When a neighbour's behaviour crosses the line
Feeling intimidated or harassed by someone who lives nearby can affect every part of your daily life. Your home should be a place where you feel safe, and your neighbourhood should be somewhere you can come and go without fear.
Neighbourhood bullying takes many forms: verbal abuse, threats, spreading rumours, deliberate attempts to annoy you, or targeting members of your household. The term bullying has no strict legal definition in England and Wales, but behaviours associated with it can still be pursued legally if they fall under harassment, assault or other criminal offences.
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When a child in your household is being bullied by other children nearby, your response will depend on the nature and frequency of what is happening. A single disagreement between children, while upsetting, may resolve itself without adult intervention. Keep communication open with your child and watch how things develop.
If the behaviour continues or becomes more serious:
- Talk to your child about what is happening and let them know they can come to you with concerns.
- Help them think through simple responses: walking away, telling an adult, or staying near others when outside.
- Consider walking with your child to and from school or supervising outdoor play for a period.
- If appropriate, speak calmly to the parents of the other children to see if the matter can be resolved directly.
Not all parents will be receptive, and raising the issue directly may sometimes make things worse. If the bullying involves physical violence, threats, or is significantly affecting your child's wellbeing, you may need outside help.
Schools have safeguarding duties and policies on bullying. If the children attend the same school, speak to the class teacher or head teacher. Where bullying takes place online, report the content to the platform and keep screenshots as evidence.
In serious cases involving assault, theft, or criminal damage, you can report the matter to the police. The age of criminal responsibility in England and Wales is ten, so children aged ten and over can be held responsible for criminal acts.
Your situation may be slightly different. ask a question below ↓ and our editorial team will reply with our advice.
When adults are targeted
Bullying between adults can be harder to address, particularly if it involves subtle behaviour designed to intimidate without crossing obvious legal lines: spreading false information, making offensive gestures, blocking access to shared spaces, or repeatedly doing things intended to annoy you.
Before taking formal action, consider whether a direct conversation might help. Some disputes arise from misunderstandings about noise, parking, or shared boundaries. If you feel safe doing so, approach your neighbour calmly and keep the conversation factual.
If direct communication has not worked, try mediation. This is a voluntary process where a neutral third party helps both sides discuss the problem. Your local council may offer a free or low cost mediation service, or you can find a mediator through the Civil Mediation Council. Mediation works best when both parties are willing to engage and is not suitable where there are ongoing threats or a significant power imbalance.
If mediation fails, you may need to escalate: make a formal complaint to your council's antisocial behaviour team, report to the police, or seek legal advice about civil remedies. Keep a record of the steps you have already taken.
Recording incidents and reporting
Keeping a written record of incidents is one of the most useful things you can do. Include dates, times, descriptions of what happened, any witnesses, and how the behaviour affected you. Where possible, keep photographs, video recordings, saved text messages, or screenshots. If in doubt about privacy laws around recording, focus on written records and speak to a solicitor or advice service.
If your neighbour's behaviour amounts to harassment, you have legal protections under the Protection from Harassment Act 1997. Harassment involves a course of conduct (at least two occasions) that causes you alarm or distress. It is both a civil wrong and a criminal offence: you can report it to the police or apply to the civil courts for an injunction.
Antisocial behaviour is a broader category covering conduct likely to cause harassment, alarm or distress. Your local council and the police share responsibility for dealing with it. Report problems to your council's antisocial behaviour team, who can issue warnings, community protection notices, or civil injunctions. If you rent from a housing association or the council, report to your landlord as well.
In cases involving threats of violence, assault, criminal damage, or hate crimes, contact the police on 101 for non emergencies or 999 if you are in immediate danger.
You do not have to deal with this alone. Citizens Advice can provide free guidance on your options. Victim Support offers help to anyone affected by crime or antisocial behaviour. If the bullying involves discrimination based on protected characteristics, organisations such as Galop or Tell MAMA can offer specialist support. For mental health support, contact Mind or the Samaritans.
If you are considering legal action, speak to a solicitor. Some offer a free initial consultation, and you may be eligible for legal aid. Check GOV.UK for current eligibility criteria.
Young neighbor has joined the Neighborhood bully team towards me because she thought she was being nice getting me the equivalent of 8 roll up cigarettes now wants a fight please help I don't know what to do with
Dealing with bullying neighbours down stairs.
The landlord won't anything, the police don't care. The CAB advisor seemed
annoyed and irritated when I tried to explain what is happening, so I gave up
There doesn't seem to be any help for adults that are suffering like this. Most
of us have had a lot of stress and physical problems because of it. Children
seem to be in the news about bullying, but adults seem to not have any help.
I understand they have lived in the property for 20 years but is a council property forst of all that you don't own so don't get to choose who lives on top of you!
This soon turned nasty as he told me when I first moved in that the lady in the place before me was very nice at first and then changed on them and became very nasty (ring a bell) I thought at the time way are you telling me about the neighbour before . I always take note how people speak about others as you'll be next . And boy was I right..so i am now enemy no1. After not wanting to engage with gossip and chit chat . The gentlemen has become very nasty and started doing strange things name calling and moving things . Leaving old food in front of my door and screaming n*igga and f******* retard while banging the door in the mornings . I guess he wants a reaction I have been very good . Have spoken to councillor but not much use as they want to go to police and press charges I explained I have to live there still and don't want to add gas to the fire . I am also not having the best experience with police as being profiled and treated like a criminal has been my experience from a young kid growing in London. I think these people are not happy
They don't leave the house . Once a day to walk the dog and he screams at her for not giving him sex it is very embracing to hear and feel sorry for her he says she wont let him touch her so I see why he takes it out on me I guess I have to be the bigger person and believe this is a lesson i will not fail this test i will stay positive and wish them love and peace as you give what you put out i believe.. i have come along way the old me would have called my cousin to day hello but honestly he is a sad old ugly man inside and out so why would I add to the stress of a person like that . One day he will answer for his actions every thing has a consequence. Stat strong if you have neighbour issues it is all apart of this school we call life . Stay strong and have faith you'll be rewarded for it !!
Yes I am mentally ill. And that can mean two things. A; I'm making this up in my own head. Or B; the perpetrators know this and are having fun with the idea that I would be seen as a mentally ill person making this up in my own head.
Can you please believe me when I say it's not A?
I'm not conjuring a fantasy through delusion. I'm not overreacting to a few giggles. This is full on nasty vindictive laughing in the dead of night purely made to intimidate, mock , jeer and mentally torment me.
And there's nothing I can do about it.
Had enough of our next door neighbours who are drug addicts, inconsiderate, immature and lack any social curtesy. Police are useless, council mean well but appear to be powerless. The only option we've had is to take civil action, which we're part way through and it is costly. If this is what we have to do to be able to live without being harassed so be it, I hope it goes to court and we win and the judge makes the neighbour pay our legal costs as well as theirs.
There's my dream
Harassment and bullying is usually a secondary reaction to a prior incident or issue between you and someone else. I am someone with a strong personality and will retaliate within the margins of the law to someone trying to bully or harass me, but I understand many are older, younger, or with families, who are not in a position to defend themselves. This is far more of a widespread problem now than 20 years ago becouse the morals, respect, and values of this country's society are breaking down due to all-levels of entrenched division and declining standards of education.
Councils and police deflect, delay, and downplay, all approaches of noise and abusive complaints, and this is ruining many, many lives across the country. Liberalism, soft touch politics, and an ineffective justice system is behind our increasingly warring, vacuous, and fraying communities; and the problem is only getting worse as governments and their associate departments are in denial due to their ruinous policies and methods of national and local management.
I agree with people here who say that ignoring them drives them crazy but it comes at a cost to your personal wellbeing. You need strength of character to not respond to some of the utter nonsense. No one should have to go through this and the police are helpful to a point. If I hadn't bought the house I would have already moved.
And somehow despite all this, I still feel like my caution is correct, and that my family is naive and I know what reality holds, and though I can clearly see the cognitive bias making me think my courage-less self understands what may happen better, even a caution of threat towards my family is substantial for me, as I cannot stand for it.
It may be said that my family can stand up for themselves and do not require me to do so, but I cannot accept that.
One some side note there has been an incident involving my direct neighbours, in which we have had to call the police as one of their friends chased my dad with unknown intent. If something were to happen to my father that day, I would not have been able to contain my anger, and whether it ate me up or would've caused me to hurt these people is unknown. My mother also cried after this event, having experienced verbal abuse by some of the other neighbours' kids when putting bins out prior, which made me feel unsettled with
Took me a long time to realise that they are what they are. I am not responsible for their warped behaviour.
They cut my plants down without permission and are SO loud it is unbearable.
This is before I mention their parking!
One of the occupants has recently started working as a childminder and her 'customers' have so far blocked me in and use my front garden as a thoroughfare, almost scratching my car on numerous occasions.
They often have fires and burn rubbish, including plastic in a huge metal barrel, I contacted the local council about this and nothing was done about it because they are private houses.
They are making my life unbearable.
I have previously tried to discuss these issues politely with said neighbours and was told to 'get a life'.
I don't know what to do anymore!
New neighbours moved in a few years ago and complaints are being made and they are rallying other neighbours saying it was us. It was not. My Daughter has mental health, she is under the mental health team and seeing a psychiatrist and on anti anxiety medication, which has now been increased due to this bullying and we do not feel safe to leave the house.
Two of our friends and neighbours have knocked to ask if we are OK as they have been approached by our neighbours but one, accussing is of the complaints.
My mother was diagnosed with alzheiemers and my son with diabetes. I have so much to deal with, we do not need to be looking over our backs every time we leave the house.
We have CCTV and our neighbours partner looked direct to our CCTV and called us bullies.
We will try and rise above this and be nice as we always are.
I am glad that I am not alone
I have Nest camera videos,and pictures on my phone of the nail shots in to my yard .
I have 2 of these bullies living directly on both sides of me.
They want to force me from my home of 24 years ,which is paid for. They want to move more of their gang in. I am in the way of them carrying out illegal activities. Such as possible drug manufacturing. One neighbor with whom I share a property fence line comes and goes all night. He has what sounds like a large Bunson burner in his garage that cycles off and on all night . The fumes fill my house. I stay hoarse ,have headaches and my nostrils stay sore and irritated.
My police department and sheriffs off will not do anything. The chief of police told me he does not have the time or the man for e to mess with this cat situation. He said when I bring him a dead cat with a nail in it he might look into it.
Yes,I called APS. They said since it is my neighbors doing the bullying and shooting they can not do anything. The police department has told everyone I am delusional.
They ruined my patient doctor relationship by calling my primary doctor. They told me he needed to get me help because I was causing the PD lots of trouble.
He believed them.
I have PTSD from being a battered my wife for years back in the 70's.
This situation has taken a toll on my over all health. Please help me.
My neighbour has threatened us
Intimidates us, lies , verbally abuses us, bullies us, stalks my visitors when visiting where we feel unsafe to live here and are feeling emotionally and physically drained by her actions . Her latest addition is her lies that she used to try and get a peace and good behaviour order out on me , which is still pending . I have one on her already that is still valid.
I also have to go to court for witnessing her driving while she was a disqualified driver .
My neighbour throws rubbish on my property front and back cigarette butts etc ..
