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How to Deal With a Neighbour 'Stalking' You

By: Sarah Clark (ILEX) - Updated: 28 Sep 2021 | comments*Discuss
 
Neighbour Stalking Stalker Harassment

Stalking by neighbours – or anyone, in fact – is one of those crimes that is often joked about, but can be very unnerving and at times even frightening. If you suspect that you are a victim of stalking, whether it’s a stranger or a neighbour, one of the main things to do is to try and keep calm. Stalkers and people who are out to harass others are often just looking for a reaction, and if you try to stay aloof and appear unconcerned, even if you are feeling anything but, they may lose interest and leave you alone.

Harassment covers pretty much all forms of unwanted behaviour, from mildly irritating to actual physical violence. Harassment can be a criminal offence and Laws Exist To Protect You . If the neighbour concerned is also watching or following you, making constant attempts to contact you or even sending you unwanted gifts, harassment becomes 'stalking'.

It may seem innocent at first – a neighbour seems to be a bit over friendly perhaps, and in all honesty, it could be a misunderstanding or a one-off. But if the strange or unwanted behaviour happens repeatedly (and repeatedly just means more than once) or you’re feeling distressed or frightened by the behaviour, trust your instincts. Stalking is a criminal offence so don’t blame yourself and don’t think that you have to put up with it, whether it’s a neighbour or a stranger.

Keep Hold of the Evidence

If things escalate, make sure that you keep a note of all incidents that you consider to be harassment or stalking and tell people, other neighbours, or your friends and relatives, what’s going on. You can enlist the help of willing neighbours who might be able to keep an eye out for the perpetrator – if they deliver anything, or are hanging around your property, for example.

If the person who is stalking you also uses text, email, or the post to get to you, you should keep evidence of these as they can be used if you need to take the matter up formally. Don’t be tempted to respond – that’s what the stalker wants you to do.

In addition to hard evidence, Keep A Diary Of Events, making sure that you note down anything suspicious, times, dates and events. Write down anything that your neighbour says or does that could be construed as stalking as soon as it happens, as only evidence that’s recorded ‘contemporaneously’ – that is, immediately – can be used in any future court proceedings if they become necessary.

Being Stalked on the Telephone

If part of your stalker’s campaign involves telephone calls, you should keep a record of dates and times of the calls and anything that was said. If the caller hasn’t disguised their number, make a note of that too, or if being stalked via a land line, try 1471 to see if they slip up and reveal their number.

BT may be able to help if the stalker has your landline number. Call the BT Nuisance Calls Bureau on 0800 661 441 if you are a BT customer. On your mobile, save any malicious text messages for evidence.

If You Feel in Danger

If you ever feel as if you are in imminent danger, call 999 straight away and don’t worry about feeling foolish if the threat later dissipates – it’s better to be safe than sorry.

Try to stay calm and not show any fear or emotion. Don’t lose your temper or attempt to confront your stalker, again, the bully is looking for a reaction, so you should try not to let them have what they are looking for, even if you’re angry or frightened. If you notice your stalker, try to get away from them and into a public area or into your or a friendly neighbour’s home.

If the harassment carries on, your only option is to Contact The Local Police.

