Harassment can cause alarm, fear and distress. Many people who are the victims of any kind of harassment can end up becoming ill, both mentally and physically, as a result. It will almost certainly lead to increased stress which can have a major impact in raising blood pressure.
If you're experiencing harassment from a neighbour and need to understand your legal position, you can use our free Neighbour Rights Checker.
Harassment can also lead to insomnia, anxiety and depression, poor concentration and can dramatically affect your self-confidence and self-respect. People who are being harassed may take excessive intakes of alcohol or drugs to try to alleviate the problem which will, ultimately, only make matters worse. The Protection From Harassment Act 1997 offers you Protection From this Unwanted Behaviour.
The Protection From Harassment Act 1997
Under this Act it becomes a criminal offence if you:
- Cause alarm, harassment or distress more than once as a result of an action you conduct against another person. The conduct might be verbal or non-verbal and it doesn’t have to be the same type of action on each occasion – if the person feels alarmed, harassed or distressed by your actions, then it is deemed harassment, even if that was not your intention.
- Take any kind of action against another person which causes a fear of violence. This must happen on at least two occasions. The alleged offender must be aware, or ought to be aware, that their actions are likely to induce a fear of violence in the other person.
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The Protection From Harassment Act 1997 also permits you to take out a civil injunction against the alleged offender, as a right to protection and possible compensation in cases where a criminal prosecution isn’t appropriate or there is insufficient evidence to pursue a criminal case. This can be very useful as it’s often a civil injunction being put in place which will prevent the alleged offender from persisting with the behaviour.
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Police Assistance
If you feel you are at immediate risk of violence as a result of harassment, then you should Call The Police. Under The Criminal Justice and Police Act 2001, the police can force the alleged offender to leave the vicinity of your home or the location where you might be at the time, and they have the powers of arrest if the alleged offender fails to comply with this order.
Dealing With Stalkers
Harassment isn’t always about people wanting to cause harm to another. Sometimes, it’s completely the opposite. People who might have a strong admiration and perceived ‘love’ for another person can end up becoming so obsessed that they might end up stalking you. This doesn’t necessarily mean just following you around or calling you on the phone, but would include situations where they are writing to you persistently and/or sending you unwanted gifts. And, should this be the case, then they are also guilty of causing harassment for which they can ultimately be prosecuted.
Therefore, whether it’s the intention of the alleged offender to cause harm by their harassment or not, or even if they’re unaware they might be causing alarm or distress, it is still an offence under the Act.
Please consider contacting your local police on 101 to report the trespassing and harassment. Keep a diary of all incidents with dates and times. You might also want to speak with Citizens Advice about getting a solicitor's letter or exploring civil remedies.
For your own wellbeing, please reach out to your GP about support for the trauma you're experiencing. You deserve to feel safe in your own home, and there are people who can help you achieve that.
My neighbours are harassing me because their cat comes into our garden.
I had mi idea who thos cat belonged to, as it was so thin and infested with fleas.
I had considered calling the RSPCA as it was stealing our cat's food and they were fighting.
These people believe someone is keeping their cat in their house - we have cats who don't like each other, let alone another cat, plus I can barely afford to feed two!
They are trespassing on our garden to look for this cat, who wasn't even here!
They seem mentally unwell, andcwhile I have sympathy, I have health issues of my own.
I want to be left alone. I have zero interest in associating with these people, or their friends.
Why do bullies pick on those of us who don't trouble others?
I have come to the conclusion that if we were loud and obnoxious, we'd be left alone.
I was assaulted two years ago by an older man which left me traumatised, now I've been threatened by another couple of boomers.
Sick of it.
I have lived in this property for 29 years and it has been adapted inside and outside to accommodate my disabilities.
My front door entrance cannot accommodate a ramp as there is a communal entrance used by all six properties.
Therefore social services and my local council put a door in my front room and a wheelchair platform and ramp which leads into my garden and then out to the street.
Since the neighbour upstairs moved in my life has become unbearable.
Said neighbour used to work at nights. I refrained from all unnecessary noise and activities for years during the day for years, including having the grass cut in my garden until I knew he was awake.
He is now unemployed and has put laminate flooring down and stomps around on it both day and night.
He used to play extremely loud music constantly, and I reported this to our both mi e and his landlord, which is the local council.
After providing the relevant proof regarding his behaviour, the music stopped.
Now all these years later he is again making my life hell.
He insisted on parking his car within the “H” line marking my small dropped kerb continuously until my friends blocked his car in in the hope he would knock on my door giving me the opportunity to discuss the problem with him.
Instead of doing that, he just left his car in that spot until he was no longer blocked in,
which was 2 days.
Myaelf and a friend were out one day and when we returned, his car was once again parked slightly within the “H” line which stops my car or any car I am in from being able to park a car therefore not allowing me direct access from the street into my garden and property.
My friend therefore parked close to his car but not blocking him in.
Whilst she was doing this, a white car being driven by a woman pulled up alongside and the woman asked if we had a problem with the man who lives above me and why my friend was deliberately parking so close to said neighbours car.
Both my friend and I explained that we were actually making sure that the car in front could get out, and that there was enough space for other cars to park behind.
I was sitting in my mobility scooter at this moment in time, and whilst talking to the woman, who had parked her car, and exited her car to confront us on the street, said neighbour appeared in his window upstairs and began shouting.
The woman who was confronting us was said neighbours sister.
As the discussion continued and become more intense, said neighbour left his flat and came onto the street where he joined in the heated discussion.
During the discussion I reminded him that since he moved in I had deliberately refrained from allowing or participating in any noisy activities within the boundaries of my property in order to not disturb
Me up
All hours
Of night throu bangin he's furniture citen housing are twats to me they don't do anyfink about the abuse I am suffering he constoly. Harassing me behide close doors
but not to you.
but not to you.
And residents are scared to say anything in case anything happens to them ,we are also followed and spyed on as well really getting annoyed for our safety help !
More than 15 years plus.
The father has repeatedly played a tuba deliberatly in the hallway to harass me by noise, when. Any normal person would play in lounge for own enjoyment
In fact you would think they have been payed by somone to harass us.Because it's constant un necessary noise from them
Believe me he's no victum
I live in a detached house on a quiet st. We have been repeatedly reported to the council who after 9 yrs concluded that all the companies were malicious & unsubstantiated as the complainants didn’t fill in log sheets etc no evidence. We were reported for installing a wood burner that we had been using for 3 yrs & in the house when we bought it. We have been able to prove each complaint is false.These neighbors and their daughter who is a police officer have together targeted six other neighbors in our st and st behind. All the complaints against them were unfounded completely made up. To make matters worse when the council have investigated each complaint she gets her colleagues to pay a visit about civil matters without incident number to harass & intimidate neighbors. It’s been awful but the council take no account of the history the 80+ complaints and the police completely cover for her.
Has the guy Committed a crime? Please can someone help me.
He's threatened us several times, and other neighbours. This evening he's been hurling abuse, has put a large bluetooth loudspeaker at max volume directly facing our window less than a yard away, was banging on our window, and banging on the walls so hard it makes the house shake.
What did we do? Once we complained about extremely loud music being played all evening and into the early hours. Once we called the police because it sounded like violence was happening next door and he has kids (or he did, they were later taken into care). We often hear him shouting abuse at his wife or someone on the phone, banging doors and throwing things, and think its only a matter of time.
We've contact the housing association that owns the house, we've contacted the council, we've contacted the police. Nothing changes. And this evening we called the police and they heard him banging and shouting, took them two hours, and first they drove past the houses to turn around and he must have been watching because he took the speaker inside before they saw it.
What I have done (or am doing) to overcome the stress of what Ive been through with this person, is to actually recognise that I have been put through alot, to recognise that I really am a better person than they are, to recognise that my family needs me to stay well and rise above this nonsense, and also to recognise that this neighbour doing this stuff is not a well person, ehatevrr their reasons. I hope anyone reading this with a similar problem might find my insight a little helpful atleast. Its taken me years to reach this point, and I just think life is too short. Try and have faith in your self-worth and rise above it.. otherwise, they win and you just cannot let that happen. X
In most cases when dealing with neighbor harassment you may require an injunction.