She has threatened to fight my daughter and I and also called me an fking whore ( while drunk) in front of my neighbours as we live in Dept of Housing ( complex )
The police are constantly coming over for her in which she does not open the door when clearly she is home . The police then knock on my door for help . I live downstairs she lives up top . My neighbour has also been known to sell drugs . Her visitors would park in my car space constantly.
I have tried to have mediation with her but it is no good because she played up a few days later . We even exchanged letters to see if the problems created could be fixed but she played up again after a few days .
My neighbour and another male neighbour side together and bully me also. I have a peace and good behaviour order out on both of them . This woman has been nothing but trouble and frightens us because she hangs out with bad company . I have made many complaints to crime stoppers or police Intel ...rang department housing , minister for housing local MP and also let my doctor know . Please help me as I am at my wits ends thankyou Desmay Amohanga
she was kicked out of her sisters place for doing sumthing there unsure what ,just what I have been told, and now shes starting on me, its an on going problem ,at the time I never reported the incident when she spat in my face and then shuved me up against the wall, all because I was to busy at the time to talk to her, what is the world coming to , its not nice she has a mental problem that shes not handling and I cop the attitude, why should we have to put up with such people,the world is hard enough as it is,with all the stresses in life,at this point I am thinking of making a complaint to her property manager as they are only renting ,but unsure if this will do more harm on me than what it is worth, I might get more harrassed,this started when she moved in last year,still on going . It is affecting my mental state,and I am a Support Worker ,I help people not cause trouble.I also read everyones comments ,seems its going on everywhere now.I live in Christchurch New Zealand.
. They cheered when we got out of the shower. Stared us down when we were on our patio. Yelling in the middle of the night. It felt like we where being followed around our apartment. We transferd apartments. They still harressed us. Just our luck we moved below there friends. We put up camers. They found our blind spots. Counting the months til our lease is up.
i have suffered the following: dog sh*t left in my drive, my bins messed with in various ways, banging noises outside my property at 3am, knocks on my door and running off, a few female neighbours have shouted abuse at me for nothing, next door neighbours don't even speak to me, i have rubbish thrown in my back garden, i had one of my bins stolen, i can't go outside without some male youth walking past and smirking at me, same with driving down the road, someone always smirking and staring at me, being watched, false rumours spread about me, i was accused of lying to get the property when i never lied, etc.
i believe they are trying to run me out of the road.
this has impacted both my physical and mental health. it's also made me hate british people, even though i know they're not all like this
but i hate my road, i am always uneasy at night, or when i go outside, and i wish i could move away and be amongst decent people
i dont understand why some people are so horrid. i never did anything to anyone and yet all of this happening. police side with them. HA does nothing.
i keep a huge knife at my bedside. and a personal alarm. i also have alarms on my doors and windows. i wish they would just leave me alone
I was also asked what I was crying about it was just a feral cat but simply the fact knowing that she was going out of her way to kill an animal made me hysterical it wasn’t long after that the cat died from poisoning and no actions were filed after they found out the fak police report her and her husband filed was fake no further action was taken. Not shortly after that on Father’s Day around 9:30 PM 10 shots were fired into my backyard while me and my dogs were playing. They didn’t take it serious nor did they say it was a hate crime I would just like to know as a white person living in a black neighborhood what exactly is happening to me and what can I do to protect myself and my pets?
Pauline Brown
The female has also been taken to court for threats to harm my other neighbours and it went to court twice.
Unfortunately the female has really bad mental health issues and she turned up in court with her support worker's.
The female got away with her threats and abuse and basically was given a single bungalow to move her away from honest folk.
In my mind she was rewarded for her bad behaviour.
I was approached by our housing officer to make a statement for the housing association behalf so help with the court case.
That was the worst thing I ever did because the other parties gets to read all statements and now I'm the victim of abuse in the streets from this nasty lady.
Everytime I see her in the streets my heart race's off to such an extent that I have panic attacks.
I was given different alarms for windows and for front and back door plus a personal alarm to carry around with me.
The police supplied all the alarms and yet when I get abuse from her according to the police before they can do anything about it I need to gather evidence so the police can do something about it!
Im 49 bold!!...lots of tattoos and very short!!
Can you imagine what I look like to the male desk Sargent who im reporting it to??
The copper almost laughed at my situation??...saying you need evidence!!
Ive not got a fancy phone with all the gubbins to video.
My last point about the female bully!!...she is well known by the mental health services and unfortunately she always threatened to commit suicide if her old dog was to pass over?
She has a big history of attempting suicide when she don't get her own way plus she has a bad history of fighting anyone who may want to stand up for themselves??
If the housing/police/courts and mental health team can't sort her out then what chances do I have of being left alone from her!!??
I say all of this because bullies can often get away with if for years and years...
Nobody is taking this serious and I'm sure its because I'm a male getting picked on by a female.
I thought i was doing the right thing when my housing officer asked for my support now im asking for support and its landing on deaf ears.
when we call authorities they put on "nice old people" act and nothing can be done. My neighbour is now on antidepressants and i have beta blockers for anxiety.
they were screaming at the weekend because I walked across an open courtyard, they don't like that.
no one sees the evil monster that screams and shouts at everyone, lets her husband pull ugly faces at my elderly neighbour as she stands there crying and then they laugh at what they are doing to her.
we don't know what else to do.
They keep removing my fence panels & throw
it into my garden. This is deliberately done. When I put in new fence panels they move it around.
I also painted the house recently. My choice was a bright yellow. They started critising the colour & swearing at me, while I was in the garden.
What can I do further?
I live on my own, my property out side has been damaged and I was accused recently of taking a photo of a neighbors child which is completely untrue.
These neighbours have taken over the Close where I live All started of a dog off lead and myself fear of being bitten.
I feel nervous of going outside now
Help me please
When my husband was on the board, we had a new neighbour, who did a total refurbishment of her flat without any consideration to the common parts, which had just been redecorated. Many people in the block complained at the time. However, she continues to act as if we were the only ones who had issues with her thoughtlessness and has treated us with contempt ever since. Although we make every attempt to be pleasant to her and civil when we see her, and we thought that we had turned a corner, as she started to become a little more pleasant to us. However, in April 2020, at the beginning of the lockdown, my husband and I were coming out of the building and ran into this woman’s dog walker. I said something to my husband and the dog-walker accused me of talking about her and demanded to know what I said, that it was her right to know. I walked away from her, my husband following behind as she carried on yelling at us as we walked down the road. We thought we might complain to our neighbour about this extraordinary episode, but decided, given our history with our neighbour, we wouldn’t bother. The next morning our neighbour sent us an email, copying in all of the board members, accusing us of harassing the dog walker, adding that we have done this over the last few years. The email was horribly abusive and she closed by saying that she would not answer any correspondence from us. We wrote to the board asking for help. They offered none. This woman is a new member of board. Life over the last year has got even worse for us here.
This saga goes on and on. We did get the help of a firm of solicitors, who were quite appalled by what was so evidently going on here. However, they had to resign from our case, because they were recently taken over by a firm of accountants and there was a conflict of interest. They did much of their work pro bono, because they were so shocked by the way we have been treated. We really can’t afford to go to other lawyers. So we are left unprotected and it really has made matters worse. The directors got all the residents behind them, asking them to contribute to getting legal advice against us. They told everyone that we were suing them and that they shouldn’t speak to us, because it might effect their case. We stated very clearly that we had no intention to sue anyone; we just wanted to enter into a dialogue with the directors. Their lawyers told them if we weren’t suing, they could walk away
When they first moved in there was some noise but obviously they were just moving in.
However over time the noise level became more persistent and unbearable. They were constantly slamming doors, thumping, talking reallyoud, had their TV turned up so loud and allowing their child to constantly run up and down in and out each room, putting the child to bed at midnight or 1pm in the morning
This has continued on which led myself and my sister to move out.
The week leading up to us moving out they got even worse and they were scraping things across their ceiling, watching us in our own garage, thumping slamming the doors even their wardrobe doors, the kid running up and down.
Again when I sought help was told could do nothing about it.
Names.
I’ve contacted the HOA and they say it’s not their problem. I’ve called the police and they say It isn’t against the law. He does yard work for living. He knows better but does this on a regular basis.
Alas she has a neighbour who is subtly aggressive and can be quite unsettling to encounter. The neighbour before now has never said anything to me until last night, when I'd done a few jobs and was leaving, she called me by name (which she didn't know, so must have asked my elderly friend), then with obvious agitation started asking if I'd seen the news lately, that there was a pandemic going on, and should I really being visiting people. Her tone was clearly unsettled and had a threatening quality to it. I was very polite and wished her well.
The reason I'm seeking help now is because as I was driving away, I realised that my elderly friend had been acting "funny". I didn't think much of it in the moment, but then I realised that the neighbour had clearly been harrassing her for my name and details, and my friend was shaken and too embarrassed to admit anything to me.
I'm now quite agitated myself that this scornful neighbour has so much power over my lovely friend who is long suffering, good natured and doesn't wish harm to anyone.
Any advice about any action I can take to stop this intimidation would be most gratefully received.
Thanks,
Chad
Unfortunately, all of the above got worse - this included a direct violent threat, intimidation and manipulative messages about me to another neighbour.
I sought help from the police, but the best they could do was ask me to keep a log of everything and said I'd have to just basically live with it.
I've never had mental health problems, I'm a happy positive person. However, now I've turned into a depressed, exhausted nervous wreck always on edge. I dont know how any human can do this to another human during a pandemic. In my opinion, it's purely just because I've called him out of his selfish attention seeking, constantly putting me at risk and wasting valuable police and paramedic time. Its astonishing. If anyone can provide anything actually help apart from 'report it to the police', i would be eternally grateful.
Here's a message of hope to everyone who has had the misfortune of the fateful bully experience. I had never been bullied in my life before and consider myself to be a fairly regular guy with wife and child and generaly hard working normal life until now. Until we moved to a rural part of the UK where I have experienced the phenomena of gang stalking and collective community bullying. This is very subtle to begin with but if the bullies sense any fear or weakness they try to exploit it to see your reaction and to see how far they can push you. If you are a decent respectable person you will not understand how on earth such malice exists in this beautiful world but it does and the sooner tbat is accepted the better. BUT HEAR THIS, the bullies are poisoning themselves with their malice and it will eat them up. Imagine how you would feel if you were to exact some of the horrors o to someone that you have experienced, you couldn't live with it and neither can they. They are literally killing themselves by inflicting harm on you. It's a Buddhist mantra but what you do to others you do to yourselves. So all the good people here have nothing to fear because life can be and is sweet for those that have no malice.
How is 1 person supposed to deal with the aftermath of a bunch of people warned by police, you simply can't! Next comes even more verbal abuse, damage, feaces and vandalism to property because the people who are supposed to help you put you in a worse situation than before
Several themes intersect with many of the neighbours - smoking, cannabis,alcohol, gambling, hypocrisy (pretending to the outside world that they are nice/pleasant), dislike/suspicion/hostility of anyone not like them, taking pleasure in squashing down people that are kind and gentle, gaslighting - making you look at fault if you dare to raise the issue of their noise,
would be interested to know if any readers resonate with this?
I'm dumb tupid lawn man with a pretend broke back ..not mountain...
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madam loo keep on scolding me crazy and old spinster.
#05-543 din, she will hide behind her closed door and watch my movements, she collaborate with kasnah and madam loo.
