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Protection from Harassment

By: Jeff Durham - Updated: 20 Oct 2018 | comments*Discuss
 
Harassment Laws Neighbours Police Victim

Nobody has to suffer persecution or harassment from their neighbours, no matter what has motivated the perpetrator to do this to you in the first place, and you are protected by the law in this regard. Some instances of harassment arise as a result of a dispute between neighbours which has escalated out of control.

Sometimes it’s down to anti-social behaviour by irresponsible youths, other times it may be due to a long-running dispute with a neighbour. Your harassment may be motivated by perceived differences between you and the rest of your neighbourhood by a neighbour(s) and these are usually of a Discriminatory Nature which is dealt with in another article contained on this website.

What Constitutes Harassment?

Harassment can occur in many forms. It's described as 'causing alarm or distress' and also as 'putting people in fear of violence'. It can include, but is not limited to, the following types of behaviour:

  • Threats of violence against you or an actual act of violence committed upon you
  • Abusive and/or insulting behaviour or words
  • Threats of damage to your property and possessions or actual damage to them
  • Any written form of abuse or threat made to you, including letters, graffiti or any other kind of written material such as posters being put up that are derogatory towards you

Basically, harassment can be any type of behaviour or action taken towards you which threatens your own sense of security and peace or which causes you unnecessary inconvenience. For more detailed information surrounding harssment and the laws governing it take a look at www.cps.gov.uk

What You Can Do if You Become a Victim of Harassment

If you feel that you are being harassed, you should immediately notify the police. It’s also useful if you have Kept Written Records of all the occasions when any harassment has took place, including what form of harassment you suffered, the date and time it took place, and a name or description of the perpetrator(s). Even if you haven’t gathered all of this information or you don’t know who might be responsible, just give the police as much information as you can.

The more you can tell them, the quicker and easier it will be to get the harassment to stop and to instigate any legal proceedings that might be necessary. Once you have been interviewed by the police, they will be on hand to offer you any advice while they conduct their investigations.

What Happens Next?

The police take harassment issues very seriously. They will be there to support you although the level will vary depending upon the severity of the harassment which has taken place. They will also offer you all the required information and guidance you might need if the matter goes to court. Depending on the nature of the harassment, they’ll also put you in touch with relevant external organisations or agencies that will be able to give you specialised support and further counselling assistance, if needed.

If You Live in Rented Accommodation

If you live in rented accommodation, you should also inform your landlord, local authority or housing association. They can offer additional support which might include fitting locks, vandal-proof letterboxes, fences and lighting, and installing alarms which might even be linked to your local police station. If your perpetrator lives in the same building as you, they can also confront them and warn them about possible tenancy agreement breaches, and the possibility of eviction.

In the case of local authorities and housing associations, they might also be able to assist in re-housing you elsewhere if that’s the decision you feel would be best for you. However, if you like living in your present home, you should feel under no compulsion to move, and your local authority will take all the necessary steps and offer you the support to enable you to remain put. Nobody should ever feel compelled to be driven out of their home and neighbourhood against their wishes because of a harassment issue.

Harassment is a serious offence, can cause unbearable stress and will be dealt with harshly by the Police and the Legal System.

