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Hints and Tips on Dealing With Troublesome Neighbours

By: Sarah Clark (ILEX) - Updated: 18 Jan 2017 | comments*Discuss
 
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We all hope that our neighbours are going to be friendly and reasonable, but unfortunately some people just aren’t easy to get along with. While being tolerant is the key, there can be a point where tolerance is no longer an option and you really have to start dealing with any problems you’re having.

First Steps in Neighbour Disputes

Neighbourhood Disputes Are Common and it is always advisable to try the softly, softly approach first, instead of going in all guns blazing. Don’t approach a problem when you’ve had no sleep due to yours neighbours partying, or you’ve just found beer bottles thrown over your fence into your back garden.

Ask the offending neighbour if you can have a quiet word with them, and try to stay friendly. They may not have realised that you could hear so much, or that unruly children have been making a pest of themselves. Give them the benefit of the doubt and see if you can resolve any niggling issues without any bad feeling.

If you feel intimidated by your neighbour, you could always try writing a letter, rather than speaking to them face to face. Of course, some bad neighbours just don’t care what they do, and in this case you probably don’t want to inflame the situation, so you might want to try another tactic to deal with the problems. Don’t suffer in silence – there are avenues to go down for help.

Involving Other People in the Dispute

Because problem neighbours are sadly a fact of life in many towns, there are dedicated Neighbour Conciliation and Mediation services now on offer, which aim to try to Mediate Between Neighbours who can’t reach an amicable solution to their issues.

You should be able to find your local service through your local council website or helpline.

Keeping Notes of Everything

Once things have escalated to the point where you can’t resolve a dispute amicably, you need to start keeping evidence of why the neighbour’s behaviour is bad enough to warrant further action or mediation.

Make a note of every incident that bothers you – noise, mess, anti-social behaviour, and anything you think that should be included. Photographs, video, anything that proves your case will be useful – but be careful taking pictures of people as this could inflame the situation if you’re caught! If you write any letters, keep copies.

What to Do Next

Your first port of call is to Contact The Environmental Health Department of your local council. They will have policies and procedures in place to help you deal with problem neighbours, so ask what they are and whether you can see them.

You need to ask them if they will get involved on your behalf, and what you need to do to start action – all councils have slightly different ways of approaching the issue but they will all have some guidelines.

Legal Help with Problem Neighbours

Some house insurance policies include free legal advice services. so check your own policies to see whether you have access to any of these. They might be able to give you some good advice on the next steps if council intervention is getting you nowhere.

It might also be worthwhile trying to get a fixed fee legal appointment with a local solicitor, to see if they can help you by writing a letter to your neighbour. This is a last resort though – legal letters do have a way of inflaming already tense situations. Don’t start legal action unless you really have exhausted all other options.

