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How to Deal With a Neighbour 'Stalking' You

By: Sarah Clark (ILEX) - Updated: 29 May 2017 | comments*Discuss
 
Neighbour Stalking Stalker Harassment

Stalking by neighbours – or anyone, in fact – is one of those crimes that is often joked about, but can be very unnerving and at times even frightening. If you suspect that you are a victim of stalking, whether it’s a stranger or a neighbour, one of the main things to do is to try and keep calm. Stalkers and people who are out to harass others are often just looking for a reaction, and if you try to stay aloof and appear unconcerned, even if you are feeling anything but, they may lose interest and leave you alone.

Harassment covers pretty much all forms of unwanted behaviour, from mildly irritating to actual physical violence. Harassment can be a criminal offence and Laws Exist To Protect You . If the neighbour concerned is also watching or following you, making constant attempts to contact you or even sending you unwanted gifts, harassment becomes 'stalking'.

It may seem innocent at first – a neighbour seems to be a bit over friendly perhaps, and in all honesty, it could be a misunderstanding or a one-off. But if the strange or unwanted behaviour happens repeatedly (and repeatedly just means more than once) or you’re feeling distressed or frightened by the behaviour, trust your instincts. Stalking is a criminal offence so don’t blame yourself and don’t think that you have to put up with it, whether it’s a neighbour or a stranger.

Keep Hold of the Evidence

If things escalate, make sure that you keep a note of all incidents that you consider to be harassment or stalking and tell people, other neighbours, or your friends and relatives, what’s going on. You can enlist the help of willing neighbours who might be able to keep an eye out for the perpetrator – if they deliver anything, or are hanging around your property, for example.

If the person who is stalking you also uses text, email, or the post to get to you, you should keep evidence of these as they can be used if you need to take the matter up formally. Don’t be tempted to respond – that’s what the stalker wants you to do.

In addition to hard evidence, Keep A Diary Of Events, making sure that you note down anything suspicious, times, dates and events. Write down anything that your neighbour says or does that could be construed as stalking as soon as it happens, as only evidence that’s recorded ‘contemporaneously’ – that is, immediately – can be used in any future court proceedings if they become necessary.

Being Stalked on the Telephone

If part of your stalker’s campaign involves telephone calls, you should keep a record of dates and times of the calls and anything that was said. If the caller hasn’t disguised their number, make a note of that too, or if being stalked via a land line, try 1471 to see if they slip up and reveal their number.

BT may be able to help if the stalker has your landline number. Call the BT Nuisance Calls Bureau on 0800 661 441 if you are a BT customer. On your mobile, save any malicious text messages for evidence.

If You Feel in Danger

If you ever feel as if you are in imminent danger, call 999 straight away and don’t worry about feeling foolish if the threat later dissipates – it’s better to be safe than sorry.

Try to stay calm and not show any fear or emotion. Don’t lose your temper or attempt to confront your stalker, again, the bully is looking for a reaction, so you should try not to let them have what they are looking for, even if you’re angry or frightened. If you notice your stalker, try to get away from them and into a public area or into your or a friendly neighbour’s home.

If the harassment carries on, your only option is to Contact The Local Police.

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My next door neighbour follows me down to the local shop, when I take my dog out and go into town for a walk round the shops. They always stay in their car. Raise their voices to make threats through the walls. A couple of weeks ago he broke my fence climbing onto my back garden. He has been doing it for years. After discussing with my father my intent to get back into employment one afternoon, he waited until my father had gone out and indirectly made threats when sitting outside that if I get a job where he cannot follow because it is too public he will start doing the same to my father whom I live with.I've never even spoken to him or met him but it started with a tonof council complaints and later progressedto where it is now. His behaviour has intensified over the past five months but it started when I was 14. I am now 27 and I'm worried.I just don't understand his motives or what he intends to achieveby making me scared to leave the house. What does a person like that even get out of it? What's worse is he is always laughing and joking with the neighbours that surround my house I don't know what to do.All the stalking advise sites indicate his behaviour is dangerous, but there is no clear solution.Also what annoys me alot of the advise is for ex lovers. My stalker is a married man in his forties who likes power games.
j - 29-May-17 @ 6:50 PM
How would you know if they're looking in if the blinds are closed? Maybe your posting in someone else's name....
Anne G - 23-May-17 @ 8:23 AM
Hi, Im afraid about my privacy. My neighbors directly looking in to my windows. I living in ground floor bud still Its wierd, even When my blinds are down they try to look inside.Im aftaid about stalking any advice please ?
Jacob - 22-May-17 @ 8:58 PM
Star - Your Question:
I've got problems with my neighbour. He started off by complaining to my Landlord about my dogs barking, the other neighbours dogs bark too.but we seem to be made the scapegoat. He's also complained to my Landlord about me watering my plants.yes it's true.!! Whenever I vacuum he bangs on the walls. He constantly stares into our windows.and I have even caught him staring into my 15 year old sons bedroom whenever his blind is up ?? He constantly drills/saws/hammers.all day.everyday.yet this is seemingly fine for him to do this. It seems to be one rule for him and different rules for us.ie.DO NOT EVEN BREATHEI've been here 3 years now and its not getting any better. Although my Landlord has been brilliant with us, he doesnt have to live like we do. Please advise ?? Thankyou.

