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Your Rights Under the Protection From Harassment Act 1997

By: Jeff Durham - Updated: 28 Sep 2016 | comments*Discuss
 
Protection From Harassment Act Criminal

Harassment can cause alarm, fear and distress. Many people who are the victims of any kind of harassment can end up becoming ill, both mentally and physically, as a result. It will almost certainly lead to increased stress which can have a major impact in raising blood pressure.

Harassment can also lead to insomnia, anxiety and depression, poor concentration and can dramatically affect your self-confidence and self-respect. People who are being harassed may take excessive intakes of alcohol or drugs to try to alleviate the problem which will, ultimately, only make matters worse. The Protection From Harassment Act 1997 offers you Protection From this Unwanted Behaviour.

The Protection From Harassment Act 1997

Under this Act it becomes a criminal offence if you:

  • Cause alarm, harassment or distress more than once as a result of an action you conduct against another person. The conduct might be verbal or non-verbal and it doesn’t have to be the same type of action on each occasion – if the person feels alarmed, harassed or distressed by your actions, then it is deemed harassment, even if that was not your intention.
  • Take any kind of action against another person which causes a fear of violence. This must happen on at least two occasions. The alleged offender must be aware, or ought to be aware, that their actions are likely to induce a fear of violence in the other person.

Civil Injunctions

The Protection From Harassment Act 1997 also permits you to take out a civil injunction against the alleged offender, as a right to protection and possible compensation in cases where a criminal prosecution isn’t appropriate or there is insufficient evidence to pursue a criminal case. This can be very useful as it’s often a civil injunction being put in place which will prevent the alleged offender from persisting with the behaviour.

Police Assistance

If you feel you are at immediate risk of violence as a result of harassment, then you should Call The Police. Under The Criminal Justice and Police Act 2001, the police can force the alleged offender to leave the vicinity of your home or the location where you might be at the time, and they have the powers of arrest if the alleged offender fails to comply with this order.

Dealing With Stalkers

Harassment isn’t always about people wanting to cause harm to another. Sometimes, it’s completely the opposite. People who might have a strong admiration and perceived ‘love’ for another person can end up becoming so obsessed that they might end up stalking you. This doesn’t necessarily mean just following you around or calling you on the phone, but would include situations where they are writing to you persistently and/or sending you unwanted gifts. And, should this be the case, then they are also guilty of causing harassment for which they can ultimately be prosecuted.

Therefore, whether it’s the intention of the alleged offender to cause harm by their harassment or not, or even if they’re unaware they might be causing alarm or distress, it is still an offence under the Act.

