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What to do if You're a Victim of a Neighbour's Violence

By: Jeff Durham - Updated: 19 Nov 2020 | comments*Discuss
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Most disputes between neighbours can usually be resolved between each other and, even if things might have got a bit heated, there will, more often than not, be a solution or compromise which can be agreed to by both parties once the dust has settled.

Disputes Between Neighbours are commonplace, and the police will not normally get involved unless a crime has been committed or a situation has escalated to the point where a crime is likely to occur.

On rare occasions, however, tempers can become frayed to such an extent that one neighbour may lose their self control and become violent, which could result in a physical assault. In very extreme circumstances, an attack can occur ‘out of the blue’ and can be apparently unprovoked.

What You Should Do if You Are Physically Attacked by a Neighbour

If you find yourself in a position where you are being attacked by a neighbour, your immediate thoughts should be of making as much noise as possible to alert other neighbours close by who might be able to come to your assistance. Defending yourself to avoid serious injury is also a priority, and it will very much be a judgement call on your part as to whether fighting back is the right thing to do. However, the most important aspect you need to concern yourself with is getting to safety and away from the attacker.

Calling The Police

Once any assault is over, call the police. Obviously, in doing this, you need to ensure that you’re satisfied that you want to Get The Police Involved. If the violence was relatively minor, or you’ve reason to believe there were mitigating circumstances for the violent assault – your neighbour being drunk, for example – you may decide to leave the police out of the situation for the time being and wait until things have settled down sufficiently enough for you to go and discuss the situation with your neighbour in a calmer, more rational manner.

That said, you should also bear in mind that an assault is a crime, no matter what the circumstances are, so you should never feel the slightest bit of guilt in calling the police if you have been the victim of a neighbour’s violence if that’s the decision you choose to make.

Seek Treatment If Needed

If the violence necessitates you needing hospital treatment, go to the hospital straight away or have someone take you there. If you decide to press charges later, the more evidence that an assault has taken place in terms of medical records and, perhaps, photographic evidence of the nature of your injuries, the better it will be for you. If you don't need to seek treatment but still wish to press charges, you'll need to call the police anyway, who may also wish to take any photographs which might help in securing a conviction later.

Getting Counselling

Some people can be so shocked and traumatised as a result of being physically attacked and, especially by someone whom they know and who lives close by, that they may need counselling later. Therefore, once you’ve physically recovered from any attack, this is something you might wish to consider.

Being attacked by a neighbour is, thankfully, quite rare, but it does happen from time to time. It’s therefore important to understand that, for the most part, these kind of physical assaults are often preventable if you think about how to approach any disputes or disagreements you might become engaged with in the first place.

Neighbour-on-neighbour violence is more often provoked by both sides becoming very heated about a situation to the point where neither side is willing to compromise or to walk away when a dispute threatens to get out of hand. Therefore, it’s always better to try to calmly and rationally discuss any differences and to try to reach a compromise before tempers flare, or to walk away and to say that you’ll come back and discuss things another time when both of you can have a civilised discussion.

