Anti-social behaviour can put a tremendous amount of strain on people and, if left unchecked, it can ruin a community all too soon, with disputes between neighbours being a common problem. There are a whole range of laws governing anti-social behaviour, which can lead to legal action being taken against the perpetrator(s).
If you're experiencing anti-social behaviour from neighbours and need guidance on what steps to take, you can use our free Anti-Social Behaviour Action Plan.
Anti-social Problems
Anti-social behaviour can incorporate a whole range of issues. These can include problems with:
- Noisy neighbours
- Drug taking and drinking on the streets
- Pets – particularly dangerous dogs and Barking Dogs
- Litter and graffiti
- Vandalism
- Racism
- Teenage gangs or other forms of intimidating groups or individuals such as young and unruly children
- Abandoned cars
- Fly tipping
However, it’s important to remember that in certain instances, anti-social behaviour can mean entirely different things to different people. As neighbours, it’s always necessary to realise that we will often have different values, beliefs and opinions, and so what someone might object to and see as anti-social behaviour may not be covered by any of the legislation. For example, if you like to mow your lawn every week, but your next door neighbours takes a more relaxed attitude towards keeping on top of their garden and only mows it every month or so, then that wouldn’t be classed as anti-social behaviour under the current legislation.
How To Tackle Anti-social Behaviour
There are numerous different approaches to tackling anti-social behaviour involving neighbours living close by. The action to take will often be determined by the type of behaviour involved and the person(s) causing the problem. For example, how you deal with your next door neighbour who is playing their music too loudly after midnight is likely to be very different from how you’d tackle the problem of a gang of teenage youths jumping on top of cars in the street.
In certain situations, you may feel that the problem is serious enough to dial 999 to get the police involved or, at the other end of the scale, you might be able to resolve the problem by having an amicable conversation with a neighbour. Remember that neighbours may not even be aware that they are causing a problem.
In other circumstances, however, your best course of action is likely to involve contacting the relevant department within your local authority or alternatively, getting in touch with your local anti-social behaviour co-ordinator, who is likely to be a member of your local police force. You can find out who that is on the Home Office’s website by simply inputting your postcode. Within that website, there are also details about how you can contact your local Crime and Disorder Reduction Partnership Representative.
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If your complaint is investigated, you may be asked to gather evidence by the antisocial behaviour team, which might include keeping a diary or log of the offending behaviour. Depending upon the seriousness of the issue, the police may be called in straight away. Should a particular case go to court, you may also be asked to give evidence.
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What About Possible Reprisals?
Many people who are asked to testify against their neighbours in court are frightened to do so for fear of reprisals. However, it can be arranged for you to give evidence anonymously and you do have Confidentiality Rights. Also, a police officer, a doctor, health worker, council official or teacher can also give evidence on your behalf if you feel particularly vulnerable.
Other Solutions
In many cases of antisocial behaviour involving neighbours or other members of the community, a resolution can often be obtained before the matter even gets to court. Official warning letters and interviews can sometimes be sufficient to stop the problem, but other methods include drawing up Acceptable Behaviour Agreements or Parenting Contracts as well as Fixed Penalty Notices and Noise Abatement Notices. The courts also have the power to issue Criminal Behaviour Orders (CBOs) and Civil Injunctions and can resort to other methods such as dispersal orders and demoted tenancies, for example. Read more about how to apply for a criminal behaviour order or civil injunction.
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How do you tackle that? Laws seem to be in place for landlords but not when someone actually owns the property?
Police have been called numerous times, but they say because she is mentally ill, they have to tread carefully.
Even had a stone or something thrown at a boarded window last night that was broken recently and still trying to get it replaced.
It is affecting my health with my horrible neighbour and his so called friends are the same and think it is fun to give grief to others. Was a good place to live until he moved on the street.
He has been warned to stay away, but he won't listen.
Would like a way to get him and the others like him to move quickly, but no one at the police or council seems to care.
Domestic rows early hours of the morning.
Trespassing, intimidation, neighbours young son put dent in our insulation cladding, ear piercing screaming. Has no parenting skills whatsoever.Made slanderous comments, is a bare faced liar. Other neighbours have complained as well, Social Services and police have been around. Substance abuse.
Neighbour looks like a dainty doll and is able to fool people in authority and is considered to be
' naive but genuine' ( they would not think so if they could hear her coarse comments) and nothing gets done. Feel stressed and tense and even nauseous at the thought that I might see her or her son and his friends and/ or any of her family/ visitors when I come home from work.My daughter has a chronic health issue which gets worse when stressed. Stressful job and no peaceful home; can't even be out in garden in nice weather and often have to leave home to get away from their racket.
I am supposed to agree to mediation with this neighbour who has proven to be a shameless, irresponsible liar with violent associations .If I refuse mediation I am unreasonable but why would I hand her ammunition to create even more havoc?
How is this fair? How can mediation possibly help when faced with such a person who uses verisimilitude to great effect?
Just so tired of this situation and no end in sight.
Has three flea riddled cats,not even taking responsibility for them and the SPCA doesn't care.Neighbour is our is a thoroughly unpleasant person and we consider her and her family/ friends dangerous.
I hear you about mediation but do we really think it's going to work????? Maybe it's a shot.
report ASB to the police, your local council, Councillor, MP.
*What is restorative justice UK?
Restorative justice brings together people harmed by crime or conflict with those responsible for the harm, to find a positive way forward. Restorative justice gives victims the chance to tell offenders the real impact of their crime, get answers to their questions and get an apology
*What is a Community Trigger?
A Community Trigger is a formal anti-social behaviour case review process. In this review, organisations will identify if any further action can be taken.
At the end of the review, an action plan will be produced and shared with the Community Trigger applicant.
Each organisation will then complete the actions identified.
A Community Trigger does not guarantee the anti-social behaviour will be resolved. But it does ensure that all appropriate actions are being taken to address it.
A Community Trigger case has to meet set criteria to qualify for a review. The criteria may vary between different areas.
In each area, the organisations will agree their local criteria based on the local issues.
The Community Trigger case review does not review anti-social behaviour cases which have been resolved. It focuses on cases where anti-social behaviour is happening now.
It also does not consider complaints about service delivery.
For example,
a complaint about an individual member of staff.
In these cases, applicants will be referred to the appropriate agencies’ complaints procedure.
Birmingham City Council, the Clinical Commissioning Groups, all Social Housing Providers and West Midlands Police have a statutory duty to deliver Community Trigger case reviews.
The Council manages Community Triggers on behalf of these agencies in Birmingham.
*What are the criteria for a Community Trigger?
A Community Trigger case has to meet set criteria to qualify for a review.
In Birmingham, a case needs to meet one of the following thresholds:
A minimum of 3 separate anti-social behaviour incidents reported during the previous 6 months to either Birmingham City Council, a Social Housing provider or West Midlands Police.
In addition, at least one report needs to be made during the last month.
(If the same incident has been reported to two separate agencies, this will qualify as one incident).
At least one hate crime incident reported during the previous 6 months to either Birmingham City Council, a Social Housing provider or West Midlands Police.
(The incident must have been reported as a hate crime at the time of reporting).
We cannot consider incidents unless they have been reported to Birmingham City Council, a Social Housing Provider or West Midlands Police.
*Who can request a Community Trigger?
A Community Trigger can be requested
One bloke goes house to house wanting neighboures to block my car in he parks nearly on my bumper does work police do nothing at all ive photos they just arevnot bothered its hard
The area is for over 55's but they are not.
I have done everything by the book, dairy, photos, and even been to court twice.
My health has taken a battering, and now my stress levels are through the roof, I am anxitious all the time, I have been harrassed by her, and intimidated. I am 64 years of age and should not have ot put up with this, The council have said that she should not even be in the home. But when the police remove her, back she comes. Court served papers on the door did not stop her either, and there seems to be no law that can break down the door and arrest. 19 months is too long. I get promises that they will be out, but still there.
There has to be something I can do, as I can't take the sleepless nights anymore, or the fact that they can do what they want and get away with it.
We didn't like her mother but the mother moved in after us in 2001 and we have been here since 1999.
Generally two very unpleasant people who drink ( he drink drives) and she has co-morbid bipolar disorder ( told from her late mother to us) and frequently drunk.
Dog barks day and night. Doing building renovations. Really anti social.
Abusive towards me and my mother with swear words. Trying to remove the boundary fence between our property and her's on shared drive saying it's on her drive and she has a surveyor's report. We have had to call the police out as it's criminal damage to remove a fence which is not legally yours and her mother never complained about in all those years and actually pre dates us to when the property was built in 1960's.
We therefore have ownership of that fence. It's coming down she said. whilst telling my 80 plus year old mother to poff and die stressing my mother out. Our CCTV caught everything. She thinks she is untouchable but we are going to take her to court for a restraining order which I'm hoping the police will support.
She should be in a mental institution.
She sits on her front and drinks coke. Now I keep discovering that 'someone ' is throwing coke over my car when it's dark but I have no proof. This is affecting my mental health.
I moved house a couple of years ago, nightmare from hell. This behaviour affects your whole life with sleepless nights, it affects your nerves and thoughts. Whatever happened to 'Be Kind'.