Our Response:
Have you made a complaint about the neighbour's actions to your landlord? Can you landlord sending him a warning for "harassing" other tenants. Or is the neighbouring property not owned by the same landlord.
ProblemNeighbours - 22-May-17 @ 12:06 PM
Tiredofbeingstalked - I am in a similar situation. I also think itsracism, i am not a native English. Maybe this is why I dont get much help either. Every time i complain i get accused instead because the offender is liying and they believe him on the basis that he tells them he didnt do any harm to me. For example, he says that it is me who attacks and threatens him. Mind! I am a woman on my own in a not native country and he is native strong man. Any sense?I am afraif to complain now because do not want to get upset even more. To feel hopeless and knowing you are unprotected is the worst thing . If i could just drop here everything and go back to my homeland then i would have it done already. I cant at the moment. Its a slow torture. Why to let people into the country and then leave them with no protection.
Mari - 21-May-17 @ 1:01 PM
My neighbour stalking my visitors, sometimes at me when he hears my door opening. Comes out and stare at them. If they are men he asks them if they are my boyfriends. Mind, i am a private teacher and this scare my earnings off. Now he stuck CCTV on both sides and it points at my direction, i was already afraid to get out of the house every time and now even more. All this happens after 5 years of my complaints about dogs noises day and night and his threats. Now instead he hammers and drills every day for a few months, very often drills the wall that is at my side. Every time hecomes up with some new 'invention' to how annoy me. He is a simple bullier. Whenever I complain I am not taken seriously, i am on my own. WHEN some Strict law will come out? To protect good citizens from criminals like this one. It ruined 5 years of my life and who knows for how long it will continue. Law must be for protection of law obiding citizens and not the criminals. What is going on in UK?
Mari - 21-May-17 @ 12:47 PM
I've got problems with my neighbour. He started off by complaining to my Landlord about my dogs barking, the other neighbours dogs bark too...but we seem to be made the scapegoat. He's also complained to my Landlord about me watering my plants...yes it's true...!! Whenever I vacuum he bangs on the walls. He constantly stares into our windows...and i have even caught him staring into my 15 year old sons bedroom whenever his blind is up ?? He constantly drills/saws/hammers...all day...everyday....yet this is seemingly fine for him to do this. It seems to be one rule for him and different rules for us...ie...DO NOT EVEN BREATHE I've been here 3 years now and its not getting any better. Although my Landlord has been brilliant with us, he doesnt have to live like we do. Please advise ?? Thankyou.
Star - 19-May-17 @ 5:15 PM
miss - Your Question:
Sometimes the only way to stop the harrasment is to keep notes and report it. im currently being stalked by the neighbours - two males across the street moved in when I did. id walk into the backyard and they would talk about it, id walk into te front yard and theyd talk about me. things they would do and how theyd get away with it so I told them to buzz off in a manner of speaking. then I was followed to work my wifi hacked and ij the last 4 months ive been assualted 4 times. ill be moving soon.