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I've been living inane two bed flat for nearly 7 yrs . For the 1st 5 yrs were fine . Then i had a fall out with my neighbours and in 2016 i was robbed god knows what they thought cuz they decided they would not only beat me the ran me over in a van which nearly killed me. I was on life support for 3 wks had 3 spinal fractures . I had multiple sustained injurys . Had to learn to walk again . Now 2 yrs down the line important getting the verble abuse . Its relentless. Even as important writing this i know they can see . It sounds like important crazy but far from it sounds. Its all from the falling out with certain people and being run over which was made to look like a robbery. I've got one of them little spy detector things. I just want to get a move and start a fresh. Important not a grass . It's not something i do unless its getting to the point of what it is now. Its horrible not being able to relax or have any privircy in my own home. People have gone about things in a bad way .If imleft important going . But important not goin anywhere untill I've got a another place . They have given the game away by doing this as its obvious they all know or had some part in me getting run over.
kel - 20-Oct-18 @ 5:11 AM
I have been harassed by my crazy neighbor for 15 years.I am mentally ill and can no longer take the name calling and bullying.I call the police they talk to her but she won't stop. What are my rights
JO JO - 18-Oct-18 @ 2:54 PM
what a joke this article is. The police DO NOT take any complaints seriously. The council/authorities or social care do not do anything either. It's ok making notes of the harassment etc but nothing still gets done!
Msdevil - 17-Oct-18 @ 12:38 PM
WE ARE HAVING THESE ISSUES LIJE ALL OF YOU. POLICE USELESS, HOUSING OFFICERS USELESS. LET'S START A PETITION!!!!! I'M SICK OF THIS UNLAWFUL PLACE WHERE THE CRIMINALS GET ALL THE PRIORITY AND VICTIMS GET LEFT IN THE CORNER. ??
missisgreen - 16-Oct-18 @ 12:02 PM
My neighbours have been given my family hell for 3 yrs now, there children have smashed my window,damaged my door an egged my house numerous times, we're in touch with the local policing team who have isued the youths asbo's an have allowed them to break them, now the neighbours kids have got friends who also live in my street to give my family hell, we've been named called an had glass bottles thrown at our home, we've reported it to council who hasn't done anything, they are now drug dealing an we are unable to leave our home due to threats, now the police an council just say move. What else can I do to.?
Bex - 14-Oct-18 @ 9:19 PM
I had trouble with a lady where I live, she got off her head with others and started shouting abuse at me, in front of kids., also a man their too. They all came to my front door, I rang police and they said they will take it serious , but in the end the police are trying to give me a contract and closed my case. The housing guy was very rude. I am being bullied every day and feel alone.Why have these people got powers also the lady I fell out with, her best friend underneath her works for the council
Maggie - 11-Oct-18 @ 7:52 PM
My neighbours are smoking cannabis and the smell comes through my daughters bedroom window on several occasions she has been taken I'll from the disgusting smell .She has itp a blood disorder ,chronic fatigue syndrome and a heart condition.They also have threatened my daughter and family when they have been high on drugs.I reported everything to the police and my housing officer.But now they've made false accusations against me and the police have given me a warning i refused to sign as I'm telling the true.My daughter is in and out of hospital have regular transfusions which is a very stressful time for us.I'm disgusted the police and housing are not taking my reports very serious.The neighbours have three small children who i feel are at a high risk in this living environment.
Spider - 5-Oct-18 @ 9:06 PM
My nieighbour is harassing my 11 yr old son , she doesn’t speak to us and we get nasty evil looks and sometimes a finger gesture, she stares at my son and points at him , it is effecting him , he is scared to walk outside or walk to school alone , this has gone on for 3/4 years now , what can be done
Jack - 27-Sep-18 @ 9:47 AM
when I moved into my property my neighbour was unhappy because she didn’t want a family living next door, the previous tennant was a single male firefighter who was never home, the first comment ever made to myself from her was any noise and i’l have you gone, she owns her property and mine is rented. After only a few short months we had a falling out over an on street parking space I was parked in becuse she felt her visiting mother deserved it more. Things have escalated since then, she has taken photos of my child playing in the garden and my husband doing the gardening, I called the police but they found no evidence, I have had slashed tyres, my landlord receives constant complaints about me varying from things such as me painting my front fence which I had permission for to complaints of noise nuisance I am on the brink of loosing my home, I leave for work at 5 am and am being told that that’s waking her up but I have to work to pay my bills, the majority of the rest of the complaints are things like my daughter waking her in th middle of the night “as she suffers from nightmares” probably due to the weird noises that come from the pipes under the beroom floor boards, or in the summer making to much noise in th garden (she’s 3 and will play) She frequently comes and checks the tax on my cars for some odd reason I have had the police wake me up at my door several times because she has called in the middle of the night to say I’m screaming (which I’m not) I have had complaints made against me to social services saying I’m abusing my daughter and that she isn’t fed (all of which is completely untrue and has been deemed so by social services) Today I have received a call from the Rspca to say that I am abusing my 2 dogs and not feeding them, both of my dogs are well cared for and fed correctly, I pay for a dog walker to come in during the day when I’m on a long day at work and they have a dog flap the rest of the time giving them access to both the house and garden all day, I frequently take them to the vets for check ups and have them both on care plans which in my opinion isn’t one of your everyday animal abusers priority’s. I am at the end of my teather with her now, It is physically and mentally exhausting always haven’t to worry about what’s coming next, I cant just move as my area is expensive and I’ve struck a great deal on the rent here but I can’t cope like this anymore, what could I do?
