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Protection from Harassment

By: Jeff Durham - Updated: 2 May 2024 | comments*Discuss
 
Harassment Laws Neighbours Police Victim

Nobody has to suffer persecution or harassment from their neighbours, no matter what has motivated the perpetrator to do this to you in the first place, and you are protected by the law in this regard. Some instances of harassment arise as a result of a dispute between neighbours which has escalated out of control.

Sometimes it’s down to anti-social behaviour by irresponsible youths, other times it may be due to a long-running dispute with a neighbour. Your harassment may be motivated by perceived differences between you and the rest of your neighbourhood by a neighbour(s) and these are usually of a Discriminatory Nature which is dealt with in another article contained on this website.

What Constitutes Harassment?

Harassment can occur in many forms. It's described as 'causing alarm or distress' and also as 'putting people in fear of violence'. It can include, but is not limited to, the following types of behaviour:

  • Threats of violence against you or an actual act of violence committed upon you
  • Abusive and/or insulting behaviour or words
  • Threats of damage to your property and possessions or actual damage to them
  • Any written form of abuse or threat made to you, including letters, graffiti or any other kind of written material such as posters being put up that are derogatory towards you

Basically, harassment can be any type of behaviour or action taken towards you which threatens your own sense of security and peace or which causes you unnecessary inconvenience. For more detailed information surrounding harssment and the laws governing it take a look at www.cps.gov.uk

What You Can Do if You Become a Victim of Harassment

If you feel that you are being harassed, you should immediately notify the police. It’s also useful if you have Kept Written Records of all the occasions when any harassment has took place, including what form of harassment you suffered, the date and time it took place, and a name or description of the perpetrator(s). Even if you haven’t gathered all of this information or you don’t know who might be responsible, just give the police as much information as you can.

The more you can tell them, the quicker and easier it will be to get the harassment to stop and to instigate any legal proceedings that might be necessary. Once you have been interviewed by the police, they will be on hand to offer you any advice while they conduct their investigations.

What Happens Next?

The police take harassment issues very seriously. They will be there to support you although the level will vary depending upon the severity of the harassment which has taken place. They will also offer you all the required information and guidance you might need if the matter goes to court. Depending on the nature of the harassment, they’ll also put you in touch with relevant external organisations or agencies that will be able to give you specialised support and further counselling assistance, if needed.

If You Live in Rented Accommodation

If you live in rented accommodation, you should also inform your landlord, local authority or housing association. They can offer additional support which might include fitting locks, vandal-proof letterboxes, fences and lighting, and installing alarms which might even be linked to your local police station. If your perpetrator lives in the same building as you, they can also confront them and warn them about possible tenancy agreement breaches, and the possibility of eviction.

In the case of local authorities and housing associations, they might also be able to assist in re-housing you elsewhere if that’s the decision you feel would be best for you. However, if you like living in your present home, you should feel under no compulsion to move, and your local authority will take all the necessary steps and offer you the support to enable you to remain put. Nobody should ever feel compelled to be driven out of their home and neighbourhood against their wishes because of a harassment issue.

Harassment is a serious offence, can cause unbearable stress and will be dealt with harshly by the Police and the Legal System.