I am a legalese rep and can help with applying for and enforcing an injunction against an Anti Social Neighbor.
Does anyone know of a simple method to instigate a civil injunction via the protection from harassment act(1997)?
The man next door dislikes anyone who suffers poor mental health and has launched a campaign of constant verbal harassment , staring and making vicious rumours up about us. It is so bad I hate going in our gardens or even walk put the front gate.
Been to the police , they didn't wish to see the 20 pages of dated harassment I had noted over the past 5 years but did contact him. It was really nice for about 9 days but now he's started up again.
I am at my wits end . Just seems as though noone can do anything because ' he owns his own home '.
My neighbours rather than keep themselves to themselves they do rumours ie tickle tackle always have something to gossip about even if you haven't done anything to anyone.
It's got to a point where I started to retaliate towards them because this vicious rumours was effecting my wife and our 2 teenager all because they vindictive small minded waste of space who has nothing better to do than talk crap and I for one will not tolerate their insult or their pettiness. Stand up to bullies and never take insult for being nice.....
which make my husband cough.
I can't do any gardening as the fumes cover the entire garden 24/7
We had cctv installed because of the damage they were creating. Car tyres in street being damaged, throwing rubbish in gardens, banging on walls racist effigy nailed to our fence.
The stare in our house glaring when they walk past they have taught there children to do the same. Police say staring isnt illegal and they could say we were staring at them. So not to look out of our windows
Northumbria Police say none of this is criminal
No law and order left. Police seem as corrupt and the perpetrators
This is becoming very stressful to myself and my partner. What can we do about this
Can the raciestcommebts stop not be allowed cause its against a white person have a bit of respect
Bullying, got someone she knows to bully my child at school, nasty language, feels as though she is watching me from her bedroom window, and as she had done this, being nasty. Can hear her being nasty about me in her kitchen and garden, and goes on and on.
I am so stressed about this, please help.
Dont know what to do about this all the time, cannot cope.
Looking some advice ...I have been getting harassed by my neighbour and her gang of friends in the cul-de-sac I live in .... I work during the day ....she has made up a lot of nasty things about me to the neighbours and to be honest I'm at my wits end....I don't socialise with these people I just want to go to work and come home ...I arrived home one lunchtime to the lady standing staring through my window ...another occasion their kids were drawing in pen on my car ...another occasion drawing in crayon on my window sill ....also my dog is in my back garden when I'm out ...she constantly gets her son to climb my fence to retrieve the ball ...I put a sign up politely asking not to climb the fence as my dog is kind but he's a dog and I'd be afraid of him snapping at a child.....I got the sign threw in my face at my own door and threats of physical violence ....I also got labelled a "tramp" my 77year old father also got shouted at by this woman ...I've had enough and don't know what to do ...its really getting me down now ...I shouldn't have to live like this...I should be able to go to work come home and feel safe ....on Friday past she said if I get in her way she will say I don't look after my dog and get him taken away from me knowing how much he means to me ...this cannot be normal ...if someone can help ..please do I'm not sure how much more I can take
Police and the authorities are a complete waste of time, even showing them evidence of all the antisocial behaviour the Orange neighbour is doing. Iam having to sell my house and move from aa area we're ive lived for the passed 40 years. I pray justice is done not only for us, put for everyone who is going through similar situations.
I am going through the exact same situation as you. No one seems to listen to me. my neighbour is given the right by my local police station in Stevenage to be able to record me in my own garden whether it is what I'm saying or by images.
Because I have a few mental health issues I feel the police look upon me as an easy nick.
I'm 65, had a complete nervous/emotional break down when I was 62.
A neighbour verbally threatened me but the police wont speak with my daughter who heard what was being said. All the police done was took cctv recordings from my neighbour.
I now find myself having to go to police station at Stevenage at 10.30 on August 3rd 2021.
Last Saturday he spent off and on 90 minutes aiming a power jet hose at our conservatory aiming for the camera and the open window. This was picked up on the camera. He has now smashed the lens of the camera with stones .
Won’t be beaten though as he won’t see the new camera. Give h8m enough rope he is going to hang him self
.My ex said she wasnt scared of me and said it was okay to stay as we both have separate bedrooms...Where is the Justice..Everytime we argue she threatens to get the Police I am living on eggshells...
He complained about the noise by way of shouting up the stairs initially and then banging on the ceiling. This shocked me the first time when I had put the radio on while I was in the bath at 4pm! Exactly, I'm not silent but I would consider myself to be reasonable and definitely not making loud noise before 7am or after 11pm! I don't play music every day and I don't have any visitors apart from my carer!
I have realized that I am confining myself to my room out of fear of confrontation.
How do I proove that I am being reasonable? How do I proove that he is bullying and harassing?
Please help me. I’m currently living in a ground floor flat with my family. Above us is a police officer with her partner , now things between us are bad. But for us it’s real bad!! We’ve had the officer drunk at our door flashing his please badge at us, we’ve had him laughing and jumping asking our Children, we’ve recently been told he trying to find away of getting my family into trouble with the law and involving 3rd parties. He keeps getting away with it all. He’s now claiming that we are harassing him by reporting every issue to our housing. What do I do? He’s already braking lock down rules and lying about it and has already lied to the POLICE about it.
This has prevented me from having a life or business at my property constant antisocial behaviour by many people that is so subtle to others they would not even .know.
My bike tyre was slashed at the front of my house .... I have had my plants poisoned in my back court yard the poison makes the plant white and dead where it has been poisoned leaving the rest green. Roof tiles smashes guttering damaged roof tiles left off to damage my walls in my house.
7 other people are also harassing me with anti social behaviour because he gives them flowers or pays them to deliver flowers for him... amazing how cheep people sell themselves out for a bunch of flowers.... while I am unable to sleep in my property or run my business.
They even constantly harassed me when they all knew both my parents were dying in hospital constant phone calls that my drains were leaking into their property.... saying my drains were flooding their cellar (they knew it was caused by the rain as it had for years)... It had always flooded that cellar part of York always flooding but they blamed my drains over and over for two years..... I had them tested by my insurance the drains were fine nothing wrong with my drains....they extent to what people will do to destroy someone.
My plants were stolen from the front of the house
I've had to call the police on her on several occasions, yesterday being one of them.
Her newest move to report other dog owners in the estate and then say that it has been me.
Can't understand why when someone mks you feel this depressed and fearful the police are unable to do anything.
Telling someone they won't be living in the estate for much longer is a threat.
Turning folk against you has to be a form of bullying.
Very sad world we live in.
A boy whose grandparents live next door to me is always there and plays out. He is the same age as my son and every time he is round here he starts trouble and tells the other boys not to be friends with my son and not to play with him. If he does have someone to play with, the other boy just stays near where they are playing causing trouble and trying to start something with my son. He is very aggressive and is told to just punch people and he lies about everything and nothing is ever his fault. There is no point talking to his grandparents, who are near enough my age, because they do nothing and just say ‘they’re all as bad as each other’. He’s a spoilt little bully. Every time he is here my anxiety goes through the roof, I physically shake and literally feel like I’m going to vomit. Is there anything I can do about this situation.
I have had numerous break ins with someone using keys. So much stolen from me and it seems to be coordinated around his stalking. I've had my locks changed many times too, but that hasn't helped. Within days they will be right back in.
I can't replace those things I've lost. I don't have any support.
my neighbour the other side says she has no issue with me.
He is putting pressure on my landlord to evict more or he will take him to court I don't know what to do I'm very worried I will be evicted because my landlord has enough of his complaining I've never had police or council at my house.
Any advice would be greatly appreciated
Thanks
They think they own the street...one lady crossed the street to my house and said bad words and second time toke my phone from my hand..the times when i come home from work tired...what can we do...how can help us...I call the cops but they laugh tell me there jealous of what we have. All three neighbors call the city to let them know that we have all these cars of course we had to get rid of the cars the classics thank God they did that for us because now my husband's going to fix them and bring him back running. So they're coming back I'll paint it and back and my driveway. If anyone could help I would really appreciate it
was coming across all the time, as we were taking the ins and outs – of the property.......