In the 3 years I’ve been here I have had to contend with verbal abuse from him as he overfeeds the birds in our communal area which is right outside my front door. He encroaches on your personal space with his plant pots as he thinks he owns the place as he’s lived here longer than anybody else. If you stand up to him he just accuses you of moaning about nothing. Leaving rubbish in the communal space we both share. I have tried the ‘kill them with kindness’ approach but it’s now fallen on deaf ears.
He’s currently on a possession order which runs out next year and has signed a Lifetime Behaviour order not to cause any issues with myself or other neighbours. This includes his visitors and not to allow cannabis to b3 smoked. He’s completely stopped speaking to me altogether as he has assumed that I reported him for cannabis growing, despite not being charged. In fact all the neighbours know what he’s been up to.
It’s just very sad as this is a lovely location to live in, only spoilt by one neighbour for me. I’m looking to move again next year hopefully.
Have you considered buying or borrowing headphones so you can have your music as loud as you want without disturbing your neighbours?
I have found that people who play music loudly don't realise how much it reverberates through walls, particularly the bass.
Tastes in music are subjective, as is everything else in life, it's highly unlikely that your neighbours will appreciate the same type of music as you.
Please be considerate, it doesn't cost a penny.
I hope you’ve had a good day today. I know you are really busy trying to navigate through this difficult time, I just wanted to tell someone about this because I know it’s wrong, no one should have to endure harassment of any kind, but it’s becoming unbearable to the point I just want to give up. The situation is also causing friction with my children whenever I mention what tells neighbours are doing, because they say they cannot vouch for me here because they haven’t really heard the insults. They said they can vouch for this when we lived at the other property, because they heard a great deal of it. But but here as yet. They’ve told me they’re getting tired of hearing about it. I’ve tried to contact the anti-social behaviour unit at my council, many times over the past three months, with no response, and as a last resort, the police again, who were going to get in touch with them on my behalf and work with me to get the harassment stopped. No one is getting back to me. We moved into our new house in February this year, three weeks before the lock down, and nearly everyday since the 18th of February, I’ve had to contend with an amass of verbal abuse. Name calling, being told to move out, being called every name you can call a female, day in day out. No matter what time I go out to clean the front of the house or put the bins out, deliveries, even just peacefully walking around my house, there is someone saying and or shouting something unkind. Sometimes shouting it, even screaming it, at 7:00 AM. There is one family in particular, who live opposite, who have a few members of their household that do this to the extreme. Especially the one of the boys, he’s in twenties or early thirties l, both his mother and sister do the same, they always call me the s***t word, or the s***g word, and other names like slov**n and wh***e. They also put the two names together to form s***t - wh**e and there is never a day when they are not putting me down. Both the mother, the son and other members of the family, stand outside and talk about me loudly, and the son always calls me names. The once, I plucked up the courage to go out and clean my bins, my front step, sweep the driveway and clean the slabs in my back garden during the day, (I usually do this really early in the morning or later when it’s dark) Not long after I’d got outside, I moved the plants from the front step, and placed my broom and cleaning solutions at the front, I realised I needed to go and get my bucket and broom from the back garden, so left them at the front with a view to go back to them, (literally, I cannot be in two places at once), within seconds, I heard one of the women from the houses close calling me worthless, and muttering something to another lady and repeating worthless. She then proceeded to drive off in her car. Then the young guy from the hose opposite came out of the house and I heard him say, I can’t wait until she moves out, and sat in his car watch
What the heck? I was trying to help. I insisted that it was important, otherwise I would not have come to the resident council meeting to begin with. She threatened to report me to the office.
This woman has been nasty and obnoxious before. The incident at the meeting was not the first time! I thought if I was nice to her she'd be nice to me because when I first met her, seven years ago, she was very nice to everyone (including me!) She was nice for a year. Then she started being bossy. More specifically, last year she turned into an angry bear and has been in "angry bear" mode ever since. The only reason I talked to her today was because since she's the resident council president, I thought she could inform everyone to practice social distancing and wear their masks. Triggering her temper was not my intention. In fact, I don't talk to her unless it's important.
What am I going to do about her? And she's not the only verbally abusive neighbor in the building. Even though I'm not going to be 62 years old for a long time, (I'm only 50) I moved here because I have multiple disabilities and my parents are old. I love the building and the activities but most of the people are rude, obnoxious, et cetera. They are elderly "mean girls". But the resident council president is the one who exasperated me today.
My nature was to “kill with kindness” and with a bully, someone who is a Dark Triad, kindness is weakness. You can not be friends with a bully. They will always be looking to gain an advantage.
Once you have become aware you have a neighbor who is a bully, be very careful who in the neighborhood you befriend. Often, other neighbors will sell you down the river to the one they perceive is in power.
Keep your interactions gentle but short. Do not accept favors or help from them. If boundaries have been breeched, keep matter of fact, respond rather than react and do not engage in their rage or snide comments. If you have to, be a broken record and repeat your boundary over and over. Be ready for them to find other ways to come after you...flying monkeys, where they get other neighbors to fight their battle. Lies, gaslighting and just throwing their weight around. We had a neighbor go in at night and abuse our horse. You can not negotiate with them. Keep good fences physically and emotionally and study the tactics of Dark Triads. Distance and non-emotional interactions are your best friends.
If they are wealthy, legal battles become about punishing you through expensive and drawn out lawsuits. I lived through that too. Though the charming ones can be confusing, it is the abusive bullies that may need a call to the police. I had a neighbor literally harass every buyer we had come to our home. The sheriff stepped in, but I asked for help too late.
I have done or deserve when the
neighbours start It's their own miserable
Life's and they are just looking for
someonne to take it all out on well
am out of here sooner the better
dont need anybody problems got
enough of my own
Thankyou
I agree. Police allow thier behaviour and have limited powers. My council haven’t let me down YET. But I was spoken to rudely after they spoke to the neighbours. The neighbours have switched everything round on me. They have committed criminal offences which they got away with. They do things which are “just” not breaking the law. I think the simplest answer is to move. However I’m actually not able to without putting my elderly mother in thier firing line.
I live in fear. Can’t go about my normal life. Have spent money and got into debt to try and avoid legal costs by shielding and protecting myself and staying out of thier way.
But they just won’t stop.
Does anyone here have a problem because of freehold and leasehold law changes? Leaseholders being given more rights appears to have attracted con artist and bullies into being able to kick the elderly out of thier home. Funnily I had PTSD before they moved in and went out of my way to let them know. They appeared to be aware because they spoke at me as though I was stupid and were aggressive. They are now following a legal route and I have discovered all thier strange behaviour and accusations were deliberate. I mean- who buys a home and moves in and keeps records on the one neighbour that is in the way of them gaining financially? But.
I am at a loss. Apparently the law, new leasehold laws and the police and the authorities seem to have put me in the firing line and I’m getting ready traumatised. The police were gibbing me off about mental health issues. And not doing anything.
The mental health Said it’s harassment and sent me back to the police. Apparently basic human rights are a myth and authorities not funded enough to properly investigate and no authorities liase.
Just because of one bully com artist with no morals or empathy. I may lose everything and me my mum will end up separated and living in government pensions and housing.
It’s appalling what the world has become. What this woman is doing is shameful
I cannot get my head around how what she is doing is legally allowed in a country with a legal system like the UK. I say bring back legal aid so I can fight and I think the governments decisions should have had contingency for small freeholders. I am also worried about being taken to court. I am worried about when I will be able to sleep and eat and I live creeping about in silence as they live above and thier reaction to any noise I make is “revenge noise”- I didn’t even know what that was but I am certainly living it.i actually just took a sleeping pill as I am so desperate to sleep at a normal time and not have to be woken up because the neighbour stomps about at night
Suicide watch I put a new fence up at
the front of my house The whole street
is in on it humiliated an intimidating it
Is gossiping and stuff I put my fence
up for my benefit not for the whole street
I close my curtains because I can't
stand the site of them neighbours from
hell
One night when walking me dog, he came out screaming at me. During his tirade he referred to me by the name 'Mickey' (that's not my name, which I told him) and acted as if he knew me.
As far as I'm aware, I'd never met him before. From what I could gather from his shouting, swearing and aggressive behaviour he was unhappy I was walking past his property (around 4-5pm) as his dog would see mine through his window and start going wild, which is fair enough. I told him I would alter my route and tried to explain I wasn't 'Mickey'. Now he wouldn't believe me and was adamant that he k we me. I walked away and figured we all get confused, upset and thought little more of it.
A few weeks later I was walking along a different street with a relative, walking my dog and we were having a bit of a laugh and chat. From about 10 meters away, the guy started shouting abuse at us. Again we tried to explain that he was mixing me up with someone else, and that he had the wrong person. Again he didn't believe me and we walked off because it wasn't worth the hassle.
Now we're at the point where if I see him in the street he's making gestures, shouting abuse at the top of his voice and if you try to talk to him he gets fairly aggressive and 'gets in your face'.
To make matters worse, someone had complained about his dog (not me) and he has told me that he 'knows it was me'.
My concern is that his behaviour is slowly escalating and I'm concerned violence is going to be the end result.
I'd rather not go to the police because a) it may escalate things b) I'd rather not get him in trouble over a misunderstanding. Any suggestions on how to deal with this?
Previously, our house was unoccupied for a long time and the fence was damaged so they're dogs were getting in our yard and causing a lot of trouble. This was eventually fixed and attended to when the neighbours decided to get puppies and they were running away, escaping to our yard and out the fence and onto the road which, was obviously not our fault. Fair enough.
But about a year ago, we decided to get chickens. We erected an area for them and although there were hiccups, we fixed them up in a secure place under the house. NO ROOSTERS by the way, and we set them up closer to the other neighbours who was glad we got them, fyi. Apart from the duck quacking a bit during the day, there's no real issues of noise.
I didn't think we had a particularly bad relationship with the dog neighbour, but the dogs managed to rip the fence into our yard and literally killed our duck and a chicken.
We approached him about it and he said he'd get a cage for them. Obviously, as hunting dogs, they legally can't be kept in town anyway. We thought the message got through. But eight months on, nothing has happened and the dogs are yet again, breaking the fence to get in.
When I knock on the door to try fetch someone to get the dog, they don't answer.
I admit I'm at my tether at this point, and I end up grabbing the dog and dragging it out of my yard.
I tried to fix the fence again, but now I'm SUPER PISSED because my partner has now told me he is being verbally tormented and harassed by the neighbour while their friends were over.
I don't know what to do at this stage. While the dogs are annoying, I just can't cop this neighbour's attitude. He refuses to address us, let alone accept his dogs are rampant killers and just will not do anything but torment us. I've had enough.
Not to mention, I've had people complain about THIS NEIGHBOUR TO ME as WELL. They ask "how do you live next to someone like that?" And "I'd be terrified if my kids had to be next to that" And to be honest it's true. He's horrid. The dogs are horrid. How much nicer/tolerant do we have to be??
Even worse, we're renting, and I have a bad feeling he might own his house.
I'm at my wits end.
Some mornings he's so hungover, we can hear him vomitting (although it's a bit funny... But seriously??).
Anyway thanks for reading my rant, and if anyone has any advice or anything, I'll all ears. The dogs are one problem, but his being a crappy person is another story all together.
PS. we live in a very small rural community. We have a VERY good relationship with all of our other neighbours, one which has frequently chased the dogs out of
Violent and scary
What can be done?
Police say they have to be harmed to do anything about the neighbor.
