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How to Deal With a Neighbour 'Stalking' You

By: Sarah Clark (ILEX) - Updated: 13 Aug 2018 | comments*Discuss
 
Neighbour Stalking Stalker Harassment

Stalking by neighbours – or anyone, in fact – is one of those crimes that is often joked about, but can be very unnerving and at times even frightening. If you suspect that you are a victim of stalking, whether it’s a stranger or a neighbour, one of the main things to do is to try and keep calm. Stalkers and people who are out to harass others are often just looking for a reaction, and if you try to stay aloof and appear unconcerned, even if you are feeling anything but, they may lose interest and leave you alone.

Harassment covers pretty much all forms of unwanted behaviour, from mildly irritating to actual physical violence. Harassment can be a criminal offence and Laws Exist To Protect You . If the neighbour concerned is also watching or following you, making constant attempts to contact you or even sending you unwanted gifts, harassment becomes 'stalking'.

It may seem innocent at first – a neighbour seems to be a bit over friendly perhaps, and in all honesty, it could be a misunderstanding or a one-off. But if the strange or unwanted behaviour happens repeatedly (and repeatedly just means more than once) or you’re feeling distressed or frightened by the behaviour, trust your instincts. Stalking is a criminal offence so don’t blame yourself and don’t think that you have to put up with it, whether it’s a neighbour or a stranger.

Keep Hold of the Evidence

If things escalate, make sure that you keep a note of all incidents that you consider to be harassment or stalking and tell people, other neighbours, or your friends and relatives, what’s going on. You can enlist the help of willing neighbours who might be able to keep an eye out for the perpetrator – if they deliver anything, or are hanging around your property, for example.

If the person who is stalking you also uses text, email, or the post to get to you, you should keep evidence of these as they can be used if you need to take the matter up formally. Don’t be tempted to respond – that’s what the stalker wants you to do.

In addition to hard evidence, Keep A Diary Of Events, making sure that you note down anything suspicious, times, dates and events. Write down anything that your neighbour says or does that could be construed as stalking as soon as it happens, as only evidence that’s recorded ‘contemporaneously’ – that is, immediately – can be used in any future court proceedings if they become necessary.

Being Stalked on the Telephone

If part of your stalker’s campaign involves telephone calls, you should keep a record of dates and times of the calls and anything that was said. If the caller hasn’t disguised their number, make a note of that too, or if being stalked via a land line, try 1471 to see if they slip up and reveal their number.

BT may be able to help if the stalker has your landline number. Call the BT Nuisance Calls Bureau on 0800 661 441 if you are a BT customer. On your mobile, save any malicious text messages for evidence.

If You Feel in Danger

If you ever feel as if you are in imminent danger, call 999 straight away and don’t worry about feeling foolish if the threat later dissipates – it’s better to be safe than sorry.

Try to stay calm and not show any fear or emotion. Don’t lose your temper or attempt to confront your stalker, again, the bully is looking for a reaction, so you should try not to let them have what they are looking for, even if you’re angry or frightened. If you notice your stalker, try to get away from them and into a public area or into your or a friendly neighbour’s home.

If the harassment carries on, your only option is to Contact The Local Police.