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First let me say how aful I feel for everyone who has posted.Bad neighbours can utterly ruin your life and sadly I can empathise.My problems are not as severe as many below, but more subtle.Our neighbours rent and have done for many years. Their entire family and friends have had a pop at us over the years, but are usually too cowardly to confront us, so resort to social media and what a community police officer told me was "low level harassment" For example - one of their adult children blocking me in so I could not drive off my drive, parking so close behind me that I could not open my boot, parking on the pavement outside my home and knocking over the bins, calling me names - psycho, miserable b****, effin cow, nutjob etc etc.They have also encouraged their children to bully my children by throwing broken glass at them,bricks, stones, wood, metal etc, making our garden unusable. I dare not be too specific, as I am afraid they might find this and it will make matters worse.I have always had anxiety and depression, but I am only a nuisance to myself, no one else, and have not done anything to encourage this bullying.Both the neighbours and even the landlord accused me of sending letters of complaint which we never did, it was another neighbour. I wish we could all win the lottery and move far away!
Sarahsausage - 22-Sep-16 @ 9:52 AM
3 years ago my son& his friend was attacked with bats by at least 5 men. 2 of the men was sentanced to 9 & 10 years ...the impact this had on my family you can only imagine . The attack was in front of my 80 year old mother & my 9 year old grandaughter .it gave my mum an heart attack with the stress ofnearly losing her grandson ,me & my familys life is in ruins & still putting up with intimidation from the others that was there . we have recieved no help or advicefrom anyone , my son as never been the same & my lifewont ever be the same . if he goes outi am ringing him allthe time . he is not a trouble maker or drug user he works for a living same as his 2 brothers . my health is bad now due to all the stress ..i was a very outgoing person & friendly till ts happened now i rarely go out & cant stand to be around people anymore ,now intimidation with motorbikes all night over .if anyone can give me any advice i would be really greatfull thank you .
mary ann - 21-Sep-16 @ 10:09 PM
Hi I'm wondering where I stand and how I should go about reporting this (if necessary). I'm a 26 year old female who split from a first boyfriend aged 17 9 years ago.Since such event I have had non stop trouble! I am due to marry in 2017 and I am concerned for my wellware and safety leading to this event. I am wondering, whether or not I am in the right position to file for an injunction/harrassment order against the culprit. All of my issues stem from Social Media - I and my family now have received constant messages from time to time from the culprit regarding my relationship, my future marriage, wanting an invite, wanting contact - in the past the person has even shown up at my parents house to question them on my 'safety' & 'wellfare'. My partner & husband to be is extremely concerned for my safety now and the possibility of him finding out our wedding and wedding date (as he is the type of person to show up uninvited. I've never contacted the police regarding this matter (which I possibly should have years ago - as our relationship came to an end due to physical violence) so I'm unsure of my rights, the process etc. Any advice would be great! Thank-you
Tad-2016 - 21-Sep-16 @ 12:22 PM
I live with my gf and 3 yr old daughter and 3 years ago a woman with 2 kids moved in next door .She is a council tenant and I own my own house .She was a nightmare from day 1 , moving in at 12 - 4 am ..Whe had diy till 10 pm at nite and all weekend .The kids would throw written apples over my fence .I contacted the police and council and nothing was done apart from dragging me to court for harrasing her .Me and my family suffered over 6 months of emotional, physical and mental stress and financial loss .I managed to get the CPSlook over the case again and it was finally thrown out .But the neighbour never stopped there , she racially abused my girlfriend , made threats to punch me in the face , throw cat poo all over my new car and still the police did nothing .The beginning of the year I was verbally abused in my garden ,I reported this to the police and 4 months have passed and still the police have done nothing .Then today I parked my van over my driveway and the neighbour took offence to this as she saw I was blocking her in .We had to suffer her hammering on my Windows ,opening my porch door and trying to get in my house ,and threats all this caught on camera phone .We contacted the police who did nothing about it , said no crime had been commented .We then watched the neighbour get in her car and drive off .I now have a 3 yr old crying and saying don't let the woman come in my house ,my girlfriend now feels for her safety in our own home ... PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE SOMEONE HELP US BEFORE I DO SOMETHING I MIGHT REGRET
Detox1000 - 18-Sep-16 @ 11:46 AM
I live with my gf and 3 yr old daughter and 3 years ago a woman with 2 kids moved in next door .She is a council tenant and I own my own house .She was a nightmare from day 1 , moving in at 12 - 4 am ..Whe had diy till 10 pm at nite and all weekend .The kids would throw written apples over my fence .I contacted the police and council and nothing was done apart from dragging me to court for harrasing her .Me and my family suffered over 6 months of emotional, physical and mental stress and financial loss .I managed to get the CPSlook over the case again and it was finally thrown out .But the neighbour never stopped there , she racially abused my girlfriend , made threats to punch me in the face , throw cat poo all over my new car and still the police did nothing .The beginning of the year I was verbally abused in my garden ,I reported this to the police and 4 months have passed and still the police have done nothing .Then today I parked my van over my driveway and the neighbour took offence to this as she saw I was blocking her in .We had to suffer her hammering on my Windows ,opening my porch door and trying to get in my house ,and threats all this caught on camera phone .We contacted the police who did nothing about it , said no crime had been commented .We then watched the neighbour get in her car and drive off .I now have a 3 yr old crying and saying don't let the woman come in my house ,my girlfriend now feels for her safety in our own home ... PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE SOMEONE HELP US BEFORE I DO SOMETHING I MIGHT REGRET
Detox1000 - 17-Sep-16 @ 11:28 PM
My sister of 51 is harrassing my 22 year old daughter this is causing me stress and upset can I get her done by the police i just want her to leave me and my daughter aloan
Cags - 14-Sep-16 @ 11:26 PM
D - Your Question:
I have a son who just turned 16. 4 yr ago my young sister died at which time I ended my 11 yr relationship (abuse) and for 4 yrs its been just me and my son. There has been a multitude of incidents from school problems and getting into various kinds of trouble inc police matters. I have always stood by him though and done the best that I can. However for 4 yes the emotional abuse and the violence (smashing up my home.theft from me.emotional black mail the list is endless) he s very big now and towers over me. I worry that neighbours hear everything and complain and neighbours have had to intervene to stick up for me. My son says I m just playing the victim. yes I cry and I m slowly I m going mad over all of this. I really am petrified. The story does go deeper too much to write here. I be lost 2 1/2 stone in a short period of time and I have nothing of my own left as he has destroyed my things. I think about going to sleep and never waking up all of the time to rid myself of all the emotional pain and to not be the catalyst of why he is like he is towards me. He blames me all the time even though I give him all that I have so that I can have a quiet life. I have no family as such but would never share the abuse with others or friends because I m ashamed.

