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What to do if You're a Victim of a Neighbour's Violence

By: Jeff Durham - Updated: 4 Jul 2020 | comments*Discuss
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Most disputes between neighbours can usually be resolved between each other and, even if things might have got a bit heated, there will, more often than not, be a solution or compromise which can be agreed to by both parties once the dust has settled.

Disputes Between Neighbours are commonplace, and the police will not normally get involved unless a crime has been committed or a situation has escalated to the point where a crime is likely to occur.

On rare occasions, however, tempers can become frayed to such an extent that one neighbour may lose their self control and become violent, which could result in a physical assault. In very extreme circumstances, an attack can occur ‘out of the blue’ and can be apparently unprovoked.

What You Should Do if You Are Physically Attacked by a Neighbour

If you find yourself in a position where you are being attacked by a neighbour, your immediate thoughts should be of making as much noise as possible to alert other neighbours close by who might be able to come to your assistance. Defending yourself to avoid serious injury is also a priority, and it will very much be a judgement call on your part as to whether fighting back is the right thing to do. However, the most important aspect you need to concern yourself with is getting to safety and away from the attacker.

Calling The Police

Once any assault is over, call the police. Obviously, in doing this, you need to ensure that you’re satisfied that you want to Get The Police Involved. If the violence was relatively minor, or you’ve reason to believe there were mitigating circumstances for the violent assault – your neighbour being drunk, for example – you may decide to leave the police out of the situation for the time being and wait until things have settled down sufficiently enough for you to go and discuss the situation with your neighbour in a calmer, more rational manner.

That said, you should also bear in mind that an assault is a crime, no matter what the circumstances are, so you should never feel the slightest bit of guilt in calling the police if you have been the victim of a neighbour’s violence if that’s the decision you choose to make.

Seek Treatment If Needed

If the violence necessitates you needing hospital treatment, go to the hospital straight away or have someone take you there. If you decide to press charges later, the more evidence that an assault has taken place in terms of medical records and, perhaps, photographic evidence of the nature of your injuries, the better it will be for you. If you don't need to seek treatment but still wish to press charges, you'll need to call the police anyway, who may also wish to take any photographs which might help in securing a conviction later.

Getting Counselling

Some people can be so shocked and traumatised as a result of being physically attacked and, especially by someone whom they know and who lives close by, that they may need counselling later. Therefore, once you’ve physically recovered from any attack, this is something you might wish to consider.

Being attacked by a neighbour is, thankfully, quite rare, but it does happen from time to time. It’s therefore important to understand that, for the most part, these kind of physical assaults are often preventable if you think about how to approach any disputes or disagreements you might become engaged with in the first place.

Neighbour-on-neighbour violence is more often provoked by both sides becoming very heated about a situation to the point where neither side is willing to compromise or to walk away when a dispute threatens to get out of hand. Therefore, it’s always better to try to calmly and rationally discuss any differences and to try to reach a compromise before tempers flare, or to walk away and to say that you’ll come back and discuss things another time when both of you can have a civilised discussion.