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Hello i have a couple of questions, how do you catch a online stalker? A browser stalker? Long story a my upstairs neighbour has alliance with my next door neighbour who i really dislike. My mother once saw this next door woman exchange something with the upstairs man. I don’t know but i can assume ….. ,that. I need help because the upstairs neighbour is always in a speed downstairs whenever i tempt to make a recent delivery for my everyday life. Even when i look for help he does that, so i need help to catch them in the act but without them knowing. I can assume the upstairs neighbour has two alliances because one came to check on me. I also dislike the upstairs neighbour because long story short i don’t know who it might be but i have a feelingi have seen them before. I hqve nwver been into this sort of situation before because whenever i tempt to put up cameras for security, they always know. So how do i stop that?. I have no choice because one of his alliances came to chwck on me twice near the my living room window. The first time i was at home the second time I came from a friend’s house with a taxi, i am often worried for both my safety anf belongings because i have stuff needed for wvery day. I am a university student so i have things like computers more. Luckily i did getall my important stuff before my friend came to pick me up. I can’t hwlp bit feel anxhous because as soon as i saw this man he was shocked because he knew i’d seen him he turned a cornernext to when my bathroom window was and started drilling something in or out of the wall. I called the police foolishly i never told em about the grill because i was so shocked. I have tried to contact the landlord to let me look at the cctv but he is a stubborn person. So he leftme no choice but to set some C s for myself if you know what i mean myself. But he said no it’s a restricted private area. But for the more resson id its so private then why not allow access to any stalker?. Going back to the stalker he keeps informing someone about me everytime i itend to do some shopping, sometimes i have scjool work, i go to certian websites of my university or even whatever identity i have. Who i talk to they get a good listening. I have apps so whenever i receive certain notifications they emediently react and i can’t catch em doing that because i feel powerless. I want tobecome powerfull. I have tried contacting the police when i managed to take a photo of the stalker’s friend. There is a second stalker who plays his or her cards closer to the chest who i once had also a history just once. I was seeking help because i was asking about the area of theft. At the very beggining when someone tried to test my windows and i was new. I had no idea things would be this way and by test i mean testing to see if i was there. I had seen two boys running away once they knew i was there. I am not a drug dealer or a theif ,I am just a normal student whos int
Mishu - 28-Sep-21 @ 12:16 AM
Hello i have a couple of questions, how do you catch a online stalker? A browser stalker? Long story a my upstairs neighbour has alliance with my next door neighbour who i really dislike. My mother once saw this next door woman exchange something with the upstairs man. I don’t know but i can assume ….. ,that. I need help because the upstairs neighbour is always in a speed downstairs whenever i tempt to make a recent delivery for my everyday life. Even when i look for help he does that, so i need help to catch them in the act but without them knowing. I can assume the upstairs neighbour has two alliances because one came to check on me. I also dislike the upstairs neighbour because long story short i don’t know who it might be but i have a feelingi have seen them before. I hqve nwver been into this sort of situation before because whenever i tempt to put up cameras for security, they always know. So how do i stop that?. I have no choice because one of his alliances came to chwck on me twice near the my living room window. The first time i was at home the second time I came from a friend’s house with a taxi, i am often worried for both my safety anf belongings because i have stuff needed for wvery day. I am a university student so i have things like computers more. Luckily i did getall my important stuff before my friend came to pick me up. I can’t hwlp bit feel anxhous because as soon as i saw this man he was shocked because he knew i’d seen him he turned a cornernext to when my bathroom window was and started drilling something in or out of the wall. I called the police foolishly i never told em about the grill because i was so shocked. I have tried to contact the landlord to let me look at the cctv but he is a stubborn person. So he leftme no choice but to set some C s for myself if you know what i mean myself. But he said no it’s a restricted private area. But for the more resson id its so private then why not allow access to any stalker?. Going back to the stalker he keeps informing someone about me everytime i itend to do some shopping, sometimes i have scjool work, i go to certian websites of my university or even whatever identity i have. Who i talk to they get a good listening. I have apps so whenever i receive certain notifications they emediently react and i can’t catch em doing that because i feel powerless. I want tobecome powerfull. I have tried contacting the police when i managed to take a photo of the stalker’s friend. There is a second stalker who plays his or her cards closer to the chest who i once had also a history just once. I was seeking help because i was asking about the area of theft. At the very beggining when someone tried to test my windows and i was new. I had no idea things would be this way and by test i mean testing to see if i was there. I had seen two boys running away once they knew i was there. I am not a drug dealer or a theif ,I am just a normal student whos int