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My neighbor came in tomy house last evening I woke up to a man snoring in my living room. I woke him up asked him what he was doing in my living room he was very drunk and he beat me up real bad when the cat scratches my tennis swollen and I'm just very scared I put padlocks on the inside of my doors so he can't get in but I don't want to be locked in my home and live in fear from a man that I've never even been with he's just being drunk neighbor and his girlfriend's been trying to get rid of him for a long time he won't go away. but I never did nothing to provoke this beating nobody deserves to be beat like he beat me. He was trying to kill me I felt. He said he was going to break my neck can I talk to him down and then he got his boots on and can then he came back at me and I ran in my room and locked the door . Then he left I went to find the phone that he had thrown out in the snow and I called my boyfriend and he wanted to go out after him and I said no please no so I can he came back and now he's at home I'm locked in my house and I don't know what to do I have to let dogs out to go potty I'm not scared because I know I can't get in but I think he needs paid for this but not by abuse he needs a mental health for wanting to hurt a human being like he did me. No woman should be like he did me I have never been beat up in my whole life and I'm 59 years old what do I do
Nanny - 19-Nov-20 @ 5:58 AM
Hi,my neighbor has been an on off boyfriend for the last year.Ive suffered Domestic abuse and violence during this year which has happened before I’ve done the freedom programme as well.Ive done everything possible and correct to try to stop it.Anyway he caused a lot of trouble a fewer weeks ago to me and others trashed his own flat so the landlord kicked him out of his flat and to stay out the street but has moved in 4 doors away with his mate he’s harassing me etc and it’s driving me down can i get any sort of order restraining etc like today ASAP as he’s just doing as he wants Luckily No kids involved landlord knows I reckon he’s too soft the landlord to do more as i have mentioned it to the landlord its hurtful and sometimes I am too scared to go out im 46 lol
India - 13-Nov-20 @ 6:49 AM
We have been assulted by neighbor they have had two friendsof our cars towed they have pushed me and my mom and other tenants around bullied us went to the police and managementand they did nothing now it has esqulated to forcibly coming into our home and assulting my partner who has never said any thing to them they did it a second time and 911was on the phone when it happened the police come and want to know why a fifty year olddidn't fight back and after they threatened us said now it's on for calling them still nothing and now they ganged up and four people attacked him and all his ribs on left side fracture orbroke black eye concussion and his body bruisedevery where and the police call it a fourth degree assult and never talked or even said a word to them so we are not safe and can't even get a restraining orderdo to no one will give us there namesso now can anyone help me
Scared - 3-Nov-20 @ 3:08 AM
My nextdoor neighbor has bullied and harassed me on many occasion. The final time was sucker punching me out on the front stoop out of nowhere. I fell to the ground and suffered an acute concussion,broken collar bone, and broken ribs. I got a restraining order on her...but can Icharge her to add to her record? Is there a time restriction to do this?
Susie - 25-Sep-20 @ 4:22 PM
I was physically attacked and threatened with a weapon By my neighbor but police did nothing in San Francisco. I now understand why people are against police. Wow! I guess unless your dead is when police will have reason for protecting the citizens of this state or country they call USA.
Brown people matter - 20-Sep-20 @ 5:53 PM
Was stabbed by my neibourson my forehead and eyebrow so I opened a case one was arrested then released then two ranway but sometimes they show up ...then when I call the police whenever I see them they dont come so I fear for my life. Need an advice as to what to do because im not getting help
Mamiki - 15-Sep-20 @ 1:01 PM
After 3 years of verbally abuses from my neighbor who thinks he owns my driveway( he doesn't and i have the proof, I have 30 acres)on the first of April he attacked me with a metal pipe On my own driveway, hit me in the head, and hit my mail friend who came to help me with it to. Was taken to hospital and had 5 stitches behind my ear the police took him away and had him home 3 hours later and i have had no luck getting information about the incident since and his still out and about saying thing's like, see i can do whatever i like and get away with it, what do i do im so scared to even go down to check the mail and if i go to town I have been going through the property behind mine so I don't have to go past his place I got this place to get away from a 20 year abusive marriage please can some one help I have trubbel doing this sort of thing now with my head I get headaches and can't concentrate to well I don't know what to do
Roo - 7-Sep-20 @ 10:13 PM
It is clear that calling the police is a useless endeavor. I, personally, am trying to find a way to sue them But so far unsuccessful. No lawyer will touch it and they say it is a civil matter. I am on my own, reading legal texts that I dont understand really, but trying to get through anyway. I am so alone and very frightened.
Cheri - 2-Sep-20 @ 1:12 AM
I have been harrassed for two years by two individual neighbours one attacked me abusively and the other set fires outside my door and stalked me and abusive comments to my family I think stand up for no bullying no more I have warned them with a letter that I will report to police but no change. Investigation been done on arson attacks.
Kate - 19-Aug-20 @ 5:16 PM
Wish I could help.The Euclidpolice department won't help me with the constant verbal and physical assaults from people living on 1853 Braeburn Park DriveEuclid.He's in the Reserves police said they won't do anything
Maureen - 10-Aug-20 @ 8:01 PM
Please anyone know a lawyer who helps in neighbor physical assault these situations? Police won't help.. He is in the military.