Our Response:
While you don't want to share this with family or friends, it's still worth looking at other areas of support
Try Single Parents Support group or Family Lives.
ProblemNeighbours - 13-Sep-16 @ 2:07 PM
I have a son who just turned 16. 4 yr ago my young sister died at which time I ended my 11 yr relationship (abuse) and for 4 yrs its been just me and my son. There has been a multitude of incidents from school problems and getting into various kinds of trouble inc police matters. I have always stood by him though and done the best that I can. However for 4 yes the emotional abuse and the violence (smashing up my home...theft from me....emotional black mail the list is endless) he s very big now and towers over me. I worry that neighbours hear everything and complain and neighbours have had to intervene to stick up for me. My son says I m just playing the victim . yes I cry and I m slowly I m going mad over all of this. I really am petrified. The story does go deeper too much to write here. I be lost 2 1/2 stone in a short period of time and I have nothing of my own left as he has destroyed my things. I think about going to sleep and never waking up all of the time to rid myself of all the emotional pain and to not be the catalyst of why he is like he is towards me. He blames me all the time even though I give him all that I have so that I can have a quiet life. I have no family as such but would never share the abuse with others or friends because I m ashamed.
D - 12-Sep-16 @ 6:31 AM
I've been living in my area for around 11/12 years now and we've never had much issues, the neighbour hood is relatively quiet and people keep themselves to themselves. Sometime during the years we lived here, we had a seemingly nice neighbour move up with her young boy and we introduced ourselves and was kind to the new neighbour for a number of years - and she seemed alright. She started doing things that gradually disrupted our trust with her. She banged on our door one night and started yelling at us that we were to blame for maggots in her garden, she had left ridiculous foods out for her dogs for months yet our garden was clean of anything that could attract maggots. She was cleaning them and flustered, and sure I felt sorry for her, but she kept pinning the blame on us saying "This is your fault, there's none in your garden because they've all come from your garden into mine. If my dog eats one of those you're f*****." We tried telling her it wasn't us, because it wasn't, but she wouldn't have it, she was so adamant and rude about it and I had no choice but to just watch her clean it and take the blame. She's blackmailed my mother on Facebook to move our bins because they were "attracting bees and wasps". Despite the fact they actually were not, her bins where near ours as well and was pretty much full of junk that was attracting wasps. But lately in the past year, she's been harassing us behind our back by spreading rumours and sh*t talking us behind our backs to people that go past, calling us a "nightmare" and "ridiculous". We've heard these statements because our windows are mostly always open to air out the house and nothing goes on in our house so it's a very quiet environment. We've overheard so many bad things directed at us and it's reduced my mother to a paranoid depressive. We've tried reporting her dogs for noise pollution, we've reported her for harassment but the local council are useless and won't do anything about it. We're stuck and we just get more and more stuff thrown at us for no good reason and I want it to stop. Our neighbour, is a horrible person should you meet her. We've witnessed her hit her dogs with shoes, pin them to the ground and shout at them, shouting at her kids aggressive insults, and they way she treats everyone around her. it's disgusting. She has a personality complex about her that deems her better than anyone and everyone else around her.
Abaddon - 8-Sep-16 @ 12:15 PM
I've been having trouble with my neighbor for 10 years were been through hell and it seems like there housing association doesn't want to know were been to them loads of time with photos videos etc.. To be palmed off . For the last 3 years are neighbor keeps watching me everytime I go outside he there or up the window watching me , even when I come home early in the morninghes there at the front waiting for me even though my son with me . And as soon as he hears my hubby car doors he there just watching . He even starting pushing are fence saying its stopping them shutting there gate but its doesn't as were video him many times pushing are fence , he's even cut our conifers his side right but to trunck so now there see through he even been standing there watching me and made comments and police were called out but nothing stops him , my mum and dad have been out and about and he seen them and he just stops and stares at them even when our daughter comes to see us with the grandsons he hears her car door and wham he there watching . I don't know what else to do as hubby patients are running out but we know that's what he is after the next door is 77 and married and she just as bad please help
Shorty - 7-Sep-16 @ 6:23 PM
I have a problem neighbour called Simon Mitchell who is very much giving me so much aggro accusing me of everything under the sun and chucking things onto my property, which I very much send back to him, but every time I do so he just sends back to my side of my side of a fence that separates his property from mine and he has accused me of keeping him up at night and all he cares about is his sleep even though most of the time I know he is not at home most of the time. Today he called called one of my neighbours in 506 a prick, I also heard him last year calling his cat the same thing. I do know he lives in the flat next door to me, which is owned by a company called Manor Community and he is renting. I would love to find out who his landlord is. If his landlord is the same as mine it would be nice to have him moved elsewhere. If he doesn't get moved then the problems that me and my nice and lovely neighbours in 506 will never end as it is getting out of hand.
