You don’t want to be labelled a complainer, but sometimes your neighbours’ children can be more of a nuisance than a blessing. Older neighbours may remember a time when you could pay an unruly child’s parents a visit and you would know that any issues would be swiftly resolved, but these days you have to be extremely wary of what you say and do about children in the neighbourhood.
Before taking any action against your neighbours regarding their children's behaviour, it's important to understand your legal position using our free Neighbour Rights Checker.
What to Do About Noisy Children
Whether you appreciate it or not, there’s not much that you can do about excessive noise during the day from children. Kids are exuberant by nature and it would seem a little bit churlish to try to curb normal noise levels, even if the screaming and shouting is getting a bit too much.
If it really is becoming an issue, your only course of action is to ask their parents nicely to have a word with them. If you work shifts or simply need peace and quiet to concentrate while working at home, a quiet word might be the best way forward. Explaining that you need to sleep some afternoons may make the parents try to keep their offspring’s noise down.
Noise is a common complaint – recent research by Noise Concern revealed that 43% of people had been bothered by some form of neighbour noise.
Excessive noise levels were also blamed for forcing about half a million people to move in 2006, just to get away from their annoying and Noisy Neighbours, according the Environmental Protection UK. At the time, their representative Mary Stevens said that many problems with neighbours were simply a result of being inconsiderate, and could easily be resolved by using a little common sense...
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Your first course of action, especially if the damage was clearly accidental, is to make a conciliatory approach to the child’s parents.
As far as the law is concerned, you can technically sue a child for the cost of the damage if they are old enough to understand what they were doing, but this kind of legal action is rare and somewhat frowned upon by the courts. It’s also a fact that not many children have the cash lying around in their piggy bank to pay for the cost of a broken window!
If damage has been done, and an approach to the perpetrator’s parents hasn’t been successful, you can consider suing the parents of the child. This is only appropriate in cases where there has been negligence on behalf of the parent(s) – for example, if they trusted their child with something dangerous like an air gun. They could also be considered liable for the damages if you can prove that they failed to exercise the control expected of a parent, given the child’s age.
Your situation may be slightly different. ask a question below ↓ and our editorial team will reply with our advice.
“Can I Have my Ball Back?”
It can be irritating but it’s just a fact of neighbourhood life that kids playing ball games will occasionally mislay one into your garden. If children throw or kick a ball into your garden or onto your property, you should hand it back to them, keep hold of it for them to collect from you, or throw it back over if you find it later on.
The children should not trespass onto your property to pick it up, although in practice many probably do. If there is any damage to your garden caused by kids trampling over it, you would be entitled to compensation for any financial damages that were caused.
Still need more information? Read more about civil injunctions, criminal behaviour orders, parenting contracts, penalty notices and parenting orders in our feature: children and anti-social behaviour.
Common questions
What can I do about neighbours' children screaming in the garden?
Children playing and shouting is normal, and councils almost never treat it as a noise nuisance. If it happens late at night, or is unusually persistent and disruptive, a calm conversation with the parents is the right starting point. Pick a quiet moment and frame it as something you would like their help with.
Is there a child nuisance law in the UK?
There is no law against children being noisy, but anti-social behaviour by under-18s can fall under the Anti-social Behaviour, Crime and Policing Act 2014. That covers damage, threats, intimidation and persistent late-night disturbance. Local authorities, the police and housing officers all have powers if a child's behaviour goes well beyond ordinary play.
How do I complain about a neighbour's child without causing a row?
Speak to the parent in person and avoid criticising the child directly. Stick to the effect on you: woken at night, garden damaged, things thrown over the fence. Most parents are mortified and act quickly. If you cannot face a doorstep chat, a short polite note works almost as well.
Last time it was at 3am in the night, my bedroom is against this wall and some nights it is impossible to sleep even with white noise. The kids often come into my front garden to get their ball, which is fine during the day but often at night also. Am I being unreasonable at being tired at this?
Scream all day, Do you really think that all parents of autistic children don't try? Ignorant people you are! Shall i muzzle him? Tape his mouth shut? How would you like me to stop him screaming? And yes I have tried asking, telling, begging, threatening. Does any of it work?! NO! because he is AUTISTIC. He has a learning difficulty. So take your heads out of your arses and perhaps try not to tarnish all us lazy parents to autistic children with the same brush! And perhaps maybe educate yourselves on autism before making stupid comments like the above!
My neighbours have threatened to shut our f***ing kid up for us, told us he should be in a nut house, we shouldn't live here with a child like "that", all sorts. I am scared to go out in the garden with my child for fear of further abuse. And no, I can't move.
Education, or rather, the lack there of, in basic common courtesy, common sense, empathy, respect and humility has been replaced with misplaced entitlement, arrogance and aggression.
It's #mememe not #metoo.
There really ought to be a mandatory educational course for new or expectant parents.
One has to to drive and operate heavy machinery, and bringing up, caring for and living with children is just as dangerous and much more hard work...
It's getting more depressing and more incomprehensible how the very BASICS of humanity are not only ignored and rejected by the public but also by the bodies who are meant to assist in enforcing it.
In fact, poor behaviour has become practically encouraged.
Orwell's Animal Farm barely had an inkling of where we are headed.
There are nice people out there, but sadly, bad apples are contagious.
I've lived next to 'parents' who allow their poor 5yr old autistic child to not only CONTINUOUSLY loudly squeal and scream while violently banging walls, (with any apparatus he can find and/or his own body parts) but also let him climb up on to 12ft+ tall garage roofs and jump about completely unsupervised. This is 6-7 days a week between the hours 4:30am-11:30pm.
While I completely appreciate looking after a child is very stressful and a lot of work, and more so when the child is mentally and/or physically disabled, basic parenting is always required. It is a parents job, not the government or council or school system. Being a parent is a big and hard job, but hugely rewarding when done well.
Treating others how you expect to be treated isn't rocket science.
It's heartbreaking how poor parenting and general behaviour is not only rife but so many seem completely ignorant of the effect it has on the children and everyone around them.
It's a pandemic that's a lot worse than COVID. Much, much worse.
Best option is to move and if you are a homeowner and don't report it to the council as it will have to be declared when you sell and may put off a buyer. Other effective options are loud music when the noise gets too high and insulation.
Suffering in silence is not an option, make their lives as difficult a Good luck, its an absolute nightmare but don't lose your temper and stay within the margins of the law. Unfortunately, problem neighbours are everywhere now as no one wants to do anything to help you.
My problem family finally moved out a week ago but that is far from the end of the matter. Next door is a rental and it's a toss of the coin who I get in next. This happens again, I will put my house on the market and get a boat, no government will put a family on the street and with the housing crisis getting worse, there is less and less chance of getting any of them out.
We were not informed this was going to happen,
The council said they had informed me, i sent three emails asking of proof with no reply.
I have now found out no noise assessment was carried out.
The council has since carried out a noise assessment by their own emplees with no training on how to assess noise.
This is conflict of interest, they always come back saying, no noise nuisance.
The Goverment Ombudman ask me to keep a log, i did, council came back, NO NOISE NUISANCE.
The council and Ombudmans are both partly funded by the Goverment. I have asked, does a childrens play area make a noise, they never answered.
Of cause childen need places to play. There is a play area 5 minutes from this location.
It is causing a lot of stress, they know its wrong. This is what you expect to happen in countries like russia.
Not just being used by under 8s but adults drinking alcohol and taking drugs. Also because there is a mound in the centre used BMX rider every so often.
The noise polution is not fare.
Ive sent date stamped videos.theyve said it cannot be used as evidence.
A company has sound equitment but they wont £3000.
If anyone has any ideas please help.
Want recording equitment is excepted in uk courts.
Most times they are not sleep early or weak up at midnight or after midnight crying playing shouting do everything and my niberhod in downstairs is old man and woman they don’t have children and he say i will call police if make noise and we are sleeping at 10 and you must don’t make any thing after 10 even he say don’t walk in your house because i can hear your steps .. I don’t know what to do my children to small to oby the low and make them keeping quiet
I currently don't work due to severe mental health issues, so I'm home all day, I try and get things done around the house to keep myself occupied, which sometimes means going into my garden.
My neighbors two young kids immediately come out when I'm on the garden and will question what I'm doing and won't leave me alone, it's every single time.
There's been a few times I have been sat in my living room and if they can see me they will shout for me, to the point I barely go into my living room and if I do I close my curtains so they can't see me.
They're also incredibly loud and are constantly shouting and screaming, on top of that, they are always aggressively kicking a ball against our fence that has started to weaken the structure.
My anxiety is getting worse due to this and the parents don't seem to care, they will be aware the kids are pestering me and won't do anything.
I can't even move house.
Clive and Emma have invited their parents over for a party.
I work from from with regular zoom calls with customers and no matter what, they can hear these kids. I blame the parents, and the belief that there is nothing you can do or say because that’s what kids do, they are exuberant….
What would happen if me as an adult, I would play football in the street, hit people’s cars and houses, play in their front gardens, sometimes chap their doors and run away and scream, would be that acceptable? People invest their life savings to buy these properties and the whole experience is ruined by failed parents and failed families
I have this neighbor who has a 16 year old son. Many times he and his group would kick their bam over until they almost kicked out he window one day. At this pont my mother got fed up. They terrorized neighbours all around them. The 16 year old boy sets fire to his crew to cause destruction and trouble everwhere they go. They respect no elder.
A few months ago he made a snide comment to my gay uncle who is twice his age. My uncle got so upset he lightly beat him but there was no blood at tho point I intervened with one of the girls who tried to jump in.
His parents came and wanted to know nothing about these past few montbs on going comments and shade that was being thrown even after we compained by her many times.
Now recently he kicked the ball over again and my mom being old fashioned decided she was fed up and she was not going to give them the ball to teach him a lesson.
He accessed the premises and asked her for it she denied him and he started shouting rude words at her telling her she's a 'poes' and a 'naaier' in other words.
In our place, this is extremely rude words.
He told her she can do him nothing. I begged her to go to his parents to peace this out but ah said that knowing their parents her whole life they will keep doing norhing about their kids like every other time.
He now tries to terrorize all in the house everytime we leave. Spitting she one walks past or making a comment with his gang.
They are all young but they are all terrible, rude and completely havw no control.
She called the police but i feel this is not going to bring peace and it might bring a long line of hate.
The police has not come. But i am so stressed to the point where I feel like neither peace or violence will solve this
I do not want to lift my hands for kids younger that me as it will not be seen as the right thing to do.
He knows he cannot go to jail because he is underaged.
I font know what to do and i just want to keep the people around me safe.
I feel so threatened, hated and targeted because of something so small.
I don't know what to do we have done everything. Please help...
We have raised concerns with the mother, who just told us to mind our own business and to have some sympathy with their dysfunctional childs behavior....and she works for a nursery!
Please, can anybody offer any guidance?
We’ve all been children, I am only a young woman myself - but my friends and I would never have made the kind of noise kids do today. We wouldn’t have been allowed to.
There is no respect for anyone else these days. Parents are entitled and seemed to have the attitude that everyone should just have to put up with - whether it’s in their own home, a restaurant, a shop or wherever else. Fairly new attitude, but a sign of the times.
There needs to be something people can legally do about children making their homes lives hell. Talking to parents in most cases only increases the problem - again, sign of the times.
Next door is bareable, but the other side the women has 2 teenage boys and a young girl. The girl constanly s reaming or crying very loud, the boys constanly pick on her which she gets louder and louder all day long. At night I hear the lads on gaming shouting till stupid o'clock at night. I can't take much more, it effecting my health and I have covid at the min so not on best form. What can I do
This is a new house - I spent all my life savings in it and yet I cannot sit in my garden because parents are unable to tell their kids to be quieter. Some people should not have kids.
That wishy-washy ,weak spinless attitude, couldn't care a less, scumbag attitude, is why society us becoming more and more put of control.
If that's your attitude, your children will grow up to be worthless, uncontributing useless scumbags themselves.
Teaching your children that there is a time and a place for fun and games.
Of course children should be able to have fun,but if they are causing so much distress, that a neighbour, needs to move shame on you.
I tell you,I would like to see you try that round here,then see what happens.
Children need guidance, and if they behave, disrespectfully, and a useless parent sits back and foes nothing, with the attitude, it's your problem, your digging a grave for your own child
Honestly, I have idiots like you,and none of you cretins, or your pointless children, have ever gone far.
