Start with a conversation, not a confrontation
Most people want to get along with their neighbours. But not every neighbour is easy to live beside, and problems can build up quickly if left unaddressed.
The temptation when something goes wrong is to react straight away. Resist this. If you have been kept awake by loud music or found rubbish dumped in your garden, wait until you have calmed down before doing anything. Approaching someone when you are angry rarely ends well.
Once you feel ready, ask your neighbour if you can have a quick word. Keep it casual and friendly. Many disputes start because one party genuinely did not realise they were causing a problem. They may not know how much sound travels through the walls, or that their dog barks all day while they are at work.
Give them a fair chance to put things right. A simple conversation resolves many minor issues without any lasting bad feeling on either side, though some situations will require more persistence.
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Sometimes a conversation is not possible or does not produce results. You might feel uncomfortable speaking face to face, or your neighbour may have dismissed your concerns. In these situations, a letter or note can be useful.
Keep your letter polite and factual. Describe the problem clearly, explain how it affects you, and suggest what you would like to happen. Avoid accusations or threats. The goal is to open a dialogue, not to escalate the situation.
It helps to keep a copy of any letters you send. If the dispute continues and you need to involve a third party later, having a record of your attempts to resolve things informally will work in your favour.
Written communication also gives your neighbour time to consider what you have said without feeling put on the spot. Some people respond better to this than to a doorstep conversation.
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Bring in outside help
If direct contact has not worked, there are several options for getting outside support.
- Mediation services can help neighbours talk through their differences with a neutral third party. Some local councils offer community mediation, though availability and cost vary by area. You can find details through your council's website. This is often quicker and less stressful than formal complaints or legal action.
- Your local council may be able to help with certain problems, particularly noise nuisance, rubbish, and antisocial behaviour. Contact the Environmental Health team for noise or waste issues, or the Anti-Social Behaviour team for ongoing disturbances. Councils have powers to investigate complaints and can issue warnings or fines where appropriate.
- If you rent your home, your housing provider may have procedures for dealing with neighbour disputes. The same applies if your neighbour is a tenant. Their housing provider may be able to intervene.
- Citizens Advice can provide free guidance on your rights and the options available to you. Their website covers a wide range of neighbour issues.
Mediation is particularly beneficial because of its good success rate and ability to preserve neighbourly relationships that might otherwise be damaged permanently by formal complaints or legal proceedings.
Know when to take formal action
Some problems are too serious for informal resolution. If you are being harassed, threatened, or your neighbour's behaviour is affecting your health or safety, you may need to take formal steps.
You can report antisocial behaviour to your local council or the police, depending on the nature of the problem. For persistent noise issues, councils can take enforcement action under statutory nuisance laws. For harassment or criminal behaviour, the police are the right starting point.
Legal action through the courts is possible but usually a last resort. It can be expensive and time consuming, and the outcome is never guaranteed. Before going down this route, get proper legal advice. A solicitor experienced in neighbour disputes can tell you whether you have a realistic case and what it might cost. This is particularly important for boundary disputes or disagreements over shared access, where the law can be complex.
Whatever approach you take, keep records. Maintain a detailed log of incidents, including dates, times, and descriptions. Take photographs where relevant, though be mindful of your neighbour's privacy when doing so. This evidence will be useful if you need to make a formal complaint or pursue legal action later.
Neighbour problems can be draining, but most can be resolved without things becoming too unpleasant. Start gently, keep records, and seek help early if the situation is not improving.
Wish you all well and hope we all have are issues resolved
Whenever, my Mom and I visit my young late brother’s grave on his birthday and on his death day, Doris sent her stalkers to stalk us at the cemetery for 15 years even though Doris never met my late brother and my late brother never met Doris and her stalkers. They are all pure EVIL and hope they will all Burn in Hell!! They deserve it!! Doris’s stalkers put ugly flowers on my brother’s grave on his birthday and death day on purpose. The stalkers were watching me and my older sister putting up our own real red roses on our late brother’s grave by his headstone, not their ugly fake flowers. They were in their cars watching us at the cemetery until we were done and then they leave. How Evil and Heartless are they!! Doris’s stalkers did not visit any graves but they were watching us. Doris doesn’t want to walk far to my late brother’s grave so she send all of her DUMB Stalkers to do it for her Dand they do it. What is so Special about this Evil old Witch?? Jeez!! We don’t know her friends (Stalkers) and they don’t know us. We know Doris because she is our Neighbor from Hell! They won’t stop harassing us. We mind our own business. Doris never get sick because she is EVIL!!! Doris wished bad health problems on us because she is a Witch! Doris is very Dangerous to us because we have health problems because of her, her evil family and friends. Pray for us. Thank you.
They do not have a garden. The father plays with the children. I am sick fed up of all the neighbourhoods children coming in and out of my garden and talking to them makes no difference. What can I do?
Same like my neighbours 7 days a week 24 hours a day dog barking or dog crying,no one has to listen your stupid dog noise...
Please help me to figure out a way to let him know without harming a good friendship!!
Tells me everything I need to know about her, trouble is the younger generation have no respect for anything. In the year I've been here I've never once complained about her shouting very loud at her mother who has dementia at 1 in the morning waking my daughter up..that's why I'm logging everything that happens I'm not going to stoop to her level
Anyway, he has various people visit at anytime in the day, which he is entitled to - don’t get me wrong, he has his own life to live & we respect that but when it impacts ours we suffer, however his what we are led to believe his “best mate” pops round maybe once every fortnight or so to was his car round his, this “best mate” has a suspended sentence for growing cannabis, so make your own mind up about who goes round there & for what reason.
Also we have designated car parking spaces outside our house & another one of his mates, has for maybe two months now parked his SORNed vehicle in our space.
We have a noise abatement notice served against him but because of the infrequent nature of the disturbances the council apparently are unable to prosecute, recording equipment has been installed & we have been able to capture evidence but not enough of it.. it’s been FIVE years almost now, not enough evidence?, really?
