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Hints and Tips on Dealing With Troublesome Neighbours

By: Sarah Clark (ILEX) - Updated: 28 May 2020 | comments*Discuss
 
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We all hope that our neighbours are going to be friendly and reasonable, but unfortunately some people just aren’t easy to get along with. While being tolerant is the key, there can be a point where tolerance is no longer an option and you really have to start dealing with any problems you’re having.

First Steps in Neighbour Disputes

Neighbourhood Disputes Are Common and it is always advisable to try the softly, softly approach first, instead of going in all guns blazing. Don’t approach a problem when you’ve had no sleep due to yours neighbours partying, or you’ve just found beer bottles thrown over your fence into your back garden.

1. A Gentle Request

Ask the offending neighbour if you can have a quiet word with them, and try to stay friendly. They may not have realised that you could hear so much, or that unruly children have been making a pest of themselves. Give them the benefit of the doubt and see if you can resolve any niggling issues without any bad feeling.

2. A Letter or Note

If you feel intimidated by your neighbour, you could always try writing a letter, rather than speaking to them face to face - Here are some templates we've produced to help you. Of course, some bad neighbours just don’t care what they do, and in this case you probably don’t want to inflame the situation, so you might want to try another tactic to deal with the problems. Don’t suffer in silence – there are avenues to go down for help.

3. Mediation/Involving Other People

Because problem neighbours are sadly a fact of life in many towns, there are dedicated Neighbour Conciliation and Mediation services now on offer, which aim to try to Mediate Between Neighbours who can’t reach an amicable solution to their issues.

You should be able to find your local service through your local council website or helpline.

4. Keep a Record of Everything

Once things have escalated to the point where you can’t resolve a dispute amicably, you need to start keeping evidence of why the neighbour’s behaviour is bad enough to warrant further action or mediation.

Make a note of every incident that bothers you – noise, mess, anti-social behaviour, and anything you think that should be included. Photographs, video, anything that proves your case will be useful – but be careful taking pictures of people as this could inflame the situation if you’re caught! If you write any letters, keep copies.

5. Environmental Health

Your first port of call is to Contact The Environmental Health Department of your local council. They will have policies and procedures in place to help you deal with problem neighbours, so ask what they are and whether you can see them.

You need to ask them if they will get involved on your behalf, and what you need to do to start action – all councils have slightly different ways of approaching the issue but they will all have some guidelines.

6. Legal Help with Problem Neighbours

Some house insurance policies include free legal advice services. so check your own policies to see whether you have access to any of these. They might be able to give you some good advice on the next steps if council intervention is getting you nowhere.

It might also be worthwhile trying to get a fixed fee legal appointment with a local solicitor, to see if they can help you by writing a letter to your neighbour. This is a last resort though – legal letters do have a way of inflaming already tense situations. Don’t start legal action unless you really have exhausted all other options.