Absolutely despicable, should be ashamed of yourself
Depressed. Very nasty neighbours, evil neighbours.
just go that little bit better, I have powerful soundbars on my walls
it drowns them out and some, soon stop there tomfoolery
We all have minimal space and live on top of one another. When this family, our direct next door neighbours are away - you could hear a pin drop. No one else seems to use their gardens for anything remotely noisy.
It’s not just the contact football being kicked, smashing against the fence, being bounced, or actual football matches being played - it’s the family rows. Not just the two youngest children but also the parents get involved and scream at the top of their lungs. One day last summer the Dad said the 5 year old was ruining his life and other days told him to stop being a d***.
One of our neighbours (opposite and to the right of our house) is an absolute thug of a man. He just looks, sounds and is aggressive. You just know when someone's a horrible piece of work.
He has 3 young feral kids. I have never encountered 4, 5 or 6 year olds so feral. They are always outside screaming, cycling, leaving their bikes in the road for us to move when we need to get on or off our drive, and most annoyingly, they are cycling over my lawn and in between my fragile bushes, as well as playing on our driveway and ringing our doorbell sporadically.
It's extremely annoying. They're in our faces all the time, and I'm waiting for the day that they ruin hundreds of Pounds of vegetation on our lawn. I have no problem with kids playing, but they need to respect neighbours peace and property.
I have spoken to the kids once or twice to no avail. Usually, I'd approach a parent, but I just know that no matter how politely I speak to their thuggish dad (he doesn't live with a partner) he'll just respond petulantly and aggressively.
Any advice?
Kids screaming for hours on end right outside my window? They can do one.
I’ve taken to playing obscene music at full volume out the window when the kids are out there screaming. Parents now complaining that I shouldn’t subject children to foul language like that well tit for tat Karen control your spawn and I’ll control my music
All the kids from all over, came over to play. Same deal with the 10ft high play fort.they have 2 kids 6 and 8 kids, would come round to play, up till late October. No respect no value. Parents never tell the kids to be quiet, they disappear,inside.why do some parents never tell kids off outside.
Also constant sleepovers both adults and kid.party’s not telling us there will be lots of cars coming round.
1. Ear plugs
2. Get a humidifier that will interrupt external noise
Othwerise pls dont bully families trying to lead a healthy life....its a part of children growing up, unless of course there is concern on mistreatement of these children.
Ear plugs will do the trick, but I suppose they are not the not comfortable.
So take option 1 or 2 and deal with your own problems unless of course we are talking about noise past 11pm
I have a similar situtation...for 20 years i listened to my neighbours cats fighting at 5am and didnt complain...now i have neigbours complaining at 9.30pm because a 2 year old cries....so from the other side....no....if you are sensitive to others sound. Nobody has a god given right here to interefere in families trying to lead a healthy and happy life.
Most people dont realize flats in London are not retirement homes or detached houses, and flat are not soundproofed for low frequency sounds (deep bass, walls, floors etc)
Children are not robots, a city is not a village.
You working from home and needing peace and quiet is nothing to do with children playing, those are your needs...and its not first come first serve in terms of who says how it will be.
Having children is not illegal, children playing is not illegal...I have lived in a flat where only thin boards separate floors and believe me you could hear every footstep..
The other family are true ferals, with no boundaries, no respect for people or their property, no volume control and they are just encouraging every other kids in the area to join in and make everyone's life a misery. It's 21.33 now and they have only just gone in. Since earlier today it's been non stop screaming and shouting and this is every day. One of the girls about 4 or 5 has this very aggressive, angry shout with a tongue that would put a sailor to shame. I can swear with the best but this one and her friend are pro's and they will call you names or make comments as they pass, even try to stare you down. The brother is a about 7 and a piece of work, will deliberately cycle out in front of cars and terrorizes the local animals. It's gotten to the point now that it's with local community policing but that won't stop the ongoing noise problems. I can only hope if renting they get moved on as soon as evictions are allowed to happen again.
@Nannie you do have rights. Just because they are children it doesn't mean the laws etc do not apply. You take action against the landlord as they have the responsibility to ensure their tenant doesn't cause a nuisance, and if they are formally informed and they do act appropriately, then they are responsible.
@Charlie. No you are wrong. You are responsible for your children's behaviour and actions. Your neighbours would be right to act against you.
I believe the problem here is that we are too tolerant of badly behaved children. Excuses are made when parents simply aren't not made accountable for their children's behaviour. I had the same experience as many of you. I took Lambeth Council to Court as well as the nuisance neighbour and the noise and nuisance stopped immediately. Lambeth had failed in their duty but until then, in my estate no one had taken them to task. In my case, that neighbour stopped all nuisance until they left.
Those suffering you do have rights and you must exercise them. The more people suffering do, the more the Courts will listen and change can happen
Their parents have a really nice hot tub where friends gather and its in their garden right underneath my bedroom window.
Today mum and friend were sitting in the garden drinking and sun bathing whilst the numerous kids created mayhem.
We are quite old…my partner has Parkinson’s and has had a slight stroke.We have never had problems with noise before they moved in four years ago.
It’s driving me nuts.I was a teacher for 30 years so understand kids need to let off steam but the utter lack of respect for the neighbours has me dumbfounded!! One neighbour with a young family has had enough and has sold their house…I am ready to go now myself after living here for a long time.Can’t stand it any longer.
One kid extremely noisy, other two can be when they’re having a bit of a wild moment. Kids grow up, remember that, they won’t be small forever and when your kids are old enough to be running around making noise - remember when you thought other kids were annoying, you’ll be annoyed by your own and as much as you love your kids they’re loud and irritating on times! I constantly tell mine to be quiet and try and keep them busy and focused. I take them out on walks during the day and I get them to help me water the plants etc but sometimes they will just be loud. Don’t always assume kids are vile or parents are vile because they’re not quiet every minute of everyday, kids aren’t mean to be seen and not heard, that died ages ago.
They’re safe in their garden too, where I live people are inconsiderate… driving like idiots and letting their dogs crap everywhere, I’m protecting mine by keeping them in playing where they are safe & ironically the people who’d complain about the noise are the people with the dogs & drive their cars like absolute bell ends.
Many of us are now considering selling what have been private homes for years, back to the council and then this area will revert to its inglorious past as the lunatics take over the asylum.
Otherwise, we all get to scream and throw stuff everywhere all the time, right?
Your clamours of others being entitled when you yourself are complaining about yourself losing out is hilarious and disturbing.
The boy (4-5 years old) runs around and screams / cries almost throughout the entire day. He cries on the way to kindergarten and back. It takes a good 15 mins to even get him to leave their front door or go back inside. The little girl (around 2 years old) screams from the top of her lungs every 30 mins. (They’re both screaming non stop for the past 4 hrs as I type this.) The parents scream daily either at each other or at the kids to a point they lose their voices. At one point I was considering calling the police but you never know the “norm” with different cultures. Since we share the same main entrance I get the daily slams of the front door and used to get their pram and kids’ bicycles left outside their door (which is perpendicular to our door) effectively blocking my way in and out of my flat too.
I mentioned the blocked entrance to the landlord (we share the same landlord) and they took offence that I didn’t raise it with them. When I did have another issue with blocked entrance by then AFTER I’d this mentioned to the landlord, I sent them an email (my landlord had CCD them in a correspondence before) with a picture asking them politely to stop leaving bicycles outside my front door explaining that I don’t want to have to move their stuff all the time - they just took the bike away, not even a small apology.
I don’t want to move again as it’s such a hassle but this family is single handedly tormenting the whole neighbourhood and driving me and my partner insane. Needless to say I don’t sleep well any more. I have to go to the office more frequently than I should as the mother’s shouting frequently ends up on my video calls and I cannot have this happening. I’m exhausted. How does one even address this to someone who has complete disregard to decency ? They will get in trouble if I complain to the landlord again as he’s been warning them in the past (before I moved in) and I don’t want to cause issues to a family with young kids but I’m losing my physical and mental health now.
The stress is also getting to me - I've cried so much in this past 12 months - and have become a nervous wreck-
Have looked to move, but not financially possible -
Life has been hell since the two children moved in with their father and partner last year.
It seems that some parents just don't realise that their children's very very loud screaming can affect their neighbour's mental health.
Fortunate to have a garden, but unable to enjoy it because of the children next door. Cannot even get away from it indoors - so loud even with windows shut.
The father almost seems to encourage it.
We can all live in harmony if only people will be considerate
First house, mid fifties couple who seemed fine until 3 weeks in and enjoyed music from early evening until early hours. This carried on for the whole duration of living there, sometimes nothing would happen for weeks other weeks you would hear it for a few days. Keeping in mind here this music was the same roughly 5 songs played on repeat until 5am when I had to get up for work at around 7am. Knocked the door, asked to turn down, would apologise, turn down slightly or turn off for 20 mins and back on. Gave up in the end and finally found somewhere else to rent...
New Wonderful house and were told ‘lovely QUIET family next door with kids’ - no problem, they’ll be in bed early and at school etc.
WRONG - these kids stomp up and down the stairs, stomp all over the landing, shout and scream. The parents also shout and scream to the point that if they have their windows open the whole street can hear everything they’re saying. Can’t forget the door slamming! Challenged them and they said it couldn’t be them.. I actually laughed to his face in disbelief. Kids go to bed at god knows what time in the school holidays and way past 10pm on a school night. Ridiculous. Teenage son who has no respect for the parents and if he gets grounded the whole world knows about it with continuous door slamming, stomping and shouting.
This is never ending - the affects of their behaviour has caused a massive detrimental affect on my mental health.
I honestly don’t know what one is/was worse, they are equal formats of hell no matter how I look at it.
Fingers crossed, moving again soon and hoping for third time lucky!
they can knock the house down during the day as far as I'm concerned
but does it have to be from 2100hrs to sometimes gone 1 in the morning a 3-year-old kid what kind of parents keep a kid up to that time to go carte blanche around the gaff
mental no carpet laminated flooring banging thudding on the floor bashing doors etc
crazy crazy people
They let their kids just scream in the garden all day or if they are in the house they just scream, slam doors, bang around apparently the housing association can not do anything about it.
I am so sick of the entitled, mouthy, rude little a holes you get around these days and their equally entitled, useless lazy parents.
I also feel sorry for majority of the primary/secondary school employees who have to deal with these thick chav brats and their equally thick, chav parents.
I also feel really sorry for the good kids that are out there as they have to put up with and get tarred with the same brush as these demon spawn
( that make your heartbeat race and raise your blood pressure and stress levels and finally after a few years effect sleep and then memory, learning etc) that is we must admit health effecst are enormous
for long periods of time ESPECIALLY horrible when made by children because of high voice (pitch?)
we advocate inequality and oppression of the poor and less powerfull. We advovcate social exclusion and marginalisation.
Because as long as you can not utter that the sounds of human children are horrible without being targeted by their selfish entitled parents who just push them outdoors, people will have to somehow find another excuse to get them elsewhere so they claim they heard swear words or they claim they are worried about safety or they say they were bullying some animal...
Well also, people are more inclined to find fault with poorer kids, those who do not have networks, those who are not well off..
This results that those who have all the resources (networks money) to take their kids to a sports field, are allowed to and choose to have their entitled offspring yelling in the street with a football bikes etc while the kids that are less well off, who have nobody, no nerworks etc those are the ones that do not gain support from the environment becausr they are more likely to have a bad reputation by slipping a swear word etc but end up going to malls etc
Children shouldnot be raised to think that they are somehow more entitled. If people do not accept me yelling in the street kicking a ball it should be told to kids as well that they should go somewhere else.
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In terms of noise or the harm of it it doesnt make any difference what the source of the noise is. The so called socially acceptable noise (kids, appliances) is in reality much worse that socially non acceptable noise like music.
Also if you make noise inside you generally do less harm than if you are noisy outside. Still some people talk about inside voices and outside.
I understand there are single moms in flats in fear of being evicted if their child as much as runs, but then there are people in houses who yell scream screech use appliances basically do whatever they like but we regard them as socially acceptable even though the noise can be heard.
I mean, we should be honest. The noise is dominance and the wealthier have kind of demonised the poor while themselves are the ones who make patriarchal noise with offspring, appliances. They bully becsuse they can.