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I know how you all feel, victimised bullied intimidated etc I have all this with medical conditions and a partner with a serious heart condition, our neighbour flirts her way out of trouble and because the others don’t technically live there nothing has been done. I got falsely accused of throwing full wheelie bins onto peoples cars! I would never do that and couldn’t do that. But the useless police believed her! No proof doesn’t matter if you are young and ‘pretty’. Authorities don’t care about victims as we are always the ones at fault even when we do nothing. I wish the world was different and we could all get the help we so desperately need and get rid of these vile people.
Once6 - 2-May-24 @ 4:50 PM
We have suffered at the hands of our neighbours for 2 and a half years we have had the police out the council involved etc but it just carries on and that's because the law and the councils don't protect us they tip toe around perpetrators sa not to upset them and we are told just to ignore it .This is completely wrong and these wicked people know how to play on the system .When I went to the police last year to report their harassment I was told unless they attack me or my husband they are not commiting a crime so what chance do we have if that's the attitude of the police who are supposed to protect us .
Cazza - 26-Mar-24 @ 2:09 PM
Can you tell the council to stop harassing you I've had non stop letters..phone calls and visits... false allegations being made against me.
Ugly duckling - 25-Feb-24 @ 2:37 PM
I'm.being intimidatf and harrased by neighbours using a policeman frieit still gping onnd if the block my drive they get a friendly call to move nothing ever done I got reached on a shop changing rooms cause this block saw me in town this shouldn't be allowed The other neighbours says the grandaughter is in policeman they want me out of the street
J - 25-Feb-24 @ 10:52 AM
My son was continually harassed by his neighbour for 4 years nothing was done. Until this neighbour macheted the downstairs neighbour. He sliced right down his arm. Inside his flat he had stun guns knives machetes all sorts of weapons. For about a year the flat was empty but guess what they moved another guy in with multiple personalities he bangs on the ceiling threatening to kill my son. He screams and shouts 24 hrs so no sleep he's been on his final warning for ages it now has to go to court. But not sure when. My son is suicidal. Police are aware but seems there hands are tied because he's mentally ill.As I write this has been another 24hrs non stop banging on the ceiling swearing threatening to kill. I'm staying here at the moment so will be phoning the police soon. Just not fair
Momma - 21-Feb-24 @ 8:30 AM
Yes my emàil is in place for contactI'm reaching out for help on on going group serious harrassment as the perp a boyfriend to a xwife of mine by the xwife HAVEING her boyfriend over five years now has non stop as he has the funds an eye WITTNESSES has seen this Steven Howell fry act out his intent as he made threats to I'm front of eye WITTNESSES yet I still haven't been able to gain support from Louisville metro police. My xwife an her boyfriend have active local officers as friends tothis Steven Howell frybf of my xwife. Has cut my brake lines I turn in video showing him in the act of committing the crime yet still nothing was done the nature of this crime itself as DANGERIOUS to my life an my girlfriends life an public at large for the with out any compassion of how many public at large this unstable DANGERIOUS person is to with out any sec thought to the neg results to all it might hurt the willness of this Steven Howell fry to act careless should have raise major concern he was clearly ok with people being killed by brake failure. An he attempted thison three autos destorying. Each one costing me the victim an my my girlfriends life to be at risk how can I get legal help to help us this is still a on going. Out of control over look matter by OFFICALS of Louisville KY just disrespecting our SAFTEY in such a horrible sick grossest manor any one. Have any connect that could help us as we are mentally being dismantle an impossible to put intitlenent to peace an be left alonesomething. Gonna have to be done we can't keep living in this allow by local police to carry on. It sick profown an wrong periodmy contact by cell is 2707409034. Text are call David my name thank u god' bless any help would be of help we reach out with no where else to turn to in Louisville ky
Dave - 18-Jan-24 @ 1:38 AM
Did anyone get help there? Will be great to hear howto get positive solutions to our problems. Thank you
John - 29-Dec-23 @ 5:48 AM
Police don’t take harassment seriously at all! Our elderly neighbours have made our life in a private rented property absolute hell. We have experienced actual physical violence - nothing happened. Not even a slap on the wrist for them. Then we were laughed at and mocked by the neighbours. Our 6 year old son was threatened on multiple occasions, “going to slaughter you” - nothing happened. When confronted we were laughed at and mocked. When our son was 9 he was verbally abused when he was stood at his bedroom window - disgusting vile language which left him crying in the corner of his bedroom. When I confronted the neighbours I was laughed at and mocked. They have threatened us many many times, saying they are getting solicitors, that they are getting us evicted (all recorded on video) made numerous complaints to our landlord in an attempt to get us evicted - nothing happened to them. Recorded videos of the man