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Yeah I fully understand and agree with you as I'm dealing with my unruly neighbour and her child, which they seem to think they can say or do anything and there's no consequences. Very good liars and pretending there the victims. We live in the same block so the situation is very tense. At my wits end. Hoping police will me with this. ????
Rach - 21-May-20 @ 11:26 PM
Some teenagers moved into a flat below me and were playing loud music every night around 11pm to 1am.I put up with it for ages but then made a complaint to my council and they wrote them a letter.This was in feburary. I didnt feel i could approach them as they were always shouting and swearing and i am a single mum to an 8 year old (who was always being woken up by this music). The music stopped for a while and everything was fine. Since the lockdown another person has joined them. They have started shouting and screaming (this is 2 months after the complaint) and saying that i do things to them. They have also involved another neighbour from upstairs (who also put in a complaint about these teenagers at the same time). This neighbour i would say is vunerable and has special needs. They all stand outside saying nasty things about me which are not true. My daughter is now having bad dreams about something happening to me although i have always tried to distract her while they are saying things. I have been keeping all my windows and doors shut in this heat just so we dont have to listen to them. I do have some evidence of the nastiness but just wondered how much evidence would it take for anyone to do something about it? I just cant cope any more, i feel like a prisoner in my own home, i also have an older daughter who is 28 and she is doing all my shopping and having to take my dog out for a walk as i feel i cant walk past their flat.
wits end - 8-May-20 @ 8:30 PM
Hi, We live in our own house.We are surrounded by tenants.The first reason for them to be against us is for the very fact that we own a house.With lot of struggles and hardships we built our home but these two families are literally behind us.They keep track of our movements,any noise from our home,visitors,always looking out for us,passing wierd comments,staring us and also they spoke very mean and bad things about us to other neighbours because of which nobody is speaking with us.They all have turned against us and these people are frauds.They do all sorts of cheap things but people support them,They keep lying ,secrets and secrets.They pretend to be good people but actually they are very bad people.They try to listen to what we speak or do.I feel that we have lost all our privacy,could someone please advice
mani - 5-May-20 @ 4:02 PM
I am in kind of the same situation. I moved into my rented property last September 2019.Evertyhing was OK, to start with. My neighbours down stairs were noisy, rude, and vulgar. This noise pollution carried on, on and on. I tried to resolve it, but found out it was the neighbours wife, who has starting causing problems with me and the other neighbours. They clearly, have sychlogical issues. It's awful when you pay your rent, your a good person but, you have to live with such nastiest. I am a journalist, who somehow, moved into my own private rented flat on an Housing Association site. I have always lived in private residential areas with disent neighbours. Anyway, as time moved to the Shutdown it's got worst. The other week before the first week of shutdown, the neighbours down stairs were nice to me when I walked to the shop. Then, I met a new friend who also lives on the estate. We became friends which was nice. As, all my mates and family are in London, so could not visit them. Soon after I made my new friend, the wife of the neighbour down stairs noticed, and now yet again, is causing more issues. I am not sure if, maybe something happened between them before I moved in. Eitherway, I am fed up. I tried and tried, but it's all back to the beginning. The only way that I can say to all of us in this time, dealing with nasty neighbours is to stay calm. Raise above them. Also, note everything down, inform the council. Take videos, or evidence. But, be careful if they are violent. I am so glad that you reported it. Touching a young girl like that is assault. Housing Association, needs to be dealing with those serious issues. Its up to them to make sure all residents are happy in there homes. Hopefully, when the shutdown is over they will find someone else to pick on. Or report it in your local paper. They soon will scarper. Best regards to all of you in this situation. I also think being in the shutdown, is making it more difficult. But, hopefully, guys when it's finally over it should fade out. Stay strong, remember you are all better than them. In my situation, I will wait after shutdown, and see what it's like then. If, it carries on I will report it directly to the Council. They seem to be on the ball! Good luck to all of you, and keep safe. One, last point if you go to the shop go before there awake. That way you will avoid them. That's what I am doing. ????????
Jazzy - 16-Apr-20 @ 2:19 PM