Its like they have mothing but time and they use it to harm hate do evil. They ciuld congregate, ask for communal place for congregation but they have no joy without me. I am surprised by yhe evil of their parents, older people as well enjoy hurtung my my closest ones destroying tveir lives.
They pretend noise is not noise but it is targeted at me my closest ones.
People kill flies without thinking because they can.
Now parents who have the choice to respect others when they KNOW people suffer .
If it peasants were still allowed to rape their employees these without consequences they would do it. Their is no difference. You harm others an a cause tremendous suffering when you could stop it by being quiet
And this is so common nowadays. On the other hand there are many families nowadays whose parents take their kids to walks cycling never give anyone any harm in their lives. But live mostly in flats? not houses?
They needed someone to be mobbed and bullied here, so I heard and saw them going around telling their story which was that they were my victims and I was trying to boss them around when I asked why they don't use their own lawn/garden but hang around this side of street next to my garden not being my next door neighbors.
They told people to start making noise so the neighborhood is addicted. Bullying me and hating me and hanging around outside just to make noise is their purpose in life.. Men, and boys especially, even teens do all their sport and drive ATV's a few yards from my home, when one stops another one starts. First it was years from eight am to ten pm sports on the street, hockey, football etc, they adults tell their kids even in front of me that children can make noise and scream and yell outside. Then adults started to use all kinds of loud appliences so all around my house /home each side somebody is hanging around in order to make noise. Construction noise, sports, yelling just speaking loud, nailing, trimmers, four wheel drivers, snowmobiles... Middle class adult men drive an ATV /a crawler across from my home a few feet off in a patch of a few square meters for hours in the evening, and also next door neighbors other side...
They can bang car doors hundreds of times per evening , in a couple of hours, and this is supposed to be a normal neighborhood of detached houses.
There are dozens of these families who get inspiration, joy and happiness out of this hanging outside making noise less than 100 yards from my home. They have this gleam in their eyes, dont go anywhere. Usually people dont do that because we are a land of thousands of lakes, a land of woods, forests a land of recreation parks, there are many football fields, beaches, play grounds, within walking distance, communal recrearion areas just behind their back yards.
The reason why they didn't use their gardens but the street and the area next to my garden to begin with was it was more pleasant for the man who targeted me and the middle class, mostly men in IT jobs engineers, their wives nurses, kindergarten teacher, saleswomen, stay home all day now, went a long.
of course they can stand it because they are outside making the noise. For example if my next door neighbor leaves home many others gather there, adults, their kids, tell their kids scream (I have heard, they actually tell them to start screaming and yellin a few yards from my home. The parents also scream and yell, like one person "happens " to be walking far away so they have to raise their voice, so I have not had a five minute peace since 2007 apart from this year some but they are starting the noise again.
They know yo
It's churlish, even if they are screaming, and affecting your peace and life, to want it to stop? to expect parents to be decent and teach your child what and what isn't acceptable and to be considerate of other neighbours?
When I played out when I was younger I was so quiet my mum would often poke her head out in a panic wondering where I was, because I was "so quiet".
Even going to parks, theme parks, you name it, I never recall any children screaming as if they were about to be mauled with an axe like today's hood rats.
If I'm being "churlish" for not wanting screaming in my bloody ear, then so bloody be it. We were taught to behave and come in as children if we couldn't, I have seen many over the net say their parents wouldn't have put up with their kids screaming and would have got them indoors if they were getting too much, man even saying he overheard a father give a kid a choice, either play nicely or if they can't stop screaming, they will go inside and that's how it should be.
Your rugrats will be screaming and disturbing the wrong person one day, then what. Teach them some bloody manners or don't have them, your kids can play without screaming bloody murder, I'm living proof, trust me.
I have allowed her to run her cable and wifi services on my property and I can cut the wires and leave her with no wifi or tv services in the property. If I do that she has two 3 options live without wifi and netflicks etc, come and ask me to put it back and apologise or move out. People are calling me cruel if I do it but she has no regard for me. I am on the brink of doing it.
Keep persisting and contact all authorities. You dont have to put up with noisy rude kids who parents refuse to teach them to respect neighbours. To all those parents who think people are insensitive try living next to or underneath it. If you cant keep your kids quiet move somewhere else. If someone was making a racket when you kids need to sleep or were sick and needed rest you would be the first to complain. When I was a kid my Dad told me to be quiet and SHUT UP if you want to jump around go to the park. Its that simple. Respect your neighbours. You cant have your kids being a nuisance banging and stamping all day and night control your kids.
My families issue lies with the family renting to our semi-detached house. They are a nightmare of noise, arguments and persistent hostility towards certain visitors.
Their landlord is a Lady that periodically knocks on their door, or at least used to do and they NEVER answered the door to her. I remember a number of times, her knocking and waiting with no answer, yet knew they are in and wanted to tell her, but none of my business I thought.
Our issues are enhancing due to the 2 children who we feel may have a form of ADHD and the persistent noise and arguments between the overzealous father and the 3-4 year old daughter who is very rebellious at such a young age. The noise can be bad late into the night, sometimes at midnight with a strop thrown in for good measure and this doesn’t help me and mu Wife getting up at 6.30am for work.
To make matters worse, my Wife is 11 weeks pregnant and rest is important for her, but the worries over the noise and what May come with a newborn worry me a great deal and what can be done to solve such an issue?
I can’t ask the father to tone them down as he can be aggressive and non compliant and he even kicked out his teenage son arguing, fing and blinding late at night on the street, so not great and we have considered calling social services as we have family within, though don’t want to be wrong and wreck a families life, but what can we do? Where is the line drawn to stop such problems? We won’t move, we can’t afford it and they are renting so surely we could ask their landlord to take action? What can we do?
I’m not sure if there is something wrong with the toddler but there are periods (which can last up to an hour) where she is just running around and I can hear thumping from her footsteps when I am trying to work or just screaming and crying and i feel the parents are not doing anything about it. This can happen at 10:30pm when I am trying to sleep, 3am where I am woken up from my sleep or 2pm where I am trying to get work done! No idea how to go about this...
Drive-by is definitely along the right lines but I think that I may have finally found the solution .
I firmly believe,after years of extensive research, that the gene causing anti social tendencies can be isolated and edited. Although this alone won't solve the immediate problems at hand, these could be remedied by disposing of the said "hell children" by lethal injection at the same time the parents are retrospectively edited to make sure any further offspring are normal, law abiding citizens. The possibilities thereafter are limitless and vivi ....ve vill have peace and qviet !
Over the last few days, we have tracked specific examples of the problems listed above. To give you additional context, below is a list of incidents that have occurred over the last couple of weeks:
• Saturday, June 27, around 2 PM – We heard a crackling sizzling sound, and then shortly afterward we smelled smoke coming into our unit. I suspect this was someone next door lighting sparklers or something similar.
• Monday, June 29, around 7:30 AM – We heard the same crackling and sizzling sound, which again, sounded and smelled like sparklers.
• Wednesday, July 1, around 11 PM – Someone on the other side of the shared wall (our bedroom) was jumping and making loud scratching sounds against the wall. The continued until 12:15 AM.
• Friday, July 3, at 8:40 AM – Once again, we heard and smelled sparklers adjacent to our bedroom wall.
• Saturday, July 4 - Excessive noise all day – Loud running upstairs and jumping from morning until about noon; then a short break and unrelenting noise again from 1 PM to 6:10 PM.
• Sunday, July 5, beginning at 7 AM – Someone was throwing a ball against the wall, and once again lit what we believe to a sparkler adjacent to our bedroom wall.
• Monday, July 6, around 7 AM – More loud banging, and knocking against the bedroom wall.
• We continued to smell and hear the sounds of what we believe to be sparklers being lit on all of the following days:
o Tuesday, July 7, around 7:10 AM
o Wednesday, July 8, around 1:15 PM
o Thursday, July 9, around 1:35 PM
o Friday, July 10, Friday at 1:20 PM
o Saturday, July 11 at 7:30 AM.
And the issue with the noise is only escalating. On Saturday and Sunday morning (July 11 and 12), beginning around 7:30 AM, someone was also throwing a ball against our bedroom wall for 2 hours.
We are parents too, and we understand that children can be noisy. However, this level of persistent noise and especially, the concern about fire, has caused us a tremendous amount of stress and anxiety – particularly as we try to work from home.
We're elderly and don't want or need this at our age. I knocked on their door and had a word some time ago, but they denied that the boy runs around indoors and I got accused of making it up as "they never hear him". The father got quite nasty with me and suggested if we don't like it, we can move house.Since that day the boy makes even more noise, he runs stomps and thumps around the house like a rhinoceros, its so bad that the walls vibrate and the ornaments rattle in our glass cabinet.
We live in (what was) a quiet cul-de-sac and there's plenty of space outside if the boy feels the need to constantly run, there's a grassed play area just around the corner from here, a huge recreation ground 5 minutes walk away and their back garden's big enough to run around in.
My husband, who's over 70, isn't well and needs to sleep a lot. I suffer from chronic migraines and often need to lie down in a quiet dark room. Our lives have become a misery thanks to the selfish neighbours.
Everybody's entitled to a peaceful life and no one has the right to make other people's lives unbearable.
We've lived in our house much longer than they have in theirs, it cost us a lot of money and many years of hard graft, all we want to do is to be able to enjoy it in our old age, but it seems to be too much to ask.
Wouldn't it be wonderful if we could put all these noisy neighbours together living in a massive complex somewhere in the middle of nowhere. They wouldn't like that, even noisy neighbours don't want noisy neighbours and would be the first to complain.
With it being a bungalow it essential makes our living room useless, and even our main bedroom is a noise pit, can't escape like in a 2 story. I am now permanently work from home and so it's only got worse. I don't hate kids and appreciate they are like that and want to have fun but it's extremely difficult to deal with it when it's just 24/7, they love to jump around at 5:30am too and we share floor joists. The parents never tell them to be quiet, but instead just shout and swear at them..
Think our only solution is to move sadly.
Overall the really good neighbour so I'll just let it go for now I guess.
These boys fight, wrestle, scream and swear at each other. We even had one night where there was threats to stab and kill. Not one word from their so called parents. When they first moved in over 5 years ago, we tried to have a polite word to be told... children will be children.
I agree with another poster on this subject... the parents should take full responsibility for their little angels and not just excuse their behaviour on being children. I was constantly telling my daughter to be mindful of the noise she made, especially in the evenings when people that have been at WORK ALL DAY (mother doesn’t work) want to relax.
Don’t even get me started on the weekly BBQ the smoke that comes over to our garden is obscene. He also decided to BBQ up some chicken at 7am in the morning, I mean WHO DOES THAT???
they aren’t going to be aware of how much they are annoying people as probably we weren’t as kids until we were told to pipe down as there are other people who didn’t want to listen to their racket. The 4 brats here have gone off to Northumberland for a week along with their whiny dog and inconsiderate parents and I cannot tell you what it is doing for my wellbeing. The peace is overwhelming. Trouble is, they’ll be back before I know it.
It drives me mad to see 11 and 12 year old boys and girls ruin and destroy or vandalise the limited trees there. The sooner schools re open to engage these morons from innocent nature the better. Parents are obviously uneducated, thick imbeciles to allow such behaviour.
I really do not blame the children at all, it’s the parents of course. When I finally ‘snapped’ was when they were all hot-tubbing at 9.30 pm during a recent perfect summer evening. A neighbour four doors down could hear it from her bed. Oh! the noise! I did mention to the mum the next day that one expected the noise during mornings and afternoons but, really, evening’s AS WELL, all I got was “yes I know, it is difficult because they are so noisy,” and that was it. I tried to convey to her that all of her neighbours, which means 5 houses are affected by this. The 2 year old indulges in unfettered screaming bouts frequently because she is not getting what she wants and she is allowed to scream herself out. Also, the mother has decided to home school them from now on. Are you all feeling really sorry for me now? There are occasions when, wherever I am in my (detached) house I can hear them. I have resorted to wax earplugs which do work but should I really have to do that in my own home. Okay, I have never had children but surely parents should consider the impact their offspring have on others. I feel guilty even having a lawn mower going or when my husband chainsaws the odd bit of wood. Before she had the children where we live was a haven of peace and quiet. I tell myself it won’t last as they will grow up but it doesn’t help me now.
