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Hints and Tips on Dealing With Troublesome Neighbours

By: Sarah Clark (ILEX) - Updated: 31 Dec 2020 | comments*Discuss
 
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We all hope that our neighbours are going to be friendly and reasonable, but unfortunately some people just aren’t easy to get along with. While being tolerant is the key, there can be a point where tolerance is no longer an option and you really have to start dealing with any problems you’re having.

First Steps in Neighbour Disputes

Neighbourhood Disputes Are Common and it is always advisable to try the softly, softly approach first, instead of going in all guns blazing. Don’t approach a problem when you’ve had no sleep due to yours neighbours partying, or you’ve just found beer bottles thrown over your fence into your back garden.

1. A Gentle Request

Ask the offending neighbour if you can have a quiet word with them, and try to stay friendly. They may not have realised that you could hear so much, or that unruly children have been making a pest of themselves. Give them the benefit of the doubt and see if you can resolve any niggling issues without any bad feeling.

2. A Letter or Note

If you feel intimidated by your neighbour, you could always try writing a letter, rather than speaking to them face to face - Here are some templates we've produced to help you. Of course, some bad neighbours just don’t care what they do, and in this case you probably don’t want to inflame the situation, so you might want to try another tactic to deal with the problems. Don’t suffer in silence – there are avenues to go down for help.

3. Mediation/Involving Other People

Because problem neighbours are sadly a fact of life in many towns, there are dedicated Neighbour Conciliation and Mediation services now on offer, which aim to try to Mediate Between Neighbours who can’t reach an amicable solution to their issues.

You should be able to find your local service through your local council website or helpline.

4. Keep a Record of Everything

Once things have escalated to the point where you can’t resolve a dispute amicably, you need to start keeping evidence of why the neighbour’s behaviour is bad enough to warrant further action or mediation.

Make a note of every incident that bothers you – noise, mess, anti-social behaviour, and anything you think that should be included. Photographs, video, anything that proves your case will be useful – but be careful taking pictures of people as this could inflame the situation if you’re caught! If you write any letters, keep copies.

5. Environmental Health

Your first port of call is to Contact The Environmental Health Department of your local council. They will have policies and procedures in place to help you deal with problem neighbours, so ask what they are and whether you can see them.

You need to ask them if they will get involved on your behalf, and what you need to do to start action – all councils have slightly different ways of approaching the issue but they will all have some guidelines.

6. Legal Help with Problem Neighbours

Some house insurance policies include free legal advice services. so check your own policies to see whether you have access to any of these. They might be able to give you some good advice on the next steps if council intervention is getting you nowhere.

It might also be worthwhile trying to get a fixed fee legal appointment with a local solicitor, to see if they can help you by writing a letter to your neighbour. This is a last resort though – legal letters do have a way of inflaming already tense situations. Don’t start legal action unless you really have exhausted all other options.