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My neighbour is an old lady and often if not everyday she has her grandchildren to visit, they are two girls and two boys ranging from maybe ten to twelve and they're the worst kids I've met. They scream,they climb over the door instead of opening it which makes a lot of noise, the girls shout sexual comments at random guys on the street which is very disrespectful and dangerous. The other day my mom asked them nicely if they could keep it down and they started shouting horrible insults at her, my protective instinct kicked in and i might have insulted them back, and i really regret that cause they're kids, but they're awful. Their mother treats them like crap and also she has another baby and one time the baby hit himself with something and the mother told him to stop being retarded and shut up, i said to her that if she was going to be a bad mother, I'd appreciate she do that in a place where i couldn't hear her and she insulted me and threatened to be physically violent to me. I need help as I'm a very impulsive and unstable person and might act accordingly
Hate - 18-Jan-17 @ 5:04 PM
Hi, I have a problem with my downstairs neighbours who complains too much..we have just moved in a maisonette above theirs. On the first day we moved in, we noticed they have moved our bins and taken our spot from where the former owners of our house usually kept them. Then a week ago we had a very rude visit from them because I turned on the hoover at 9:30pm, admittedly I may be at fault with that but has started throwing accusations that we run our washing machine at all hours and every night, which was totally untrue as I only do my washing in the morning.. then last night we were watching tv which was turned to the lowest possible volume, we even have subtitles on because some words can't be heard properly when we heard them thumping on their ceiling which was our floor. That was only 10:30 in the evening. I don't know what to do anymore these past few days we have been trying to live as quietly as possible and with a toddler at that. But there's no pleasing them. I feel intimidated it's causing me a lot of stress.. it feels like we're not allowed to live a normal life. I need help dealing with bullying neighbours. Please advice me on what to do
Stressed mum - 14-Jan-17 @ 1:03 PM
Hi, I have a problem with my downstairs neighbours who complains too much..we have just moved in a maisonette above theirs. On the first day we moved in, we noticed they have moved our bins and taken our spot from where the former owners of our house usually kept them. Then a week ago we had a very rude visit from them because I turned on the hoover at 9:30pm, admittedly I may be at fault with that but has started throwing accusations that we run our washing machine at all hours and every night, which was totally untrue as I only do my washing in the morning.. then last night we were watching tv which was turned to the lowest possible volume, we even have subtitles on because some words can't be heard properly when we heard them thumping on their ceiling which was our floor. That was only 10:30 in the evening. I don't know what to do anymore these past few days we have been trying to live as quietly as possible and with a toddler at that. But there's no pleasing them. I feel intimidated it's causing me a lot of stress.. it feels like we're not allowed to live a normal life. I need help dealing with bullying neighbours. Please advice me on what to do
Stressed mum - 14-Jan-17 @ 11:47 AM
I Have a neighbor who doesn't at all allow us to do anything on the side of my house which is facing towards the neighbors house and she keeps on throwing her wastes and dirty water on my house
Babu - 30-Dec-16 @ 2:25 AM
Lucy - Your Question:
For years my neighbours & I were friendly but they have five cats living outdoors who kill all the birds in my garden. I've not complained about the damage to plants over the years, peeing right by my doors so I had to buy stones, doing their business in my flower beds or that one cat injured my dog's eye and it cost me nearly a thousand pounds to treat. I couldn't rest for fear the cats would kill again, I got to a point where the distress caused by the cats continually slaughtering on my property and my having to look after injured birds made me angry enough to ask them to try and keep their pets in at dawn and dusk so I could get some peace. I tried this nicely, explaining I love animals but told them the dead birds were theirs to dispose of not mine. They swore at me, told me I was mad (among other things) and pushed me off their doorstep after all the years of being neighbourly. Recently I got fed up as two bird corpses came over the fence so I gave them back. The neighbours came over to my property and began an abusive, rude rant that escalated into my being grabbed around the throat, pushed around, kicked and hit on the chin. They were scary women and totally rude.They are tenants on the property. Do I have any recourse to complain to someone about the physical, if not vocal, abuse? I am concerned for myself and my own pets. I should note I have two indoor cats who do not enter their property. Thank you