Nicknack - 6-Sep-16 @ 11:26 PM
For the past 6 years we have been having problems with our neighbours with them constantly having a go verbally with both myself and my wife. the police have been called on numerous occasions but say they cant get involved in neighbour disputes. it came to a head the other day when my wife was verbally and physically abused again the police were called and again no action taken except the incident being logged as an assault. my wife is now beginning to suffer and will not walk past their house but takes a circuitous route to avoid them. I just don't know what to do next please some advice would be greatly appreciated
Mariner - 31-Aug-16 @ 11:22 AM
Can you help. I live in an housing block of four houses my neighbour on both sides have sandwiched me with intimadation.They use my dog as an excuse to bully me I have an arthritic spaniel who is walked 3 times a day and gets out regularly to the loo my neighbours contantly bang around there homes trying to tell me to walk my dog and to get it out to the loo they feel that they can intimidate me out of my home.I live in an private renting property in an mostly housing executive estate.My neighbours have been doing this for several mths .Police and local athorities will not help Can you give me some advice.
None - 24-Aug-16 @ 12:59 AM
My life was destroyed when my husband sent me packing, after 13 years we have been together.I was lost and helpless after trying so many ways to my husband back tome. One day at work, I was distracted, not knowing that my boss called me, so he sat and asked me what it was all about, I told him and he smiled and said it was no problem. I never understood what he meant by it was no problem getting back my husband, he said he used a spell to get back his wife when she left him for another man, and now they are together till date and initially I was shocked hearing something from my boss. He gave me an email address of the Prophet Abuvia which helped him get his wife back, I never believed that this would work, but I had no choice coming into contact with the sayings that I get done, and he asked for my information and that my husband was able to propose to throw him the spell and I sent him the details,but after two days, my mother called me that my husband was pleading that hewants me back, I never believed, because it was just a dream and I had to rush off to my mother's place and to my greatest surprise, was kneeling my husband beg me for forgiveness that he wants me and the child back home, when I gave prophet Abuvia a conversation regarding sudden change of my husband and he made clear to me that my husband will love me until the end of the world, that he will never leave for another woman. Now me and my husband is back together and started doing funny things he has not done before, he makes me happy and do what it is suppose to do as a man without nagging. Please if you need help of any kind need, please contact Prophet Abuvia for help. His email is prophet.abuvia at g m a i l. com his website is prophetabuviasolutiontemple. webs. com
Sarah Coleman - 18-Aug-16 @ 10:13 PM
Hi Group, am currently dealing with harassment the general advice I can give is gather evidence. I started taking quick photos when odd things started happening. I'd mentioned a few of the woman next door's behaviours at my cancer support group and was categorically told it was intimidation and illegal. We then had an 'unwarranted entry' where our keys were used whilst we were away, things were left out of place, lights on and footprints. As I had already 'reported' the issues to a responsible third party (Macmillan) when they happened and I had photo evidence the police filed an harassment case. I didn't want the upset of them visiting the people next door but what the policeman did was to visit and parade around with his notepad also victim support sent some alarms which you can put in the window as visual deterrent. It has worked well for us, also having victim support in hand with their practical approach but also an outlet for the dismay, upset and frustration. I will post up info on keeping a record of events as it really clarifies and substantiates your case. How I've dealt with it emotionally is to be very matter of fact and maintain a strong attitude that the behaviour is unmerited and undeserved for ANYONE. THEIR behaviour is not YOUR fault.
Els - 17-Aug-16 @ 4:50 AM
Sissy - Your Question:
I have been diagnosed with mental issues over 30+ years and also medicated. My husband, now ex whom I still live with since we married in 1989. Has abused me all these year verbally and physically. I have nowhere to go. I'm living as poor as I've ever been. He has threaten to kill me. Once he was arrested. Other times even though some marks were visible at time of incident he had police uncertain as to who was telling the truth. He's 6'5 250lbs. I'm 5'3 102lbs. Not physically well. He has stated I attack him. During our divorce I received nothing. We were married 15 yrs. He was the bread winner and I was brought up in an upper class way of living which continued until a year ago. Can I get away from him. What are my rights and entitlement? Hit rock bottom. No help available. Also lost my job due to my illness boss held it against me.

