Neighbour disputes sometimes go further than disagreements over noise, parking or boundaries. In some cases, the disagreement becomes more personal, and the people living near you can make daily life genuinely unpleasant. This might stem from an earlier falling out that has escalated, or it can seem to appear from nowhere, leaving you feeling targeted without understanding why.
Whatever the cause, personal disputes with neighbours are often harder to resolve than practical problems. They can affect your wellbeing, your sense of safety at home, and your relationships with others in the area. Knowing your options and understanding where you stand legally can help you decide how to respond.
Gossip and Rumours
Neighbours who spread rumours have existed in every community, and often you will not be the only person on the receiving end. In many cases, the best response is simply to ignore it. Local gossip tends to move on, and engaging with it can sometimes make things worse.
However, if a neighbour is persistently spreading untrue or harmful stories about you, and it is affecting your reputation or causing real distress, you may want to address it directly. A calm conversation with the person responsible can sometimes resolve matters. They may not have realised the impact of their words, or they may reconsider their actions once confronted.
If the rumours are serious enough to damage your reputation, they could amount to defamation. Slander refers to spoken statements, while libel covers written ones, including social media posts. Taking legal action over defamation is possible but tends to be costly and difficult to prove. For most neighbour disputes, mediation or speaking to your local council will be more practical. Some councils offer mediation services directly, while others refer to external mediation organisations, and availability varies by location.
Keep a record of what has been said, when, and who heard it. This information can be useful if you need to pursue further action later.
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When a neighbour's behaviour moves beyond unpleasantness into repeated, targeted actions intended to distress or frighten you, it may count as harassment. This can include verbal abuse, threats, following you, or persistently contacting you in a way that causes alarm.
Under the Protection from Harassment Act 1997, harassment is a criminal offence in England and Wales. Scotland has separate legislation covering similar behaviour. If you believe you are being harassed, you should report it to the police. They can issue warnings, and depending on the evidence, the person responsible may face prosecution or a restraining order. Each case is assessed independently, and outcomes will depend on the specific circumstances.
Your local council may also be able to help, particularly if the person harassing you is a council tenant. Councils have powers to take action against antisocial behaviour, which can include harassment. Housing associations have similar responsibilities for their tenants.
Document every incident with dates, times, and descriptions of what happened. If there are witnesses, note their details too. This record will support any complaint or legal action.
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Discrimination
In some situations, a neighbour's behaviour may be motivated by prejudice. If you are being targeted because of a protected characteristic as defined under the Equality Act 2010, such as your race, religion, disability, sexual orientation or gender identity, this may amount to a hate crime or discriminatory harassment.
Hate crimes are taken seriously by the police and can result in more severe penalties for the offender. You can report hate incidents even if you are not certain a crime has been committed. If a hate crime is suspected, the police are required to record it as such, even if further investigation is necessary to establish whether a criminal offence has occurred.
Organisations such as Citizens Advice can help you understand your rights and the steps available to you. If discrimination is happening in the context of housing, you may also be able to make a complaint under the Equality Act 2010.
Getting Help
Dealing with a personal dispute can feel isolating, but support is available. Mediation services can help both parties communicate and find a resolution. This is often a constructive way to address problems and can work well even when relationships have broken down. Many local councils offer free or low cost mediation for neighbour disputes.
If mediation is not suitable or has not worked, you may need to consider legal options. A solicitor can advise on whether you have grounds for action and what the process would involve. Legal aid may be available, though eligibility depends on factors including the nature of the dispute and your financial situation.
Your local council's antisocial behaviour team can investigate complaints and take enforcement action where appropriate. If you rent your home, your landlord may also have a role in addressing the problem.
For general guidance on neighbour disputes and your legal rights, GOV.UK provides information on antisocial behaviour and how to report it. Citizens Advice offers free, confidential support on a wide range of issues, including disputes with neighbours.
Environmental health police mediation now 3 years on the male neighbour has threatened my husband who is 75 .
We are awaiting ASB team and police again.
They bang doors to annoy.kids scream day and night.
We can't look out of our window as accused of looking at them.
We are both ill health wise and no family.