Anyway I digress, the point is I know exactly how you feel and there is no way you should have to go through this, these people are disgusting for thinking they have the right to go round making people feel this way and deserve to be punished for it quite honestly. I would suggest you go to the authorities and put in a complaint for harassment and explain just how seriously it is affecting you, which is exactly what I'm now planning on doing. We can't let these awful people get away with it and we'll see who's laughing after they find out they are being cautioned by authorities ??
A few years before she died a young couple bought the house next door. At first everything was OK but then problems started because of their constant offensive language and the fact they left 2 big dogs barking all day ,as well as things like boundary issues and the dumping of rubbish behind an old stone wall across a narrow path from our garden. We all helped her and spoke to the couple and things seemed to calm down.
When I moved in I got on OK with the neighbours at first and was in work most of the time, but over the years the problems have come back so much so that we don’t speak anymore.
In the time I have lived here some of the things I have had to cope with are
• Rubbish left for months on end in the lane across the end of my garden and more fly tipping behind a 100 year old wall in the lane
• Dirty water and dregs from their 5 large bins flooding the lane
• A washing machine being drained into the lane
• Dogs left in the house for a week while they went on holiday, so alone at night, whining and barking until someone went around to feed and let them out once a day.
• threatening notes left on my car when one of the other neighbours reported them to the RSPCA for keeping 2 dogs in a green house during a snowy winter
• things being taken from my garden, or not returned if blown over - only trivial but annoying
• young teenagers and their friends left alone every Friday and Saturday night partying until the early hours of the morning while their mother was staying with her boyfriend after her divorce.
• guttering for an extension cut into the side of my house without any discussion or any adherence to the Party Wall Act
• builders digging under the border and failing to replace a retaining wall to contain my soil.
• hammering and drilling until 1 a.m. on Boxing Night.
• spreading their cars out to save spaces for each other and stop me parking
• an abusive note sent form their 18 year old daughter because I moved my car outside my house to unload it after she drove off
• if I do ever park outside their house the woman tries to intimidate me by parking inches away from my car even if she has lots of space.
• reaching over the fence about 1.5m into my garden to cut chunks out of my shrubs even though these are always kept cut back well away from their fence. This is only ever done when I’m not here and this has stopped me going out as I’m worried about what they’ll do next.
• 2 days of constant verbal abuse when I refused to let them take an old boundary fence down because they threatened to rip up my shrubs as well
These are just a few of the problems and because I live alone and hate confrontation I have only ever spoken to her about the most serious of these such as the kids or rubbish.
I used to feel sorry for this woman because her first husband was a drinker but other neighbours told me she was the
My neighbors daughter comes over a lot and there is starting to be confrontations with her. I am not used to living like this, I grew up in a middle class family and I am living in neighborhood that has changed due to gentrification, it used to be really bad area. I am caucasian and I am transgender. I got breast implants since I have lived here and its always something being said about me. I feel so uncomfortable and I know most of this discomfort is because of my bad relationship. Most people didnt know about my situation until my boyfriend started screaming it out when he was drinking early on. I am at a point where things I used to could deal with, I can't anymore. The confrontations are ongoing with my boyfriend and now with the neighbors.
I fantasize about leaving this relationship/abandoning everything and moving on. It has become to much to bear. I may be gone by the end of this month. I hope to find some type of solace from some article I scroll upon after searching things like...unequality in a relationship, how to leave a relationship, dealing with nosey neighbors....good luck everyone your in my prayers..lets give it to the Lord!!
Followed by radiotherapy then chemotherapy. I really can take this anymore. Their kitchen window overlooks my garden. The day before lockdown I was in the garden feeding my birds, she opened the window and shouted here comes the benefit fraud. I asked her what she's on about, she said I hate people claiming benefits. That hurts because I've always worked, but now my savings have gone so I now claim UC. It really hurts I'm a nurse but still unable to work. She shouted she can hear everything I talk about.
I asked if we can stop this I'm still unwell and she shouted I don't care about your tumour and then called me a "f****g c**t.
I'm classed as vulnerable so only recently been able to leave my flat. She's constantly banding the ceiling and calls me a c**t The other day I accidentally dropped a paperback novel and she went crazy banging the ceiling constanly. I think being in lockdown has heighten my fear and anxiety. I used to be a prison nurse but now I've lost my bottle and fear what they will do next. Anyway sending this has helped get it out my system for a few hours lol. I can't tell my Mum or Daughter as it will cause them stress. I talk to a couple of friends when they phone.
Let them burn themselves out when they get tired of trying to upset you, or make you look bad, with intimidation..
Try and get evidence on your phone, If all else fails contact your neighbourhood co -ordinator. The council will deal with racial harassment. Find their phone number.
You are not alone. There are plenty of people who can help, even if you have to be rehoused, wishing you well. Take care?
I live in a house but I didn't know that this town is races now I'm my neighbors target they installed camaraderie pointing to my from door so they know where I go and I came back they have sensors so they know what I am doing in the house even they know when i am in the bathroom they stay to make strong noice or start closing strongly or open theirs cars when Ian in the back yard the neighbors from the back start to hitting metal calling me names throughing things the dogs start barking the kids start screaming the parents start talking so loud an some of them star recording or taking pictures of me and this is going on and on I live a lone I don't know what to do because I when to the police and they told me that they can't go to the whole street and also them to stop but is thruth is that whole neighborhood I don't know what to do i am really scared I isolate my self I just only go to work I cried every day I'm suffering because I didn't have done anything wrong to anyone why this people harrassing me like this I live beautiful contry Canada why bed people is every were
Being bullied by 2 sets of neighbours.
I’m being bullied by 2 sets of neighbours and I’m going through extensive chemotherapy.
my husband of 83 has dementia and they call him names and are agressive
they now threaten to take the dividing fence down and kill my chickens and geese
warning him not to do it here."Big Mistake ".
Almost immediately he started his nonsense.It went from bad to worse,parties
Every Saturday,with music so loud we couldn't hear our telly.My wife was at the start of Dementia,and could not stand loud noise.During one of their parties,they started banging our windows,with clothes poles," Yes Clothes poles ",I went to their door,( I was 68 then )asking them to turn the noise down as my wife was crying with the noise.
I was met with Abuse,Threats,etc,they slammed the door in my face,and started laughing.I called the Police,who stopped them.Then they went into their back garden
and started again,Being a Water Bailiff at that time meant I was away at weekends on duty.
My neighbour was fishing one Saturday while I was on duty,and patrolling the loch
to check permits,and Rods,I caught his pal
Breaking the loch rules.
I was asked to make a report of this,to committee,and both received bans,although he was doing nothing wrong that I could see.
Anyway he took his temper out on my wife when I was away on duty.She was very frightened by him.So a few weeks later he waited till I was on duty and came to the loch demanding a permit,knowing he could not get one.
Things went from bad to worse,and I was arrested by Police,for assault.
,He,'s now banned for life from the loch,for assaulting me.
My wife is now in care due to his behaviour,
His son has twice been at my door wanting me to fight with him,he's 19,I'm now 75.
He's been weakening me up at all hours of the night,verbally abusing me in my back garden,spreading stories about me that are not true.
It got so bad at night that I reported him nonsense to the council,who stopped his parties,after he put his music on at 3am.
Now I feel they're intimidating me to force me to sell my house.Been to police,who told.me to ignore them entirely.
He has also played music at an unacceptable high volume late at night and bangs in the attic constantly. He does this well after 11pm whilst we are trying to get to sleep.
He has also been caught red handed by myself by breaking things in our front and back garden. Cleary he was stretching and we were trying to grow our back hedge up for privacy. I had to put in wooden fence markers to mark our side off. He also destroyed our back lawn with a fence he imposed on us without giving us any say in the matter and total disregard for our rights. Took the piss out of us and we ended up with a poorly made fence with holes in it now and it is way too short. Only now the shrubbery is growing taller on our side for privacy.
He has fly tipped his garden refuse across the road which is a criminal offence. He has placed tree branches which he had cut off within his garden and placed them in between a lamppost outside an Indian family’s house which is unacceptable and racist.
I have noticed plants on the boundary between him at the back have done poorly and died, wonder if he is deliberately poisoning our plants at night.
He deliberately fails to inform us when he is carrying out building works and we wake up to his building materials, right outside our house with no prior warning as he put on a double side extension. The front wall is damaged because of this.
He has also spread false rumours about us to other neighbours and we get starred at unpleasantly and growled by them frequently.
He totally ignores us and snubs us all the time. His new partner is exactly the same and ignores us and her back is turned against us. His first wife died due to a diabetic coma as he would regularly leave her on her own unaided. He did this numerous times to her, and the last time he did this she died on his watch, due to his neglect and abandonment towards a vulnerable adult with mental health issues associated with diabetes.
There is a triangle sort of friendship with them and the ones directly opposite and on their other side. We are constantly ignored and we were snubbed last year when our dad sadly passed away. They sad thing is we have lived here before they did and don't understand their behaviour considering we were here first. The other way around I could sort of get their dislike towards us. We mind our own business and are not nosy in any way whatsoever.
When my dad was ill and passed away with oesophageal cancer last summer, the am
I note how many people are on their own too, and are quiet, we're just target practice. It does not help anyone.
I just wish that anti-social behavior was addressed once and for all, it ruins people's lives. I've seen what the police do. It's time that things changed.
You'd also think that during the dreadful time we're going through at present things would be better but alas their not. What a society!
Angel I know just how you are feeling, you're not alone! Try and speak to someone, there are quite a few helplines around at present, you're looking after vulnerable family members and need some help with this, don't despair, we're all with you!
Bets of luck to you all!
We moved to the neighbourhood in Brentford london in 2001 and still he Never loses an opportunity to harass us. He wanted us to move so bad even though it’s our own place on mortgage and we have done the house nice and we mind our own business and that is not enough for them.
If I go into the kitchen they ridicule me by grunting as if I am an animal. The person shouts why dont you fling go away?.
I have constant daily ridiculing just for being in this flat which is a housing association. They bought there flat at auction for cash. 500.000
They became violent over a so called leak. Which was not even a danger. I got aggresively subjected to verbal threats and name calling. It took me completely by surprise. Safer neighbourhood got involved and said to me do you think if we say something I will make it worse.
Now they seem to have right under my floorboards and are harassing me with creepy noises. It's all mind games. If I have a bath they start by mak7ng strange noises too to makeme feel uncomfortable.
PC allan from safer neighbourhood said that because I did not want her to come into my flat she is holding it against me and that she is manipulative. If I dont react they target me daily just because I am here. The housing officer said that I call the police but if I do I am threatened verbally from them below.
We moved in to an upsairs flat in November, a downstairs neighbour's constantly on the phone to the council and the police saying we are playing loud music and we are breaking the rules od social gathering withother neighbour's during the lock down, i had a phone call this morning saying basically if i get any more complaints i could get a letter asking to leave . Has ive only been here 3 mths, im worried sick to what is going to happen
I live on the ground floor, I have an upstairs neighbour who after 3 days of me moving in, came to tell me that she works very early shifts and needs to be asleep very early and my tv is a nuisance to her as her bedroom is right above my living room.
As time has gone by (approx 18 months of me living here) she has started shouting and swearing from her flat every time I open and close any of my doors because they rattle a bit, but I never slam them like all doors make a noise when they close don’t they? If I’m watching tv and the volume is too loud for her, she starts stomping and banging around on my ceiling. I’m becoming quite distressed as I’m a quiet shy person and don’t like to upset people but it’s beginning to really upset me that I no longer feel I can open/close doors without being shouted at from above. Any comments would be hugely appreciated.