I told them to stop climbing the gates for health and safety reasons and all that noise. Next, the next door woman came and said that they are only children. And her friend was her guest. All very well but what about some consideration for her neighbours. Such selfish behaviour, both her and her husband are extremely noisy shutting their garage door very loudly and allowing her kids to play in the garden well past 23:00hrs. Absolutely, no consideration for anyone else.
Finally, today I lost it and told her the truth. Of course, I want to be neighbourly but since lockdown they have been having good time and great holiday. I will be very happy when lockdown is over and the neighbours go back to their jobs. Some people have just been having extended holiday and no concerns about coronovirus.
Their little boy is around 4-5 years old and is extremely heavy footed, as indeed is the dad - my ceiling reverberates when the boy is running and jumping around, some of which I believe is when he jumps off their furniture and then I get a very loud "boom" on the floor.
I have contacted them 3 times about this as I am getting constant headaches from the thudding but it is still going on. I cannot relax inside my own home due to this and he woke me up this afternoon when I was asleep as I was not feeling well.
What can I do to get them to curb his thudding and stamping? I do appreciate that he is young and full of energy but they also need to appreciate how badly this is affecting me, which just seems to be going over their head.
The house attached to us (we live in a semi) had an extension built a couple of years ago. This itself took over a year to build. The heart of this is a big kitchen/dining/family space at the back with NO soundproofing. The sound from their tv, music and just talking in this space bounces off all the hard surfaces. So even when volume isn't particularly loud, it still feels like they are in the room with us. Our other next door neighbours (not attached) have only two levels of volume - loud or screaming. The kids are young so want to play in garden. Fair enough, but they SCREAM all the time and have done so since they moved in 4 or 5 years ago. Didn't mind so much when they were excited tots, but they are 8 and 10 now and getting louder! My hubby works 12 hour shifts, including nights. He gets no sleep through the day when they are in their garden. Since lockdown, I've been working from home and cannot even open windows as clients on phone think a child is being murdered in the background. We can't sit out and enjoy our garden in the sunshine because they're just shouting at each other all the time. We can't even have a peaceful bath because they're out the back screaming. The parents never come out and say "just try to be a bit quieter" or "stop winding each other up". When they do come out they talk just as loudly.We can even hear them screaming at each other when they are INSIDE their house. Their attached neighbours must be ruing the day they moved in. They are nice people but they are just so loud all of the time. It's really upsetting as we love where we live and we have done a lotvto our home to get it the way we wanted. But we've just become so frustrated and unhappy. This is not just since Covid. This has been 4-5 years now. I'm stressed about it all the time because I'm worried about my hubby and want him to be happy. I'd like to be able to enjoy my garden and resent that this can only be a snatched ten mins every now and then. I also feel guilty because they're just kids and want to play. I just don't know how much more I can take! ??
Lula - 2-Aug-20 @ 8:56 PM
However, our neighbour has taken on babysitting his 10 year old twins who are nightmare screamers, bouncing basketballs (no net, just throwing it up and down the street and dinging cars). He just sends them out in the street to play while he watches TV inside all day. I found that the best way to keep them at a distance is to play either classical music or opera at a reasonable level - not loud even to draw complaints - but kids generally hate that kind of music so they just keep away and give me looks of disgust! In the city near us they play classical music in the subway because it has been found to stop teenagers from congregating.
Our other next door neighbours (not attached) have only two levels of volume - loud or screaming. The kids are young so want to play in garden. Fair enough, but they SCREAM all the time and have done so since they moved in 4 or 5 years ago. Didn't mind so much when they were excited tots, but they are 8 and 10 now and getting louder! My hubby works 12 hour shifts, including nights. He gets no sleep through the day when they are in their garden. Since lockdown, I've been working from home and cannot even open windows as clients on phone think a child is being murdered in the background. We can't sit out and enjoy our garden in the sunshine because they're just shouting at each other all the time. We can't even have a peaceful bath because they're out the back screaming. The parents never come out and say "just try to be a bit quieter" or "stop winding each other up". When they do come out they talk just as loudly. We can even hear them screaming at each other when they are INSIDE their house. Their attached neighbours must be ruing the day they moved in. They are nice people but they are just so loud all of the time.
It's really upsetting as we love where we live and we have done a lotvto our home to get it the way we wanted. But we've just become so frustrated and unhappy. This is not just since Covid. This has been 4-5 years now. I'm stressed about it all the time because I'm worried about my hubby and want him to be happy. I'd like to be able to enjoy my garden and resent that this can only be a snatched ten mins every now and then. I also feel guilty because they're just kids and want to play. I just don't know how much more I can take! ??
Many parents are so protective about their obnoxious howler monkey brats you can’t say a damn thing or the standard “you don’t have kids do you?” response is trotted out like that is the solution? – have kids yourself & join in the screaming/squealing just like everybody else….?.
What about people who work from home or students?...... are they supposed to just suck it up because little Bratleigh likes to scream like a banshee morning until night & the parents don't give a damn?...…
These parents are selfish, inconsiderate, and massively entitled & they pass this on to their noisy children…….who become bellowing entitled adults with zero respect for their neighbours & so the whole cycle continues?..
3-5 year olds running around with 16-17 year olds no relation playing on drain shocked that any parents would let young kids go off with older ones
If you can’t simply control your kids it’s the parents who need sorting out first.
Look after your kids it’s not hard if I can keep all mine under control then so should little bmw and Mazda with Tracy as a mum
The only children I know that dong make noise by running around are ones that physically can’t run. The only children that don’t scream are the ones that are physically not able to or very mentally broken.
As parents the only way to do what you want to “see and nor hear” is by shoving them in front of tv from the moment they wake up to moment they go to sleep. Don’t think anyone thinks that’s healthy,
To make such accusations towards families you don’t actually know - you must be a very shallow and nasty person. To hate children so much - move to a detached property or retirement estates. Simple.
They are spoiling them rotten, giving them everything, allowing them anything, to do what they want and then everyone is wondering why when they get to teenage years they are committing suicide these days, suddenly life is just too tough for them. The kid next door to me is so spolit and demanding he sounds like a demon (I kid you not) when shouting (or screaming) for his parents attention if they leave the room for a few moments. Parents are not doing them any favours by being lazy and not teaching their kids to be respectful.
I am a good considerate neighbour, i've helped many of my previous neighbours with dog sitting, child sitting, lending stuff etc. Being quiet at night when their kids go to bed very early etc etc. I've also tried to be tollerant of my current neighbours, with the impact noises for the last 2 years. Also had to spend a lot of money to change the bark in my garden for slate, because their cat was using it for a toilet. The same in my front garden (now their cat just goes on my lawn!). So I don't see why they can't buy a rug or two. I am looking to move house to a detached house, but I shouldn't have to leave the house and area that I love, have worked on this house and garden for 13 years doing it up, because other people are so selfish.
If you read this far, thanks for listening and I hope your neighbour noise suffering ends soon too because it really does affect your health and quality of life. It was even on the news for neighbours to be more considerate during lock down, as the Council has had so many noise complaints (double than usual). But my experience has been quite the opposite of "considerate", even though my taxes are paying for both my neighbours to be at home all day for months!
After putting up with the worsening noise for 2 more years, saying nothing, 3 weeks ago I tried knocking on their front door a couple of times to speak to them. But they were making so much noise they could not hear me knock (when they have their lounge windows open you can hear their screams and banging from 5 houses away in the road! And these are wide houses). So I wrote the neighbours a very polite letter explaining how I work in my box room the other side of my house to theirs, with all the doors closed, and even put a double mattress the other side of study wall on its side. Yet still I can hear running, thudding, knocking, banging noises very loudly and can't hear my customers down the phone. Asking politely if they could either get some foam play mats/ rugs to buffer the impact noises OR give him soft toys to throw and discourage running indoors. It got quieter for a couple of weeks but now its nearly back to where it was. Yesterday I endured 5 hours of really loud banging as she was singing to him and he was throwing himself off of the furniture. This morning, on a Sunday I tried to have a lay in as had a bad sleep. I sleep in the box room (also my study) on other side of house to avoid their noise, using the best earplugs (35 decibels) and really loud white noise music on top of this, with me holding the headphones onto my ears and I still heard (as usual) really loud bangs ..."Boom!... Bang!" like an earthquake or living next door to T-Rex as it vibrates through the fabric of the building. There is nothing you can do to block it out! Nothing! I live in a large solid 3 bedroom semi house. They need to get carpet with underlay, maybe rugs on top of that. That is what I have in my house, and I don't even have children. Some people are just plain inconsiderate. I've been on other forums and there are decent parents who say they are bringing their kids up to be respectful of their neighbours and quiet. Not allowing running and only soft balls indoors. I wasn't allowed to run or throw anything indoors when growing up. Not even allowed to make noise outside on a Sunday. I was brought up in an age where there was a lot more decent people about who were considerate and strict of their kids. Its a simple as that, I understand kids can be trying but why have them if you are not prepared to bring them up properly and get strict often enough as needed. Just shouting at your kids a lot is also not enough, you need to discipline them and give them consequences for their bad behaviour such as taking away their toys or phones etc. But I don't know anyone round here willing to do that, some just seem to enjoy shouting at their kids like it makes them a good parent. Kids don't care about just being shouted at. They are spoiling them rotten, giving them everything, allowing them anything, to do what they want and then everyone is wondering why when they get to teenage years they are committing suicide these days, suddenly li
In the past I've spoken to the husband and wife separately, very nicely, pointing out their kitchen door is quite clunky (can hear it my side) and if they can try not to bang it early morning, but still this loud early morning door banging has gone on for 3 years since they moved in, from 6.30 am in the morning! They don't even try. I also said about the "impact" floor noises that I can hear and mentioned the previous neighbour had rugs so wasn't an issue. BUT they have done NOTHING! NO RUGS! The husband is furloughed at the moment, the kid has got bigger and heavier and now is running about a lot and I swear they play football indoors as I can hear the ball bounce and the wife bouncing a tennis ball. Obviously its been worse for me as during lock down with the kid not going to nursery as he was 2 days a week. But I work from home and can't concentrate. Let alone get a good nights sleep. My other neighbour is also furloughed as is allowing her 12 and 13 year old boys to stay up until 1.30 am. They bang outside doors and run up and down the stairs (really loudly as they are both heavy for their age). So between my two inconsiderate neighbours i'm lucky if I get more than 6.5 hours sleep. Last night I got 5 hours and had to cancel social plans today as i'm just feeling too ill and tired.
After putting up with the worsening noise for 2 more years, saying n
Some of you have come up with wonderful coping mechanisms. Thank you all for your thoughts and for taking the time to write and post on here. Unfortunately I don't know that there's really much we can do about the noisy kids--I've already nicely asked my new neighbors to be mindful of the noise, but beyond that, what do you do when kids are running around and stomping? The mother said she wasn't aware of the children stomping, but maybe parents just don't notice these things when their own child is making the noise.
Anyways, the best I can do is just plan around their waking hours, and nap in other rooms and/or wear eaplugs. But earplugs don't really help with the stomping sounds because the thuds are a low frequency, and earplugs do nothing to stop that sound. Oh well, I'll try my best to just breathe, and try to not get too angry.
What should happen is that landlords should be made to insist in their tenancy agreements that neighbours are respected , far to often in fact it seems all the time now that you only get consideration if you are one of these no hopers , the ones that are happy to let society support them and use their children as weapons and the means to gain income, in Britain today 2020 we encourage this type of behaviour, what we should be doing is reducing benefits to the first 2 children, if you can afford more than 2 then we should take that benefit away as well Why should we as a society encourage and pay for irresponsible behaviour
Maria.
The screaming, screeching and shouting are nearly continuous from morning until late night. The children swear and play loud ball games. All the social tenants appear to have dogs, which they walk in the communal area. Some children have discovered that they can be even louder by banging their scooters against our walls and doors. We have asked our housing association over and over again to do something about it, but there have been no results. We are trying to get them to close down this communal area, as it has brought us nothing but grief. I developed severe anxiety lately, as I am stuck in the house, working from home, with my life dictated by these children and their parents. I could, perhaps, live with child or two being loud once in a while, but the screaming from our estate can be heard 3 minutes away, in the park next door, where all of this people could take their offspring.
I think some people allow their children to run wild to the detriment of others, and being told that kids need to be outdoors isn't good enough anymore. I think we need a fundamental shift on how we think about this, and start imposing harsh sanctions on those who raise savage offspring.
