it will be to get the harassment to stop and to instigate any legal proceedings that might be necessary. Once you have been interviewed by the police, they will be on hand to offer you any advice while they conduct their investigations.

What Happens Next?

The police take harassment issues very seriously. They will be there to support you although the level will vary depending upon the severity of the harassment which has taken place. They will also offer you all the required information and guidance you might need if the matter goes to court. Depending on the nature of the harassment, they’ll also put you in touch with relevant external organisations or agencies that will be able to give you specialised support and further counselling assistance, if needed.

If You Live in Rented Accommodation

If you live in rented accommodation, you should also inform your landlord, local authority or housing association. They can offer additional support which might include fitting locks, vandal-proof letterboxes, fences and lighting, and installing alarms which might even be linked to your local police station. If your perpetrator lives in the same building as you, they can also confront them and warn them about possible tenancy agreement breaches, and the possibility of eviction.

In the case of local authorities and housing associations, they might also be able to assist in re-housing you elsewhere if that’s the decision you feel would be best for you. However, if you like living in your present home, you should feel under no compulsion to move, and your local authority will take all the necessary steps and offer you the support to enable you to remain put. Nobody should ever feel compelled to be driven out of their home and neighbourhood against their wishes because of a harassment issue.

Harassment is a serious offence, can cause unbearable stress and will be dealt with harshly by the Police and the Legal System.

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After that the abuse off the neighbours was getting worse her sons was breaking in my house when i went to the shops the neighbours was standing outside my house screaming abuse and sticking 2 fingers up telling me to F-off? Throwing stones and eggs at my front door and windows posted dog poo through the front door because i grassed them up to the police and council i was being accused of being a prostitute and having men of all races visiting me when my partner was at work it was a living nightmare she even went through my bin to take rubbish to the council said i was throwing it in her garden then she was driving on the footpath trying to run me over outside my house she got her cousin to inject a needle in my spine when i was waiting outside the school gates she hit my son the school refused to help me as it happened in the school gates near public footpath i reported it to the police and was told because she punched my son in his back it was not skin on skin contact they could not help me yet my son had a big bruise on his back i thaught the police and council was here to help and stop crime but they was not interested i was attacked by these neighbours and had my ribs broken and she got her new boyfriend to attack my partner leaving him with a broken leg these neighbours ruined my life and health and is still living in the same address causing problems with other neighbours i have seen these neighbours run 10 people out of their homes and the police and council are not interested i was told only to contact the police when i have been stabbed or attacked or go missing? I got intouch with citizens advice and ombusman nobody could help i wish i could sue the police and council for 20 years of harassment and abuse my partner and kids still live at the address but refuse to be bullied out of their home now their house is private property and its caused more problems with the neighbours they threatened me with knives and told me they are going to have me shot and cut my throat and burn the house down when i am asleep in bed? She accused my partner of rape when he was away working in london she said i have caused her rat problems and parking problems? I dont think she is mentally ill just evil and she is scary. I was told some people are just jealous and evil and dont like to see other ppl happy i have done nothing to deserve any of the abuse i am a good neighbour and good person she accused me of having a proper family home and is now filming my partners house to see when i visit So she can let her dog outbarking for hours it does not take much to trigger off neighbours abuse just buying something new or new clothes or simply walking past her house to the shops will trigger off abuse unprovoked abuse.