coming out of his house and randomly swearing at my sons bedroom window which unfortunately overlooks jobs garden. He throws dog faeces and rubbish over his fence into our garden. Shouts, swears and threatens us if we go out into the garden and has CCTV recording our garden and house 24 hours a day. So when we go out of the e house he knows and can abuse further. I was once taken away in an ambulance due to them threatening and abusing us - their abuse was recorded on the 999 call. Still nothing was done. Have provided police and the council with evidence in recordings and reports spanning back to 2016 - guess what? Nothing has ever been done to stop it. The last time I contacted the police wa son October 2023 and I have heard nothing since but the neighbour still continues to insult and abuse and harass my son on a daily basis and I am absolutely sick of it. I have come to the conclusion that the institutions that exist to protect you from monsters is all a lie, a fabrication to make it look as though you ar protected but when the time comes and you need help they are nowhere to be seen. New year 2024, everything my neighbour has done to me and my family - my son in particular will be done back - that is the only way we will ever get justice.. to stoop to their level. Articles like this are a complete lie. Police do absolutely nothing to help.
Anxious - 16-Dec-23 @ 7:41 PM
Hi, I can totally relate to everyone on here. I'm experiencing this and bullying, and have been for months by annoying tenants, some who I hear crash at that flat like strays because I hear constant in's and outs, besides the actual strays living up there (with nasty spoilt brats) attached. Frankly, it seems like they are subletting illegally and hiding drugs and so forth, and more people are living there than supposed to. I have tried everything from the useless police (Yes I said it) to the just as uselss council and my landlord to try to get my ASB (Antisocial behaviour) query taken seriously, but from everyside, nobody wants to take responsibility at all. So pathetic. I don't want to turn into a vigilante, but I understand why people take matters into their own hands. However, I get the feeling that I'm slowly turning into a vigilante, considering no one else has my back now. I think because these twatty neighbours know and suspect that no one currently believes anything I say, they are getting off on the harassment and trying to control my every move, and at the same time trying to disguise their stupid sub-human behaviour. All they do is try to compete, mimick and mock everything I do around my flat because they assume that going from nasty-malicious (who they are) to nice (who I'am) within a space of an hour, that they would seem like they are nice. No offence, but thats like putting sugar on chips instead of the traditional salt, they just don't mix, so why try to disguise the taste. Anyway, all I feel is rage, and want revenge on these skanky neighbours who know damn well that I live in my flat and therefore I can do what I want in it and they can't stand it, and way before they slithered in, but seem to think that they have a claim over it. In truth, with these trashy neighbours its a stupid power struggle, power play, jealousy, and insecurity. The top 4 currently, in my opinion.
Lexa - 4-Dec-23 @ 10:21 PM
Hi, I can totally relate to everyone on here. I'm experiencing this and bullying, and have been for months by annoying tenants, some who I hear crash at that flat like strays because I hear constant in's and outs, besides the actual strays living up there (with nasty spoilt brats) attached. Frankly, it seems like they are subletting illegally and hiding drugs and so forth, and more people are living there than supposed to. I have tried everything from the useless police (Yes I said it) to the just as uselss council and my landlord to try to get my ASB (Antisocial behaviour) query taken seriously, but from everyside, nobody wants to take responsibility at all. So pathetic. I don't want to turn into a vigilante, but I understand why people take matters into their own hands. However, I get the feeling that I'm slowly turning into a vigilante, considering no one else has my back now. I think because these twatty neighbours know and suspect that no one currently believes anything I say, they are getting off on the harassment and trying to control my every move, and at the same time trying to disguise their stupid sub-human behaviour. All they do is try to compete, mimick and mock everything I do around my flat because they assume that going from nasty-malicious (who they are) to nice (who I'am) within a space of an hour, that they would seem like they are nice. No offence, but thats like putting sugar on chips instead of the traditional salt, they just don't mix, so why try to disguise the taste. Anyway, all I feel is rage, and want revenge on these skanky neighbours who know damn well that I live in my flat and therefore I can do what I want in it and they can't stand it, and way before they slithered in, but seem to think that they have a claim over it. In truth, with these trashy neighbours its a stupid power struggle, power play, jealousy, and insecurity. The top 4 currently, in my opinion.
Lexa - 4-Dec-23 @ 8:07 PM