His family only visit once in a blue moon & in the past they’ve counted on us to look out for him & his welfare, we had a key & on one occasion o almost had to break down his front door because his smoke alarm was going on for too long, he fell asleep whilst cooking, it started to burn on the stove whilst he was heavily asleep & as he’s deaf didn’t hear the smoke alarm going off, currently off work with stress & anxiety with it all.
For 3 years were on 2nd floor
The neighbour underneath keeps coming out he’s front door intimidating us sucking he’s teeth
We’ve done nothing wrong we’re both scared
To walk past he’s door
They are from Portugal and NEVER stops having BBQ in the rain, snow - whatever the weather condition throughout the year, just literally ALL the time:(
They dont care to block my driveway, throw rubbish in front of my garden porch, their horrible kids (2 young boys) scream maniac in the garden all the time.
We cannot stay outside and once we have, they kicked a ball into our garden - no apologies but when I refused to return the ball without their apologies, they started shouting&swearing at us. I am a single mother and my kids were freaked out when the man climbed at the fence and shouted at my son.
I have never been to Portugal but dont they have any manners? Any common sense?
Why they are so self-centred and only care about their lifestyle???
I have contacted the local council several times but no help at all.
Cannot afford to move the house - devastated.
Over 100 attempts to get them to act and nothing.
The landlord is aware I have been given log sheets to fill in !
I am scared some times to even walk out side my own front door
Nasty spiteful comments and small gatherings of them making life unbearable for me
I have lived in my flat for over 30 years these people not long
I cannot afford to move out
HELP
Failing all that, the only other option is to move and choose carefully, do your research where you move.
Constant noise, day or night. Neglectful of the current only child. I’m hoping they have another so the council move them on…it’s only a 2 bed semi. The amount they shag, it doesn’t seem unfeasible. In the interim though they have made living here unbearable. We have cancelled plans to extend the house and will be looking to move next year.
Also, they copy everything we do in our yard. If I work on my landscaping, then the next day, they copied what I did. They don’t introduce themselves to the neighbors, not even say friendly hi at all. They stayed home 24/7 all day and didn’t interact with a neighbor or even offer help. I caught them watched us through their windows. I caught the guy stared at me the whole time when I was mowed in our backyard and gave me creeps. Also caught, the woman walks over to our backyard to take a look at what we have. It’s none of their business. Recently, we had an Easter egg hunt for my little toddler for fun. They did the same thing, but the kid is 11 years old. I don’t think 11-12 yrs old wanted to have Easter Egg hunts in their yard.
Things got worse; when I was working outside and painting the house, this woman came out of the blue, looked angry, and refused eye contact, so I just ignored her. She walked into the house and slammed the door, and shut the curtains.
My husband and I were like, what’s her problem. The following next day, I came home from work; this guy gave the creepiest look at me while I back up my car to my driveway. I tried to ignore him. He kept staring at me in a bad way until my husband came out from the house, then the neighbor guy looked it away. Then he started to harass me every time I go outside to get my mail or do yard work in the front of the house; he comes out and watches me. I don’t feel safe around them when they are home. It appears that he knows when I go out, then he comes out too. I caught the kid tom peeping through the window blinds while we are outside. We had put fences around our backyard to protect ourselves and wanted privacy as well. I stopped doing the yard work because of him. He would walk and watched me what I do. I told my husband I could not do the yard work or get mail because of him. I didn’t know what to do. I don’t feel safe around them while I am home alone. It seems they don’t get the message. I just wanted to the left alone and have privacy and peace at home.
No day off with their f***smoke and kids are maniac screaming all evening everyday. REAL HELL.
Some how some electrical emissions is coming up into my flat from downstairs..flatest, with static shocks waves. I don't know how to get the relevant evidence to prove this criminal activity against me.. how is even possible to do it .. if anyone's got any ideas please forward it.it seems that everybody is an expert in flogging people off and not taking responsibility. my health has been impact so bad I've been in hospital seeing the cardiologists. Try to seek legal advice. Not getting anywhere far
I'm now in a house and was okay until neighbour moved in 18 months ago. Screaming at her son constantly, pretty sure she hits him but son is screaming and up on his console keeping my daughter awake and as she is up at 6am sometimes, I complained and then she started screeching at me after the H.A spoke to her and she acted like a victim! I stood up to her though and she backed down. She'd already shouted at another neighbour previously who was making noise and keeping her awake but then when she did it, the old 2 face came out.
Just record it and record it, housing associations must be regulated by someone you can go to directly.
I am in the situation, my house has stank of drugs all of today which has annoyed me more as it Christmas Day
Any help will be great
Best to move if you can if bot battle down the hatches and accept they are just not worth it.and dont show fear they thrive in that as most are sad little bullies with very sad small lives and are jealous.
Certainly dint look at evil in the face blank them get them out your mind try and do your normal activities however difficult that may be ..show them your not bothered go.out park your car outside show them you have a life...
Pray to God for delivery from evil and pray they may change but be firm and do realise they probably wont change and your wasting your time trying to be kind to them..they hate you and are cowards licking on perceived weaknesses. Give then no information whatsoever about you or your life or family watch out for others enabling them and feeding them gossip while pretending to be your friend.
Blessed are the persecuted because they will see God and inherit eternal life ..forgive then Father for they do not know what they do...
It’s been off going on for quite awhile ignore at
First, As I thought they had some one of personality disorder. Its somebody thats nasty and knows what there doing.Making someone feel stressed up set. They have given me A nervous breakdown force me to end My tenancy because it’s end . I can’t take no more it’s costing me money to do this it’s not fair. All I’ve done is try to stick up for myself and they have lied to the police. I don’t even talk to these people they very off and on with me sometimes a hello or just blank me I try to avoid them at all costs. I think it is a really vile people narcissist 100% like gas lighting people. Then make out they haven’t done anything when they are questioned .Can I sue these people for Emotional abuse And financial loss i have had to move before my tenancy agreements has ended
I feel so low.
My neighbour hates me and calls me a prostitute. I work with vulnerable people .
She keeps shouting and I hate it.
The other day I lost my temper and knocked on her door and said stop doing this.
I feel they are wanting me out she keeps saying really horrible things to her partner about me and her young daughter does also.