A little background.. nextdoor down, has kids (I have kids too) but from day one they were constantly knocking the door asking for things,rudely too, constantly kicking ball into the garden, I don’t mind getting it once or twice but not all day every day. The kids abusing their pets bin the garden for all to see, particularly the dog. Mother turns a blind eye to everything. Mother breeds cats constantly. Does not care about the animals or kid’s welfare. Left a house full of pets for 4 whole days and nights last summer, that’s when we argued because I was fuming she could do that! Lives in squalor inside and out. Never puts the bins out. Has to report to environmental health due to huge piles of rubbish all around the property. Lots more but I’d be here all day.
Other neighbour, her teenage son has been playing extremely loud music every night all through the night since 2021! I’ve asked on numerous occasions politely for it to be turned down only to be met with abuse via messages on facebook or ignored. I’ve told her it is disrupting my young children’s sleep and they end up in my bed (which is downstairs) or on the sofas because the music wakes them. As a last resort I reported to the housing association and today she has started harassing me and threatening to phone social services because we shout at the kids (the 4 youngest are going through a really horrible argumentative phase at the moment) we ask the kids nicely a few times to stop etc before raising our voices. And if she hears the words when shouting it’s always to the effect of “be nice to each other “ “if you don’t want to play together just go away from each other” “share” etc etc it’s not threatening them etc
She’s also now telling my partner he can’t park his van outside her house (it’s inbetween our houses out the front) it’s nowhere near her drive or gate, it’s not illegal to park there etc
I am so stressed. All because of her selfish son being left to play his music loudly but we are the “horrible ones” apparently.
She constantly moans about her next door neighbour [A] over the garden fence to the other neighbour [B].
When A has workmen to do jobs Waters & B, slag off A in the hope that workmen have a lower opinion of A. Instead, the workman think less of Waters, seeing her for the bully she is. Waters has ran a very nasty smear campaign about A which is untrue.
In the swamp is Backstabber Ben from across the road. Desperate for attention and approval,he bad mouths A with Waters. Backstabber Ben is so stupid, that he spreads the lies Waters tells him. The Fool has been manipulated. Predictably, when Ben turns his back Nicola slags him off to B. Meanwhile Ben slags Nicola Waters off to Alyson, Phill, Beth, Allie & Graham.
Desperate to be Queen Bee and have Power over others, will never happen for Nasty Nick because she repels people.
Waters, Backstabber Ben, and rest of street all deserve each other.
As I relax in my garden, I can hear them carve each other up and is why I don't mix with them.
It is called Assertiveness.
And i have this couple who moved in downstairs from me and are making my life a living hell!! To the point where i feel harrassed and dont really enjoy coming home anymore! All they seem to like doing is make fun of me nowadays always constantly calling me annoying all day long and just for simply "living" in my apartment! Its come to the point that I Cant even go to the damn kitchen to make food or a coffee without one of them yelling out from downstairs that im annoying and ugly and all sorts of names!
The parents are aggressive, non-cooperative, self-righteous, they refused mediation and I think they join their kids or teach them to jump and bang as hard as possible. I really don’t know what to do any more. Housing association doesn’t care. Even ombudsman didn’t help - their main excuse is “children”. When I bought my flat it was quiet for many years before they moved in - now I live in hell… Is there anything else that can help me?
Since then she has not spoken. It is a, small community and she has a lot manipulated people into believing I am a nasty person. I know she does it all by insinuation and, appearing to be emotional and hurt. Once she has someone on board she uses them to involve and recruit new neighbours. I believe she is a narcissist and the neighbours she recruits are flying monkeys
In the past I have had people knock on my door and, accuse me of treating her badly.
.. and feeding back she is visiting them with a flying monkey and both insinuating things, about me.
Recently a new neighbour and myself were asked to contribute over £1000 towards a community issue We both declined.
Since then the neighbour and the flying monkeys(Now, a strong clique) have ignored the new neighbour.
At least I now have someone who can see what I see... but would like to know the best way to proceed.