Jones - 11-Dec-18 @ 2:47 PM
I had to move out of my family home because i was being stalked and attacked by my nextdoor neighbour and her sons for over 20 years it started off when i moved in she told me i was not welcome to live in my new home as she wanted it for her sister inlaw? She told me not to bother unpacking my suitcase and gave me 2 weeks to leave it was a rented council house and she too lives in a council house but on benefits and never worked a day in her life she is what some ppl would call a breeder to get a free council house and free benefits. So what gives her the right to dictate who can and cant live there? I was living in flats and had a little boy So i moved out of the flat with my baby and partner to have a house with and garden you dont think about neighbours when you move home do you? I put my neighbours rant down to her having a bad day as she was a single mother with 3 boys she came over to mine and apologised i forgave her and within a couple of days she was threatening to kill me and gut me like a fish over the back garden fence when i was hanging out my washing on the washing line i told my partner he said ignore her So i did and she started screaming at me telling me i was to move out or she will ruin my life i tried to ignore her but the more i ignored her the worse she got. She said if i reported her to the police and council i was dead? Then she would apologise and tell me she has jealousy issues So i would forgive her again and within a couple of days the threats started again i was trying to be neighbourly towards her yet keep myself to myself she started demanding alcohol and money off me and wanted to walk to school with my when my son started nursery i let her to keep the peace and she was going around telling ppl she is my best friend? I am a private person So i would try to live my own life and avoid her next thing i knew is i was pregnant with other son and she started harrassing me and stalking me she was obsessed in me when i put rubbish in my bin outside she would run outside to scream abuse at me and when i was in my back garden she would come out screaming at me she would follow me to the shops and spit at me saying things like you think your better than me i felt unsafe as she threatened to kill me with a kitchen knife she said she is going to gut me like a fish and kill my unborn baby and would throw bleach on my washing and flood my garden with hose pipe So i had enough and phoned the police and council for help the police said without witnesses or video evidence their hands was tied? They told me to report her to the council So i did the council told me to write down times and dates and log everything So i did for about 6 months the council said it was not worth the paper its written on as its a police issue not council issue So i would report it to the police and they said its a council issue as they will be ridiculed arresting a single mother of 3 boys? After that the abuse off the neighbours was getting worse her sons
Jones - 11-Dec-18 @ 2:28 PM
I moved in to a sheltered bungalow 11monthe ago as my old place was full of damp and mold. Well this move is the worse one I've ever had. My new neighbours had already decided that I have had 3 moves in 3 years for causing trouble which isn't true and have made my life a living nightmare. I've been abused spat at had a poison pen letter. They then started breaking into my property with a key but insurance won't pay out due to the police say they haven't got a log number etc. I ring 101 and guess what I hot the log number is needed but still insurance won't pay out. I'm not going to be able to afford Christmas as they stole all my Christmas boxes plus an awful amount of my personal stuff. They even went through my personal paperwork and I've heardrum a neighbour since say stuffs that was only in my paperwork. I'm scared and I feel worthless. Some days I feel I would be better off dead. I live with disabilities and have just found out that they think I might have COPD so going for tests. These neighbours have reported Me to the DWP as a fraud just had about all I can take and I've only been here 11months.
Dee - 7-Dec-18 @ 2:10 PM
I just moved to a new home council owned all my neighbours are home owners! I have a disabled young adult!! 2 month into moving my mum died my aunt died n two of my best friends all within 8 weeks & has caused a lot of stress & arguments so wot gives ppl the right at 4 in afternoon to call police & council to say ur being a antisocial neighbour?? Yes I have had a few arguments with my husband but should wee b dictated to about the way we live?? I don't sell drugs I don't have loud music or parties I just want to decorate my home n live not be constantly told by others this is not acceptable especially wen they complain about banging at my home during there 14 weeks of hammering sawing ohhh n a very loud floor sander all day sat/Sunday for 8 wks from 10 till 7 at night,my child screams all the time cause they r terrified of the noise why are ppl like myself & husband put down as the bad ppl cause how dare we argue!!! Or make noise the police wanted to arrest me after a complaint wen I broke down the night before my mom was buried I got a call to tell me my aunt passed at half passed 4 in the afternoon???? I am not out to make neighbours distressed or scared these situations happen n u can't control it!! So now it's a case of they own I don't!!! Now I come thru my front door straight up stair to my room n don't move!! But mind your complaints when ur slamming doors at 11 at night or half 6 in morning I am not evil I don't go out my way to hurt ppl don't moan bout my child is laughing loudly at a dvd cause that's the only way of communication!!! But keep in mind a year & a half ago when ur last neighbour lived there & u hounded them out & other neighbours have taken a dislike to u because ur not a nice person!! Not all family's who argue deserve to have a finger pointed at them & accused to being antisocial I am not crap or scum cause I rent my home & you own yours so think before u make a judgment on others who make noise or argue if ur lucky 1ns every 2 month