I love my little flat and am getting depressed.
She shouts vile things and I’m so sad
He saw RED and has defamed us around the neighbourhood, thrown dead rats over the fence, verbal abuse, has his visitors yell at us, his mates come around and glare at us from their cars, told me to get inside when I was only placing rubbish in bin, soaked me with his hose because he heard the bin lid go up, sent letters saying we poisoned his trees, then sent a letter of demand for $2500.00. The poisoning threats came after we advised him that his tree roots had lifted our path. We went to the council asking for help over the smoke issue, reluctant to assist, went to the Police, told we needed a Restraining Order - Poke the bear - I don't think that is a good idea as he has firearms.
Help - No help.
Everything Im doing parking on the street is legal, at what point does this behavior qualify as harassment and what can I do to get him of my back?
However, while it is not illegal to park in front of my own house or anyone's else's house, it is certainly inconsiderate. Every homeowner likes the convience of being able to park in front of their own house.
Neighbor(A)the family have absolutley loads of room to park their car outside their house. The wife and husband are choosing to be awkward. If one of our cars are not outside our house they will park it front of our driveway space just to get some sort of reaction out of us. This leaves us nowhere else to park in the street other than park on opposite side of street which is a very high kerb and getting the car of that causes damage on my car & tires easily lose air and end up flat due to parking on high kerbs I can guarantee if we park over the entrance to theirs they will moan about it. But I choose not to do that as I do not want arguments with them as he is very aggressive, scary and frightening
I am not a confrontational person and these people have fiery aggressive tongues. I explained to police via 101 and personally the person I spoke to on the phone wasn't helpful or trying to understand my situation i felt as if he was taking sides since he got showen a video of me shouting while me and neighbour was arguing i also had proof of him shouting at me and coming so close to my face threatening to slap me across my face on this man probably falls in 50-55 age range arguing with me I am 29 years old he has 3 kids, kids who watch him argue and shouting so loud that you could hear him end of the street I feel like that is a very bad behaviour plus the kids watching and growing up around environment like that its awful he has no shame and certainly has some sort of issues with his brain his behaviour is very abnormal. He walks around my car multiple times through out the day keeps looking at my car all day everytime i get out the house he has his eyes on me looks out the bedroom window even if im returning home from going out etc like at 1,2 am
He threatening to slap me and get my legs broken takes var pictures of my car every other day and also of me I find it with creepy and strange behaviour
The police hasn't been much help instead police just telling me not to worry and its not a big deal you shou
Tonight there's extra loud bass thumping music being played, I've just phoned the out of hours number again but they have "a new phone system" and I didn't speak to anyone from previous times that I had to call. It feels like I'm just getting nowhere.
I get extreme anxiety when the weekends approach now and I'm depressed all the time. I beginning to hate myself for buying this property and all I want to do now is do it up, try and make a bit of profit and sell it ASAP. Either that or smash my neighbours skull in and peed insanity.
We have left her a note about the dog barking said, are you aware that when you are out, your dog have been barking all day sound like it’s in distress. Please can you find a sitter for the dog. She came to my door challenge me to call the police.
Because of the dog barking noise. My autism child had to put headphone on all day because he can’t tolerate the noise. I had to take my boys out to their godmother house to get some peace.
Also, she decided to clear out her house put all rubbish in front garden. I wish, I could attached photos on this comment. The smell of rubbish, cats and dog urine were really overwhelmed. There was blue bottle files infested and mice running out from her garden witness by neighbor from other side. My children wouldn’t go out in the back garden because of the smell from next door rubbish. The other day I took my washing out. She shouted aggressively in her language at me from her bedroom window. But then, housing officer called me to say that, his tenant are feeling victimizing by us because she’s foreign.
I am foreign and I live and work in UK Since I wS young. I suffered badly from anxiety, I won’t go out to put washing out anymore. I cried so many times cause I wanted to move. But we spent all money we have on decorating the house. It’s our 1st family home but we couldn’t even enjoy it.
She is different ethnicity and has tries to use the language as a barrier however she speaks perfect English. Her children are jumping of furniture as is cracking my ceiling and they are running and shouting at 2,3,4,5 am and we hear them bright as day.
I work within the healthcare system and deal with medication and I need to be alert and focused when it comes to my job.
I am not getting sleep and she doesn’t even ask her children to stop, it gets to the point I can’t even hear myself think and it makes me really ill some days, I just cry because I have had enough.
Her answer to the problems at the beginning was keep complaining I want a house, and hopefully she will get moved.
Now when I try to talk to her and knock on her door to ask them to please either quiten down so I can sleep, she calls the police saying she feels threatened and she doesn’t want to be here; I then have the police at the door and it’s becoming a joke, the council won’t do anything and say I have to put up with it.
I’m stuck on what to do, I can’t even try and house swap because they will stand in my front room for 10 minutes and be disgusted and will not want to live here.
Sorry to all suffering like me.
I have a huge problem as I have a neighbour that excessively & repeatedly drinks most of the day as well as throughought the night.
I am severely disabled & have suffered 11 months of drunken targetted abuse, which extended to my visitors.
I was having to leave my property due to my neighbour in the flat above stamping banging excessively all night depriving me of any sleep whilst in chronic pain. This happens repeatedly & I am left unable to sleep. I had my gate kicked through & all sorts. I feel unsafe & scared and am unable to protect myself from this.
Sadly four months of logs to council, reports to Police and this problem is still as bad. On referring it to ASBT I ended up with them disputing things with me whilst I have been through hell.
It is with my MP but that as well caused a dispute, no one wants to help at all. I have been locked in for months not daring to go out to try & avoid the neighbours. They freely come & go as they like.
I despair & wonder why me being left like this is ok. I have issued a complaint.
Government should lift evictions for people like this. My neighbour was supposed to be out April & I have had to report damage to my ceilings, I believe are due to impact. All authorities are aware.
I went out to give a visitor something they had forgot & my neighbour was barging towards me in an aggressive manner, I told my visitor I had to go due to Social distancing rules but she ignored what I said & continued barging at me, knowing I am struggling with mobility.