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I've had harassment at all 3 of my last properties. First was a couple who lived in flat above me, loud music at stupid o clock on week nights, chucking dirty nappies and cigarette butts in my garden, she made comments if I was minding my own business in my garden. Moved to another flat where the woman in the flat below started making up lies about me and asking other residents to join in with the lies (they didn't), she stopped my daughter and her friend and asked them to leavd her kids alinecand shd told them they had bad parents! Her daughter then started stealing and had people coming round about it and then her daughter dropped a concrete door stop on her own brothers foot. I complained and eventually it got sorted. I'm now in a house and was okay until neighbour moved in 18 months ago. Screaming at her son constantly, pretty sure she hits him but son is screaming and up on his console keeping my daughter awake and as she is up at 6am sometimes, I complained and then she started screeching at me after the H.A spoke to her and she acted like a victim! I stood up to her though and she backed down. She'd already shouted at another neighbour previously who was making noise and keeping her awake but then when she did it,the old 2 face came out. Just record it and record it, housing associations must be regulated by someone you can go to directly.
Sjm - 31-Dec-20 @ 9:31 AM
when I moved into my flat 4 yrs ago..I had a drug addiction when I first moved in to my flat and the local housingput me on a 6 month about as there were lies getting toldabout me..at the time I never reported any of there vile comments..putting me down constantly...sitting alienated at summer when all sitting out in good weather and id be left sitting myself on the grass while they all would be speaking about me...I have a red alert on my address as I went threw domestic abuse n got moved from flat to flat for a long time so I have ptsd I have been off the drugs for two years.... I was then trying to fit into their ways cause I thought it was the normal but no I didn't like the so I pulled myself away from them and now that I am working with different volunteer services as I want to be a mentor for abused kids n women they dont like it and have turned every neighbour against meive had neighbours come to my door and tell me that my grandaughter won't be back to my flat ...thats them expecting a reaction from me but I just said ok thank you bye n closed my door...but since then there's pple that are moving into building and im telling them my past cause I know they will get told it anyway... and I shouldn't having to be doing that ..ive had them trying to get petitions etc to try n get me out the building and also done the same when my oldest son moved inwith me even though they are illegal but this is all to get a reaction out of me as they all know that I would get lifted by police or put out and made homelesswhich I think is very sad and pathetic considering the life ive pulled myself away from after 32 yrs of abuse ...but this is the last straw on emas eve I came back into building and I received a messagefrom one of neighbours threatening to kill me so for first time phoned the police as I was in fear threw my domestic abuse I went threw n my ptsd but ive been writing all the incidents down then on Xmas day after my parents left my oldest son got a message from one of neighbours and he went down n I saw what flat he went into and it is one of neighbours who sells cannabis and street valium and when he came back up he had a nasty side in him and ended up battering me n wrecking my doors I had to put him out n phone police on him..a friend came last night a Christian I go to church with coz he was worried about me n im sitting with black eyes etcso I think they were not expecting me to phone police but I know that his drink had been spiked n whether its my son or not I will not be abused in my own house and also one of neighbours who works in local hospitalhas looked up my medical files and ive not done anything about that ...I feel trapped in my flat and I am top flat so need to walk by them all its so unfair I know many things about there pasts and I dont use that against them I just need a bit of help with information with what to do I have the police incident numbers and everything else wrote down also 2 yrs ago when I c
anne - 26-Dec-20 @ 9:54 PM
when I moved into my flat 4 yrs ago..I had a drug addiction when I first moved in to my flat and the local housingput me on a 6 month about as there were lies getting toldabout me..at the time I never reported any of there vile comments..putting me down constantly...sitting alienated at summer when all sitting out in good weather and id be left sitting myself on the grass while they all would be speaking about me...I have a red alert on my address as I went threw domestic abuse n got moved from flat to flat for a long time so I have ptsd I have been off the drugs for two years.... I was then trying to fit into their ways cause I thought it was the normal but no I didn't like the so I pulled myself away from them and now that I am working with different volunteer services as I want to be a mentor for abused kids n women they dont like it and have turned every neighbour against meive had neighbours come to my door and tell me that my grandaughter won't be back to my flat ...thats them expecting a reaction from me but I just said ok thank you bye n closed my door...but since then there's pple that are moving into building and im telling them my past cause I know they will get told it anyway... and I shouldn't having to be doing that ..ive had them trying to get petitions etc to try n get me out