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I live in gwail house and my problem is the same with every one here. Please can someone tell me what to do because this has being going on now for 3 good years. I really need help.please cause I'm already losing my mind. Nobody want to do anything about it.HELP
Ken - 13-Aug-18 @ 11:11 PM
As a U.S.A Resident and citizen, I stumbled on your site by accident while searching for self defense advice against paranoid stalker . I wish I lived in a civilized nations. Alas, I am an American, and although most of us are decent folks..an anomaly rules us at present. Thanks for distracting me from the gun toting moron in my life. Be well, and God bless.
NorthbyNorthwest - 10-Aug-18 @ 3:26 AM
My neighbor is stalking me and so are the police. I haven't done anything criminal. And I live a simple life. I want my private life back. I don't want to be followed by strangers or have techies telling reporting my every move. I cannot function this way anymore. I feel threatened and do not have any idea why I should continue to endure such treatment.
Ollie - 25-Jul-18 @ 1:54 AM
I've been having the same problem. My neighborshave affected my life greatly and I'm starting to believe that I live around a group of people who suffer from narcissistic disorder which seems to be accepted in today's society. It's so odd to me because I would walk out of the house and the same thing would happen( neighbors coming out at the same time, their kidshit objects on the ground, their loud dogs, loud music, them spreading untrue rumors or commenting on my every move. The first time I noticed itit just came off asodd and strange.At first I noticed honking, then police sirens. I've never had a bad encounter with the police, ambulance or fire department so it was very strange for me.I've also never had an actual conversation/ altercation with any of my neighbors before this time I didn't really know they existed... I did but I didn't really notice them and I've lived in my neighborhood since I was born. It was not until 2015 where things started to get strange. I come from a middle class familyso money gets spent wisely food, bills, air, water. We didn't have the funds for a new care so we had to buy a used car from the city auction to avoid car payments. Most of the cars were police interceptors. I'm starting to think my neighbors were paranoid about me being the cops. I'm not sure why they acted so hostile or who told them an untrue story. Now it seems more calm. Some neighbors still talk when I come out of the house etc. But it seems like someone told a lie and instilled fear in the whole neighborhood just to have it come back and crumble. Now I noticed people are more nice and it's just one huge mess. The energy in the neighbor hood is definitely strange and not nice. It has affected me so much I feel like I should warn others who are thinking about moving here. I think most people realized it was a lie after a while. My advice is to stay calm and if you can get proof and take legal action or move out to the countryand live on a large piece of land where their is no neighborhood association.At one point I knew that the harassment in the neighborhood had spread through out the whole city. I noticed it affected how I shared my information, my ability to do a job and to just do fun things, but I'm honestly justglad for life itself. There definitely needs to be an organization started to fight this type of behavior. It's unacceptable.
The non-nosy neighb - 24-Jul-18 @ 9:33 AM
Me and my husband are being stalked by 3 jobless neighbors.one male and his girlfriend as well as theor pal upstairs which is a woman. It started out as over friendly, with the male going out of his way to hold the door for us or helping me up the stairs with the stroller. Then atleast twice a week they would come upstairs and knock on our door asking is someone walking around uphere.It ultimately escalated one night the male knocked on my door at 11pm. My husband had it by that point and yelled at him. He assulted my husband and I called the cops. The behavior got even worst after that.he that began to openly stalk us more aggressively. Waiting outside the building until we got home from work. Holding the door for us. Then trying to talk to my husband as well as me though we have made it clear we donot want anything to do with him. He and his girlfriend would then peep out the door everytime we entered the building. Then blast the music once we enter our apartment. They would do this every time we walked in or had company. Once I became a stay at home mom the music would blast every day beginning at 12pm-3 and then back on again once my husband atepped thru the door at 5:30. As far as their friend in my floor which seems to have had it out for me from day one she makes out loud comments and tries to walk closely to me like she is trying to bump me. Then this week as my husband was going to the store my husband was approached by the male. He said I was arrested for selling deugs out my apartment and I hope you wasnt the one who told. My husband had no I dea what he was talking about. He proceeded to follow my husband all the way ti the store telling him his arrest problem. Talk about crazy!
Jjones - 23-Jul-18 @ 3:07 PM
I have a group of neighbors that have banned up it seems probably they been wanting me out since day 1. I got our new house 10 years ago. always have 3 other neighbors eye balling me arms crossed mad dogging me any time I step out. openly talking crap...irony all those neighbors finally left over the first 5 years. but it seems that every time someone new moves in the old neighbor go's and tells the new one something then I'm back on everyone's sh!t list. One specific neighbor lives directly in front of me that's bi-polar talks to a rental house next store...new people move in yearly...they been teaming me for last 3 years. Basically I can't step out with out the 2 neighbors walking out. one hops in their car and the other walks to their car goes for a walk what ever. I installed a camera in my garage and I was right but to bad I had it on live mode so it didn't record sadly. they actually said they have code words they send by phone texting "go home" if I show up riding down the street they will pull up every single time either neighbor or both almost exactly at the same time when ever I step out or come home. guy walks his dog waits every day on a corner has his camera on so every time I take my kid from and to school he is right there soon as I'm pulling out. this can be at any time of day even 6 am in the morning. it doesn't matter they are persistent. I really think others are joining in cause I take note other neighbors timeswhen they normally leave and well now I been purposefully changing my schedule by a 30 mins at a time and they keep matching it. I talk to 2 of my neighbors and they gave me both dirty looks and said I'm just being paranoid and there's just no such thing and they back the others 100% said I must be the crazy one for even thinking it. they even defend them saying everyone has to go some where no one is following no one. there is sooo much more so much more I just can't put it all down. I honestly think the they are trying to trap me with harassment cause I'm not the type to back down if someone challenges me. all these years gone by dealing with this slowly elevating situation I just try to look at trevally and say its harmless. cause they are not physically doing anything to me other than following me every where. I'll end it with 1 last note the last new neighborof the rental house has a thing of matching me of everything I buy. 1:bought my kid a power wheel he went got a used exact same one but the bigger version for bigger kids...2: I had some nice deep dish 22 inch rims on my car already Chrysler 300 guess he got jealous when I bought new rims again better ones lol. then he rented the same car for like 3 months wit hout of state plates. 3: I went bought a brand new Kawasaki motorcycle and 2 weeks later he gets a salvage title wreck 1000cc Kawasaki motorcycle. 4: I buy a kids 90cc motorcyclefor my kid and he buys 2 weeks later a power wheel motorcycle for his kid leaves it out on the curb o
stalkers need to fin - 16-Jul-18 @ 8:11 PM
This is disturbing my next door neighbour is watching daily. If i open my door she comes out and noseys through the fence. Also she has cctv which is pointing on my drive and as soon as i come in she runs upstairs to view her cctv. This has been reported to 101 and the police wont listern.also she has got me to go to court for harrassment because shes using family members and she wont leave me alone.can anyone help as she s not right in the head. She uses everyone to her advantage and to cover herself as miss innocent. The police are a waste of time and the council also my housing association backs her as a private homeowner.
Puppy - 27-Jun-18 @ 9:44 PM
If I were to get a gun and start shooting up my roof, would I get in trouble?Im so tempted to do this because of the constant torment from low life creeps that harrass me morning, noon, and night.What about if I booby trapped my yard?Would I get in trouble if I hurt these creeps?I think it sounds fair but I would like to know if I would go to jail for declaring war on these jerks.Will someone let me know before I turn into Rambo...
MissChief - 19-Jun-18 @ 10:33 PM
Yes I need advice I moved into a beautiful handicap apt. on 11- 17-17and the person living above me and the first night after my family left a buzz came to my door which should have been a red flag but I didn't pay any attention at time I lived across from the laundry mat so this lady kept popping up at my door so about 2 weeks after I was slowly getting things in place and I begin to smell these strange orders to make a long story short low and behold it was coming in through the heat vents which is in the ceiling so I get in my wheelchair and take the elevator to her apt on the second floor i knock she answer the door i asked her was she burning anything no baby i'm not burning nothing i smell it to but the strange part was if i'm in my bed room i smell it very strong and so I go the the living room now when I go to the living room the air is all clear but shortly after the smell is coming into the living room i go to her door about 6times same questions same answer so I began to write dates times and what the order smelled like and I had quite a few notes so I got to management and the first thing she said was i can't prove it i asked don't you know your surrounding i showed her my journal she says keep manking note now i'm very upset so I kept complaining management wouldn't do anything about it so I went to her supervisor same results nothing to shorten my issue i just moved into a apt ment on the same floor I think I forgot to say I have empzema and i'm very sensitive to order and i'm in a wheelchair so I just moved to another apartment which I was told no one live above and I have one pedson on the left of me so I moved in 6-1-18 and low and behold theres a person above me and on one side of me so she lyed now I'm faced with the same problem burning following me through my apt even to the bathroom I go to bed their doing something I don't understand but it almost like someone having sex or something because at times it get very rapid like all day and all night i'm talking 24/7 I just don't understand and the only break i get from alk of this mess if I leave my apartment and go outside i get this up over my head so much it like i'm still vibrating and its very very ironing please I need help to get as far away from this place as possible..
Barb. - 9-Jun-18 @ 9:05 PM
I moved into my apts two years ago. An older lady maybe in her 50smoved above me and invited her daughter and grandkids over almost everyday so they could run back and forth and throw heavy objects above my head in every room I was. I spoke with the landlord and they called her. The woman was very nice so I can't imagine she said anything horrible. Well after that my neighbor wakes up as early as 2am (I know bc my walls are super thin and I wake up to her literally pacing loudly). Like many of you she follows me everywhere in my apt. From the time I wake up until I sleep she just follows me around my apt. I caught her staring into my apt in her car with an angry look on her face. I've sat in my living room and if I wasn't moving enough for her she would stand outside and then try to quietly come back in almost like she wants to catch me moving. This woman is completely crazy and it gets really bothersome.
