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Problems With Neighbours' Children

By: Sarah Clark (ILEX) - Updated: 29 Sep 2020 | comments*Discuss
 
Child Parent Neighbour Property Noise

You don’t want to be labelled a complainer, but sometimes your neighbours’ children can be more of a nuisance than a blessing. Older neighbours may remember a time when you could pay an unruly child’s parents a visit and you would know that any issues would be swiftly resolved, but these days you have to be extremely wary of what you say and do about children in the neighbourhood.

What to Do About Noisy Children

Whether you appreciate it or not, there’s not much that you can do about excessive noise during the day from children. Kids are exuberant by nature and it would seem a little bit churlish to try to curb normal noise levels, even if the screaming and shouting is getting a bit too much.

If it really is becoming an issue, your only course of action is to ask their parents nicely to have a word with them. If you work shifts or simply need peace and quiet to concentrate while working at home, a quiet word might be the best way forward. Explaining that you need to sleep some afternoons may make the parents try to keep their offspring’s noise down.

Noise is a common complaint – recent research by Noise Concern revealed that 43% of people had been bothered by some form of neighbour noise.

Excessive noise levels were also blamed for forcing about half a million people to move in 2006, just to get away from their annoying and Noisy Neighbours, according the National Society for Clean Air and Environmental Protection (NSCA). At the time, their representative Mary Stevens said that many problems with neighbours were simply a result of being inconsiderate, and could easily be resolved by using a little common sense...

What to Do if Children Damage Your Property

Your first course of action, especially if the damage was clearly accidental, is to make a conciliatory approach to the child’s parents.

As far as the law is concerned, you can technically sue a child for the cost of the damage if they are old enough to understand what they were doing, but this kind of legal action is rare and somewhat frowned upon by the courts. It’s also a fact that not many children have the cash lying around in their piggy bank to pay for the cost of a broken window!

If damage has been done, and an approach to the perpetrator’s parents hasn’t been successful, you can consider suing the parents of the child. This is only appropriate in cases where there has been negligence on behalf of the parent(s) – for example, if they trusted their child with something dangerous like an air gun. They could also be considered liable for the damages if you can prove that they failed to exercise the control expected of a parent, given the child’s age.

“Can I Have my Ball Back?”

It can be irritating but it’s just a fact of neighbourhood life that kids playing ball games will occasionally mislay one into your garden. If children throw or kick a ball into your garden or onto your property, you should hand it back to them, keep hold of it for them to collect from you, or throw it back over if you find it later on.

The children should not trespass onto your property to pick it up, although in practice many probably do. If there is any damage to your garden caused by kids trampling over it, you would be entitled to compensation for any financial damages that were caused.

Still need more information? Read more about ASBOs, parenting contracts, penalty notices and parenting orders in our feature: children and anti-social behaviour.