Hi, I can totally relate to everyone on here. I'm experiencing this and bullying, and have been for months by annoying tenants, some who I hear crash at that flat like strays because I hear constant in's and outs, besides the actual strays living up there (with nasty spoilt brats) attached. Frankly, it seems like they are subletting illegally and hiding drugs and so forth, and more people are living there than supposed to. I have tried everything from the useless police (Yes I said it) to the just as uselss council and my landlord to try to get my ASB (Antisocial behaviour) query taken seriously, but from everyside, nobody wants to take responsibility at all. So pathetic. I don't want to turn into a vigilante, but I understand why people take matters into their own hands. However, I get the feeling that I'm slowly turning into a vigilante, considering no one else has my back now. I think because these twatty neighbours know and suspect that no one currently believes anything I say, they are getting off on the harassment and trying to control my every move, and at the same time trying to disguise their stupid sub-human behaviour. All they do is try to compete, mimick and mock everything I do around my flat because they assume that going from nasty-malicious (who they are) to nice (who I'am) within a space of an hour, that they would seem like they are nice. No offence, but thats like putting sugar on chips instead of the traditional salt, they just don't mix, so why try to disguise the taste. Anyway, all I feel is rage, and want revenge on these skanky neighbours who know damn well that I live in my flat and therefore I can do what I want in it and they can't stand it, and way before they slithered in, but seem to think that they have a claim over it. In truth, with these trashy neighbours its a stupid power struggle, power play, jealousy, and insecurity. The top 4 currently, in my opinion.
Lexa - 3-Dec-23 @ 7:47 PM
Hi, I can totally relate to everyone on here. I'm experiencing this and bullying, and have been for months by annoying tenants, some who I hear crash at that flat like strays because I hear constant in's and outs, besides the actual strays living up there (with nasty spoilt brats) attached. Frankly, it seems like they are subletting illegally and hiding drugs and so forth, and more people are living there than supposed to. I have tried everything from the useless police (Yes I said it) to the just as uselss council and my landlord to try to get my ASB (Antisocial behaviour) query taken seriously, but from everyside, nobody wants to take responsibility at all. So pathetic. I don't want to turn into a vigilante, but I understand why people take matters into their own hands. However, I get the feeling that I'm slowly turning into a vigilante, considering no one else has my back now. I think because these twatty neighbours know and suspect that no one currently believes anything I say, they are getting off on the harassment and trying to control my every move, and at the same time trying to disguise their stupid sub-human behaviour. All they do is try to compete, mimick and mock everything I do around my flat because they assume that going from nasty-malicious (who they are) to nice (who I'am) within a space of an hour, that they would seem like they are nice. No offence, but thats like putting sugar on chips instead of the traditional salt, they just don't mix, so why try to disguise the taste. Anyway, all I feel is rage, and want revenge on these skanky neighbours who know damn well that I live in my flat and therefore I can do what I want in it and they can't stand it, and way before they slithered in, but seem to think that they have a claim over it. In truth, with these trashy neighbours its a stupid power struggle, power play, jealousy, and insecurity. The top 4 currently, in my opinion.
Lexa - 3-Dec-23 @ 4:01 PM
Im now severely depressed. I’ve been out of my home for 3 months. I’d lived the for 6, for 3-4 months my upstairs neighbour has been stalking me. It started friendly but he was getting obsessive so I stopped opening the door to him. He began following me above from room to room all day long (YES ALLLLLL DAY LONG) I became a statue in my lounge, and when I wasn’t a statue I had to be a ninja. The ceilings in my neighbourhood are badly sound proofed. He can hear everything if he wants…. And he does. He follows me around everywhere. After 3 months and asking him nicely to stop harassing and stop following me and spying on me…. He wouldn’t stop and I broke down in my home. I flooded my bathroom… the plug fell in, I was running taps so he could hear me less and I could do things in my home. You have to experience it to understand. It got to the point that I couldn’t do anything… I hated being spyed on. I didn’t want to be heard anymore :’( the council didn’t help and the police didn’t help. I had to take my cat and leave. I’m staying in my partners bedroom in his room in a shared house. Things aren’t good here. We are rowing. I’ve been stuck here with my cat now for 3 months with no place to go. I’ve told adult social services and they are like… well why don’t you just go home? :’( I’m feeling in a very bad place with no support available to me. I don’t think it exists does it. Cos where is it? Where is the help? I need a safe place to be. I’m not staying at home! I’d rather die!! My upstairs neighbour is quite the actor too. He pretends to be an old vulnerable man…. He’s pulling the wool over everyone’s eyes. The other neighbours know he’s a fruit loop and they’ve been spied on too. But neither the council or the police will talk to other neighbours. Gosport council are no support and have only contributed to my suffering.
No one cares - 3-Dec-23 @ 2:37 PM
I’ve been harrassed by my upstairs neighbours for over a year. They play loud music and jump and stomp on my ceiling all day to intimidate me. They’ve had 3 noise abatement warnings from the council but this hasn’t stopped them at all. Got in touch with the police and they filed an incident and just redirected me back to the council who refuse to help me move. Completely misleading advice. If anyone out there has been through the same please get in touch