Our Response:
You should complain to the police about the assault obviously. It's worth having a word with their landlord about the other issues. Try some cat deterrents to keep the cats out of your garden.
ProblemNeighbours - 22-Nov-16 @ 10:11 AM
i can empathise with each and every one of you having been through it myself unless you have lived through the hell i dont think you can quite understand how anxious and depressed and even suicidal it can make you. the neighbour above me would play loud rap music sometimes up to 12 hours a day my walls would vibrate if he wasnt doing that it was loud computer games that sounded like thunder in my flat then he would have friends roud at midnight shouting then he would put the washing machine on spin at 3am as well as putting food and even human excrement on my doormat and shouting abuse at me in the street. i had another neighbour stalking me who would ring the buzer and tap and glair in my door at 5 minute intervals sometimes for hours at a time he would talk into my letterbox and i had to put a lock on the letterbox but that didnt stop him. i told the housing association they were not interested and environmental heathdid serve a noise abatment notice on the one upstairs but it didnt stop him and they didnt seem to want to do anything further to help me. i was scared to leave my flat and fearfull of both of them as i had the stalker creep up behind me on a number of occasions saying will i come and have a drink with him!well after 2 years of this hell i went to the police a nervous wreck they could see this although i have to say the noise problem they were not really interested in but the stalking they were. they got in touch with my housing association and i got moved within 3 months. but the housing would not have taken any notice if the police didnt tell them to move me. so all i can say is dont expect the council or housing association to take much notice of noise problems if you can get the police to take notice of you then you may have a chance. but like i say it was the neigbour that was stalking me that got me away from my sociopath neighbours. i have to add that when i went to police i had recorded this stalker knocking on my door and shouting in my letterbox if i hadnt i dont think they would have done much. unfortunatly they were not able to prosecute him as the glass in my door is frosted so they wouldnt have been able to prove it was him although they knew it was! so if you can get an video evidence to prove what is happening that will help as you cant rely on the council or housing associations to help you im afraid.
saraha - 21-Nov-16 @ 5:04 PM
For years my neighbours & I were friendly but they have five cats living outdoors who kill all the birds in my garden. I've not complained about the damage to plants over the years, peeing right by my doors so I had to buy stones, doing their business in my flower beds or that one cat injured my dog's eye and it cost me nearly a thousand pounds to treat. I couldn't rest for fear the cats would kill again, I got to a point where the distress caused by the cats continually slaughtering on my property and my having to look after injured birds made me angry enough to ask them to try and keep their pets in at dawn and dusk so I could get some peace. I tried this nicely, explaining I love animals but told them the dead birds were theirs to dispose of not mine. They swore at me, told me I was mad (among other things) and pushed me off their doorstep after all the years of being neighbourly. Recently I got fed up as two bird corpses came over the fence so I gave them back. The neighbours came over to my property and began an abusive, rude rant that escalated into my being grabbed around the throat, pushed around, kicked and hit on the chin.They were scary women and totally rude. They are tenants on the property. Do I have any recourse to complain to someone about the physical, if not vocal, abuse? I am concerned for myself and my own pets. I should note I have two indoor cats who do not enter their property. Thank you
Lucy - 21-Nov-16 @ 8:33 AM
Hi I have only been in my upstairs flat for a year this month and when i moved in it was great but since june this year i have a couple living below me and all they do is make loads of noise and bang ad slam doors all the time late at night. I think they take drugs too and i cant handle it anymore. I have phoned the police on them a couple of times but they cant do anything near can my local housing association and i don't know what to do anymore. Im not sleeping at night because of it. Help.
weekimmyxo - 11-Nov-16 @ 5:58 PM
The police around here are useless. I am sick and tired about complaining about my neighbours. I kept getting watched everwhere I go and I also have the person shouting out abuse to me. I am currently living in fear. I hardly ever go out
Ckeyte - 12-Oct-16 @ 11:06 PM
My neighbour is truly evil and its because i wouldnt be his friend he has made counter allegations against me all false now I am going to criminal courts over his lies. I am not even annoyed at him because he is just pure evil and nasty so its expected i am more saddned at the police and my housing associaiton and how stupid they are, funny i wasnt harrassing him until I reported him for things. and i am a female half his age he is a big fat 46yr old man after this experience something i do know is never contact the police for help all they do is arrest victims and they will always take the white persons side
sim - 4-Oct-16 @ 11:54 PM
Hello.I've had a Neighbour problem for years Now.A Couple that are Quite Not Right.There's A Bad Atmosphere in the Block of flats I live .Too others in the Block there So Friendly towards them and they slander Bad mouth me too them.They Hate me I know that.I don't know why No Reason .Or is it I'm kind Natured .they also spread stuff in town constantly and are horrible slander & poison.they watch and listen when I go in and out my flat .and use intimidating verbal threats etc.many a time truthfully I've wanted to retaliate but realise I'm stooping to there level.I've been to my housing association but always seemed to be thobbed off or the..you're world against mine.police have visited them 4 times .Nothing done!! So there free to Harrass more.I hate these people they cause so much misery.at the moment i m seeking a solicitor for injunction which I thinks a step in the right direction.these problems can be damaging and effect areas of you're life and become isolated .Don't take there Crap .Rise up seek the right help and evidence.jot down all incidents and hopefully .A Victory to nail people like this .Thanks :)
Deano777 - 1-Oct-16 @ 1:20 AM
Marilyn - Your Question:
Hi My neighbour has become involved with my ex husband and is intimidating me. The first thing he did was take my children twice and wouldn't let me see them. I called the police.On Sunday something was thrown at my bedroom window twice by the time I found a torch to look out I just saw his door opening and closing. Yesterday I walked outside my front door he was at my front gate on the road staring at me. There is an order for my ex husband not to intimidate me so I believe he is getting his friend to do it.