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My neighbour attacked us (it’s been going on for a while, she’s been throwing racist and very demeaning comments and foul language). She has been arrested but threatened us she will attack again when she’s released. What can i do to ensure my safety and my family’s?
Sara - 4-Jul-20 @ 12:40 AM
My neighbour upstairs from me has threatened to brick my windows and burn me and my dogs alive basically murder me what can I do
Kylie1986 - 3-Jul-20 @ 4:13 AM
Myself and son wife were assaulted by neighbor because his dogs got in my garden. Dogs attack me and wife. Neighborkick garden gate in on my property went straight to me and started attacking me, son intverned, neighbor hit him, then went to hit wife.i suffered injuries to my mouth, face, legs and serious issues to chest from the attack. Went A&E. Police rang...came out ten mins later, did nothing and went away. All was on CCTV, police now told me no charges to neighbor......we live in fear of the next attack...
Out to get um - 14-Jun-20 @ 12:47 PM
Was assaulted by drunk old man neighbour yesterday hitting me a backhanded armswipe across my shoulder and face - which did not hurt but is completely unacceptable. I called police . The WPC was supportive and helpful and said it was assault and he would be arrested if I chose to pursue it further. The old man is in poor health . I'm thinking about it. This is relatively minor compared to other comments / experiences on this site. However another previous neighbour attempted to kill me and there was a witness police attended didn't look at the evidence or question the witness they turn out to have been responding not to my emergancy call but exclusively to the killers cover up call they believed a load of garbage the killer told them and did nothing. I fled for my life.
Hero - 9-Jun-20 @ 5:06 PM
my neighbour has been harassing me for the last 16 months verbally last month he physically assaulted me to which the police did nothing he then put an AVP0 out against me and then verbally abused me a week later After having put the AVPO in place what kind of person is this a psycho possible schizophrenic bipolar affective disorder What on earth can I do to stop him This guy is a complete freak at 32 booyun st brunswick heads nsw 2483
mos - 24-May-20 @ 11:10 AM
Our street neighbours who's selling drugs.is been fighting with my family.and this has been an ongoing thing.the drug seller and his wife with his daughter beat up my aunt who's a chronic patient.they best up her son,daughter and my lil sister. The drug seller and his wife went opening a case against my fam. Wich my family also dd. The drug seller than hired a hit man.to destroy my family.wich he dd with my child's father.they got someone to kill him......so this cases that was open was withdrawn as they matter was resolved by the police..then today the police came again after the matter was resolved. They came to lock up my aunts daughter who was fighting with drug seller's daughter...she said that this case was made because she saw the video of the fight and she feels embarrassed after she also fought with my cousin..so she reopened the case. ...so the police is not helping us cause they working with the drug seller...pls help...this guy is threatening US.he said he will get the gun man to kill us all....pls help
Antonita - 15-May-20 @ 8:49 AM
After my husband was assaulted by our car his arm was bleeding I took him to the nurse next morningshe attended to it.Police said it a neighbourly dispute it wasn’t neighbours friend pushed him trying to get into the car. The neighbours friend could have let my husband get in first it was intentionalafter with his mental health hemessed the bed himself fr over a month I got a doctors letterit’s rediculous he has schizophrenia diabetes anxiety depression 1 leg
None - 12-May-20 @ 11:48 PM
I'm a female who was assaulted by my male neighbour what steps should i take police gave me application for protection order I'm not certified cause he punched me on my face
Minky - 17-Apr-20 @ 9:28 PM
My husband was assaulted by our neighbors friend trying to get into her car she shouldn’t be parked at all residents only now police ombudsmanare intervening
None - 1-Mar-20 @ 10:09 PM
I've been having trouble with the new neighbours, ever since they moved into the property downstairs. The council won't do anything. They Still want their rent on time. Seems the bad people in society get away with anything. The law abiding get laughed at.
Nicely - 22-Feb-20 @ 8:31 PM
My neighbour hit me last night and the police did not turn up or arrest him.
Belinda - 21-Dec-19 @ 7:41 AM