Jak - 7-Dec-18 @ 5:30 AM
1.5 years ago a family moved into the block of flats i have lived in, without problems, for over a decade. This family is really noisy. The youngest child spent most of the summer screaming just a few feet away from my living room window, and the father seems to talk at the volume most people yell at. I asked the father if he could reduce the volume and duration of their noise as it was really affecting my wellbeing. He got very irate and abusive, accusing me of making the noise (which i absolutely do not!!) and the continual screaming and shouting, and banging etc continued. Several months later, my nerves being tested daily by their noise, another neighbour approached the family about the screaming child, saying that they'd heard abuse happening. The noisy family later got a visit from the council regarding their noise. For a few months it was tolerable. Then they got a karaoke machine!They use it at sufficient volume that it can be clearly heard in every room in all the surrounding flats. I asked them to turn it down, which they did, and for a couple of weeks all was well in the neighbourhood. But it was short lived. They turned it up to unreasonable levels again, so i went to ask, for a third time, politely as always, that they be mindful of everyone else in the block. To my astonishment, i was told that a harrassment charge had been filed against me with both the police and the council. Apparently, since i am the only one that asks them directly to reduce their noise, i am breaking the law... Despite this being the course of action recommended by the council! ?? What can I do? I'm following the council's recommended course of action, and being criminalised for it because the noisy neighbour simply wants to make noise. I just wish to remedy a situation that is causing me to not be able to tolerate being in my own home, but this family do not care how negatively their noise affects other residents. Please help!
Nfh - 1-Dec-18 @ 2:54 PM
My friend who is going through a separation and has 4 minors and the neighbor has threatened him with violence . How can I get an injunction against him. He lives opposite in council property. Thanks
Suki - 8-Nov-18 @ 10:22 AM
Disgraceful neighbours lives next door to me, I feel that herand her two daughters and husband are racist she is trying to get rehoused by saying i am harassing her when it is the other way around. she and her daughters have put snails in my letter box, thrown dirty nappies from her grand son into jmy garden, bangs on my wall all day all night, stalks my phone, stalks my life, my bank account my mail. a living nightmare family. She lies constantly all the time and is obsessed with me.
sam - 29-Oct-18 @ 11:51 AM
How do the perpetrators get away with the harassment and the victim doesn't I can relate to all the messages above my problems are repeated as to what happened to previous tenants it is like looking in a mirror at what has happened to previous tenants I have not complained to housing as I think they have better things to do but this week I got another letter so I have now decided I will complain about everything but I do think I won't be believed but I am also getting cctv to prove exactly what is happening let's hope that will put a stop to things but I doubt it
Lou - 25-Oct-18 @ 11:54 AM
I have lived at my current address for 3.5-4 years now and never had any issues with any of my neighbors until last Nov/Dec 2017 when I recieved a letter from my local council in Jan 2018 informing me that someone has complained about noise coming from my property and the noise was from multipul cockerels. I responded via email that I was very sorry and asked when the complaint was logged as in late nov early dec I did have 4 cockerels and this due to hatching out my own chickens eggs and that 3 were rehomed in late nov early dec as they had just started to crow and did not want to bother the neighbors with that many cockerels. I was was informed that the complaint was recieved on the 1st of Jan this was 2-3 weeks after I had rehomed the 3 cockerels he said they would install nosie monitors in the complaints home in around May I was informed that they had concluded and they had found that while my only remaining cockerel could be found annoying by some he was not a noise nuisance and the case was shut. Shortly after this I had a neighbour who I never had issues with and was quite friendly with arrive on my door step who upon my door opening decided to shout verbal abuse at me tell me I had to get rid of all my f-ing chickens that they were dirty smelly f-ing things tell me my cockerel never shut up would crow his f-ing head off and that because of my chickens she had flies in her house and claimed we had a herd of rats in our garden and