Sick from her window amid Covid left discarded on the floor. I do not believe any action has been taken.
11 months of ongoing hell.
I can't see any light at all.
Sympathies to all suffering similarly.
My mother moved in next door 7 years ago
My mother /neighbour took a Dvo against me was this legal
A neighbour dispute should be settled differently
Speeding up and down the street
Revving engines constantly
Loud music
Zero considers for others
Running drugs day and night all hours
Yet nothing is done
Disgusting
We live in our own house.We are surrounded by tenants.The first reason for them to be against us is for the very fact that we own a house.With lot of struggles and hardships we built our home but these two families are literally behind us.They keep track of our movements,any noise from our home,visitors,always looking out for us,passing wierd comments,staring us and also they spoke very mean and bad things about us to other neighbours because of which nobody is speaking with us.They all have turned against us and these people are frauds.They do all sorts of cheap things but people support them,They keep lying ,secrets and secrets.They pretend to be good people but actually they are very bad people.They try to listen to what we speak or do.I feel that we have lost all our privacy,could someone please advice
Both back and front gardens are a tipping ground for anything and everything...
They continue to shout abuse at each other the language is colourful for sure...
They kid just screams all day..
Neither of them work apart from going to the store to get chips and cigarettes...Now with this Covid19 lockdown...week last Thursday this other couple pitched up even though they shouldn't be travelling at all they have been staying there so there are already 4 adults in the house a day later another car turned up and a family if 4 piled out the suit cases and backpacks..
So this is 6 adults and 5 kids...in a 2 bed house f-ing and blinding every 2 seconds...screaming kids a dog they never take out all the while everyone else is following the lockdown they are having parties and bbq's..
The landlord cant even get into the property because of the lock down...to top it all off they all pilled into 2 cars and went to the beach for the day..they dont care they do what they like when they like not even the cops are interested...
Over the weekend they decided to have a bonfire, which are forbidden atm...the flames were 6 feet high...didn't give a monkeys uncle to the distress they are causing the elderly neighbours...
We are powerless to do anything they are not approachable..told one if my other neighbours to FO and mind ur own...
I'm sure they are dealing but we have no proof...those kids must be at risk in this environment for sure...its heartbreaking... they think the lockdown rules dont apply to them..they speed up the road..music blaring trying to look cool..
I'm afraid to say it But....I'm worried about everyone's safety....you don8t come here for a 3 week holiday In the middle of a lockdown...god knows where these people have come from, if they are Infected or carrying the virus...
More needs to be done to protect vulnerable neighbours..
The cops dont give R.A.
My neighbor on my left has screamed and shouted at us since the 1st week of moving in a year ago . I have made complaints to the estate , antisocial behaviour team the council with no help. Then on Easter a new neighbor moves in the right side of me and she is a known trouble maker with bi-polar which should not be an excuse for her rude and aggressive behaviour , she has called the child social services on me with fake complaints do to the nature of the complaints and the fact I cought her hiding while I had a visit from child protection I know it was her , i was advised by the council the police and locals that i should inform the estate managing my property , so i did and now we are being evicted ! Yhe victim has suddenly become the perpetrator " how " I contacted our local MP ross Douglas and I haven't heard anything back since he said he would look into it , I'm to be evicted in 2 weeks and no one is helping us !!! The council keep sending me to appointments back and forth with people who dont come prepared dont know the facts of my desperate situation nor do they listen or ask the right questions they just remind me if the time where they have to be. I'm homeless in 12 days and they couldn't care less. What can I do , where can I get help somebody must know something ??? I'm desperate as you my image. I am sick of other people dramas why cant they just leave us alone so I can focus on my child and rebuild my life .
What I would like say is this. Why are we putting up with it and such poor service off the Council (EH)
Housing Associations. Police. Why? Is it not about time somebody put their heads above the parapet
and took this out and into the World Wide Web in our respective countries. If we are all suffering so much
as we are, then let's lobby the Government to listen to us.
I even hit one car that park in front of my shared drive way .On 6/23/2019
at 1:38 am they where so loud and saying f-u to me they wake me up. this
I tole them I live here too and paid rent .And still call me names .This bean
going on cents last summer and it's gotten a lot worst. What should I do?
should I call the police or property Management, district attorney?or sue the
property Management.
I'm an adult now and they are still at it they will not leave me alone
Always stand up to bad neighbours never give in. Let them know that they're walking into a brick wall with you. But only if you've done nothing wrong.
Its a block of 4 and i understand its easy to hear noise but i feel like im living with a loud noisy aggressive bully on my doorstep.
Ever since ive moved in ive had trouble with him, i keepe myself to myself and i have tried to ignore him but i suffer with depression and the situation is making me ill and i dont want to be in my own home.
He was blasting music so loud at all times of day, sometimes you could hear it right up the street....so i eventually complained to noise nuisance.
He knew it was me because i had words with him on one ocassion.
After noise nuisance went he was very agressive shouting out the window swearing at me which i ignored, was staring at me out of the window and in his garden when i would go out trying to be intimidating.
On most days i could hear him agressively screaming, swearing at his girlfriend, running up and down stairs, banging and slamming doors.
Other things such as lighting fireworks outside my bedroom window and laughing.
His dog barking for hours, leaving its mess outside my front door.
Well a few months ago he disappeared suddenly and i thought he had thank god left the property.
I started to consider staying in my flat and feel more comfortable.
However hes only been back one day and already had screaming, swearing, doors banging etc.
I did tell my housing officer once but she didnt seem very interested.
I dont feel i can approach him due to him clearly finding what he does funny and the aggressive behaviour.