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Ok-a different perspective- I am genuinely sorry about all your negative experiences. I am the parent of two kids a five year old and a 2 year old. Both can be problematic but the latter is a screaming machine at times and when not in a good mood eg just woken up in afternoon, or fighting with his sibling (multiple times a day) or when he is sick with an earache his screaming is like nothing else and would only be consolable after 20 minutes or more. Some neighbours are miserable as a result and I feel sorry for them. Can someone suggest how to deal with sick children apart from giving them paracetamol/ibuprofen etc and attempting to console them? I am aware of all disciplining specifics (when appropriate) FYI
Parent with noisy ki - 29-Sep-20 @ 3:38 PM
(continued) - So what does it leave me with? A graveyard? Not even the dead get the privilege of peace these days, with brats playing hide and seek behind the stones, and teenagers hiding behind them to smoke.One thing's for sure, I'm never having children.
AM - 8-Sep-20 @ 10:48 PM
I think we (all of us posting on here) should fund our own little zen village and live in peace, in a 0 tolerance to unnecessary noise environment. What a dream!! I'm sure our health would improve. I've been troubled by loud neighbours my entire life and I can tell you that, rich or poor neighbourhoods, city, beach, countryside, there is no escape unless you move to a very remote part of the world (i.e. a desert or jungle!!) or live on a huge guarded estate. Otherwise, it's a gamble. All it takes is for one inconsiderate person or family to ruin the peace. I lived in a gated community when I was a child, and the parties were endless. I remember trying to do homework with my quiet and considerate parents, but no one else worked like we did (the company my dad worked for paid for our house so we didn't own it and weren't rich). Often I would suddenly be woken by drunk obnoxious laughter from people walking to their house after a party. Think live bands, champagne on tap, pool parties for older kids, magicians getting hired.. all sorts. And the dreaded noise from renovations. Bored rich people finding ways to keep themselves entertained. Then I lived in student acommodation and you can only imagine what this entails. I'm surprised I was able to focus at all with the little sleep I was allowed from the constant partying. Then I lived by the sea, what should have been a beautiful peaceful area where I could hear the waves, in a very small affordable studio flat I loved - but one day my peace came to an abrupt end - ' party yachts ' decided to stop in the middle of the sea and the partying went on all night on some days. I finally had to move to the city to work, and the walls were paper thin - I could hear every washing machine, TV from the deaf neighbour, loud heavy metal music from another, teenagers littering.. it was terrible. I called the anti social helpline and was told the noise tolerance threshold in cities was higher. So, clever me decided to save up and get a mortgage in the country, and now I can truly confirm there is no getting away from noise unless you're a millionaire. Trampolines, parties, screaming brats, everything you all describe. Some will even knock on doors and run off screaming, smashing balls up against my car (even dented it), chalk drawings on my driveway, it's just one huge play park.. just imagine a bunch of wild spoiled brats whose parents may as well not exist, they run the place. It's a mixed neighbourhood unlike the gated community I grew up in, but it's run by children. I now want to buy a farmhouse in the middle of nowhere but have been warned dogs are allowed to bark mad, heavy machinery noise, and the risk of them building anything in your vicinity - think HS2!!! It would also be very difficult to sell such a house. A retirement village? They get family visiting all the time! They even have play areas so you can be sure to hear screaming toddlers being spoiled by the grand parents. So what does it lea
AM - 8-Sep-20 @ 10:45 PM
Neibour kids not going to school Screaming domestics how do I appoint this
0 - 3-Sep-20 @ 3:16 AM
I totally agree with you all!!iv dreamt so many times as how i could poison the neighbourhood kids and get away with it!!and the parents!!!HEHEHE!!THEY DRIVE ME MAD!!! I live with my sisters and have done so in the same house for over 40years. We have been noisy as kids ourselves but not nowhere near as these kids that live here now in my street!!We had manners andwhen told off we stopped NOT back chat like these kids do!! Yesterday i got into a slanging match with two 12 year olds!! Over the past 2 weeks theyve been petting my cat and then teasing her...and you can imagine what that leads to when they get bored of them! Last year some kid kicked her in her face and cut her eye open had to take her to the vets ..she didnt go out after that for nearly a year. Now shes started going out again and the kids start to gather around her so i told them they werent allowed to come in the garden to touch her. Well that was it!!the abuse the shouting and screaming started!!then gathering around my house and trying to intimidate us!!these devil of a kids are only the ages of between 6 and 12 but they think they can ruin my life!. I told the parents but all they