Mishu - 28-Sep-21 @ 12:13 AM
Neighbors knocked wall dwn in attic bugged my car absolutely horrendous Don’t my feel safe Plz help me
Nins - 19-Sep-21 @ 8:01 AM
Neibours knocked wall dwn in attic bugg d my electric and car Absolutely horrendous I’m alone Don’t know how much more I can take Please help??
Nins - 19-Sep-21 @ 7:58 AM
My neighbour likes to film my kids, and my neighbours kids,covertly, also hangs out of the window late at night filming me, and muttering insults. Even had the cheek to ring the police, on us over something she started.
Google - 1-Sep-21 @ 12:36 AM
Here's an update. My stalker neighbour is rarely home now. His druggy mates have stopped coming over to my place, looking for him. He's left me alone. I no longer get followed or hang-up calls. His landlord ,(& I found out, is my landlord, too). Our landlord has evicted my neighbour for 'drug dealing'. He has 2 weeks to leave.( I won't need to move to get away from him). I was also told "he has to remove all of the video cameras before he leaves the house."
Al - 3-Aug-21 @ 11:27 AM
I had my younger male neighbour watching & following me. We were friends for awhile & we'd text each other. Then put up video cameras all around his house, facing my house & back yard & he built a high fence. He was sneaking around at night to make my large dog bark. He's shout obscenities at me when I had a male friend in my house. He had different people, coming & going, staying a few minutes & leaving. Another neighbour asked me "is your neighbour a druggy & dealer"? I said "I don't know, we don't talk anymore & he told me "don't text me anymore",( I don't !). Then he said "we have to set boundaries". "What?" He's the one, stalking me, not the other way around !Now I get 'hang-up' calls from different numbers & his druggy mates coming to my house, asking me "where is he?" I tell them "I don't know & I don't care". I'll move when my lease ends. I'm glad I'm only renting, so I can get away from this 'Psycho neighbour'.Al.
Al - 1-Aug-21 @ 6:02 AM
I have a neighbour who is very socially awkward. I'm not a person who enjoys small talk because it makes me feel uncomfortable so I try to avoid it not because I don't like you but because it makes me feel uncomfortable. It's was a normal day for me and I was walking my dog at my yard but all of a sudden my neighbour said his first words to me. I have never spoken to him since I moved in the neighbourhood the past 10,11 years. And the first words he spoke to me was"hey you come here" I said excuse me?he said it again only with an aggressive authorative tone "COME HERE" I said no. Hey went away and 10 seconds later he came back and said "SAY NO IF YOU DONT WANT TO!" And he left. But the following days he began to just stand outside next to my house. Whenever I went outside he would come out and stand there and stare to the point he would whistle to me trying to call me the behaviour would persist to the point I couldnt walk my dog I couldnt sit in the kitchen since he would call me whenever I'm in the kitchen. It was raining heavily and there was a thunderstorm my two brothers and Iwere about to finish something during that rain and thunderstorm but they couldnt see him and couldnt hear him whistle to me I told my brother about him because he was standing outside the raining weather with a thunderstorm and he would whisle to me. My brother talked to him so he stopped. But the next day he talked to me and said "why did you rat me out?,you should be apologizing to me right now. He stopped for 2 weeks but continued to the point when it was at night at 1 in the morning I was checking my Dog she was stuck to something so I had to get her out of it only to find him staring at me the behaviour persisted after that to the point I informed his mother he stopped for a while but continued. I told him I'm not interested I dont want him and I hate him and I will never love him but all he said was that his parents are not around I should come inside. People who have more authority than him warn him but he persist. My home is everything I'm not a person who has everything so I cherish whatever I have and my home is very important but to have that invaded by someone who doesnt care about you makes me mad it's been 4 months since this happened. And recently when I started walking my dog again he would always be there watching me at the same time I walk my dog,so I stopped walking my dog again.
Sam - 22-Jul-21 @ 11:42 AM