Our Response:
You should report this sort of behaviour to the police as well though.
ProblemNeighbours - 3-May-17 @ 11:32 AM
sometimes the only way to stop the harrasment is to keep notes and report it.im currently being stalked by the neighbours- two males across the street moved in when i did. id walk into the backyard and they would talk about it, id walk into te front yard and theyd talk about me. things they would do and how theyd get away with it so i told them to buzz off in a manner of speaking. then i was followed to work my wifi hacked and ij the last 4 months ive been assualted 4 times. ill be moving soon.
miss - 2-May-17 @ 4:23 PM
Me and my boyfriend have lived at a private rented property 3 years now. From day one the neighbour has progressed in her strange, intimaidataing behaviour towards us. She started out having a go literally eithon the first month we moved in there was an incident where she was quite rude to both me and my mum. Since then she has popped notes through out door at around 6 month intervals which are really nasty mainly about noise. We have not retaliated or written back, we have simply tried to be as quiet and respectful as we can but have felt quite intimidated by it all. she often bangs on the wall sometimes late at night when my boyf has gone to work and I am in the house alone. Then strange things have started happened like dead mice left in the garden, scratches on my car and items in the garden being moved. I was told by a neighbor that previously the gates that link the gardens had to be locked because she used to stare into people's houses. Many time as well as banging on walls I have bangs on the front door or in the garden. She has confronted us both many times, often drunk and also called the police on us for arguing/domestic incidents that she has just made up. Once we had literally just walked in the door and the police turned up claiming there was a complaint about noise! We explained we hadn't even been in when the complaint was made!! She even complains about me coughing when I have a cold!! Most recently I was in hospital for a week and went she came back she came round again with another note making all sorts of accusations about my boyfriend and told me to break up with him and that I should move out. I tried to act calmly and sent her away but I don't particularly want her on my property. I feel quite scared especially when my partner is at work at night. She seems unhinged and sometimes appears drunk. Her house is a state of disrepair, her fence is hanging off and there is rubbish all over her garden. We have never made a complaint about any of this but I wonder if other neighbors have and she thinks it's us? I have spoken to the police about her previously and reported the activity and shown the notes etc but it's so infrequent it's hard to build up a case. Just when we think she's settled down she kicks off again. The police offered mediation which we accepted but she refused. I feel like I am constantly living in fear. She has repeatedly told us she wants us to move, I have no idea why she hates us - she doesn't even know us! We don't want to move because we love the house and the village we are in, my parents are down the road and our neighbours on the other side are lovely. But after the last incident I am concerned this will just never end. I actually think she's not well mentally. Not sure what we can actually do. We don't want to antagonise her but at end of our tether. Any advice would be appreciated. Thanks.
Lyns - 6-Dec-16 @ 9:30 PM
At the end of September my home was broken in two and only a few things were stolen it was determined my ex roomate and her current boyfriend were the culprits. Shortly after I started to hear people on the roof and see lights being shown into my windows. Come to find out my neighbors on all sides have banned together to attempt to gaslight me into thinking I have lost touch with reality. They pick on me the most and as of late have been terrorizing my 2 year old daughter shining these projection gadgets into her room or on the wall where she can see it. At first I was terrified and I admit I still get worked up about it, but now I am mama angrey. My daughter wont sleep in any of the bedrooms and only feels safe on the couch. My husband still believes me, but he hasn;t experienced the full effect like I have. The people follow me when I leave my home I have had them waiting for me when I leave my friends hoes and they shie projection lights into my face when possible. I have tried to ctach them on video, but I only had my cell and a babymonitor posted outside. The protejections are hardly visiable and since there are no physical bodies on the property they have gotten away and the local police of the hill billy backwoods town have repeatedly suggest I check out a counslor. I am going to see a counclor for the trauma, but not because I all of a sudden have completely lost my mind. Last week I recognized the femail voice I had been hearing from time to time and realixed it came from a woan I am not on goood terms with. She is griends with my neighbor directly to the right of me. The lots are spread out so my next neighbor is over an acre away. Behind our home is a trailer park and I have pin pointed the lights orgins to three locations. We finally setup a trail cam and more lights to illuminate the dark trees that surround the