Ali - 2-Jun-18 @ 5:08 PM
I've been being peeped in on an low talking no-one believes except my sister who has caught them several times its on going think they have embarrassing pics of me as well it is several people and it's making me look crazy as I do suffer from scitsophrania anxiety mania depression insomnia mood disorders I know what's inside and outside my head pleas e advise any will help
Shitty - 30-May-18 @ 5:44 AM
I have a neibour who tried knock me down and got put on a hd1 order then the stalking started constantly they sit in the dark watching ours I've caught him video and taking pictures of our bedroom window we have told the council and police and yet he and she get away with it apparently I'm presuming I've being accused by the same couple of hitting my other half and yet nothing gets said or done to them we need help but don't know who to turn too does anyone no any one that could help
Micky - 9-May-18 @ 7:57 PM
By observing the comments, I can see "some" people seem to have severe anxiety. Seek medical health people, you may have "mental illness" or "schizophrenia". While most of you are likely to experience antisocial behaviour, some of your stories are a little "extra". Like the story about the "homosexual" - why do you care? You are a grown man, just because someone is homosexual doesn't mean he or she is instantly going to stalk you - you are paranoid. And Gracie? You need help most of all. You are all over this website ranting about your neighbour. Solution to most of these problems? Move! And if that doesn't work - your the problem - get help.
G. Samunda - 5-Apr-18 @ 9:08 AM
I have read all the comments and all of this is the same pattern of my neighbor upstairs, following me round the house to every room, fitting sound monitors, other monitors which I have no idea what they are, laughing, shouting threats, which now have stopped since monitors were fitted, following me to the shop, anywhere, telling lies to other neighbors.The Council as you say, are not fit for purpose, what can we do, we are all victims in our own home, I totally empathize with you all, but do glad I have read theses as I know I am not alone, hope you all get there in the end ??
Mands - 19-Mar-18 @ 9:11 AM
my neighbor male tenant tried to ask me into his flat to which I outrightly refused. I am now dealing with psychotic behavior where he is reporting me for so called conctaing him directly indirectly there is no proof of this as its in his head. I have reported to police time and time again being followed halfway to the store and never goes as close as the cctv so not caught so it make sme look crazy this time he decided to follow me back I only heard him after he hit me with his bicycle wheel, he had me against the brickwork under the alleyway of the flat door, he told me to scream I did so said ring 999. I couldnt find mobile he repeatedly hit me with his bike and said to me go ahead report it nobody will believe you as im allowed through this entrance ill state this you were in my way and I wanted to get past. I walked off busted leg as he shoved past me...to neighbors knocked door they stated didnt hear me scream...I made my throat hoarse. they said dont know number for police...ok they arent from england but honestly! they wouldnt even let me in the house for help and no wouldnt ring cops...hmmm I wonder if they are dodgy too...everyone knows the police number surely its advertised on tv adverts everywhere well my legs swollen black and blue why the drugged up neighbor slams doors till 2am pounding wall he follows where i walk where I move he lives below me hes psychotic and reporting me as I live alone single he thinks its his right to prey on me, its fun its a game he has stated nobody will believe me and he is right...nobody will my word against his he says and yes it is... im scared...I rang 999 still waiting for them to turn up ive rung 111 as my leg is cut up...ye sim typing here on a tablet...im up im on my own and im scared...
gracie - 17-Mar-18 @ 12:27 AM
We are suffering a relentless campaign of stalking by depraved, peeping tom neighbours and desperately need it to stop. They are constantly camped outside our house despite having numerous parking spaces outside their own houses and large driveways.Their obsessive stalking appears to be their life-blood - we can't leave the house or tend our garden without a chronically obese, gender non-specific slug rushing out to hold up it's mobile phone to film us on our own property.These individuals are dangerous.We are aware that our terror & repulsion is exciting the stalkers - research shows that all stalkers have abnormal functions and become heavily aroused by their victim's fear.It is truly horrible to be a target of these perverts. Does any more repugnant life-form exist?Can anyone advise us how to get rid of them - we believe that they are planning to murder us?
Freedom - 14-Mar-18 @ 8:25 AM
And stuff, we NEVER complained to anyone...i wish she would just pretend i'm invisible, that's what i do i pretend she is invisible, my husband just says to ignore her because she's the type that likes confusion and arguing(she used to come home drunk and WAKE the whole neighbourhood, arguing, smashing her front yard metal front gates, fighting.....etc..) so much crap...It's like she is OBSESSED with me,with my life if she could wake up and be glued to my a * * all day i think she would do that! that way she would know exactly what the hell am i doing<---why DOES she even care?
justagirl - 7-Mar-18 @ 11:21 AM
CCTVexpert - Your Question:
I have video footage of my neighbour throwing sharp objects like nails/screws and broken plastic pens (but sharp) onto my driveway. Police decided not to prosecute as it's not "part of the public interest". How is this justified? As sharp object can puncture a car tyre and cause an accident on the road? Long story cut short, I am a true victim of constant harassment and intimidation but this person has got away with it so much after having harassed other females over many years, it's unreal.