Our Response:
If you think this is the case, you should also mention this to the police.
ProblemNeighbours - 29-Sep-16 @ 11:15 AM
Hi My neighbour has become involved with my ex husband and is intimidating me. The first thing he did was take my children twice and wouldn't let me see them. I called the police. On Sunday something was thrown at my bedroom window twice by the time I found a torch to look out I just saw his door opening and closing. Yesterday I walked outside my front door he was at my front gate on the road staring at me. There is an order for my ex husband not to intimidate me so I believe he is getting his friend to do it.
Marilyn - 28-Sep-16 @ 1:12 PM
Patsy - Your Question:
We have neighbours opposite our house that make me feel intimidated. I will not open my living room blinds to clean my windows when I know they are home because they sit up in the bedroom looking down on me.I don't go out and clean my drive,because he watches me. He has gone to other neighbours in our street and told them things about my husband and me.I am at the end of my tether as this has gone on for more years than I care to remember. Please someone help me.

Our Response:
If you feel threatened by this behaviour but are not in any immediate danger, contact you local police on 101. Make sure you have some evidence of what's been said if you think he has talked about you to you neighbours. You will also have to prove that they're not simply looking out of their windows rather than just "watching you". Our article on How to Deal with A Neighbour Stalking You might also help.
ProblemNeighbours - 28-Sep-16 @ 12:27 PM
I wish to report a neighbour,who has been stamping up and down stairs loudly , shouting,intimidating and bringing back his girlfriend and her kids till early hours,which is affecting the whole block, we have all reported them more than once, can you help
Dez - 27-Sep-16 @ 8:08 PM
We have neighbours opposite our house that make me feel intimidated. I will not open my living room blinds to clean my windows when I know they are home because they sit up in the bedroom looking down on me.I don't go out and clean my drive,because he watches me. He hasgone to other neighbours in our street and told them things about my husband and me.I am at the end of my tether as this has gone on for more years than I care to remember. Please someone help me.
Patsy - 27-Sep-16 @ 3:07 PM
Been dealing with a neighbor terrorising me I live alone so, he has been getting away with what he has been doing. due to fact my neighbor was deaf, then passed away recently he continued to cause me hell. He asked me out when he moved in I said no he has followed me insisting I had led him on, telling people I had and somehow thinks we are close. yes its disturbing.its so insane its hard to get my head around. christmas he was banging my door asking to come in I said no so he decided to try to take his life on my doormat I had to ring the police. he then tried again in july of this year, he cut his wrists and I had blood all up my door wall and doormat needless to say i was traumatised and locked myself in not wanting to go anywhere due to him banging on my wall screaming and pacing up down stairs im petrified of him.he knows I am and he enjoys it he even walks in the hallway with nothing on and its disgusting. This man is a worry.. I have only ever twice been polite or spoken to him when moved in welcoming him to the area nothing more nothing less and left a gift for the cat for his flatmates he took it the wrong way a complete 360 and it was then I knew I was in great trouble with this man. he has damaged the communal wall stairwell, tipped ashtray on my doormat, larger, damaged the wall with a spirit level ( I know sounds odd but caught him with this in his hand banging ti on my wall. he was before banging on the wall with various things to wake me up as knows my bedroom is near that wall. id say to him leave me alone. he said I knew you were in bed as your light is out. I finally threw my door open today said im ringing the police im doing what I can but evidence against him is thin he is terroising me and as I live alone I get told by council that its communal area and people make noise could be anyone no evidence as live alone.other neighbor is his friend so cant get anyone to stand up for me except me, cant move as cant afford to right now not an option I like my place im in. when I can getnough money ti will be an option. its like the film called the resident anyone seen this film with Hilary swank basically my neighbour is that dangerous. he does drugs sells then been in prison in 2003 for this now bought the property i imagine from his drug cash God knows why its allowed. but hey what we put up with.I wish I had a boyfriend or was married so had someone to protect me, yet im thinking there is nobody decent out there this is absolute hell what can I do? council wont do a thing a she owns the place. help this has been ongoing since june 2015. ive told him enough is enough tonight. polcie are here like clockwork due to him nothing gets done he gets warned smirks says no officer shes crazy im doing nothing. a single female on her own...a target for this kind of thing yes. I just want to feel safe im scared.
Tammy - 20-Sep-16 @ 12:08 AM
I live with my family in a house with another family on rent.they are so bad.they always abuse and doing wrong things indirectly. What can I do? Please suggests.
shallu - 10-Sep-16 @ 12:39 PM
I done a exchange,from 3 bedroom house 4 months ago, the council nor the man never told me the woman above me had already been visited from the ASB team, she bangs till early hours, I have mental health problems and panic a lot,i have called ASB team out which has made her worse, she been in her property for 6 years and won't buy Carpet because she hates it there, I was rushed away 2 weeks ago,i just wanted everything to stop,i keep being told she young she can't afford Carpet,plus she got a cat which she leaves to run round above my bedroom for hours,im now bk under the mental health services,and after putting all my savings into this beautiful flat which all my children live round here,iv been told I might be moved which probably be away from all the help I get,my children no what going on and are so upset as this was my forever place,dont no how to deal with this as she got her music on and is banging why im writing this, wish someone could help,think we should all call WM radio station,maybe they could help,he good helping with everything he brings to light
0121traceyooo - 7-Sep-16 @ 9:09 PM