It is unbelievable to read how many other people are suffering in the same way. I believe that councils are to blame for allowing certain families to dominate areas, usually non working cash for kids families. (Sorry fraudulant benefit claimants, that are working and now honest workers, who are actually worse off than these dregs, are donating free food to them). Wake up! These people get huge amounts of cash off the government, sorry off your PAYE taxes, don't pay rent! Council tax etc. Also lay in bed til stupid o clock. It is the cash for kids children born to these these parasites that are hurling the rocks
It is impossible for anybody to know how it feels to live waiting for the next thud on the window or door unless they have experienced it.
Do holder empathy will come back and slap you in the face unless you live in a mansion with a 10' high wall.
It is a crime to to cause others to live in fear, to cause pain and unhappiness. The police need powers now. It would be very different if a rock was hurled at the Queen of 10 Downing St.
We have had rocks on our roof, numerous trees poisoned, a bird bath damaged and then stolen, tyres slashed, a light pointed into our bedrooms all night, a radio left playing all afternoon for weeks on end while she was at work. She has driven off the road and stopped 1 metre in front of me and abused me in front of another neighbour (she later sent an anonymous letter to that neighbour to defame me), sent a host or poison pen letters (anonymous) around our court also to defame me, abused me time and time again (mostly while drunk.) I've had abuse screamed at me whilst mowing, rocks thrown at me, and my brother and I were hosed! Made nuisance calls to my mothers home, wrote RIP on my mothers letterbox. Damaged my letterbox because I put a CCTV present sticker on it (after installing such.) We have had vexatious complaints made to the police and our places of employment,I have received email spam (with her name) and phone calls from services I've not contacted. To top all of that she gets her noise monkey of a husband (who thinks he is an excavator) to make noise all day long.
Interestingly enough, everyone she's ingratiated herself with in our court has moved. We have never bothered to do the same and we are sure we have been bad mouthed to all and sundry. To this day she continues to drive slowly up her driveway and watch me if I am outside gardening and she does the same to our kindly elderly neighbour further up the court. When she couldn't convince him not to talk to us she sent her husband to their door to intimate them! He nearly broke their front door down!
I've done my best to ignore everything with class resilience, and this is probably why she continues! Honestly, truth is far stranger than fiction. The woman is a total disgrace and she works for our local council. Yay!
We are an educated family with two beautiful children. People wonder what it is we have done to deserve this. My family believe that our neighbour felt rejected when I didn't become "friends" with her. They also believe she had a thing for my husband. At any rate, we have suffered 12 years of grief because we didn't become chummy. I refuse to move however while I care for my elderly mother.
The police wanted us to try mediation. Would you mediate with someone who has done all of the above?
Neighbours, chewing gum spat over the fence, and having to listen to neighbours domestics during lock down. I’ve received a threat in response to having reported them.
Government need to be tougher, increase power to police and protect victims stop rewarding bad behaviour ! All this research has into impact of stress abuse loud music antisocial personality disorders etc etc pointless if not taken seriously.
We too had a druggie move in beginning at lockdown smoking skunk coming in our house stinks had a word kept doing it contacted Council they spoke to her the tenant he is not he then calls us a pair of c...ts so police involved he gets a community res shuts him up but still smoking weed one day he gobs off at me basically had a little chat with him not bothering me anymore hopefully little tosser will get lost soon
When he goes out he will stand still and stares up at my window for ages (No kidding, it was just like Michael Myers in the first Halloween movie ) Plus I am a guy and this makes me feel very uncomfortable some guy standing there staring up at me. I feel watched when i go out too.
regards,
Hope you can help, any help usually is long winded and stressful, I think she should have a warning letter perhaps from the council, am I right?
Thanks
I've told the council last yr that I've had enough & I want him out, hes now got an asbo. He is trying to fight it in court, making out that hes innocent. The only advice I can give to others going through the same thing is record everything but don't let them know you're doing it. Courts wont help unless you have evidence. I used the councils recorders but found that my mobile phone video picked it up better if you tape it speaker side down to the wall or try sitting it on a window sill. You only need about 3 & a half minutes f
I first contacted the Police and the neighbours housing Association in October 2015 as said neighbour was dealing drugs from her home.
From 2015 until the present:
October 5th 2015 - Police seized neighbours dog. At least two incidents involving neighbours dog and her friends dog in the street. (Neighbour never got her dog back).
Neighbour dealing drugs - 2015 - 2016 - Reported to Police and her housing association.
Police raided neighbours house in May 2016.
May 2016 - Neighbour and her friend vandalised a small fence I had erected to stop her dogs coming into my garden and using it as a toilet. Confronted neighbour regarding vandalism neighbour threatened me. (CCTV)
May 2017 - Neighbour assaulted me, she and her friend then lied to The police. I was charged, went through thirteen and a half months of stress and anxiety. No conviction - I can't even remember what the term used was! (Audio)
May 2017 - Neighbours friend threw a rock through my living room window. (CCTV)
May 2017 - Neighbours friend poured paint over my car (same friend that vandalised window) (CCTV)
September 2017 - Neighbours friend made a veiled threat to put my windows in (made good his threat on 4th July 2019)
July 2019 - Neighbours friend threw brick through my bedroom window at 2.55 am on July 4th 2019. (CCTV)
August 2019 - I had an appointment with Victim Support for advice and support - It was suggested I get a personal camera (the type you wear. I have one and use it).
September 2019 - Neighbours friend threatened to slit my throat and used her finger to gesture this. (CCTV)
October 2019 - Neighbour shouting abuse through the wall, shouting that I was a cow and a nutter and she was going to kill me. (Audio)
I have kept reporting drug use at neighbours address and 'suspected' drug dealers in the street (providing car registrations numbers to the Police). I have contacted my neighbours landlord by email to make them aware their tenant is still allowing the home to be used for 'drug misuse'. Class A
I have crime reference numbers relating to most of these issues.
I have e-mails to both neighbours housing association and The Police from 2016 to the present day relating to the issues highlighted above.
I have CCTV of varying quality regarding most of the incidents.
I have audio from the day the neighbour assaulted me, in which she clearly threatens me as does her friend.
(Neighbour threatened to come out and knock f/ck out of me).
I contacted my landlord - Local Council last year about these issues. They directed me to The safer Neighbourhood Team, who couldn't help as the neighbour isn't a Council tenant!
I contacted CAB last year and again this week regarding all the issues. They attached a file regarding Anti Social Behaviour and harassment and taking legal action.
I contacted my local councillor last year regarding
As Rollingman said "you'd think people would be a little kinder" and they're right, was just thinking this myself.
I know that there are a few helplines to try,so please don't despair, you're not on your own.
Keep well.
Our next door neighbour goes out in the shared yard at 1am, 2am, 3am and 4am every night banging doors, coughing, spitting and smoking. At first, we heard other neighbours shouting at him to shut up. We are woken up every night by this.
Also, he has a nasty little dog that barks at the slightest noise and attacks if you go in the yard, it nipped my Son on his ankle.
We finally had enough and contacted the local council who called back quickly and sent letters. The neighbour obviously received his as he banged on our door loudly with his letter, I’m not answering due to COVID-19 and we are now keeping a diary should this go to court.
The stress is affecting us terribly and broken sleep making us sick
And in his witness statements he says that my witness had added him on facebook and he was 'reluctant to accept', so how do I subpoena 'Facebook' to prove that the two have never been friends, little lone my witness hitting him up? Its pretty obvious he wasn't reluctant since he was the one who invited him, but the entire aim of him inviting him was to 'cause serious trouble in the relationship that I had with the witness'.
Both are two very important lies that I need to prove along with him implying I broke and entered and assaulted a different neighbour which I have no record for as I did not do it.
Also due to harassment, intimation and stalking by the neighbour toward me, I have learnt the hard way to always take my phone with me. On this particular day we built a privacy screen and the neighbour put a blow horn over the fence, which I stupidly had not taken my phone for as the privacy screen was up and we were only putting the nails in for the plants
I am a person who I like my space and privacy but since these men moved above me, they're always knocking on my door asking to borrow something.
It's getting on my nerves. They also smoke on the little landing, the smoke comes straight into my living room and makes me feel sick. They leave rubbish bags outside the main door till rats come and tear up the bags. They've been using the space outside to dump rubbish, fridge, beds, all kinds of crap, the place looks like landfill site!.
I can't bear it any longer but I can't afford to move just yet. I feel like a prisoner in my own place.
It is a 2 bed flat but I think more than 4 people are living up there, is it an HMO? I am so stressed coming home from work everyday, wish could move.
Please look into this.