I am in kind of the same situation. I moved into my rented property last September 2019.Evertyhing was OK, to start with. My neighbours down stairs were noisy, rude, and vulgar. This noise pollution carried on, on and on. I tried to resolve it, but found out it was the neighbours wife, who has starting causing problems with me and the other neighbours. They clearly, have sychlogical issues. It's awful when you pay your rent, your a good person but, you have to live with such nastiest. I am a journalist, who somehow, moved into my own private rented flat on an Housing Association site. I have always lived in private residential areas with disent neighbours. Anyway, as time moved to the Shutdown it's got worst. The other week before the first week of shutdown, the neighbours down stairs were nice to me when I walked to the shop. Then, I met a new friend who also lives on the estate. We became friends which was nice. As, all my mates and family are in London, so could not visit them. Soon after I made my new friend, the wife of the neighbour down stairs noticed, and now yet again, is causing more issues. I am not sure if, maybe something happened between them before I moved in. Eitherway, I am fed up. I tried and tried, but it's all back to the beginning. The only way that I can say to all of us in this time, dealing with nasty neighbours is to stay calm. Raise above them. Also, note everything down, inform the council. Take videos, or evidence. But, be careful if they are violent. I am so glad that you reported it. Touching a young girl like that is assault. Housing Association, needs to be dealing with those serious issues. Its up to them to make sure all residents are happy in there homes. Hopefully, when the shutdown is over they will find someone else to pick on. Or report it in your local paper. They soon will scarper. Best regards to all of you in this situation. I also think being in the shutdown, is making it more difficult. But, hopefully, guys when it's finally over it should fade out. Stay strong, remember you are all better than them. In my situation, I will wait after shutdown, and see what it's like then. If, it carries on I will report it directly to the Council. They seem to be on the ball! Good luck to all of you, and keep safe. One, last point if you go to the shop go before there awake. That way you will avoid them. That's what I am doing. ????????
Jazzy - 16-Apr-20 @ 2:19 PM
I am in kind of the same situation. I moved into my rented property last September 2019.Evertyhing was OK, to start with. My neighbours down stairs were noisy, rude, and vulgar. This noise pollution carried on, on and on. I tried to resolve it, but found out it was the neighbours wife, who has starting causing problems with me and the other neighbours. They clearly, have sychlogical issues. It's awful when you pay your rent, your a good person but, you have to live with such nastiest. I am a journalist, who somehow, moved into my own private rented flat on an Housing Association site. I have always lived in private residential areas with disent neighbours. Anyway, as time moved to the Shutdown it's got worst. The other week before the first week of shutdown, the neighbours down stairs were nice to me when I walked to the shop. Then, I met a new friend who also lives on the estate. We became friends which was nice. As, all my mates and family are in London, so could not visit them. Soon after I made my new friend, the wife of the neighbour down stairs noticed, and now yet again, is causing more issues. I am not sure if, maybe something happened between them before I moved in. Eitherway, I am fed up. I tried and tried, but it's all back to the beginning. The only way that I can say to all of us in this time, dealing with nasty neighbours is to stay calm. Raise above them. Also, note everything down, inform the council. Take videos, or evidence. But, be careful if they are violent. I am so glad that you reported it. Touching a young girl like that is assault. Housing Association, needs to be dealing with those serious issues. Its up to them to make sure all residents are happy in there homes. Hopefully, when the shutdown is over they will find someone else to pick on. Or report it in your local paper. They soon will scarper. Best regards to all of you in this situation. I also think being in the shutdown, is making it more difficult. But, hopefully, guys when it's finally over it should fade out. Stay strong, remember you are all better than them. In my situation, I will wait after shutdown, and see what it's like then. If, it carries on I will report it directly to the Council. They seem to be on the ball! Good luck to all of you, and keep safe. One, last point if you go to the shop go before there awake. That way you will avoid them. That's what I am doing. ????????
Jazzy - 16-Apr-20 @ 2:12 PM
Where to start...Neighbours moved down from up north somewhere in Dec 2019...and OMG..it was lovely property..in the last 4 months or so its turned in to steptoe and sons knackers yard. Both back and front gardens are a tipping ground for anything and everything... They continue to shout abuse at each other the language is colourful for sure... They kid just screams all day.. Neither of them work apart from going to the store to get chips and cigarettes...Now with this Covid19 lockdown...week last Thursday this other couple pitched up even though they shouldn't be travelling at all they have been staying there so there are already 4 adults in the house a day later another car turned up and a family if 4 piled out the suit cases and backpacks.. So this is 6 adults and 5 kids...in a 2 bed house f-ing and blinding every 2 seconds...screaming kids a dog they never take out all the while everyone else is following the lockdown they are having parties and bbq's.. The landlord cant even get into the property because of the lock down...to top it all off they all pilled into 2 cars and went to the beach for the day..they dont care they do what they like when they like not even the cops are interested... Over the weekend they decided to have a bonfire, which are forbidden atm...the flames were 6 feet high...didn't give a monkeys uncle to the distress they are causing the elderly neighbours... We are powerless to do anything they are not approachable..told one if my other neighbours to FO and mind ur own... I'm sure they are dealing but we have no proof...those kids must be at risk in this environment for sure...its heartbreaking... they think the lockdown rules dont apply to them..they speed up the road..music blaring trying to look cool.. I'm afraid to say it But....I'm worried about everyone's safety....you don8t come here for a 3 week holiday In the middle of a lockdown...god knows where these people have come from, if they are Infected or carrying the virus... More needs to be done to protect vulnerable neighbours.. The cops dont giveR.A.