Im scared of the reprisals to myself and my property i live alone and im sick of it all.
can’t sleep, I point you to the Antosocial Behviour Act. I’m guessing it’s the noise so both council and police are required to act (no pun intended) orders Edit
Part IA of the Act ("Premises associated with persistent disorder or nuisance") was inserted by Section 118 of the Criminal Justice and Immigration Act 2008, and came into force in December 2008. Known as a Part 1A Closure Order or Antisocial Behaviour Closure Order[4][5] the new Sections 11A-11L of the 2003 Act permit the police or local authority to apply to Magistrates to close premises where they are satisfied that within the preceding three months[6] the premises have been associated with "significant and persistent disorder or persistent serious nuisance to members of the public."[7] The order can be made in respect of business or residential premises.[8] Similar to the Part 1 Order (Crack House Closure Order), it becomes an offence to remain in or re-enter the premises for the duration of the order.[9]
You may be surprised to find your Council has the power to ask a court to order the, not to return. My longest order was 6 months
We had to install cctv systems to protect ourselfs from them so police could see that they are making up the storys.
Council (bristol) do not react, they are changing workers alocated to the case. Envirental Healt Department, Noise Pollution, Comunity Trigger, no one cartes. They just tell us fill diarys. We sending diarys, cctv footage, pictures. But they are keep saying they dont have it even some of the paper work been handed hand to hand. Police saying that they cannot prosecute them for damage to the property.
When we asked Noise Polution for recording device to prove how loud is the music they send us letter litterally telling us 'its pointless'.
We went thrue mediation but it didnt solved anything. They said they are planning to do more damage to our property. Now, guy upstairs is doing some work and he keep door open so the dust goes down on staircase and into our flat.
Council trully do not help, they do not even want to help. As one of the prevoius council workers said to me on the phone 'ms Drew i will not help you', so we end up with another one.
I am trying to find some solicitior who could help but its impossible. Whenever i rang someone they say that they do not deal with neighhbour disputes.
We still must wait few more months before we contact Ombudsman, again.
The poster who wondered if 20" was far enough away from neighbours fence, my NFH built a 6'long summer house on raised land towering above my 24 year-old shed and used my shed side as his fence panel. on the boundary and said my shed was too near.
Unbelievable but true.
We spoke to the tenant who unfortunately didn't speak English and, as the noise levels did not decrease, we assumed it was a communication barrier and spoke to the Landlord's managing agent, asking them to explain to the tenant about the noise. Shortly afterwards, we were approached outside our front door by the tenant and a woman who claimed she didn't live in the flat but that she was his sister living in the area, she demanded, quite aggressively at first, to know why we had called the managing agent. We explained our reasons and thought they understood our concerns but the noise problem still persists today.
About 2 weeks into the new tenancy, we noticed an increase of strangers walking past our bathroom window towards the entrance of their house. We are now convinced that they are housing multiple lodgers without the landlords knowledge, we have raised another complaint with the managing agency but want to know what are rights are with regards to:
1 - the shared drain and who would have to pay for any issues with regards to increased use of washing machine and utilities upstairs
2 - the constant noise affecting our ability to enjoy our home, we are both so frustrated and angry it's now affecting our mental health
3 - any loss of investment if we are forced to sell the flat early
4 - intimidation, based on their reaction to our first complaint I don't trust them to act rationally to any action we take. I am also scared to go into my garden in case I bump into their group of lodgers
5 - Would building insurance be affected if there are more tenants living upstairs than listed in the lease? Building insurance for all properties on the road are handled through the freehold's managing agent.
My neighbour has initiated workmen to erect a 7 foot fence beyond the boundary wall between our houses. We do not want this and feel like she is boxing us in. What can we do?
Thanks
Leanne
until early hours of the morning
She tells the council, she is home all day, there's no need to do washing
in the evenings
It's getting on my nerves and my partner's
he does shift work, he has heard the machine 5 am when he's been getting
ready for work
Her and her son who lives with her bang the doors
she says she has to hang them to shut them
She doesn't do any maintenance to her property
She had big hole in her fence, there was no privacy
Her fence is none existing
I put a fence up on my side
She's got this over grown hedgeing, it grows over my border
I then put a three for trellis on top her hedging is growing brought the trellis
her hedgeing split my new fence panel, I went through my house insurance
to claim against her. She ignores letters, she makes up a load of lies
went to a solicitor told him I smeared dog excrement on her garage, I threw
eggs in her garden, the solicitor bought her story
this was her way of getting out of paying for my new fence panel
that her hedging damaged
Years ago she called the police and said my husband follows her
my husband had broken pelvis and ankles he was on crutches, couldn't walk
For three years we use to pay out for a professional gardener to trim her hedging
back to her border, she told her solicitor she was happy for us to do that
What neighbour cuts your hedging three times a year
to get accused of smearing dog excrement on their garage
throwing eggs , We don't cut her urge now after all what she has said
It looks a sight I keep my garden nice , hers is like a tip
She don't put rubbish out for collection
It's stored down the side of her property
when she feels like it she takes it to he dump
If I could pick up my house and move it
I would go tomorrow
I've never lived next door to a neighbour like it
who don't do maintenance, don't do gardening
don't put rubbish out
She is a neighbour from Hell
I'm a owner will move because there are very ignorants I'm not want my girl in dangerous !
We live next door to a person who screams at her kids all the time using bad language, and a nosy busybody who sends passive-aggressiveness notes through the door following her nosy ear-wigging about work we MIGHT want to do on our house. The nosy one slams doors, has loud parties until the early hours, parks 5 cars when she only has space for 1, does DIY on a Sunday evening (??!) and then has the nerve to express her "disappontment" when we say anything about it - bringing up historic work on our house years .....
Emotionally dishonest, disrespectful people who want to control and bully others because they think they run the street...!
I'm guessing your neighbors are Asian Indian? I completely understand where you're coming from.
I am a single woman living alone too. My Asian Indian neighbors are from Hell.
Prying into my life, intimidating and stressing me out with the constant fee stomping, banging on my walls, and slamming the front door ever so often till late at night.
The children don't sleep till midnight every night, so they're constantly jumping violently, kicking the walls. The parents don't bother teaching them to show respect to their neighbors.
The wife keeps competing with me in dressing and hairstyle. So much so, that she's turning into my clone. Even got the same car brand and model as me.
The husband talks down to me whenever he catches me outside my rented town home, and is always trying to make me feel like he/they are far better off than me monetarily, and any other way he can think of.
So you can see now, what Envious people they are.
I am so tired and disgusted of them.