the building and also done the same when my oldest son moved inwith me even though they are illegal but this is all to get a reaction out of me as they all know that I would get lifted by police or put out and made homelesswhich I think is very sad and pathetic considering the life ive pulled myself away from after 32 yrs of abuse ...but this is the last straw on emas eve I came back into building and I received a messagefrom one of neighbours threatening to kill me so for first time phoned the police as I was in fear threw my domestic abuse I went threw n my ptsd but ive been writing all the incidents down then on Xmas day after my parents left my oldest son got a message from one of neighbours and he went down n I saw what flat he went into and it is one of neighbours who sells cannabis and street valium and when he came back up he had a nasty side in him and ended up battering me n wrecking my doors I had to put him out n phone police on him..a friend came last night a Christian I go to church with coz he was worried about me n im sitting with black eyes etcso I think they were not expecting me to phone police but I know that his drink had been spiked n whether its my son or not I will not be abused in my own house and also one of neighbours who works in local hospitalhas looked up my medical files and ive not done anything about that ...I feel trapped in my flat and I am top flat so need to walk by them all its so unfair I know many things about there pasts and I dont use that against them I just need a bit of help with information with what to do I have the police incident numbers and everything else wrote down also 2 yrs ago when I c
anne - 26-Dec-20 @ 9:54 PM
when I moved into my flat 4 yrs ago..I had a drug addiction when I first moved in to my flat and the local housingput me on a 6 month about as there were lies getting toldabout me..at the time I never reported any of there vile comments..putting me down constantly...sitting alienated at summer when all sitting out in good weather and id be left sitting myself on the grass while they all would be speaking about me...I have a red alert on my address as I went threw domestic abuse n got moved from flat to flat for a long time so I have ptsd I have been off the drugs for two years.... I was then trying to fit into their ways cause I thought it was the normal but no I didn't like the so I pulled myself away from them and now that I am working with different volunteer services as I want to be a mentor for abused kids n women they dont like it and have turned every neighbour against meive had neighbours come to my door and tell me that my grandaughter won't be back to my flat ...thats them expecting a reaction from me but I just said ok thank you bye n closed my door...but since then there's pple that are moving into building and im telling them my past cause I know they will get told it anyway... and I shouldn't having to be doing that ..ive had them trying to get petitions etc to try n get me out the building and also done the same when my oldest son moved inwith me even though they are illegal but this is all to get a reaction out of me as they all know that I would get lifted by police or put out and made homelesswhich I think is very sad and pathetic considering the life ive pulled myself away from after 32 yrs of abuse ...but this is the last straw on emas eve I came back into building and I received a messagefrom one of neighbours threatening to kill me so for first time phoned the police as I was in fear threw my domestic abuse I went threw n my ptsd but ive been writing all the incidents down then on Xmas day after my parents left my oldest son got a message from one of neighbours and he went down n I saw what flat he went into and it is one of neighbours who sells cannabis and street valium and when he came back up he had a nasty side in him and ended up battering me n wrecking my doors I had to put him out n phone police on him..a friend came last night a Christian I go to church with coz he was worried about me n im sitting with black eyes etcso I think they were not expecting me to phone police but I know that his drink had been spiked n whether its my son or not I will not be abused in my own house and also one of neighbours who works in local hospitalhas looked up my medical files and ive not done anything about that ...I feel trapped in my flat and I am top flat so need to walk by them all its so unfair I know many things about there pasts and I dont use that against them I just need a bit of help with information with what to do I have the police incident numbers and everything else wrote down also 2 yrs ago when I c
anne - 26-Dec-20 @ 9:53 PM
Jeedai Have you had any luck with this? I am in the situation, my house has stank of drugs all of today which has annoyed me more as it Christmas Day Any help will be great
Annoyed person - 25-Dec-20 @ 6:20 PM
I’ve lived in my flat, rented through Housing 21 for 8 years now and it has honestly been the worst years of my life. I moved after the first 2 years because I was wakened up every morning by the noise of their pump in the bathroom getting rid of the water in their wet room. I moved to an adjacent flat and have been wakened up every night at all times while the selfish OAP watches TV. The Court warden has tried to evict me 3 times and failed each time - I caught her eavesdropping outside my flat and reported her to her Manager. I had just returned from the funeral of my sister-in-law in Australia and 2 friends came to visit to make sure I was ok. As I opened the door to let them out, that’s when we caught this warden! I have now contacted my local Councillor and so she is aware of what’s going on. Another gentleman on the Court is in contact with the Ombudsman so hopefully I will get a chance to voice my opinion. It is blatant victimisation and I could move, but I will not give in to this “manager” who doesn’t know the meaning of the word impartial!! So why are Housing 21 allowing this to go on?!!! Her Manager has since resigned probably because he was as guilty as her of being economical with the truth!! It won’t be resolved anytime soon but at least I may be able to go and stay at a friends as he works away Mon-Fri. I’m fortunate to keep in good health but what leaves me astounded is that some people are just so ignorant and selfish and yet no action is taken because of favouritism!!