Sharan - 30-Nov-23 @ 8:07 PM
Such rubbish police sided with my neighbour even though i put in the report infact i heard him.say to abusive man that i sad womennothing better to do they wait till you got hurt or worse before they bother to late then
Tar - 25-Nov-23 @ 10:11 AM
Same as above. My daughter,who has lived at the same address for the past 20 years, and has always got on with the neighbours, suddenly finds herself the victim of harassment and intimidation from neighbours at both sides. Been in touch with council and police and still no joy. They both seem to take the side of the neighbours.
Nil - 17-Nov-23 @ 1:40 PM
Im commentinng too lve had harrasment threats off of A Neighbour for five yrs kept Reporting it still nowhere lm semi Disabled and have disorders he has shoouted obsenities at me through my patio door he has threated me outside called me names in my flat still no Further Forward .
Paula - 6-Nov-23 @ 1:34 PM
This page should be taken down or clearly updated with correct information as it is misleading and potentially can lead to more serious problems for those following it's incorrect advice. Despite what the official law says about harassment, the police and the courts will not support, assist, help or even get involved in something like this where it is based around neighbours. They will always dismiss it as a civil dispute and direct you towards solicitors. The police have no interest in problems such as this either because they simply don't want the hassle and paperwork, or because they know the courts won't act and it will be a waste of time for all involved. Plus involving the police will only lead to an increase in hostilities and make matters much worse. Clearly the person who wrote this nonsense has not experienced anything like this and is only quoting the law as it's written, not as it's enforced in the real world. Finally in regards solicitors, this will be extremely costly with no guarantee of success. They will also advise that harassment is a criminal offence for the police to deal with, which it is, but you'll be back to square one. My advice if you've read this far is to try and get away from whatever the problem is. Fighting it will only make it worse. Looking for help will make you feel worse and will be a waste of time. This page should be deleted for giving people hope when there is none.
BrianC - 22-Oct-23 @ 12:15 PM
Hundreds of harassment by neighbours contacts to Police. Thousands of pounds worth of property damage. Mostly the Police seem to find it some sort of joke and advice yesterday was that I needed to let it wash over me - and get out more! Not safe to go in or out of of my apartment, Police just make excuses for neighbours and make up laws as they go along I.e I own my own apartment so neighbours can damage and do what they want because it is an apartment. Obsessed with cctv evidence only, which I am very limited where I am allowed to put it. Only advice from Police for past 2 and a half years is not to retaliate. Total waste of time contacting them as they've made things worse. Won't bother contacting Police again, better to deal with it myself even if it lands me in trouble because nobody can be expected to live like this.....
Help! - 19-Oct-23 @ 6:34 AM
My Background and the background to the Issues over the useage of access land I am the owner, business occupier and proprietor of a commercial property which operates as a business, in the running of a law firm. I also have part of the property let out to other businesses, one of which operates as a school with young children I have owned the property for a number of years and I have taken up a number of serious issue of concerns with my neighbours about the useage of my back garden area and the access area that is properly marked on the title deeds as an entitled useage for both my property and my neighbours, for which I have not had the privilege of much formal use of for my entitled access for many years, due to the operations by the neighbouring propertyand their visitors/tenants. The neighbours who have practically taken over the area, with false promises and assurances to me that the position would be improved following the renovations that they were conducting to install electric shutters that are probably about 10 foot tall, to enable them to have secured access and privacy to their property. They made regular assurances that the access position would be restored, however, these assurances have been false They fail to recognise that we both have an entitled access to the area and that is clearly titled in the deeds as an access area for both properties but yet they have continuously denied me the position of access, with false promises that the position was subject to a temporary renovation with the renovation being moved back. Boundaries and Title Deeds identifying the Access Area I have evidence in the title deeds identifying the access area and my entitlement to this access area, which has been overtaken by the neighbours, in relation to the issues that I have referred to below Planning or Business buildings Control I am unaware of whether the installation of the electrical shutters confirm with any planning application and whether this was constructed with the advice of planning control or with appropriate planning applications. I, however, was not served with anything to suggest that they did and I don’t know if these were required or not The garage, which can be seen from the photographs as the brick building, is built on the access land. This is not land that is owned by the landlord who commissions rent. I was assured that this garage was being moved back to the garden area of their property, which they do own and some provisions relating to the railway in which they were going to have access for the customers from this but the garage has stayed situ. The customers of the garage during the day, are parked all over the access area. This increases the number of vehicles in this small area, exposing the further risk of injury/harm to anyone within the vicinity Wrongful and Misrepresenting the Holding out on Land as owners and claiming remuneration illegally The land is not open for usage for the oc