At this point I believe that she will work hard on her hate campaign and there may be chances to get written evidence of her technique for her smear campaign(me and new neighbour) as she has upped the anti because she would have benefitted from the project so is in destruct mode. I would, ideally like them all to get a soliciors (cease and desist) or a visit drom the police for harassment
Her shouting happens roughly once or twice a week.
Should I drop a note through his door to explain? I don't want a face to face because I don't want my explanation to be rejected with abuse if I am honest.
Year2000 it was lovely neighbours were lovely now it I won’t what you got we out grown this house garden so thay start trying to get us out with the rest of new neighbours that did not work then thay try to get the fence down I said can’t water and Electric under the ground now it car blocking so we have not Spock to them
As they are gossip talk about every body and have cameras back and front watch people on iPhone two cars in drive no drop kerb and put his wheel round the side of our fence to block us in or out her relation as there car on the other side of us and she also blocking the man drop kerb it no joke but you know what I recon thay enjoy
Been nasty to other people we were thinking of leaving but know I not put some one through what we have when thay do go I hope she keeps hear mouth shut as she says one thing to your face and another be hind you back
The Issue is not the Issue..
They blame and over react to the slightest.
Yes. they bare grudges and use proxies to control the target..
For all of those ten months I have been receiving interference on my TV reception leading to total loss of signal. At first it was mainly at breakfast time but over the months increased. A recent analysis of the interference pointed towards breakfast, lunch and tea times so I put a note through their door to ask if their oven might be the problem. They did not respond but six days later the problem ceased and did not occur for another three weeks. Now it has started again and I believe it deliberate but have no way of proving it. They now say I am harassing them !
It seems to be unique situation with a local aerial company not believing I could be deliberately targeted. Ofcom advised me to buy a new television.
We went away on the weekend to sort things out with each other and while we was away my boyfriends dad stayed at our house to do some construction work. While we we're away our neighbor's went and told my father in law everything that had unfolded and how intense the argument was. I'm now worried and not sure what to do, should I take some chocolates or flowers over and apologize? This has never happened to me before so I'm stuck at how to approach the situation.
We live in a new build and the stairs in the communal stairwell are hollow, the walls are too, and the doors are heavy fire doors.
Ever since I moved in, she would constantly approach me to moan about other neighbours noise as they close the doors and walk down the stairs.... Then she started saying the same about me.
I have always tried to be considerate regarding noise as I have been in that situation, with a neighbour previously who played music and did building works ect. Even going to court.
So when she approached me about my partner leaving at 5.30 for work and myself at 7.30. I tried to explain that it is a hollow building and the noise does travel and we try out utmost to minimise the noise, but we can't be any quieter.
Now she has started trying to approach my daughter who suffers with anxiety, over it. So much so my daughter was in tears because she is worried our neighbours hate us.
I am at the end of my tether and I am not sure what to do, because she is not being aggressive, but it is making me feel nervous about walking outside my door for fear of being approached and made to feel stupid.
If anyone knows what I could do. I would be really pleased.
She already punched me in the face with a metal fist. Resulted in stiches. She now follows me every time I leave my home and threatens me ....need help police won't because he is in the military. Euclid police officer told me this point blank.
After getting nothing but a mouthful of abuse, I came home and contacted environmental health by email to complain about them. In the meantime they got even louder and more obnoxious. We're treated as if it's us that are being the neighbours from hell instead of them.
I don't know if it's anything to do with the fact that we've never really got on with them from the day they moved in. Right from the start they have always been very nosey, constantly looking over our fence to see what we have and then copying everything. I bought a magnetic insect screen a few weeks ago and within days they bought one exactly the same, including the colour. She was even jealous of all the wild birds we get in our garden as we have feeders, so she bought some herself and put them as close to our fence as she could. It didn't go down too well when the birds stayed in our garden and didn't use her feeders, so pathetic. She stopped putting any dry seed in them a couple of weeks later.
My other half did suggest maybe we should move but we're far too old and haven't been in good health for many years. Not only that, nobody wants to move when they're in their 70s, and nobody wants noisy neighbours either. We just want a peaceful life now.
I am now sleeping in the box room on my own as it's the farthest away from the adjoining walls. I've suffered from migraines since I was 10 years old and need to lie down in a dark quiet room whenever I have one.