I had problem once again on tuesday at night then I had to called the ambulance because I wasn't feeling well cos the stress the neighbour issue is been causing, Then I had to rest the day i came from the hospital and the sleep and I had problem all night from wednesday he was banging 23:29 pm 23:35 pm 03:36 am 04:05 am 06:01am. REF 749201 and the Police CAD 2140/11/09/2019,banging all night and I had to do a project and I was exhausted stressed tired and last night i had problems to sleep once again.I woke around 23:44 and my flat was entirely smelly marijuana from bellow. Then I had he banging bellow my bed around 04:44 am REF 750315. With all this happening I haven't received any message or email from Adrian Mirembe. I'm really disappointed.because I'm not seeing he is doing anything to help with the situation. I can see he on my neighbour side.Because until now he is been letting him to do with his anti social behaviour.This is been going on 1 year already. And I had contact the Ombudsman the MP the Councillor.I've been went to the Hospital 3 times already.And the situation no been solving anywhere is just more and more affecting my life and health and my peace of living.
I have had nothing but problems with one set of neighbours since i moved in a year ago. The first thing one of them said to me was "if you need a drug dealer, i know every one in (town they used to live in)!!! I couldn't believe she said that! They smoke very strong weed and we can't sit in the garden or have windows open because of it. Their child who is 7 constantly shouts at top of her voice even late at night (when other kids are long in bed). She has now started deliberately kicking her ball into our garden. She did it six times in 24 hours. I have chronic pain and have to keep getting up and down to answer the door to her. Last night i told her i am fed up with it now and said if she does it again i am keeping it. She did it again so i hung onto it. Next thing her mum is banging on my door (about 8.30pm). I threw it back over the fence this morning. They often have about 30 piles of dog poo in their garden, the girl stands on her bins or swing and constantly looks in our garden, we can't go in the hot tub in peace without her shouting at us. I need it for hydrotherapy for my conditions and i now don't want to get in it due to this. The girl also chucks rubbish all over which blows all over our open plan front gardens (she once destroyed a huge chunk of polystyrene so you can imagine the mess when it blew all over our garden). I can't put a fence up as we arent allowed (housing association). My nerves are bad, i am not sleeping properly and my condition worsens with stress. You all have my sympathy and understanding on here as i know what you're going through.
Police do nothing as I have no evidence. I am not a paranoid person and never have been.
If you tell police about other mental health issues you are made to feel you are imagining it all. However, if police checked the CCTV cameras, they would see the same vehicles following me about everytime I went out. I have been gossiped about on the neighbours doorstep so loudly for me to hear and also as soon as I go outside into yard.
My dogs are scared to go outside often as they glare down at them and scare them on purpose.
I only moved here to save money as London is too expensive.
All those years we have been subjected to a family behind us from the same Housing Association, kicking football against their house, now this isn't your just a kick around, it's a constant banging every other day and I mean booting that football.
Along with the coming over of fences and playing football from one house to another, the fences are the low 3ft type picket fence and subjecting us to abuse when we have told them to stop booting the ball against our fences or trespassing or shouting and just generally being loud.
Now we have had this on video and been told we can't film this apparently but when we had an incident of school kids causing nuisance outside that was OK by the police, so was kind of in a grey area about that, as we are not filming because we are stalkers, just capturing anti social behaviour.Also to add these kids that are there,don't live there,it's thier grandkids.Our Housing Assocaition do nothing.
It's making my life hell living here, as this area is how I can say not a mixed area, it's a large concentration of one community. Many a time I have been told " this is not your area" and had homophobic abuse as well.
Hopefully someone who knows the law can advise us if we are we allowed to film anti social behaviour, and is our Housing Association required to help us if we have been suffering with anxiety/depression and hyper sensitivity and made them aware of it for many years.
At lunchtime today he came to the door with new complaints about me taking my cat onto his garden to defecate, damaging his car some six weeks ago and generally calling me a liar. All this was shouted on my doorstep and when asked to turn down the volume he just shouted louder. We are now thinking of moving again
But what can I do to stop this behaviour?
Rangbthw police and they said it’s a council issue I’ve contacted council but they haven’t got back to me I’m heavily pregnant live by myself with two daughters
I’m scared to go round in case they do Somethin I’ve had my tyres slashed and yet still no one does anythin
I feel some people aren't suited to loving in flats. I have an upstairs neighbour that can be noisy but I wouldn't start banging as I accept people aren't able to levitate!!
an unknown item that clatters on her wooden floor.
From 08:00 until up to 20:00.This can go on all day, every day. I have approached the parents the housing association many times but still can not have a day of peace. This is an immigrant family and of late have accused me of being a racist and they are taking me to court.
im working as a nurse and can't cope with this any more i have no sleap before long shifts at work. im always in stress becouse i don't know what to expect from him next...please help me!!!what else i can do ?who do i need to contact if council and police are doing nothing
I dont know what to do to this type of people. Is their any origination or group who can deal and can bring changes to those type of people. Please help me out
Last year a younger man moved in as well and has caused nothing but trouble since. The walls are so thin we can hear everything; constant banging and shouting, furniture moving, work out machines. We called noise control team continually but they could do nothing and the useless council have absolutely no power either. What’s more we even had to call the police on numerous occasions as he was threatening other tenants one time and another he’d beaten his girlfriend(?).
Both of the property’s landlords have blocked our calls too- truly shows the type of people renting out this place...
He’ll go away for weeks to months at a time only to come back again and start the disruption all over.
Whole situation has drained us and the children are petrified when home alone.
We have even resorted to lying on the floor in hallway downstairs to sleep, as it’s the only place the noise is quieter during the night.
Put the house on the market but after 2 failed attempts to sell things aren’t looking up there either...
Just wish inconsiderate people like him would burn in hell to be honest so the whole ordeal could be over.
Good luck to anyone in a similar predicament, remember to keep your chins up!
Put up a battle with these people threatened them to keep away or ELSE my bat would deal with them, yet it doesn't make any difference, it's like they feed off of it.
Neighbors who live below me started trying to harass me over what? Some mentally ill neighbor on my other side banging the wall in? So they occasionally started to ring my doorbell for me to open the door for them, YET... they know the PIN. It's harassment. They'll do that because the door is on the other side of the building and I'm on the complete opposite side.
I asked family to help me, they declined. So now guess where I am? AT BREAKING POINT.
Just looked out my door at 11PM cause I heard banging, turns out it was my mentally ill neighbor next door. Then I see some JUNKIE woman swearing at me outside, and I'm like WTF? So I am hated for trying to defend myself from these nasty drug addicts and crazy people? Saying how she hated me, I don't EVEN know the woman. But if I see her again and if she is anywhere near my home, she will get a bat to the head.
My mentally ill neighbor caused so much trouble that people targeted her home, she is that mentally ill that she thinks it was "ME". How stupid is that?
My house got targeted too you know. Someone broke my door handle and messed with my locks. But from what I learned, there is no getting through to the mentally ill.
Police = useless.
Council = useless.
Mediator = useless.
And you know the police? They don't even come out anymore when you call for them. That;s why I gotta protect myself.
I saw a BLACK man outside my house the other day and I was like WHO IS HE?
@sara I feel you. It's not fair is it? But you seem like you have serious mental issues, because if you didn't you'd have left that home ages ago. Specially if you WORK, that's what I would have done if I could have escaped. All that you explained is a nightmare, something I'm going through too. Well something similar... but also other stuff too because of one person. And you're right, these people can get you put away. That's why I would usually advise people to MOVE if they can.
It got so bad at one point I asked my council for a transfer only for them to respond by saying - we don't do that anymore now you have to SWAP houses.
Tried the home swappers, nobody wants to trade and you have to PAY to use the services. Can't afford that. TIME WASTERS! Why did the councils remove the option to move after you've lived somewhere for several years?
I've been here six years now, it'll be seven after 2018. It's horrible, they should give people the option to move, because bad things can happen and then you are stuck suffering, and I know deep down that not everywhere is like that. Growing up and living alon
I believe Governments support them. One only has to look at the many complaints made and how the system is failing society. It all has to do with Power, Greed and Money. If only the large number of abused confront Governments we could make a difference.
When election day comes remember what government made the difference in combating bullying and meant every word of it/
These are at unnecessary times too, middle of the night and even at 5am in the street. This happened again at 7am and even in the afternoons. The man who screams and shouts is also swearing “shut the F up” etc and the woman is just all out screaming.
I might take a note of exactly when it happens but not sure who to report it to? Any suggestions?
Now, I’m not saying that every teen or young adult is like this, there are young renters/homeowners who do brilliantly with houses but for these three it’s not the case and they are clearly not mature enough to have a property because of some of the things they are doing which is causing myself and others distress.
They are never awake during the day, their curtains always drawn but they will keep the street up from 10.30pm - 4.30am every single night with guests coming and going to the house, allowing their dog to run through the streets doing its business in gardens and on public footpaths instead of giving it at least access to their large back garden to do its business.
It’s constant crushing of cans, throwing them into their bins, slamming the lids, slamming the doors, shouting, talking loudly on their phone, trying to get access into my back garden via the gate, inviting guests over until the early hours on both weekdays and weekends where there are children needing up for school, people needing up for work, people needing up for appointments or whatever important things need done that day.
They always take their bins out and back twice a week on weekdays after 1am when they are clearly indoors all day to take them out at reasonable times which suggests they know it’s disturbing people.
The police have been out at least once to surveillance the area because of unrelated crimes that have occurred in the area in the past eight months, but I highly suspect as well as other people also affected in the street by the activity that there’s a lot more going on than just drinking and staying up all night wandering outside peoples houses and they aren’t exactly doing a good job of keeping it secret either.