There are two families whose houses back onto mine and the kids are out from early in the morning to around nine in the evening. I know kids make a bit of noise but the screaming shouting and banging seems relentless, only stopping for around half an hour at dinner and teatime. Sometimes,as someone else has said,they scream as if someone is trying to kill them.
I was almost driven to tears yesterday just through the frustration of it. I can't even go far to escape from it when it's hot like this as I get very tired in the heat.
When I was a kid parents would tell us to keep it down if we got too rowdy but people don't seem to be so considerate these days and you daren't complain, even a nicely worded comment would probably be taken badly.
I don't have any answers, I just wanted to add to the comments so people know they're not alone.
There are two families whose houses opposite the back of mine. Their kids are out from early in the morning to around nine in the evening, only seeming to go in for meals.
I know kids make a bit of noise but their screaming and shouting seems relentless and I can still hear it even if I use earplugs.
I was almost driven to tears yesterday, just through sheer frustration with it all. It's been worse these past few days because I get tired easily in the heat, so couldn't even go out for a walk or suchlike to escape it all for a bit.
It shouldn't be too much to ask to have a little peace in your own home but it's literally just about half an hour at dinner and again at teatime,then the rest is constant screaming, shouting and banging about. When I was a kid, parents would tell their children to keep it down for a bit eventually, for the sake of the neighbours but very few people seem so considerate these days.
The parents are out drinking in the street not giving a single thought about the kids or what the other families are having to put up with gone 11pm every night I’m like a nervous wreck constantly watching the cctv to keep them off my property.
The children are as young as 2 up to 11 and just do as they please you ask them not to do it and they do it again and again unfortunately it’s us now that is looking to move it’s so unfair why people now bring up the children with such lack of respect for other people and their property
It’s got worse during lockdown & I suspect this is, both with adults & children, a way of trying to get noticed & get some attention, which they have been missing during lockdown….. and when we were let out, visitors to beauty spots seemed to feel that they needed to mark the occasion by dumping litter & takeaway wrappers in such places, a bit like dogs marking their scent on trees…… these people apparently “need” need to have their existence and presence noticed?.
God forbid we should return to “children should be seen & not heard” days because I really think it is important to children to feel acknowledged & listened to BUT it is also important for children (and some adults) to recognise that they don’t live alone on the planet and shouty/loud people can cause an annoyance to others.
Learning consideration for others really should be taught as part of a growing human’s life skills, because believing that you can do exactly as you please & stuff everybody else really isn’t very neighbourly and unless you’re part of the upper (immune) class, permanently shouting your opinion is unlikely to help you to succeed in life.
Ear defenders or headphones over cotton wool in the ears is a help but not always comfortable. Choosing to do the life tasks that need a quieter environment at the quiet times of day is the obvious workaround. So I'm gardening at 6 in the morning? I don't think so.
The other idea I have is to change me. I practise meditation, so sometimes I sit quietly, do some breathing exercises and let my body relax. Then I listen. Really listen, to each and every sound I can hear outside the room. I take note of the kind of sound it is, notice its shape and quality, (just notice, no anger or frustration) and then (this is the hard part) I accept that it's there, and let it be. I return to my breathing and quiet within me. Then I do the same for the sound within the room: noticing, listening, taking note of its shape and quality, accepting that it's there, and let it be there, return to my inner quiet.
Then I listen to what is within me. Am I disquieted emotionally or mentally? If so, I quieten by listening to my breath in the same way. And accept that I breathe. I am grateful for this. I find other things in me that I am grateful for and I say thank you.
Quietly, I draw the meditation to a close and hold the gratitude. I try to keep the quiet within me as long as I can.
Well, it's a way of helping, though it doesn't change anyone else. Except . . . somehow it does. While I've been writing this and letting myself quieten as I do, the neighbours' children have suddenly stopped the noise. It's become quieter outside as well.
There are mysteries in this life that we cannot understand, but sometimes how we are in ourselves can affect the outer world. By quieting ourselves, we can bring some better intentions to the neighbourhood.
May your own problems be eased and helped.
I was just scrolling online looking to get some solution in some way - to calm my own nerves and help me meditate. Haha, but no I see that neighbor's noisy kids are a menace that many people suffer just like me.
I live on the 2nd floor in my building and right under the windows is a paved wooden stage originally meant to serve as a yoga platform for the community. Ever since the lockdown started, the community kids have taken to playing throw ball here. I work full-time from my home office - 10 am to 8 or 9 pm. servicing international IT clients. The kids started playing from 6-8 pm, then around 4-8 pm... and now they're out as early as 1 or 2 pm daily. They're screaming their heads off and obviously having fun.
As an adult I understand that kids cannot be "controlled" a whole lot as they are likely to get carried away in their enthusiasm. But I also wonder if the reason they're out more often and longer hours is because their parents are fed up and send them out to get their own peace.
I've tried asking them nicely to keep it down. I've tried asking the community manager to instruct them nicely. Obviously, "nice" doesn't work. But screaming at the screaming kids from my window would only paint me as a witch.
I'm out of carrots, I'm out of sticks. Quite frankly, frustrated!
Philosophically speaking, please tell me what I can do for my own peace of mind.
Practically speaking, please tell me what I can do to relocate this ruckus away.
Thanks to anyone who reads and responds..
It’s a high density area (flats) and dozens of us are having to work form home. The noise all day long is driving me mad. Right now there are 16 sitting in on garden (only 5 live here) having a party with over half a dozen kids running up and down the road fighting and shouting over the two scooters.
I’m not saying they should be silent, but there should be some consideration for neighbours. I bet they would soon moan if I sat outside their school window once they are back and started screaming while they were attempting to sit their exams!??
15 of them or more all day and night until 11pm or 12 mid is just to much to handle. All of the neighbors have had enough but I guess we should be the ones to move. How about you move out to the boonies. Maybe you ought to pay attention to being more considerate to your neighbors sounds like you and your kids are the real problem. So stop being a defensive parent and deal with your entitled children.
Our elderly neighbors behind us build their house close to the pool and on multiple occasions have cursed at our family when they were on their back porch.
They told our 8 year old Grandson to shut the f... up while him and his Mother were together in the hot tub.
They have also come to our front door and threatened to call the police.
The kids are not allowed to be overly loud but the couple have been verbally abusive.
They have never tried to ask us politely so we are at a loss.
Please give me some help!!!
What others think of our ‘solution’.
There should certainly bea limit to the amount of shrill SCREAMING comimg out of children's mouths, PERIOD. They can AND SHOULD control that. Ever heard of PTSD? No- one, ME, should be triggered while sitting in their, my, own living room minding their, my, own business. THERE'S NO REASON TO SCREAM BLOODY MURDER. Why should I have to close all my windows and doors and turn the tv up to drown out SCREAMING? That's not playing. That's SCREAMING. It's rude af and UNNECESSARY AND PREVENTABLE.
It's called PARENTING YOUR CHILDREN and more people NEED TO BE DOING IT.
Where there used to be gardens for relaxing and gardening.
Not the least consideration of other people.
It is just amusement parks for screaming. Football field, trampoline, in a lot not big enough to fart in without dozens of people hearing. There is no respect what so ever for other people so that even symbolically young parents would realize that other people don't enjoy hearing it and even try to respect other people. when they can, minimize the noise to others and maximize the noise to themselves with where they have their noise.
People are very selfish and cruel and especially families but older people as well
The original tenants were okay - average noise and one of the parents had a noisy kid from another relationship come over every weekend but it wasn't the end of the world.
They moved and a lovely lady with a couple of cats moved in and never made a noise. We had a great friendship and could be honest about noise if there was ever an issue (but there wasn't).
When she left a family of four moved in - a couple younger than us but with two young children. They were pretty noisy whilst moving in (to be expected) but it slowly changed as their eldest (i'm guessing about 5-6) started sprinting and jumping around the house. She does this everyday for about 2-3 hours in the morning and 3-4 hours in the late afternoon.
I get that kids make noise but this is unbearable. Playing, walking and laughing is fine. Screeching, sprinting and jumping on and off furniture is not - their kids have zero boundaries and are allowed to run riot.
We have a newborn and I feel we live our lives on tiptoes to minimise noise - we have rugs everywhere to cover the wooden floor, move the baby into another room on the detached side when crying and just generally try to be respectful - but with nothing in return.
I have been in the house as we got on well with the previous neighbour and know that even with our conservative behaviour, they will still hear the odd footsteps or door closing from us so they must know how much noise we hear from them.
The latest bane in my life is Joe Wicks (The Body Coach). Joe's morning P.E lessons fall at the same time as our newborns' nap.
Despite glorious sunshine, our neighbours nice big garden and Joe Wicks saying 'do this outside if you can', they choose to do it in their living room which links to ours. This is essentially 30 mins of floor shaking, banging and screaming - which in turn sets our newborn off screaming. The baby, then out of sync with the routine is then 'off' all day and has interrupted sleep at night.
As I mentioned, there is no way they don't realise the noise they are making. To be fair, the mum is actually a lot better at controlling the kids. Now that the dad is at home it is awful (and we can tell who is in charge of the kids based on the noise i.e. if mum goes out shopping etc).
I know the average time someone stays in a rental in the UK is two years and we are getting close so fingers crossed!
It is not realistic to expect any compensations in case of damage to your property or health. If you are an honest considerate and decent person you do not use your kids as an excuse to ruin other people's lives to start with. You take them to do sport to places since you know you suffer also when you have to listen to screaming and banging person other than you (your familymembers involved)
It’s all about just being considerate to the neighbours! Which they have no idea the amount of notice from 7am to 7pm sadly feel like a prisoner in my own house!
It may take 6 months, but it will happen. STAY SAFE
Kids make noice but from 5pm till early hours of the morning this is inconsiderate. The fact that the parents don’t have the brain to keep there kids inside tells me they would not be considerate of anyone. I have lots of older neighbours and they are to frighten to say anything as kids become destructive of property’s. I can’t wait for school to go back
I spoke with her once asking her to turn down the volume because it was 2 am and they were playing basketball in the apt. Days later she lied to management saying that I had mistreated her kids and they sent me a letter. She continued to bang on the wall and now even more. By now she just does it to bother me. What is strange is that the kids never go to school. My schedule for work is changing all the time and no matter when I leave for work or come back, the kids are screaming in the apt. I suppose they are home school but besides screaming I have never heard them learning anything. I started calling the police because I am extremely anxious all the time and it is making me feel depressed and frustrated because I cant move to another place since I bought my apt. I will never understand why people are so inconsiderate.
I lived here for about 6 months in an empty building, and then the woman upstairs moved in with her baby. All was okay until the baby became a toddler and started walking; now my life is hell! That child runs up and down the flat on and off all day every day. The woman never takes her out although there is a park opposite. The kid is 1 and a half and is up till 10-11pm running, screeching, throwing toys, banging cupboard doors and jumping up and down, stamping its feet! Sometimes I listen outside the door and can hear shes on a call ignoring the child, sometimes shes encouraging the bad behaviour.
Yeah kids make noise, but I totally disagree that its "churlish" to quiet them down. If you live in a flat there are people all around you, and that means disciplining your child or children so that you dont drive those neighbours to distraction! How is it fair that a vulnerable person who has no choice where she lives has to live with this every day!?
I tried a note, its been totally ignored. Now I have to go to the council, her housing association and social services. This is out of order!!!
It seems to be acceptable now that everyone works 9-5 and it's OK to make noise...until everyone that doesn't have to work shifts needs to sleep, then everyone(including the shift workers) must be quiet.
I wonder if we should have similar rules for ANYTHING else. A minority of people have to put up with lack of sleep which leads to many underlying illnesses and early death because of inconsiderate people. Seems fair.
Kid annyoing neighbor all the time i feel upset eve my neigh bor hood upset
i hate this why they keep dong like this they need stop doing this seriously period. I hate annyoing.!
whatching someting our house its very negative the kid should need stay with mom
not playing around with them. they need beave self kid need stop annyoing make noise.. seriously apartment
Like, we tell them not to attack anybody physically. But that is not as harmfull as screaming, since children are physically weak. Their voice compensates for it and parents should be made to realize that their children's voices are a pleasure for their own parents, no-one else. That should be organized.
It is a weapon that destroys health and well-being. There is nothing as horrible as their voice. Human loud sudden voices.
Like, the family who started this targeting by noise. No-one takes their offspring there ib frobt of, close to their house, their windows. It is only me. My children who everyone wants to harm
One couple targeted me in 2009 and that means that they manipulated this neighborhood to yell in front of my house.