I have a neighbour who is very socially awkward. I'm not a person who enjoys small talk because it makes me feel uncomfortable so I try to avoid it not because I don't like you but because it makes me feel uncomfortable. It's was a normal day for me and I was walking my dog at my yard but all of a sudden my neighbour said his first words to me. I have never spoken to him since I moved in the neighbourhood the past 10,11 years. And the first words he spoke to me was"hey you come here" I said excuse me?he said it again only with an aggressive authorative tone "COME HERE" I said no. Hey went away and 10 seconds later he came back and said "SAY NO IF YOU DONT WANT TO!" And he left. But the following days he began to just stand outside next to my house. Whenever I went outside he would come out and stand there and stare to the point he would whistle to me trying to call me the behaviour would persist to the point I couldnt walk my dog I couldnt sit in the kitchen since he would call me whenever I'm in the kitchen. It was raining heavily and there was a thunderstorm my two brothers and Iwere about to finish something during that rain and thunderstorm but they couldnt see him and couldnt hear him whistle to me I told my brother about him because he was standing outside the raining weather with a thunderstorm and he would whisle to me. My brother talked to him so he stopped. But the next day he talked to me and said "why did you rat me out?,you should be apologizing to me right now. He stopped for 2 weeks but continued to the point when it was at night at 1 in the morning I was checking my Dog she was stuck to something so I had to get her out of it only to find him staring at me the behaviour persisted after that to the point I informed his mother he stopped for a while but continued. I told him I'm not interested I dont want him and I hate him and I will never love him but all he said was that his parents are not around I should come inside. People who have more authority than him warn him but he persist. My home is everything I'm not a person who has everything so I cherish whatever I have and my home is very important but to have that invaded by someone who doesnt care about you makes me mad it's been 4 months since this happened. And recently when I started walking my dog again he would always be there watching me at the same time I walk my dog,so I stopped walking my dog again.
Amakha - 22-Jul-21 @ 11:39 AM
New neighbor stalks me right in front of his wife.Follows me and openly stares and tries to look at my body.Was conspicuously holding a golf umbrella in front of my body and he's circling like a hummingbird trying to look.Please help.Backyards connect and every time i open my back door he is there opening his.Acts like a rapist.
Do Not Follow - 5-Jul-21 @ 9:05 PM
My situation began when I started to grey-rock a male 60 year old who lives about 15 feet from my unit.We got on OK for a few weeks but he started trying to infiltrate and control everything I did.That was when I deliberately avoided talking with him but not being rude or abrasive, just a nod or a wave.He was having none of it. When I had visitors, he came over to ask for random items such as a screw driver or can opener and I knew he already had them.What he really wanted was for me to invite him in to join us.No.Just, no.When I saw my guests out to their cars, he would go outside to check his meter box or sweep up non-existent dirt from his side of the driveway. Eventually, he opened his front door whenever I opened mine.Then he would close it when I closed mine.This happened many times a day.One night I came home and he was opening and slamming his door.He'd go into our communal driveway and scream expletives and call me names that I won't repeat here.Suddenly, he was vandalizing my porch and urinating on the timber. I called the police who interviewed us separately.He told them I was a crazy #$%^ and #$%&&.We went to court and the magistrate ordered him to stay away from my premises for 12 months.It didn't stop him.He knew when I was catching a bus and I watched him from the bus as he walked up to my back gate to have a look into my yard. That was six years ago and he will not stop.His stalking is escalating and I have not reacted to it at all but inside, I am exhausted to the point of depression.I have had cancer and its treatments and surgeries during all of this, not that he was aware of that and knowing about it would have made him more violent.It is violence of the most insidious and systematic kind. He continues to pass me in the driveway.He hears my door shut and then he goes out through his back door so he can pass me.It's unnerving. I have to move ASAP.As long as I keep on staying non-reactive, the worse he will get and I fear for my physical safety.I hate my life right now.I hate him more
Cherry - 27-Jun-21 @ 9:50 AM
My neighbors front door looks at my front door he has his whole apartment set up to watch me go out the door. He does not work and is constantly harassing me with unwanted attention. I now work at home and have decided to quit engaging with him. It’s called grey rocking a person. I do laundry every Tuesday before work at 6:15am when coming out of the laundry he is walking toward with a weird smile on his face. He creepy. When I go to but my laundry in the dryer half hour later he is waiting for in a small space as if to trap me. Started asking me questions. He is very nosy! I now have to find other places to do laundry. He listens to when I unlock my door and will step out his door at the same time. I have checked his background and he is 2 unlawful gun charges along with menacing over 20 years ago! Although do these people really change. He has charming personality and was making lots of neighbors friends but all have separated themselves from him. I’m his only target now. He was working 3 other women too. Asking them out offering to fix their cars or help them with house repairs. I’m documenting everything thing he does to me. Thank God for articles like theses that help to open our eyes. This man has been disrespecting my boundaries for a long time. I just could not put my finger on the problem. Now I see!! Protect yourself.
Shyatoo - 24-Jun-21 @ 3:33 AM