Maureen - 10-Aug-20 @ 7:53 PM
I live in a duplex house. My neighbors party all night; every night; and they have had the police called on them mostly by me; but other neighbors too. It’s has made the neighbors become real bad people by using some device: I think electronic; to assault me. It makes my ears ring, bad headaches, and dizziness. I can’t explain, but the feeling in my head feels very bad; like something physical is occurring. I do not have anybody to help me, and the neighbors are clever to call the police and state I am doing what they are doing. I am a us army vet, and my neighbors are gov check drawing people who don’t work. I have the only go home for necessities, then leave; because they have networked with another to monitor my coming and going. Please help me
Anti-terrorist - 20-Jul-20 @ 10:57 AM
Prob'ly two years my neighbor has been banging the dents out of the front of his car fenders over and over again spray painting over and over again Sanding over and over again and fightingtoo loud music during the day/night the banging all the noise of the car he was sanding in his parking spot and my house is the carport and it makes so much noise I finallyparked my car in front of his car that doesn't andeliminated his opportunity to harassment noise he has since moved my car into the street sliced myTire shattered my windshield in my other car what do I do
ibdmomme - 10-Jul-20 @ 9:41 PM
My neighbour attacked us (it’s been going on for a while, she’s been throwing racist and very demeaning comments and foul language). She has been arrested but threatened us she will attack again when she’s released. What can i do to ensure my safety and my family’s?
Sara - 4-Jul-20 @ 12:40 AM
My neighbour upstairs from me has threatened to brick my windows and burn me and my dogs alive basically murder me what can I do
Kylie1986 - 3-Jul-20 @ 4:13 AM
Myself and son wife were assaulted by neighbor because his dogs got in my garden. Dogs attack me and wife. Neighborkick garden gate in on my property went straight to me and started attacking me, son intverned, neighbor hit him, then went to hit wife.i suffered injuries to my mouth, face, legs and serious issues to chest from the attack. Went A&E. Police rang...came out ten mins later, did nothing and went away. All was on CCTV, police now told me no charges to neighbor......we live in fear of the next attack...
Out to get um - 14-Jun-20 @ 12:47 PM
Was assaulted by drunk old man neighbour yesterday hitting me a backhanded armswipe across my shoulder and face - which did not hurt but is completely unacceptable. I called police . The WPC was supportive and helpful and said it was assault and he would be arrested if I chose to pursue it further. The old man is in poor health . I'm thinking about it. This is relatively minor compared to other comments / experiences on this site. However another previous neighbour attempted to kill me and there was a witness police attended didn't look at the evidence or question the witness they turn out to have been responding not to my emergancy call but exclusively to the killers cover up call they believed a load of garbage the killer told them and did nothing. I fled for my life.
Hero - 9-Jun-20 @ 5:06 PM
my neighbour has been harassing me for the last 16 months verbally last month he physically assaulted me to which the police did nothing he then put an AVP0 out against me and then verbally abused me a week later After having put the AVPO in place what kind of person is this a psycho possible schizophrenic bipolar affective disorder What on earth can I do to stop him This guy is a complete freak at 32 booyun st brunswick heads nsw 2483
mos - 24-May-20 @ 11:10 AM
Our street neighbours who's selling drugs.is been fighting with my family.and this has been an ongoing thing.the drug seller and his wife with his daughter beat up my aunt who's a chronic patient.they best up her son,daughter and my lil sister. The drug seller and his wife went opening a case against my fam. Wich my family also dd. The drug seller than hired a hit man.to destroy my family.wich he dd with my child's father.they got someone to kill him......so this cases that was open was withdrawn as they matter was resolved by the police..then today the police came again after the matter was resolved. They came to lock up my aunts daughter who was fighting with drug seller's daughter...she said that this case was made because she saw the video of the fight and she feels embarrassed after she also fought with my cousin..so she reopened the case. ...so the police is not helping us cause they working with the drug seller...pls help...this guy is threatening US.he said he will get the gun man to kill us all....pls help
Antonita - 15-May-20 @ 8:49 AM
After my husband was assaulted by our car his arm was bleeding I took him to the nurse next morningshe attended to it.Police said it a neighbourly dispute it wasn’t neighbours friend pushed him trying to get into the car. The neighbours friend could have let my husband get in first it was intentionalafter with his mental health hemessed the bed himself fr over a month I got a doctors letterit’s rediculous he has schizophrenia diabetes anxiety depression 1 leg
None - 12-May-20 @ 11:48 PM
I'm a female who was assaulted by my male neighbour what steps should i take police gave me application for protection order I'm not certified cause he punched me on my face
Minky - 17-Apr-20 @ 9:28 PM
My husband was assaulted by our neighbors friend trying to get into her car she shouldn’t be parked at all residents only now police ombudsmanare intervening
None - 1-Mar-20 @ 10:09 PM
I've been having trouble with the new neighbours, ever since they moved into the property downstairs. The council won't do anything. They Still want their rent on time. Seems the bad people in society get away with anything. The law abiding get laughed at.
Nicely - 22-Feb-20 @ 8:31 PM
My neighbour hit me last night and the police did not turn up or arrest him.
Belinda - 21-Dec-19 @ 7:41 AM