say is they are kids!!they can play where they like!!no sympathy or thought for me that i have to put up with their behaviour. I told them how would they like it if kids sat across their houses and screamed and shouted all day long?!!all i got was they just kids!!! Then since a couple of days now the two 12yr olds sit acoss my house on a nieghbours shed and wave across through my living room window!when i record them they shout you cant record kids!!its an offence!!!LAYING DOWN THE LAW TO ME!! then they swear and stick two fingers up!! Iv had to go tell the parents and all i got was we will talk to them but they just kids!!!it annoyed me so i said some harsh words and threatened them that my brotherinlaw and his friends will soon put a stop to this well that was it!!!i pissed the mum off and then boy she started oh is that a threat then in that case i will ring my gypsy family and community up then we will see what happens!! I ended up swearing at her and got into a verbal slanging match!fearing for my own safety i then pretended i was on the phone to the police at this point after a few more swears the mum slammed shut her door and i didnt see her then. Later in the evening me and my family decided to go eatout at a restaurant as it was 50% off!!!and to let off steam for the events that took place in the day!! when we returned her lights were still on that was at 1am!!she probably thought my brotherinlaw might come with all his friends and she probably couldnt sleep!!lol! That put a smile on my face!! I let my cat out as i dont let her out in the day anymore. I had to wait for her to return though that was at 3am...now im knackered! but at least the cruel kids cant harm her nomore!! Its raining today so i can have some peace and quiet but it wont last!! Iv done kickboxing and sometimes i would lo
Rox - 27-Aug-20 @ 4:34 PM
I totally agree with you all!!iv dreamt so many times as how i could poison the neighbourhood kids and get away with it!!and the parents!!!HEHEHE!!THEY DRIVE ME MAD!!! I live with my sisters and have done so in the same house for over 40years. We have been noisy as kids ourselves but not nowhere near as these kids that live here now in my street!!We had manners andwhen told off we stopped NOT back chat like these kids do!! Yesterday i got into a slanging match with two 12 year olds!! Over the past 2 weeks theyve been petting my cat and then teasing her...and you can imagine what that leads to when they get bored of them! Last year some kid kicked her in her face and cut her eye open had to take her to the vets ..she didnt go out after that for nearly a year. Now shes started going out again and the kids start to gather around her so i told them they werent allowed to come in the garden to touch her. Well that was it!!the abuse the shouting and screaming started!!then gathering around my house and trying to intimidate us!!these devil of a kids are only the ages of between 6 and 12 but they think they can ruin my life!. I told the parents but all they say is they are kids!!they can play where they like!!no sympathy or thought for me that i have to put up with their behaviour. I told them how would they like it if kids sat across their houses and screamed and shouted all day long?!!all i got was they just kids!!! Then since a couple of days now the two 12yr olds sit acoss my house on a nieghbours shed and wave across through my living room window!when i record them they shout you cant record kids!!its an offence!!!LAYING DOWN THE LAW TO ME!! then they swear and stick two fingers up!! Iv had to go tell the parents and all i got was we will talk to them but they just kids!!!it annoyed me so i said some harsh words and threatened them that my brotherinlaw and his friends will soon put a stop to this well that was it!!!i pissed the mum off and then boy she started oh is that a threat then in that case i will ring my gypsy family and community up then we will see what happens!! I ended up swearing at her and got into a verbal slanging match!fearing for my own safety i then pretended i was on the phone to the police at this point after a few more swears the mum slammed shut her door and i didnt see her then. Later in the evening me and my family decided to go eatout at a restaurant as it was 50% off!!!and to let off steam for the events that took place in the day!! when we returned her lights were still on that was at 1am!!she probably thought my brotherinlaw might come with all his friends and she probably couldnt sleep!!lol! That put a smile on my face!! I let my cat out as i dont let her out in the day anymore. I had to wait for her to return though that was at 3am...now im knackered! but at least the cruel kids cant harm her nomore!! Its raining today so i can have some peace and quiet but it wont last!! Iv done kickboxing and sometimes i would lo
Rox - 27-Aug-20 @ 4:34 PM