My neighbors front door looks at my front door he has his whole apartment set up to watch me go out the door. He does not work and is constantly harassing me with unwanted attention. I now work at home and have decided to quit engaging with him. It’s called grey rocking a person. I do laundry every Tuesday before work at 6:15am when coming out of the laundry he is walking toward with a weird smile on his face. He creepy. When I go to but my laundry in the dryer half hour later he is waiting for in a small space as if to trap me. Started asking me questions. He is very nosy! I now have to find other places to do laundry. He listens to when I unlock my door and will step out his door at the same time. I have checked his background and he is 2 unlawful gun charges along with menacing over 20 years ago! Although do these people really change. He has charming personality and was making lots of neighbors friends but all have separated themselves from him. I’m his only target now. He was working 3 other women too. Asking them out offering to fix their cars or help them with house repairs. I’m documenting everything thing he does to me. Thank God for articles like theses that help to open our eyes. This man has been disrespecting my boundaries for a long time. I just could not put my finger on the problem. Now I see!! Protect yourself.
Shyatoo - 24-Jun-21 @ 2:36 AM
My neighbors front door looks at my front door he has his whole apartment set up to watch me go out the door. He does not work and is constantly harassing me with unwanted attention. I now work at home and have decided to quit engaging with him. It’s called grey rocking a person. I do laundry every Tuesday before work at 6:15am when coming out of the laundry he is walking toward with a weird smile on his face. He creepy. When I go to but my laundry in the dryer half hour later he is waiting for in a small space as if to trap me. Started asking me questions. He is very nosy! I now have to find other places to do laundry. He listens to when I unlock my door and will step out his door at the same time. I have checked his background and he is 2 unlawful gun charges along with menacing over 20 years ago! Although do these people really change. He has charming personality and was making lots of neighbors friends but all have separated themselves from him. I’m his only target now. He was working 3 other women too. Asking them out offering to fix their cars or help them with house repairs. I’m documenting everything thing he does to me. Thank God for articles like theses that help to open our eyes. This man has been disrespecting my boundaries for a long time. I just could not put my finger on the problem. Now I see!! Protect yourself.
Shyatoo - 24-Jun-21 @ 2:30 AM
Why in the he'll do our taxes give them time..... Okay everyone whom touches my house...I live i n a house not touching the street so neighbors all around . I'm the only one with a job. Get if they are not reproducing children they can't afford then if not doing that they have nothing going on so they stick their nose jamming it up my Ass. Get relate with everything people have mentioned. So though its just focus me off when I'm getting ready for work and they are all out on their porch sound nothing. I make a dollar or two above minimum wage, so not much and they take out money from my check to enable these to lack me sleep to the point I feel asleep at my job and by the grace of god I manages to keep my job but was sent home. Just descussting how they pace and harass the mail man for their monthly federal aka our taxes...as if they are intitled to that money. The world just sending the message that this is what they think is right. The system needs to be trashed. My father when I was young was dealing with this same problem. This makes me feel very insufficient due to nothing change changed. Its retarded we stand next to the way things are as if we are representing,.... I'm kinda ashamed due to I disagree and believes this shouldn't be this way. No change. Makes me resent life. Uniforcantly it should be as simple as you spot something or someone wrong then you should change it. Disappointed that's not how it is but we voted of selfs out of power long before I was ever born. Depressing and Unnessary stress.
Bubbles - 23-Jun-21 @ 8:22 AM
Nosey neighbours peeky blinders are sad retards. These kind of people should be locked in a mental hospital because clearly - the medication ain’t working. Spying on people should be a criminal offence as you are causing harm emotionally to the other person/persons. Behaviour is about who’s we act and how we react through communication and body language. They are Ill so show empathy for that Ill deluded pain in the arse . Show your own strength by moving past what the ill person is doing - as this will never change and it’s only only damaging your own health . It’s a waste of energy , worry, moaning and time . Don’t give them anymore of your time . This person most probably doesn’t work because they are ill in the head and on benefits. You live the better life that they are jealous of which is why they are obsessed.You are up here and they are down there. Game over!
Krystal - 21-Jun-21 @ 2:16 PM
So after a year I have had similar experience. Disruptions everyday. &am to 9pm. Cutting my tree in middle of night to take my privacy from window. comes down loud and discusses my schedule with my neighbor. Everyday. Ive changed things up but they still seem to know when Im up. Im 3rd shift nurse. Cant sleep for my shift. Disrupts well being. very tough nights at work let alone dont get my rest. 1 yr later lease month to month until I get out. Hard finding during pandemic. Sad part these managers also sit out my apt. staring at my place. Took picture of me at window. Try not to let it get a rise out of me. But when you hear noises outside your door dont you look. And when you hear ladder or someone on roof. this makes me angry