Go back to India !!
i have to add that when i went to police i had recorded this stalker knocking on my door and shouting in my letterbox if i hadnt i dont think they would have done much. unfortunatly they were not able to prosecute him as the glass in my door is frosted so they wouldnt have been able to prove it was him although they knew it was! so if you can get an video evidence to prove what is happening that will help as you cant rely on the council or housing associations to help you im afraid.
I got to a point where the distress caused by the cats continually slaughtering on my property and my having to look after injured birds made me angry enough to ask them to try and keep their pets in at dawn and dusk so I could get some peace. I tried this nicely, explaining I love animals but told them the dead birds were theirs to dispose of not mine. They swore at me, told me I was mad (among other things) and pushed me off their doorstep after all the years of being neighbourly.
Recently I got fed up as two bird corpses came over the fence so I gave them back. The neighbours came over to my property and began an abusive, rude rant that escalated into my being grabbed around the throat, pushed around, kicked and hit on the chin. They were scary women and totally rude.
They are tenants on the property. Do I have any recourse to complain to someone about the physical, if not vocal, abuse? I am concerned for myself and my own pets. I should note I have two indoor cats who do not enter their property.
Thank you
I have only been in my upstairs flat for a year this month and when i moved in it was great but since june this year i have a couple living below me and all they do is make loads of noise and bang ad slam doors all the time late at night. I think they take drugs too and i cant handle it anymore. I have phoned the police on them a couple of times but they cant do anything near can my local housing association and i don't know what to do anymore. Im not sleeping at night because of it. Help.
I am sick and tired about complaining about my neighbours.
I kept getting watched everwhere I go and I also have the person shouting out abuse to me.
I am currently living in fear. I hardly ever go out
and i am a female half his age he is a big fat 46yr old man after this experience something i do know is never contact the police for help all they do is arrest victims and they will always take the white persons side
My neighbour has become involved with my ex husband and is intimidating me. The first thing he did was take my children twice and wouldn't let me see them. I called the police.
On Sunday something was thrown at my bedroom window twice by the time I found a torch to look out I just saw his door opening and closing. Yesterday I walked outside my front door he was at my front gate on the road staring at me.
There is an order for my ex husband not to intimidate me so I believe he is getting his friend to do it.
Maybe in your case you should threaten physical harm directly to the Neighbors Cat directly privately. I have a friend who threatened a neighbors cat. I nearly died laughing but the cat stopped and his wife confirmed the story
Started with horn blasts every other day as they drove past.
Then after asking them nicely horns everyday.
Then after saying it's still a prob they increased up to 40 times a day.
Then loud bassy music from house too.
Then they got a subwoofer for their car aswell.
Then started banging on bins and random objects with hammers from 7am - 11pm.
Friends and own car revving with wide exhaust drone.
Shouting c*nt towards our property.
Making more noise when we have curtains open so we don't open them now.
Wheelspins in their car.
Setting off car alarm at 3am
Revving moped and rising up and down.
I can't relax.
I can't even take a poo i'm constantly stress constipated.
Fam+friends have stopped liking me as I complain about it.
Police will do nothing, council closed my case.
I'm starting to think i might have to end my life to make it stop.
I keep imagining myself poking my eardrums out with needles.
I keep imagining conversations with my neighbour in my head pleading for them to leave me alone.
Whenever I hear a car come down the street or see the light reflecting on my ceiling my heart races expecting the noise
I can't function like this.
The neighbour has a young male cat that has not been neutered. I have a small female cat who is spayed but very defensive of her property, as she was made a stray by another cat in her old home.
I have done my best to keep them from fighting (never being cruel to either cat, I will I either pick mine up and move her or shoo the other cat away). Twice the neighbours cat has gotten into my house and both times he has acted feral. On the first occasion he ran straight upstairs, when I followed to go and get him he jumped at my face, trying to claw me, spitting and hissing.
I decided to close all doors, except the front door... so when he got bored he would have nowhere to go but out.
Then some of my visitors arrived at the front door, not wanting them to get scratched as they entered my home, I went outside to warn them and spotted the owner of the cat leaning out of a window, smoking a cigarette.
I said, "Oh, hi. Sorry, but your cat is in my house being quite nasty...Do you think you could come and get him?"
The neighbour said they would, but made no effort to do so. My partner then arrived and managed to get the cat out, put him in their house and I thought that was the end of it.
But, about 3 or 4 weeks later, I was in my garden reading the newspaper, and my cat tried to scratch the neighbour's cat through the wire fence. I moved my cat away, and at this point the neighbour came out and started telling me to leave the cats to fight, because that's what cats do and not to 'Come f***ing knocking on my door because my cat is being nasty to your cat.'
When I explained the situation they said, "That's not what you said." Repeatedly and continued to swear at me, making it clear they would have issue with me if I ever intervened when the cats were fighting again.
Honestly, apart from being a bit soft on animals, I can't see what I have done to warrant this kind of nasty behaviour from the neighbour. I intend to put a solid fence instead of a wire fence up to divide our properties, but as the fence is on their property I will have to discuss this with her...which I am not relishing at this stage.
I know not to use names, be threatening or being abusive.
I've had no joy from contacting the neighbour, the police, or the council, I'm at my wits end :(
Not even the law. So section 5 harassment, alarm and distress don't matter.