Literally counting down the days until the children can return to school. I have been driven mad by the sound of three teenage boys. These boys do not play like normal children... I have other children in my area and I am not bothered by the noise they make while playing in theirs gardens. I get the sound of a basket ball most mornings before 9 am from this lot... before that it the trampoline or noisy scooter every hour with out fail. These boys fight, wrestle, scream and swear at each other. We even had one night where there was threats to stab and kill. Not one word from their so called parents. When they first moved in over 5 years ago, we tried to have a polite word to be told... children will be children. I agree with another poster on this subject... the parents should take full responsibility for their little angels and not just excuse their behaviour on being children. I was constantly telling my daughter to be mindful of the noise she made, especially in the evenings when people that have been at WORK ALL DAY (mother doesn’t work) want to relax. Don’t even get me started on the weekly BBQ the smoke that comes over to our garden is obscene. He also decided to BBQ up some chicken at 7am in the morning, I mean WHO DOES THAT???
Andrea - 24-Aug-20 @ 3:29 PM
Literally counting down the days until the children can return to school. I have been driven mad by the sound of three teenage boys. These boys do not play like normal children... I have other children in my area and I am not bothered by the noise they make while playing in theirs gardens. I get the sound of a basket ball most mornings before 9 am from this lot... before that it the trampoline or noisy scooter every hour with out fail. These boys fight, wrestle, scream and swear at each other. We even had one night where there was threats to stab and kill. Not one word from their so called parents. When they first moved in over 5 years ago, we tried to have a polite word to be told... children will be children. I agree with another poster on this subject... the parents should take full responsibility for their little angels and not just excuse their behaviour on being children. I was constantly telling my daughter to be mindful of the noise she made, especially in the evenings when people that have been at WORK ALL DAY (mother doesn’t work) want to relax. Don’t even get me started on the weekly BBQ the smoke that comes over to our garden is obscene. He also decided to BBQ up some chicken at 7am in the morning, I mean WHO DOES THAT???
Andrea - 24-Aug-20 @ 3:07 PM
And as for Baha’s ridiculous comment on 7th July I DO live in a detached house that is probably about 50 yards from the brats but they are SO loud I can still here them in every room. I do accept that I have to cope with noise from children during the day and of course they must play and have fun, but my neighbour should also respect the fact that everyone else might, just might want a little respite on the odd summer’s evening.
Maggie - 23-Aug-20 @ 3:43 PM
The thing we must remember here is that it is not the children’s fault necessarily. Parents must bear all the responsibility for what their young children do as they are the only ones who can do something about it but so many don’t, won’t or can’t! Sometimes I want to murder the kids next door and, on occasion I just hate them but, at that age, they aren’t going to be aware of how much they are annoying people as probably we weren’t as kids until we were told to pipe down as there are other people who didn’t want to listen to their racket. The 4 brats here have gone off to Northumberland for a week along with their whiny dog and inconsiderate parents and I cannot tell you what it is doing for my wellbeing. The peace is overwhelming. Trouble is, they’ll be back before I know it.
Maggie - 23-Aug-20 @ 3:36 PM
My issue is with children hanging off and breaking large branches the three beautiful trees that are outside my house on a non designated play area. It drives me mad to see 11 and 12 year old boys and girls ruin and destroy or vandalise the limited trees there. The sooner schools re open to engage these morons from innocent nature the better. Parents are obviously uneducated, thick imbeciles to allow such behaviour.
Peter - 22-Aug-20 @ 9:15 PM
I really don’t know what to do. I don’t want to come across as a male version of a Karen but the next door neighbor that I loved recently moved after living peacefully next door for the last four years. In their place, a family with three bratty children has moved in. These children have no discipline (NONE). There is a heated pool inside a screened in porch and these kids go at it from 8 in the morning until all hours at night. My room is on the back side of the house so I hear all of it. I got used to the silence and am in my late fifties. There are really no children on our street. What happened to discipline and respect for your neighbors? I’m really not confrontational and don’t want to say anything. These kids keep me awake at night and wake me up in the morning. Should I send an anonymous letter? Report them to the homeowners association?
Oliver82 - 22-Aug-20 @ 8:38 PM