min - 15-Jun-21 @ 1:14 AM
My neighbor is a married man, his wife about 6 months ago got hired as a Care giver and is hardly ever home now.The man doesnt work and is always home, I used to walk my dog around the property, all of a sudden he would be right behind me, so I stopped walking my dog. Most recently it escalated to following me when I run errands, Market, washing my car at the car wash, but on Tuesday 6-1-21 I saw him were I go to buy water, I dont get the water in the city I live in, I go to get water where my Mom used to live, all of a sudden before I parked my car he walks right beside my car, I got scared, what the hell is he doing here, there's no way this os a coincidence.SHOULD TELL HIS WIFE HES MAKING ME UNCOMFORTABLE,PLEASE HELP ME!!!!
Uncomfortable - 5-Jun-21 @ 12:40 AM
I'm dealing with a very unpleasant neighbor at the moment who watches my comings and goings constantly and discusses me with her friend down the road. They phone each other when I go out and return. This neighbor also phones me late at night to moan at me and criticise the way I live my life.She also insists on calling round to 'discuss things', without any warning. I really need to move but it's difficult during the pandemic.
Fed up Frank - 22-May-21 @ 4:04 PM
Holy cow! I'm having a similar situation with my brother-in-law and sister. My family has a ranch I Colorado and that is where my parents retired. So trying to keep this short, because it's been going on for over a year, I have been out here almost seven years doing my best to care for my aging parents. I lived in their house for five years, keep in mind I'm 52, and then moved to a little house my grandfather lived in. Well my sister, no longer so, immediately came out to yell at me for moving there, told me it wasn't my house and I had to leave. Meanwhile, she lives in a mansion my father bought on a foreclosure and rarely pay for just the mortgage. Anyway, my brother-in-law brings his huge family out here and hide in the forest with those camouflage suits that can make you look like a rock when you fall to the ground. Night and day. I'm in the middle of a thousand acres by myself. Creepy to say least. And they have the house wired to shake if they don't like what I do. It's absolutely maddening! I still don't what to do. Everyone thinks that I'm crazy.
Charlie - 18-May-21 @ 10:05 PM
Fraud medical set ups for elzhimner situation usingimplantable audioimplants...forblocking your thoughts... to make seem like your forgettingthings...but it been all planned for you to make you look like yourloosing it... for aMental institutions set up?...Unknowns putting implantsto control you for the set up in one of them? No one will help you either, but law and someone should be! They say you can't implant cell phone invisible implants to stereo music under your skin or in a tooth ...excetra..so it does not disturb other people! what if it was used for a set up for revenge of someone ...the voice implants to make you hear voices no one else can hear.... this stuff is in other countries but used differently with authorizations excetra like real telepathy, .but no one says anything about that here? Can anyone explain that? This is a game I heard about in our area don't know if it is true but it's frightening don't you all think? It's called electric harassment!? and even a neighbor could do this anyone in-fact could do this to a person but real sneaky maybe as an impersonator !!! I am like holy Crud! An unknown gang guy or person was heard talking about this he says it does what they want! I was like................ What?' Read: "The invisible crime" a true story! nothing is unbelievable anymore! I hope no one has a neighbor/or knows anyonelike that! The robotic future is here!?
Sherbert - 22-Apr-21 @ 4:25 AM
they are both over 60 but it's getting to a point where tempers will blow any advice please to see the guy next door watching me again. I can not confront them in away I would like as reached a new low recently when leaving for work at morning I stepped out of my back door garden as the pair would appear like mear cats and watch everything we did while out. it we do. summer was horrified as during the warm weather we couldn't sit in our back tension has risen with them as they constantly stand at their back door watching everything I have neighours who have live next to me for over 8 years since they both retired.
christine ewurum - 23-Mar-21 @ 7:52 PM
how to deal with a neighour? that the only solution thank the universe I have means to make that happen.so it's very hard to get hold of evidence i've already decided i'm going to move out soon about getting her monthly rent. these type sick individuals advocate her is concerned only has toward herself I got so fed up of living as if I have to walk on eggshells I rang the landlord and informed her of it. and seeks to control other people as a way to compensate for the lack of control she this is beyond CP this is epilepsy behaviour this woman has mental health promblems parcel at the door without her lurking through her door or literally walking out of her door like she obsessed with my every move, I can't go outside to throw the bin or even get a literally follow me around pretending to be doing something else but she watches me it's