My neighbours have been verbal abusive for years. The mother mannerism, language and persona is aggressive and her adult daughter is the same but a lot more backward and immature. Their girlfriends are equally bad or worse. They film, shout at my children from their window. They thrown rubbish in our garden. The are loud in their own garden, with foul language. We are surrounded by eldery residence. They have no consideration or respect for other people. When they hear us in our garden it's intimation from the start. They lie and make out we are harressing them to the police. The go on social media talking about abusing my children and how fun this will be. Now they are verbally abusing my children in the street. Before its always been in the back garden where there was safety with the fence. Now the step over the boundary and doing it where there is no safety. Been to police and housing association but no one wants to know. I feel their next step will be physical and I fear they will hurt my children.Why do people like y his walk this earth.
Hadenough - 2-Sep-16 @ 12:49 PM
I moved into a new home about a year ago which I own. The house next door was sold as a buy to let and an Asian family moved in about 4 months ago and commenced to make my peaceful life a misery. I started off by taking in parcel after parcel from them without even knowing who they where. When they finally knocked, they made me feel like I was taking advantage of their goods(?) They produce an enormous amount of rubbish and utilised my bins so that I can no longer leave them in the communal area but have to lock them in my garden. They had the phone put in and mine was dismantled in the process. They continually block access to my drive. They wash up outside the front door and throw the dirty water down the air vent at the side of the house and an hour before it started, they thought to tell me there was going to be a huge wedding held over a two day period this past bank holiday w/e. The noise was such that I had to find somewhere else to stay and fight my way through all their guests crammed into the communal entrance way to the two houses. To say I feel intimidated with all the carryings on would put it mildly. I feel they are taking advantage of the fact that I am elderly and live on my own. Any ideas what I can do to encourage them to stay in their own property and not take any more liberties?
Intimidated - 28-Aug-16 @ 2:35 PM
Hi, does anyone have any advice about stopping 4-5 neighbor mums gathering under my window every day with kids swimming pool and noisy 7-8 kids of different age? Quite often they play loud music too however not for a long time. But constant kids screeming for 5-7 hours every day is unbearable. I asked them to move that swimming pool elsewhere but all I got was blank stares.. Other neighbors already complained to council but they didn't do much (Can they actually do anything?). What rights do I have and is it possible to make that area unpleasant for them to gather without breaching the law? Thanks
maya - 24-Aug-16 @ 5:33 PM
I have a neighbor like yours but way worse. If a neighbor keeps it up get them on camera. Hire an attorney put them in a Tort Civil suit. My neighbor has been a persistent thorn in my side for 15 years Maybe in your case you should threaten physical harm directly to the Neighbors Cat directly privately. I have a friend who threatened a neighbors cat. I nearly died laughing but the cat stopped and his wife confirmed the story
Thaddeus - 4-Aug-16 @ 4:09 AM
As a Christian, I pray for my troubled neighbor.He has boys he manipulates to cause problems for us. Just pray for them and don't let the devil manipulate you as this man has so many problems.
Frustrated - 28-Jul-16 @ 9:14 PM
My partner and I live in leeds, his neighbours however are just mental.We can't Hoover up on a morning 9, 10 or sometimes 11 but its his routine , their renting from a landlord . ( a landlord what doesent care who lives in his property) giving it to druggie after druggie after druggie. We are currently involved with the ASB team but they seem to be more on their side than ours, they make false accusations simply because theirve obviously nothing better to do with their lives, up all night smoking dope , dog roughlooking dealers and family members going knocking for money and smack , I do feel sorry for them because I think all they want is love but dont have it from their family'sbut its not our fault that they don't have it. We just want to live the life we like without any aggro. Specially with them sending men with bats to the door and screaming abuse at the walls.We've told friends and theirve been like oh id knock them clean out but we aren't violent people so we wouldent give them the satisfaction. The council are useless , but one day we'll bid on Leeds homes and win a property what's even better for us . That's what you've gotta think I suppose. And theirll move on to whoever moves in after probably , hopefully the new tenants have a kid with temper tantrums and wakes them up haha. Karma will come . It always does
Fozzy - 22-Jun-16 @ 8:32 PM
They'reruingingmyli - Your Question:
I live in a private flat inside a council block. The neighbours in the flat below me are vile. The mother has three children under 4 years old, all with different men, and the youngest child's dad is an ex convict and is now living there too. The boyfriend is abusive and I have heard them physically fighting. They argue on a daily basis and the children's cries are often neglected. The children are shouted and sworn at and called names such as 'dirty little cow', and the mother is just as bad as the boyfriend. I have had to call the police about the noise of her music going on until the early hours. The boyfriend's voice is so loud, and his grammar is the poorest I've heard. All day I can't relax and enjoy my home which I've made very nice and comfortable, because of his deep loud voice and the idiotic things he comes out with. Both of the adults seem like complete morons. The fly tip there furniture down in the bin room and I saw the mother open her boyfriend car door and drop her empty can of drink on the floor in the car park outside! I live on my own with my toddler son and it's really getting me down. My son says 'baby' out of concern when he hears them crying. I do worry for mine and my sons safety after reporting them to social services, but it is the right thing to do because they are a severely dysfunctional family, and they think they are normal and fine. I've sent several emails to the council asking for help to move me out of here. I just want to go. I was forced to take this flat as I was on the homeless housing register, and if I turned it down the council said they would not help me anymore. If I had the money for a deposit and lettings agency fees, I'd move out of here tomorrow. What else can I do to make the council see that living here is not suitable for me and I need to be moved. The family below see no error in their ways and will never change, so it's not fair for me to have to live with their behaviour. There is no sound proofing. I find myself constantly listening in when I hear raised voices or thumping to check that they're not fighting. They slam their doors when rowing and it shakes my flat. They also don't have an ounce of consideration when putting their washing machine on at 11pm! To add to it, they've got another man staying there adding to the noise and the hype, and also a new puppy!