house. I am not sure what the U. S. Laws are in the state of Oregon, but I know they harrass my minor daughter in her bedroom and am wondering if ther are strictor regulations for that? I had my windows blacked out but that gave them the ablity to get close without being seen. Now my windows are wide open and they are not shy about where they are or the noises they make. Not sure where to go from here. I feel stuck. Friends and family all know what is happening and luckily I am supported, becasue I have never been like this even with some of the other traumas I have endured in my life. I am resilliant and a Lioness when it comes to my baby. Just want to harness this strength in the most effective way to take them all down! Please tell me who people get around gaslight situations and what are the legal rammifications I need to focus on? Thank you!
Strength is my spiri - 19-Nov-16 @ 2:59 PM
My life was destroyed when my husband sent me packing, after 13 years we have been together. I was lost and helpless after trying so many ways to my husband back to me. One day at work, I was distracted, not knowing that my boss called me, so he sat and asked me what it was all about, I told him and he smiled and said it was no problem. I never understood what he meant by it was no problem getting back my husband, he said he used a spell to get back his wife when she left him for another man, and now they are together till date and initially I was shocked hearing something from my boss. He gave me an email address of the Prophet Abuvia which helped him get his wife back, I never believed that this would work, but I had no choice coming into contact with the sayings that I get done, and he asked for my information and that my husband was able to propose to throw him the spell and I sent him the details, but after two days, my mother called me that my husband was pleading that he wants me back, I never believed, because it was just a dream and I had to rush off to my mother's place and to my greatest surprise, was kneeling my husband beg mefor forgiveness that he wants me and the child back home, when I gave prophet Abuvia a conversation regarding sudden change of my husband and he made clear to me that my husband will love me until the end of the world, that he will never leave for another woman. Now me and my husband is back together and started doing funny things he has not done before, he makes me happy and do what it is supposed to do as a man without nagging. Please if you need help of any kind need, please contact Prophet Abuvia for help. His email is prophet.abuvia AT g m a i l. c o m his website is prophetabuviasolutiontemple. webs. com
Sarahcoleman - 19-Sep-16 @ 11:15 PM
I have had two stalkers. The more recent one loved to let me know he was watching me without leaving proof for me to offer the police. As a result, I close my blinds at night and early in the evening. I can also be seen cracking my blinds and looking out for every strange noise. It's not for my neighbors, I am just afraid I am going to see him. So perhaps some of these neighbors that seem to be watching you are actually just being hypersensitive about their homes surroundings because of a similar situation where they live in fear. In that case, sorry neighbor that our kitchen windows are aligned, but Ima look out at night and that's that. Cuz if the wolf is there I am getting a picture of him for the police.
IsHeStillWatching? - 16-Sep-16 @ 2:51 PM
I have an nighboor whos in her 60s who waited when im not around and stock my autistic boyfriend at publix, it was on going until he told her that he heard strange things of her, (in other words he dont feel to right around her.) she told my autistic boy friend lies on me lol luckly he walks away thank god, rather then flip out. he new right their the nighboor was skeptical for approaching him.the nighboor tells her friends she watches people get out their car and watch every move they make, ect. She even mimics their conversation to others. What ever dirty job she dont do, she gets her 23 year old son to go to peoples homes and investigate why they dont talk to her anymore, when reality their just trying to stay away from her.(their afraid). She would also follow me and my autistic boyfriend around the nighboorhood in her van while we try to doodge it. I spoke to my counsiler, and she says maybe its jelousy she has with my (im 24) relationship i have with my boyfriend, with the stock, lies ect. People suggest shes the one going through my mail when im not around. People in the neighbhood wants to avoid her but she seems to find ways to get around that. Maybe jelousy is the link to a stocker maybe, just saying.
tia - 4-Sep-16 @ 4:20 AM
My mother has endured 10 years of living next door to a DIY fanatic.The wife is like a Rottweiler and we have both suffered verbal abuse.The husband has taken over the neighbourhood - he has signs saying private everywhere.They are loud, brash and aggressive.And all that we can hope for is that they eventually move.It is sooooo stressful for my mother and me.Why should we keep diaries, report their behaviour - that would just be something for them to feed off. Yes, bottom feeders that's what they are.
StressedOut - 24-Aug-16 @ 11:45 AM
GODZILLA - Your Question:
MY NIEGH BOR IS REAL OLD BAG SHE KEEPS PUTING NOTES IN MY LETTER BOX ABOUT THE STATE OF MY GARDEN WHAT CAN I DO TO STOP HER?