ewurum - 23-Mar-21 @ 7:47 PM
So glad people get this. I live in a block of 6 apartments. We have communal garden and washing drying area. A new neighbour moved into the ground apartment ( I’m top) She appeared nice, friendly at first. We chatted often, we both have dogs so the dogs enjoyed playing together in the garden. I soon realised this woman was a bit different, she didn’t go out. She smoked a lot. After a few months summer came, washing hang out. Every time I was in the back garden I could feel her staring at me. Next thing she is copying things I wear, even bed sets I hang out on line. Sounds silly, but It is really upsetting and very creepy. She added me on Facebook, started messaging me. Then somehow got my phone number. She was taking over the building putting big notes on doors telling us to keep doors closed etc. Any time I take my rubbish out she’s there at the window, any time I hang washing out she’s there at the window. Very creepy. I’m very uncomfortable in my own environment.I stopped chatting to her as much once I realised something wasn’t quite right. She had no conversation, other than talking about folk, not in a nice way. More new neighbours came and before they even moved in she was bad mouthing them, saying the girl looked down her nose at her. And that they were not a nice couple. ( they are lovely) In October things got better, then this day her son visited. And I was cleaning the close. I could hear their conversation all about me, and him ( who I don’t know) mimicking me. It was very hurtful. But gave me a reason to cut her off completely. She realised I had done this but didn’t know why. She called me I bumped her calls. She approached me and answered in one word reply and walked away. She then came and asked if I had done something tho offend me. So I told her I’d overheard, that it was fine and I just wanted to keep myself to myself. January she approached me again, saying I’d had been walking I the street telling folk not to talk to her.I laughed and put her straight that I had much better things to talk about than her, and that I had not interest in her. Hindsight she was just looking for a reaction and got it. Now we are approaching summer and washing time again, she is still sitting looking out staring. It’s horrible and I don’t know what if anything I can do to stop this creepy behaviour. It’s really affecting me .
Moi - 23-Mar-21 @ 7:08 AM
So glad people get this. I live in a block of 6 apartments. We have communal garden and washing drying area. A new neighbour moved into the ground apartment ( I’m top) She appeared nice, friendly at first. We chatted often, we both have dogs so the dogs enjoyed playing together in the garden. I soon realised this woman was a bit different, she didn’t go out. She smoked a lot. After a few months summer came, washing hang out. Every time I was in the back garden I could feel her staring at me. Next thing she is copying things I wear, even bed sets I hang out on line. Sounds silly, but It is really upsetting and very creepy. She added me on Facebook, started messaging me. Then somehow got my phone number. She was taking over the building putting big notes on doors telling us to keep doors closed etc. Any time I take my rubbish out she’s there at the window, any time I hang washing out she’s there at the window. Very creepy. I’m very uncomfortable in my own environment.I stopped chatting to her as much once I realised something wasn’t quite right. She had no conversation, other than talking about folk, not in a nice way. More new neighbours came and before they even moved in she was bad mouthing them, saying the girl looked down her nose at her. And that they were not a nice couple. ( they are lovely) In October things got better, then this day her son visited. And I was cleaning the close. I could hear their conversation all about me, and him ( who I don’t know) mimicking me. It was very hurtful. But gave me a reason to cut her off completely. She realised I had done this but didn’t know why. She called me I bumped her calls. She approached me and answered in one word reply and walked away. She then came and asked if I had done something tho offend me. So I told her I’d overheard, that it was fine and I just wanted to keep myself to myself. January she approached me again, saying I’d had been walking I the street telling folk not to talk to her.I laughed and put her straight that I had much better things to talk about than her, and that I had not interest in her. Hindsight she was just looking for a reaction and got it. Now we are approaching summer and washing time again, she is still sitting looking out staring. It’s horrible and I don’t know what if anything I can do to stop this creepy behaviour. It’s really affecting me .
Moi - 23-Mar-21 @ 2:46 AM
So out of all of these stories that I have read, mayI ask has any one of you found a solution or counterspy option? My story is very similar to several of those of you who have posted. Cops cant do much. Instead of a lengthy paragraph on my situation Im interested in answer. Please reach out to me for those of you who found a harmless revenge strategy or something that got them to finally leaver you alone.
T - 21-Mar-21 @ 11:18 PM