Davy - 16-Dec-20 @ 6:10 PM
I've been fighting my neighbour for nearly a year now. Their addicted to cannabis and the smell rises up and makes my flat stink. I've got on to housing association, environmental health, police and my MP and nothing has been done about it. I'm now at breaking point where it's affecting my health
Jeedai - 15-Dec-20 @ 12:42 PM
Yes it's so heart breaking to listen to these stories but I'm encouraged that I'm not alone either. Certainly it's best to stay calm and not overreact to thier issues and only do this if your personal safety' is compromise. Best to move if you can if bot battle down the hatches and accept they are just not worth it.and dont show fear they thrive in that as most are sad little bullies with very sad small lives and are jealous. Certainly dint look at evil in the face blank them get them out your mind try and do your normal activities however difficult that may be ..show them your not bothered go.out park your car outside show them you have a life... Pray to God for delivery from evil and pray they may change but be firm and do realise they probably wont change and your wasting your time trying to be kind to them..they hate you and are cowards licking on perceived weaknesses.Give then no information whatsoever about you or your life or family watch out for others enabling them and feeding them gossip while pretending to be your friend. Blessed are the persecuted because they will see God and inherit eternal life ..forgive then Father for they do not know what they do...
Fluffy - 14-Dec-20 @ 7:30 PM
My neighbours have been making comments when I’m in the garden about my clothes on the washing saying there cheap clothes and calling me fat. It’s been off going on for quite awhileignore at First,As I thought theyhad some one of personality disorder. Its somebodythats nasty and knows what there doing.Making someone feel stressed up set. They have given me A nervous breakdown force me to end My tenancy because it’s end . I can’t take no more it’s costing me money to do this it’s not fair. All I’ve done is try to stick up for myselfand they havelied to the police. I don’t even talk to these people they very off and on with me sometimes a hello or just blankme I try to avoid them at allcosts. I think it is a really vile people narcissist100% like gas lighting people. Thenmake out theyhaven’t done anything when they are questioned .Can I sue these people for Emotionalabuse And financial loss i have had to move before my tenancy agreements has ended
Very cruel world - 13-Dec-20 @ 2:51 PM
I live above a man who has mental health problems, he owns his flat and I have been in contact with police and council and nothing has worked! He shouts vile things at random times of the day, including early hours of the morning, middle of the night, hes been on one all weekend this one just gone and hes still on it no! He swears, threatens and screams to the voices he hears. He can go on rants just having loud conversations about big brother watching. He then plays the radio, TV or blasts 3 different types of music at once. I hear it all. He could go quiet for a few days then he'll start all over again. Ive lived with this for 18 months and so has my 12 Yr old son. Its taking a real toll on us now, I feel at breaking point, I feel I have no where to turn and I dont have the money to move out of here. Im stuck here having to listen to it all the time! I cant live like this anymore and I need help!
Rach - 23-Nov-20 @ 5:06 PM
My neighbor's has justlost his wifevery sad Time for him I live a flat above him I don'tmake any noise , just recently he leaving things down stairsin the hallso I may fall on them as I have a bad back so I worry I live by my self .. he has startedto follow me in his car when I go shopping he has done so many thing to annoy me but I haven'tsaid any thing to him.. it's like he is taking it out on me because his wife. Past away .
Sue - 19-Nov-20 @ 2:44 PM
How does one deal with neighbours that are making claims about you that are untrue?
Sad - 12-Nov-20 @ 8:37 PM
Hi, I live on my own and have an eccentric older neighbour.When I moved in she was so welcoming. I took her shopping, helped her out with various things.The last two years she had become very difficult to deal with.The first dispute was about the fence .She doesn't approach things in a calm way but adopts a very beligerent attitude.I ended up replacing the fence and made it higher so I had privacy.Today she band on the door and said 'Can you move your car, I'm struggling to work round there and I don't need struggle .I've been struggling for years'.She goes round the back and hammers the nails in her fence and fiddles around with the verge of grass.I really do not like the way she speaks to me , I make no noise at all and find myself taking a different route if she is out the front.I just want a quiet life.Of course she has no family and is a hoarder.The house and garden are completely overrun .I have thought of moving but I like this house.I spend a lot of time on my own especially as we are in lockdown and it does get me down.Thanks for listening.