Carrie - 14-Apr-20 @ 5:11 PM
Where to start...Neighbours moved down from up north somewhere in Dec 2019...and OMG..it was lovely property..in the last 4 months or so its turned in to steptoe and sons knackers yard. Both back and front gardens are a tipping ground for anything and everything... They continue to shout abuse at each other the language is colourful for sure... They kid just screams all day.. Neither of them work apart from going to the store to get chips and cigarettes...Now with this Covid19 lockdown...week last Thursday this other couple pitched up even though they shouldn't be travelling at all they have been staying there so there are already 4 adults in the house a day later another car turned up and a family if 4 piled out the suit cases and backpacks.. So this is 6 adults and 5 kids...in a 2 bed house f-ing and blinding every 2 seconds...screaming kids a dog they never take out all the while everyone else is following the lockdown they are having parties and bbq's.. The landlord cant even get into the property because of the lock down...to top it all off they all pilled into 2 cars and went to the beach for the day..they dont care they do what they like when they like not even the cops are interested... Over the weekend they decided to have a bonfire, which are forbidden atm...the flames were 6 feet high...didn't give a monkeys uncle to the distress they are causing the elderly neighbours... We are powerless to do anything they are not approachable..told one if my other neighbours to FO and mind ur own... I'm sure they are dealing but we have no proof...those kids must be at risk in this environment for sure...its heartbreaking... they think the lockdown rules dont apply to them..they speed up the road..music blaring trying to look cool.. I'm afraid to say it But....I'm worried about everyone's safety....you don8t come here for a 3 week holiday In the middle of a lockdown...god knows where these people have come from, if they are Infected or carrying the virus... More needs to be done to protect vulnerable neighbours.. The cops dont giveR.A.
Carrie - 14-Apr-20 @ 4:43 PM
Michael Huke moved in next door, he fell out with all his new neighbours, I/we tried to be friends, eventually he was so bad to other neighbours that we disassociated with him, he commenced a vendetta against us including false accusations, attacking my 70 year old father for parking momentarily outside his house, shouting verbal abuse, videoing us within our premises, the police conceded there was little they could do as he was a senior Lloyd's Banker, they, plus the local authority placed an order on him to cease but that has had little effect. His antics have been posted on YouTube under 'Michael Huke Lloyd's Banker' and 'Bankers Behaving Badly'. Should you view these videos you'll wonder how he's kept his job.vsr eb s
ata loss - 29-Feb-20 @ 12:58 PM
I am a single mother to a wonderfull happy and creative 5 yod , all I want is to raise my daughter in peace and quiet not bothered by other people's dramas.I have just gotten out of an abusive relationship hence the need to live drama free. My neighbor on my left has screamed and shouted at us since the 1st week of moving in a year ago . I have made complaints to the estate , antisocial behaviour team the council with no help. Then on Easter a new neighbor moves in the right side of me and she is a known trouble maker with bi-polar which should not be an excuse for her rude and aggressive behaviour , she has called the child social services on me with fake complaints do to the nature of the complaints and the fact I cought her hiding while I had a visit from child protection I know it was her , i was advised by the council the police and locals that i should inform the estate managing my property , so i did and now we are being evicted ! Yhe victim has suddenly become the perpetrator " how " I contacted our local MP ross Douglas and I haven't heard anything back since he said he would look into it , I'm to be evicted in 2 weeks and no one is helping us !!! The council keep sending me to appointments back and forth with people who dont come prepared dont know the facts of my desperate situation nor do they listen or ask the right questions they just remind me if the time where they have to be. I'm homeless in 12 days and they couldn't care less. What can I do , where can I get help somebody must know something ??? I'm desperate as you my image.I am sick of other people dramas why cant they just leave us alone so I can focus on my child and rebuild my life .
Miss Semone O'Conno - 3-Nov-19 @ 10:23 AM
There is a book which has really shed light on my situation and I share it as it may significantly help others. My ex Londoner neighbours moved to our beautiful seaside city in NZ and have tormented many. My husband and I are the last original neighbours left at our end of a quiet cul-de-sac on a hill overlooking the Tasman Sea. He is a dirty peeping Tom and she is a very aggressive, scary, abusive woman. Both retired, both obsessed with getting into everyone's lives and then lying and trying to destroy those individuals who shun them for their mentally ill behaviour. I think what many of us are dealing with are sociopaths. Apparently 1 in every 25 people are sociopaths. They are excellent actors, liars and enjoy destroying other people. "The Sociopath Next Door" by Martha Stout (also available as an audiobook) is extremely excellent. It opened my eyes to exactly what I am dealing with. These people are very dangerous indeed and also very good at picking their victims. I for one have been an open, agreeable, trusting person in the past but thanks to these neighbours I am a very different person. To know the warning signs are incredibly valuable to your mental health. I only wish I was armed with this knowledge when these revolting people moved in. I'm sure London held a massive party when they left!