Eastgate1 - 29-Aug-18 @ 3:01 PM
when I moved into my property my neighbour was unhappy because she didn’t want a family living next door, the previous tennant was a single male firefighter who was never home, the first comment ever made to myself from her was any noise and i’l have you gone, she owns her property and mine is rented. After only a few short months we had a falling out over an on street parking space I was parked in becuse she felt her visiting mother deserved it more. Things have escalated since then, she has taken photos of my child playing in the garden and my husband doing the gardening, I called the police but they found no evidence, I have had slashed tyres, my landlord receives constant complaints about me varying from things such as me painting my front fence which I had permission for to complaints of noise nuisance I am on the brink of loosing my home, I leave for work at 5 am and am being told that that’s waking her up but I have to work to pay my bills, the majority of the rest of the complaints are things like my daughter waking her in th middle of the night “as she suffers from nightmares” probably due to the weird noises that come from the pipes under the beroom floor boards, or in the summer making to much noise in th garden (she’s 3 and will play) She frequently comes and checks the tax on my cars for some odd reason I have had the police wake me up at my door several times because she has called in the middle of the night to say I’m screaming (which I’m not) I have had complaints made against me to social services saying I’m abusing my daughter and that she isn’t fed (all of which is completely untrue and has been deemed so by social services) Today I have received a call from the Rspca to say that I am abusing my 2 dogs and not feeding them, both of my dogs are well cared for and fed correctly, I pay for a dog walker to come in during the day when I’m on a long day at work and they have a dog flap the rest of the time giving them access to both the house and garden all day, I frequently take them to the vets for check ups and have them both on care plans which in my opinion isn’t one of your everyday animal abusers priority’s. I am at the end of my teather with her now, It is physically and mentally exhausting always haven’t to worry about what’s coming next, I cant just move as my area is expensive and I’ve struck a great deal on the rent here but I can’t cope like this anymore, what could I do?
Eastgate1 - 29-Aug-18 @ 2:21 PM
I live in a block of 4 flats,myself and my nice neighbours this is happening to live on the ground floor with immediate access to to the shared gardens.A new guy mid 20s moved into the flat above my nice neighbours 2 years ago and from day one has been threatening and harassing both myself and my lovely neighbours.we can’t do anything without him contacting the people who look after the lease to complain about literally anything we do,I’ve just had a baby and the stress is taking it’s toll.Hes been physically abusive and I’ve received abusive texts claiming I’m tryibg to steal his cat! We’ve had to install cctv as he got violent because he didn’t like where the garden bin was placed and decided to throw it at our doorway...surprise surprise he’s comlained about the cctv.Things seem to escalate when something goes wrong in his life.we just respond to the complaints via the management agency and keep quiet.They know he’s a trouble maker,this guy just needs to mind his own business.i even witnessed him steal my neighbours garden pots over a dispute about a parking space.its all just unnessersary
Ontheverge - 22-Aug-18 @ 9:42 AM
So I went on holiday for a month, came back to find out a guy just moved in next door to mine. This neighbor of mine, came and knocked on my door for the first time to introduce himself and I thought He was just being friendly. So I was nice to him and talked in a friendly manner. After that, he began putting notes through my letter box asking for a chap. Although I don’t know what a chap means. He began knocking on my door every day after asking for a chap and every morning I wake up, he has put a note through my letter box asking for this chap. So I confronted him and told him I don’t appreciate him inconveniencing me and that he must respect my privacy. I called the police to report this issue. Then neighbor saw me one afternoon and apologised. I thought that would be the end of this harassment. Although, if I went to the shops and on coming back into my flat,he would sit in front of his flat waiting for me to get back so he could talk to me. I would say hello and get in my flat. But today while I was watching he England game in my flat, I heard a loud bang on my door, lo and behold it was this neighbor guy of mine, he told me to come into his flat to watch the football. I was on the phone with my fiancé at the time. I told neighbor I was good and not interested in watching the football at his flat. I went back in and closed my door. He came back after a few mins again to bang my door so loud, I opened for the second time and he said again to come to his flat and watch the football. I replied to him that he was a stubborn man. I was getting irritated at this point. I went back inside my flat, I was cooking. By my kitchen window, I saw him again sitting there and staring at me. So I went out and confronted him again, I gave him a serious warning to leave me alone or this harassment would turn to violence because I’ve had enough. I made him realise that I can not tolerate him anymore. So I called the police for the second time and the police turned up, asked me questions, went to his flat and asked him questions too. Next thing I saw, the police left his flat and didn’t even come back to me to tell me if they’ve warned him or not and also assure me he would harass me again. I really hope he stops harassing me because am not afraid of him at all and when it turns to violence, I will face him rightfully.