Been to the council, have asked them what they can do but because it’s either a private let or bought house they can’t do anything about it, that it’s a police matter if I or anyone else in the street feels unsafe, which isn’t really good enough. If anyone’s lives are in danger or their properties targeted for break ins, arson or whatever, then the police aren’t exactly going to be here within minutes.
Is there not an easier way of finding out who owns the house or who they rent it from so that they can be contacted directly to get these issues resolved? I think I’ve been very tolerant the last two years I’ve lived here, but enough is enough, my gate has been tried twice now and that’s something I absolutely cannot ignore.
I need help with an insane neighbour.
He lives two doors away on his own.
His mum and dad own the house but moved out and left him there a few years ago.
He’s obviously got serious mental issues because during the day he will walk past, shake you by the hand and be pleasant. Then, usually at night times or early hours of the morning, he will walk down the street shouting and swearing at the top of his voice (and he’s got a very loud voice). He uses really bad language, won’t say on here but I’m sure you can guess.
Sometimes it’s just havibg a go at an imaginary enemy, other times it’s aimed at specific people in the street.
We also believe he keeps drugs there for a local dealer. Very often cars will pull up outside, bib, then either him or the other man (the one we think is the dealer) will come out, hand them something, then they’ll drive off.
There are a lot of children down our street and also an old people’s home, they don’t need to be living with people like this. None of us do though.
I contacted the police one night when he was out in the street shouting and they said someone would be in touch. A couple of days later a policeman called and said there’s nothing they could do and if it happened again we need to call an ambulance. I called an ambulance the next time and they said he’s not hurt so there’s nothing they could do.
His mum and dad have no interest in him. They live a long way away so can’t hear. Him.
He’s also smashed most of the interior out of his house. Apparently he has no bed or furniture. It’s all been smashed and put on a bomb fire.
He seems to be knocking all his internal walls out too.
Desperately need help. Is there anything we can do?
As for everyone else, the council and police are not your only hope. Fear is a remarkable tool-use it. I understand some bad neighbours are threatening and violent so try to think of another way around that to scare them. Saying 'I'll call the police' to some people is like throwing petrol on a fire. Try using other ways. Think out of the box. Good luck.
As long as you guys and women keep doing what your doing
Every one will continue to live in fear
I hope one day the law works Soon
To protect us from such people
Kind Regards
Your local judge
Retired
well I have court twice seeking possession of my home and he will not stop walking around under windows shouting abuse at me should I react I am arrested. I refused a date a coffee and rang his works saying I want to speak to his manger to be left alone because he gave me his works details and I dont want a thing to do with it.
now he is trying to set me up as if im stalking him what one earth he is ugly, revolts me.
he now has a woman with kids going in and out shouting they throw things inside outside you get the idea. he is now dragging things on the floor so it scrapes the carpeted floor just to irritate. he has severe mental health issues and is smashing things daily, paranoid all the time.screaming he even made weird noises under window yelling arghhh rock on rock...im petrifed of them and they will be back in an hour after getting food.
bail conditions say cant ring landlord cant ring police.
yet he has a 1997 harassment order on me. what for? turning him down?
no because while high and angered that when knocking my door I wont answer and be polite to let him in so he could attack me.
he now makes things up and as i live alone I cant defend myself .im scared to death im having to stay out in all conditions due to him smashing things.
taken to a&E as they thought I had had a stroke just really upset.
what do I do?I will lose my home due to a psyhco neighbour and because i rang his works asking to be left alone I now am getting told upto 10k compensation and posisble jail time.
im innocent ive not done a thing wrong ever in life im so confused and trapped.
I am afraid help me please
Recently next to my house moved some gypsies, like maybe 8, 9 all mans and they are noisy and suspicious!
Because my house is attached I can hear everything and is verry disturbing!
And they are knocking at night on my wall near to my bed!
I am scared, what can I do?
He is a parish councillor so don’t think we have a chance to complain against him.
What to do?
They are constantly banging , playing loud music ,shouting , over filling the wheelie bins, running over my head, the council have all the evidence . I have a disability but this council don't care.
If the council go to them they make more noise. The tenants are smack heads.
Five years ago i had the misfortune of having two of the most inconsiderate neighbours ever move next to me.
1) Our upstairs hall windows are directly opposite.It became apparent after a week or so that their upstairs light was going to be left on from sun down to sun up every single day.I did speak to the husband and for a few days their bathroom light was left on but then they just went back to the hall light.So my house continued to be lit up throughout the night.
I bought blackout curtains but they are not 100% effective as they are not flush to the wall.So I continue to put up with it.
2) windchimes!!!! they decided to put these up outside their kitchen window adjacent
to my bedroom window.Well as i am a light sleeper i put a polite note through their door asking them to remove them at night.Husband response "it's not bloody big ben".....never the less they were removed.
3) persistent blocking of my driveway by occupiers son/daughter whilst having a convo with female occupier and having them think it funny to ignore me and pretend
they can't hear me .
I have ended up having some huge rows with the female occupier who never says a word unless she's got someone with her.
I came to realise that they were deliberately winding me up and i wasn't prepared to get into trouble because of them so got the police involved.
They were spoken to,as was I and things seemed to calm down.
This was in oct 2016.
In oct 2017 they were reported by someone to the rspca.I had their daughter at my door being rude.Of course straight to me when its nothing to do with me.
shortly after next door get home from their holidays i get a police officer at my door.
He gives me a list of issues they have phoned about.....His face was a picture and he was less than impressed when i told him these issues had been dealt with and are what i had said when i got the police involved originally.
I told him i had not even spoken to them since the following oct.
This was all because they had been reported to the rspca and blamed me.
They also lied saying my dog has stopped them from sleeping by barking when without fail when he goes out last thing at night their house is lit up like a christmas tree....not a house whose occupants are asleep and he doesn't bark.
I subsequently made a complaint of harassment for which they have been spoken to.
I have kept my distance from these people.
The wife continues to have her moments.
Back in january after heavy snow she cleared the pathway outside her house and i watched her throw snow into the road right in line with my driveway rather than put it by the kerb.
This has all happened because i had the nerve to ask for some consideration.
And I was polite about it until pushed to far.
I don't want to have to make things legal but I will not be intimdated.
What other course of action is there?
1.A Gentle Request - talk to the neighbour, they may not realise the impact they are having on you
2. A Letter or Note - see our templates section on this website for help
3. Mediation/Involving Other People - ask someone you both trust or use mediation service
4. Keep a Record of Everything - this is useful for taking the next steps
5. Environmental Health - they have a duty to investigate noise and some anti-social behaviour complaints
6. Legal Help - talk to a solicitor about taking a private legal action.
Is curently 1.50am and the upstaires neightbers are playing loud music and dancing around. We have a 5 year old dooughter and it afects all and we cannot sleap. This is happening every week. Can you please advice. Thanks
It is about his dog who has been defecating and urinating in my backyard which is a communal place so I do not have a say in the matter of who can use the backyard or not.
I spoke to the housing officer of my housing association about this matter but she insists that I should bring proof of the dog defecating in the backyard before she take any action but she would have a word with the neighbour which she did and the neighbour has agreed that it was done at night so he did not see it but he would clean it and he would keep his dog on a leash from then on. He did it for some days and the defecation started again and his dog is peeing on the wall causing some horrible smell which forced me to keep my windows in my sitting room closed at all time. I spoke to the housing officer again about it and even send photos of the dog peeing at the wall but the housing officer insisted that as it is a communal area everyone are free to use it and she cannot do anything about it. If I can send proof of defecating by the same dog then she will take the matter to the neighbour and she said there is no proof that it is the same dog causing the nuisance.
The neighbour is the only person who uses this space with me and his dog and no one else has a dog in our building as we cannot have any pets without written consent from the housing association authorisation.
I must also say that the neighbour is always standing at my window in my backyard while he could use his own backyard in front of his own window which is a bigger space anyway. I think he is just being antisocial and unfortunately because of him, I cannot enjoy any privacy in my sitting room nor the backyard space. Could you advise me on how to do deal with this situation please as the housing officer were quite rude repeating to me that the backyard is not my private garden but a communal space.
Thanking you and hoping to get help to sort this problem which is annoying me a lot.
Yours faithfully
Sabrina
Human beings, are SELFISH, CRUEL, SADISTIC, PERVERTED AND INSANE!
There is always some NASTY human, who wants to be a DOORSLAMMER, AND A NUISANCE!
It does not matter where any of us move to, because if is a human being on our doorstep?
expect PAIN and NUISANCES!
It looks like, i will be MOVING AGAIN!
I really hate the human SCUM race!
he dared me to ring 999 I have done and now I am being ignored by landlord and police. im sure he has made up some BS response and probably beaten himself up by now. I dont doubt it as he is stark raving mad, hes kicking banging everything now to cause a reaction shouting yelling called police and they are ignoring him.
he is just an attention seeking idiot and he isnt going to get my attention. he is a monster who preys on women and just thinks yelling in someones face is normal, he is cockey and thinks its his right to push people about but not me, he never expected me to turn on my heels and stop him. he never expected me to tell him what i think either to his attack.