Our Response:
The police may have decided not to prosecute but can still consider a private legal action via the courts if you so wish.
ProblemNeighbours - 6-Mar-18 @ 11:29 AM
I have video footage of my neighbour throwing sharp objects like nails/screws and broken plastic pens (but sharp) onto my driveway. Police decided not to prosecute as it's not "part of the public interest". How is this justified? As sharp object can puncture a car tyre and cause an accident on the road? Long story cut short, I am a true victim of constant harassment and intimidation but this person has got away with it so much after having harassed other females over many years, it's unreal.
CCTVexpert - 3-Mar-18 @ 3:20 PM
Hi My partner & I moved into our new home last September,our neighbours are a couple in their 70s, she is ok & friendly if a little nosy but he takes it all to another level. He constantly stands either at the window or in his garden watching us. We're doing work to the garden so spend much time outside & he's always there. When we leave the house he then climbs onto a step his side to look over into our garden (we have CCTV) its horrible & upsetting its making us not want to be here. If I'm at home alone I won't go outside for fear he us there. Can anyone offer some advice?
Ali - 29-Jan-18 @ 11:56 AM
Hello, I'd just like to let people know that I've been a severe victim of Antisocial behavior, harassment, stalking,hate disabidisability crime all at the same time it has been all out abuseand my council haven't done a thing about it even after a number of complaints also this has been taken to the police who like the council have tried to just through it under the carpet none of them want to do anything about itand this has made to people with disabilities very very frightened this man upstairs has been stalking us for 2years now from when I wake up in the morning until we go to bed at night he follows me to the bathroom to my kitchen he comes in and listens to all my phone calls from flat above I'm in those old Victorian houses made into three flats and you can hear almost anything move around and he uses this to stalk us he's a homosexual mañ and I am a heterosexual man this man gas been knocking on my ceiling at me early in the morning when my wife ud a sleep this man is everywhere I go in my own home he is following me from above all day long he follows us to bed every night and stands in th3 hall way trying to listen in to me and my partner when we being intermitt he waits their for hour's he is a pervert when I go oût he runs to the window all of this and I can't get help i feel as though this man is being protected for being homosexual because when I had meeting with council and the police they were both homosexual as well and I believe that they took afence because I said the stalker was homosexual I could tell because they didn't want to help and instead tried too say in other words that It must be in my imagination now I'm going to seek legal advice I am a true victim of all this abuse..
Victim 44 - 19-Jan-18 @ 12:24 PM
I work as a caretaker for a chalet park in the uk. about 7 months ago, a tenant sold his chalet to a heavily tattooed guy, who came across quite abruptly, though affable enough.I intoroduced myself as the caretaker and passed on my bosses details so he, the tenant could contact him. over the next weeks, i saw this tenant a few times, and all appeared well, we met and had a beer and i gave him a few lifts into town. one evening after a shopping trip, having a few beers, he made a sexual pass at me. I was a little embarrased, me being a guy and he the same, and i not being orientated that way.i politely declined and made no matter of it, as i did not want to cause any offence though i was a little troubled inside. we did not hang out again, i did not avoid him, he see seemed to want to avoid me, and i was somewhat relieved. i continued with my caretaking duties, and it was during a mowing session at work that the tenant came out and started to shout at me, telling me i was a fake caretaker. puzzled i spoke to my boss, who is sick with cancer, undergoing chemotherapy and radiotherapy. his elderly mother is at home too, so its a strain looking after them whilst this tenant continues to harras me. Things started to happen, rope went missing, petrol too, then i happened to come across this tenant helping himself to wood from the estate, belonging to someone else, with no permission, its theft. he has made complaints to my boss, complaints to the police, who, fortunately recognise him and his behaviour, for what it is. however, recently, i have heard the sound of a person on my roof, i sleep in a chalet at work, as security for the estate, i have also had a dark figure come into my garden, open my gate to my steps and come to my window when im in bed at 4.30am ish. Three nights go that occured. he regularly walks over my garden patch outfront, ignoring the boundary, footsteps in the recent snow showed he had walked up to my front gates, turned and walked away, funny, i found my padlock encased in ice, yet no rain? next day i found footsteps from his property to my hedge, they abruptly stopped, next day, i discover my water system has been destroyed. i have logged this with the police, but, what will he do next? he comes into my garden at will, climbs all over my roof and decking areas, i am going to get wildlife cameras so at least i can get footage of him trespassing and perhaps causing damage. he has leered at my children when i have to drive past him, stood in our way, shouted abuse at me in front of my children, scaring them. i cannot stand his aggressive behaviour and intimidation of my children, and attempts to itimidate me by all his night time pranks, never facing me as a man. what next?