Kiwi - 23-Sep-19 @ 10:50 PM
I have experienced everything that you have all spoken about on here, on and off for year's. What I would like say is this.Why are we putting up with it and such poor service off the Council (EH) Housing Associations.Police.Why? Is it not about time somebody put their heads above the parapet and took this out and into the World Wide Web in our respective countries.If we are all suffering so much as we are, then let's lobby the Government to listen to us.
pinkprincess - 23-Sep-19 @ 9:20 PM
Ive been suffering from mental issues for many years , i moved into a cottage flat in august 2018 with a band 1 domestic violence,on moving ere i really fort it would of been a fresh day , the neighbours have taken a real dislike to me , the past years the lies shes told the housing is unreal , im making noise in my sleep cause its al late at night , i no ive not made it , the housing are not listening to me , the solicitor isnt and my support worker isnt , going to court yesterday,it clearly shows the court didnt cause ive got a injunction saying not t make any noise ( im angry cause i didnt make any noise) if i break the injunction i can pay 5000 pound fine and go prison , shes gonna lie and keep telling them i was making the noise , ive asked and begged them for the black box to prove im not making the noise but yet they wont give me one , im at the end of my days with this , never have a neigbour so horrible has horrible and evil has this i really dont no wot to do any more , if i end it , then shes won
Meme - 6-Aug-19 @ 5:21 PM
My neighbours have now resorted to lying and even saying we have been swearing(cursing)even shouting at us. They have also recorded a conversation which was heated between my husband and my son. How rude. I have told the neighbour that we should put it behind us. I still get a nasty spiteful vibe from her and see her standing gossiping where we can see her. I've had enough,but I'm now just going to say hello and act jolly. I can't be bothered anymore,my health is not good.
poppit - 25-Jul-19 @ 3:10 PM
So some neighbours moved in around 8 years ago and our household have been cordial with theirs, Christmas cards, wed watch their home whilst on holiday and vice Versa and so far as fix their computer for free and give up our car space when they had overseas visitors, returning the 5 plus Balls that get thrown into our rear garden and evenstop our dog from playing with their balls that land in our garden .We dolead different lives but share the same street, our household works full time and theirs is a stay at home kind.At Easter we renovated our front garden, (it’s not shared access) and since that time the neighbours allow their kids to play on our Newly renovated garden but they don’t play on theirs.Having asked them verbally to stop, nothing happened and having returned home from a 13 hour day, to find fresh damage.Being too late to knock their door and the next morning I started too early to knock, I thought if I left it, all the time and money I spent would be looking bad.So I left a kind note. I (stupidly) expected minimum ‘it won’t happen again’ or at best for them to at least talk to their kids.No they reply with car blocking/ kids now purposely turning the hose on spraying over our 6 foot fence onto our decking or back door and Random objects like pencils now on our decking been thrown in.Oh and they totally ignore us now. I don’t want to attack parents, but is this how parents teach their kids to respect people these days?
Now what?!? - 24-Jul-19 @ 3:44 PM
I've had issues with neighbours below me for two years. She moved in on her own with her child, and then he moved in after. Things got off on a bad foot when I challenged him about his drug use in our shared garden. He was making weed joints in front of the kids on a big tray and smoking them around them. This was in the summer. By winter they were smoking it inside. The weed smell was coming up through our floor and every room in our home smelled strongly of weed, so bad that my partner's ex stopped letting him have his kids over. Of course, we asked politely for them to stop but it made no difference. He is in his 30s but he had no problem with showing my then teenage daughter pictures of naked women on his phone. He was coming on to her, and when she rebuked him things took a very sour turn. Our neighbour slapped my daughter hard on the bottom as she walked past him to go into our home one day. A row erupted where my neighbour came at my partner with his child in his arm and grabbed my partner by the throat, then cried out that my partner had assaulted him. Police became involved. I reported everything that had been happening to our housing association. They didn't want to get involved and even lied about an alleged video that our neighbour said he had of my partner intimidating him so that they didn't have to take further action. Police said nothing they could do. one word against another. We had reported the smell of cannabis more than 150 times to the police but they still persisted in smoking drugs in the flat below us. This seemed to be having a bad effect on their child who is under 5 years old, He would have terrible rages and be up running about and screaming til 2 am sometimes. In the end we contacted our local council who sent them a warning. The neighbour took offence to that and hit my partner in the face outside our flats. Thankfully this time I got it on camera. He is being charged with assault in the next few days. But now, he has resorted to recording our every move. Even recording with his phone into my kitchen window and hiding behind bushes listening to us outside. He has set up situations to cause annoyance or upset and gone to the police with these videos saying we are intimidating him. But we aren't....I don't know what to do :-(