Bernie 66 - 8-Nov-20 @ 5:57 PM
Hi I feel so low. My neighbour hates me and calls me a prostitute. I work with vulnerable people . She keeps shouting and I hate it. The other day I lost my temper and knocked on her door and said stop doing this. I feel they are wanting me out she keeps saying really horrible things to her partner about me and her young daughter does also. I love my little flat and am getting depressed. She shouts vile things and I’m so sad
Saz - 3-Nov-20 @ 2:57 AM
First of all I completely empathise with all the fed up people on this forum. I never post of these things but just need an outlet which I’m sure is the case for everyone else. Right, where to start? We’ve had new tenants move onto our road and they have been nothing short of a nightmare. Where to start? What can only be described as mini wars in the street we’ve had chairs being flung in the street, parking cones and bats being swung resulting in the police showing up and arresting one of them (this was on two separate occasions just so you all have an idea that this happened more than once), several events of racial abuse (called a neighbour a black m*nkey), placing cones outside of their property where they think they have the right to park despite being told several times they don’t have the right as it’s not a dropped kerb. Regarding the latter, they were screaming at a driver who attempted to remove the cones claiming it’s their right to park outside of their house because “the blacks get to park outside of their house” referring to me and my neighbour who both have drives and dropped kerbs. They have several cars for that one property and become very angry when told they cannot park outside of a property that has a dropped kerb. They slam doors at night and make a lot of noise as they come and go. I just want them gone so we can all get our peaceful and intimidation-free road back. Good luck everyone x
Totally fed up - 28-Oct-20 @ 9:32 PM
Hi we have a neighbour that is harassing us with wood smoke. We made the initial error of asking him nicely to please stop the heavy smoke from coming into our home. He saw RED and has defamed us around the neighbourhood, thrown dead rats over the fence, verbal abuse, has his visitors yell at us, his mates come around and glare at us from their cars, told me to get inside when I was only placing rubbish in bin, soaked me with his hose because he heard the bin lid go up, sent letters saying we poisoned his trees, then sent a letter of demand for $2500.00. The poisoning threats came after we advised him that his tree roots had lifted our path. We went to the council asking for help over the smoke issue, reluctant to assist, went to the Police, told we needed a Restraining Order - Poke the bear - I don't think that is a good idea as he has firearms. Help - No help.
Moni - 17-Oct-20 @ 9:05 AM
I moved into a council property in June. The downstairs neighbour is really loud, all throughout the night. If it's not the TV, it's doors banging or she's hoovering, or shouting. I can't remember the amount of times I've been woken up, thinking my tv had turned itself on. It's like her TV is in my room. This is a purpose built block with concrete floors. I asked her twice, in the middle of the night, to please turn it down. Since then, she's reported me to the police for running an illegal childcare business (I had my granddaughter to stay), reported me for "having male visitors"( I had a takeaway delivery), she asked the old tenant to let himself into my home so that she could "see what's going on". She's reported me for suspected drug use, because I had a cigarette on my balcony. This person is making my life a misery. I've been in hospital with sleep deprivation psychosis. I'm now on medication. The council, so far, have not been bothered. They've treated me like the problem for complaining instead of investigating the problem. Another resident of this block knows exactly what this person is like. She has a history of it. Help. What do I do?
Mands - 14-Oct-20 @ 7:05 PM
My Neighbor (A)who has issue with me parking my car front of my own property since day 1 he keeps coming knocking on door every day other telling me to keep moving my car abit more back but I cannot do that due to my brothers car parked behide me and behide my brothers Neighbor(B) garageway which has to be clear every day we cannot block his driveway, i have been very paitent dealing with Neighbor (A) I have been ignoring him for so long but recently his bullied and insulted me one too many times, causing me to have to step out and have a heated discussion in my defense Everything Im doing parking on the street is legal, at what point does this behavior qualify as harassment and what can I do to get him of my back? However, while it is not illegal to park in front of my own house or anyone's else's house, it is certainly inconsiderate. Every homeowner likes the convience of being able to park in front of their own house.  Neighbor(A)the family have absolutley loads of room to park their car outside their house.  The wife and husband are choosing to be awkward.  