Commercial - 22-Aug-23 @ 6:14 PM
We reside as a semi detached home and have done for over 10 years. Over the past 2 and halfyears now, a 24-7 business that purports to provide a care home for vulnerable children has rocked up The children are children who suffer with substance abuse & other mental health issues. They are clearly high level needs. There are usually over 10 people in the house with the 24/7 carers who are themselves the cause of a lot of noise throughout the day and night The children dont permit us to sleep or enjoy any peace and quiet The owner has conducted in a course of dismissive behaviour with a contary approach to report us to the police when we have raised our concerns The business is now, after two enforcement notices being served, seeking to appeal against the local authority on the basis that they dont require any legal planning permission, but applying instead for a lawful development licence that has failed The applications made are contradictory both to the numbers of hte occupants with obvious lies to cover up the overcroweded usage of the property which adds to the burden of hte noise, let alone the question of why we are having to endure this level of frustration We wish for any direction possible to include how to make a claim for harrassment for our 2.5 years of suffering and anything else that you can assist with
Anyone - 22-Aug-23 @ 5:53 PM
Four years of abuse intimidating behaviour towards me and my daughter and my disabled son and it still goes on nowhr even sits tapping on my daughter wall and tries to look over fence and has about 13 cameras watching us he also has live wifi camera in his van to he watches us with and what do the police do complain there badly done by and protect the ones doing it same goes for the housing office who phones them and tells them when u complain and gets awaywith it there's no law in this country and it stinks maybe one day the police mite do some work that doesn't involve pulling cars over
Davey - 20-Aug-23 @ 12:54 AM
I have done all this above for five years and the police won't do nothing I have threatening letters I've got videos of got audios and they still won't do nothing
Jaf - 4-Aug-23 @ 1:19 PM
I have two neighbours above me who bully abuse harrass intimidate sexually harrass and intimidate stalk steal do theft fraud identity theft stealing including my mail they hack my phone laptop Tv and sky boxes and switch off my internet from upstairs so I cannot watch tv in my own home they steal my phone signals and Wi-Fi and whether I react or not or whether I am quiet or not my neighbours especially john refuse to be nice to be nice to me as their disabled vaunerable lady down stairs I am trying the less said better mended way but they hack my phone laptop sky boxes and Tv today I have had to pay out £100 because my neighbours deliberately turned off my internet from their flat all the engineer did was to move us along a bit on a different channel but John tonight is still stealing my phone signal and my Wi-Fi from my phone we have to live together them above me and me underneath them for two years I would love to have a friendship repose or relationship with them but all they want is to steal destroy hate me and hurt me I am struggling not to take my own life because of both men particularly john they have put me through so much in seventeen months and continue to do so I cannot ever see them changing
Pasdles - 21-Jul-23 @ 7:26 PM
I have work most my life(all be it mostly worked abroad in a different country,but I am from Uk and was born here) I am severely disabled,whilst On my way home from work i suffered a serious Road traffic accident,with 2 limbs missing broken back and pelvis. I’m now in my 50’s,to only have a local lady tell me her taxes pay for my lifestyle (the quality of my life is poor at best)yet she’s round helping the village drunk man of the village phone around to get him help! Then had the cheek to tell me to take calls for him(the village drunken man) that drinks his money within 4-5 days then goes knocking other people’s doors asking for more money for electricity! (It’s certainly not for electricity,again I’ve witnessed this firsthand) This lady has only recently started to work,all be it part time! Why should I have to explain where and what I done for my tax credits! The reason why I get what money I do is because I’ve worked hard most my life and, the nature of the accident I had whilst driving home from work. Not that I should have to explain to this lady that I’ve only ever been good to and helpful,to be spoken to like that!!! If I told my daughters there would be hell over it,but I’ve kept quiet about it as I don’t want to upset them as much as it’s upset me,she knows nothing of my situation in life and I worked 2 jobs when my children were younger just to provide for them.It wasn’t easy but