MY Father was mesering up for a new gate and also got someone to come out – and give us a quote
For the gate – for the dog and then later on Mr ------- said he would give us a quote for the gate, which was the same price as the other quote – and my Father only said he could do the job, as to keep it local.
ALSO my Father and my self asked Mr, --------– if he knows any one – who could cut the small
Lawn and the small back lawn and the small verge by the hedge and he said that he would do the job for £30.00 pounds in cash – so I paid him the sum of £30.00 POUNDS – which my father thought
It was expensive. - I have had some other quotes - and they have been around £10.00 mark..
MR …….. = was coming across a few times and asking my Father that he would do a job on our property – such as remove all the stones on the drive and put new stones down – and said he would charge us around £1,200 pounds for doing the job – when we did not ask him to do the job and then he was coming a cross to my Father and saying to him – that he would do some jobs in the back garden – and cut some trees down an we did not ask him to do any of the jobs – so my father -
Chased him – and said that his son would do any jobs on our property – WHICH was COLD CALLING - my Father was unwell at the time and MR ------- was being a pain - as my Father was not MR, Carsten personal bank account .
My Father got fed up with MR ------ coming across – that he put the property on the market.
AFRTER my Father passed away – Mr …….. was giving me abuse – when I was on the otther side of the foot path and coming up to me – and giving me abuse – and saying that next door drive was better than our drive and our drive was - to small and pointing across to the next door – but one drive was better then our drive and you can not get a lot of cars on our drive and your - garden was to small.
A other time I was going a cross the road he was saying he could see right though our home as he was going on to my Father of the same and MR …….. was also saying that your house is to small and going on he does not like the gate on our drive........
ALSO MR ------- was coming a cross the road twice and saying why don’t you go and live near a paper shop and a other time he was going on about – something are you going for breakfast !!!! - also MR ------was coming across and sating - why don't you go back to Liverpool and put your house up for rent …...
A other time MR -------- - was coming across and moning about the next door house and saying it was to close to his house and said he was going to the council and I said that has nothing to do with me, so he went off .
I was getting help and one of the persons said to me – say nothing to them across the road and that they are to nosy and keep to your se
Troubles wih neighbours . They are phoning police constantly on me sayin I'm shining car lights into their window , their kids are frightened to
Pass my house , I am intimidating them, I am
Looking into their windows. I have spoken to police I've had mediation to which the neighbour claimed they had no issues with us to report . I've had anti social team out . They visited neighbours and there was 2 months peace and quiet yet they've started it all back up again to which I'm
Considering legal action especially as they have been telling lies to
Police and I feel that I am being personally victimised and they've been turning other neighbours against me causing another
Neighbour to e aggressive with myself and another family member as this neighbour has been listening to their stories any advice would be appreciated
, I have a grow going on and she has told the whole neighbour hood. She also uses her ex husband to try and intimidate us. I suffer from anxiety, which is severe. I called police to report, they came to my house, no grow. But the neighbour is still harrasing me. What do I do. I have 4 young kids and am very worried.
Ps did like post killing the harrasser, but maybe a little extreme!
Now he's taking my post called the police useless he made it sound like I was mental saying I get alot more money then him I get what I want coz I got brain injury.
Every time I take my dog out he barks when let goes on till he's out the gate maximum 10 minutes barking that's it he's giving me abuse calling me crazy making me cry get frustrated stressed anxietous but when my dog walker takes him out he goes crazy barks with excitement my neighbour has not once complained. I feel he's a bully always knocking on neighbours door asking for money for electricity but never pays back. He takes cocaine and steels food from shops and gets some from food banks and then sales food. I can't live like this can you advice how to get help police think coz I have executive dysfunction disorder brain injury I'm exaggerating every thing. My neighbour seems jealous coz I get more benefits then him yet I'm disabled. He's making me feel mental not wanting to go out in case bump into him including my garden I feel like a prisoner in my own home.
yrs,been Banging on my side door or my front door,using my door knocker as a toy,or my letter flap.He lifts it n let's it go
causing quite a bang.He does it at night,
to waken me up.
He scared my wife so badly that she actually messed herself,and is now in care.
She is 74,I am 73.Their son has been at my front door telling me he wants to fight me,
he's 18 yrs old.He KICKED our door,Thumped on our window,we phoned the Police,who did nothing.
This is all because,the father got banned for life,from fishing on the local fishery,
Where I was a Bailiff.Also because I complained to the council,and their
Landlord about their 3am Parties.
Now I'm suffering with PTSD,Severe Depression and Anxiety,attending a Psychologist,every two weeks,being visited by Mental Health Nurses,Epilepsy Specialists.
We own our house,and have been in it for some 40 yrs.
I have no photographic evidence,only times
when my doors are knocked or thumped at night.
I love my house,and do not want to move away,I promised my wife I would not sell
our house.
Johnny n i meet august 24 2017 three days later i move in with johnny at 207raleigcircle franico johnny uncle is owership of land i residence nw johnny for 1year 3months n johnny goes. To wife n comes back to me i put crimal trasspassing on his wife n stepdaughter i had shieff service them n its current for year n on daily bases point blink his wife n stepdaughter constantly calln police sayn they bought proptiers n i need pay rent or moveout n never show papers of any type of newowership johnny family know i live there n ok w it wat r my rights
My Nan lives with my uncle which obviously is her son for as long as I can remember he never leaves her alone, he pays house to my Nan because everyone has to pay there way in the world but he follows her out so he can get the money back to pay for drugs. He is 27 and is a druggie, my Nan doesn’t want to live with him, he’s violent, what should I do if I can do anything? It’s horrible to sit back and watch how he treats my Nan. She means the world to me.
The harassment started when my kids stroked one of her cats, she decided that that meant I was trying to steal it. I’ve had name calling, food thrown at the house and rubbish thrown on my garden all by the woman’s 14 year old daughter and her friends. They got evicted after Xmas but only moved a few doors up. Things improved and I rarely saw them until a couple of weeks ago when I was walking my kids home from school, I came across the daughter and her friend who’d picked this woman’s 2 young kids up from school. We changed direction to avoid any aggro and they followed us and started shouting abuse at me in front of my young children. The friend then ran up to me and started mouthing off I asked her to leave me alone. I just wanted to get home with my kids. Later that evening the mother and her druggy boyfriend came round hammering at my door and windows. I ignored it the first 2 times but opened the door the 3rd time where she lunged at me and hit me in front of my kids and her own. I pushed her out of my house, locked the door and dialled 999. The police didn’t turn up until the following morning and did nothing. I don’t feel safe and neither do my kids. I’m a single mother so it’s just me and the kids. I’m having to move to escape the constant abuse because there is nothing the police can do unless they’re physically violent again. I can’t help but think that scum like that can get away with murder while their victims suffer.
I've got some trouble causing relatives that persist in turning up on my doorstep, without any prior knowledge, communication or agreement.
Things have gone past any discussion stage as they shout or talk over me. Disregarding my choices. I have asked politely that if they are to turn up at my door/doorstep that they please do the decent thing and either text or call to mention that they intend on visiting or would like to.
I'm ok for mutually agreed times. However I think it's a control issue/thing going on here......
Historically there's been drama and i don't want this on my doorstep. They've shouted at me (being verbally abusive) in public with no qualms yet I'm the one that looks awkward if I'm simply protecting myself.
I'm a mum by myself with children. It's bad behaviour and I'm trying to be kind, considerate, caring to those around me.
Basically they don't want to check with me if it's ok to turn up at my house. I find it intrusive as it can happen at any time. I get physically ill with this bullying and really I would like it to stop (or at least be decent and not turn up at any time of the day at my door).
I'm no weakling, but because of their nasty demeanour and outlook, it is simply them trying to outweigh or overrule my request for decency. It really disturbs me and I shouldn't be living on eggshells. Help please.
Can we do anything?