Shady - 14-Jul-18 @ 7:24 PM
I'm so tired of been harrasment,bully intimidated ,thus every day for past 3 years they have so much hate ,to me because I'm gay ,they won't live me alone,i AM 654 Bergen ave jersey city New Jersey 07304. Room 310
Dino - 14-Jul-18 @ 7:03 AM
My neighbour from upstairs has taken exception to my children playing outside in the communal area all the other children it's ok tl play , she stares at them through her window in a scary manner giving them dirty looks she walked passed by 9 year old girl calling her nasty and my 12 year old girl she asks her what she's looking at whenever she sees her she don't like the fact that my children play outside but all the other children can do so and be noisy not that my kids are noisy they're not I always tell them to keep it down they are always the first children to go indoors the lates is t 7:30and I fearbecause the summer holidays are about to start they are not ASBO kids there well mannered and very innocent children but the woman does not like the fact that all the neighbours we get on with and the people all stop and talk to us and the kids she lives above us in her flat that is not overlooking the communal ground other ppl have more right too moan than but don't and if they had a problem they would come and talk to meI've always ask them if the kids are a nuisance to let me knowthere reply is no the kids are great we love listening to them play , she doesn't live above them she does live above us , every night she jump up and down on my ceiling for the last 6 weeks because we haven't responded to her I feel as she is now target my children to get a reaction I asked the question is she trying to scare my kids her reply was you're scaring me go away yr a bully,I asked my children today if you go outside don't look up because you will only antagonize her I can't believe I asked my children not to look up the six weeks now I tell them off for dropping a spoon I've done everything I can to accommodate her we walk on eggshells when she first moved in we got on but cracks started to appear she portrays herself as a friendly nice person but the real her has come through after a year , we can live with all the noise we can live with all the banging but now she's directing it towards my children I feel she's unpredictable and I'm worried that she might hurt my children I feel sorry for them as they are very innocent not Street wise childrenthey've grown up in the same area playing on the same communal grass for and in 14 years we've never ever had a problem with a neighbour , now I panic whenI the kids want to go outside what can I do I tried to talk to the lady she doesn't want to know she just shouts down at me but I'm scaring her and I'm a bully I can't sleep anymore when I get home from work I'm a bag of nerves thinking what is she going to do today what can I do.
A bag of nerves - 11-Jul-18 @ 5:13 PM
My daughters are mixed race one is 9 and the other is 4, we live a block of flat the lady and her son above us keep racial harassing my girls. They have been called some really disgusting names. My 9 year old has been given a nose bleed from the son punching her in the face. The mother leaned over the balcony and spat on my 4 year. The son has urinated on my front door. I've had cat faeces put through my letter box and covered the door. I've have 10 police crime reports and I spoke with my housing Association about getting moved as my daughter now suffers with panic attacks, I found her in the bathroom trying to clean herself with bleach so it will spot. They're not willing to help me, they just say that all they can do is speaks with the lady. Am going out my mind, advise needed please.
Jess - 6-Jul-18 @ 11:15 AM
Angel - Your Question:
What can you do when the police decide not to take harassment seriously? My case is unusual as I am being harassed by a man from my allotment site. He has been shouting and swearing at me for no reason for 7 years now. I believe numerous cases of theft and vandalism on my allotment were also him. 6 months ago he started an intensive campaign of harrassment against me. I went to the police when he threatened me and was intimidating and abusive, but they just said tell him not to do it again. After that he openly boasted that he would drive me off the site. It seems he had been hanging about outside my house, he has been sending me letters I have to sign for, spreading rumours about me, has demanded money from me more than once, has been seen on my allotment tampering with my possessions and has been going in my shed. The fact that he has kept up his harassment for 7 years makes me think he is obsessed with causing me distress.I asked the National Stalking Helpline for advice and they said to keep a dairy and take it to the police.When I did the police wouldn't interview me face to face, only on the phone, wouldn't take my evidence (witness statements, letters, screen shots, incident diary etc) and said that none of my evidence was acceptable. They said that it wasn't harrassment because he hadn't been physically violent, and because the incidents had been happening on an allotment site. They said they thought he probably regarded what he did as a game and didn't realise he was causing distress. They said I should take no notice and carry on with my life as normal. They did say they could treat one incident where he threatened me as a public order offence and would go to his house, make him write a letter of apology and if he did anything else after that it would go to court. By the end of the phone call they hadn't asked me for his address, so it seemed that they had no intention of even interviewing him. I gave them the address anyway, and contact details for the witness, but two weeks later I've heard nothing. In the meantime I make daily detours to avoid going past his house as he lives near me, and don't go to my allotment any more. I used to spend most of my time there, and am totally lost without it. I can't afford a solicitor to help with this problem and don't know what to do.