Our Response:
Is your garden very untidy? Maybe she feels very upset if it is and she has to live next door to it. Do you need help with your garden? Sometimes local voluntary groups will come and help if you need it.
ProblemNeighbours - 17-Aug-16 @ 10:30 AM
MY NIEGH BOR IS REAL OLD BAG SHE KEEPS PUTING NOTES IN MY LETTER BOX ABOUT THE STATE OF MY GARDEN WHAT CAN I DO TO STOP HER?
GODZILLA - 16-Aug-16 @ 11:04 AM
I met a woman at a local restaurant a few months ago after the father of my children left us. I didn't think anything about it until yesterday when found out she is one of my neighbors. She asked me to babysit her kids (we are strangers, I don't even know her name) and invited my children and I to meet her kids. Meeting her kids was a way to get me out of my house so that she could tell me that we were now dating, that she will make me a good wife, and to tell me that we would be sleeping together that night. I told her that I was not interested in any relationship at all because in the past six months I had been molested several times. She keeps telling me that sleeping with her will fix everything and that her girlfriend won't have to know. She came over tonight demanding to know where I had been all day and telling me that she would be back later to sleep with me. I am not interested in girls nor am I over the father of my children but that seems to make no difference to her. I have no idea what to do. I tried being polite but she just does not seem to understand no, no many how many times it's said or how it's said and I'm afraid she will take things further if I keep denying her. What do I do?
Sabrina - 14-Aug-16 @ 5:18 AM
My mother has a neighbour that always has their blinds closed but there is always small parting in them so they can watch what is going on. Their window is directly in line with my mother's bedroom window. She has to almost keep her bedroom blinds constantly closed especially at night as this is when the neighbour's blinds start twitching. When I visit my mother every day, as soon as they hear the gate opening, the parting in the blinds gets moved around until they can see what's going on. I have looked up and the gap in the blinds gets closed quickly. I think it is the daughters room but she doesnt seem to have any friends or go out unless it is with her mother. She is around 17 year old but doesn't miss a thing. I've been in my mother's kitchen having a cup of tea and their bedroom window can be seen from there and if there is the slightest noise outside the blinds are flicked both ways from left to right to see who or what it is. My mother lives on her own and is elderly and feels intimidated by this watching. She is now concious of it any time she moved near a window or goes out to her garden. I really feel like reporting them to somewhere but I wouldn't know where to start.
Samm - 20-Jul-16 @ 3:49 PM
Girls- Your Question:
Iv lived in my house 9 yrs in a grove my bathroom window faces a nabours living room window and the last 4 5 weeks her son stares out of the window aged about 40 some think into my bathroom or living room window baring in mind they have been there about 11 12 yrs Making hand gestures and drop his bottoms and messing with his privates what can I do about this as I have to young children and if they seen it I would be very very mad he don't seem to cares who see's please help