My neighbour has been a nightmare since she moved in at the beginning of the year. She is a single mum with 3 children and it’s a private let which is paid for by benefits, we own our house. She thinks it’s acceptable to blare music all day, loud enough that I can hear every word of the song, and then parties all night long when both me and my partner work full time. We approached her many times to ask her to be more considerate but got either ignored or abuse. We decided to start to contact the council every time she was being loud. They came out a few times, to tell her to turn it down, one of which we heard her threatening to come to the door and assault me. The other night we woke up to a brick being put through our window. She seems to think she’s untouchable because she’s a single mum. We are completely at a loss of what to do, and the police can’t prove it. I feel unsafe in my home and I am struggling to sleep. My partner works away a lot and I don’t feel like this is my home anymore.
jasperjackson - 7-Nov-19 @ 4:15 PM
After 3 weeks of endless music pounding through the ceiling i approached my neighbor at his door to ask him if he wouldn't mind taking the bass out. he produced a kitchen knife an began to wildly wave it my face stating i shouldn't knock on his door its his flat an he can do as he please's an if i was too ever knock his door again ill not be going downstairs under my own free will... 20 mins later he is booting on my door calling me all the names under the sun threatening to stab me up i didn't respond, Just barricaded myself indoor's had to suffer music all night long. next day i find a nice note carved into my door threatening to execute me. i've contacted my letting agency an made a complaint. i'm now looking to move out ASAP i feel involving the police will only make matters worse we both gotta live in these flat's an they can't be there 24/7 to keep the peace.
paul - 3-Oct-19 @ 10:36 PM
i live in a council flat the lady up stairs owns her home she assulted me last year which i let go because of her age she rents her flat from her son and she bullies me and makes threats all the time and keep reporting me to council for no reason i have not had peace in my own home since i moved in 3 years ago i ahve been to council but nothing seems to get done about her violent and bad behaviour i am friend ith my other neighbour who live up stairs and the woman who is the bullie keeps telling me im not allowed in the top landing to visit my friend what can i do about her and what are my legal rights
susie - 7-Aug-19 @ 10:45 PM
My upstairs neighbour attacked twice in the space of 24 hours. He has mental health issues such as depression, psychosis and also drink and drug addictions and suicidal thoughts. He was sectioned recently but since been released and I have been trying to support and help him because I also have mental health issues but he turned violent and paranoid with me late last night when I was in his flat. He said he knows his girlfriend is in the flat and I was talking to her but she wasn't there - he was hallucinating. He locked me in the flat and refused to let me go until I admitted that I was talking to her and that was there. I tried to peacefully reassure him that only me and him were there but he lashed out by punching me twice in the chest and held a penknife towards me. Eventually he calmed down and let me go and apologised several times and I accepted his apology. He then was messaging me all night trying to arrange a 3some between me, him and his ex girlfriend. He asked me to message her and I did but sent him a screenshot of the message. However, when he came downstairs to me in the morning he then looked at my phoned and lashed out again being all paranoid accusing me of sleeping with her and having an affair with. I've never met this woman by the way. He then punched me several times in the chest, neck and face and grabbed me by the chest and hair and threw me to the ground. Luckily, a workman was there servicing the internal fire systems and intervened which saved my life because I think he would've killed me otherwise. I managed to run away because I didn't want to fight him cuz I knew he would've got the better off me and I didn't want any trouble. I ran to the local leisure centre and called the police who took a statement but because I felt sorry for him and his mental health, I decided not to press charges but later changed my mind and ran them back up but they said no charges can be pressed and they will only talk to him. I also phoned my housing association and they said I've got to go back there but I refused and said I will still pay all the bills. I was so terrified and I'm still scared to go back there because he will do it again or worse. I am going to keep searching for a mutual exchange online. What else can I do?
ry19an - 31-Jul-19 @ 12:28 PM
i have been extorted by neighbors and their family for more than 10 years and when i finally refused to comply with their terms, they had their friends attack my wife and i when we arrived at our home, i was told i was going to be killed and my wife assaulted as well as have my vehicle and home taken because they wanted my car and my yard with a fence so they could get a dog. guess what race these "people" are. so after the assault i called the police these "people" all stated i threatened and attacked them. i was arrested and am being prosecuted, i had previously reported harrasment and vandalism as well as tresspassing by these individuals one of whom is supposed to be incarcerated but allowed to freely leave the facility at will and another wanted for escape, the police did NOTHING, and when i confronted them in front of the police they threatened me and stated we can do whater we want., again the police did nothing the entire incident was captured on home security video even where the police supervisor conspired with them to allow for their assault on my family.corruption in this "free" country is absolutely disgusting.