I dont know what to do im sure I will lose my home as its his intent to rid me out, so if another person gets my place he will do it over and over, until he eventually goes to jail.This will be a repeat offender im sure of it drugs make people crazy and he is definitely on something.
coughing all night glazed over eyes and gym obsessed I imagine perfect place for him to harass women.
whatever do you do about someone like that? I want to be able to leave my flat without his door unlocked and hearing his footsteps hes obsessed by whatever I do.when I sit typing here I hear 'hello hello up there?? hi hi hi bang thump bang' I dont respond bang or anything im waiting for him to tire of it.yet i know this psycho wont.
just crazy.
Initially, I thought I might speak to him outside, but there was not a good time. I spoke to the manager, but he is new and she seemed to want to give him a chance. I spoke to her another time, but she seemed resistant and she has not witnessed the noise at its worst. The manager feels it is difficult just getting one "qualified to pay rent" (and the management company supervisor is not easy to deal with). She seemed to want complaints from others, for it to be validated, though I am the one being directly affected, daily.
I have called the police, yet I think the neighbor knew they were outside, and turned down the volume first, then feigned innocence, said he could wear headphones, etc. No change. I began feeling so put off by his behavior and did not want to speak to him (and I don't climb stairs). I wrote a letter to the neighbor asking for his assistance, having another place it at this door. There was no response. The guy makes other noises very late, just doing whatever he wants, whenever he wants, also walking VERY hard, yet as they say, nothing can be done about walking.??
I am usually up later than some, but have had my days and sleep altered, besides emotional and physical health. I have told the manager that any other tenant would be detrimentally affected by this, besides. No one gets to witness it for a necessary stretch of time to be impacted by it. In many years here, this is the first time having experienced this particular situation, with having had respectful neighbors. I began thinking, that he must have some mental problem, after an awareness of being disruptive, yet making no adjustments to his behavior, which led me here. I am at my wits end. What can I do?
I thought something was really wrong with him as, he comes in starts slamming things late evening and the kicks something at 1.30am every night after he has been watching tv at 12am.
I knocked his door politely as I have had flu and he just yelled in my face saying I was harassing him. I said hang on you said knock my door if youa re making noise , you smashed something up 12am.
he started in my face screaming yelling and I said this isnt normal behaviour you said knock my door when there is noise now you are screaming at me and everyone can hear you screaming. He said good everyone hear me...everyone I am stressed.... then he banged his bike against doorframe like a crazy man and I had to wait for him to shut the door while he told me.
I wont live like a 13 year old you arent my mother im having my tv on in my bedroom at 12am and im not wearing headphones you say you do so what dont expect me to do it luv. I said its called being reasonable as you say you dont like noise I wear headphones so you dont flip out like this.he was shaking his face red he went from 3 accents which im really confused about how can someone change their accent 3 times in one arguement? well he did!
he went from australian to english rhyming slang screaming in my face then italian and demanding I go into his apartment I said no several times. he said come look around I darent do diy incase I upset neighbors.
I said well you dont do DIY at 1am drilling and from 12am loud tv what do you expect you sleep all day then do tv diy at night.
it was clear he was on something and volatile.
that night I rung police 1.30am he went nuts downstairs and he has been paranoid shouting at slef locking the external doors to the apartments im sincerely afraid of him there is something not right behind his eyes and they are weird really dark almost black as if he is souless.
like nothing in there...im really concerned for my own safety. I have made no complaint to police or council anti social behaviour I dont know what to do
I walked away he shut door I muttered under my breath wow he is absolutely stark raving nuts!
I am leaving him to his own devices but he has started following me around below the flat yelling you up there shhhh. im sitting on pc im unwell and im making no noise no foot noise...so God only knows. I saw into his apartment and his pictures are hanging lopsided and his beds in his living room diagonally its madness.
no chance am I setting foot in his apartment or speaking to him im 100% igoring him.
i do worry from his temper hes the kind to walk up behind and stab someone.
to be honest im scared for my own safety.
As soon as everyone’s lights are out in the street they decide to come out at least four times a night for one to two minute random intervals between 11.30pm and 4.30am every single night within earshot of my bedroom window talking loudly and slamming their bins.
They slam their bin lids really loudly and have conversations with other people like it’s during the day and not in the early hours of the morning where people and children are getting up early for school or work or appointments or college.
Every Wednesday they will take their bins out between the hours of 12.30am and 4.30am and the rattling also disturbs my sleep and wakes me up. I’m also sure they move other people’s bins around too which causes problems on collection day where my bin has not been collected a number of times now as a result because it’s being moved from its collection stop.
To make matters worse they have now put up a manual porch light (when the street is bright enough as it is with the lighting) which shines directly into my bedroom window like a floodlight and no amount of blackout blinds or curtains will keep this light out.
Their house and my house is separated by a single pavement which is how close they are to me
but because I’m a council tennant and they private let there’s nothing the council can really do to stop their behaviour.
But is there really something that can be done here? It would be nice to be able to sleep in a dark quiet room for once not constantly being woken up by noise and moving shadows.
There have been serveral scuffles
Between the brothers in these families and it’s ongoing
Just wanted to know what actions they can take
Reasons why my 3 sons get bullies in school and have no real friends.what can i do to resolve this issue please reply on form this a serious matter they are all bulling us outside and inside the flat.I dont usually confront them because i believe that if you know the truth that that is but they are trying to give me a bad reputation.I have no problems with them but they do.Please Help can i get a reply on the form
Human beings are naturally ROTTEN!
There is ALWAYS some horrible CRUEL sadistic human, who enjoys SLAMMING DOORS and being ANTI SOCIAL!
EVERYWHERE!!!!!!
She stands on her back garden which backs on to a public walkway shouting lies about my family and also discussing her own business
The last incident was on a Friday evening when after no speaking to her for almost two months she texted me to find out why I didn't complain about a party at my neighbour the other side of me. This then led to other things being said about my family. She was also trying to message my daughter who was at work and my neighbour who held the alleged party.
This problem has been going on almost 12 months and I need to find a solution.
I am thinking of seeing her landlord to see if he can get her to act reasonably.
Anyone help me please
i moved to the flat she came to complains about my kids make noise and she told me the building has a problem that with the floor not thick enough to absorb the noise ,then she sent me a letter through the strata given me warning mention that my kids jumping off the furniture ,wrestling and jumping up and down on the floor which is not true that things make my wife and me under stress and start smack the kids for any tiny thing which make my kids not feel well and upset at school.,in addition my son has asthma.
that lady has the same story with the previous tenant and he has only one kid
she over 50 years old she live by herself no kids no boyfriend or girlfriend and she only has 4 years in that unit.
in my opinion this lady she is Racist against the people from non English background and she hate the family with kids because in the other flats around her more noise coming from the people talk loudly after 10;00 pm and my kids sleep every day between 7:30 and 8:00 pm.
My wife now under stress and anxiety and she want to leave the country
SAM 29/01/2017 @4:41 am
Our problem neighbour started a campaign against us when we moved in 7 years ago with my elderly disabled Father. We converted garage into a living space for my Father who is in a wheelchair the He wrote letters to the Local Council stating he had concerns the 'neighbourhood was going down hill, our cooking smells would be unsavoury and our bins would cause animals to scavenge". Utterly bizarre to say the least. Since, he has written in excess of 10 letters to us about nonsense like stating he will gain access to our property to "inspect the border" and often stands on a 6ft step ladder staring into our garden. We have called the Police shown them all his letters and they have been excellent and as I understand it warned him strongly to stop harassing us saying he has no legal right to enter our property. He has now taken to installing about a foot of chicken wire across the top of the fence? He's in his late 80's as is his wife but its getting us all down and I just don't know what to do? The adjoining neighbour strongly dislikes him too and have been very supportive off us. I feel he must be mentally ill to act like this?
2 mins later my door is being aggressively banged approximately 10 times we get up and as we approach the door the partner shouts"come on you c&£! Do you want some come on" at that he kicks and punches my door causing it to bow in cracking and splitting the wood. At no time did I open my door and I shouted I'm phoning the police. His partner was shouting him to go back in the house and he went shouting "f£&king phone them"
When the police came we explained the issue and the damage to my door he stated that it's new year and that we were entitled to party and the level of the music was ok. He did state that because my husband swore at her as she walked away it was an offence (I'm unsure of this as it was not shouted and inside my own property which we own) we explained that if we had been approached in a better manner he would not of swore and the officer agreed and said he understood.
Now the officer went round to the neighbour who was flat out with drink and his partner was denying that he had caused damage and stated that the door bangs anyway. The officer has said it's mine and my husbands word against his and hers. But how can this be when he was heavily intoxicated and possibly won't remember what he has done. Please help as I'm at my wits end. We have never had issues with any of the neighbors and this is totally out of the blue. The neighbour has stated he is suffering with depression but where does my family come into this my daughter was distraught scared and could not sleep for the fear of him coming around again. Please please help,,,
Am currently depressed and cannot go back to work as am a bus driver. My doctor has stopped me from working due to the strong medication am currently taking.