Our Response:
Go to your council or citizens' advice bureau. They will be able to help you find somewhere safe to live if you want to get away from an abusive partner. They'll also be able to tell you what finances you might be able to claim. The courts may be able to order your ex to pay spousal maintenance if you are unable to support yourself.
ProblemNeighbours - 11-Aug-16 @ 12:45 PM
I have been diagnosed with mental issues over 30+ years and also medicated.My husband, now ex whom I still live with since we married in 1989.Has abused me all these year verbally and physically.I have nowhere to go.I'm living as poor as I've ever been.He has threaten to kill me. Once he was arrested.Other times even though some marks were visible at time of incident he had police uncertain as to who was telling the truth.He's 6'5 250lbs.I'm 5'3 102lbs. Not physically well.He has stated I attack him.During our divorce I received nothing.We were married 15 yrs.He was the bread winner and I was brought up in an upper class way of living which continued until a year ago.Can I get away from him.What are my rights and entitlement?Hit rock bottom.No help available.Also lost my job due to my illness boss held it against me.
Sissy - 9-Aug-16 @ 9:03 PM
I have been in a relationship for 6 years and throughout the whole relationship my boyfriend and I have been stalked and harassed by his ex (well she isn't really an ex but a female friend) who is a probation officer and appears to be obsessed. She calls shouting abuse down the phone, sits outside his home, makes false profiles and had post offensive comments on social media. On one occasion she arrived at my boyfriends home shouting and demanding to talk with me. I insisted I did not want to talk as she had called me 2 weeks previous and as I thought we had reached some sort of arrangement not to have contact again, but there she was kicking the door and shouting and when I would not entertain conversation with her, she scratched insulting words on his front door, that was in march this year. All went silent and my boyfriend and I thought this was the end of it, however I have once again received a call only 4 days ago from an withheld number from the same stalking and harassing probation officer insulting me. I have had enough of this women impinging on my life and relationship, it appears she believes she is untouchable, due to her professional role. Is there anyone who can give advise on what I can do or where I can get support with this problem. 6 years is a long time for this to keep going on. I have no idea what this woman wants other than my boyfriend, she is behaving like a jealousy teenager and worse as she is a 50 year old mature woman.
HadEnough - 6-Aug-16 @ 9:10 AM
I have two women harassing me. First one of the women we have a child by the same man. Well she would talk about me on social media. Which involved the other woman that was harassing by making fake social media pages of me. Which she posted my phone number and people started Threatening my life. She's created about six or seven fake Facebook pages of me. She harasses my friends and family all times of the night through fake Facebook pages disrespected me calling me a whore and a bad mother that I need to watch my back.what can I do
Stress the fuck out! - 30-Jul-16 @ 8:33 PM
I have had an on going thing with my ex partners sister over a year ago she took me my ex & my sister to court saying that we had harassed her it wasn't proven in court that we had done anything wrong but the judge gave me & my ex an non melsation order for a year & my sister an injunction that we stuck to for 12 month over that time she has phoned the police on me 30 times with no evidence of me doing any thing but they have been to my work they have come to areast me on numerous ocation when I haven't done anything wrong she is using the police to harasses me I don't no what to do every time I speak to the police they never listen to me they always take her side & believe all of her lies she has made another report about me again so I have to go voluntary to the police station on the 15th August again when I haven't done anything how can she keep getting away with it
Clare - 27-Jul-16 @ 9:16 AM
i was threatened by my neighbour with a baseball bat and since then he broke his bail on countless occassions but all police say is its your word against theirs i have recordings of him threatening to harm and kill me video and photos of my back were he elbowed me in it everytime he sees me shouts abruise at me need advice on what else i can do ive even seen police can issue an injuction but they wont do it
madbuffy - 26-Jul-16 @ 10:18 AM
I suffer from agoraphobia and other illnesses which keep me in pain and suffering on a daily basis (I'm not looking for sympathy just advice). When my daughter had problems and my grandchildren were taken into care I was told I couldn't have them because of my agoraphobia.My sister (who bullied and hit me growing up) has always tried to control my life by telling people untruth's about me to turn them against me. Only the people closest to me can see what she's doing. Others believe her because she bribes and manipulates them.She is crafty and clever! She has managed to isolate me from members of my family at one time or another by lying to them about me.The problem is she never had children of her own (for selfish reasons) and now she is trying to steal my children and grandchildren as she is too old now to have her own.She makes up lies about me to the local authority to my grandchildren (one of which is ill in a mental facility and doesn't need to hear it).Because I retaliate by writing them emails (not on a regular basis just when I find out the've been lying and causing trouble for me.They have reported ME to the police when it is actually them harassing me! There is lots more to tell but I would really like advice on how to stop my sister interfering in my life please?