If one of our cars are not outside our house they will park it front of our driveway space just to get some sort of reaction out of us. This leaves us nowhere else to park in the street other than park on opposite side of street which is a very high kerb and getting the car of that causes damage on my car & tires easily lose air and end up flat due to parking on high kerbs I can guarantee if we park over the entrance to theirs they will moan about it. But I choose not to do that as I do not want arguments with them as he is very aggressive, scary and frightening  I am not a confrontational person and these people have fiery aggressive tongues. I explained to police via 101 and personally the person I spoke to on the phone wasn't helpful or trying to understand my situation i felt as if he was taking sides since he got showen a video of me shouting while me and neighbour was arguing i also had proof of him shouting at me and coming so close to my face threatening to slap me across my face on this man probably falls in 50-55 age range arguing with me I am 29 years old he has 3 kids, kids who watch him argue and shouting so loud that you could hear him end of the street I feel like that is a very bad behaviour plus the kids watching and growing up around environment like that its awful he has no shame and certainly has some sort of issues with his brain his behaviour is very abnormal. He walks around my car multiple times through out the day keeps looking at my car all day everytime i get out the house he has his eyes on me looks out the bedroom window even if im returning home from going out etc like at 1,2 am  He threatening to slap me and get my legs broken takes var pictures of my car every other day and also of me I find it with creepy and strange behaviour  The police hasn't been much help instead police just telling me not to worry and its not a big deal you shou
Sapx - 2-Oct-20 @ 10:49 AM
Moved into a shared ownership flat around 5 years ago as it was the only way we could get on the property ladder. Worst decision i ever made and dont recommend it to anybody. What they dont tell you is you will be housed with absolute scum neighbours who will damage the property, stink the place out with drugs, play loud base music every night and scream and shout around 24-7. Housing association are quick to remind you that they own the building but yet are not interested in their tenants damaging their property or the law breaking that goes on. The police are useless and have called them multiple times but its not their problem. If i beat my neighbour up im sure they would not hesitate in coming out to get me. My wife has worked for the NHS during the pandemic, helping people then has to come home to the Jeremy Kyle flat block and endure no sleep before another long day at work.
JK - 1-Oct-20 @ 7:14 AM
I moved into my dream home in May 2018. A detached bungalow in a quiet cul de sac neighbourhood. It wasn't long until I realised that the dream was an nightmare. The next door neighbour plays LOUD bass music over most weekends nights, it starts around 23:30 and last until 06/07:00 the following morning. This summer I had enough of it and started phoning the council about it, they sent out a sheet and ask for all the previous dates/times the nuisance occurred, which I did & returned. They then gave me an out of hours number to phone when the music happens. When I phoned them they take all the details and then get someone from the "inside housing solutions" to phone me back, they then take all the details again and then send someone to attend the neighbourhood and witness the noise. This has happened twice already, I was lucky enough to speak to the same lady when I had to call for the secondtime. She confirmed she did attend and witnessed the noise, she confirmed that the resident was aggressive even though two police officers were with her. Tonight there's extra loud bass thumping music being played, I've just phoned the out of hours number again but they have "a new phone system" and I didn't speak to anyone from previous times that I had to call. It feels like I'm just getting nowhere. I get extreme anxiety when the weekends approach now and I'm depressed all the time. I beginning to hate myself for buying this property and all I want to do now is do it up, try and make a bit of profit and sell it ASAP. Either that or smash my neighbours skull in and peed insanity.
WJ - 5-Sep-20 @ 6:26 AM
I moved into my dream home in May 2018. A detached bungalow in a quiet cul de sac neighbourhood. It wasn't long until I realised that the dream was an nightmare. The next door neighbour plays LOUD bass music over most weekends nights, it starts around 23:30 and last until 06/07:00 the following morning. This summer I had enough of it and started phoning the council about it, they sent out a sheet and ask for all the previous dates/times the nuisance occurred, which I did & returned. They then gave me an out of hours number to phone when the music happens. When I phoned them they take all the details and then get someone from the "inside housing solutions" to phone me back, they then take all the details again and then send someone to attend the neighbourhood and witness the noise. This has happened twice already, I was lucky enough to speak to the same lady when I had to call for the secondtime. She confirmed she did attend and witnessed the noise, she confirmed that the resident was aggressive even though two police officers were with her. Tonight there's extra loud bass thumping music being played, I've just phoned the out of hours number again but they have "a new phone system" and I didn't speak to anyone from previous times that I had to call. It feels like I'm just getting nowhere. I get extreme anxiety when the weekends approach now and I'm depressed all the time. I beginning to hate myself for buying this property and all I want to do now is do it up, try and make a bit of profit and sell it ASAP. Either that or smash my neighbours skull in and peed insanity.
WJ - 5-Sep-20 @ 6:24 AM