Our Response:
Have social services done anything? Does the council know about the social services' involvement? Who is your landlord? Can they do anything/contact the council on your behalf? Contact your local councillor and see if they can help with your re-housing application etc.
ProblemNeighbours - 21-Jun-16 @ 2:03 PM
They'reruingingmyli: perhaps try seeking advice from the Citizens advice bureau. If the neighbours have another man staying there, inform the council as he might not have the right to be there. Can you not tell social services about the neglect and cruelty to the poor children? (I think there are anonymous phone lines). I feel sorry for your little boy hearing other children distressed. Perhaps keep a diary of it all.
poppydog1 - 20-Jun-16 @ 11:17 PM
I live in a private flat inside a council block. The neighbours in the flat below me are vile. The mother has three children under 4 years old, all with different men, and the youngest child's dad is an ex convict and is now living there too. The boyfriend is abusive and I have heard them physically fighting. They argue on a daily basis and the children's cries are often neglected. The children are shouted and sworn at and called names such as 'dirty little cow', and the mother is just as bad as the boyfriend. I have had to call the police about the noise of her music going on until the early hours. The boyfriend's voice is so loud, and his grammar is the poorest I've heard. All day I can't relax and enjoy my home which I've made very nice and comfortable, because of his deep loud voice and the idiotic things he comes out with. Both of the adults seem like complete morons. The fly tip there furniture down in the bin room and I saw the mother open her boyfriend car door and drop her empty can of drink on the floor in the car park outside! I live on my own with my toddler son and it's really getting me down. My son says 'baby' out of concern when he hears them crying. I do worry for mine and my sons safety after reporting them to social services, but it is the right thing to do because they are a severely dysfunctional family, and they think they are normal and fine. I've sent several emails to the council asking for help to move me out of here. I just want to go. I was forced to take this flat as I was on the homeless housing register, and if I turned it down the council said they would not help me anymore. If I had the money for a deposit and lettings agency fees, I'd move out of here tomorrow. What else can I do to make the council see that living here is not suitable for me and I need to be moved. The family below see no error in their ways and will never change, so it's not fair for me to have to live with their behaviour. There is no sound proofing. I find myself constantly listening in when I hear raised voices or thumping to check that they're not fighting. They slam their doors when rowing and it shakes my flat. They also don't have an ounce of consideration when putting their washing machine on at 11pm! To add to it, they've got another man staying there adding to the noise and the hype, and also a new puppy!
They'reruingingmyli - 20-Jun-16 @ 9:14 PM
Ididnothingwrong - Your Question:
2 years of unprovoked harrassment so far. They live opposite.Started with horn blasts every other day as they drove past.Then after asking them nicely horns everyday.Then after saying it's still a prob they increased up to 40 times a day.Then loud bassy music from house too.Then they got a subwoofer for their car aswell.Then started banging on bins and random objects with hammers from 7am - 11pm. Friends and own car revving with wide exhaust drone. Shouting c*nt towards our property.Making more noise when we have curtains open so we don't open them now.Wheelspins in their car.Setting off car alarm at 3amRevving moped and rising up and down.I can't relax.I can't even take a poo I'm constantly stress constipated.Fam+friends have stopped liking me as I complain about it.Police will do nothing, council closed my case.I'm starting to think I might have to end my life to make it stop.I keep imagining myself poking my eardrums out with needles.I keep imagining conversations with my neighbour in my head pleading for them to leave me alone.Whenever I hear a car come down the street or see the light reflecting on my ceiling my heart races expecting the noiseI can't function like this.