Two older Neibours who cause in me mental and physical anxiety . My life is hell
For many years I have complained to landlord who does not care, letting agent who does not care local authority who try to make out its me who is the problem, local mp town councilors citezens advise and solicitors. I am now at a total loss what to do about mine and my 6 year olds living situation. I will move I have tried selling but no one local will come near and I am unable to reduce it by more than 20k. I tried putting it up to let and there is much demand for properties to let in my area the house although small has been gutted inside is in excellent condition and is on a.much liked street. I have had several people view it daily all love it and a few days later dont hear from them again.
I had a nervous breakdown last November putting me and my then 5 year old at risk. I have regular gp mental health and now social worker appointments. Following the incident We was placed on child protection order which I understand but cant quite believe and I am devastated.
The noise is relentless daily most evenings into the early hours. Each son and daughter who visits have several children whom are there first thing until late at night all shouting swearing screaming running round on laminate and banging slamming doors. I have visited some of the other family members neighbours to see if they strughle. Which they said yes its noisy at times but as their neighbours were not at home much it was not too bad for them. I responded by informing them that their neighbours were actually all spending many hours at an end terraced house next to me so im stuck with all the chaos for hours pretty much each day.
Im a nurse and due to lack of sleep high anxiety and nerves I have had nearly 18months off work sick. I am so behind with all my bills and mortgage I am now recieving letters from enforcement agents. I feel totally tormented and am seriously thinking of just walking and ending it all. I have been informed that I will not recieve social housing if I do. In November I took a noise recording with the councils equiptment! 4 evenings in a row of teenagers shouting swearing loud conversations vulnerable adults swearing doors slammed and rap music which was drowning out my tv but wasnt banging loud. This was all adjacent with my 5 year olds bedroom. This was my 3rd recording and I believed id finally proved the noise levels. The council stated it was not a statuatory nuscience but caused by my poor sound insulation
Some new neighbours have just arrived across the into an adjacent building owned by London & Quadrant that re-house people. For more than 10 years, a few of those tenants have presented antisocial behaviours, some now either dead because of drink dependency related issues and/or moved onto to other places. I have a great deal of empathy and human compassion for anyone who is clearly not well in themselves, why sometimes their behaviours have arisen out of complex mental-health without the kind of right support to manage this.
I myself have mental-health issues yet also a very astute and overall cultured and reasoned person. Why it is imperative that I never judge people's antisocial acts so readily until I am certain that is what is perhaps at the root cause of the issues. Very fortunate that I can always report these problems to my own landlords who can at least challenge the situation themselves and with London and Quadrant directly.
However, I am left a bit fed-up/reeling of the fact that again, they appear to have moved in new tenants that also present antisocial behaviours - recently taking pictures of my partner taking out the rubbish. My partner is 6ft5 and a very large man who has suffered a lot of stigmatisation because of his build. He also suffers with mental health issues that are placated by his various medications and not at all a threat to anyone in anyway - a total gentle giant, I want to protect him from the nasty treatment he does not deserve. I do not want to have to re-report the matter to my landlords and the police have rarely been helpful.
Neither me or my partner work, yet both of us have long work histories, whilst I have lived in Canada and have various academic skills and bilingual. Few people know of our past histories or that we are capable individuals, yet the benefits system makes it virtually impossible for either of us to pursue individual goals - I am a very talented artist and writer yet still looking into how to achieve some professional goals around this at 45-years of age.
Despite all being reported to the council the police and our housing association. Apart from one incident receiving a warning (neighbour smashing a fence panel) no action has been taken. My partner has mental health issues and these actions are having a serious detrimental affect on his wellbeing making his condition worse. We no longer know where to go or how to get this all stopped. Moving is not an option as the housing do not see us as in need to move. Can anyone suggest where we go now for urgent help..
A few weeks ago we had a knock on the door from our neighbour asking if we had children. I confirmed yes we did we had a little girl and a baby 2 year old boy. Her first question was 'do you beat them?' Understandably I was quite shocked by this and confirmed no I do not (I have never/would never laid a finger on either of my children). The neighbour said she could hear what sounded like an upset child which I confirmed was probably my little boy (who After a brief discussion she left). After she had gone I was understandably quite shocked a neighbour had knocked round and made such an outrageous allegation so I knocked on their door and let them know I thought their allegation was disgusting and after a talk she apologised.
A week or so later she knocked round again this time with her partner asking if everything was ok as she could hear an upset child again and asked if my daughter was there? With this I felt like I was needing to prove my innocence so I called my daughter downstairs who came down and was of course fine. Then my partner appeared with our 2 year old to show they were both fine. I let her know my son had just been bathed and possibly that's what she could hear. The neighbour again left. With this I thought i would go round to their house again to see what this noise was they could hear. This time she invited me in to have a listen. (As soon as I Walked in to their house I could smell an extremely strong smell of marijuana). When I went in their house I could hear nothing to which she described which she then said maybe she was hearing things. I told them there and then I think they've been smoking too much pot. She again apologised and said she won't come round again. (My daughter is terrified of staying downstairs on her own now in case the neighbour comes round)
Last night my son was upset (I think he may of had a poorly tummy as he had diarrhoea during the day). When we could see how upset he was we decided to get him fed, bathed and to bed. Again the neighbour knocked round (I could tell she was high from looking in her eyes) complaining she could hear a distressed child. I again let her know it was probably my little boy who's in the bath. She asked where my daughter was as she hadn't heard her lately and started looking up the stairs (I'm not sure if she was implying something sinister had happened to her). At this point I told her it was none of her business where my daughter was and if she was that concerned she should call the police. My neighbour then said we shouldn't of moved in to this establishment if we have a child who cries. After a brief argument she went.
Myself and my family now feel under constant pressure proving our innocence to a com
Ignore them. Act happy.
Do them for harassment and get proof over three months with video evidence then go to the police.
Get a solicitor clearly.
The last one : build a brick wall and I’m sure you can move houses by advertising online and not making it known
Thank You.
I have lived in a council block for the past 8 years, for about 7 of those years I had to endure shouting, swearing, loud banging and growling from a mentally ill neighbour underneath me. This made my life a misery, as it was happening not only during the day but during the night as well. This has made me a nervous wreck, with severe anxiety problems, depression and stress related disorder.
Even though the neighbour has now moved away for over a year, it still affects me to this day. After writing daily diaries and complaining constantly to the council about this neighbour and even had on 2 separate occasions 2 different local councillors round to my flat to witness the noise and to give me support. During this time, the council treated me almost with contempt and even went so far as to lie about me that one of the councillors was round my flat for about 3 hours and didnt hear any noise from the neighbour. That particular councillor had sent an email stating that she was round my flat for about 45 mins to an hour and hear nothing. Whereas the second councillor did hear my neighbour shouting and swearing repeatedly.
Now to add insult to injury, there are some new neighbours who are planning on moving in downstairs who have written me a letter complaining that I am making too much noise and even complained to the council about me. This is intamidatory s well it is untrue.
I would like to know if I can sue the council for not only having to endure a mentally ill neighbour for over 7 years, but for their lies and contemptuous way they dealt with it?
Please can you advise.
I've recently moved out of mums home to my own home due to neighbour issues at my mums
The neighbour started making false accusations to social services (I have a baby) the baby and the landlord causing unnecessary anxiety and stress towards me and my mum
So I decided to leave as my mum had her partner and her younger son
However the neighbour is still continuing to make false allegations to the landlord and police
My mum has a meeting with a lady from the council tomorrow due to another claim the neighbour has made, even though we have not communicated with this neighbour since July 2016 yet she's saying we're harassing her
Is there anything we can do as my mum is 33 week pregnant and suffers from bi polar I'm worried this is going to tip her over the edge again
Thank you
the police are usless unless you sort it your self then your in trouble, the laws are set up to punish you, everyone you contact to sort it out turns a blind eye untill you react, that is when the haters get to celebrate because you go you prison, and they then move on to another target. the way these people act is a sure sign of some kind of mental illness.
Please please someone have an answer for me as I'm at the end off my mind!! Thanks for reading my story!