demanded to know what I was going to do. I told here everything I was doing which was weekly house cleaning sometimes 2 weekly house cleanings if not more for the coops as we have a large one and a small one from younger chicks we also have rat traps out we were getting large fly traps to help control flies even tho we and are closest neighbours had no more flies then normal I even asked them we were putting stuff in their houses to control odor as well.She kept interupting me when I was speaking kept up her verbal abuse of me keep in mind i'm still in my front doors frame while this is going on about 5 mins after her yelling abuse and interupting me I finally told her I was sorry she did not like them that I had come to her on various occasions asking if she had issues with my chickens and cockerel to which when asked she said she liked my chickens and their noises compared to the bloody dogs barking from the people that live behind our house to retorted by saying what normal person tells their neighbor they have a issue with their animals when they can report it to the council which she informed me she had to start with and that she has done so again and that she reported me to envorment as well to which I responded a normal person would talk to their neighbor and tell them the issues they have and give the neighbor a chance to right anything also informed herit was sad she felt like that and that I was not getting rid of my chickens to which she said they will go one way or another.to which she fliped
morgalefae - 24-Oct-18 @ 10:02 AM
I've been living inane two bed flat for nearly 7 yrs . For the 1st 5 yrs were fine . Then i had a fall out with my neighbours and in 2016 i was robbed god knows what they thought cuz they decided they would not only beat me the ran me over in a van which nearly killed me. I was on life support for 3 wks had 3 spinal fractures . I had multiple sustained injurys . Had to learn to walk again . Now 2 yrs down the line important getting the verble abuse . Its relentless. Even as important writing this i know they can see . It sounds like important crazy but far from it sounds. Its all from the falling out with certain people and being run over which was made to look like a robbery. I've got one of them little spy detector things. I just want to get a move and start a fresh. Important not a grass . It's not something i do unless its getting to the point of what it is now. Its horrible not being able to relax or have any privircy in my own home. People have gone about things in a bad way .If imleft important going . But important not goin anywhere untill I've got a another place . They have given the game away by doing this as its obvious they all know or had some part in me getting run over.
kel - 20-Oct-18 @ 5:11 AM
I have been harassed by my crazy neighbor for 15 years.I am mentally ill and can no longer take the name calling and bullying.I call the police they talk to her but she won't stop. What are my rights
JO JO - 18-Oct-18 @ 2:54 PM
what a joke this article is. The police DO NOT take any complaints seriously. The council/authorities or social care do not do anything either. It's ok making notes of the harassment etc but nothing still gets done!
Msdevil - 17-Oct-18 @ 12:38 PM
WE ARE HAVING THESE ISSUES LIJE ALL OF YOU. POLICE USELESS, HOUSING OFFICERS USELESS. LET'S START A PETITION!!!!! I'M SICK OF THIS UNLAWFUL PLACE WHERE THE CRIMINALS GET ALL THE PRIORITY AND VICTIMS GET LEFT IN THE CORNER. ??
missisgreen - 16-Oct-18 @ 12:02 PM
My neighbours have been given my family hell for 3 yrs now, there children have smashed my window,damaged my door an egged my house numerous times, we're in touch with the local policing team who have isued the youths asbo's an have allowed them to break them, now the neighbours kids have got friends who also live in my street to give my family hell, we've been named called an had glass bottles thrown at our home, we've reported it to council who hasn't done anything, they are now drug dealing an we are unable to leave our home due to threats, now the police an council just say move. What else can I do to.?
Bex - 14-Oct-18 @ 9:19 PM
I had trouble with a lady where I live, she got off her head with others and started shouting abuse at me, in front of kids., also a man their too. They all came to my front door, I rang police and they said they will take it serious , but in the end the police are trying to give me a contract and closed my case. The housing guy was very rude. I am being bullied every day and feel alone.Why have these people got powers also the lady I fell out with, her best friend underneath her works for the council
Maggie - 11-Oct-18 @ 7:52 PM
My neighbours are smoking cannabis and the smell comes through my daughters bedroom window on several occasions she has been taken I'll from the disgusting smell .She has itp a blood disorder ,chronic fatigue syndrome and a heart condition.They also have threatened my daughter and family when they have been high on drugs.I reported everything to the police and my housing officer.But now they've made false accusations against me and the police have given me a warning i refused to sign as I'm telling the true.My daughter is in and out of hospital have regular transfusions which is a very stressful time for us.I'm disgusted the police and housing are not taking my reports very serious.The neighbours have three small children who i feel are at a high risk in this living environment.