i moved into a block of flats about 6 years ago. i had a problem with a guy who lived there who decided to keep ringing my buzzer and shouting though my letterbox because he wanted some kind of relationship with me. this would continue about every 10 minute intervals for around an hour or so around three times a week he would even try to just open my door and just walk into my flat so i had to keep the door permenantly locked this got so bad that i ended up having to put a lock on my letterbox to stop him from opening it and trying to talk to me through it i shoud have let people no what was happening long before i did but i thought he would get fed up and stop eventually - but he never did. i recorded some of the incidents on my phone and im so glad i did as i will explain why later. it was a housing association flat but the flat above me had been sold off and was rented privatly. i would get new tennants above me every 6 months or so. and i would never know what they would be like. it wasnt too bad until i had been there about 2 years and then the nightmare tennant moved in. it started the very weekend he moved in the loud music thumping through the walls and people turning up and partying from 10pm until 3-4 in the morning. this went on EVERY weekend. i was very distressed and asking him to be a bit more considerate just resulted in him shouting abuse and made the situation worst. i couldnt sleep and was constantly on edge in my own home. i not only had this noise above but i also had this other neighbour who keep knocking on my door and talking in my letterbox! i just hoped he would move out after 6 months but he didnt he just got worst it got to the point that loud music would be playing for 8 hours continuously followed by hours of partying and shouting through the night. i called the police but they would not come out even when it was late they just would tell me to contact environmental health. environmental health monitored the situation for about a year before they finally handed him a noise abatement notice by this time i was feeling completley helpless to the point of suicide to stop this and it was seriously affecting my mental health and wellbeing. the noise abatement notice worked for about a month but during this time i assume because he had got that he decided to pour milk outside my door where i left my pushbike then pour tubs of colslaw under my bike.. the final straw was when he actually left human excrement under my bike. the housing association would not do anything much about it they were not interested. i became a nervous wreck not wanting to go out for fear of bumping into either of these people andi dreaded him above coming home. i finally snapped when i was walking in the street outside and he shouted abuse at me from his car this made me inform the police as to what was going on. i made an appointment to visit the police station armed with my recordings. it was difficult to ex
please could someone advise me on what to do.
Sometimes good neighbours go in search of strong legal advice, of a zero-tolerance nature. I think this site fails to offer a zero- tolerance, legal response that people are in search of so therefore, this site is largely of little use to most people with problem neighbours.
We have had neighbours who dump litter and refuse to cull their weeds right outside our front door. We have had the access road to our property spitefully blocked by the same neighbours, sometimes on a daily basis without provocation or response from us. They have been doing this for 9 years due to a) our tolerance of their unacceptable behaviour and b) our acceptance of their refusal to behave responsibly and 'neighbourly'. Let me tell you all - if being a good neighbour doesn't work after you have turned the other cheek - it ain't ever going to work. Do yourself a favour, get the photo/video evidence, keep calm, keep your responses polite, save up for a solicitor and smack them hard with legal action. And don't be made to feel you are in the wrong for not being nice enough. 9 years of nice got us nowhere!!!!
Years now the first 2 years were great thought our neighbours were great until we built a new dividing wall on our front drive which is all legally done and been passed by the council yet she has been making our life's hell for the past year as the only reason she can give is she doesn't like it, running around all the neighbours telling lies so all we get is dirty looks off them, going to the council lying more saying we're making loud diy noise late at night when we've haven't done nothing in our house for over a year saying our dog barks constantly when I know he isn't as I always leave someone here with him, no prof but last year we re Laid a new lawn done put some nice garden beds lots of expensive hardy plants in but now their all dead yet the other side is blooming beautifully has she put weed killer over the fence ? the Tyres on our car are costing us a fortune as they've been slashed a few time which is what the garage are telling us is it them ? , the council have now knocked our expensive wall down to re build exactly the same wall just to shut her up which is what they said to us, we've had to have meetings with them just so we don't get evicted I'm feeling I can't breath in my own home or garden she's always watching us from upstairs windows thinking I can't see her when I can there's no privacy I've asked for cameras from the council but will probably have to do it from our own pocket as the council are not helping us at all, please help as I don't know where to go from here ???
i do feel sorry for you all, people are just so thoughtless rude and inconsiderate.i too am having problems i have lived in this rented property for 13 years last year a new tenant moved in above me, first month it was all ok, then she moved her brother his girlfriend and their 2 kids in, these are very small flats and no soundproofing so you can imagine all the noise. i put up with this for 8 months suffering in silence. they finally move out and i thought i would finally get some peace and quiet, for one month yes, then they started turning up on a friday morning just after she had left for work, then they would stay until sunday evening/monday morning, by this time i have by wednesday started getting anxiety attacks and depression knowing that they would be staying the whole week end and being noisy. then the girl who rents the flat went away for a week and a half and they stayed, the noise was ridiculous banging and jumping on the floor by the kids, the baby crying on and off all day blaring the tv out at 5am the girlfriend is very gobby and loud so you could hear her at 5am. so i had had enough of it so put a polite note in her door when she came back complaining about the noise, she came round the next day i stupidly thought to apologise but no started screaming and shouting at me for putting a note in her door then started swearing at me. i then had a snotty note put through the door by the girlfriend accusing me of lying about the noise, now all she does is invite these family members ans other loud mouthed frinds with kids to come round and can hear them telling the kids to scream and shout and jump up and down, this week end was a nightmare they were all drinking and getting louder and louder getting the kids to scream and jump on the floor and the language every other word was f*****g c**t what can i do to end this, before you say move out i literally cannot afford to move out as the rents have gone sky high would appreciate any advice given.thanks
When he returned he came around with a couple of cable pins he'd found on his drive. I said I'd contact the sky team. He wanted me to take full responsibility for any damage to tyres I said its for Sky to discuss he the said he'd never let anyone enter his property to allow repairs to my house ever again.
He's a very angry and intimidating man. I don't have need to do anymore work but clearly we will need to clean gutters, paint an upstairs window etc in the future.
I wonder what I should do I know he will be awkward and is often away for months at a time so could delay work being carried out.
any advice. ?
Then last year next door neighbour moved in his girlfriend and 2 kids and trouble started. She would shout scream at her kids leave them in bed shouting and screaming from 7 am until 11am everyday was like a war zone I saw her hit her child so aggressively that he fell on the floor in the garden. I called social services as her children would run riot throwing rubbish in my garden and when I approached her I got abuse. Now nearly 12 months on I have police at my door because of her provoking me by loud music banging on walls shouting at me through the walls but outside she would say nothing.
She has made an allegation against my partner saying he threw wood at her when she placed wood against my gate and blocked me in my house. Now she provokes my partner and my son so she can call the police. I am being forced out my house because of her and now police get called over the slightest of things I am now made to be the persecutor. I have no idea what to do as even ignoring them or making slight bit of noise the police come out.