fedup - 31-Jul-19 @ 8:13 AM
My neighbor hit me with a axe handle and told the cops i hit his wife which i didnt. The police wouldnt arrest or anything. Then while i was getting stitches at the hospital he tried to break into the house on my wife. Sje calledthe cops and again nothing happened. We are prisoners in our home
Ran - 29-Jul-19 @ 11:44 AM
I was recently pushed twice by neighbor..a man ..and verbally threatened ..and when i called the police they said they were taking a report.. I had marks on my arms..and even when they said well wed have to take you both to jail.. they did not arrest him.. all the people saw and he lied...and they convinced the police not to arrest him..wtf??
D - 29-Jul-19 @ 5:08 AM
Hi, I am widow I have 3 children I moved in this property 2 years ago and that time my husband was alive after spending 5 months in this property my husband passed away since then my neighbours are very bad with me they have problem with everything my children can't play in their own property they always swear at me I don't know what to do I am so depressed I am taking antidepressan tables.i can't even park my car on the road they think road is their property I can't do anything I am like a prisoner in any own house I am crying day and night.
Ajk ppp - 15-Jul-19 @ 3:49 PM
I was recently assaulted by my neighbor,I called the Hamilton police and the cops didn't charge him for bruiseing me up there response was people lie all the time I have been assaulted a second time having him break my glasses bruise my arms up but I can assure everyone here he won't touch me a third time
Livelivelaugh - 26-Jun-19 @ 4:28 AM
I was assaulted by my neighbour.I rang the police. They said they were too buisy.And to go to hospital. 8 weeks later I was having brain surgery. Off work for 3 months . The police did very little but lent a sympathetic ear ? I am moving house I can't wait to move to get my life and ideals back on track.The UK police are under resourced 729 murders last year . I was nearly one of those statistics myself. The assault was unprovoked.
Stupot - 7-Mar-19 @ 7:48 AM
My neighbours have moved in since 2016. Ever since they have complained when ive had family over and kids playing. When that was dealt with they complained about closing the front door. They say its too loud which i cant help come winter time it goes stiff. Police got involved after the lady opened my car door and abused me. Mediator resolved it and 6mnths yesterday she came banging on the door. Complained! I disnt want to hear it as my kids were scared so closed the door. She started getting abusive and banging on door window i thought she was going to break it. Called police coming out today. Im so scared to leave house. Shes renting whilst this is my own home. I cant leave. Any advice please as im scared and have little kids. My hisband works evenings to nights so is never home and we dont like confrontation.
XxxX - 1-Dec-18 @ 2:03 PM
I was assaulted by my neighbors & 2 of their friends. I suffered severe concussion, punched in the head, bitten & almost had my eye scratched out. My partner has alzheimers/vascular dementia & he saw it. Subsequently he fell down the stairs smashing his head open after suffering a stroke, caused by the stress of these bullies. They have cost us a lot of money over 17 years with untold damage to our property, especially the cars. And all because of jealousy. They have never worked & live on benefits. My partner & I have always worked & sweated for what we have. The police, housing association & local MP won't do anything but pass the buck amongst themselves. What is wrong with this picture - I just don't get why they won't do something about these degenerates. Simple solution - Just move them. If they do it somewhere else, then eviction should happen. Why would housing associations want people like these as tenants. It's beyond me. I have seriously thought of committing suicide & taking my partner with me. At least we'd both be at peace
Peg - 11-Oct-18 @ 8:56 AM
I was punched in the back by my next door neighbor when I was returning to my apartment after throwing out the garbage in May. He used his knuckles when he punched me and I almost fell down the stairs near my apartment. I told him it was assault and that I was going to call the police, but I never called the police because I was scared. I am an older woman living alone and most people who live here are Hispanic, including management. The situation is not getting better, but I am afraid what will happen to me if I say anything. The people who live next door are always having the manager over for drinks, etc. My only income is Social Security and I can't afford to move. Right now the man that punched me is standing outside my apartment on his phone.