Our Response:
Maybe you should consider reporting this to your local police if you think it's directed at you or if your children can easily see what's going on.
ProblemNeighbours - 7-Jul-16 @ 10:05 AM
Iv lived in my house 9 yrs in a grove my bathroom window faces a nabours living room window and the last 4 5 weeks her son stares out of the window aged about 40 some think into my bathroom or living room window baring in mind they have been there about 11 12 yrs Making hand gestures and drop his bottoms and messing with his privates what can I do about this as I have to young children and if they seen it I would be very very mad he don't seem to cares who see's please help
Girls - 3-Jul-16 @ 1:11 AM
I've lived at my property for about 18 months my neibours next door a elderly couple they certainly around when I first moved here and he kissedy cheek she kissed my neck creepy enough he now keeps coming around for stupid things like coconut milk for currys plastic bags for the bin even two slices of bread so stupid.so I have started to say no so he can get he's lazy backside and walk to the shops well now if Iout in the garden he makes comments about my tops not all tops just some and certain dresses I'm wearing it makes me feel vulnerable as a woman I wear these clothes as they are comfortableI can't even go and do gardening as he is always in he's garden talking at me telling me what to do with my garden the other day he looked at what I was wearing and said I hope you put sun lotion on youay get burned and about a week ago he looked at my garden and said it needed aams touch he's gf often comes out and asked him who he's talking to I'm considering moving my poor child won't go out incase they makes comments to
jkw1967 - 21-Jun-16 @ 8:34 AM
New neighbours moved in, we slowly got to know them, but she was kept dictating to us when her children could play with ours. Then her son who was 3 at the time kept knocking and knocking on the door all the time, we politely told him we were busy but he sat outside. She just didn't care about him. My daughter went over to play with her daughter but all the mother did was question my daughter about our family life and showed a great deal of interest in my husband.What a weirdo. She started getting another neighbour involved and they stirred up trouble dictating again when and where our children could play. They were so controlling. These two neighbours took upon themselves to take over the neighbour then scared my children away. Then she started on my husband totally ignoring me and she kept tying to get his attention, she just would not go away. She started stalking him and pestering him. We told her to go away and leave us alone, and I told her husband, who has no idea what she is like, he is never home, then she called the police on us and told them we were harassing her? The police believed her lies. She is still stalking us. Walking her dog outside my house looking in our windows. Why are people like that get away with it. I found out she stalked her siblings and caused trouble, they moved far far away from her. I told the police and they said she is just provoking me and ignore her, but she is crazy.
beingnharrased - 14-Jun-16 @ 11:28 AM
I moved into a block of 5units there was a sort of suspicious sticky Nose old man when me and my dad had a look at the property but I needed to make a quick decision. Anyway he invited me into his house to show me some of his handy man skills and made several extremely sexist comments about how he or my dad could negotiate furniture on my behalf.I figured he was a bigot caught in the last century.Anyway he lives at the front unit and started stopping me every time I walked or drove past asking what I was doing where I was going. I avoided him as best I could and did not take up on one of his offers to have coffee etc.Neighbours Later commented he would water his garden twice in a couple of hours. In wait for me. One of his lines we 'oh you work at x I bet you have some really good stories". (an attempt at being friendly. The right mind. You're own business.) Anyway one day I put a bin out super early as I hadn't worked overnight as I usually did.He later came and told me neighbour number 2 complained and woke him up.After a short think I was fuming I knew for a fact. Neighbour 2 disliked him as well.I stormed up to his door banging on it. and he smiled and tried to welcome me in.I'm a very quiet person and I started telling that he was crazy if he thought I would ever go inside his house and that he was making up lies about me and I had to put the bin out at that time because I was trying to avoid him and his behaviour not once was friendly in the slightest it was odd and unnerving and weird.He tried to say he was the body corporate president. (yes of a whole 7of us) and he would make a complaint about me. And my parents new him and met him .Well I lost it I spent hours screaming doe. The phone at my dad about this horrible man who I told me sad would have been a problem when we inspectedThethe place and I felt so unsafe living here am. My dad drove down from an hour a way and 2neigbbours came over to see if I was ok.He resigned as the so called president. He bribed a police officer to pull me over a month later (failing to keep left on a back country road yeah right). He also tried to say to me and other neighbours he had a physical degree and tried to tell me no one would believe he was harassing me because everyone loved him.I now stick my nose in the air when I see him and won't even look at him and will go out of my way to say hi to the other neighbours. I have started currently researching bad in my spare time anduit explained a lot..Narcissistic personality disorder but I want him too move or gave a heartattacj so he foes away.I'm 22and he's 67for the record.
Khloek - 29-May-16 @ 10:20 AM
Made friends with female neighbor. Stopped all contact after she told me she wants a relationship but told me I was lying when I said I dont feel anything for her.Being harrassed via calls and texts. Banging on my door and pressing buzzer. She lives in same block so my life is in danger everytime I leave property. Even more so when I go home as she sits in the window alot trying to interact with my other neighbours and looking out for me. If I could afford It I would have a bodyguard, she is that scary and intimidating. If you saw her and witnessed her ranting youd definately understand.
none - 27-May-16 @ 12:46 AM
Maceeexoxo - Your Question:
So my neighbor just got custody of her 15 almost 16 year old son so he moved in. I'm 13 years old. He started coming around me and my friends a lot just chilling and being friendly. I thought nothing of it honestly. Then, one day we were alone hanging out. And he got a little too friendly and I felt very uncomfortable and left. I started feeling like I was being watched every where I went. I've avoided him ever since he tried to make a move on me. He has knocked on my door 7 times in one day. I have told him to leave me alone and that I don't want to hangout with him anymore. He won't listen. My close friends told him that I don't want to hangout with him and he has basically given away the fact that he watches me sleep. He said these exact words " Have you seen her sleep, she is so cute." He's given me hints down the road to. Throwing things into open windows that I'm near. Well today drew the line for me. I'm started to get creeped out. Me and my friends were in my yard, having a conversation and he was watching us, we saw him. He seen that we realized. And he ran. Later he snuck back on us and my friend confronted him that he needs to stop. He acted violently and went home. His mom then came over to my house and yelled at me. He has been watching me through my bedroom window as I sleep. He has appeared at my school one time that I know of. I'm feeling very frightened.