If i go away for a weekend there is quiet, otherwise somebody is always outside making noise, yelling screaming... etc
I am exhausted and startled by the sudden noises that are constant.
My daughter had aappppendicitis, almost died, had 4 different antibiotics, two of them into vein, artery, i worry so much about my children. They have not used their garden for years, neither have i, because the neighborhood kids are screaming doing sport, even ridin bicycle they won't go anywhere.
I lost my period when all this noise making started, that was when i was about 40 years old. Now i am near 50.
There us always someone here on the street and they yell. I am so worried how thus will affect my children who are teens now.
People , parents, grand parents, their kids can be horrible, human monsters to other people. Dozens of adults have tried to harm my children who do not wish anyone any harm, for years, with power tools, circular saws, etc...
Thank you for sharing your stories. I do not understand the way children are raised these days. And all targeting, mobbing, flying monkeys, stalking by proxy.
They know even loud talk can be heard inside from the street and they are obsessed at keeping their kids there and difgerent families, dozens, one goes away, stops, another comes.
And also they keep going on people's property to get there ball which is not acceptable.
Thanks for the informative article.
Actually, I have an 18 month toddler who is hard willed and stubborn. So he cries a lot even with simple things like changing nappies and clothes. He throws a lot of tantrums and every action is actually a nightmare. He still doesn't talk so this makes him more frustrated. All of the noise are during the daytime and he sleeps usually at 8 pm or maximally at 9 pm.
M neighbor came to my house and he banged aggressively on the door. He was very angry and shouted at us asking us to take the baby out and control him while inside the house.
I admit that my little one is noisy but we tried every thing, got advice from sure start nurse but he still the same. Now, we take him out most of the day but we became very exhausted from being out all that time.
My question, what is the accepted noise from someone at his age? and how can we deal with this situation till he passes this phase or till we move away from our neighbor?
Thanks
No one is telling you to stop the kids playing.
If what your allowing to occur in your household is affecting the lives of others, those others have the right to take action against you.
If balls are damaging property, you could be sued. If balls are hitting people, you could be in trouble.
That's the law of the First World.
The parents (my neighbours) are nice enough however seem to have little or no control over their daughter. Another neighbour went to them to complain about her behaviour recently but the daughter jumped in and screamed obscenities whilst the parents stood by and watched..
The kids hang around outside my next door neighbours house every night (we are in terraces) and with the summer holidays looming, I guess they will be a permanent fixture! Dad is insured but why should his premium increase because of their behaviour and are they likely to do it again each time he comes (he is at mine regularly at the moment and often stays over).
Has anyone else experienced anything similar?
Kids? Who'd have 'em eh?
When did we become such a selfish nation? I am sick to my back teeth of those without children or worse still older people WHO have grown up children (they should certainly know better) always judging us young families whether we remain in our home or dare to head out in public. Here is an idea: why don't you either choose to keep your nasty views to yourself or support families: Offer to babysit/hold a shop door open if you see a mum struggling with a pram/offer to carry shopping bags home for a family. It would make for a better society!
I could not make this up: If I stay home the neighbours (couple with no children) one side tell me off about letting my children play in OUR garden. On the rare times we go out I'm then abused... in our SUPERMARKET on so many levels e.g. Always some passive aggressive single woman trying to squeeze past my pram or push past my children instead of sensibly walking up another aisle (which by the way is no hardship for someone on their own to do!) or when EATING OUT - always some old person annoyed that my children are being excitable in a cafe and don't get me started when I am trying to use the FOOTPATH with four kids in tow AND obviously pregnant - I've had cyclists try to run into me and then abuse me for telling THEM off and to use the bleeding road where they should be , I've had single people (men and women in office clothes are the worst contenders) not move out of our way (literally stop dead in the middle on the footpath and sometimes glare at us) when it would have been overtly easier for them to step to one side to let us pass or quickly cross the road to use the foot path on the other side, I've had these idiotic phone zombies walk into us and more...
Oh dearie me, I just cannot win so I develop a thick skin and ignore you haters unless you dare to tell my kids off and I will have a full on meltdown. For goodness sake they are kids and are naturally lively and playful therefore you either accept that or go somewhere where children do not frequent! It's like you hates don't want us and our children but then you're happy for children to grow up one day to support the likes of you! Maybe if we had a village to raise our children and gove
to another road that the back gardens back on to the back access via a foot path from theirs. The children have start playing in the back access and using as a play ground during school holidays and after school as well as the weekends, this means we can not sit out in our garden which is causing my husband anxiety attacks. He is partially sighted and his at home most of the time. Is there anything I can do.
Maxine
Is this legal??
Repeatedly kicking their balls on my fence and walls, this has now stopped, as housing officer has managed to send letters out to them. Now no one speaks to me. Which is fine. However just gone to make a drink to find 4 of them running around in my garden, jumping over washing line etc. . I live on my own and it scares the hell out of me!! Yet if I report this, will their behaviour ever change, but I will report this as they were not invited (obviously), but it’s horrible experience. They do knock my door to get their ball, so they are just horrible because their parents are rubbish. It all does need to be reported to the necessary agencies. But wow
The boys are over often, and my 2 year old son is often over at their house as well. Life is good.
This past month, my family went on vacation for a week. When we can back, our storage shed's window was completely smashed. We have our kids out of season clothes stored in there as we don't have space in the house.
The younger boy of 5, told me that the 7 year old couldn't get into the shed (which he had no business being in) so he smashed the window.
The parents are aware, but have said nothing to me.
But now we have to replace the window, or move all of our possessions out.
It should be noted that the window had a small hole, but no rain was able to get in. Now we have a 2x3 foot gap in our shed's wall.
Do I confront my sister-in-law even though she hasn't mentioned it to me?
They are moving in a few weeks, but I'm so fed up with how undisciplined the boys are, that my instinct is to ask her if she did anything more than give her son a slap on the wrist.
Today the boys were in our yard, and I told them they could play anywhere else on the farm, because I didn't want the other window to get broken, and the oldest son basically told me that he would just come and play while I wasn't home.
I'm venting.
There's pretty much nothing I can do if I want to save the relationship. ??
I have told the child that I am a grandmother with no interest in watching TV all day, however, she keeps on coming. When I go out the back the girl hangs over the balcony and says that she is going to jump, when I go out the front of the apartment the girl climbs the wall and threatens to jump too! Meanwhile mum seems to be in bed all the time and takes no notice of her daughters well being, I am going crazy I feel like a prisoner in my own home. Jenny
I've had a family move into a flat next to me and they've been an absolute nightmare.The kids have taken over our communal washing area,scream and shout till gone 10pm of a night most days and they've stuck a trampoline virtually in the middle of the drying area.Not to mention they've chalked all over the slabs so if any of our clothes come off the line they get damaged.The parents aren't the nicest of people ive had words with them before about things but they don't listen or just tell me ah well kids have gotta play somewhere.I don't know what to do.
We live in a small cul de sac and every morning our neighbours 3 children (all under 6) play out in the cul de sac, screaming and arguing, from 8am even on a Sunday. This week I said it's not fair to be woken up every Sunday morning when I work 6 days a week, Sunday is the only day I can sleep in.
She told me she's told them loads to keep the noise down but they won't listen, and it's not her fault. She can't help having 3 kids !!!!!!
Expeshally jumping on my roof
The parents know this is happening and say 'it's only kids playing' and are not interested.
What can be done?
If the projectiles are causing injury, then this is assault. Especially if the parent was aware that balls were coming over, and continued regardless. If it has been happening for sometime after it first being reported, it could be considered malicious intent.
It takes little common sense to work out that launching projectiles into a neighbors garden is out of order. Damaging property or causing injury, is a crime.
There are parks to play in, or invest in a net and take care that projectiles aren't launched at your neighbors property. The entitled to play football at the expense of the neighbors brigade, wouldn't be too happy explaining their entitlement to injure an elderly person or child to a judge.
They are between 10-15 years old.
What rights do I have to protect my property against these vandals. Especially if I catch them in the act.
I was tempted to scruff the lads and march them home to their mothers. But thought I could end up in trouble.
So I ended up going out there and reasoning with them that if they continue I will call the police and do you think your mum will be able to pay for that?!
I really don’t know the best way for action.
Logging complaints to landlord's are useless yet complaining directly to your local council and Citizen's advise should have much more legal clout. Explain that you have written several times to complain to tenants and/or landlords of the situation before going to either of these.
As front of the house is open so i have decided to put brick wall so that it gives me some privacy with that in mind I have stacked all the bricks in front of my property so that they look a bit tidy before I properly build them in coming summer.
Problem here is every now and again either few blocks are moved around or dropped on the ground by school kids I assume as this is the way kids use to go to school.
As I have physically not seen anyone doing it so far. Now I am really frustrated with this kind of behaviour by kids. Now I am planning to video these kind of activities god know how long it will take to catch those culprits whoever does it. so that I have proof to show their parent what their kids up to.
But capturing video without someone's consent I feel like legally this is not right.
Can anyone help me or suggest me how should I deal with this.
Many thanks
T
My neighbours kids aged 9are out till half 9 sometimes 10pm at night screaming shouting .
We live in an ajoining ground floor flat to there 3 bed house (housing) i can't even open my daughters window as they are that loud which results in her being to hot
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Not to mention struggling to get her to bed. I have mentioned it to the mother her response is " my kids are just playing " I'm at my wits end housing don't seem to want to know and my anxiety is through the roof.
I know they are just small kids but they have no manners and are so cheeky! We feel like we are being intimated by a group of children! We just want to be able to go into our garden without wondering whats going to happen
Any suggestions?
Tonight they were running in and out of my garden after the ball again and I asked them to stop. This illicited a pretty rude response from the two who don't live nearby and they started deliberately running into my garden making noises. I went out again and saw that my hedge had been damaged by their games. I told them to stop and said it wasn't on to be behaving like this. They did stop, but I'm concerned they'll be back before long.
What is the best way to deal with something like this? The two boys from my street were apologetic but the other two were quite confrontational. I'm a woman living alone and not used to having to deal with things like this! Would be grateful for any advice.
I know exactly what you mean re: praying for rain.
The children at Copperwood DO have 'somewhere nice to play' - there's a really big park a 10 minute walk up the road - the 'parents' (in quotes because there's no sign of parenting) are just too lazy to take their children to the park.
Likewise, other residents are moving away from Copperwood because it now bears more resemblance to a Trailer Park (childrens toys, dirty cutlery, dirty children's knickers left in Communal areas) than the lovely area it to used to be - it's really upsetting. My heart goes out to anyone else that suffers in this away - I think only other people who are experiencing this type of thing can fully understand how much this affects you.
It really affects your life, health and happiness and it's about time that more is done re: noise pollution from Children.
In the summer I now stay away from my home until 9pm when (hopefully) parents have called their children in and I can at least enjoy a few hours peace. But WHY SHOULD I AVOID MY OWN HOME? Sick to death if it.
Your story caught my eye and I just to let you know that you have my total sympathy and empathy.
I live in a similar situation involving irresponsible uncooperative adults and wild children who run around as if they think the world is one big playground.
And the adults who should know better just stand by without saying or doing anything to control their children.
And when I dare to say anything, I get the typical hostile response with loads of attitude which just winds me up even more than the children who are the source of this problem.
But what is more disheartening is the fact that even though I have reported this to the local housing officer,
her attitude is the same.
It's like, what do you expect me to do?
And again I end up just feeling evermore wound up and increasingly desperate, depressed, frustrated and more and more angry.
And like you it is getting to the point where I feel like ending my life rather than putting up with this anymore.
If the day ever comes where I lose it with my neighbor I will regret it but I will make it clear that my landlord has been unhelpful and totally indifferent towards me and that has made the situation I am in even worse.
Today I have endured more noise from my neighbor and her irritating grandchildren,
and once again I have written to customer services, and once again I was told that my message would be passed onto the housing officer.
But I have heard all of that and more before and nothing good has come from it.
So until something is actually done to resolve this situation, that email is meaningless.
This situation has made me realize just how unaccountable some housing officers and housing associations are.
There does not seem to be anyone that can come to the aid of people like you and me and everyone else who have shared their bitter experiences on this website.
No wonder why you and I feel so hopeless and disheartened to the point of wanting to die before our due time!