Chris - 23-Sep-18 @ 10:25 PM
So basically. Neighbors can bully, threaten, and most reciently i heard a neighbor break down a door and assault the man in his own home. My son visited and the same maleneighbore who did the asdult rubbed his butt on my sons truck, drew him out to taunt him more. Camaras are now installed. I am hearing police treat this like they treat battered wemon. Go home and dont provoke him anymore. Move away from all who know because the abuser has more power. And lets not forget the most important thing society wants battered wemon and children to know. Others own and control you, the street and shelters re alreadyy too full. Thanks for the article but the problem is bullies. Its abuse with people that have more rights than another because of property, gender or mental illness. We all deserve to have rights to be safe. I do have solutions but then legal rights of one over another seem to fall into play leaving police at a stand still. Courts and jail are a joke.No wonder battered people fight back. Im not living in fear from a neighbore
Bond - 18-Aug-18 @ 5:29 PM
Hiya hoping for some advice. We have a neighbour who suffers from mental health issues. Every weekend she gets absolutely out of her mind with drink, falling about the communal areas, shouting screaming throwing things through her window aggressive to all the neighbours where the police after arrest her. Last night she smashed up a greenhouse throwing things the plants where dragged out. I told the owner then I rang the police and ambulance because of the amount of blood on the floor and what I could see on her. But I never approached her at that time. But later she was walking down the road and all the neighbours came out to see the damage. Which was awful. She then appeared again laughing and shouting and decided to get in my face as I told her to get inside her home.Wish I hadn't she lunged at me tore my dress ripped my necklace off and then slugged me. My neighbours pulled her off and I was shaking I sat down mean while the police landed. She as been arrested and iv given my statement as I want her prosicuted. But I feel bad because she is ill. This is not the first time we have had problems it's every week with her. On Monday am getting in touch with our Houseing officer anti social behaviour team. What else can be done.
Chezza - 15-Jul-18 @ 6:12 AM
i was attacked by my a neighbour while i was on my way too pick my disabled child up from school. she was screaming and physically assulting me leaving my with bruises and marks on me also spat in my face, i called the police as i was frightened for mine and my child's safety two female officers came and said that i wasnt assulted enough for them to make an arrest but will bring her in on her own time yet its been 3 weeks since she assulted me and i still fear going anywhwere with or without my child. They took a statement off me and said they would be back for an impacked statement but yet heard nothing off nobody for 2 and half weeks what a joke
stac - 26-Jun-18 @ 9:35 AM
police won't do nothing. I'm going to take care of the problem myself and do the time if I have to. that's what happens when police don't uphold the LAW and put good people in peril when they don't because the law prevents people from protecting themselves and they say " oh we're the police we will handle law breakers and you CAN'T! because if you do we will arrest you". see? good people are screwed over. just take care of bad people yourself.its the principle of it all.
K - 14-May-18 @ 12:10 PM
addition, the fifth attack was only thwarted as I was in the back of an ambulance already, what I find is an absolute joke is that police released them only for them to immediately continue their harrasment, I am now living in the hope that they upset the wrong people now as I think karma is due.
phil - 8-May-18 @ 8:02 PM
I have been attacked by neigbours several times had repeated threats repeated robberies including agravated burglary, had my children attacked police have done next to nothing, 3rd and 4th february got attacked 4 times in 24 hour period by the same two men, both of whom abviously have class a drug problems and are basicaly neigbours, the problem is I think incidents like these are becoming widespread through out the uk, I was left with a broken nose, fractured cheek bone teeth knocked out and 15 to 20 stitches in my mouth (upper lip) obviously these appear to be hardcore career criminals, to be so persistant in their activities, since they moved into this block of flats many people have left, surely the authorities realise this, so the system is flawed people should be safe in their own homes, it should be the criminals who get moved on, not the other way around, no ownder people are becoming homeless.
phil - 8-May-18 @ 7:58 PM
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