Emma - 4-Jul-19 @ 12:07 AM
I have a neighbor from hell with 3 other men they are all drunk rude big time. I even hit one car that park in front of my shared drive way .On 6/23/2019 at 1:38 am they where so loud and saying f-u to me they wake me up. this I tole them I live here too and paid rent .And still call me names .This bean going on cents last summer and it's gotten a lot worst. What should I do? should I call the police or property Management, district attorney?or sue the property Management.
Terri - 24-Jun-19 @ 4:55 AM
I have neighbours who are mother and daughter around late 30s and around mid 50s. They have a dog themselves who barks a lot during the night as I am outside in the sleepout and can hear it almost every night and I have never complained because dogs do bark and I get that. They complain about our 2 dogs to the council around once or twice a week for barking and she said howling but however I’m home everyday and my dogs do not bark only when there is someone at the gate or when someone is around the property they are unsure of. They are only protecting their property. Then about 2 weeks ago my 4 nieces were jumping on the trampoline having fun and being kids so they were making a bit of noise but kids are kids and make noise from time to time. I walked into the house for 2 minutes and they yelled from across the fence to my oldest niece who is 10 might I add to “knock it off, when I came outside my 10 year old niece was scared to even tell me what our nasty neighbour had said. That pissed me right off and they didn’t need to do that. They waited for me to go inside cause they knew if they said something while I was there I would have been pissed. They have taken our dog rocco to the pound and said our dogs are melnorished and aren’t looked after but when the council came over and had a look our dogs were perfectly looked after and they had no problem with how the dogs are. Keep in mind also no one else complains about our dogs apart from them. We asked our other neighbours if they have problems with our dogs and they said not at all, they occasionally bark when someone’s near but it keeps them weary of what’s around them. I’ve had enough and this has gone on since we moved into this house which has been almost 3 years. I’m sick of it and they’re just nasty people.
Sam - 19-Feb-19 @ 9:58 PM
I have neighbours who are mother and daughter around late 30s and around mid 50s. They have a dog themselves who barks a lot during the night as I am outside in the sleepout and can hear it almost every night and I have never complained because dogs do bark and I get that. They complain about our 2 dogs to the council around once or twice a week for barking and she said howling but however I’m home everyday and my dogs do not bark only when there is someone at the gate or when someone is around the property they are unsure of. They are only protecting their property. Then about 2 weeks ago my 4 nieces were jumping on the trampoline having fun and being kids so they were making a bit of noise but kids are kids and make noise from time to time. I walked into the house for 2 minutes and they yelled from across the fence to my oldest niece who is 10 might I add to “knock it off, when I came outside my 10 year old niece was scared to even tell me what our nasty neighbour had said. That pissed me right off and they didn’t need to do that. They waited for me to go inside cause they knew if they said something while I was there I would have been pissed. They have taken our dog rocco to the pound and said our dogs are melnorished and aren’t looked after but when the council came over and had a look our dogs were perfectly looked after and they had no problem with how the dogs are. Keep in mind also no one else complains about our dogs apart from them. We asked our other neighbours if they have problems with our dogs and they said not at all, they occasionally bark when someone’s near but it keeps them weary of what’s around them. I’ve had enough and this has gone on since we moved into this house which has been almost 3 years. I’m sick of it and they’re just nasty people.
Sam - 19-Feb-19 @ 9:53 PM
Having experienced terrible neighbours for most of my life,and those same experiences caused the death of my father by stroke .in my case I turned my neighbour s greed against themselves and set them up for a self made fall,I distanced myself from them and they spent the remainder of their lives fighting amongst themselves .i started my new life still living in the same place as my ancestors, since early 1700s, and they didn't dare bother me again.bullies don't use their brains,use yours to beat them.
Tomthumb - 17-Feb-19 @ 3:59 PM