Spider - 5-Oct-18 @ 9:06 PM
My nieighbour is harassing my 11 yr old son , she doesn’t speak to us and we get nasty evil looks and sometimes a finger gesture, she stares at my son and points at him , it is effecting him , he is scared to walk outside or walk to school alone , this has gone on for 3/4 years now , what can be done
Jack - 27-Sep-18 @ 9:47 AM
when I moved into my property my neighbour was unhappy because she didn’t want a family living next door, the previous tennant was a single male firefighter who was never home, the first comment ever made to myself from her was any noise and i’l have you gone, she owns her property and mine is rented. After only a few short months we had a falling out over an on street parking space I was parked in becuse she felt her visiting mother deserved it more. Things have escalated since then, she has taken photos of my child playing in the garden and my husband doing the gardening, I called the police but they found no evidence, I have had slashed tyres, my landlord receives constant complaints about me varying from things such as me painting my front fence which I had permission for to complaints of noise nuisance I am on the brink of loosing my home, I leave for work at 5 am and am being told that that’s waking her up but I have to work to pay my bills, the majority of the rest of the complaints are things like my daughter waking her in th middle of the night “as she suffers from nightmares” probably due to the weird noises that come from the pipes under the beroom floor boards, or in the summer making to much noise in th garden (she’s 3 and will play) She frequently comes and checks the tax on my cars for some odd reason I have had the police wake me up at my door several times because she has called in the middle of the night to say I’m screaming (which I’m not) I have had complaints made against me to social services saying I’m abusing my daughter and that she isn’t fed (all of which is completely untrue and has been deemed so by social services) Today I have received a call from the Rspca to say that I am abusing my 2 dogs and not feeding them, both of my dogs are well cared for and fed correctly, I pay for a dog walker to come in during the day when I’m on a long day at work and they have a dog flap the rest of the time giving them access to both the house and garden all day, I frequently take them to the vets for check ups and have them both on care plans which in my opinion isn’t one of your everyday animal abusers priority’s. I am at the end of my teather with her now, It is physically and mentally exhausting always haven’t to worry about what’s coming next, I cant just move as my area is expensive and I’ve struck a great deal on the rent here but I can’t cope like this anymore, what could I do?
Eastgate1 - 29-Aug-18 @ 3:01 PM
when I moved into my property my neighbour was unhappy because she didn’t want a family living next door, the previous tennant was a single male firefighter who was never home, the first comment ever made to myself from her was any noise and i’l have you gone, she owns her property and mine is rented. After only a few short months we had a falling out over an on street parking space I was parked in becuse she felt her visiting mother deserved it more. Things have escalated since then, she has taken photos of my child playing in the garden and my husband doing the gardening, I called the police but they found no evidence, I have had slashed tyres, my landlord receives constant complaints about me varying from things such as me painting my front fence which I had permission for to complaints of noise nuisance I am on the brink of loosing my home, I leave for work at 5 am and am being told that that’s waking her up but I have to work to pay my bills, the majority of the rest of the complaints are things like my daughter waking her in th middle of the night “as she suffers from nightmares” probably due to the weird noises that come from the pipes under the beroom floor boards, or in the summer making to much noise in th garden (she’s 3 and will play) She frequently comes and checks the tax on my cars for some odd reason I have had the police wake me up at my door several times because she has called in the middle of the night to say I’m screaming (which I’m not) I have had complaints made against me to social services saying I’m abusing my daughter and that she isn’t fed (all of which is completely untrue and has been deemed so by social services) Today I have received a call from the Rspca to say that I am abusing my 2 dogs and not feeding them, both of my dogs are well cared for and fed correctly, I pay for a dog walker to come in during the day when I’m on a long day at work and they have a dog flap the rest of the time giving them access to both the house and garden all day, I frequently take them to the vets for check ups and have them both on care plans which in my opinion isn’t one of your everyday animal abusers priority’s. I am at the end of my teather with her now, It is physically and mentally exhausting always haven’t to worry about what’s coming next, I cant just move as my area is expensive and I’ve struck a great deal on the rent here but I can’t cope like this anymore, what could I do?