Our Response:
If you are unhappy with the way the police and the council have treated your complaint it might be worth taking this further...speaking to your MP or complaining to the Local Government Ombudsman.
ProblemNeighbours - 14-Jun-16 @ 2:33 PM
2 years of unprovoked harrassment so far. They live opposite. Started with horn blasts every other day as they drove past. Then after asking them nicely horns everyday. Then after saying it's still a prob they increased up to 40 times a day. Then loud bassy music from house too. Then they got a subwoofer for their car aswell. Then started banging on bins and random objects with hammers from 7am - 11pm. Friends and own car revving with wide exhaust drone. Shouting c*nt towards our property. Making more noise when we have curtains open so we don't open them now. Wheelspins in their car. Setting off car alarm at 3am Revving moped and rising up and down. I can't relax. I can't even take a poo i'm constantly stress constipated. Fam+friends have stopped liking me as I complain about it. Police will do nothing, council closed my case. I'm starting to think i might have to end my life to make it stop. I keep imagining myself poking my eardrums out with needles. I keep imagining conversations with my neighbour in my head pleading for them to leave me alone. Whenever I hear a car come down the street or see the light reflecting on my ceiling my heart races expecting the noise I can't function like this.
Ididnothingwrong - 13-Jun-16 @ 9:55 AM
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