I'm taking antidepressants as well as all the other medication I have to take because of my ill health. We're both at our wits end and there's nothing we can do about it apparently, as all the neighbours did was lie to environmental health when they contacted them and blamed us. In my almost 66 years on this earth I have never come across such nasty people. Neither has my 72 year old husband.
Words such as "considerate" or "well-mannered" don't seem to exist in their vocabulary.
Am I wr to have protected my child from yet another knock in his life because she is a nasty person my child has come along way and doing well
This is the twelfth year in my rented flat. A new neighbour moved in the downstairs flat 6 months ago. The day they moved in they were a pain in the backside. When the hoover went on at midnight I just knew it was a sign of things to come (although I tried to give them the benefit of the doubt).
Low and behold lots of bass thumping music regularly. Cigarette smoke seeping through my ceiling and permeating belongings in my cupboard.
They're a real piece of work. Non stop renovations so it feels like living on a building site.
I'm trying to keep my cool because she I spoke to them about the loud music and asked if they could turn it down a little, they took my polite request as a challenge and turned it up louder.
Clearly there's no reasoning with them so I ignore them.
I have reported them to the relevant authorities now and they can sort them out. I am hoping to move soon and so someone else can pit up with the petulent behaviour. My biggest sympathy to them.
I have been reading the stories from other people and it would seem to me that you can say and do anything you want to somebody and their property and nothing will happen,the law needs to change
I in beginning was a good neighbour, had them round for drinks and nibbles, even let out my garage free of charge and since i dont drive i offered them to use my car parking space.
It started from the 1st night i moved in the couple on one side had violent fights, tnrew things at my wall, constant excessive noise all times day and night, music, DIY and rows.
I thought befriending them would neutralize things, there were times i thought what they were doing were by mistake like pointing lights at my bedroom window and leaving them on all night, throwing rubbish in my garden, i know now that it was deliberate, and soo was befriending me soo they could find out my weaknesses.
They in the end stole things, put barrages up on my parking space soo vistors of mine couldnt use it. Took total advantage for weakness my hospitality, destroying my property, terrorising me and my indoor cat at the window.
Then targeted me outside and i cant go out anymore or do my own garden due to threatning behavior and terror.
Ive lost all my friends as they intimdated them and frightened them all off. I have just applied to social services and one of their collegues wont work with me due to the intimdation and bullying of the neighbours.
Ive gone to police, soliciotors who said it would take 5yrs to go to court and told me to drop it, i know cant get legal help, these neighbours have actually approached me violently and aggressively but cos they didnt physically manage to get to me police wont act.
The council say not enough evidence either and now im agrophobic i have panic attacks, im oppressed and having a breakdown because theres no help or support from anywhere.
I cant move on my own and all of us are house owners soo no tenancies, im at the end of my rope and i have no where to turn, i live in hell by neighbours from hell and i wish someone would help me as its im literally considering sucide now, only way to get justice, as it will all come out at my inquest and maybe then something can be done.
If ANYONE from parliment reads this MORE NEEDS to be done for people like me and justice needs to be served against these vile evil perpertrators these people have DONE this before prior to me, a single woman on benefits with 3 kids, she got housed but i cant.
I’m in a similar situation,I own my home...18 months ago a ‘delightful’ family moved in next door.Things seemed to be ok until the nice weather hit and they revealed their prolific drug use.I’ve tried talking to no avail....they delight in being vindictive.At a huge cost I’ve had to seal the adjacent walls under the floorboards,I’ve bought massive bamboos to form a screen in the garden and as for the authorities,why bother!The only remedy is to move but,in the meantime,I’ve been keeping a diary and once we’re away from the situation,I’ll be forwarding the detailed diary to the relevant authorities and they can do as they wish.
If other neighbours are willing to testify,then you have a greater clout, as you’re not seen as a moaning neighbour.
As I said to my son,I have plenty of patience and they will get what they deserve! I hope you all get a resolution to the disputes.