Eastgate1 - 29-Aug-18 @ 2:21 PM
I live in a block of 4 flats,myself and my nice neighbours this is happening to live on the ground floor with immediate access to to the shared gardens.A new guy mid 20s moved into the flat above my nice neighbours 2 years ago and from day one has been threatening and harassing both myself and my lovely neighbours.we can’t do anything without him contacting the people who look after the lease to complain about literally anything we do,I’ve just had a baby and the stress is taking it’s toll.Hes been physically abusive and I’ve received abusive texts claiming I’m tryibg to steal his cat! We’ve had to install cctv as he got violent because he didn’t like where the garden bin was placed and decided to throw it at our doorway...surprise surprise he’s comlained about the cctv.Things seem to escalate when something goes wrong in his life.we just respond to the complaints via the management agency and keep quiet.They know he’s a trouble maker,this guy just needs to mind his own business.i even witnessed him steal my neighbours garden pots over a dispute about a parking space.its all just unnessersary
Ontheverge - 22-Aug-18 @ 9:42 AM
So I went on holiday for a month, came back to find out a guy just moved in next door to mine. This neighbor of mine, came and knocked on my door for the first time to introduce himself and I thought He was just being friendly. So I was nice to him and talked in a friendly manner. After that, he began putting notes through my letter box asking for a chap. Although I don’t know what a chap means. He began knocking on my door every day after asking for a chap and every morning I wake up, he has put a note through my letter box asking for this chap. So I confronted him and told him I don’t appreciate him inconveniencing me and that he must respect my privacy. I called the police to report this issue. Then neighbor saw me one afternoon and apologised. I thought that would be the end of this harassment. Although, if I went to the shops and on coming back into my flat,he would sit in front of his flat waiting for me to get back so he could talk to me. I would say hello and get in my flat. But today while I was watching he England game in my flat, I heard a loud bang on my door, lo and behold it was this neighbor guy of mine, he told me to come into his flat to watch the football. I was on the phone with my fiancé at the time. I told neighbor I was good and not interested in watching the football at his flat. I went back in and closed my door. He came back after a few mins again to bang my door so loud, I opened for the second time and he said again to come to his flat and watch the football. I replied to him that he was a stubborn man. I was getting irritated at this point. I went back inside my flat, I was cooking. By my kitchen window, I saw him again sitting there and staring at me. So I went out and confronted him again, I gave him a serious warning to leave me alone or this harassment would turn to violence because I’ve had enough. I made him realise that I can not tolerate him anymore. So I called the police for the second time and the police turned up, asked me questions, went to his flat and asked him questions too. Next thing I saw, the police left his flat and didn’t even come back to me to tell me if they’ve warned him or not and also assure me he would harass me again. I really hope he stops harassing me because am not afraid of him at all and when it turns to violence, I will face him rightfully.
Shady - 14-Jul-18 @ 7:24 PM
I'm so tired of been harrasment,bully intimidated ,thus every day for past 3 years they have so much hate ,to me because I'm gay ,they won't live me alone,i AM 654 Bergen ave jersey city New Jersey 07304. Room 310
Dino - 14-Jul-18 @ 7:03 AM
My neighbour from upstairs has taken exception to my children playing outside in the communal area all the other children it's ok tl play , she stares at them through her window in a scary manner giving them dirty looks she walked passed by 9 year old girl calling her nasty and my 12 year old girl she asks her what she's looking at whenever she sees her she don't like the fact that my children play outside but all the other children can do so and be noisy not that my kids are noisy they're not I always tell them to keep it down they are always the first children to go indoors the lates is t 7:30and I fearbecause the summer holidays are about to start they are not ASBO kids there well mannered and very innocent children but the woman does not like the fact that all the neighbours we get on with and the people all stop and talk to us and the kids she lives above us in her flat that is not overlooking the communal ground other ppl have more right too moan than but don't and if they had a problem they would come and talk to meI've always ask them if the kids are a nuisance to let me knowthere reply is no the kids are great we love listening to them play , she doesn't live above them she does live above us , every night she jump up and down on my ceiling for the last 6 weeks because we haven't responded to her I feel as she is now target my children to get a reaction I asked the question is she trying to scare my kids her reply was you're scaring me go away yr a bully,I asked my children today if you go outside don't look up because you will only antagonize her I can't believe I asked my children not to look up the six weeks now I tell them off for dropping a spoon I've done everything I can to accommodate her we walk on eggshells when she first moved in we got on but cracks started to appear she portrays herself as a friendly nice person but the real her has come through after a year , we can live with all the noise we can live with all the banging but now she's directing it towards my children I feel she's unpredictable and I'm worried that she might hurt my children I feel sorry for them as they are very innocent not Street wise childrenthey've grown up in the same area playing on the same communal grass for and in 14 years we've never ever had a problem with a neighbour , now I panic whenI the kids want to go outside what can I do I tried to talk to the lady she doesn't want to know she just shouts down at me but I'm scaring her and I'm a bully I can't sleep anymore when I get home from work I'm a bag of nerves thinking what is she going to do today what can I do.