I have a harrassment order on my daughters dad for domestic violence and threating behaviour. He does have a previous of domestic violence but this was after i was with him. He has been to prison for it but on his girlfriend after me and harrasment order from girls after her. He is on drugs and is very un predictable. My daughter doesnt want to see him because he scares her and i have qitnessed him speaking to her like trash. She is 6 years old bless her. The harrasment order has been on him for roughly 4 weeks but my partner and i have found out i am expecting another baby in 2017. I have heard he is making threats to be beat my partner up. Being pregnant and trying to protect a innocent little girl and son from all this os draining me. I have gone paranoid and feel emotionally and psychicaly drained and do not feel prtoected with the harrasment order in place. I am paranoid once he finds out im having a baby he is going to try and harm me or come back to try an attack me. I am constantly on edge. Please tell me there is something i can do to help me and my family feel safe. This will be my third child and i really so not need the worry of him waiting to attack and if i know this man like i think i do this is nowhere near then end. Please help.
y to school and back,these youths dont go to school,its causing alot of distress for my son and my little daughter wont walk to the shop without me now,is their anything i can do .
Any input/advice well comed.
I'm a single mom of two one of my kids is also Disabled, me trying to help my brother HELP WHAT CAN I DO????
Leaving my bins out
My dogs barking
Fox getting into black bags which were going to the dump next day
My rooster who wears a collar and goes in at night
Having a bon fire
To name a few
Ive had one neighbour complain about the grass neing too long in my garden (3inches) and dandelion seeds blowing into her garden
Notes put on cars because i was or a family member parked across my drive way.
I was told that my motor home made the road look like a gypsy camp and it needed moving.
I also found out that a petition was sent around ti try and make me get rid of my chickens .
I now hate going out and when i do get the courage i come back to find the same neighbour parks on my parking space that ive used for 16 years. Some times her and her son park so i cant park by my house ar all.
All my hens were stolen one night and the ones left were killed by a fox. This was after a neighbour said he would kill my animals . and only 8 weeks ago someone poisoned my cat who died.
Ive been spot checked by the rspca who said my animals are kept in 5 star conditions. I do not let my dogs bark. Im home most of the time .
Am i being bullied?
I often have three neighbours having a go at me .Only a week ago it was because i was parked by my drive unloading .NOT
All of which the council have seen and agreeed they have no problem with me
One of his dogs knocked a lady over a ripped her little terrier out of her arms and attacked it and caused some terrible injuries,. He was prosecuted and a control and muzzling order was put on that dog for life.
The owner is disabled and cannot control these dogs and they often get loose, they can seem friendly with people but our fear is we now have children in the cul-de-sac who play out in the street one has ADHD and is always shouting and screaming , and one has only one leg, non of the children especially these two would stand a chance against a fully grown aggressive male Rottweiler.
Also the neighbour next door to them has a dog herself and is so scared to be in her garden or walking her dogs when they are in the area. She has put up a six foot fence but they are so aggressive and fly at the fence it's only a matter of time until one gets out or over.
She is an oap and has health issues and is currently under the doctor for stress and anxiety relating to this matter. I'm concerned that this stress and fear is going to cause another heart attack or worse.
My question is, can we take an injunction out to stop him bringing the dogs ? Or is there anything else we can do , or any advise you can give to let us know what rights we have to live in our home free from fear especially as they don't live here. (He lives not far away so he doesn't need to bring them to our street) we are getting no help from our council or housing office,or the police ,they are more or less just saying they can't do anything until an incident occurs. All we want is to keep all our neighbours and there children safe. Cos it's a case of WHEN something happens NOT IF. Thankyou in advance.
I'm wondering where I stand and how I should go about reporting this (if necessary).
I'm a 26 year old female who split from a first boyfriend aged 17 9 years ago. Since such event I have had non stop trouble!
I am due to marry in 2017 and I am concerned for my wellware and safety leading to this event.
I am wondering, whether or not I am in the right position to file for an injunction/harrassment order against the culprit.
All of my issues stem from Social Media - I and my family now have received constant messages from time to time from the culprit regarding my relationship, my future marriage, wanting an invite, wanting contact - in the past the person has even shown up at my parents house to question them on my 'safety' & 'wellfare'.
My partner & husband to be is extremely concerned for my safety now and the possibility of him finding out our wedding and wedding date (as he is the type of person to show up uninvited.
I've never contacted the police regarding this matter (which I possibly should have years ago - as our relationship came to an end due to physical violence) so I'm unsure of my rights, the process etc.
Any advice would be great!
Thank-you
It has worked well for us, also having victim support in hand with their practical approach but also an outlet for the dismay, upset and frustration. I will post up info on keeping a record of events as it really clarifies and substantiates your case.
How I've dealt with it emotionally is to be very matter of fact and maintain a strong attitude that the behaviour is unmerited and undeserved for ANYONE. THEIR behaviour is not YOUR fault.
Anyway since that day one if his kids and a few of his friends who live round the corner have harrassed us. They play ball by our drive kicking it hard at our fence throw sticks and stones at each other over our car and we have 2 dents already (new car had it for a month) My husband doesn't go our to speak to them and hasnt done for a year. We hoped if we ignored them they would get bored and move away.
But they continue and two of the boys aged 12, stand outside shouting verbal abuse at our house. The language is vile. They also shout paedo at our house. I work in an infant school and my husband is a paramedic, we both find this very distressing.
We have had eggs thrown at our house but have no proof who did it.
We log everything with the housing association who have now said it's our word against the kids. We asked if we could video but we were told it was illegal.
There are 3 families involved, we can't have a reasonable conversation with them because all they do is scream at us. All three drink and take drugs, none of them work.
I can't go on like this. Dreading the school holidays
My ex and I were married 19 years and are almost 4 years divorced. She harasses me from time to time and mostly it's just run of the mill annoyances. One thing that I am finding over the top however is her threat to disrupt my peace at my family's cottage as she knows this has been and still is a special place for me and the kids. Given the length of our marriage and the fact she remains close to my step sister (who also has access to the family cottage) she seems to feel it is her right to be there.
Currently the cottage is in my father's name... It is willed to my step sister and me. I'd like to know if I can get a restraining order to keep my ex from that property both now and especially when I am half owner.
What must I do to ensure I that I will not have to worry about her showing up there???
Thx!!!
She's taken a package that I had come in from Comcast and denied taking it. When UPS interviewed her she said that she refused the package saying that no one with that name lived here. Obvious federal offense for taking mail that doesnt belong to her. The package still has not been delivered since she "refused" it.
On Monday, she texted the BF to say that I sped up the road at her when I left for work the other day. Again, this did not happen and she's melodramatic and just trying to start stuff. It's to the point where I just don't even want to go home to avoid her because all that happens is I get annoyed, angry and frustrated and take it out on the BF (again something she's probably trying to encourage). I wanted to know what should be my next level of action. This is getting out of hand and she's tried to get the landlord involved and rightfully so the landlord doesn't want to get involved.
Sorry for being so long.
Me and my family have been harassed by our neighbour for 3 years. He is constantly escalating his actions, he swears at us, throws things over the fence (rubbish, leaves, pegs, stones etc), he makes rude gestures towards us, and I personally feel very intermediated by him, as he stares at me and watches me, only today he was leaning over our back fence staring in through the window at me, and a couple of months ago he stood in front of my front gate blocking it so I couldn't get into my house. A solicitor is now involved and the council and police also, but the council and police are not doing much for us, and our solicitor has said we can put an injunction on him. Could you help advice me on this as I can't keep feeling like this. I'm getting upset a lot and I feel such bad anxiety everytime I leave the house.
.. Too be continued
My daughter has a neighbour who is private, but she is constantly harassing my daughter playing loud music, all day and most of the night, she has already gotten rid of the last person that lived in the bungalow where my daughter lives, she has sent her dog into my daughters house where it pinned her cat on the sofa, then she breaks the fence and allow
ws her dog to lunge through and attack my daughters cats and dogs, she is constantly out to openly get my daughter out so she can move her friend in.
All we hear is sorry she is private, and there is nothing we can do Help!!!
not the one that's wrong it's me I can't video her when shes saying bad stuff ....
this got Me so stressed so nervous I don't even let my kids go and play outside cuz of her been outside saying same bad comment or with the music loud ...
I REALLY NEED HELP !!
police won't help me even do they heare and see the video of her and her loud music and her saying stuff ....