Our Response:
If you feel the police have not fulfilled their duties you could consider making a complaint to the Independent Office for Police Conduct . Alternatively Citizens' Advice might be able to give advice about low cost legal help or funding towards taking private action for an injunction.
ProblemNeighbours - 4-Jul-18 @ 3:40 PM
What can you do when the police decide not to take harassment seriously? My case is unusual as I am being harassed by a man from my allotment site. He has been shouting and swearing at me for no reason for 7 years now. I believe numerous cases of theft and vandalism on my allotment were also him. 6 months ago he started an intensive campaign of harrassment against me. I went to the police when he threatened me and was intimidating and abusive, but they just said tell him not to do it again. After that he openly boasted that he would drive me off the site. It seems he had been hanging about outside my house, he has been sending me letters I have to sign for, spreading rumours about me, has demanded money from me more than once, has been seen on my allotment tampering with my possessions and has been going in my shed. The fact that he has kept up his harassment for 7 years makes me think he is obsessed with causing me distress.I asked the National Stalking Helpline for advice and they said to keep a dairy and take it to the police.When I did the police wouldn't interview me face to face, only on the phone, wouldn't take my evidence (witness statements, letters, screen shots, incident diary etc) and said that none of my evidence was acceptable. They said that it wasn't harrassment because he hadn't been physically violent, and because the incidents had been happening on an allotment site. They said they thought he probably regarded what he did as a game and didn't realise he was causing distress. They said I should take no notice and carry on with my life as normal. They did say they could treat one incident where he threatened me as a public order offence and would go to his house, make him write a letter of apology and if he did anything else after that it would go to court. By the end of the phone call they hadn't asked me for his address, so it seemed that they had no intention of even interviewing him. I gave them the address anyway, and contact details for the witness, but two weeks later I've heard nothing. In the meantime I make daily detours to avoid going past his house as he lives near me, and don't go to my allotment any more. I used to spend most of my time there, and am totally lost without it. I can't afford a solicitor to help with this problem and don't know what to do.
Angel - 3-Jul-18 @ 11:26 PM
Jaydaws - Your Question:
We have experienced almost two years of ASB from two neighbours close by after ending a friendship with one of them. We’ve had dog poo thrown on our drive which was handled by local dog warden etc. After a renter moved in next door the behaviour escalated and she has joined in with the others in the same vein, yesterday the couple came to our door and threatened to finish it because my husband said hello to workmen laying their driveway. They are captured on CCTV and I’ve written down the threats while I can still remember them. The police have been a number of times , they’ve opened a case and say that they are impartial and we could also be baiting the neighbours. We are not , we care for a bed bound daughter and to be truthful I am terrified this will escalate into violence. The police don’t seem to want to do anything to stop this.What more can we do.?