A bag of nerves - 11-Jul-18 @ 5:13 PM
My daughters are mixed race one is 9 and the other is 4, we live a block of flat the lady and her son above us keep racial harassing my girls. They have been called some really disgusting names. My 9 year old has been given a nose bleed from the son punching her in the face. The mother leaned over the balcony and spat on my 4 year. The son has urinated on my front door. I've had cat faeces put through my letter box and covered the door. I've have 10 police crime reports and I spoke with my housing Association about getting moved as my daughter now suffers with panic attacks, I found her in the bathroom trying to clean herself with bleach so it will spot. They're not willing to help me, they just say that all they can do is speaks with the lady. Am going out my mind, advise needed please.
Jess - 6-Jul-18 @ 11:15 AM
Angel - Your Question:
What can you do when the police decide not to take harassment seriously? My case is unusual as I am being harassed by a man from my allotment site. He has been shouting and swearing at me for no reason for 7 years now. I believe numerous cases of theft and vandalism on my allotment were also him. 6 months ago he started an intensive campaign of harrassment against me. I went to the police when he threatened me and was intimidating and abusive, but they just said tell him not to do it again. After that he openly boasted that he would drive me off the site. It seems he had been hanging about outside my house, he has been sending me letters I have to sign for, spreading rumours about me, has demanded money from me more than once, has been seen on my allotment tampering with my possessions and has been going in my shed. The fact that he has kept up his harassment for 7 years makes me think he is obsessed with causing me distress.I asked the National Stalking Helpline for advice and they said to keep a dairy and take it to the police.When I did the police wouldn't interview me face to face, only on the phone, wouldn't take my evidence (witness statements, letters, screen shots, incident diary etc) and said that none of my evidence was acceptable. They said that it wasn't harrassment because he hadn't been physically violent, and because the incidents had been happening on an allotment site. They said they thought he probably regarded what he did as a game and didn't realise he was causing distress. They said I should take no notice and carry on with my life as normal. They did say they could treat one incident where he threatened me as a public order offence and would go to his house, make him write a letter of apology and if he did anything else after that it would go to court. By the end of the phone call they hadn't asked me for his address, so it seemed that they had no intention of even interviewing him. I gave them the address anyway, and contact details for the witness, but two weeks later I've heard nothing. In the meantime I make daily detours to avoid going past his house as he lives near me, and don't go to my allotment any more. I used to spend most of my time there, and am totally lost without it. I can't afford a solicitor to help with this problem and don't know what to do.

Our Response:
If you feel the police have not fulfilled their duties you could consider making a complaint to the Independent Office for Police Conduct . Alternatively Citizens' Advice might be able to give advice about low cost legal help or funding towards taking private action for an injunction.
ProblemNeighbours - 4-Jul-18 @ 3:40 PM
What can you do when the police decide not to take harassment seriously? My case is unusual as I am being harassed by a man from my allotment site. He has been shouting and swearing at me for no reason for 7 years now. I believe numerous cases of theft and vandalism on my allotment were also him. 6 months ago he started an intensive campaign of harrassment against me. I went to the police when he threatened me and was intimidating and abusive, but they just said tell him not to do it again. After that he openly boasted that he would drive me off the site. It seems he had been hanging about outside my house, he has been sending me letters I have to sign for, spreading rumours about me, has demanded money from me more than once, has been seen on my allotment tampering with my possessions and has been going in my shed. The fact that he has kept up his harassment for 7 years makes me think he is obsessed with causing me distress.I asked the National Stalking Helpline for advice and they said to keep a dairy and take it to the police.When I did the police wouldn't interview me face to face, only on the phone, wouldn't take my evidence (witness statements, letters, screen shots, incident diary etc) and said that none of my evidence was acceptable. They said that it wasn't harrassment because he hadn't been physically violent, and because the incidents had been happening on an allotment site. They said they thought he probably regarded what he did as a game and didn't realise he was causing distress. They said I should take no notice and carry on with my life as normal. They did say they could treat one incident where he threatened me as a public order offence and would go to his house, make him write a letter of apology and if he did anything else after that it would go to court. By the end of the phone call they hadn't asked me for his address, so it seemed that they had no intention of even interviewing him. I gave them the address anyway, and contact details for the witness, but two weeks later I've heard nothing. In the meantime I make daily detours to avoid going past his house as he lives near me, and don't go to my allotment any more. I used to spend most of my time there, and am totally lost without it. I can't afford a solicitor to help with this problem and don't know what to do.