A male served a two week prison sentence for contributing to he's death.
He has been working in my road for the last few months,so I see him nearly on a daily basis,which is causing myself and my family a lot of distress and making me ill,and I was wondering if I can get an injunction out on him,so I am able to try and move on with my life
Because of the warning they have now started go clear the mess in the garden however are now reporting us for being abusive to them which is an outright lie. At
the weekend we were out in the garden cutting the grass and they came out seeming to be making video saying we are calling the police as we are intimadating and then went back in doors. Again another lie. The police are seeming to support them now as they are compling with this warning. And the police said its our word against them. The neighbours are now saying they want to burn all the wood in there garden which was an issue last year as he burns a few things and let's it go on and on days. I feel like he is trying to trap me in my house. I feel intimadated. I feel a sinking feeling every time I go home or know i have to go out side. I know he is playing a game but I just can't take it any longer.
Any help or advice will be much appreciated.
What legislations and laws can she use to take to the police. At the moment they don't seem Interested at all.
I appreciate your help.
Tom
A couple who live at the end house on our street look to have cameras installed in bird boxes on their garage.
One is pointed up the street towards the main road however the other is pointed down our street towards our house and therefore not pointed at their property.
Is this something I could ask the council or police to investigate? I have a child who plays out in the street and do not like the idea of him being filmed.
Thanks
Emma
Despite what we have endured over a 4 year period, I have now been convicted of criminal damage after getting paint spots onto their property, from painting our fascias. It was deemed as the result of reckless behaviour on my part. The history between us was deemed inadmissible & I now have a criminal record, despite being the victim.
I feel that the system has failed me & my family & am now at the end of my tether.
Their behaviour was much worse until I contacted the police several years ago and they spoke to them. But now they just keep staring and it's affecting my health. I'm anxious, fearful and my heart speeds up when I see them. I don't want my little boy to notice as he was affected by them years ago as well.
Their staring is intrusive and unnerving. The staring is made worse by the fact they did spend a lot of time verbally abusing me and my family and threatening us. I always feel they are just biding their time.
The police treated it like it was neighbours not getting on, but it was always a one sided thing. They and their children went on a campaign on intimidation and threats.
I wanted a restraining order but the police discouraged this as to be honest I felt they thought they had better things to do. They did talk about getting an asbo, but they said it would have to be for both parties as these neighbours came back with a fabricated story saying we did things.
I did get evidence on camera of the women which the police did see and it did quieten down once they had been spoken to. But they are now starting the staring again.
What can I do? I really need some help.
I am currently on probation and disability (amputated leg from car wreck) so it is impossible for me to relocate right now. i am out of friends, out of support, out of money, and out of options
im currently in a relationship with my partner, well she had child with a married man years ago but now the only thing they share is a child together,however the childs father is currently married to his first wife and they have 3 children together...but he threatens my partner by telling her that he will kill her baby and her coz he is old and he has nothing to live for...he dictates in her life, he wanna control her life,well my partner is scared to lay a complain because he has alot of police friends, he even stalks her by being parked not far from her home to see where she going and with whom she going with, she reached a point in life where she cant take it any more.....we are seeking help, please can you tell us what steps to follow and do, because this has to end and i dont want my partner and the baby to be harmed because this man is capable of any thing.
While the conduct must be targeted at someone, the conduct need not be targeted at the claimant provided he or she is foreseeably likely to be directly alarmed or distressed by it.
The target may be indifferent to the conduct complained of [30]
Alarm or distress suffered out of nothing more than sympathy for the targeted victim of harassment is insufficient to found a claim under the Act. The claimant must be harassed by it, in the sense that the conduct complained of must have some direct effect on the claimant (in terms of causing foreseeable harm, usually, but not limited to, alarm and distress). [33]
Following from this, potentially, an injunction may be sought against a problem neighbour who screams and shouts abuse at their partner (the target). The partner need not be alarmed or distressed by this, but if this course of conduct foreseeably causes alarm and distress to others, they may potentially then obtain an injunction and/or other remedies available under the Protection from Harassment Act.
This may help fill a gap between public order offences (not available if both parties were inside a dwelling house at time of the conduct complained of), and anti-social behaviour injunctions ('IPNA') which are only available to relevant authorities. Provided the anti-social behaviour is targeted at someone to cause alarm or distress (the PHA target), then a claim may be made by a collateral victim.
Making complaints and making it clear that this conduct causes alarm and distress may help show foreseeability (they may not be aware that others are disturbed by this and may modify they conduct if made aware of this).
Note - I am not a lawyer, and independent legal advice should be sought.
But I was obsessed with him and started to text him constantly,only nasty messages when he started to be nasty and abusive to me,he asked me to stop messaging him on several occasions but think this time I may have gone to far and he may try to serve an injunction against me what can I do ? as he has threatened to do this to me before but where I work
this drug thing may be causing anger when she wants money and I should not give her. Sorry. To ramble
Our situation getting worse. What can I do?
please help this woman is insane!!
My marriage ended nearly 4 years ago and cutting a long story short my ex husband has been a constant nuisance. He has been arrested but never charged for stalking, harassment, GBH and ABH amongst lots of warnings etc .. t he police contacted social services because they were concerned for myself and the childrens safety and for a while the kids were put on the protection register... my son who is 15 has has counseling and still damaged but because he comes from a wealthy family he took me to court for custody of our adopted daughter with a barrister because he cant have children he thinks its his right to have her ( my son is from a previous relationship) any way a very long court process and lots of intimidation by him and his family times i felt like handing her over a decision was made and he only has contact with me 4 times a year other times handover is from school only communication should be through a book and grandparents step in if my daughter is ill or emergency contact. Well Im still being hassled... i make sure i follow the court order i do not contact him i get on with my life with my family... when she goes to him i do not interfere... but i get text messages dictating to me what i can and cant do when he comes to my property he talks to me and tries to intimidate me and then starts shouting his mouth off in front of our daughter..... i dont know what to do i want to be able to get on with my life my family happy not have to live under him and his family it still feels like he is in control of me and i am petrified of him ... he is the sort of person that threatens me with court all the time even though I not broken any rules but i have to represent myself and he has the best barrister that just walks all over me .. I dont know how to be free from all this
My neighbour has accused me of unfounded unproven complaints over the past 10 years he has threatened me with court action I went for Mediation nothing resolved
he said no he wants it to go to court the mediation was in April 2015 it is now august but I have had no further notification he is contently Harrassing me it has cost me so far £700.00 in solicitors fees to defend my name and defend me against these false unfounded unproven complaints my solicitor says just be pateant and waite but Me and my family do not want this hanging over our life should I consult another solicitor as this just keeps draging on
After being abused, threatened, tormented and generally walked all over. I can't open my blinds or Windows if I'm alone as she as tried to grab me and slam window shut on my fingers. I was diagnosed with cancer and this made no difference to her attitude, she even tried to refuse entrance to my macmillan nurse.
Her paranoia has gotten so bad she has told police I'm trying to become her to take over her life for some reason.
Do I have compassion? I used to but now I understand that some people hide behind mad when they are clearly bad. My mental health is in shreds after years of abuse. However I will not allow hwr to drive me out of my home as she's done with previous tenants in my flat.
I will see it to the end and if that means her losing her home as a consequence to her behaviour then so be it. She picked on the wrong one this time......
Any suggestions to a man who has suffered great distress and anger at the multiple injustices I've suffered? I'd be so well if people stopped hating me for having mental health difficulties. I could really do with a lift.
Many thanks for reading. ??
I was wondering if this was harassment in a legal sense and if I could contact the police regarding this woman's behaviour?
Last weekend my next door neighbour overheard a conversation between myself and another neighbour in which i did say 'just need him to f*** off now' referring to said neighbour (he had been creepy and i had an issue before with him writing on property of mine left outside)
So obviously he got the hump and sent me a fbook message so i thought i should knock on his door to apologise and explain myself.he opened the door shouting 'i will f***ing punch you' which he repeated 3/4 times so i called the police.