I'm disabled and have to use wheel chair on occasion and the kids even take the Micky out of the fact I'm unable to walk properly and they shout abuse in street and the mother drops them on my drive every day from school n sits there laughing .,,
The day after a visit from housing being told to stop it lol they erected a 16ft trampoline right up against fence so they can see into my lounge n throw things into my house and invade my privacy and when I go to sit in garden they throw things at me and abuse me ..
IV reported to housing and police and they have done nothing .. I'm totally alone I feel like a prisoner in my home coz they threatened to batter me her husband has already pushed his way in my door putting his fist in my face n calling me a dirty gay sicko .. I have serious health issues including fits and I live alone and have no body supporting me ..
Then another unfortunate incident happens to me, I’m in a town of very scary people. I was at a restaurant and long story short I was assaulted by several store employees, somehow after I got away and called 911 I got arrested saying I hit someone, not the truth. I’m mortified, devastated. This is serious, so June 2018-March 2019 court hearings and thank goodness yesterday the judge said “nally” not prosecuting. But get this, ms. narcissism had been coming to the hearings (the one that did the no contact who feared for her life), when the verdict was said
When will people get this?
I do not know the full story, but from my relatives end they claim the neighbours plus the other neighbours in the street are now making snide comments and trying to victimise them after they made noise complaints about them to environmental health. I’m not disputing this, but I’ve not seen evidence of it either, if it’s the latter it sounds like tit for tat behaviour.
I was unaware that my relatives had involved environmental health over noise concerns because I don’t take much to do with their business and the neighbours who obviously don’t have open communication with my brother discussed with me on the passing what was going on from their end and the letters they got etc from environmental health.
I appreciate the communication because from what she said this whole thing seems to be a misunderstanding and I think they just wanted to get it out into the air because they don’t have that same level of communication with my brother and his fiancé as they are on edge not because they are looking to jeprodise the investigation or that.
My opinion is that the noise is unintentional, but I’ve been careful not to discuss anything they have said about my brother or vice versa because the last thing I want is for it to jeprodise the findings of the environmental health on both parties because although I highly believe it’s unintentional there’s always that risk either party could engage in tit for tat behaviour and it soon becomes something else.
All I’ve advised my relatives and the couples to do (as they both do not wish to mediate as its past the point of no return) is to follow the rules as set out in their letters, to call the police on each other if it gets out of hand (I’m not going to favour one party over the other) and that by law they will always have to be notified of steps in the investigation anyway so that way I can still resume being friendly to both parties without getting involved as I do not want to look like I’m playing each other off etc.
Was this the right advice and what else should I look out for to ensure that my relatives and the neighbours don’t get themselves into trouble and keep themselves right?
I have lived in this housing association flat for the past twenty years and 18 years ago the bullying neighbour moved in. She has a family and grand children and great grandchildren all around most of the time. The adults all have criminal records and the women is a known police informer.
A vindictive and nosey vicious women who watches from her first floor window.
The language between her daughter - a drug dealer and her grandson who has been in and out of detention centres and prison is foul and degenerate.
Because of the layout of the flats that are all very closely built and all very small, it is impossible for me to get to my front door and leave my flat for whatever reason without being watched. In the last seven years (and for many more years) this has also included being abused verbally with foul language.
Oh I used to lend this women money and do errands for her even bake bread for her and do every thing I could in a neighbourly way to get on with her - why?
because I thought that would be the best solution under the awful circumstances.
When I stopped behaving like a poodle with this bully then she took the gloves off…that was ten years ago. The the lies started.
But she then reported me to the DWP three times …even the man who interviewed me advised me to move from this flat. No charges were brought against me of course - there were no charges to bring.
it is like living next door to the gestapo.
I reported all of this to the police.
I first reported her evil nasty narcissistic behaviour five years ago. She and her daughter have so far received two warnings from the landlord in the presence of police witness.
Their behaviour obviously has not changed and they are not abiding by the terms of the agreement.
The sheer nastiness continues….
Two years ago I created a garden for the enjoyment of all the neighbours here and I had permission from the landlord to do so.
During Holy Week this year I got an email telling me I had twelve days to move my trees and shrubs out of the garden. That same week two friends of mine also died.
I decided to give away some of my trees and shrubs to two neighbours but then thought having seriously compromised and thinned down the space that I was not going to move anything else.