Bevannel - 26-Jul-16 @ 2:04 AM
Hi iv recently beengiven a male family Surport worker from social services to help me as iv got a autistic son who's very hard to care for and the whole family suffer from his behaviour however this Surport worker is always insist ant on having one to one sessions with me hardly ever with the children and he makes me feel quite uncomfortable but iv also found him to be sitting outside my home listening when I'm not in trying to hear noise he has sat outside for over an hour watching sometimes and he sometimes arrives after 9pm tonight I was spending girlie time with my daughter as her treat for passing sats awards etc my sons godfather was home with the boys he turned up around 9-15 pm and was told I'm not home he demanded to enter my home after he sat outside for over an hour and now he's leaving voice message telling me he thinks I was home and I should call him to talk or he will have to report it he came in my home and I clearly wasent here now this feels like threats to call him I'm actually scared as his behaviour is not of Surport more of scary stalker what can I do to get a different worker and him away from me
Kerryann - 22-Jul-16 @ 12:32 AM
Hi iv recently beengiven a male family Surport worker from social services to help me as iv got a autistic son who's very hard to care for and the whole family suffer from his behaviour however this Surport worker is always insist ant on having one to one sessions with me hardly ever with the children and he makes me feel quite uncomfortable but iv also found him to be sitting outside my home listening when I'm not in trying to hear noise he has sat outside for over an hour watching sometimes and he sometimes arrives after 9pm tonight I was spending girlie time with my daughter as her treat for passing sats awards etc my sons godfather was home with the boys he turned up around 9-15 pm and was told I'm not home he demanded to enter my home after he sat outside for over an hour and now he's leaving voice message telling me he thinks I was home and I should call him to talk or he will have to report it he came in my home and I clearly wasent here now this feels like threats to call him I'm actually scared as his behaviour is not of Surport more of scary stalker what can I do to get a different worker and him away from me
Kerryann - 21-Jul-16 @ 11:06 PM
Please help had enough now. Last year my husband was assaulted on our pathway for asking some kids to play else where with their ball. They live round the corner from us and we have had damage to our car and property. There is a no ball sign up. It went to court and the guy got community service and £200 to pay us plus court costs. It was his 4th assault on record. Nt had a penny yet of course because he's on benefits. Anyway since that day one if his kids and a few of his friends who live round the corner have harrassed us. They play ball by our drive kicking it hard at our fence throw sticks and stones at each other over our car and we have 2 dents already (new car had it for a month) My husband doesn't go our to speak to them and hasnt done for a year. We hoped if we ignored them they would get bored and move away. But they continue and two of the boys aged 12, stand outside shouting verbal abuse at our house. The language is vile. They also shout paedo at our house. I work in an infant school and my husband is a paramedic, we both find this very distressing. We have had eggs thrown at our house but have no proof who did it. We log everything with the housing association who have now said it's our word against the kids. We asked if we could video but we were told it was illegal. There are 3 families involved, we can't have a reasonable conversation with them because all they do is scream at us. All three drink and take drugs, none of them work. I can't go on like this. Dreading the school holidays
Michey - 21-Jul-16 @ 5:16 AM
Hi, me and his guy knew each other from high school but when we left he made horrible comments about me on social media and also shared a pic of me but cropped out the eye area. When I confronted him he threatened me and now keeps turning up to places near where I live. He just parks in the car park not doing much but it intimidates me so much. Do you think I should file a harassment to the police
Tas - 19-Jul-16 @ 7:26 PM
Hi I've had on going trouble with my neighbours daughter to telling threating to hurt my children to calling me white trash to threating violence bringing her bf round to intimidating me telling me I carnt hose my garden or cut my lawn or go in my shed talking loudly about me to her guests to telling my kids to shut up at 6in the evening so she not allowed to play in garden spreading rumours about my guests to having no privacy as always watching and looking who comes and goes keeps saying she reported me and gonna lose my house for stories what arnt true threating my visitors and screaming out the window what can I do
Nic - 18-Jul-16 @ 2:47 AM
Steve - Your Question:
Seeking advice!My ex and I were married 19 years and are almost 4 years divorced. She harasses me from time to time and mostly it's just run of the mill annoyances. One thing that I am finding over the top however is her threat to disrupt my peace at my family's cottage as she knows this has been and still is a special place for me and the kids. Given the length of our marriage and the fact she remains close to my step sister (who also has access to the family cottage) she seems to feel it is her right to be there. Currently the cottage is in my father's name. It is willed to my step sister and me. I'd like to know if I can get a restraining order to keep my ex from that property both now and especially when I am half owner. What must I do to ensure I that I will not have to worry about her showing up there???Thx!!!