He also called them at same time saying i had 'bashed' on his door...i hadn't
so anyway police came out,treated it as a tit for tat and told us not to speak to each other and left me in a state scared and by myself.obviously i reported it to my housing association.
since then he has sat in his car and as i have crossed the road started revving his car to scare me,been slamming his front door late at night, turning his music up full blast when seeing someone go into my flat and today which has tipped me over the edge,i came home from work to find someone had poured bleach over my washing,it doesn't take a genius to work out who,especially since he had been outside as he had moved some of his plants around and the washing was right outside my front door which is opposite his.
the police even said themselves is was probably definitely him but as theres no witnesses theres no proof
my housing are 'monitoring' it but as he has mental health issues i feel they're too scared to do anything as he is using it as his excuse!
my question is can i get an injunction or anything similar to stop the intimidating behaviour??im too scared to be in my flat, too scared to leave in case i bump into him but also too scared to go out for the day as i don't know what im coming back to!
When a recent verbal altercation took place I felt intimidated by him and being a pensioner I felt shaking and intimidated so I reported him to the police.
Recently they have been granted planning permission to build an extension on their property we were never consulted which would have been the neighbourly thing to do so we never knew until we received a letter from our local council informing us and if we had any objections. We did object but lost. Now it's like living in a war zone their scaffolding has been erected next to our property and within the shared alleyway.
We recently paid to have a 1metre fence put up at the front of our property between the 2driveways as we were fed up of them trashing our plant pots when they drove onto their drive and they put a complaint into council saying it was in breach of council regulations. We had to get in contact with the planning officer.
They seem to get the upper hand in whatever they do and all this harassment is making us I'll. latest thing they have done is put comments about us on facebook about not being nice neighbours and objecting to them getting on in life because we objected to the extension and scaffolding etc. We don't know if we have any rights living within this building site and the scaffolding being slightly attached to our property.
If that is the case, then the answer is simple ... yes? (Use Spellcheck!)
I have kept my ear to the ground and believe that she is telling people i have a mental health issue. She is a psychologist so people tend to believe her.
The last visit I had from the police was the day we got back from holiday as apparently I had been walking past her house , laughing at the woman and intimidating her for a week standing outside the nursery her youngest child goes , to which the police know is a lie as I was not in the country when this apparently happened , she also accused my husband to threatning to beat up an 8 year old child from another neighbouring street , to which we had another visit from the police , the police also know this was a lie , as when it apparently happened my husband was at work , I'm not sure what this woman's problem is but I need to do something it is driving me insane .
For the last 7 years we have had to endure abusive words, dogs barking, threats and weird stalking behaviour from our neighbours
Their property is at the back of ours and a fence divides the properties
The all common complaint about boundaries and fences I think gets misconstrued
Title deeds defy a boundary not where a fence is
For 4 years we offered to go halves on repairing the fence as we deemed it not our responsibility but we're willing to compromise and each year when the abuse came about we reminded them of the offer
Over the easter weekend one of there dogs escaped onto our property through the fence to where these " neighbours" pulled back the fence and we're calling their dog which was chasing our cat... Our cat was in our garden nowhere near the fence
And then all hell broke loose the neighbour was abusive with every word you could think of and more along with threatening to rip my husbands arms and legs off and shouting he had a loaded gun and would shoot my cats if he saw them on his property or if his dog hadn't got to them in time... My husband repeatedly said keep your dog off our property and sort your fence out else there will be consequences to which our delightful neighbour again threatened our cats and my husband
We've all sworn but me and my husband with having 4 children aren't one to rise to these abusive situations and always manage to keep calm don't ask me how but we do
My husband came inside and rang the police who checked to see if he had a licence for a firearm which he didn't and they came and took our statements... Call it lucky or unlucky we had visitors that weekend who witnessed the whole episode and were quite shocked at what this neighbour was shouting
The police said the fence was a civil matter which we are aware and don't have a problem with the fence just the neighbours do
But they were going to give a stern warning on abusive language and the threat of having a loaded gun and threat of violence to my husband
Luckily our children were out of earshot but the neighbour made his voice heard for all
I'm just wondering what we can do with regards to getting the abuse to stop
He walks past the front of my home with his dogs and will stand across the road staring in or walk very slowly past which I'm aware is to intimidate me and my children as as much as last year he was shouting over to the children on their trampoline " tell your dad fix this fence"
We own cats they own dogs and use to have a cat
As far as I'm aware cats are free to roam where they like although I'm sure it's annoying for some people they are wild free animals you don't actually own a cat whereas a dog you are legally responsible to keep your dog on your property... We had three dogs the last one passed away last year and we were all to aware dogs will escape if.they can and make a run for it but this is on purpose...
Can anyone suggest how I stop th
Please someone help me
Slandering our name/My name everwhere.
Unwanted/Unneeded approach: Saying we are throwing dogs dirt up her driveway & eggs at her house.
Glaring in our front window when she is going passed,slowing down deliberately to do this walking or on her mobility scooter.
Glaring over our back fence & into our back windows & Garden etc.
Throwing stones at my back bedroom window late at night around 2am-3am.
Involving others - (family members) to cause us trouble etc,giving them instructions for them to park over our driveway - blocking me either in or out off my driveway! Telling everyone that comes to her house to park their cars down at my house.
Deliberately keeping trouble going,& delighting in doing so,Dissrespectfull behaviour towards me/my family.
Causing us to feel anxiety & distress etc.
And all this started over me checking her grown up son about saying really nasty/untrue things about me behind my back. His seven year old son carried over to me what his Dad & Mum had said in their house about me! & When I faced him & had words with him,his Mother then started this nonsence all about us! Even telling the Police that "WE ARE THE BAD NEIGHBOURS,CAUSING HER ALL THE HARM,WHEN IT'S THE OTHER WAY AROUND,& HER THROWING EGG'S INTO/ONTO OUR DRIVEWAY"! Is this Harassment? Have the Police coming out to us on Friday night,& should I ask them about the Harassment Act 1997 & A Civil Injunction? Honestly at breaking point with this woman!!
He is bullying and I want to know what I can do. Can you help?
M
they say I watch them all day long,
The bullying is making me ill
But my friends son who is at musical school and needs to practice drums. My friend has spent tens' of thousand on a flat pack small room at the bottom of the garden with double glazing. Her son only plays during the day for only 30 minutes.
This was all done with consultation with the council who said it would be more than adiquate. They promised they would come back and record the noise levels if there was any further compaints.
Now the neighbour has complained again the Council are being evasive. The noise level is less than people mowing lawns and kids playing.
Surely this is harrasment and surely there is a legal permisserble level and duration for during the day?
The ex partners sister has got involved and it's all turned very nasty. Ex partners sister has got involved and sent many many texts every Sunday until my sister asked the police for assistance to ask it to stop. Ex has called the police because she put a filing cabinet out by the rubbish bin and also on another occasion because my sister asked him to help repair the conservatory. Ex has now told more lies to the police regarding harassment. All very unpleasant for my 13 year old nephew to witness. If there anything my sister can do to stop the lies and what happens with the police, as this is starting to affect my nephew.
Me and my friend have been living together now for 7 months in a house we are renting with our two dogs. Our neighbour constantly knocks on complaining of things that don't happen example our dogs running up and down the stairs all night even though they sleep in our bedrooms with us with the door closed.
My friend suffers from depression and anxiety which she is medicated for but recently due to our neighbour she has become worse to the point where she sometimes doesn't leave her room and doesn't eat.
I'm not sure what I'm supposed to do.
She has never liked us and I believe it's because we are lesbians.
I live in the uk can anyone help
The renovations took place over 7 months, during which the grills were removed and hidden. The builders working on the council's behalf have since made them visible to the passer by and so made us a target for the last month. The grills have since disappeared. The police officer who came to investigate, said that they were seen for their scrap metal value and stolen for the money.
My question is simply, is the council liable for them going missing since they lied about re-mounting them, and those working on their behalf exposed them to potential thieves.
Ps with my disorder, I have co morbid conditions such as anxiety as depression and these situations really do damage.
Thank you for reading.