Angel - 3-Jul-18 @ 11:26 PM
Jaydaws - Your Question:
We have experienced almost two years of ASB from two neighbours close by after ending a friendship with one of them. We’ve had dog poo thrown on our drive which was handled by local dog warden etc. After a renter moved in next door the behaviour escalated and she has joined in with the others in the same vein, yesterday the couple came to our door and threatened to finish it because my husband said hello to workmen laying their driveway. They are captured on CCTV and I’ve written down the threats while I can still remember them. The police have been a number of times , they’ve opened a case and say that they are impartial and we could also be baiting the neighbours. We are not , we care for a bed bound daughter and to be truthful I am terrified this will escalate into violence. The police don’t seem to want to do anything to stop this.What more can we do.?

Our Response:
There isn't much more you can do if the police don't feel there is enough to act upon, apart from perhaps to consider private legal action? Citizens' Advice might be a good place to start with that.
ProblemNeighbours - 20-Jun-18 @ 10:11 AM
I have a nosey neighbor that used to live next door to me and she has moved across the street because she was living with her brother and he had passed away so she moved in the house across the street well she used to harass the people that live in the house she currently live in now but they moved way tired of the harassment so she moved into their house and now is harassing me and another neighbor on a daily basis we listen to her talk about us and make slide comments peeks through my fence which is a privacy fence as well as plants flowers up against a fence that she knows gets poison spray tan just so that she can complain and say we killed her plant she is intentionally stolen my newspaper in front of me and then when I asked her what she was doing she threw it at me and flipped me off and told me to go to hell now this is just some of the things I've had to deal with with her what can I do about my noisy nosey neighbor PS she even had her dog poop in my yard knowing I like to walk Barefoot and when she seen that I walked in the dog poop she started laughing frustrated neighbor please help
Linda lou - 18-Jun-18 @ 3:27 PM
We have experienced almost two years of ASB from two neighbours close by after ending a friendship with one of them. We’ve had dog poo thrown on our drive which was handled by local dog warden etc. After a renter moved in next door the behaviour escalated and she has joined in with the others in the same vein, yesterday the couple came to our door and threatened to finish it because my husband said hello to workmen laying their driveway. They are captured on CCTV and I’ve written down the threats while I can still remember them. The police have been a number of times , they’ve opened a case and say that they are impartial and we could also be baiting the neighbours. We are not , we care for a bed bound daughter and to be truthful I am terrified this will escalate into violence. The police don’t seem to want to do anything to stop this. What more can we do .?
Jaydaws - 16-Jun-18 @ 10:22 AM
I have suffered almost daily from threats, offensive comments. i.e ? is coming down to sort her out and make her move even if its in a wooden box, her son better watch his back, she's a prostitute, drug dealer all sorts of rubbish. Neighbour is a council tenant and has 2 or 3 other adults I am an adult living alone with an adult son who visits every 2 or 3 months. The daughter n mother next door repeat my private conversation yet accuse me of listening to them, yes, the mother shouts most of the time. Bang doors after midnight and laugh between each bang. It is quite worrying and has triggered off anxiety for which I am being treated. I spoke to the council who said that their tenant is vulnerable due to mental health issues caused by husband offending? He stays from time to time and is polite. I spoke to police and she knew as the following morni g was screaming about it. Don't know how she knew as made call away from house. Police said my best option was to move if I didn't want to make it official which would have to be declared when selling house. Am now trying to sell at a low price to save my sanity. I don't have visitors and limit phone calls as I have no privacyand can't relax.
Blues - 13-Jun-18 @ 8:15 PM
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