Our Response:
It might be worth getting professional legal advice on this - it's probably an injunction rather than a restraining order that's needed. Have you tried specifically asking her not to visit the cottage, especially while you're there? Will your step sister support you in this?
ProblemNeighbours - 15-Jul-16 @ 12:00 PM
TiredAnnoyed - Your Question:
The girl (we are both adults) downstairs from me keeps harrassing me and making up stories and is in general overly dramatic. Like Tony Award worthy. This all started because I called out my BF (whom I live with) out on always coming to her "damsel in distress" antics. You can see where this is going. I went to leave one day and he was once again fixing her car. I walked up to him said sternly "I'm leaving and you better charge her". Since that day shes been making up stories and creating all kinds of hostility. She makes comments really loud about me. I'm an adult and shes not hurting my feelings any but its the lies. She said I charged at her and her kids and yelled and scared the kids which didn't happen. (Side Note all she does is yell at her kids). She threatened a restraining order (which I would be the 3rd person she's tried to get one out on in the 2 years she's lived there)She's taken a package that I had come in from Comcast and denied taking it. When UPS interviewed her she said that she refused the package saying that no one with that name lived here. Obvious federal offense for taking mail that doesnt belong to her. The package still has not been delivered since she "refused" it. On Monday, she texted the BF to say that I sped up the road at her when I left for work the other day. Again, this did not happen and she's melodramatic and just trying to start stuff. It's to the point where I just don't even want to go home to avoid her because all that happens is I get annoyed, angry and frustrated and take it out on the BF (again something she's probably trying to encourage). I wanted to know what should be my next level of action. This is getting out of hand and she's tried to get the landlord involved and rightfully so the landlord doesn't want to get involved. Sorry for being so long.

Our Response:
It sounds as though you're not in the UK, so we don't know if our information is relevant, but here, if the local police could not help then you'd need to take private legal action.
ProblemNeighbours - 15-Jul-16 @ 11:10 AM
Seeking advice! My ex and I were married 19 years and are almost 4 years divorced.She harasses me from time to time and mostly it's just run of the mill annoyances.One thing that I am finding over the top however is her threat to disrupt my peace at my family's cottage as she knows this has been and still is a special place for me and the kids.Given the length of our marriage and the fact she remains close to my step sister (who also has access to the family cottage) she seems to feel it is her right to be there. Currently the cottage is in my father's name...It is willed to my step sister and me.I'd like to know if I can get a restraining order to keep my ex from that property both now and especially when I am half owner. What must I do to ensure I that I will not have to worry about her showing up there??? Thx!!!
Steve - 12-Jul-16 @ 6:32 PM
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