No justice. Her and her family are a bunch of uneducated thugs. The two children have a behaviour disorder. Nobody believed a word I said. Why do people like this get all the assistance to the detriment of other?. Makes no sense.
So on bin days I have one black bin, next door wheel down four wheelie bins.
What is wrong with having one bin at end of drive not visible from houses, not visible from street not causing any problems. I am away on railway and reservists very difficult and I already said I'm away, they have nothing better to think about?
My children are frightened of these people and don't dare look at them let alone go in their gardens. On bank holiday Monday we went out of town for a meal and came back to one of neighbours windows been boarded up . Turns out they are saying my children are to blame! We weren't even home. Now they have taken this to local council who has installed cctv facing my house. The kids are now constantly upset asking what they have done wrong. I have called the council and they are aoding firmly with the neighbours as far as I can gather even though no council member has ever been to ask me what's happening. Many neighbours in my street are horrified at my treatment and will willingly talk to the council to prove that these neighbours are making up these lies but the council are not interested .the council and the neighbours that have complained hAve got together a few times to have meetings about their claims and nobody who is on our side has been allowed to go and give their views and indeed we haven't been allowed to attend. This is all so one sided I feel the council are dealing with this very wrong. I feel bullied and I am constantly stressed and upset . What else can I do?
I saw a man over the road in his car watching and I asked him for some help.
He instantly began hailing abuse at me saying I was a horrible skank so as I thought he was a stranger I told him to have a terrible life and a few other related things. Anyway turns out he lives next door and is a big boxer chap with 3 boxing bags in the garden
My boyfriend began his walk home and I told him of the incident, on his way up our street he began filming on his phone to try and catch this guy being rude to us.
We did get a rather incriminating video with him saying he was going to hurt us both and that the last tenants in our house left because he terrorised them until they left.
We have this all recorded.
Do you think he could get moved just for this if I pressed for it or do you think I should wait.
This is the second time he has threatened to hurt me and my boyfriend and we have only lived here a week and we feel scared already
My boyfriend suffers from hypertension and anxiety attacks and he is on a downward spiral since this has all started.
New house was meant to be a fresh start not a new nightmare!
Wonder why??????what undercurrent?
Neighbour got my car messed up ......poliicebtook her side..
sincerely
He should be ashamed of moving into a new area and behaving as he has chosen to. He proudly displays breast cancer license plates on both of his cars yet the neighbor he has been so cruel to is a cancer survivor and has other serious health conditions and he has no clue how much they effect her everyday life.
As a senior I certainly would hope that I never have to receive any type of assistance from this man.
Since moving to our communial block of flats she has made my life unbearable.
She has spread malicious gossip about me among my other neighbours so that no one talks to me anymore. These neighbours intimidate me with dirty looks and one called us a swear word several times out of his kitchen window.
They gather outside gossiping about me and I can hear it.
The neighbour causing it said infront of them all she was going to get her son to sort mine out and was going to get me.
She got her son to come round and when my son was outside her son stared at mine and made intimidating gestures.
The local housing officer got involved and I was told to write down any further incidents which I have done.
A few weeks ago I was taking in my washing,she deliberately put hers on next to mine and put up the clothes line so I could not reach to get it down.
I went to take down the clthes line prop and it fell on the floor and broke.
She told everyone I broke it on purpose.
On Monday I told her infront of neighbours to stop telling lies as I did not break it on purpose. I also told her to stop bullying me.
2hrs later another neighbour came home who was not present in the conversation that morning,she told them I had getting on at her.
I was just trying to stick up for myself.
I called the council and reported the continuing harassment,they said they would look into it.
Yesterday I got a call from the council,she has lied to them and told them I am doing things to her. I don't go outside as I feel intimidated,i don't talk to anyone about her and not even made eye contact.
She manipulates people to get them onside,shes very clever.
The council suggested mediation but I am going to decline as she will only lie and not admit to what she has done.
There is usually me and my son who witness things together or another neighbour there,but this neighbour(was a good friend before being manipulated by this person)says she is not involved even though she is present during most of the harassment.
Yesterday afternoon after the council called I was in bed ill from all the distress,my son wanted to go out but felt awkward in doing so because this women and the other neighbours were outside gossiping about us again.
The council said they can not stop her from talking about me to neighbours.
From legal information I have gathered she is commiting an offence.
She is harassing me,making slanderous remarks to neighbours and in doing so I am being bullied by the other neighbours.
I am in so much emotional disress,i am also disabled due to illness and stress can make my symptoms worse.
I am considering going to a solicitor to see if they can stop her.
Can they?
What can I do?
Please help.
Is it not permitted for me to do so?
Thank you.
I have endured over 8 years of serious harassment for my two male farmer neighbours and had reported all incidents to the Local Authority and Police. Because the Police and Council had failed to prevent me from being harassed I have been forced to sell my house and relocate. I now intend to raise Legal Proceedings against the Council and Police for compensation for failing to protect me from the years of daily harassment.
Can you please tell whether I will also be required to raise Legal Proceedings against my two neighbours for harassment?
Kind regards
James.
We live in a small block and at one point there were simply too many people living here and I accept that this made it difficult to keep noise levels low. Now it is just me and my partner. We both work from home and often work late hours to meet deadlines but none if this causes excessive noise. Occasionally we have a couple of people over in the evening and although it happens less than once a month, the neighbours always complain. We don't play loud music, but chat and enjoy ourselves (usually at the end of a project and sometimes the guests are clients).
Last year the man from downstairs had said "tell your guests to sit down and shut up or I'll break their legs off"... He was complaining about them walking around from kitchen to living room but there was no music just chatting. We have had letters from the environmental health telling us complaint has been made. Today a policeman called at the door to say they had had complaints about nouse recently in the area and had I had any problems? I can only assume the neighbours have made a non-specific complaint. We have just completed 5x 18 hour days (mostly our if the house on location) and there have been a few people coming and going with kit and to work on the edit, and then 2 nights with people editing through the night. However again, no loud music just people soing their jobs ... I slept through all of this so I dont think the noise is excessive. We are hard working, polite, always apologise, explain and reduce to a whisper if they come and complain to us. We are not 'threatening' prople and nor are any of our friends or colleagues. On my birthday they complained and then even came by the next day to have another go, despite us going to bed shortly after they complained. We never have more than 5 people over including ourselves. It got to the point last year where we felt we had to tiptoe around our own house... And started to feel that we were not entitled to live our lives here.
I don't want to be a disturbance but they're never happy! I would never complain to my other neighbours who constantly row and do DIY when I am trying to work, I just think its part if living in a flat and if they did it when I was trying to sleep I'd get some earplugs!
The child is a minor and needs a litigation friend, normally parents/guardians.
Do you sent the letter to the parent or child?
If you sent to parents, who do not respond, do you send a letter directly to the child to avoid the claim the child was not aware of the claim (parents did not tell him), and visa versa?
If two letters are sent and ignored, then can the family claim harasssment (even though pre-action protocol are followed)
Out of the 8 flats 3 of us have cars including myself (Blue Badge holder) the neighbour across the road has a large garden with a gated driveway.
He insists on parking outside my place , I put a polite note on his windows requesting not to block me in, when he read it he just threw it on the floor waited until I went out then parked in my spot, I feel silly really as hate confrontation and this causes me stress, I find myself constantly peering out of my window checking if all's ok, HELP!!
cctv if pointed bathroom or bedroom,commercial premisies need cctv licence.
public houses no,that much threat, old people ,theft.police freely give them out cctv
mounted at front or rear door. Sorry to say put nets up ,are you encouraging this situation,there are laws to protect the person who put up cctv have they daughters?
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under 2008 law house of lords not illegal to take photos in street and you don't need permission to sell them,by the person taken of
dont be a grand stander,as to other people,could be viewed differently at court
I have been enrolled in one of the university and I have paid my fees 1 st time by one agent.
He ran away with my money and trap me in card fraud.
Now university is literaly harassing me mentally from last 3 money even after I paid my full fees 2 nd time.
What can I do?
I m literaly depressed, my confidence is going down and it is also affecting my health. It seem yo me like if it continues any more I might endup doing suside.
Plz help me what can I do?
What to do in such case.
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