I get accused of gawping whichever way I look lituarally they make comments about my mental health look to see whatever I'm carrying I've got a cougth at the moment neighbours trying to use that against me if that not work shell go back to saying I'm always gawping I wear hearing aid so you can hear them plotting through the wall this neighbour was talking about the others outside and said 'I'm not sorry I'm helping them' one set of neighbours got legal advice were told they can't do anything as I'm not gawping over the fence I've had to stop going in cafe I like because of it but if I report it they'll say I'm a grass and I am gawping a number of them working together I was in skegness get accused of ggawping again comments like 'that's her that was described/my cousin described to me' again whichever way I look I get accused of gawping they to each other have referred to it as 'the gawping campaign' I've had vans try to knock me down when crossing the road even looking when I cross the road gets me accused of gawping in Asda the same situation so I'm going over to online shopping they are doing it because I'm a Grasser/grass because I tried to report the bullying years ago at at school I'm an adult now and they are still at it they will not leave me alone
processor snape - 5-Jan-19 @ 9:12 AM
I have had bad neighbours for years, the torment we get from their 14 yr old is unbelievable, he's had my daughter assaulted by his friend , my car damaged, the mum can't control him , they have social work involved , and have made horrible accusations about my husband, and he's been officially charged by the law, the police won't do anything with this young teen, I'm at the end of my tether, any advice would be grateful.
Peaches - 23-Dec-18 @ 10:43 PM
I had a bad aggressive neighbor for more than ten years. I had threats of violence and name calling. I tried a softly, softly approach to him by being polite and curtiouse, but none of this worked. After two years of verbal abuse I offered him the opportunity of a punch up. He declined. So fair enough I left it at that. Then after a while he started again. So once more I suggested he have a real go at me with his fists, and he took the opportunity. Only to find out I don't use my fists. Instead I through him on his back in judo style. After that he made some stories up about me making too much noise at night (even tho we both lived in detached houses) and told the coppers. This went on for about 8 years with regular visits from the law. Eventually he was caught out by the police about the lies he was making up. His wife ( I believe is the gaffer ) wasn't too pleased with him. And the following month they had house up for sale. They have now moved. Always stand up to bad neighbours never give in. Let them know that they're walking into a brick wall with you. But only if you've done nothing wrong.
Don - 18-Oct-18 @ 1:27 AM
I had a bad aggressive neighbor for more than ten years. I had threats of violence and name calling. I tried a softly, softly approach to him by being polite and curtiouse, but none of this worked. After two years of verbal abuse I offered him the opportunity of a punch up. He declined. So fair enough I left it at that. Then after a while he started again. So once more I suggested he have a real go at me with his fists, and he took the opportunity. Only to find out I don't use my fists. Instead I through him on his back in judo style. After that he made some stories up about me making too much noise at night (even tho we both lived in detached houses) and told the coppers. This went on for about 8 years with regular visits from the law. Eventually he was caught out by the police about the lies he was making up. His wife ( I believe is the gaffer ) wasn't too pleased with him. And the following month they had house up for sale. They have now moved. Always stand up to bad neighbours never give in. Let them know that they're walking into a brick wall with you. But only if you've done nothing wrong.
Don - 18-Oct-18 @ 1:27 AM
Ive lived in a council flat since November 2016 Its a block of 4 and i understand its easy to hear noise but i feel like im living with a loud noisy aggressive bully on my doorstep. Ever since ive moved in ive had trouble with him, i keepe myself to myself and i have tried to ignore him but i suffer with depression and the situation is making me ill and i dont want to be in my own home. He was blasting music so loud at all times of day, sometimes you could hear it right up the street....so i eventually complained to noise nuisance. He knew it was me because i had words with him on one ocassion. After noise nuisance went he was very agressive shouting out the window swearing at me which i ignored, was staring at me out of the window and in his garden when i would go out trying to be intimidating. On most days i could hear him agressively screaming, swearing at his girlfriend, running up and down stairs, banging and slamming doors. Other things such as lighting fireworks outside my bedroom window and laughing. His dog barking for hours, leaving its mess outside my front door. Well a few months ago he disappeared suddenly and i thought he had thank god left the property. I started to consider staying in my flat and feel more comfortable. However hes only been back one day and already had screaming, swearing, doors banging etc. I did tell my housing officer once but she didnt seem very interested. I dont feel i can approach him due to him clearly finding what he does funny and the aggressive behaviour. Im scared of the reprisals to myself and my property i live alone and im sick of it all.
Chaney - 11-Sep-18 @ 10:14 AM