Make no mistake Kat,
The people who elected to local councils and central government have much to blame for the tormenting situations we find ourselves in.
They don't create laws to allow swift action to be taken against people who are clearly anti social and indifferent to the misery they cause to their neighbors.
That angers me more than the nuisance neighbors!
I just want to say that I am enduring a similar irritating, immensely annoying, patience testing situation, with my neighbor who lives in as flat below me, and when she has her relatives around (sadly on a regular basis) they come with their children, and of course they run her flat as if it were an adventure playground
totally unaware of the impact it has on me.
I have approached my neighbor on numerous occasions to let her know how the behavior of her grandchildren affects me
but she is totally unconcerned and if anything by her attitude to me she encourages her grandchildren to run riot all the more and that of course pushes my patience over and above breaking point.
I have given up trying to reason with my neighbor and recently I have been trying to get my housing officer to intervene
but that has sadly proved to be equally frustrating because nothing is ever done no matter how many times I call, write, or speak to a member of the customer services team.
But I won't give up and have been trying very hard to get help from local Councillors in the hope that the housing officer will finally do something to try and resolve this tormenting situation.
This situation is made worse by a complete lack of noise blocking material,so every time her grandchildren run around the sound invades my flat and I can't escape from the noise and it is really getting me down.
I have endured this for 17 years and I can't take much more.
I fear that one day I will lose control and snap completely and if that happens it won't be good for anyone and I of course don't want that to happen.
But if a situation like this is allowed to drag on without anyone being willing to take responsibility,
what is a man meant to do?
Just sit here enduring this damn situation for the rest of my life?
If my neighbor was reasonable and willing to work with me for the sake of peace then maybe things would not be so bad
but she is unwilling and unreasonable and people like that always cause log jams.
And the strange thing is she is one of those typical people who make a show of being a so called "christian" always remembering to attach the supposed "sign of Christianity" i.e the holly wreath,
but conveniently forgetting the real hallmarks of Christianity,
i.e. love for ones neighbor, by avoiding doing or allowing things which cause ones neighbor undue stress and torment.
A typical ignorant self righteous self absorbed hypocrite.
But I live in hope that one day she will get her come comeuppance, and I hope i'll be there to see it when it happens.
'Churlish' ? How is it churlish if your entire quality of life is being wrecked by the parents complete lack of consideration for their neighbours - they should be sorting out the offspring that they decided to have and keep them in line - not let them run riot. If anyone knows of any petitions to get the law changed around this area re: noise pollution then please post
Me myself have the same problem as you all have stated on this website.
I have got a neighbour who has 3 brats named Sam, Zach and Phoebe krisp and the mother is called Kate Barker.
They have no consideration or respect for anyone who lives next door to them or for anyone else in the community.
This situation has gone on for 6 years and it has lead to me becoming very ill through the situation not being dealt with by the authorities.
I am being told by the authorities that I should have to move from the place where I have always lived since I was a child myself, if I want to get peace and quiet.
In the past I have had social services, environmental health and police involved in the situation, but they have never dared doing anything about the problem.
The little bastards play football and basketball in the house and sometimes it can go on for a few hours.
The other things they are allowed to do is play the television loud, stamping their feet, banging on the walls etc.
It is making me so ill that I might even have to start taking medication, because I will be left with no choice.
In the 80s if children misbehaved, they would end up getting a damn good lethering and I will admit nearly all children need to have a damn good battering, to make them learn that they can't get away with misbehaving in the way parents let them do, because what parents don't understand is that people's health is being affected because of this and it is about time therese may got of her arse and changed the law back to that children can be lethered, if they misbehave.
What makes it worse is that the parents scream right back at them. Now of course, I fully understand that the parents aren't in the best situation either - The mother has been brought to tears more than once because of her kids constantly acting up. Their father has walked out of the house multiple times, after rounds of shouting back-and-forth.
At the same time, I'm fed up of hearing it. Depending on when I leave the house in the morning, I'll be leaving to the sounds of screaming from next door. I come back from work, and I still hear the screaming! At the weekends, when I'd like to sleep for an hour or two longer? Woken up by screaming and shouting that stops and starts at random points during the day, preventing me from focusing on much without drowning them out with louder noise. It's definitely not just my household that are affected by this - I wouldn't be surprised if the entire street could hear them, especially when the screaming carries on outside the house. It's getting to the point where I am losing my patience with these people, considering that I am a very patient person, and if something doesn't change I will be making some sort of complaint.
Don't bother telling me to put headphones on, or turn the TV up - I shouldn't have to do the former and would be counterproductive to getting peace/quiet, and doing the latter would just create more unnecessary noise. Luckily I'll be moving out within the next year, but this isn't a problem that I feel will be going away anytime soon. If I'm not suffering because of it, the next people that live here will.
I only want to know what the best thing to say to them in this situation is.
I reported to the local community police but they probably wont do anything as it was suggested I speak to them, in the dark?? I'd rather not. The 3 riding around weren't necessarily loud either but why, must they do stupid things like build bike ramps so close to my front door?
I have a back door which I use more and sometimes come home from a few days of house sitting to find wood even in my nice garden. Nobody ever approaches these stupid lot. I happen to like being tidy but hate having to put up with hooligans rubbish as I am always cleaning up!
Your homes Northumberland generally don't do anything either unless we know who the parents are. I can't wait until it gets really cold and dark and they're out less...am I being miserable or reasonable?
There are plenty of other spaces to build a bike ramp. Just not directly outside my bungalow which I pay rent for!
1. If your child is going to kick a ball to the height of a fence....parent take them to a park or open space.
2. Your child loves his trampoline...take him to somewhere that has a bouncy something.
3. If your child wants to play in the garden and scream and shout excessively, go out and tell them to be respectful of their neighbours.
Just because you own a garden
Doesn't mean to say you own the street gardens.
Kids aren't King. We love them and we should be teaching them to be respectful not to be a nuisance.
(7334, 8163)
Not permissible:
(d) any noises or sounds, where audible from a Premise other than the Premises from which such
noise or sound originates, the occurrence of which extends continuously or discontinuously
for 15 minutes or more, created by the following: (8163)
(i) gathering of two or more persons, where at least one human voice is raised beyond the level of ordinary conversation
There are also devices that supposedly deter Mosquitos in the same way, they operate at higher frequencies, unsure if humans can hear this though.
I was angry today as I had tree bark put down over my front garden to prevent kids from running over it which seemed to work as have put some plants in it but unfortunately the tree bark was thrown about the front path where I was not best pleased at seeing the mess and it was obvious it was from my garden as you can recognise tree bark. Its dirty stuff which is why I am amazed at the stuff being thrown around but were I live the kids do what they like and hardly anyone tells them off. Oh how I wish I could afford a high fence or to move somewhere where I would find out properly if the area had loads of kids. Bah to whoever built the bungalows around council houses in Seghill, northumberland. Anyone wanting to move here ask around.
Luckily our local police seem willing to help more than YourHomes Northumberland.
The other end terrace doubles as religious teaching school for under 13year olds so depsite there being 3 parks with green areas within 5minute walking distance up wards of 7-15 chlidren will be playing outside in court yard daily
Large number of them are very sweet and if they are being a particularly noisey if I ask politely they will calm down, same with if I explain why doing handstands against me front door is not idea a from damage point of view and b because might not know they are there and open door hurting them accidently they stop
However the younger boys have decided the wall of my house is now a goal post and the two oldest boys 11-13 years spend upto 3-5 hours a day kicking ball so hard it shakes the wall of the house up tp 10pm at night
I have asked politely so many times to not stop playing but to use the teaching terrance houses wall or kick with less force and it just makes pair of them worst
Can not locate a parent to speak to about matter and force of ball hitting wall has actually caused kithen items to fall off stands and break
Last two times spoken with eldest boy who is main issue I got not my fing fault I am so good at football
Had enough can no longer use my living room if they are outside as eldest starts kicking ball harder at wall saying I am mean blank for watching them, not at all the case would just like to sit on my sofa or use living room without issues
Just read an article in a newspaper about a head teacher having to tell parents that their children should not be urinating in the school yard! Interesting reading - you imagine that they would know this but it appears not! Just to share my experience of this matter with our neighbours. Kids are allowed not only to urinate, but also defecate in the garden. They range in age from 2 up to 13 years old. Person in charge of these kids also empties potty in the garden - liquid and solids!!! They plainly were allowed to do this and they are passing on the tradition. Dirty, disrespectful, nasty, anti-social, hypocritical nightmares! And all completely unashamed - doing this in full view of us and others. We asked them if it could possibly stop, they deny it ever occurred! Short of them moving there is no answer sadly.
It was during the summer months and I didn't think much off it. Children screaming and what not I could take it was summer after all.
Then came the abuse, walking out of my front door being heckled at called all sorts and sweared at for no reason.
Head phones in and I ignored them.
Then the summer ended but the children never seemed to be at school. I'd come home from uni and they'd be there shouting screaming. So I asked them to be quiet, more abuse.
They have about 7 football's between them and they kick it off the side on my wall at 7 o'clock in the afternoon until 10. I asked them to stop, more abuse.
It's a group of about 10/15 children, all from different parents ranging from 5-13. I have no idea who their parents are I never see them so I haven't been able to talk to them.
I have a small fenced off back garden and two small dogs. I let the dogs out to play and the children repeatedly open the gate and let the dogs out to run away. One of them ran on to a road and nearly got ran over.
I've had to put a padlock on my gate now but that doesn't stop them. They throw things over the fench, taunt the dogs and them stick their hand in the gate! I don't want to think what would happen if my dogs bit them...
So recently they have resorted to throwing their football's over my fense. Knocking on the door and demanding it back. The first couple of times I did give them the ball back but every 10 mins this would happen and they were doing it on purpose. So I said the next time that ball goes over I'll need you to fetch a parent over so you can get your ball back (thinking I could talk to the parent then) they didn't like that. Screamed at me, shouted abuse at me. I closed the door. And the knocked on my door for 2 hours straight demanding the ball back and I just repeated what I had said.
Then one of them jumped the fense and got the ball back breaking part of my fense so not I don't know what to do.
It's horrid.
I haven't called the police and I spoke to the council who said, and this is the best thing, they made a park (not even a minute walk away from my house) for children to play in so they have done all they can.
I can't study, don't want to leave the house it's horrid.
I don't think you have any idea of antisocial children or those unfortunate enough to live near them. Possibly you are responsible for some of these "little intelligent treasures" yourself. Firstly, no, not everyone likes children! Unpopular, but true. Secondly, perhaps you should write in a coherent manner, rather than dashing off a stream of unintelligible tripe! We are not all the same, stop making valued judgements about matters you appear to have little grasp of. Thankyou and merry Christmas.
When come to kids you must have some respect you can't call children Mosters if you did so you are the greatest Monster because you are in the same life group. Also kids who are too active they are intelligent than the quiet ones. Kids has to enjoy their childhood they can't behave like adults. If you are pregnant and don't like neighbours kids noise how you are going to deal with your own child? I feel sorry for that child. Also your partner slamming the door and getting angry shown he doesn't know about kids. Children are blessing no matter how they are. If you have a child with mental difficulty how you are going to deal with that. Careful with how you treat others you will get back more worse no way of escape.
If you like a quiet life just pack your stuff and move, if you say it's your own property sell it and buy an another property in a jungle not where human live.
Children should not be playing in the street, often far away from their own houses, it is inappropriate and unsafe and the parents should be told just that; let your kids play outside your own house, no one else should have to tolerate it! But alas responsible parents won't be reading this blog so this message is just so I can feel I got it off my chest. Keep your brats under control!
One family, albeit 6 kids who don't use words, preferring to scream at everything are not helping by having a swing, climbing frame and slide in their front garden which is open plan next to a road! A definite safety issue but for some reason these parents feel it appropriate and the 6 monsters who spend their time arguing over the use of said 'play things!'
We have a path at the bottom of our garden leading from one road to another.
Our early morning treats include constant pedal cars, electric kids quad and one families 6 kids,
up and down they go screaming (the don't use words) The 3 youngest (triplets) run across the road constantly and then dad will tell them off, of course they take no notice of him so then he will threaten to call mum if they do it again and of course they do! So mum comes out screaming and shouting at them! (they have stopped listening as soon as she shouts!) Still at least she has more about her than dad!