She has also got a camera in her kitchen window that is recording me as i have to pass by her house to her to my door. I really nee help as i have tried to avoid her, tried to talk to her an she refused an the authorities are not helping.
Would love advice on what I can do next
i am private renting and i am on the second floor of three
the lady opposite me always seems to leave her street door open when she is in during the day , so all her interior noises , her phone must ring about 20 times a day , her hoover , any guests she has i get all her noise , i have no privacy whatsoever i have to use my mobile phone downstairs out of the building because any noise i make she will hear ,i dont flush my chain that often , i listen to my tv really low, my computer through headphones,
dont street doors have a function, are they not a privacy from other neighbours? do they not have a function? she is an oldish lady but shes the worst neighbour i have ever had
i complained in the estate agent about it they all just laughed as i gave them five thousand pound to live for another 6 months like a prisoner as i type this now its open
Four years ago they gained planning permission for an extension which is not completed to date as its a pay as you go job. They tried to build further out and the council was called to stop it They have not paid for the surveyors to date but their priorities are not in the right place even to share the costs of a new fence which is their side to maintain.
They are so angry that I reported their illegal actions re the extension that they to date are defaming my name with the neighbours. And so low can they stoop when they paid
a neighbour to lie for them re our dog being a nuisance to the council. How in hell can she hear my dog when she is 20 houses away!The child from that house has attempted to assault me and the dog several times. The Police have not done anything as they think its a civil mater.
They have now asked the neighbour 20 house's away to lie on their behalf by complaining to the council that our puppy is barking whilst our dog cannot enjoy his space in the garden due to the goading by the neighbour. This is fraud when you make false accusations and we will be notifying the Police who probably won't do anything which is why these neighbours are continuing to do as they want.
The Act gives the police powers to disperse groups of two or more people who have gathered in any public place, if their presence 'has resulted or is likely to result in any members of the public being intimidated, harassed, alarmed or distressed'. This does not however apply to authorised protests or pickets. The police may also accompany any child under the age of 16 years to their home between 9pm and 6am.
Following from earlier post, tenant in next door flat is getting worse. Turns music up when we close our curtains to go to bed.
More problems with rubbish in her front yard, and several times her child has been seen outside the house in pyjamas in early morning (pre 07:00am).
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Is there snything we can do? She is in a ptivate tenancy via DSS
Need advice as it's making our lives a total misery.
The woman swears at her children all day which then causes them to scream and cry.
They have no regard for anyone in the neighbourhood.
Shared alleyways are for access only, you should not leave anything in them (such as your bike),
You are not allowed to lean anything against or attach anything to your neighbour's fence
Maybe your dog does bark too much?
My husband has dementia and gets very upset by all off this . I too feel very annoyed and upset . When we told them to play in their area , one must have told their dad and he came round and was very unpleasant and shouting at my husband and said they can cycle where they want . Where do I stand on this , anybody know please ?
we are living in this area since last 40-45 years. our neighbours have dispute with us some 7 years ago on car area issue.
now their childrens are grown and started trying to bullying us. approx 1 year back, one of the guy have pull door bell and this issue repeated again.
and they start bullying us by doing stupid thinks like loud laughs and noises..
we even not go outside accept when necessary. please advise.
Next door was a lovely old man he got I'll etc and his grandson moved in . The old chap moved into a home the grandson stayed! He doesn't work smokes dope all day in the garden and house.
He has recently started selling drugs, we have rang the police with over 30 number plates and photos of lads coming and going all times of the day and night! It's not a council area so they won't help, why won't the police do anything ?????
They are playing loud music constantly they are currently on bail for assaulting me and now the music playing has got worse.
Are they in breach of anything?
The Antisocial Behaviour Act does give the police powers to disperse groups of two or more people who have gathered in any public place, if their presence 'has resulted or is likely to result in any members of the public being intimidated, harassed, alarmed or distressed'. They can also issue parenting orders to parents of persistent offenders.
The Environmental Protection Act gives the council powers to take action over anything that might consitute a nuisance. If this is occurring regularly and is a nuisance to the neighbourhood, they might be able to intervene.
She has completely escaped justice, I am still being menaced by police ringing and banging on my door because she keeps making false complaints against me all in a desparation to have me convicted or arrested
The lawyer doesnt give a damm and has left me to type up the transcript of the voluntary interview I gave to the police. It runs to 50 pages. Who can help me. What can I do?
I think it is being done to make my wife feel uncomfortable as he knows she is alone with two young children in the daytime.
The sound bleeds through really loudly into my house. I have 2 young children and have to either put the tv/stereo on to cover up the noise.
This has also happened when i have visitors around, it is generally in the daytime.
I feel as though this is being done on purpose and My wife is obviously upset by this and feels intimidated.
I have been recording the noises at times, but there have also been plenty of witnesses.
I am wondering what i can do about this?
i live in a bedsit in a big old house what has three floors and three bedsits on each floor. i have a problem with the guy above me. he drinks around 20-30 bottles a night ! and he then bangs doors and stomps around falls over (he is not small) he is cracking the plaster on our roof and he is making it very hard to work as i don't get any sleep i have had to work with only having two hours sleep.. dropping bottles filling up the bins with the bottles.. its really bad. anyway i have told my landlord many times and he says that he has words with him but it just gets worse (doing things louder and more) to be fair it would be good to talk to him and sort it out but i think its a large problem for him witch is his problem and the rest of us should not have to put up with it. any advice would be good thanks guys...
I have always took a pride in my home
I work
My housing association rdgenda
Keeps on putting drug users alcoholics either side of me and people with mental health problems
Constantly get woke up with door banging arguing shouting it goes on and on
It's unbearable
This keeps us awake they then tend to leave at 2 or 3 in the morning
Not sure who the actual tenant is
Any advice about how to approach this anti social behaviour
The neighbour from across the road came banging on my sisters door shouting and swearing and it's a private house not council and she's still shouting and swearing that I've parked on Public rd and I've nearly caused an accident ! I haven't if she can't drive that's her problem as is her vile attitude her boyfriends quiet and she's moved in with him past few years , my sisters been there near 30 years and was gobsmacked , but told me that my midwife nieces friend parked there not long ago and she was swore at snd harrassed by this woman and told her she paid rd tX it's not a private rd so no she wouldn't move her car, I was fuming at this occurrence and her son started to get aggressive and swear as I moved my car as to keep the peCe as I didn't want any bad feeling with my sister living there and I didn't .
But now I'm thinking that this woman's behaviour is vile and she is I fact anti social and to start swearing and causing a nuisance on private property is a breach of the peace and harassment.
Do and should I infirm the police to warn her of her inappropriate behaviour and antisocial behaviour .
Thank you regards
Mark ex Royal Navy veteran
Eventually I went to the council. They have evidence through noise monitoring and my videos recorded on my phone and served a noise abatement notice and on his girlfriend a community order preventing her from coming to the property. Which she has completely ignored and has already been fined £100. He allows her to come into the property and she is basically living there full time. I have since discovered that he comes from a very well to do family with a lot of money and in fact it's his mother that actually owns the house. It's also come to light that his behaviour at his previous address was exactly the same and to quote he was 'run out of the village'. Mum is fully aware of her son and his issues. The Police are here constantly for one reason or another and have took impact statements from me and other residents. I hate living here as the only single woman on the street and in the semi attached directly to him. I'm embarrassed to have friends/family around as they have had to experience his behaviour. I haven't sat in my garden once through the summer whereas usually I have loads of pots that I maintain but this year I've only had a handful as I'm imitimidated by him and his guests. I go out a lot more to get away from it and most of the time I dread coming home as I just don't know what is going to kick off next.
The council and the police have done as much as they can and I think it's in court again this Thursday but I have little confidence as he doesn't listen to anyone and it just seems to go on and on.
The mother has even stated that she thinks it's 'unfair to keep moving him on' and is well aware of his problems but she has chosen to let me suffer with it. He hasn't worked for a couple of months, n
Could you let me know what you think about this and if you think I have anything g to worry about as regards arrest , my wife thinks I'm worrying for nothing over something so petty but because of my criminal record I worry
Many thanks Mike
Apart from the horrendous stench she is swearing her head off and generally pretty aggressive especially to the disabled neighbour opposite her who is now in the verge of a nervous breakdown literally as she suffers the brunt of it every day... Anyone who lives in East Grinstead I'm sure you will know who I'm taking about as her body odour clears every shop she walks into and we have to suffer her daily!!!
She has been told but ignores complaints....I think she actually enjoys the attention she receives from smelling so bad as she can walk into town, she can walk into her own shower!!!!
The last place she lived it took the poor guy living below her years to get her out...... He said she stank then and that was over a year ago and she certainly hasn't seen water since then!!!
We are all trying to buy our flats but who would ever want to buy a place with a neighbour who smells so bad that you need to hold your nose entering the building.... PLEASE what can we do as we are now so unhappy and upset but for some reason the housing association keeps protecting her ....WHY!!!
I live in a semi detached house.