Our Response:
There isn't much more you can do if the police don't feel there is enough to act upon, apart from perhaps to consider private legal action? Citizens' Advice might be a good place to start with that.
ProblemNeighbours - 20-Jun-18 @ 10:11 AM
I have a nosey neighbor that used to live next door to me and she has moved across the street because she was living with her brother and he had passed away so she moved in the house across the street well she used to harass the people that live in the house she currently live in now but they moved way tired of the harassment so she moved into their house and now is harassing me and another neighbor on a daily basis we listen to her talk about us and make slide comments peeks through my fence which is a privacy fence as well as plants flowers up against a fence that she knows gets poison spray tan just so that she can complain and say we killed her plant she is intentionally stolen my newspaper in front of me and then when I asked her what she was doing she threw it at me and flipped me off and told me to go to hell now this is just some of the things I've had to deal with with her what can I do about my noisy nosey neighbor PS she even had her dog poop in my yard knowing I like to walk Barefoot and when she seen that I walked in the dog poop she started laughing frustrated neighbor please help
Linda lou - 18-Jun-18 @ 3:27 PM
We have experienced almost two years of ASB from two neighbours close by after ending a friendship with one of them. We’ve had dog poo thrown on our drive which was handled by local dog warden etc. After a renter moved in next door the behaviour escalated and she has joined in with the others in the same vein, yesterday the couple came to our door and threatened to finish it because my husband said hello to workmen laying their driveway. They are captured on CCTV and I’ve written down the threats while I can still remember them. The police have been a number of times , they’ve opened a case and say that they are impartial and we could also be baiting the neighbours. We are not , we care for a bed bound daughter and to be truthful I am terrified this will escalate into violence. The police don’t seem to want to do anything to stop this. What more can we do .?
Jaydaws - 16-Jun-18 @ 10:22 AM
I have suffered almost daily from threats, offensive comments. i.e ? is coming down to sort her out and make her move even if its in a wooden box, her son better watch his back, she's a prostitute, drug dealer all sorts of rubbish. Neighbour is a council tenant and has 2 or 3 other adults I am an adult living alone with an adult son who visits every 2 or 3 months. The daughter n mother next door repeat my private conversation yet accuse me of listening to them, yes, the mother shouts most of the time. Bang doors after midnight and laugh between each bang. It is quite worrying and has triggered off anxiety for which I am being treated. I spoke to the council who said that their tenant is vulnerable due to mental health issues caused by husband offending? He stays from time to time and is polite. I spoke to police and she knew as the following morni g was screaming about it. Don't know how she knew as made call away from house. Police said my best option was to move if I didn't want to make it official which would have to be declared when selling house. Am now trying to sell at a low price to save my sanity. I don't have visitors and limit phone calls as I have no privacyand can't relax.
Blues - 13-Jun-18 @ 8:15 PM
Sammyb - Your Question:
I live in purpose built flats. We have a communal car park to the front and car ports to the rear. I have been parking my car in front of one of the car port because the housing association have advised I can park there as long as I’m not blocking anyone. However my neighbour who parks there had a go at me telling me not to park there, I found out that the car port does not belong him but is allocated to another neighbour. I explained I’m not blocking him but he insists it’s hard for him to get his car out and he started arguing. I also told him that it wasn’t his car port but he continued arguing and saidhe had permission. I am a single mum and I’m frightened of him he was very loud and aggressive. What can I do?