Note
One time we were in a bar in the bad end of town and this drunk started mouthing off to the bartender. The bartender came out from behind the bar and struck the drunk in such a way on the neck that the drunk fell down unconscious, and my friend laughed as the drunk suffered a nearly fatal incident. Just foul. He has been my room-mate on several occasions since, and his bulling behaviour always surfaces eventually. One time when we were having a few beers he admitted that he had stalked and killed a woman in the woods nearby. He said that he saw her on the walking path and she had tried to defend herself, successfully the first pass. But he turned around after a bit and followed her, and beat her to death. This may or may not have actually happened. This story was for my benefit to show him as a person not to mess with. Also he grew pot plants commercially (illegal then) in his basement one time when I was his tenant, and drew me into his sordid business. I had to meet his gangster friends and help with watering and maintaining his plants for very little money. The police came and raided the place when I was there by myself and he blamed me! He and a buddy of his beat me up for it and took turns strangling the life out of me! Later he grabbed a knife and threatened to kill me in front of his nine year old daughter. the last thing he did was attack me as I lay sleeping and knock me out with a soaked rag with ether on it. I woke up tied up with a gun to my head, and he pulled the trigger. I heard a click sound and he laughed.
This man is the psycho room-mate from hell!
We seem to have attracted car jealousy which has made people curious about my business and how much money it makes but the gossip is content and very unpleasant hearing it every time I’m in the garden to the extent I’m now neglecting the garden chores which I used to love and instead scurry out to the bin and back in. People are so very horrible. The family behind have been filming me and The chap at the side had family members following me for several weeks to and from the school run and when I did my parcel deliveries or popped into the office. It was becoming ridiculous and very obvious and I have since made a point of smiling brightly and saying hello to those people.
If they are curious why not pop for a chat rather than gossip and be involved in false rumour speculation.
We will more than likely move as you can’t defeat jealous people with kindness when they are so pre occupied with trying to prove that you must be doing something illegal to own a nice car :(
But we do have very lovely neighbours immediately next door and I will be sorry to have to move away from them.
I am a 45 year old widow who lives alone with my 9 year old son. 3 family of my neighbours are bullying, harassing, intimidating and spying around my house for years. The Manchester Police and Trafford Council are not believing in my complaints ; as a result, my 9 year old child is constantly living in a nightmare because of their harassments and bullying around our house! I feel like as Police and Council are encouraging them to continue their arrogant & bullying behaviourism towards me & my Son by doing nothing!! They are gang up against me and my son for bullying constantly. I feel like these neighbours are finding small things to bully me & my son horribly . They are obviously lying constantly to the Police & to the Council and
I am always failing to make Police & Council to understand me with my poor speech of English . I am now, really concerned about my Son’s well being because he is quite emotionally abused from these neighbours! He is actually frightened to go out alone from the house and frightened even to see them ! But I don’t know how to help him ..
People suffer the crimes because the Police wont do their jobs properly. The law means F All !!
The son comes out and cussing at us after 2 in the morning they slam their doors and now I just started to bang and dlam the door let them see what it is like.
I am totally fedup with these people they throw garbage in out yard and spit in our garden this is never ending
The house is a semi-detached house and at the end of the road, so my neighbours and I are linked by a wall and separated by a fence. It turned out that there were 9 people in the house. A couple with 6 adult/teenage children ranging now from the age of 14 to 27 years old. The eldest son, 27 year old man also had his girlfriend living there. I did ask my previous owner about the neighbours, but she omitted to tell me nor did she say anything on the property form.
The bullying started a week after I moved in to my new house.
It was constant slamming of the front door.
Banging on the walls during the night especially when I am asleep.
Gawking whenever I go out into the garden or out to the front of the property.
My previous car tyre was punctured.
Constant dirt being thrown over the fence on to the patio and the conservatory.
Beer cans thrown onto the front lawn
Name calling
Loud music
Dead birds thrown on the lawn and into the garden
I work from home. I began getting serious headaches which would last for hours. I would wake up with my head pounding. I went through several emotions and wondered what I had done apart from moving in.
After a few weeks, I summed up the courage to speak to the parents. I invited them round for tea to discuss the problem.
It turns out that 5 of the children have a form of mental illness so they are all registered with a disability.
He said that the eldest son (who is the only sane one and the main culprit) will soon be moving out and that the second son was using drugs. The third son suffers from insomnia and is probably the one banging during the night. Then you have the girls and the last boy who have this faulty gene found in their mother. The mother had a stroke some years ago and he has had to raise them by himself. (Can you see the picture that I am painting?) In the eyes of the law, thay are all vulnerable people in society!
After a lengthy discussion, I implored him to get help as it is not healthy to keep the children hidden from society. The oldest one works part time as he is a named carer, but the others don't except for the last two who go to school and were always in the house at other times. I advised that they need something to keep them busy. The father agreed to move the 3 boys away from the front room where the banging was taking place during the night. This was not done as I was subject to the same anti-social behaviour during the night.
After speaking to some friends, they said, I should be nice to them.
I have a plum and apple fruit tree. I gave them some. Called one of the boys to come and hand pick some which I thought would appease them. It didn't change a thing as I was sti
This is awful advice. Shame on you.
They talk to people about me, tell people if I'm in or out and even tell people at what times I usually leave the house. I find it very intrusive. My life should be none of their business. They have been making me feel I am always being watched. Sometimes if they see me out, they follow me around. It got to the point I even started to feel uncomfortable to go down to throw the rubbish or even leave the house. I know they are doing it intentionally to make me feel uncomfortable.
This is happening so much and I honestly don't know what to do. I feel like I can't even breathe in my own place.
And because they're friends with my landlord I can't even go to her. I have to live here for another 9 months.
Since then I am having a six foot fence erected between us and having cctv installed, yet I am still shaken - this despite that I have taught people of this boys age for the last 30 years and have four children of my own, all of whom would not dream of speaking to anyone like this.
I am also angry with the landlord, that despite the record of this family, they are still allowed to live in the flat and that it is I who is having to contemplate moving from my home. Even today I am afraid to go out into my garden in case of reprisals - no one should make someone feel a prisoner in their own home. They are bullies - and cowards.
I am being bullied by my neighbours because they think I’ve complained about them when I haven’t anything d because when my neighbour who moved in below me moved in yes I did complain about him but he never turned his music down when I did so I complained because I was mad but I’ve only ever complained about him and no one else and today I heard them all talking about me calling me names and stuff. I’m not a noisy person I just keep myself to myself so now I’m scared to be on my own now and scared to leave my flat. What can I do?
Then a few weeks ago she stopped friend's mum to say she was leaving because she had had enough of their moaning. She is still in the house continuing to make noises. Then tonight she was banging and scraping so friend's dad banged on the wall then his wife went and asked nicely if she could keep the noise down only to get the response "oh you're moaning again are you. Why should I and besides you're old" and started laughing.
Can anyone advise us as to what to do please?
He is a smoker. They both speak a little bit loudly due to natural hearing problems. I have noticed that one of their negibour keep blaming and targeting them by saying they always speak loudly and they slam the door. That is not ture
I stay with them. so I know my aunt and uncle.they do not slam the door and they close the door very gently. My uncle woke up at 5:30 pm to smoke cigarette and I do not woke up as he open the door to go out and close the door. If he slam the door , I would wake up first. She can hear he slam the door at 5:30pm and it woke her up. If he slam the door very loudly, other negibours and I also wake up too. But other
negibours also not far from my aunt.and uncle flat. But they do not wake up. My aunt and uncle are Asian and speak very little English. So They know my aunt and uncle cannot defend for themselves or to complain about them to police or council. I also heard other negibours slam their door when they close the door from living room.
She does not complain but she only complain my aunt and uncle.
So how do I stop? I need your help
I am considering leaving my job because of all the trouble. I don't need it.
I don't know what to do anymore had enough if anyone has any advice would be very welcome.
She has already reported me maliciously to SPCA’s and made up rubbish about the dogs being maltreated when she was told that dogs are allowed to bark to protect their property.
I have not seen who did it..any advice anyone, please?
Can confirm NO ONE helps
Police council landlord belive their lies.
Is this what my high council tax pays for?
They were younger and more charismatic than us.Me and my husband are getting on a bit in years.I am disabled and he is small in stature.Ripe for being bullied by all!
Some other neighbours even stirred up the trouble and added to the situation.
Troublesome family have moved and now the neighbours that stirred and added to the trouble want to know us!
Can you believe that?
What a complete and utter eye opener!
Those involved ought to be ashamed of themselves.
Frightened to go out as get verbal abuse from this woman. Yesterday looked in kitchen window 6.45am and frightened me, I have heard problems anyway. Afternoon left all my gates open and screamed at me.
Asked police to come and see me. Waiting for further action.
I have a new neighbor who has only been in the flat below over a month and all he has done since he has moved in is make my life a misery. I don’t feel safe in my flat anymore I have to stay in my bedroom all the time because he constantly plays loud banging music in the living room so can’t sit in there. My housing association just told me to phone the police but I’m actually too scared to phone them incase he hears me phoning them. Also I think he does drugs too as my flat reeks of the smell of them and have to constantly leave all my windows open in my flat to get rid of the smell of them. I don’t know what to do. I’m at my wits end now and feel as if no one is helping me.
from HELL on my doorstep! Which can ONLY mean one thing?
HUMAN BEINGS, ARE UNPLEASANT HORRIBLE CREATURES!
So many of us are experiencing this occurrence, TOO OFTEN!
Extinction is calling SOON!!!
I hear him yell something at me I look to see he's got hammer in his hand so ran inside phoned the police and because we live so close together the only option we have is to move the police have written a letter to our housing and council my wife has learning disabilities as well so I'm stressed had to take time of work for fear of this man who can't understand accidental noise and being done on purpose now police housing and doctors have recommended we move which isn't fair when this is the third time they been out to deal with this idiot im scared of being at home my wife jumps Everytime she sees him don't know what to do anymore
all these adults are drug users as well and one has been found to make up complaints about her when she was abroad
the managers hate my friend so do everything to try get her out it's sad don't you realise the toll you are putting on this girl it's disgusting how she is being treated
Since then I have had nasty comments said in a way for me to hear from her house, doors banging all hours with them laughing, threats, shouts of how she has complained to whoever and is going to get me out even if its in a box (her words), TV on all night loud enough for me to hear, its ridiculous another female in the house has also joined in. I have never seen or met the other female. I spoke to the council as they are tenants and was told there was nothing they could do as she was believed to have mental health problems, didn't actually say mental health just pointed to her head as wasn't allowed to discuss with me! I keep hoping that she will get fed up but it never stops.
I feel sorry for her if she has m/h problems but, if so, she really needs someone to help her not just encourage it, because it is easier. I tend to think it is because I complained, the woman speaks, growls and squeals i.e bellows "oh myyyyy God" or "that is soooooooooooo cute" like a chav most of the time, really annoying as she is at least 60 years old, she just needs to bully someone. The previous owner used to rent this house out so no way of finding out if this has happened before.
I tried the police following a specific threat but they cannot do anything unless I make it official, if I do, I think it will become really nasty and also if I choose to sell my house I will have to declare any complaints I make to the new owner and they will either pull out or want the price dropped. I work hard to pay for my house and I like it, why should I be forced out by such a rotten person?