Been in my dwelling for 24yrears, with great neighbours both sides, everyone gets on with each other, never had a miss word with any neighbours, then the tennant moved in 2 years ago & turned my life into a living hell. I have been down every avenue in the correct order from enviroment health, tennants housing association, ASB officer from her housing, even agreed to mediation (just to get an answer why shes detests me so much,)again arranged by her housing association, on which she canceled twice & told them she dont want mediation... I've never spoken to her but shes bullys me when i'm alone intimidates me to another neighbour telling lies about me, reports any visitors i have to 101. Asks my neighbour what i've been doing in my garden when shes out??? & asked him if he has talked to me. Its spooks me out has i have a 7ft fence at the back with permission & a6ft hedge at the front, its impossible for her to see visitors i do belive she goes up stairs in her bedrooms to get descriptions on my friends or family then rings 101 saying shes being harrased. Her family have threatend me, silent bullies me when im alone, i have recordings on this diarys times dates whats been shouted over the fence at me,ive had dog poo chucked over onto my garden, grandson 16mths old stood in it,she even admitted to her housing asscoiation she used acid spray on my fence causing damage by killing & pulling off the lvy which caused the slats to drop snap & now have peep holes, where she yanked the ivy off my fence, the acid she sprayed came over & it went on my partner, I hav'nt been in my garden for months as i get intimidated lied about &bullied. I tried the silent game hoping she would get board & leave me alone, but it seems to have made her worse,I am now thinking of contacting the housing ombudsman with all 2yrs evidence on the tennants verbal threats and horrid behaviour. Has every avenue i have been down has stated, theres a block.Its not nice living next door to a preditor waiting for its pray with her ringing 101 & making me feel drained stressed & unwell with all. Even stopped family & friends coming over so i dont get harrassed.
Petal - 10-Sep-18 @ 4:07 PM
Samantha, install a basic phone cctv to show the behaviour and then contact the police on 101 and suggest your the victim of doorbell robbery, but you’ve managed to keep them at bay so far. can’t sleep, I point you to the Antosocial Behviour Act. I’m guessing it’s the noise so both council and police are required to act (no pun intended) orders Edit Part IA of the Act ("Premises associated with persistent disorder or nuisance") was inserted by Section 118 of the Criminal Justice and Immigration Act 2008, and came into force in December 2008. Known as a Part 1A Closure Order or Antisocial Behaviour Closure Order[4][5] the new Sections 11A-11L of the 2003 Act permit the police or local authority to apply to Magistrates to close premises where they are satisfied that within the preceding three months[6] the premises have been associated with "significant and persistent disorder or persistent serious nuisance to members of the public."[7] The order can be made in respect of business or residential premises.[8] Similar to the Part 1 Order (Crack House Closure Order), it becomes an offence to remain in or re-enter the premises for the duration of the order.[9] You may be surprised to find your Council has the power to ask a court to order the, not to return. My longest order was 6 months
Rooster - 19-Aug-18 @ 6:49 PM
I have an actual rogue landlord who has gotten away with so much by our london borough council. I have complained to them and my local mp who actually said i was using her as a pawn in a game and not to contact her again my upstairs neighbours are drug dealers carry knives and have very dodgy friends coming round ringing my bell at all hours of the day and night. As a single mum it is terrifying to have a group of guys demanding to be let in at 1.2. 3am etc. The council literally just refer me to their web pages on anti social behaviour my other neighbours moved and i feel so scared and isolated.
Samantha - 23-Jul-18 @ 8:52 PM
Hi. We have new neighbour upstairs (council flat). Since end of dec-2016 we have problems with them. We reported them for loud music, damage of the property, harasement, verbal abuse. In reward they called police to say that my partner beat guy up and reported him for claiming career benefits although he is in full time job. Other day they called police saying we cut their antena cable on the roof. We had to install cctv systems to protect ourselfs from them so police could see that they are making up the storys. Council (bristol) do not react, they are changing workers alocated to the case. Envirental Healt Department, Noise Pollution, Comunity Trigger, no one cartes. They just tell us fill diarys. We sending diarys, cctv footage, pictures. But they are keep saying they dont have it even some of the paper work been handed hand to hand. Police saying that they cannot prosecute them for damage to the property. When we asked Noise Polution for recording device to prove how loud is the music they send us letter litterally telling us 'its pointless'. We went thrue mediation but it didnt solved anything. They said they are planning to do more damage to our property. Now, guy upstairs is doing some work and he keep door open so the dust goes down on staircase and into our flat. Council trully do not help, they do not even want to help. As one of the prevoius council workers said to me on the phone 'ms Drew i will not help you', so we end up with another one. I am trying to find some solicitior who could help but its impossible. Whenever i rang someone they say that they do not deal with neighhbour disputes. We still must wait few more months before we contact Ombudsman, again.
rosepetal - 30-Jun-18 @ 2:59 PM
Although I'm sure your site has noble intentions; it doesn't seem to offer any truly effective advice aside from conventional sources such as Citizens advice and environmental health etc: both are over stressed and under funded "government band aids" for the 'gaping wound of anti social loutish behaviour' from an increasingly feral populace; who realise that there are very few dire consequences to their actions. I blame political correctness and the compensation culture borne of it.
Disgruntled - 26-Jun-18 @ 1:17 AM
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