Neighbours were supportive and could not understand what on earth the problem was with creating something so beautiful. Everybody knew who was responsible for the complaint.
After two housing officers showed up to see the cleared space and before three witness - i.e. three supportive neighbours, the garden was agreed and I have now in writing again permission at present stocking levels.
Over the weekend I have learnt that the vindictive neighbour contacted the landlord immediately after their here to complain about the garden.
And then she asked one of the supportive witnesses - "why has "kandinsky" still got the garden?"
You would think that in the present time when there are so many p
Been in my property 20yrs and am the home owner. New Year's Eve 2016 having a small party myself my husband and my 13yr old daughter and her friend. No alcohol involved just planning a joyful night. At 6.30pm put the karaoke on at a reasonable level (video evidence of this) at 7.45 the neighbour knocks the door in my husbands face stating turn the music down as her 42 yr old partner wants to sleep as it's the 1yr anniversary of his fathers death. My husband is still inside my house and has not left the premises. We reasonably explain (no shouting just normal talking) that it's New Year's Eve. And she said "he wants to sleep". I then say "and" she then shouts I'm phoning the police and she storms off. (We all grieve at new year essentially me and they awful year I have had) Myself and my husband then both say to her together "go on then" as my husband shuts the door he said F@&" off.
2 mins later my door is being aggressively banged approximately 10 times we get up and as we approach the door the partner shouts"come on you c&£! Do you want some come on" at that he kicks and punches my door causing it to crack and split the wood. At no time did I open my door and shouted I'm phoning the police. His partner was shouting him to go back in the house and he went shouting "f£&king phone them"
When the police came we explained the issue and the damage to my door which he took a poor photo of. he stated that it's new year and that we were entitled to party and the level of the music was ok. He did state that because my husband swore at her as she walked away it was an offence (I'm unsure of this as it was not shouted and inside my own property which we own) we explained that if we had been approached in a better manner he would not of swore and the officer agreed and said he understood.
Now the officer went round to the neighbour who was flat out with drink and his partner was denying that he had caused damage and stated that the door bangs anyway. The officer has said it's mine and my husbands word against his and hers. But how can this be when he was heavily intoxicated and possibly won't remember what he has done. Please help as I'm at my wits end. We have never had issues with any of the neighbors and this is totally out of the blue. He has stated he is suffering with depression but where does my family come into this my daughter was distraught scared and could not sleep for the fear of him coming around again. Help and advice needed please..
I would like it noted that this is factually incorrect information provided.
The couple in question have for many years harrassed and bullied the residents in this beautiful complex we live in, including the elderly residents she mentioned.
She has failed to mention that the new residents 'gang' that are all responsible adults have decided that enough is enough and have stood up to their bullying and harrrassment of not only the residents but family members.
The terrier which occasionally barks is trying to settle in to its new enviroment as moving to a new location has unsettled her. Everything is being done to settle her including having family members move in so that someone is with the dog, whence she is not left on her own everday. Even one of the neighbour's has a key to check on her.
The residents are genuinely concerned about Jaybee's dog as it is left to roam the communual area and sits/lies in the driveway where cars regularly drive through. Many residents have trod in the dogs mess therefore it is not picked up straight away.
The lease clearly states that only cars or motorcycles are to be parked in the allocated spaces which is why these issues have come to a head as Jaybee has had issues with this for many years and had not adhered to it.
She and her husband have been very intimidating to the children of a resident and this has caused bad feeling along with other actions they have done against other residents who have evidence of this.
We have not taken formal action as as adults we hoped she would back off but we would appreciate advice on how to resolve this matter. We are going to go to our solicitors to put a formal letter to them and the police have advised that if they do continue to intimidate and harrass us and family members then to contact them straight away. Is this the best route?
We live in a block of 7 flats, 4 of them are owned by relative newcomers and we gave been here for 9 years.
My husband has a van which he parks outside our garage in our designated space. Our lovely neighbour has been through the lease with a tooth comb and says that the van has to go out on to the public road as the lease states that only a car" can be parked there. There is also a clause in the lease that states that animals should not cause any nuisance to ANY other resident.