As the authorities cannot do anything that will help I guess we simply have to wait for the little monsters to become big monsters and end up in prison! Only then will the parents wish they had encouraged their kids to be respectful of others! No one minds kids playing but there is a line between playing, having fun and spoiling everyone else's lives.
Go Monsters Go!!!!!
However the kids have a liking for playing on my gravel area (council insist they cannot do anything) and messing it up. I live alone and get sick of asking them to not play and I always have to sweep up afterwards. I love my bungalow but honestly, why do kids have to act so selfish and never learn to respect others?
I had to grow grass seeds on one area of gravel as they used to ride the bikes and scooters over it making a bigger mess so that has worked but I cant really do the same as it won't work. I do get that kids these days do what they like and sometimes the parents are as immature as the kids they own so stupidity runs in the families.
If thats not annoying enough, they moan that my nieces toys havent been left in the back garden for them to play with. They can look over the gate (which they have damaged several times) and see there is no toys, but still kick the gate in to get in and play on the large climbing frame.
I work shift hours, also i have a medical condition that makes me tired. All i want to do is have an hour nap in the afternoon before my niece comes home, but it seems impossible.
Can anyone suggest anything that i can do; such as video them breaking down gate? Or is this breaking the law for video recording child that isnt yours.
If a person plays at football or any other game on a highway to the annoyance of a user of the highway he is guilty of an offence and liable to a fine not exceeding [F3level 1 on the standard scale]
I fully intend to use this with the police as I'm at my wit's end already, and it's only the first week of the summer hols!
Please feel free to use this info/ research a bit more, but don't let them fob you off by saying it's a council issue!
if my house.garden share but not with them but they over use ours.who and she planted flowers.got a dog and uses my back shed for here kids toys and layed decking and also tried to know here back wall down to begin ours .the kids thrower balls in my tv Ariel outside its broke.post things through my door. Kick balls back door really hard.they used to listen to use talk and repeat it back to sword for word with no normal conversation.they play loud music.screem.shout.have barbeque s right out side my backdoor.drink sunbathe.socialize these are the adults too.put rubbish by my door.
Weve had upstairs land lord renovating every day for EIGHT MONTHS. W now have a group of brazilians moved in on the top lor and whats bad is there a small communal lawn about 15 yards by 10 yards outside our window and we get all their friends coming round, screaming shouting laughing and running up the metal stairs all the tie. kids and adults. Weve had 2 days of solid noise, they also through cigarettes out their windows right outside out window on the grass and one of the spits about 20 times a day from the stairs on to the grass and clears his throat. its awful.
Its 830 pm and theres 4 or 5 adults out there kicking a hard football around, shouting and clapping and laughing, its hit the building many times.
This is the tip of the iceberg , I am guessing the only thing to do is move but what is awful is they just dont care how much noise they make, they are always shouting, or stamping up the stairs or running or sitting on them smoking and just throwing the cigarettes on the grass. We get hundreds a week outside our window to look at. Its not one thing its the noise, the anti social littering the football at night,. Theres no peace and all this after 8 months of heavy refurbing from the other neighbour of drilling and banging all day every day.
We are quiet. dont speak to neighbours have no kids running around, do not play loud music or loiter on the stairs or outside. With the grass area we do get neighbours inviting loads of visitors to come and do what they want all the time and its very stressful, you never get any peace at all.
2yrs. later, a couple moved in - and they're taking foster children. They have 3 now - but it's a very big house - and belongs to the church... They've redone the garden like a Kindergarten playfield, they have a noisy dog running free at all times + now a coop of chickens: Of course, ALL kids of the neighbourhood love to gather + play there now....
Caring for foster kids is a very noble occupation, I know that, and someone has to do it, and they have to live somewhere - and the house + garden are ideal - BUT: I'm chronically ill, and acutely severly ill often enough, too. Since childhood I treasured + really needed personal peace + quiet - and have not found it too often or for very long so far. I was SO happy to have found a little quiet place at last - and there were no plans for the neighbouring house when I moved in. And I'm no ogre, just a person who can't cope with loud noise...
Now I'm in my mid-fifties, my noise tolerance has lessened even more. As I live alone and have no kids but two cats, you can imagine what people call me, if I even say one word re. the kids' noise :-(... It's very frustrating when people judge you without knowing you at all, and are not ready to even talk to you, to try to understand.
My garden is so tiny that I can understand any word spoken by the neighbours - in all my rooms. As soon as the screaming starts - of course it does every day - I now get heart palpitations and my blood pressure, normally super-low, goes up steeply.
I see no out, as I have very little money, and prices of flats anywhere are rising and rising - and landlords don't like people with outdoor cats like mine are.
Sorry for the vent, but I'm really getting a bit desperate here...
The bungalow and largish garden was sold to a developer who managed to get planning permission for two semi detached houses.
One sold to a family with two children,who seem to spend all day every day screaming at each other, mums supervision is to scream louder,not that they take any notice.
The other one seems to be rented to single sharers who party most nights and play loud music.
We have not complained,simply because we believe we have to declare any disputes we have with neighbours on our pre contract enquiries when we do find a buyer,assuming there is someone on the planet who will buy despite these issues.
We are a middle aged couple who believed we had found a house to spend the rest of our lives in...now we can see our lives actually will not go on much longer,it is so stressful here if we cannot move out!
Spoke to kids about this but it happened again when I went out picked up the ball with the intention of speaking to kids parent , kid tried to grab the ball out of my hands spoke to his mother and it s like I'm the baddie for getting annoyed!
I live in a bungalow and love it and generally the small esate is fine. I do say that once in a while the silly and thoughtless kids/teenagers kick a ball (hard ball) against my side of the bungalow which unfortunately happens to be my bedroom.
I heard it twice this evening which is odd, as haven't heard it at all for months so figure it may be a one off. Bizarre as it is dark and cold being december.
I hope that it is kids from another area of where I live and I know other people have similiar issues too. There is something very annoying about the sound of a football and I hate noise! I am quite tolerable too but dont wish people wouldn't be so disrespectful.
I am used to getting Yourhomes northumberland gettingl involved and might have to again its nice to find people with similar problems as I hate football anyway and while teenagers are just born stupid (not all) its weird that they would be out in such cold weather.
I don't like to bother my other neighbours, we usually moan about kids messing about but when a football hits your side of the wall it is irritating to the point I feel like getting a football myself and throwing it so it knocks them all out!!
I end up clapping my hands loudly, or before the privacy fence staring severely at the idiot father who thinks he's a coach.
It really upsets me that, I cannot ignore it, I have drowned it out with music before, but its not always ideal as I don't want to cause a noise nuisance.
Thing is the net is attached to their neighbours extension, surely they get annoyed from it, its very unfair, I end up feeling like the problem because I find it too difficult to ignore, the daily thumping of his bloody basket ball.
It fills me up with anger, I have thoughts of violence, and this stresses me out because I am a peaceful person, by nature but this is a daily nuisance.
Too many kids at the property, so much noise, so much antisocial behaviour - we can't afford to move and I am damned if they will drive us out. Suffer from severe depression and anxiety - worsened 100% by horrid neighbours. I really feel for you:(
constantly sayin how well behaved they are and how nice they are. I'm stressed out to the max and don't know what to do anymore. I've been filling out the noise sheet and it's the usual noise, her shouting and swearing at them, them screaming and banging around till all hours. One night the older son was hammering in their shed till gone 11 and they proceeded to start slamming car doors at 1.15am. I really am at my wits end, my son is constantly disturbed, I can't even watch TV or a film with my kids without the constant thudding the bavkground, I prey for the times they're out and I don't even dare be outside or let the kids play in the garden for the threat of them swearin out the window and shouting rude things at them, the older girl threatened to make my daughter eat dog poo! Sorry for the rant/info, I just need help :(
Thanks
Brad
I don't get it, they throw rocks at my dogs (over the 6' fence), moon my grand children in my front yard, and now they are throwing things at my grand children if we try and use the swing in our backyard. How did I get to be the bad guy here and what is wrong with these people!? My house is paid for and I'm not about to let them run me off. I'm doing my best to mind my own business but it's not working. This foul mouth man is going to school to become a grade school teacher, God help his students!
I am ex army, am not frightened in anyway at all, by older brother's Father's, mates or any sundry threats...and I was not a little lovely/mummy's boy....but what my brothers and I did have...thank the lord..were parents that let us go out of their view, I was a v.good swimmer because of my escorted swimming trips, my unescorted cycle riding, walking in the country, and town, we all survived, 6 of us, including sisters...so I do blame the sissy over protective mum's and to a lesser degree dad's, the latter prob. brow beaten to watching the kids every movement, these kids are having their childhood stolen, many of you reading this missive shall recall happy moments of childhood, dirty clothing, scuffed shoes,, yet happy.
So yes the 'kids', can piss us off, and they do tease adults, because respect is a political party, or a reason for inner city kids to shot or stab each other, if it's seen to be missing by another gang member.
So loosen up, don't show you care, kick the ball down the street as hard as possible, and say, Sorry!, or even into the next door's garden, or anywhere, be a kid, come down for a while from that pedestal that 'adults/grownup's/old's whatever build for themselves, esp. women, If you're a guy, and your wife want's you to constantly go out side and shout, don't, keep that blood-pressure in check, say no, it don't bother me gal, after all you were a boy once, were you a little perfection of manners personified, or did you at least once do a naughty thing?
Me I scrumped apples from a garden played in a farmers barn, smoked in a field.
I have no record of any kind, Uni/Prof life outwardly good...But I was a kid.
Don't make war on other peoples kid's, you can't win, they are getting stronger whilst you grow older, and every law you can name is on thier side.
Do not film them, do not speak directly to them, never ever invite them onto your land even if only the pathway, if they falland injure themselves, you will be sued for damages.
is'nt life fun.
The law states that the playing of ball games on a public highway is illegal this includes a small shaped grassed verge surrounded by a public footpath or public footpath that members of the public use.. is classed as an highway
The police are aware of this along with local councils or housing assocciations
but tend not to get involved unless you make a formal complaint and use there complaints procedure to do so also ask for them to send you a copy of there Complaints Procedure as you will need this later on
First of all get evidence of the Ball games buy using a small web cam or collecting the ball as its thrown over your garden this way you get to know who these persons are .. refuse to give the ball back they will then get there parents to call around .. explain to there parents that your collecting evidence and you are monitoring the situation and you still refuse to give the ball back
They will then threaten you with the Police .. to retrieve there ball .. when the Police call around explain the problems that the ball games are causing as this is classed as Antisocial behaviour as it is causing an annoyance and a nuisance .. that way you have logged your complaint with the Police that they have sent around for the ball this is then logged as a complaint
So no dont give the ball back till they report it to the Police and the Police call around that way they have done you the favour of contacting the Police on your behalf ..Get it logged if the Police do not call around you report to the Police ... You make the complaint ...
Now you have gatherd the correct information and monitored the situaion make your Formal complaint using the Complaints procedure with eithere your local Council or your local residents assocciation or who owns the land as they can not inforce the No ball games but can if its there property AS THEY NEED PERMMISSION to play ball games on there property
If they refuse to take your Complaint seriously then they are at fault and you can prosecute the landlord for allowing it to continue as its causing a nuisance annoyance A.S.B to you .. when the Formal Complaint as then Exhausted the issues you raised should of been dealt with
As tennants have signed a tennants agreement that they signed before moving into there property by the housing assocciation ..but proberbley never read it That they CAN NOT CAUSE AN ANNOYANCE ..ANTISOCIAL BEHAVIOR to surrounding residents so get them to act upon it they can be evicted if there tennants are causing an annoyance or A,S,B GET THE EVIDENCE
This should solve your problems
One of the parents of the kids has come round & threatened me on my own doorstep for no reason whatsoever apart from he was drunk. This has happened 5 times now over the 6 years I've lived here, I believe it is bordering on bullying as I am in my 20's & the guy is in his 40's. I have never retaliated but with the noise & everything, I know if I go round it'll be negative. The rest of the neanderthal families are no better either. I am now looking to move, I will take much more notice of who is in the other houses, amount of kids etc.
I used to live basically at the end of a runway of a busy airport, I'd give ANYTHING to just hear the planes again.
I know you won't believe this but some of us have spent a number of years trying very hard not to have children so that we are not inconvenienced. We have good jobs and a fantastic standard of living, so we do not want to be inconvenienced by someone else's kids and their balls. Sorry buy that is how it is.
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