I’d change nothing,after all that is what ones supposed to do,being a father,is it not? The lady in question is known as the village gossip but,until now I’ve not witnessed her behaviour, I’m told by her to take calls for him (the village drunk)as he needed more money to get tobacco…(and more drink obviously )you really couldn’t make this up! The next time this happens the lady in question will be getting a solicitor’s letter! Hope you’re all having a great day,or at least better than what I went through yesterday… It’s easy to say ignore it but,I just hope my daughters don’t get wind of it,they certainly would tell her to keep her nose to herself and outa other people’s business. All because she has had to go to work! As there was nothing wrong with her she should’ve been working for longer than 6 months. I am absolutely furious with her actions and,I’m certainly no secretary for the village drunk. The cheek of it…
Honest John - 24-Jun-23 @ 7:15 AM
I have work most my life(all be it mostly worked abroad in a different country,but I am from Uk and was born here) I am severely disabled,whilst On my way home from work i suffered a serious Road traffic accident,with 2 limbs missing broken back and pelvis. I’m now in my 50’s,to only have a local lady tell me her taxes pay for my lifestyle (the quality of my life is poor at best)yet she’s round helping the village drunk man of the village phone around to get him help! Then had the cheek to tell me to take calls for him(the village drunken man) that drinks his money within 4-5 days then goes knocking other people’s doors asking for more money for electricity! (It’s certainly not for electricity,again I’ve witnessed this firsthand) This lady has only recently started to work,all be it part time! Why should I have to explain where and what I done for my tax credits! The reason why I get what money I do is because I’ve worked hard most my life and, the nature of the accident I had whilst driving home from work. Not that I should have to explain to this lady that I’ve only ever been good to and helpful,to be spoken to like that!!! If I told my daughters there would be hell over it,but I’ve kept quiet about it as I don’t want to upset them as much as it’s upset me,she knows nothing of my situation in life and I worked 2 jobs when my children were younger just to provide for them.It wasn’t easy but I’d change nothing,after all that is what ones supposed to do,being a father,is it not? The lady in question is known as the village gossip but,until now I’ve not witnessed her behaviour, I’m told by her to take calls for him (the village drunk)as he needed more money to get tobacco…(and more drink obviously )you really couldn’t make this up! The next time this happens the lady in question will be getting a solicitor’s letter! Hope you’re all having a great day,or at least better than what I went through yesterday… It’s easy to say ignore it but,I just hope my daughters don’t get wind of it,they certainly would tell her to keep her nose to herself and outa other people’s business. All because she has had to go to work! As there was nothing wrong with her she should’ve been working for longer than 6 months. I am absolutely furious with her actions and,I’m certainly no secretary for the village drunk. The cheek of it…
Honest John - 24-Jun-23 @ 7:09 AM
In may 2020, during lockdown, my partner and i where accused of calling police for a parked car outside our house. Not so. We did not call anyone. Plus we have been told when police spoke to the neighbour and us, they would not respnd at all to a car parked legally. ( we didnt have a problem with it.) Apparently they where partying during lockdown.Since then we have had vile verbal abuse, the worst in May 2022 when my partner was on her own, im a volunteer and i was out that day.He has cctv up as do we, and it caught it all on camera, he denied it and said his camera wasn't .We called the police and they agreed it was bad and put him on a diversionary probation course for a couple of weeks. this has made no difference, he started spying on us pointing his cctv at our door, every time we came in or went out he would show himself and start making weird noises at us.He plays very loud music during day and we find it difficult to work or relax in garden etc. We have been intouch with environmental health and we have been waiting over 9 months for sound equipment to be fitted...he now plays white noise in his garage all night upsetting our two yorkies.We cant go ut in garden and have to shut windows in rooms to keep noise out. We are fighting a losing battle...with no recourse to anything...police have sort of dealt with him, but not enough.We are stuck. its our own property and we cannot move, and why should we.
jax - 22-Jun-23 @ 11:36 AM
I arrived home to a threatening letter, ...... let me explain fully I need advice on how to stop this: I was not at home this weekend.My son popped out to the shops briefly on Saturday, 2 minutes later my disabled neighbour was nimbly zipping up to my front door (no walking stick/no walking frame ) and putting said letter though my front door. (Now you tell me that they aren't continually watching my house with their illegal cctv?).Whenever they do something it is always when I am away, and always causes maximum impact on my son's mental health, when I got home he was distressed and in fact hadn't gone out to a planned event with the Pearl Exchange on Saturday night. So their actions are impacting on his mental health, and I have to say, it is not doing much for mine, especially when I have arrived home tired, from a weekend of emotional highs and