I would like some advice about my neighbour. Her husband works 4 on 4 off night shifts weekly Monday to thursday. Every night her husband is working she has friends round and they begin drinking at about 8pm. They gradually get louder until we can hear them over our TV and then right into the early hours of the morning the following day. Needless to say this keeps us awake (I too have two small children who are usually in bed by 8 but are constantly being woken up). I have asked they keep the noise down but it has seemed to make the problem worse.... In addition to this her children 9(female) and 2 (male) are up until around 11pm seemingly to be being egged on to bang loudly "jump off the couch" ect. Sometimes you can feel the vibrations in the floor they bang so loudly.... I'm unsure what to do.
We are about to put the house on the market, but can't afford a detached house and feel like we have nowhere to go. We are thinking of living in a caravan.
Can anyone tell me, if noisy neighbours involving kids, ever get sorted out, or are normal people supposed to just keep putting up with it. The law seems impotent on the subject of excessively noisy kids nuisance, calling it subjective and not taking into account the constant stress it causes others.
Lately he has been making rude gestures to me, as in finger up.
He has been across to our house and accused me of damaging his vehicle in the early morning hours of darkness.He claims he has a witness that it was me. I asked him to leave my property and don't come back.
He would not name that witness. I said I am asleep at that hour. He said can your wife verify that.
Anyway he mumbles to me from across the street.
The Police said it seems he has mental problems and to avoid him, also do not engaged with him.
They said if he comes on my property or assaults me, to call them and they will come.
At the moment I do not feel safe spending time in my front garden.
We have no house security other than some side gates I erected before this situation.
Can you offer me any advise...
What to do?
I could really do with some advice. For about the last year my neighbours' behaviour has become increasingly anti-social and out of control. They make a lot of noise, regularly dump items in front of their house, drink in the street and allow their children to play in the street every afternoon - despite the fact the road is a busy London street with cars regularly coming down it. I also smell the smoke of spliffs wafting through my windows when they smoke in the garden. They have a dog which often barks outside but worst is the noise they make out on the street with their friends who live in a similar house opposite. I think they are both council houses. The parents of the children do not appear to work. I am a teacher so need to go to bed early. I am writing this post at 11.30pm. There is loud music from a radio blaring from their back garden - despite the fact I called from a window about half an hour ago politely asking them to turn down the music. The father was clearly drunk and the music is still playing. Earlier this evening the father got into a loud argument with another neighbour and was shouting swear words aggressively at him as the children looked on. He was drunk and was stumbling into fences as the mother tried to haul him away.
So. As well as being increasingly annoyed with their behaviour, I am also quite concerned about the children, who are about 8,10 and 12. They are often up and out on the street until 11 or later, even on a school night. I'd really appreciate some advice. Thank you.
Not long after we decided to keep our distance, mainly due to the above but also their constant mithering and want to argue. At the same time other neighbours also distanced them selves to which they blamed us for influencing them distancing themselves. After a letter, him further threatening a delivery man with a knife and being verbally confronted twice on our front along we decided the need to keep well away from them.
They have taken this very personally and contacted the police accusing us of all sorts of things, sent a made up solicitors letters accusing us of harrassement and the community officers turning up at our house to discuss our side of events.
Over the last 18 month encountered nails we have appearing in the back garden, damage to both cars, nails in two of the tyres of my car, garden lights disappearing, a different neighbours son being threatened by them resulting in our decision to install cctv. Since then we have almost been run off the road by him, verbally abused, fingers stuck up when driving past, coming off their drive and entering the road I was coming down almost causing a crash.
The police have been around twice stating both times that evidence is required.
They have commented on it comes across as a neighbour dispute as they are logging things, can only state they are lying.
We have had a lot of support from other neighbours and even in previous address never had any issues. We have clean records and lots of friends.
Police seem to be doing nothing and have suggested mediation. We have reservations as appears then that it is a mutual disagreement and we will end up with a signed legal document for all parties to sign. We are against this as we are being harassed and feel threatened.
As anybody else encountered anything similar you would like to share?
However, last night reached a new low when someone was screaming in the street 'I can't get the needle out!' and a person was being resuscitated after what appears to be a heroin overdose. We haven't been aware of drug use before and this was a loud and frightening episode and we are really concerned about the effect it will have on residents - including families with newborns and young children.
As the police are aware of them I don't know what to do in regards to reporting this anti social behaviour and class A drug use? Any advice please!
Really I would just like to be able to find a way of contacting the landlord as i'm sure they wouldn't want this going on in their property, but I don't know what to do!!!
Got to me tonight though and I banged on the wall which makes me as bad, as I think I might have woken her youngest child who is still crying but it was really making me angry as I'm trying to sleep..
he said i cant do anything as they wont listen. im stressed and deppresed and i feel i been watched 24/7 i cant go out because im scared they break into my house which they did 5 years ago. Can any one help me with any information or number to call please :(
There is also a problem with the next door neighbour and his dog, barking at all hours of the day. They never take the dog out for a walk, they just put it in the garden, which doesn't have any grass, and leave it there for up to an hour each time, and the thing just constantly barks (well, yaps).
What can I do about these people.
However, the dog still fouls on the drive approx. once per week and he doesn't clean it up straight away. Sometimes it is there for weeks. He knows the dog walks up and down the driveway as he always makes sure the gates are closed, and he knows the dog fouls there as he does clean up after it sometimes. However, he does not need to use the driveway to access his front door. The postman, paper girl etc all use the driveway to get to my door and it makes me feel sick that they think I leave the drive in such a disgusting mess. I tend to use the back gate, otherwise I need to use a torch to walk down my own drive. In winter I am never in during daylight hours so it's practically a no-go zone. It is soul destroying that he clearly has no respect for my property. Is there anything I can do? He knows it happens, I've complained several times before, and I don't see why I should have to inform him every time his dog uses the drive as a toilet. He is in all day as he is retired and it would take 2 minutes for him to check.
I have a garage near my home that works on cars at there forecourt which is approx 25ft as the crow flighs and in our line of sight, unfortunately during the past year there's been lots of loud foul and offensive language happening, I've politely asked the owner and the boys working there if they could stop the bad language as its offensive and troubling to my family and when I get visitors.
When we moved there a few years ago the owner was in charge on a daily basis and there was never a problem and we only ever polite greetings. When we bought the place we knew that the daily sounds of running the garage would be what we sign up for, but not the offensive foul language and loud non business related shouting that happens each day now the boss isnt about.
I have also sent a couple of letters to the business owner to explain that it's not about the day to day noises of running his business that's the problem but just the foul language and loud shouting we have to listen too.
Haven't done anything official with council or police with fear of it getting worse or reprisal, and obviously hoping the business owner will help.
Any advise it slowly draging me and my wife down.
Something would be done if they had to live with these low lives... laws would be changed and society would change too. I dread to think what this UK chav society will be like in 20 years time, we will all have CCTV cameras put into our homes to save us from the neighbours!
Chavs have a poor upbringing with bad parents and grow up with a chip on their shoulder.. taking it out on the rest of society.. they should be housed all together on a chav housing estate and then let them all destroy each other. No wonder housing estates are becoming no-go areas with a chav reputation.
Chavs won't be told as they are not brought up to respect anyone... bottom line is, they don't respect themselves....
I'm just desperate.
I am having some problems with a few very nosy and unpleasant neighbours in a shared block I live. It is a supported housing scheme, yet we all live our own independent lives and a key-worker once a week who sees us individually. I have lived where I am now for the past six years, and everything was pretty okay - everyone respectful of one another's privacy.
The recent problems began when a younger male moved in upstairs from me in March 2014, and was caught smoking some illegal substances by his key worker. However, the man appeared to blame my partner because he lives directly opposite him, and began making our lives a bit of a misery ever since. He has thrown live fire-works out of his windows down to ours, and spread terribly untrue gossip amongst others - especially tenants who live in a block of flats opposite ours, where these residents are drug and alcohol dependents and why me and my partner don't associate ourselves with them either.
The staff at our supported housing scheme are entirely aware of what does go in our block because they frequent it enough to know who causes what kind of trouble - my partner and I are the most mature in the block and although we are friendly and approachable, also keep ourselves to ourselves. My partner hates going to his own flat because of the younger man mentioned, and so spends more time with me than he should.
However, this has now led to the young man and another new nosy tenant in his 50's reporting their concerns about me and my partner seemingly in each other's company more than we should be. I received a letter of notification from the benefits agency saying that they want to interview me but have not told me why in the letter. I looked online to see what one of these letters is about, and have discovered that it was issued by the benefit fraud team - I am angry about it and am fully enlightened as to who has done this to me, and want to confront them but can't. I have also reported it to my key-worker, and let her know that I feel very upset and betrayed.
There is a lot of envy about my relationship with my partner, and the ones who have done this are often sneaking into one another's flats and stirring gossip etc. so that we both feel uncomfortable and fearful of what we should and shouldn't do. My partner does not spend all day everyday with me, and they know this, but have decided to do this nasty thing for reasons neither of us understand.
I am protected under the mental health act and will hopefully have the support of my key-worker when going to the benefits interview, but have no idea just how far this will protect me in regards to my benefits if they believe what the other residents have said and exaggerated our time together. Sorry this is so long to read.