Our Response:
Firstly, tell your own parents if you are feeling intimidated, secondly, make sure you draw you curtains when you're sleeping etc, that way he cannot watch you. If you feel that he may be violent towards you, or that you are at risk in any way, then contact the police.
ProblemNeighbours - 24-May-16 @ 12:41 PM
I have never had anything like it before but I'm so scared i Of it I sometimes hallucinate things watching me. Something that might stop them is this film for your windows that is so you can see outside but people can't see inside. It doesn't mean full sunlight, but if it really is a sunny day then lots of sun will still come in.
Alienic - 23-May-16 @ 10:10 PM
So my neighbor just got custody of her 15 almost 16 year old son so he moved in. I'm 13 years old. He started coming around me and my friends a lot just chilling and being friendly. I thought nothing of it honestly. Then, one day we were alone hanging out.. And he got a little too friendly and I felt very uncomfortable and left. I started feeling like I was being watched every where I went. I've avoided him ever since he tried to make a move on me. He has knocked on my door 7 times in one day. I have told him to leave me alone and that I don't want to hangout with him anymore. He won't listen. My close friends told him that I don't want to hangout with him and he has basically given away the fact that he watches me sleep. He said these exact words " Have you seen her sleep, she is so cute."He's given me hints down the road to. Throwing things into open windows that I'm near. Well today drew the line for me. I'm started to get creeped out. Me and my friends were in my yard, having a conversation and he was watching us, we saw him. He seen that we realized.. And he ran. Later he snuck back on us and my friend confronted him that he needs to stop. He acted violently and went home. His mom then came over to my house and yelled at me. He has been watching me through my bedroom window as I sleep. He has appeared at my school one time that I know of. I'm feeling very frightened.
Maceeexoxo - 23-May-16 @ 4:48 AM
I had that experience with a set of neighbours after a few months i moved in with my boyfriend. They weren't friendly with me to start with but things got worse. On a number of occasions i got accused of 'shutting' them if the curtains weren't fully opened - privacy was not allowed! They started to blank me which was a relief as i don't think i could've playacted at saying hello to a couple of malicious stalkers. Things escalated where if i went out in the garden or put out the rubbish, they'd come out too and glare. Going out to work or returning at a regular time resulted in being followed by the neighbour. I was doing some decorating and putting things in the bin and then saw the neighbour come and snoop through the bin! My car was tampered with on a number of occasions, punctures, removing wipers etc. There were occasions when it was clear that someone had been in the garden and left signs or tampered with things; there were also uninvited house visits! One of them held keys to the house so it wasn't a poltergeist. If that wasn't enough, other neighbours joined in with this harassment. After a prolonged period, they stopped but it was replaced by excessive nosiness, repeated, unwanted house visits and some following by another neighbour. It's been a frightening experience and i hope that Karma knocks on their door at some point and gives them a gift they don't want.
Aloha - 21-Apr-16 @ 4:30 PM
I moved into my current property and the same evening my new neighbor had knocked my door. She gave orders on the front garden and TOLD ME that she shares my back garden. The first issues were she was taking letters from the previous tenant out of my letterbox, she seemed more interested in my mail than hers. She told me she had googled my name ( this I assume she found from dipping her hand in my letterbox. I was so angry. Whenever my door buzzes she's out like a flash to the door. She parks her car right by my front window and therefore can see in every time she enters and exits the car. The one day she asked for some milk and when I walked into the kitchen, she had walked into my flat and was looking around the living room.It got that bad, I've put security door chains on my front and back door and keep my curtains closed. She even knocked to ask if I was depressed because she'd seen my curtains closed in the day. I hate it so much I am applying to move. What is it with loners? They should get a life instead of worrying about other peoples.
Jaymiep77 - 17-Apr-16 @ 6:53 PM
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