I moved into my dream home in May 2018. A detached bungalow in a quiet cul de sac neighbourhood. It wasn't long until I realised that the dream was an nightmare. The next door neighbour plays LOUD bass music over most weekends nights, it starts around 23:30 and last until 06/07:00 the following morning. This summer I had enough of it and started phoning the council about it, they sent out a sheet and ask for all the previous dates/times the nuisance occurred, which I did & returned. They then gave me an out of hours number to phone when the music happens. When I phoned them they take all the details and then get someone from the "inside housing solutions" to phone me back, they then take all the details again and then send someone to attend the neighbourhood and witness the noise. This has happened twice already, I was lucky enough to speak to the same lady when I had to call for the secondtime. She confirmed she did attend and witnessed the noise, she confirmed that the resident was aggressive even though two police officers were with her. Tonight there's extra loud bass thumping music being played, I've just phoned the out of hours number again but they have "a new phone system" and I didn't speak to anyone from previous times that I had to call. It feels like I'm just getting nowhere. I get extreme anxiety when the weekends approach now and I'm depressed all the time. I beginning to hate myself for buying this property and all I want to do now is do it up, try and make a bit of profit and sell it ASAP. Either that or smash my neighbours skull in and peed insanity.
WJ - 5-Sep-20 @ 6:23 AM
I moved into my dream home in May 2018. A detached bungalow in a quiet cul de sac neighbourhood. It wasn't long until I realised that the dream was an nightmare. The next door neighbour plays LOUD bass music over most weekends nights, it starts around 23:30 and last until 06/07:00 the following morning. This summer I had enough of it and started phoning the council about it, they sent out a sheet and ask for all the previous dates/times the nuisance occurred, which I did & returned. They then gave me an out of hours number to phone when the music happens. When I phoned them they take all the details and then get someone from the "inside housing solutions" to phone me back, they then take all the details again and then send someone to attend the neighbourhood and witness the noise. This has happened twice already, I was lucky enough to speak to the same lady when I had to call for the secondtime. She confirmed she did attend and witnessed the noise, she confirmed that the resident was aggressive even though two police officers were with her. Tonight there's extra loud bass thumping music being played, I've just phoned the out of hours number again but they have "a new phone system" and I didn't speak to anyone from previous times that I had to call. It feels like I'm just getting nowhere. I get extreme anxiety when the weekends approach now and I'm depressed all the time. I beginning to hate myself for buying this property and all I want to do now is do it up, try and make a bit of profit and sell it ASAP. Either that or smash my neighbours skull in and peed insanity.
WJ - 5-Sep-20 @ 12:51 AM
I moved into my dream home in May 2018. A detached bungalow in a quiet cul de sac neighbourhood. It wasn't long until I realised that the dream was an nightmare. The next door neighbour plays LOUD bass music over most weekends nights, it starts around 23:30 and last until 06/07:00 the following morning. This summer I had enough of it and started phoning the council about it, they sent out a sheet and ask for all the previous dates/times the nuisance occurred, which I did & returned. They then gave me an out of hours number to phone when the music happens. When I phoned them they take all the details and then get someone from the "inside housing solutions" to phone me back, they then take all the details again and then send someone to attend the neighbourhood and witness the noise. This has happened twice already, I was lucky enough to speak to the same lady when I had to call for the secondtime. She confirmed she did attend and witnessed the noise, she confirmed that the resident was aggressive even though two police officers were with her. Tonight there's extra loud bass thumping music being played, I've just phoned the out of hours number again but they have "a new phone system" and I didn't speak to anyone from previous times that I had to call. It feels like I'm just getting nowhere. I get extreme anxiety when the weekends approach now and I'm depressed all the time. I beginning to hate myself for buying this property and all I want to do now is do it up, try and make a bit of profit and sell it ASAP. Either that or smash my neighbours skull in and peed insanity.
WJ - 5-Sep-20 @ 12:51 AM
Me and partner finally able to afford to buy a house after years live in council house. We moved to our new house in January with our 2 boys. (4 years old and 10 years old with Autism) Beginning of May during lockdown, police turned up at next door neighbour. Because someone in the street call the police, she left her children (can’t be older than 10) alone all day and late night with a dog and 3 cats (found out from other neighbour) She thought it was us, who called the police. That’s when the problems started. Instead of children left alone, she left the dog barking continually at least 12 hours a day. Poor dog. We have left her a note about the dog barking said, are you aware that when you are out, your dog have been barking all day sound like it’s in distress. Please can you find a sitter for the dog. She came to my door challenge me to call the police. Because of the dog barking noise.My autism child had to put headphone on all day because he can’t tolerate the noise. I had to take my boys out to their godmother house to get some peace. Also, she decided to clear out her house put all rubbish in front garden. I wish, I could attached photos on this comment. The smell of rubbish, cats and dog urine were really overwhelmed. There was blue bottle files infested and mice running out from her garden witness by neighbor from other side. My children wouldn’t go out in the back garden because of the smell from next door rubbish. The other day I took my washing out. She shouted aggressively in her language at me from her bedroom window.But then, housing officer called me to say that, his tenant are feeling victimizingby us because she’s foreign. I am foreign and I live and work in UK Since I wS young. I suffered badly from anxiety, I won’t go out to put washing out anymore.I cried so many times cause I wanted to move. But we spent all money we have on decorating the house. It’s our 1st family home but we couldn’t even enjoy it.