Our Response:
Do you not have a car port allocated to your own flat that you can use? Are there designated spaces in front of the car ports? That sounds a little strange. Sorry we'd need more information.
ProblemNeighbours - 5-Jun-18 @ 10:09 AM
I live in purpose built flats. We have a communal car park to the front and car ports to the rear. I have been parking my car in front of one of the car port because the housing association have advised I can park there as long as I’m not blocking anyone.However my neighbour who parks there had a go at me telling me not to park there, I found out that the car port does not belong him but is allocated to another neighbour. I explained I’m not blocking him but he insists it’s hard for him to get his car out and he started arguing. I also told him that it wasn’t his car port but he continued arguing and saidhe had permission. I am a single mum and I’m frightened of him he was very loud and aggressive. What can I do?
Sammyb - 4-Jun-18 @ 9:12 AM
We have lived in our house for over 7yrs and have not had problems in that time, just over a month ago we got new neighbours, for the most part they where quiet and talked in their own language, said hi once or twice, but no bother apart from music in the afternoon, but over the past week or so we've started having problems, banging and drilling til gone midnight, watching us over the fence looking in the windows, and now theyre letting their kids & teenagers climb out of the back bedroom window onto the half roof which joins onto ours, I now feel like I'm being spied on when I go to the bathroom and at night as we have a sky light in our kitchen which you have to go through to get to the bathroom, I'm really stressed out to the point where I nearly ended up in hospital with hypertension and chest pains, I just dont feel safe anymore, and now weve been told that theyre buying the house from the landlord, if this is true then we're going to have to move for my health from not just a house we love but our other neighbours that have become more like family
34 tinx - 4-Jun-18 @ 1:34 AM
I have been living in my house for just over 3 years now. In November myself and my Fiance rescued a dog from the SSPCA and we love her to absolute pieces. In March while we were in the garden my dog managed to dig a hole under our garden fence (a bit of the fence was higher as there used to be decking there) and get into my neighbours garden and chased their cat. Her and the cat got into a bit of a scrap but neither were hurt as I jumped the fence to split it up and the neighbour also came out. We apologised over and over again and even said to get the cat checked out and we would pay the vet bill. We went back half an hour later to check on them and the man in the house said "don't worry about it, these things happen. The cat is at the vet now but I got a text to say its ok". We apologised again and hoped it was behind us. Only to find out 2 days later that they had called the police on us! Since that incident we patched our fence and kept a closer eye on our dog, we even started keeping her on leash while out walks to be safe. One day we were going a drive and I had her by the collar, when we opened the front door there was a cat in our garden and our dog slipped my grip and chased it. I called her back and she came to me. The cat belonged to the next neighbour along from the 1st incident and confronted us, we apologised again. They then also reported us to the police. Since this has happened they have been watching us from their windows every time we are in the garden and even stand at their doors and watch us when we drive away. Myself and my fiancé are getting so stressed and feel judged in our own home. We are starting our own dog walking business and are worried that they will be spreading bad word about us and could really put us in a position where the business fails. Please help me.
Helpmeplease - 10-May-18 @ 2:36 PM
I've lived in this house for about 3 years now and the past two years have been someone calling the social on me about my partner as my partner doesn't live with me, he stays two nights a week most of the time but someone on my estate called the social three times on me and no action was taken. Then just recently I get a phone call from social services saying somebody has reported me that I don't look after my kids properly that they are scruffy etc they have phoned my kids school and everything is fine and no action was taken, I think I have an idea who it is but what can I do to get at the bottom of this. I've moved here to move away from another property that a family was harassing me and now this, I just want to get on with my life but I just want to know what I can do with whoevers doing it.
Gem - 9-May-18 @ 9:01 PM
My new neighbors moved in next door,two months later I noticed my children's playtent they've had for over a year I set on the balcony mid Feb. Well it disappears over the next couple weeks I noticed..cut yo mid April I see it on my neighbor's balcony. And its dirty and tornnow. A very distinctive tent. Obviously mine 1000% surehave pics of my kids in it and it disappeared off my second story nonaccesable unless you reach over the rail to grab it balcony! Well I take it back and tie it up to my doorknob this time worth a note to please leave my children's belongings and return the other items that are gone. Well the next day the tent had been ripped from the knots I tied it with and stolen from my kids once more. She was confronted and claimed it was hers. I didn't back down. I cant believe what I was dealing with. How dare her. By the end of my rant to her she had admitted it was mine and I said I KNOW. SLAMMED THE DOOR. Prior to all this the first length she moved in she had placed her trash cans on the side of my windows. And we placed them in the dedicated area and a note to let her know they belong there. No offense was made she understood and life went on as usual. Well the next day after we caught her with the theft. She decides to take her trash and recycling cans and put them under our windows. O have moved them 9 times in 2 weeks. It's a game and its caused me so much anxiety,my autistic child seen his belongings next door and tries to go in their home to retrieve them. The landlord just says shell talk to her. Or she try to come by and "check things out" Its petty, immature, I can't take the anxiety and living in discomfort. Smelling nasty garbage and used baby diapers. I'm feeling harrassed.
Angiepants80 - 8-May-18 @ 5:05 AM