The latest is that next doors cat comes in and sits on her doormat, then tried to get in her flat, apparently this is my fault because I have my own cat and cat flap in main front door. I bought cat repellent and used it on all the neighbours door mats, she came home and had ago at me for it said it was messy, then said I wasn't doing anything to try and discourage the neighbours cat (because she has not witnessed me chucking her out). I said how can you say that when I've bought repellent and you've not seen me kicking the cat out. I told her if she has an issue with that cat to take it up with next door and to stop having ago at me. She kept on and on and on, I lost it. I told her she is bordering on harassment and to stop.
Its causing me distress, I feel I cannot be myself or do my own thing in my own flat. We own our properties not rented. I literally do not know what to do, its that bad of late I want to move and get away from her. None of the other neighbours like her and think she is a pain in the you know what!
The bully is completely unapproachable and a few of the other residents have now stopped going to the coffee mornings , I have sent an email to our Housing officer wondered if you could give me some more advice on how to deal with this .
My parents are being harassed by their neighbour - 1 male, 1 female and 4 kids - due to them being granted permission to build on their land. The neighbour has suddenly started making accusations about extended members of the family which is causing my parents severe anxiety and stress. I cannot stand to see my parents upset anymore - it's heartbreaking. I'm totally lost in how I can help them. What makes it worse is my mum befriended the mum and used to buy the kids Christmas presents. She now feels totally betrayed. The father has started to try and turn the other neighbours against my parents in a very childish way. My parents don't deserve this.
For 10 years this guy has harassed and been aggressive to not only me, but my partner and my parents.
He has threatened me multiple times (without actually doing anything) jumped on my mothers moving car, abused my father and previous partner and now knows we have CCTV so just mutters abuse when I walk in and out of my house.
He is also the type to eyeball everyone, stands on his drive sticking his chest out.
I get the impression he wants trouble, the reason is unknown.
Police have been 4/5 times but never do anything.
The guy wants a reaction all the time and is very aggressive and abusive when he gets going, his wife is just as bad.
Any advice
I have spoken to him about it & expressed my mother’s wish to have the boundary fence put back in its original position & this spoken request has been backed up by a written request which he binned .
My elderly mother is being bullied & harassed .
What action should I advise her to do ?
I've been called names and they... Husband and wife try to intimidate me.
They say basically since I'm a renter and don't own my unit and rent that I have no rights.
I've tried to be nice... But have been unsuccessful
‘Except when forced to do so by stationary traffic, DO NOT stop or park:
where the kerb has been lowered to help wheelchair users and powered mobility vehicles, or where it would obstruct cyclists
in front of an entrance to a property’
I went in seen my lawyer as this was classed as a death threat towards me
so I am clearly not safe in the area and other nieghbours are just as bad with the bad mouthing. so I clearly need to move for my safety and my family's safety also
Started with parking, we parked outside our own house, he didn't like it so parked his only car there (he has a drive for 4 cars) for the next 7 years, if anyone from our house parks there he is out staring and shouting.
He has jumped on my mothers car bonnet because she parked there.
Constantly staring at me.
Constantly staring at anyone who visits our house.
Stands in the window or on his drive just eyeballing you.
We have cctv and he had calmed down, but now is starting again due to lights from our car shining on his house when we back down the drive (they are on auto) never seems to close his curtains though.
I think the guy is after a fight, just a general dislike for us.
Any advice appreciated.
I don't know where to get the right support for this kind of harassment. I'm in strong believe it has to do with my nationality. Can someone help me or point me to a right direction. I need to face bulling since I was a kid I cannot deal with this anymore. I'm single and working full time when I come home I just want to rest and have time for my self and not deal with this families who drives me to nuts. Please can someone help me.
Many thanks in advance
Rathy
So the other tenants live in the same flat as us and no how our door works is that what you're trying to say? So every time we go out our front door we will have to do it slowly to keep the tenant below us happy. Well I'm sorry but then you will need to send someone in to fix our door because I will not be spending 5 minutes trying to close a door slowly which is pathetic.
So unless you have real evidence and not word of mouth do not send threatening eviction emails to us again.
Thank you so much for not replying to any other part of the email I sent you and tomorrow morning I will going to someone above yourself to deal with this situation since it seems you are incapable of addressing real problems and you are now making false accusations about us.
Thanks you
I know it's a long read but I'm just looking for some advice if anyone has any
As you can imagine I'm not happy with this situation and the way we are being treated. Without evidence you should not be sending us emails threatening us to be evicted. You have took the woman below us side without contacting us and asking us ourselves. I would recommend telling the woman below not to speak to us again as I don't appreciate her being aggressive towards us or I will be phoning the police for harassment and feeling threatened. I would also recommend you to tell her to record the "excessive noise" or actually phone the police to have hard evidence. To which I will be installing a cctv monitor in our living room by the end of the week to record 24/7 to prove there is no "excessive noise" coming from our flat. As I have stated before I completely understand that we live in a block of flats and have neighbors and have to respect them but they also have to respect us as well regardless of what age we are. As you can imagine I am not very happy with this situation and being bullied for us being younger. If this bullying continues I will be taking this further but I will not be bullied out of our flat that we pay for every month just like everyone else.
If or when you decide to email back I will be expecting an apology rather than a threatening eviction email.
5 hours later he replied this
Afternoon
We have an obligation to all tenants regarding anti social behaviour. This has been reported by more than one person hence why my email has been sent.
With regards the communal door the other tenants have stated it does bang if it is left to close by itself but if this is shut carefully it creates no noise.
Moving forward I have asked the complainants to get a Ref number from the police when issues are raised regarding noise so these are logged correctly but hopefully this will be the end of the matter.
Regards
So I then replied this
Good afternoon Steven,
I actually find your email back insulting and degrading to be quite honest. Please tell me what exactly the problem is? It is "excessive noise" or now as you are saying "anti social behavior"? Also please explain what you mean by anti social behavior that apparently we
I also understand very clearly that we live in a block flat and have neighbors and have to respect others but that also means other people need to respect us as well so if us sitting up late at night watching tv is going to be an issue then I think the tenant below should highly consider giving her notice as we are not going to be bullied out of our flat. I am very upset with what has happened and the way we are getting treated which is due to us being younger. I think it's a bit of joke how you can email us straight away about "excessive noise" but yet can't seem to do anything for long enough about a wasp infestation in our flat or our washing machine breaking.
This is the second time we have had a neighbor shout at us which to me I think is very rude and shows the lack of respect our neighbors have for us being younger instead of coming and chapping our door and having a civil conversation like adults. The first time our neighbor above us started screaming at us from his window when we walked outside when we were going to work for the way we shut our front door. But yet he's allowed to do that but nothing can be done about him trying to walk into our flat because he's that out his face or playing his music and drums full blast all day and night and growing drugs in his flat. I find it funny how that doesn't interest yourselves as once when I phoned up and said about him nothing could be done by yourselves. We haven't had a problem or encounter with our neighbor above us since he shouted at us as we no longer close any door that is in our flat to keep him happy. This time we have had our neighbor come at us quite intimidatingly and cause a scene and shout at us in the hall questioning why we walked in our spa
Morning
We have had several complaints from the building regarding excessive noise issues relating to your property, if this continues we will be serving notice on the property and you will be removed. Several of our tenants have stated they will be giving notice on their properties which would result in a significant financial cost to ourselves please accept this as a final warning.
Please read section 3.2 of your tenancy agreement.
To which I have replied
Further to our phone call I'm not happy with our conversation. We actually feel bullied and have felt bullied since we moved in here. I find it quite insulting to have an email sent to us and not even a phone call. To also give us a final warning is a joke. Where is the first, second or third warning?
We have also phoned the police and asked them if there has been a complaint made about us and there has been none made. We also asked them if someone was to phone up and complain about noise would they come out? There answer was yes they would have to follow it up. So i don't understand how on the phone you could say to me that they wouldn't come out and it would have to be dealt with by yourselves.
I also don't believe that it would have been 3 tenants that have phoned up and complained when there is only 1 tenant below us? We also spoke to our neighbors next door and they haven't phoned up so I'm a bit confused? So unless the tenant above us can hear us walking about I find it quite impossible.
I didn't realize there was a rule that we are not allowed to be awake after a certain time and watch our tv. If our tv was too loud then our neighbor below us should have came to us at the time not the next day when we were walking down the stairs to start shouting at us and questioning why we were walking about. I also didn't realize we weren't allowed to walk about our own flat that we pay monthly for. The woman below us also seems to have an issue with us walking into our spare roo
im now at my wits end with it - his friends are stopping outside my house and staring up at my windows from across the road I really don't know what to do anymore because housing association don't seem to want to do their job properly and he keeps having violent arguments with random people and throwing stuff at the adjoining wall as well and I have a partner with ADHD and I don't know what to do anymore I cant move because we spent all our savings on this place and me and my partner don't work because I look after him with him being in hospital at the moment
Children have no respect for their or anyone else's property
Parents have no respect
Grandparents have no respect
Children are untouchable and are not held to account FOR ANYTHING including criminal acts
If they spin a sob story (like next door to me) they become everyone's favourite charity case - they are no more disadvantaged than anyone else
Legal wise - you have to return balls, no, kids are not supposed to enter your garden (but often do)
Can you get a dog? We are going to get a rescue dog as soon as possible and it is going to enjoy the taste of balls!!;)
Any advice welcome I have had enough
Please
The neighbour keeps picking on my little girls , witch are 5 / 8 /13 , he stairs at them and slags me of to them ,tells them to shut up , so I went to see him and had a go at him and I shouted at him and said he s a bully, he punch me in the face
And then today I was walking alone the road and he budged in to me , I don't want to let the kids out at all now because if anything els happens I don't think I'd be able to keep my cool , I suffer from anxiety and depression so I not feeling good rite now , it's a load of bollox, I really can't be bofored with people like this , I feel so trapped
My partner through the agents permission that we have told has taped their behaviour and filled in an antisocial diary as requested and we now have enough evidence but my partner is terrified to hand it over to the agent as she believes the consequences for us could be far reaching. They are integrated in the community after only a few months. What can we do? We love the Cottage we live in but we fear we will be forced out whatever happens and even if we hand everything over we have they may only get a warning not eviction.
The agent does believe us but my partner is very scared and vulnerable. The Farm Labourer works for a family who have been in the area for years and we fear even though we have told the truth throughout it will make no difference because of who he works for..
Can anyone help please? We are very scared and very desperate and to frightened to go to the relevant authorities.
Realise it's their problem, and don't make it yours or resort to underhand tactics. Move elsewhere and get your life back. It's far too short to be the targeted individual, living in fear of small minded, ignoramus' attacking you and going out of their way to destroy any and every aspect of your life. Relinquish the power and even if you have to pretend put on a brave happy face, your happiness is their complete misery, they hate to see you happy. They want tears, upset, shouting and insults it's what they plan on and ate expecting... Shock them, turn the tables. Behind the scenes cry and crumble if you must, but start looking for property elsewhere and live this life we've been given ?????????????????
as the mps can't really get involved.Homeswapper website and search for others too. Advertise on Gumtree the maybe.