lows: A friends final goodbye, honouring another friend that went too soon, getting home to find a third has passed, fabulous weekend, laughing with friends, supporting each other through the rough bits, to get this letter telling me that I cannot attach a flimsy nylon screen to an existing fence post, that has been there since I moved in over 20 years ago, and definitely since long before they moved in, in order to prevent them being able to see directly into my garden through the gaps that they have in their fence panel - apparently it is 'criminal damage' ! They have also gone into one, about 'my property' being blown into their garden and causing damage.......errrr a garden store lid, being ripped off in the storms is actually beyond my control, think insurers call it 'an act of god', so even I can't organise that, I'm not so powerful that I have control of the weather! That particular time they sent video footage to my housing officer, he duly rang me, and I asked if they had also sent footage of me outside in the wee small hours, making everything safe again (I heard the thing go - so dashed down immediately to make sure that nothing had been damaged and to bring the loose bits in so that they did not continue to be blown around).Also last week, my garden brolly took off Mary Poppins stylee when the wind whipped up, I duly fetched it from the alley at the side of the house, it was NOT in their garden at all, and packed it away for a calmer day! All this petty complaining began after they blocked my access with their bins and 20 bags of garden waste way back when, so I asked the housing chappy to request they clear it, as for starters the rubbish was beginning to rot, never mind the fact they I could not get in and out. Which they did, some 6 weeks later, and placed some of it on my front lawn, they then began playing garden rubbish jenga outside my front door, and so it goes on......bored with it all now, but when it is impacting on my son this badly it has to be stopped! Hence my need of advice - September 2021 was when I complained, having, for several years, put
Emma - 19-Jun-23 @ 10:40 AM
I am in my eighties and have lived here happily for nearly 40 years .Its a village near the coast and very popular with Londoners who are now very rich and want to retire here. Well for years I had lovely neighbours who have now passed on. My husband died and I have a friend living here who is very nice but has Aspergers. He had his old car in my driveway. Now the neighbour opposite has started a war against me as they saw a rat in my drive . We have them in the garden every year and the rat man deals ntrol deals with them. Everyone round here has had them at times as we live next to a field and a churchyard . Well this year the neighbour opposite has decided to start this war and got other neighbours to call the Council . This horrible woman rang me the other day and told me to get rid of my friend and his car and that I ought to go in to a home . My friend thinks they want my large bungalow as they are now quite old themselves,I feel like I am going to have a breakdown , its all too much and there is no help out there . Yesterday another old harridan walked past as I was trimming my hedge and said you need a proper cut now. It was cut in October and looks fine after I gave it a little trim . I told her the birds could still be nesting if their first nests failed .She said that is not possible.I said how do you know ?She said I KNOW . Then she said the hedge comes out too far . But there is plenty of room here. These people are really stupid as well as aggressive.They move to the country and then want to make it like the town .
rosemarina - 18-Jun-23 @ 1:44 PM
I am now in my eighties and have lived for nearly 40 years now in the area where I grew up after living in many different places with my husband . When he retired we moved here to this lovely village near the sea. It was all good until all these Londoners moved here , who are very rich now after selling their houses in London at incredible prices.Well my opposite neighbour has started a war against me (being a widow with nobody to defend me .) I have a friend living with me who has Aspergers . This neighbourrang me the other day telling me to get rid of him and his old car.Also she said we have rats and I must call the pest control which I have done .Also I should probably go in to a home.and other slurs on me.We have rats every year at this time as I live next to a field and a churchyardI just get the pest control man and they are gone.This year she has made a great fuss about iteven though everyone round here has them at times. She got other neighbours together and they called the Council who came round and read me the riot act . Yesterday another woman who lives further up my road was saying goodbye to a friend who was parked outside my house . She then attacked me verbally while I was trimmimg my hedge , saying "that hedge needs cutting properly now."I was shocked and told her ; yes it would be done later on in the years as birds may still be nesting.. She said oh no they are not I KNOW . I said I belong to the wildlife Trust and they can be . as if the nest fails they oftenbuild one later . A very ignorant aggressive woman I have to say. There are many of these now who are divorced , moving here from London.They are loud aggressive and want everything straightened up with no feeling for wildlife or anything else. They have plastic grass and poison everything . They move to the country and want to make it like the town.
rosemarina - 18-Jun-23 @ 1:20 PM
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