I am in rented accommodation tucked in a corner of a cul de sac for access to my driveway I have to drive over neighbours drive. The estate agent of the property failed to inform me of parking dispute with previous tenant or advise there is a line of bricks that run across the top of my drive and up to that line it is the neighbours property. I parked on my driveway but my back wheel was inches over the line, the neighbour photographed it and sent it to the agent and the landlady. It is difficult for anyone visiting to know there is a line to clear as the drive is badly designed and they have the space for reversing out of their drive, but they never go within 3 feet of the line, they reverse the other way out on to the road. Anyone visiting would think the top of my drive is mine as it's where I access my drive.. Now whenever anyone visits I have to make sure the wheels or even back end of car is not anywhere near the line, on the very few occassions there has been an overhanging of wheels they photograph it and send it to agent and landlady. I have never blocked him in or parked my car on their bit of tarmac, only had my wheel inches over the line. I am constantly being spied on they record the time and date of my visitors, they even leave part of a blind open so they can guard their little piece of tarmac in case me or a visitor parks too close or over the line. I feel very stressed and angry that they are monitoring me, they even sent a photo of damaged tarmac to the agent, I had a panic attack when I read the accusation, when I went to see where the damage is, it is only close to their door where their car repeatedly goes over, my wheels never touch that area. I am moving out and the landlady asked me not to report them, they never speak to me they just smirk. I really want to report them for the stress they have caused me and my family, is monitoring and photographing my drive and keeping a diary of numberplates and times we didn't quite go over the line harassment, because I feel harassed, I fear of what they are going to do, as previous tenant told me he tried to sue them for driving over a plant. I am going to video my move as I'm sure he will try and say I've damaged something. I'm really looking forward to moving from this horrible situation and from being spied on, I am thinking of letting the establishment where he works know I am going to take action for harassment from him. I would welcome any advice. Thanks
Caz - 26-Apr-18 @ 11:55 AM
Hello, we have recently (approximately four months ago) bought a new puppy into our house. We all love him with all our heart and today like most days he was playing outside in our front yard and I was supervising him and popped back in the house twice for about a 30 seconds each to get him something to eat. Three ladies who live at a house down the road came and started screaming and shouting at us and complaining that my German Shepherd puppy had gotten out of my front yard and tried to attack their children. They also were shouting constantly and said that their children were frightened and could have been hit by a car. These children are around three or four years old and are always left to play outside on the road alone and unsupervised. A couple of children were watching with my puppy from he fence of my front yard so I was watching my puppy with caution just in case one of the children got too close from over the fence and accidentally got hurt by my playful puppy jumping as he has slightly sharp nails. I am certain that my puppy did not get out of the front yard as it is secured with a fence and he can’t jump over it as he’s unable to jump that high. These ladies started shouting at me and my younger brother (I’m 19 and brother is 18) and they were around 25,35 and 50 years of age. They threatened to kill my innocent puppy by hitting him with a baseball bat and stoning him if they ever see my puppy playing in our front yard again. I’m absolutely in shock as they have dogs themselves and have threatened to kill my puppy so brutally when he was playing in the garden and maybe their kids got scared because he barks but he isn’t aggressive, he’s just playful and I don’t understand why they thought my puppy tried attacking their children when they were not even there to see that happen themselves. I just froze in shock because it was incredibly upsetting hearing them say all that about my puppy and I cried for hours after the incident. I am traumatised by the words they used and the way they were shouting at us as if we’ve committed a crime. We have been living in the neighbourhood for years and are a respected family. A lot of people came out of their houses today to watch the incident and I feel so distressed and humiliated by this incident. What can I do about this?
K - 26-Apr-18 @ 1:05 AM
YoungK - Your Question:
Me and my partner have lived in our first flat for 5 months, we are a young couple in love and have the off squabble every now and then (more specifically once every 2-3 weeks). We try to keep it down, however when we’re distressed our volume gets a little loud. This is not a constant thing, usually lasts between 10 minutes to 2 hours. One night when I wasn’t in the flat, I came home in the early hours (2am) after a night out with friends. As walking up my stairs just past the front door, I heard very loud banging on our front door. I raced down and my neighbour started shouting at me complaining of noise, I informed my neighbour I just walked in the front door and denied any noise. To which my partner came racing down the stairs as he could hear her screaming at me, telling her to leave me alone. My partner was in the flat and was watching TV (normal volume). We tried to tell our neighbour she was wrong and she started shouting at us referring back to our arguments she had obviously been hearing in the past. She got very personal, to which lead me to cry and feel in total shock. Anyway a month or so later she stopped me on the street and threatened to sue me for making loud noises. She has also called the police on us which we now believe she’s being malicious. Me and my partner are very hard working, young couple that hardly make any noise (not compared to our other neighbours with their music and arguing, which we don’t complain about). Is there anything we can do? We are renting and have informed our agents. I’m so scared what she’ll do next.

Our Response:
Your neighbour would have to take this to environmental health or as a private action through the courts if she wanted to take it further. In either case, evidence would be required before any action could be taken and as it's unlikely that evidence would be forthcoming, you should be fine.
ProblemNeighbours - 25-Apr-18 @ 12:33 PM
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