I then received a letter outlining all the "issues" he has with me so responded with my view on the situation and issues that he had caused me like allowing his decorators to leave paint pots under and I front of my door step when I was on crutches after knee surgery making it extremely dangerous for me to leave and enter my house, the intimidation and the fact other neighbours had made complaints about his smoke alarm going off for nearly 52 hours and that I have never made a complaint to him about how he is with me. He has now sent me, the council and my land lady's daughter a letter saying he is taking audio recordings of me and going to see a costs order and damages claim against me and have me evicted.
I am a young woman who is on my own a lot of the time as my husband works very long hours and he is a 62 year old man. I'm scared to leave my house without checking he is not in the street before leaving and scared that things will get worse as time goes on. I tried to be nice when I moved in and said hello whenever I saw him and never got a response.
For two years now I've been in medication to help me sleep and anti depressants for anxiety all because of the neighbours.
They are nasty anti social scum, they smoke weed all day get drunk have around 10 people round a night.
We have reported them but of course they knew it was us! There's only two of us in the building, things got worse after that. I make reports but I don't complain I'm too frightened.
My kids are scared of their kids, we can't use the garden and the boyfriend who isn't suposed to be living there thinks he's some sort geezer. The kids are foul mouthed nasty and rarely attend school.
On study days I take my stuff to the library at uni as the noise is just unbearable.
It's got to the point where me and my kids are leaving, we can no longer live in such an environment.
Why must we endure when these anti social chavs get away with everything?
Life is unfair but if you are in this situation the only thing that will fix it, is move away, you can't change your neighbours, they will never except you as people nor will they ever be considerate.
I'm moving I can't live like this, things will be instantly better once I'm gone.
I would be grateful for your advice in this difficult time. This is the 2nd time it has happened same time each time as we have now begun to follow. Friday evening roughly around 7ish.
Regards,
Started,Oakes them in a polite manner,to turn the music down,they said ok.it did no good,the music got louder n louder.when I remarked on it the next day,I was threatened three times with a garden fork.Since then my wife has been terrorised by the husband,and has never got over it fully.We've called the police several times,because of threats,harassment,and damage to our car,which we don't have anymore,
Further to that,the husband got himself banned for life,from the local fishery,for threatening the duty bailif,( namely me ).He blames me for his ban,but left saying quote"I'll fix you ya bas--d
He said I hit him,cos his nose was bleeding.Now I was on my back,he was astride me,and there was absolutely no sign of blood in his nose.i had to get his landlord to warn them about they're behaviour,but it still continues.my wife and I are both disabled,in our 70's.I just feel sorry for them cos they're ignorant,and don't know any better.
The husband is on the dole,gets all the benefits going,sky tv in every room,house like a palace
And would'nt work on a convulsion fit.No wonder I'm mr. angry
These landlords get to increase a richer pension and as they don't live in these streets have no care what goes on for the rest of us .
We have a landlord here uses a company and thier renters are great .
The DHSS landlords need to be governed and held responsible for the wads of cash they rake in.
All landlords should be made to use a company so at least then people have a place to go and voice concerns.
As i write this i have to listen to some unemployed 20 something hitting out 3 notes on a drum machine since 9 30 am, it not that its madly loud but its the bass notes vibration is non stop all damn day like water torture. Then to add insult to injury we recently had some work done on the house with the renewal scheme and was thrilled. Now if we sell and move into over 55 home we have repay work done on this house or live with this crap for another 5 years . So probably another DHSS landlord that buys this will be benifitting from what we will have to repay on work done here Unfair id say so ...
To be honest who would buy this as its a sure bet the windows will be open and sound like a festival in the street. Wake up They get it all for nothing and think its owed to them so they act the way they do as never had work for it.
The antisocial behaviour "special police" cannot deal with any problems involving drugs so they wouldn't help neither would the council. The police dislike coming round to deal with them because of the shouting and abuse and so on and throwing of stones.
I put up with it for four years and then I used ammonia spray on them and a baseball bat. Every time they walk past gathered outside the back of my property I would shoot them with a air rifle from the window.
Very dangerous time in my life but I couldn't stand it any more it had to end it was an absolute nightmare and it become very very vicious.
I no longer have a problem but the side effects of all this is I now have an absolute hatred for my property I mean I hate the place!
I no longer take care of my home because it doesn't seem like my home any more. I have a machete in every room baseball bat behind the door pepper spray I purchased from France, knuckledusters body armour crash helmet and a dog that would rip your face off my loyal companion.
I won but I hate the property and cannot wait to move out! I want to turn back into a human being.
My Polish neighbours (6 in a 3 bedroom house) appear to be the usual amateur DJ's with absurd industrial level soundsystems and dubious taste in bass heavy music which they feel the world wants to hear.
The advice given is always "go round and ask nicely".
So I did, and a guy answered and the music indeed got turned down. To clarify I said PLEASE, THANKYOU and I said DOWN, not OFF entirely.
I went back in the house. Then this other guy who lived there rang hell out of my doorbell, I answered to be bawled at "what time is it? eh? You dont like, you call police." waving his phone clock at me (it was sunday 3pm.). It seems he was the self appointed 'DJ'.
I calmly informed him I didn't want to call the police as they have better things to do than neighbours playing loud music. I also clarified I had asked his friend to turn it down, not off, and said please and thankyou.
He laughed in my face and said "im DJ so i cant turn it down so you dont like, you call police as my speakers can go much louder if you want and it is not 11pm".
I countered that I was a drummer and if he wanted me to I could start practising at 10pm when his kids were in bed as that wouldn't be illegal either, but I don't do that as it would not be a fair thing to do and I am sure he would not appreciate it?.
He carried on, shouting, "Ive been renting here 3 years. You have only been here 1 year so you dont like, tough, call the police."
I repeated I didnt need the police as I have asked a neighbour politely to turn DOWN (not off) their music and I failed to see why this was unreasonable to him.
He repeated how long he has lived there so I pointed out I owned my house, and he didnt, and that as he was only a tenant I was sure his landlord would agree with me he was being unreasonable. I also pointed out I failed to see the relevance of him living there before me as a right to do what he liked?
Then, he smirked and changed tactics again trying to wind himself up into a fight pacing up and down my doorway broadcasting to the world . "Oh, I get it, so what you saying because im foreign I dont deserve to own my house?"
I calmly clarified that he was the one who had suggested I was the one with no rights as I movedin after him. I had merely corrected his assumptions over who had rights of ownership.
To cut a long story short, I spent a further 20 minutes calmly rebuffing his ever more ludicrous and repetitive accusations and outright bullying behaviour and stuck to my guns pointing out I had asked him politely, with please and thankyou, to turn down not off.
Realising I was clearly smarter than him and would not engage in his attempts to e
yet theres no deterant and nothing gets done they are allowed to get away with it,
while the good decent people suffer in silence, me ive had enough I want to emigrate but don't know if illbe ableto ....britains not the land of hope no more its the land of dopes. and no one cares about nothing except them selves .
I feel for every one whos spoke up here and understand the misery ,despair and sense of injustice .....Vex,
I am considering ending my life as I feel there is no way out.
I have tried in every lawful way to deal with the ASB I have to deal with over the years but to no avail.
Those that ruin peoples lives causing ASB are getting away with it as they know the system is on their side.
When you live in a small block surrounded by ASB and the Council tell you no one else in your surroundings has complained, you are stuck, alone and on your own to deal with the issues.
I'm tired and as I can't afford to move there is only one way out. At least when I'm dead I don't have to deal with this anymore.
Recently one of them kick the ball so hard that its smash one of the windows, the following day are window still haven't been boarded up yet & they where playing with a football & it hit the window again! I saw there & I gave them a peace of my mind!
I still believe after telling them to stop, they will continue to play regardless & it's playing my sick!!!
How are we supposed to deal with this as they are only kids.?
His garden is also a 'mish-mash' of strange dead wood and log 'features' that he seems to think area attractive. The whole street passes comment on how bizarre and ugly the whole scene is.
I've contacted Bradford council, who I have to say are predictably un-proactive, and they have refused to do anything, not even to speak to him about it. Can I do anything?
To increase my problem, the flat next door to the recording studio flat, has a tenant with drink and mental health issues, who constantly creating deliberate noise nuisance, on hearing what is every day house hold activities. again as there is inadequate sound proofing the noise is incredibly loud.
Finally next door is an older lady who is the female version of Albert Steptoe of the comedy Steptoe & Son. She picks out rubbish from dust bins and brings it back to her flat. She has 5 cats and the smell of the rubbish and the cat litter which is not often emptied is incredibly bad.
Other than moving home which is not a option at the moment, what can I do? The housing manager knows about the problems, but fobs me off with procedure.
I lived with ASB now for 22 years, having lived in a previous block of flats with a drugs den right opposite my flat for 17 years, moved to this property, where I encounter the same problem from the flat above until, the tenant died from taking illegal drugs & now having to deal with new ASB, from the new tenant that moved in November last year operating a recording studio from his flat, & the other 2 neighbours who clearly have mental health issues, that are not being properly addressed.
What advice can you give & how can you help me?
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