. Pulling Moonies and urinating etc and no prosecution but told to keep the footage and eventually build a case. Good luck
I don't know what to do next they have ruined our life . we have lived here 3 years with a 2 year vendetta against us tyres slashed abused verbally police and local councils just went to sweep it away . she is so good at what she does its unbelievable
Where do we go from here out life is in tatters
I own an apartment in the big residential Township. I was working overseas when the builder approached me for booking a flat in the township. The project was in the startup position and it was in a rural area, outside the township. They convince me with a lot of promises and read about the quality security and safety of the township.
It took few years to build and because of the township the neighbor area is also developed.
I use this house for my stay apart from my travel. People noticed that I am alone and came back from abroad, etc. and they started harassing me including trying to open my door in my absence.
I am the only single owner in my floor. Other houses are occupied by the young bachelor students. their behavior was not good that I complained to Management. They came once and warned them. However, I still doubt they and some other people are doing some acts that are not good for a matured professional living around
Don't want to approach Legal authorities due to few important reasons, plus it is not good for the people and the society to get into this issue at this early stage.
I am more concerned about the security aspect as I live alone and go out, leaving the house with nobody
Since the walls are thin, I suspect they observe my movements, including my in & out information and pass it to somebody within and outside the society. Plus, it looks like they have some back up from some senior and potential guys who allows them for this act.
I am an international consultant trying to develop a business model. I need a good mind for it. Plus, I may have a good amount of professional rivals and Financial enemies who may be using these people for this activity for causing disturbance.
What should I do in this situation.
I was wondering if anyone could suggest anything helpful please
Has anyone got any advice.
Long story short - my neighbour asked me to keep my dog on a lead as her cat got into a fight previously with a dog (not mine) I have kept it on a lead if her windows are open or if I can see her cat out. If I am going to my car and its late or her windows are shut I don't put dog on a lead.
She has sent me a letter basically saying we aren't doing what she says cause she is disabled (which I didn't know) and saying she is going to papers etc. We haven't done anything wrong and she keeps mentioning how she is disabled and everything we walk past we talk about her (which we aren't) and she said she is taking pictures of us to pass to a journalist to sent to the paper. I am so upset as our wee dog would never harm anything and she is trying to insinuate that we are bullying her cause she is disabled. Who can I talk to? Or anyone got any advice? Is is too much to go to a solicitor as she is trying to ruin a reputation ?
I have had to endure 12 years of abuse which started when taking my child to school i was on the way back home with my younger child and came accross my neighbour in the wooded area kneeling on the ground with some young lad standing there .(cant say what they were doing) I ignored this leud act even though it made me feel sick . A couple of years later her and her partner befriended us. Then I started to see things I didnt want to get envolved with and cut ties with them, then I had every vehicle I owned scratched and tyres let down wing mirrors smashed, things thrown at my house and in my garden, them upsetting my dog , the woman shouting and swearing in front of my 2 yr old . she even done it to my eldest daughter and her car too was damaged. and if I have a boyfriend they damage thier cars and then try and pretend to be nice, they act like children.
The woman smokes puff and is a care home manager and the bloke is a plasterer and they use thier junkie friends and relatives to do stuff to us to.
The police put up a camera years ago, and they stopped as soon as the cameras were there and started again later.
now we have new people in the street they have befiended them too and now act like they are the don of council life, they standing outside my house talking loudly and over exagerating for attention.
I tryed to move and for and had my name on the top of the council list and and bid for a property and they left me a message to come to view the property after the actual time of the viewing . so I couldnt even move awah from them as the council messed up but they didnt accept responsibility. So I am still putting up with rubbish all these years. I work all week and look after my children well and dont want anything to do with these waisters but they just carry on. And they are in there late 50s
It's driving me to an early grave. I've tried writing a diary but I'd be on it all day if I were to write everything down.
Any help or guidance would be gratefully received. I'm off work at the moment so can't afford a solicitor. The council have done everything too even lowering my ceilings and acoustically insulated them, so they're saying I'm suitably housed so I won't get moved.
Belle
I've had knocking and run, snow being threw the door when we answered it, getting abuse from the children in the street when they climbed on the wall next to our house so they could see into our garden and many other things the main one being bullying of my grandson (who lives with me). I have complained to the association many times but never had much interaction with them apart from them fixing a fence to the wall so kids can't climb on it.
When my grandson was attacked by the neighbours son I involved the police but I still had no response from the housing association.
What can I do now?
I have only moved into new rented property on 29/5/15 and already disaster and wish I had never, ever rented this house all because of neighbour and their nasty bullying campaign. They are complaining that we are too noisy, that music is too loud, that we 'come and go' and 'bang bins' Im really not sure what they are referring to.
We do play music but do not own a stereo or amplifier music is played through Iphone and bluetooth speaker, even on max is nowhere near excessive noise warranting a complaint.
As a single mum with 2 adult kids aged 19, we do play music and have friends over, but never, ever excessive. I cannot hear the kids music when I am in the house, so how can neighbours?
They have so far called police, real estate agent and now finally today I received a letter from local council basically threatening me with court action and prosecution! Apparently the neighbours are now keeping 'notes' which may be used to issue court action! Seriously, this is gross misuse of the system and I cannot live with this pressure.
the kids want to be able to play some music, and we chose a house with lovely huge yard and garden areas to enjoy and socialise in summer and have friends and family over for a BBQ, making me feel paranoid to just go about my daily business.
The neighbour has never approached me, only goes to all these agencies to complain and I keep getting calls and now a letter!
We previously lived in a block of units for 6 years and never one complaint, and yet we move here and all of a sudden we are being told we are too noisy, I dont get it!
I suffer from PTSD, major depression, panic and anxiety disorder and this pressure is breaking me, I cant take it. It took all my savings to move into this property, nearly $3000 bond and another $1941 month in advance, I dont have enough money to do another move, I thought we had found our dream house, and its just turning out to be a nightmare!
This neighbour even yelled at me when I came home one night it was 2.45am we had been out since previous night 9.45pm, no one had been home, and I hear a lady yelling when I got out of my car that we need to turn the music down been playing all night and she is sick of it, but no one had even been home! when I said this, she yelled rubbish youve been banging that bin all night too! This was a nice quiet court before you lot came, youre disgusting! I just went inside, I was shaking and nearly in tears, I couldnt believe what I was hearing.
I dont know what to do, any advise would be appreciated.
They said that they do not like dogs when I moved in (which is fine, but my dog lives in my house not theirs) So they started making complaints about my dog saying that he barks all the time. My dog does not bark all the time, he barks, but only as much as an average dog would and only if he has reason to bark, be it, fireworks or a helicopter over head.
They rang my housing association and said that he barks day and night. So I had to go to a meeting and my housing association mentioned that they are the only neighbours to mention it so they are not going to do anything about it.
My neighbours then went on to leave there garden gate open so it bangs in the wind to annoy my dog to make him bark (which never worked once, as my dog new it was the gate). With there plans not working I then receive another phonecall a couple of weeks later from my housing association stating that neighbours have made another complaint about my dog breaking there garden fence (which was already broken when I moved in) to be nice, I said I would install a new 6ft fence for them, which they agreed to on the phone to my housing association.
They then rang the local council and environmental health saying that my dog barks day and night, both of which wrote me letters and i received a phone call from the council as well.
My neighbours then went on to write me a letter saying to not commence work on their fence until they say so and that they want to pick the fence that I will be buying. I am a single working mother, trying to balance working, paying bills etc and still having hardly any money at the end of the day, I knew they was going to pick the most expensive fence. I wrote them a letter saying that I am now only willing to replace the broken panel with a like for like as I am not playing games with them.
After them receiving my letter they went into their garden and ripped out a perfectly fine fence panel for no reason, so now there is a gap through to my garden.
They then rang the police to say that my dog had broken their fence (which I was already willing to fix, even though he didn't do it) and they had told me NOT to commence work on the fence until they said so.
so by this point I had received numerous phonecalls from my housing association with allegations, and letters from them too.
I had received 2 letters from my local council and a phonecall.
A letter from environmental health and a visit from the police.
All for stuff that they are making up and lying about because they want me kicked out of my home.
They also stand in their garden were they ripped the fence panel out and stare at me for hours tutting and shaking their
And I need help with how to deal with it cause there going to be playing with my brother
And they hate me what should I do.
I am already on depression medication for anxiety and they have got me hooked on sleeping pills now..they even wake me when I have taken a pill and I then have to take more. I just don't know what to do my husband is quite def and doesn't hear them well he sleeps like a log within minutes of his head hitting the pillow...so he says It must be in my head so get no help from him.
Please help I don't know what to do, my life is unbearable.
Shall
they have been stealing her letters ,including one advising her of the need for a smear test
which she missed as a result .She has learning difficulties and is sufferring bullying
they are trying to get her evicted this is causing a lot of stress to us both I would be gratefull for any advice orhelp on this matter .The police have been informed.
Mainly femalesmon their own.
I could hear the neighbour in no5,(drug dealers) call the police and say.....she is outside my flat, !!!
She is threatening me!!!!she is at my door!!!.....lie and I was in my own house !!!but then the 2 female
Officers would drive. Here very fast...sweating....parrack and Fundy...and bang on myndoor.accusing me!
Was it a set up?.....something was not right. I am immigrant and don't understand this dishonest waymo
Way of life.....vile and lie after lie and the police protected the clas . A. Dealers....horiffic!..her behaviour
Physco...but the. Police blamed me making my life hell.......they sold and. Moved....leaving
A friend of hers in another flat.........so she carriedmon tormenting her and a policewoman
Told her to harass me and when she does, she must call her and together they will trap me!!!
Disgusting..
many thanks for the opportunity to send a question like this. Me and my husband have been living in a rented apartment almost a year. Few months ago a new neighbor moved to the flat below ours and have started making our lives quite miserable. She's complaining that we walk too loudly, and as her revenge she starts banging on her ceiling above our bedroom - which causes quite a lot of noise. We've tried explaining, that there isn't much we can do about squeaking floors, and that the previous neighbors have never complained about anything. We have carpets throughout the flat, we work from 10- 19 mostly, we never have parties, play music loud, or anything of that sort. We invited her to the apartment to see for herself - nothing helped. Last night at 4am in the morning, she starting again banging on her ceiling, waking both of us - obviously, it couldn't have been our walking that was causing any noise. This banging happens repeatedly, on average once a week, or more. It does not bother me that much when I'm getting ready to go to work in the morning, but being woken up in the middle of the night ... you know what I mean. On a different occasion before she devised the banging technique she rang our flat at 2.30am complaining that her bathroom was flooded from ours - it was raining heavily, and some water got in through the cracks in the wall - the water was dropping occasionally from her ceiling - not a life threatening situation to be waking up neighbors. I'd greatly appreciate any advise on what we can do. Thank you
Yes insnt it always the same story. The police need more evidence etc. Even the
anti-social behaviour teams seem to be very lame and unwilling to help.
The answer always seems to be MOVE; GET ON ANTI-DEPRESSANTS or KILL YOURSELF.
The bullies seem to be more skilled than the police and other authorities combined.
I hope one day good people can all team up and help each other against these b'stards.
Best of luck, you and I will bloody need it.
I forgot to add NEVER EVER swear or threaten your tormentor as this is against the law and it could be you who gets arrested by the police.
To JAZZDEIGAMEID. Im very sorry the way people are treating you, but you are not a thing but a human being. This situation seems very difficult to deal with bcos it is indirect bullying but do try and follow my advice( see comment below) for your next door neighbours and get some positivity in your life. Let me know how it goes.