caretaker - 20-Dec-17 @ 10:47 PM
You will know the neigbors are stalkers if they have ever done any or all of the following: a: parked in front of your house leaving their own driveway free b: sat in their car outside your house for hours. c:put a spy cam in their passenger seat to film you intimately in your home d:followed you home The above are the standard MO of stalkers. If they: d:Floodlight your house and film you intimately in your bedroom e:Try to break in your property This level of stalking is extreme perversion. Remember that stalkers are without exception sick cowards who get aroused by their victim's disgust.If they have done any of the above, carry a personal alarm at all times.If they haven't they're probably not stalkers .
LeaveUsAlone - 14-Dec-17 @ 11:45 AM
My neighbor and her husband are stalking me in every shape way form possible. They are completely delusional and will stop at nothing to victimise me in my house. They will not leave me alone always calling me names Listening to me all the time watching me the list never ends with these people. I never want to see them again but am unfortunately going to have to.
Delusionalneighbors - 9-Dec-17 @ 11:43 PM
My husband has also been stalked by the neighbours and their repulsive, perverted associates. Recently a chronically obese woman dog-squatted in the street and started filming him as he put the rubbish out.He was horrified - it appeared she was about to open her bowels on the street.She used her child as a human shield while she filmed him - on his own property putting out his rubbish.This peeping tom should be placed on a sex offenders register.
AntiStalker - 9-Nov-17 @ 10:47 PM
We have the most disgusting stalkers in the form of next door neighbours.Throwing soiled sanitary products and filthy baby wipes onto our property, parking outside our house with a stupid rigged up camera/monitor, pointing through a gap in our bushes.They shine flood lights into our home to film us inside our house, trespass on our property in the middle of the night to bang on our doors.I've realised that the guy is a pervert who is obsessed with filming my husband.His stupid friends have followed my husband home on several occasions.We're never free of their constant, cowardly harassment and intimidation.The woman, who is morbidly obese, seems to run some kind of large person's club and their tellytubby friends park and congregate outside our house giggling -in some state of un-natural excitement.Never outside their own house. They are pathetic cowards - It seems that my husband and I provide their only entertainment.
Nomad10 - 9-Nov-17 @ 4:17 PM
In answer to the letter from the young girl j, it sounds as though your neighbour has narrccississ personality disorder. My neighbour acts the very same way as yours. Best advice is to totally ignore completely as they hate that. Also read up on narrccassit personality disorder, you'll be amazed at how these people live.
Ellie - 11-Oct-17 @ 11:54 AM
My neighbor, who I used to be really good friends with, has been harassing me for months. It all started when he caught feelings for me and I didn't. I noticed it escalated when I started seeing someone or had any males at my house. It started off as him stomping on his floor, being loud, blaring music and running up and down his stairs. Since then it has escalated to him vandalizing my car, my yard and even threatening me and my brother. My landlord has yet to do anything even though I made the problems aware to him months ago... I'm terrified to be home alone as well as go to the cops in fear of his reaction.
Mer - 9-Sep-17 @ 3:18 AM
To the lady who looks out of her window because of her anxiety do not look out of the window. It makes it worse. I know!! I am a female and have harassment, intimidation, bullying on a daily basis and it does not help you at all. I used to do what you do. I never look through the window anymore. It took me a while to break the habit but I have stopped doing it now.
happydays123 - 21-Aug-17 @ 2:58 PM
SophJonners - Your Question:
I have severe anxiety, and often look out of my window to be reassured I am safe. The only problem is, is that I rent a property, and my landlady's son and wife have moved in next door. I do not want them two seeing me staring out of the window, and reporting me to their mum, as I may get chucked out. HELP!!! What do I do???

Our Response:
You can't be evicted for looking out of the window, please try not to let your anxiety stand in the way of reason. Do you have any support at all, someone you can talk to about this?
ProblemNeighbours - 21-Aug-17 @ 1:42 PM
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