My neighbour has been a nightmare since she moved in at the beginning of the year. She is a single mum with 3 children and it’s a private let which is paid for by benefits, we own our house. She thinks it’s acceptable to blare music all day, loud enough that I can hear every word of the song, and then parties all night long when both me and my partner work full time. We approached her many times to ask her to be more considerate but got either ignored or abuse. We decided to start to contact the council every time she was being loud. They came out a few times, to tell her to turn it down, one of which we heard her threatening to come to the door and assault me. The other night we woke up to a brick being put through our window. She seems to think she’s untouchable because she’s a single mum. We are completely at a loss of what to do, and the police can’t prove it. I feel unsafe in my home and I am struggling to sleep. My partner works away a lot and I don’t feel like this is my home anymore.
jasperjackson - 7-Nov-19 @ 4:15 PM
After 3 weeks of endless music pounding through the ceiling i approached my neighbor at his door to ask him if he wouldn't mind taking the bass out. he produced a kitchen knife an began to wildly wave it my face stating i shouldn't knock on his door its his flat an he can do as he please's an if i was too ever knock his door again ill not be going downstairs under my own free will... 20 mins later he is booting on my door calling me all the names under the sun threatening to stab me up i didn't respond, Just barricaded myself indoor's had to suffer music all night long. next day i find a nice note carved into my door threatening to execute me. i've contacted my letting agency an made a complaint. i'm now looking to move out ASAP i feel involving the police will only make matters worse we both gotta live in these flat's an they can't be there 24/7 to keep the peace.
paul - 3-Oct-19 @ 10:36 PM
i live in a council flat the lady up stairs owns her home she assulted me last year which i let go because of her age she rents her flat from her son and she bullies me and makes threats all the time and keep reporting me to council for no reason i have not had peace in my own home since i moved in 3 years ago i ahve been to council but nothing seems to get done about her violent and bad behaviour i am friend ith my other neighbour who live up stairs and the woman who is the bullie keeps telling me im not allowed in the top landing to visit my friend what can i do about her and what are my legal rights
susie - 7-Aug-19 @ 10:45 PM
My upstairs neighbour attacked twice in the space of 24 hours. He has mental health issues such as depression, psychosis and also drink and drug addictions and suicidal thoughts. He was sectioned recently but since been released and I have been trying to support and help him because I also have mental health issues but he turned violent and paranoid with me late last night when I was in his flat. He said he knows his girlfriend is in the flat and I was talking to her but she wasn't there - he was hallucinating. He locked me in the flat and refused to let me go until I admitted that I was talking to her and that was there. I tried to peacefully reassure him that only me and him were there but he lashed out by punching me twice in the chest and held a penknife towards me. Eventually he calmed down and let me go and apologised several times and I accepted his apology. He then was messaging me all night trying to arrange a 3some between me, him and his ex girlfriend. He asked me to message her and I did but sent him a screenshot of the message. However, when he came downstairs to me in the morning he then looked at my phoned and lashed out again being all paranoid accusing me of sleeping with her and having an affair with. I've never met this woman by the way. He then punched me several times in the chest, neck and face and grabbed me by the chest and hair and threw me to the ground. Luckily, a workman was there servicing the internal fire systems and intervened which saved my life because I think he would've killed me otherwise. I managed to run away because I didn't want to fight him cuz I knew he would've got the better off me and I didn't want any trouble. I ran to the local leisure centre and called the police who took a statement but because I felt sorry for him and his mental health, I decided not to press charges but later changed my mind and ran them back up but they said no charges can be pressed and they will only talk to him. I also phoned my housing association and they said I've got to go back there but I refused and said I will still pay all the bills. I was so terrified and I'm still scared to go back there because he will do it again or worse. I am going to keep searching for a mutual exchange online. What else can I do?
ry19an - 31-Jul-19 @ 12:28 PM
i have been extorted by neighbors and their family for more than 10 years and when i finally refused to comply with their terms, they had their friends attack my wife and i when we arrived at our home, i was told i was going to be killed and my wife assaulted as well as have my vehicle and home taken because they wanted my car and my yard with a fence so they could get a dog. guess what race these "people" are. so after the assault i called the police these "people" all stated i threatened and attacked them. i was arrested and am being prosecuted, i had previously reported harrasment and vandalism as well as tresspassing by these individuals one of whom is supposed to be incarcerated but allowed to freely leave the facility at will and another wanted for escape, the police did NOTHING, and when i confronted them in front of the police they threatened me and stated we can do whater we want., again the police did nothing the entire incident was captured on home security video even where the police supervisor conspired with them to allow for their assault on my family.corruption in this "free" country is absolutely disgusting.
fedup - 31-Jul-19 @ 8:13 AM
My neighbor hit me with a axe handle and told the cops i hit his wife which i didnt. The police wouldnt arrest or anything. Then while i was getting stitches at the hospital he tried to break into the house on my wife. Sje calledthe cops and again nothing happened. We are prisoners in our home
Ran - 29-Jul-19 @ 11:44 AM
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