I have a stalking neighbour across my way,I live in townhouse apartment complex,He moved in 2 years ago,At first it started when I caught him watching me putting rubbish in the outside bin,He just looked at me and watched me go back inside,Second time was when I had jehova witness call to the door,I spoke to them outside and he then came outside and listened to us,Third time was when my kids where outside playing and he watched my kids then looked at me,I said ok kids let’s go to the park & what do you know next thing he is at the park and brings his wife along,The next time was when I was out doing my laundry and he was just looking at me from his window staring at me for a good 5 minutes,I said f this and confronted him asked him wtf his problem was or is,He said he can stare where he likes,I called him a creep and a weirdo and to never look at me again,It calmed down a few weeks,But then started up again,He would be watching cars coming and going from my place(take out deliveries) He would be pepping out his blinds if I was out the front,He only opens his blinds when my blinds are open,Once my mate dropped me home and I went into the kitchen to return to the car and the creep rocked up straight after,He looked at my house then looked at my mates car and him,But my mate snapped and asked him just WTF are you looking at,He crapped himself and ran inside,The stalking staring stopped for a few months after that but now he’s getting at it again and has now also made mates with another neighbour and it now seems they’re playing complaint wars as a part of their stalking and abuse,I’ve received letters two in three months now that noise has been coming from my apartment,Seriously I’ve lived here ten years never once have I had a noise complaint and now I’m facing these accusations, I want to move but a part of me doesn’t want to move,I feel if I move I’m giving into these low lives with nothing better to do.
Billy - 21-Mar-21 @ 12:15 PM
I have a stalking neighbour across my way,I live in townhouse apartment complex,He moved in 2 years ago,At first it started when I caught him watching me putting rubbish in the outside bin,He just looked at me and watched me go back inside,Second time was when I had jehova witness call to the door,I spoke to them outside and he then came outside and listened to us,Third time was when my kids where outside playing and he watched my kids then looked at me,I said ok kids let’s go to the park & what do you know next thing he is at the park and brings his wife along,The next time was when I was out doing my laundry and he was just looking at me from his window staring at me for a good 5 minutes,I said f this and confronted him asked him wtf his problem was or is,He said he can stare where he likes,I called him a creep and a weirdo and to never look at me again,It calmed down a few weeks,But then started up again,He would be watching cars coming and going from my place(take out deliveries) He would be pepping out his blinds if I was out the front,He only opens his blinds when my blinds are open,Once my mate dropped me home and I went into the kitchen to return to the car and the creep rocked up straight after,He looked at my house then looked at my mates car and him,But my mate snapped and asked him just WTF are you looking at,He crapped himself and ran inside,The stalking staring stopped for a few months after that but now he’s getting at it again and has now also made mates with another neighbour and it now seems they’re playing complaint wars as a part of their stalking and abuse,I’ve received letters two in three months now that noise has been coming from my apartment,Seriously I’ve lived here ten years never once have I had a noise complaint and now I’m facing these accusations, I want to move but a part of me doesn’t want to move,I feel if I move I’m giving into these low lives with nothing better to do.
Billy - 21-Mar-21 @ 12:14 PM
My neighbors have been constantly stalking me for months now. I hear them talking about me and disrespecting me alot of times.I tried to reason with them to stop what their doing but they continue. They have some type of monitoring system set up. Its crazy..I never believed they would do this. The other night, I watched the couple waiting for me at the 4 stop at around 12 to 2 am as I was coming back from a friends house. They were in their car with the lights completely off. They thought I didn't see them, but I did. Its getting to the point to where I will be hiring an attorney to file a lawsuit against them. What a shame. They spy on me when I'm showering as well. Thats super creepy...and this whole time its like entertainment to them.I will take further actions as they continue to stalk me. And when I speak up and say something,they get into a defensive mode. Creeping, stalking, wierd neighbors.The STALKING SANDERS FAMILY.
shadow - 20-Mar-21 @ 2:46 AM
I am having a huge probleimwith severalneighbors in different apt watching me on camera all through my house and physically shaking the floor with a machine behind the walls making it to where I cant walk through my house feels like a roller coaster. Also when I come outside the come outside every day for months and days. Apt c apt e also apt fand other apts are watching me like some type of TV show but every second in my house they use to the wall shaking in the shower I. The bedroom with my wife in Intament moments banging on the wall and pulling up with a loud truck when me and my wife start to get intament I even try to wait till late first the would play music outside real loud them they just started pulling up letting me k ow the are watching me inside my house I think the maintenance men and my neighbors put cans in my house and are harrassed me stalked me and terrorized me and my wife and children for mo tha what's should I do?
Stalked while I type - 19-Mar-21 @ 2:19 AM
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