The newer residents have now become a little "gang". At our last residents meeting, they all complained about our dog, told us he had to be on a lead at all times in the car parking area and we must stop him fouling the communal area. We pick up after him every time if this happens. We were also told that we had to stick to a clause in the lease that says a light should be on from dusk to dawn outside every property. Our immediate neighbour never has his light on but, as he is part of the "gang", he gets away with it.
I heard the offending dog yapping just as the people looking after it were going to get in to their car and drive off. I simply asked if the dog was OK being left like that (it can't be happy) and was told it would "settle down". It did......eventually.
Once chummy heard about this, he came dun ranting and raving about how ee'd "picked on the wrong person" and that "it's
personal" and we can expect a letter from his solicitor about the van. We haven't moved it because there are violationsome of the lease being made by other residents and nothing has been mentioned about them, and his dog continues to yap whenever it's left alone. I feel so sorry for the dog!
Can we do anything about this vindictive behaviour? One of the remaining flats is empty due to a bereavement and the owner of the other flat has early onset dementia so we feel really helpless.
This was the worst decision of my entire life. It seemed to be fine in the beginning but gradually, the craziness started to emerge.
When I was moving out, I rented a van to move my stuff and needed to park in front of the house to be able to move my furniture etc. They made sure to park their cars diagonally across that space so that I couldn't bring the van to an easily accessible place.
They even called the van company and said that "someone" was blocking their driveway with one of their vans and they wanted it moved.
After I moved out, they asked me to come back so that they could carry out an inventory inspection in the presence of their LAWYER. They were nitpicking about everything - even things like a tiny bit of wallpaper starting to crack at the base of one of the walls (on its own may I add) - as if I took a knife to it or something.
As I was leaving, I shook hands with the lawyer to which the landlady remarked, "oh now you'll have to wash your hands". Can that be interpreted as a racist remark??? (She is white. I am not.) I would be inclined to think so as on one occasion I clearly recall her saying and I quote, "I can't believe it when I see white women on the streets with their "coloured" children. Why would they do that?"
This whole ordeal has been so stressful that my depression and anxiety has really gone through the roof and I am just emotionally and mentally exhausted. I've been signed off work because of this and have been mostly lying in bed and feeling angry, sad and tearful.
Is there anything I can do???
Oh and they also installed CCTV cameras in the (shared) garden and one in front of my front door without my consent. Is that even legal?
She still slams the doors heavily at night I can't take it anymore. I've not reacted and feel like I'm alone in dealing with this horrible vindictive person.
Any advice would be welcome thanks
He has a girl and her son next door which she bought and moved in over a year ago the other day he was trimming away overgrown hedge which was growing onto my dad's side she came out and started shouted and swearing at him say what are you doing you stupid old f r you've no business touching that. My dad's just lost my mum and just wanting to keep his garden nice he is always helping others and would do anything for anybody what can I do x
called the police on me saying I physically
attacked her!!! Now im seen as the bad one. I now live in fear of them calling the police and making up more lies. I will now have to buy a security camera to protect my innocence which will wind them up. I cant win. Being nice got me nowhere.
I was soon to find out they were unwittingly being used by a gossipping neighbour to get at me and my family. The real culprit was pulling their strings and pressing their button as she had done to me in running my neighbours down.
The harassment is still indirect in as much as she tells untrue stories about me in such a way that some other neighbours just ignore me and my family. We have the support of several neighbours who know what she is like. They say others are to afraid of her gossiping about them do ignore her. She has all their phone numbers home and work and their house keys, she stops every car going past her house out of our close and gossips. She causes mistrust amongst us all. tells them that i make up stories so that if i try to defend myself they will not believe a word i say, and they dont even know me. but decent as they are they put their noses in the air when i am around. she even gets people to come out of their houses when i am walkig back home so that they all turn their backs on me and go indoors slamming the front door as they do so.there is a whole catelogue of terrible lies she tells, I have behaved in a very stoical manner for years now. I keep my house garden and cars in pristine condition and have good relations with my neighbours either sid but she is constantly probing anf harassing us. And so the torture goes on and on.
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