Boysmum - 20-Aug-20 @ 6:33 AM
Me and partner finally able to afford to buy a house after years live in council house. We moved to our new house in January with our 2 boys. (4 years old and 10 years old with Autism) Beginning of May during lockdown, police turned up at next door neighbour. Because someone in the street call the police, she left her children (can’t be older than 10) alone all day and late night with a dog and 3 cats (found out from other neighbour) She thought it was us, who called the police. That’s when the problems started. Instead of children left alone, she left the dog barking continually at least 12 hours a day. Poor dog. We have left her a note about the dog barking said, are you aware that when you are out, your dog have been barking all day sound like it’s in distress. Please can you find a sitter for the dog. She came to my door challenge me to call the police. Because of the dog barking noise.My autism child had to put headphone on all day because he can’t tolerate the noise. I had to take my boys out to their godmother house to get some peace. Also, she decided to clear out her house put all rubbish in front garden. I wish, I could attached photos on this comment. The smell of rubbish, cats and dog urine were really overwhelmed. There was blue bottle files infested and mice running out from her garden witness by neighbor from other side. My children wouldn’t go out in the back garden because of the smell from next door rubbish. The other day I took my washing out. She shouted aggressively in her language at me from her bedroom window.But then, housing officer called me to say that, his tenant are feeling victimizingby us because she’s foreign. I am foreign and I live and work in UK Since I wS young. I suffered badly from anxiety, I won’t go out to put washing out anymore.I cried so many times cause I wanted to move. But we spent all money we have on decorating the house. It’s our 1st family home but we couldn’t even enjoy it.
Boysmum - 20-Aug-20 @ 12:17 AM
Hi everyone Just wanted to say a huge thank you Magian A'dah for all your amazing advice. Thanks to your advice my partner who had parted from me is now my fiancé and we are getting married this week. I continue to apply the great things I’ve learnt to my relationship daily and words cannot explain how happy we both are. I am so grateful for all you have done and want to wish you all the best in your endeavours. For help info ( mag1an@protonmail . ch ) Thanks a million!!! Teena ??
Teena - 12-Aug-20 @ 9:36 AM
I feel so sorry for you all.there is nothing worse than having a nightmare neighbour.i have lived on my lovely st for 20yrs and endured non stop antagonistic behavior and comments from a very nasty lady opposite.she comes out of her house if I'm outside and just stares at me looking for a reaction.she is also spreading false claims about myself and other neighbours on Facebook local groups.any advice would be appreciated.thanks
ANGRY - 8-Aug-20 @ 10:59 AM
I bought my maisonette 12 years ago, new neighbors bought the flat down stairs. We have a communal garden. They knocked out there back window and put in a patio door into the garden what is always open when they are in .and have blocked the entrance to the garden so there dog ( bull mastiff) can run around and poo everywhere, and they do not clean it up, if I say anything I am threatened by them he is a very nasty person. They have put all there old patio furniture large tool cabinet and rubbish out there. I’m a 62 year old man living alone, they are a lot younger then me. I need help, what can I do.
Jim - 2-Aug-20 @ 8:11 PM
My situation is a bit different to some of yours. Moved into the property a year ago and this new neighbour moved in feb and she has two children who live above us. She is different ethnicity and has tries to use the language as a barrier however she speaks perfect English. Her children are jumping of furniture as is cracking my ceiling and they are running and shouting at 2,3,4,5 am and we hear them bright as day. I work within the healthcare system and deal with medication and I need to be alert and focused when it comes to my job. I am not getting sleep and she doesn’t even ask her children to stop, it gets to the point I can’t even hear myself think and it makes me really ill some days, I just cry because I have had enough. Her answer to the problems at the beginning was keep complaining I want a house, and hopefully she will get moved. Now when I try to talk to her and knock on her door to ask them to please either quiten down so I can sleep, she calls the police saying she feels threatened and she doesn’t want to be here; I then have the police at the door and it’s becoming a joke, the council won’t do anything and say I have to put up with it. I’m stuck on what to do, I can’t even try and house swap because they will stand in my front room for 10 minutes and be disgusted and will not want to live here.
Abi - 31-Jul-20 @ 2:22 AM
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