Also to CALVIN PEOPLE. You should ask mediadtion services in your area to your home where they can hear your neighbours for themselves and most importantly you will have them to back up your story. Let me know how it goes.
She swore one day at my boyfriends mother as she was pulling into my driveway because it delayed her reversing out of hers by a few seconds. She reported that I smoke cannabis and that the smell if this continuously comes from my house. This is not true and I remember when I read the allegations thinking, someone is trying to cause some sort of damage.
She reported my then boyfriend to socioal services that he beats me and my son. I had to listen to him being interviewed in my house.
She also shouts things at me when I leave my house about cracked pavements that I've caused from taxis I order, tells me in front of neighbours she has called social services on me ( as she continues to do so with her fabricated stories), I could go on and on but it's becoming so wearing now. When I asked the police to put something for harassment in place they couldn't understand why someone would act like this unprovoked, and kept asking, "you must have done something to upset her?".
I keep myself to myself, and in all honesty at first it felt like a hate crime against my son, but this woman is really upsetting me and I can't get any support from anywhere, not even the police, not even after all the false allegations and investigated and found to be untrue, still nothing is done to protect my family.
She goes from door to door of whoever will listen to her stories about me, she contacted socioa services saying I had stopped medication for my son and was damaging his life (I had taken my son off a drug called elvanse for ADHD which he has along with his autism, but this was months prior to her reporting it).
I just need some advice, I was here before she came along and never had any problems with anyone. It's incredibly infuriating and I don't know how much longer I can stay calm, this bully just won't stop slandering my household.
We took legal advice the solicitor heard what we told him and sat back and said that it was a case of mis-management and that they where blatantly bullies. That they know full well a problem existed before we moved in but as we where too sharp for them and caught them out at not doing what they where supposed to do then they are moving the goal posts and hiding behind lies, deceit, deception and keeping it from going higher in the company to be dealt with as it will expose them and their dire management.
There are bullies here and 4 ladies in particular, they are nasty, very nasty I have never met people like them before in my life! I did not think older people could be so callous and so evil is the only word I can use pure evil. They did not like us complaining about the man downstairs so one of them took it upon herself to give us abuse and tell us he can do what he likes it's his flat and how dare we move in here and tell them how they should live....She is not being kept awake by him at 4 in the morning, oh, no, she's on the other side of the building, how convenient for her. So she swore at my husband and put two fingers up at him. So we reported her... And this is where things where stepped-up a gear. Now another two ladies friends of the first have taken it upon themselves to annoy us. They shout deliberately below our balcony, laugh like what I can only describe as hyenas, really put on laughter the kind you would expect to hear on a stage play...it's so put on you can tell but it's for our benefit solely. They talk loud about stupid plants in the garden and point them out after they have been our there s
I think old people can bully as anyone can, age is irrelevant and so a silly thing for the person to say. They may have been a bully all their life and nothing will change about them. One thing I've noticed about my elderly bully is the lengths they will go to to gain attention even to knocking on the window for me to look (which didn't work).
The ignoring drives them nuts.
Document everything and try not to respond, it's hard but I think it does work for some bullies.
We have been bullied by our neighbours since 2009 and have had to endure psychological bullying. This doesn't bother my husband as much as they seem to single me out as a target as I am a very sensitive person and hate been stared at.
The list of things happened would take too long but the couple have since split up but the old man is still carrying on the bullying. We ignored everything but the trouble is with ignoring it leaves you with no self respect at all. If we had dealt with them properly I don't think things would have got so bad.
I have now received councelling and it hasn't helped really. I would love to move but see it as giving him what he wants but to live without the sick feeling in my own home would be wonderful.
Bullies are vile coward creatures who I perceive to have serious problems.
but i cant prove this even when i've recorded it , it comes out scrambled or the file is corrupted .
ive had the police out 5-6 times and they can't do nothing and i am under a mental health team which has said its me hearing voices even my mum dad say that now.
can anyone help me as i've taken overdoses and even tried to hang myself .
I am worried that when i see the phycotsted i am going to be sectioned and be give a different drugs can someone help me legally please or any advise .
thank you
Mr. Ian Tervit, 210-2555 Whiteley Court, North Vancouver, B.C., facing North-West side of Kiwanis Lynn Manor above garbage bins, dump a bucket of water on me on May 15, 2013 at 10 a.m., when I was collecting empty cans and bottles. Mr. Ian Tervit stood on his balcony, looking and smiling at me like nothing had happened. I told him "thank you" and went inside the apartment building with my bag of empty cans and bottles. Then when I was coming up towards lobby, Mr. Ian Tervit was inside the lobby and telling everyone present how dirty and filthy I was collecting empty bottles and cans. I felt so humiliated, very small and embarrassed by Mr. Ian Tervit action. June 20, 2013 at 8:30 p.m., again I was collecting empty cans and bottles and Mr. Ian Tervit just arrived and parked his Mercedes Station Wagon, licence plate 316-LVC, did not even close car door, running towards me with his walking cane raised above his head, almost hit me with his cane, yelling at me that I am steeling from this garbage company. I was shocked, but stayed calm and told Mr. Ian Tervit that my monthly income is $458.11 for the past three years and this is my extra spending money. At this point, Mr. Ian Tervit told me that Mr. Jim Kennedy, the building maintenance-repair man have told him that he should dump a water on me any time that I am collecting empty cans and bottles, even thou Mr. Jim Kennedy approved of me to collect empty cans and bottles. August 16, 2013 at 11:30 a.m. Mr. Ian Tervit dump a bucket of water on me again when I was collecting empty cans and bottles. Every time that I am taking a garbage out, I am afraid that Mr. Ian Tervit will dump a bucket of water. On October 3, 2013 I had a meeting with Legal Adviser and I was told that I have a good legal case to prosecute, and if it happen again to call police and get a written statement for evidence and tell The Management at Kiwanis. October 9, 2013 I was told by The Building Manager of the outcome, that Mr. Jim Kennedy was told about this case and denied anything being said to Mr. Ian Tervit and Mr. Ian Tervit also denied some of my comments and was asked to provide a written apology to me. Till today, no written apology yet.
I am a long distance landlord and live 400 miles away from my terraced house which I own. I have a tenant who is a bit of a best friend of my next door neighbour. My next door neighbour's house (his is end of terrace house) is at the end of the cul de sac. In front of our houses, is a wall (garages of other houses etc). So our cul de sac is like a linear road and his house is at the dead end. The 'road' is maintained by council. To my horror, when I last visited my property, I noticed that he had built a 6 feet tall opaque (not with bars or see through) wall in between our houses and had fully sealed that part of the road in front of his house ! In a way he is not really blocking anyone's access. Can he do that though ??????? When I looked at the deed, the area in front of his house, belongs to him. The wall/ fence is a complete eye sore and as a result, hy house now looks ugly. I am concerned about the resale value of my house too ! Please help
We have our own home, next door is privately rented. Both my husband and myself have suffered from depression and the behaviour of our neighbours has affected our health. It is not their behaviour directly, but their feral grandchildren (who practically live next door) that is to blame. Have addressed both tenants about problems and the landlord - the landlord now accuses us of sending anonymous letters to him about these people! Have only sent one letter! The landlord has told the tenants that ALL the letters were sent by us (he can trace the paper and printers apparently!) So half the street has "sent us to Coventry"! One of these people is a relative of the local councillor and there have been subtle hints about "being careful how we treat the neighbours" I am referred to as a miserable b@#'h - because I don't want to tread on broken glass thrown by these kids! I feel we are being bullied by both the neighbours whispering campaigns and also the landlord and his unprofessional, paranoid behaviour and non-specific threats. I hope everyone gets their problems sorted.
Your neighbours may very well think they know you NOW, but did they know you in your childhood years? No. Did they know you when you lived in your old house? No. Did they know you as a teen? No. They ain't worth the dog crap from the bottom off anyone's shoe. lol
Sorry if it seems like I'm spamming, but I don't see ANYONE ELSE replying.
my daughter is getting help now as they have made her life pure hell , we have had ambulance and gaurds here at 5 in the morning someone prankd them , i really dont know what else i can do just so so sick of it all
The neighbours who did this are now moving on leaving the area.I have another problem with someone putting rat poison down. I have had two dogs die and another three suspects. Vets are doing blood tests on the others. Since i moved here i have had lots of people doing bad things to me and my dogs I have never done anything to any one ever. i have had police here lots of times. can't catch anyone.it's done in the night. Im scared for me and my son.that im going to end up in jail for nothing.i have also been harnessed by people who don't even know me.I live in rural area in beside a forest. I even get social services calling to check up on me and my son that.people will call them and say i leave my son on his own for hours and say i go out working the dogs on the mountain. And then i will have them on to me for weeks.My neighbours who have drug and alcohol problems why am i so bad for keeping a few dogs and don't even go on holiday or drink.its our life.I can't move as i have set up the yard for the dogs and have good access to work them.im getting depressed about the whole situation. And i feel im been bullied and none of this is my fault. And my dogs don't bark all the time. Please help.regards naturs's choice.
All of it.I am being watched when I go outside.
I had been stalked at one time.I suffer from
Depression anyway and it's really getting to me
I can't afford to move and it's not fair.
She has made thousands of all false allegations against me to Police & to Council there must be about 50,000 complaints re: myself & her other former neighbours incidentally I am not the first one & will not be the last the poor womans state of mind is AHH YOU SEE NO MATTER WHO SHE LIVES NEXT TO SHE GETS HARRASED WHAT CAN I SAY HER HA KNOW SHE IS NOT WELL BUT THEY SAY THEY WILL BACK HER UP WITH A INJUNCTION IF SHE TAKES ME TO COURT WHAT A WASTE OF TAX PAYERS EXPENSE SINCE THEY KNOW HER VERY LONG HISTORY.
ONE JUST HAS TO IGNORE SOME PEOPLE THEY ARE SICK IN THE HEAD. PAMELA
Best is to speak to them nicely when you are calm explain the noise they make most people are reasonable and polish are normally pretty decent people. IF all else fails and they carry on make noise when they and kids are sleeping - fight fire with fire they until they get the message. Mind if you are a woman alone be careful you'd be best with a big strong hunk at your side someone who's not afraid to deal with them not violent but confident - boyfriend brother etc (it is all dependent on your situation good luck I' wish I could help you) flats are not good I live in one I know. I am looking for a house without neighbours.....bliss..
Before my sister her neighbour did same to another woman & then had a African man evicted complaining to council he was sub-letting his house she has done everything to my sister & she even told her HA in her many efforts what she did with the previous tenant she said my sister was sub-letting her house. Honestly how low can you get in this life but some people are mentaly unwell & do this for thrills this is my sisters neighbour. She is waiting for my sister to get into trouble & to get evicted. 2 Weeks ago she tried to attack my sister but my sister was too fast she shut the door within one second had
my sister gone out she would have done the opposite her boyfriend would ahve taken photo's & they would have said my sister was attacking her.
WHERE DOES ONE WIN IT IS A NO WIN SITUATION.
My sisters neighbours HA do not want to know about their tenant they ask my sister to report it to her HA which we find weird as there is no law that says that any person cannot complain to the culprits Housing Association.
Rani
It shows how some people need to go to ASYLUM THEY ARE ACTUALLY MENTALLY ILL BUT IN THEIR EYES THEY SEE OTHERS AS MENTALLY ILL.
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