Finally, a couple of weeks ago they hired a man to cut down their tree in their front garden and didn't ask our permission to come into our front garden, the man started trying to move our gate and I said he couldn't because it was broken and said to my neighbour he should ask permission next time to come onto our property. He then shouted at my mum last night saying that I called him a drunk. I never EVER said that, I was so furious I went round there shouting at him and he shut the door in my face because he knew I was right. I ended up swearing at him and now I'm scared I'll get into trouble. He's so evil, he always picks on my mum because she's quite, he tried picking on me but I stood up to myself, he's nice as pie to my boyfriend, he's so sexist. I'm furious and so upset, I just don't know what to do anymore. We are trying to get the house ready to move but it takes so long.
-Call the Police 999/101 if you feel your life is in danger call them - don't be scared - the law is the law and if others are breaking it why should you be scared - call the Police 100 times if you have to as they are interested and should help otherwise they should change their job.
-Contact your council nuisance team, housing association and MP. Other factors might include animals so RSPC and children - so social services might need to be involved due to the vulnerable nature of the situation as I have experienced them dealing will drug addicts and prostitutes too.
-Local and/or national newspapers are normally fairly interested in this kind of information so contacting them may be beneficial and some money may come out of it allowing you a trip away or even better a chance to move away for good.
As for the bins against another persons detached house, I would move them myself if not moved ASAP.
The other neighbours believe her and when we meet they avoid talking to me
when I ask what is wrong they say nothing, they know about.
I did not open my curtains because the sun was on my leather furniture, she rang the police and the police rang age concern, she told them I was drunk from morning till night, I had blood tests and proved from tests this was not so
She behaves like this with her daughter, teaching the 16 year old how to make up lies, the child was expelled from school for being a bully, the child learns how to be a bully from the mother.
What I cannot understand is how she can control the other neighbours , there are 4 men in her control and 5 women, have they got no brain, 13 people abusing one old aged pensioner,
She tried to get me into trouble by saying I have Dementia ,
I have all bills on direct debit
, I don't get social security because I have worked all my life, and the woman has never worked as long as I have known her and that's 15 years
Janey.
I approached him in the evening and he denied it said I was being ridiculous it was just a little tap. this has been going on for years if it's not early morning it's late at night.
I've asked him to move them away from my property he had yet to do this. What should I do next?
As I live in supported housing, the support care workers are aware of some of the rotten behaviours that the younger man causes, but not yet of the new older one who is now also joining in with him. I can't just confront them - we are all here because we each have individual mental health conditions and so must be careful of how to approach things with neighbours. The younger guy was caught taking drugs by his support worker when he first moved in, and began socialising with drink and drug dependent layabouts in the local area - how all this started, and has thrown live fireworks out of his window down to my windows, which he received a formal warning.
This same young guy began targeting my partner because he likes to check the security of the building in the day, and loathed him going to his own flat and making silly complaints that he had his music too loud etc. My partner felt too fearful and uncomfortable being in his own flat and so started to come down to mine more often than he perhaps he should, and why now there has been a nasty allegation made to the benefits agency about us 'living together' and I now have to attend a meeting to disprove this.
I am not just angry but feel immensely betrayed and not just by the young guy but the new one too who has only been here a few months, and have gone out of my way to provide him a vacuum cleaner and done a great deal to befriend and make him feel very welcomed to the block.
and threatens to call the police if I dont stop it. i bought her some lemon
juice and told her to cover the mess over and spray with the juice. She said
it didnt work but she never covered the poo over, so of course the cat will
go again in the same spot. She got annoyed becasue the cat was again the garden,
but I dont think it messed again, just the old mess from before, but if she was
worried, why couldnt she cover it. I told her and she said she was busy and had no time because she had to look after her children. It took me thirty seconds to do it myself, but I have a feeling she doesnt want to solve the problem,just to complain ab out it. I cant stop my cat going in her garden and I dont want to face her every time I go outside.
so we pulled up a dog waste bin out of the local park and put it in his front garden.
pitbull/lab mix. its the sweetest dog, but he lets it off the chain every morning to go "dump" in peoples yards and get into mischief. when he first got it it was jumping the fence and doing his thing all over our back yard. I mentioned it to him, and after some fence improvements it stopped. I have to keep the gates closed to keep him out. Now the dumb dog is getting into garbage somewhere and bringing it home . EVERY MORNING..., I find diapers, cups, and other household garbage in my yard. He knows about it and he does nothing. I don't want to have a bad relationship with our neighbor, but the dog has already gone to the pound several times and the guy just keeps getting him out an its still happening. I have even collected the junk and thrown it in HIS yard to pick up, but with no affect. What do I do now?
I paid out over £2000 to have a new roof on my garage nearly 5 years ago and do not want her to have the drainpipe redirected again onto my roof. It is out of the quetion to have a soakaway fitted in her property because of the way sewer pipes are running. She could have the pipe redirected into her grid at the back of her house but there again that is not practical as this grid also takes foul water from her kitchen. Is there an amicable solution to resolving this problem?
The language is disgusting and that is towards even the three small children they have
They will obviously grow up to be the same
I have reported them to the council and i am waiting to see what can be done to sort this out but im not full of hope
Been in this street as a good neighbor for thirty five years, even worked for the local mediation service and still do voluntary work, is there any justice they are both on benefits have three small children the gardens front and back are more like a rubbish tip my heart goes out to the kids they have no chance with parents like them.
They eventually got rid of the dogs because they weren't capable of looking after them.
I'd also like to mention the type of people they are makes all forms of communicating nearly impossible. We haven't spoken to them since the day they moved in due to feast of not being able to keep my cool. So I was very surprised to have a visit from a police officer informing me the was lady had accused me of trying to kill her dogs.. I was 6 months pregnant and was also told she was so scared for her life her "land lord" had to stay over of an evening??
My concern is they are just another couple claiming benefits as a way of making a living.
Its now 3months on and you guessed it all the dogs are back and in the garden. I'm extremely worried for the safety of my little girl, we have done all we can to ensure they cannot get in to our garden but I still don't feel safe. Is there a any thing we can do to ensure another summer isn't ruined?.c
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