I too have a problem with next door’s children aged 2, 6, 9 and 10. In their own right they are perfectly okay kids to interact with but they are so noisy. The problem is that their parents are bringing them up ‘without boundaries” so these kids do what they want, when they want and forever how long they want. They go to bed when their parents go to bed as well which means the noise goes on into the summer evenings. Also a hot tub has been introduced on our side of their house so much screaming and laughing goes on. All through this lockdown the noise has been intense and because where we live is rural all their friends come here because there is the space to run around. I really do not blame the children at all, it’s the parents of course. When I finally ‘snapped’ was when they were all hot-tubbing at 9.30 pm during a recent perfect summer evening. A neighbour four doors down could hear it from her bed. Oh! the noise! I did mention to the mum the next day that one expected the noise during mornings and afternoons but, really, evening’s AS WELL, all I got was “yes I know, it is difficult because they are so noisy,” and that was it. I tried to convey to her that all of her neighbours, which means 5 houses are affected by this. The 2 year old indulges in unfettered screaming bouts frequently because she is not getting what she wants and she is allowed to scream herself out. Also, the mother has decided to home school them from now on. Are you all feeling really sorry for me now? There are occasions when, wherever I am in my (detached) house I can hear them. I have resorted to wax earplugs which do work but should I really have to do that in my own home. Okay, I have never had children but surely parents should consider the impact their offspring have on others. I feel guilty even having a lawn mower going or when my husband chainsaws the odd bit of wood.Before she had the children where we live was a haven of peace and quiet. I tell myself it won’t last as they will grow up but it doesn’t help me now.
Maggie - 21-Aug-20 @ 12:23 PM
Gosh how I feel for all of you. When we were children, we were taught manners and sometimes a hard slap across our face emphasized to have manners. Now it's called abuse but trust me, we learned. Now I know why there are adult communities (mostly in the U.S.) and if I could live for the rest of my life without hearing a kid screaming, I would be in Heaven. I have lived in my home since 1975 and have had my share of hell screaming kids. All of my friends have been in the same position. Several of them had to endure hell kids bouncing a ball against a brick wall ALL DAY LONG. Then when the ball bounced into their yards, the hell kids climbed over the fence to toss it back. My friends would yell at the kids to get out of their yard, even called the cops, cops could not do that much, the parents did nothing and my friends had to put up with this day in day out evening into the evenings on a summer day. They had beautiful back yards and could not even enjoy themselves. They were so thankful when the hell kids and the hell parents moved away. I would cry, just cry when hell kids lived next door and they would scream and scream and scream ALL DAY LONG. The neighborhood kids were like thugs taking over the street and playing kickball or tossing a football. They would refuse to move when people were trying to driven into their own driveways. My friends would yell at the kids, cuss them out, the parents would come out and a screaming match began then the cops would come. Talking to the parents did nothing. Over the years my friends and I would discuss if the hell kids and their hell parents were gunned down in a drive by, what a better world this would be. If I could live for the rest of my life, never, ever having to hear a kid scream, I would be so much happier. And prayer does not help stopping hell kids screaming. Currently my friends and do not have to contend with hell kids as we did in the past. Hopefully this will continue. If I could win a big lotto or make a lot of money, I would move away as quickly as I could and live on an estate where I would hire private guards to keep kids out. I sure as heck would. Give me horses, chickens, dogs, cats, goats, elephants, anything but kids.
Vivi - 19-Aug-20 @ 6:35 PM
Oh my gosh! How I feel for all of you.I remember when I was a child and we were taught manners. Now I know why there are adult communities (mostly in the U.S.). I have lived in my home since 1975 and had my share of hell screaming kids and their hell parents who allow their kids to be hell kids. All of my friends have had, in one way or another,to put up with hell kids screaming, yelling, playing on the street and refusing to move, running across their lawns and when they talked to their parents, the parent did nothing. Several of them had the hell kids who would bounce a ball ALL DAY LONG against a wall separating their homes. They had lovely back yards but because of the ball slamming constantly against the wall, they could not even enjoy their own back yard. There were times when I would just start to cry from the constant, non-stop screaming, screaming and yelling and yelling when hell kids lived next door. My friends and I have discussed this often and even agree if the hell kids and their hell parents were gunned down in a driveby what a blessing this would be. I sure as heck do not believe kids are "jewels from Heaven." If we got rid of 75% of hell kids and their hell parents and brought back 50 percent of the animals on the extinction list, what a wonderful world this would be.
Vivi - 19-Aug-20 @ 6:21 PM
What is the recourse for children old enough to know better (~P6, etc) who are harassing you?Coming into your garden, menacing occupants from the windows, etc.?
LH - 16-Aug-20 @ 1:04 PM
Very interesting reading these posts. We have a 4 year old & a 6 year old next door who constantly shout & scream with no discipline from there parents whatsoever. You can hear them down the street when they are inside the house. From the garden it’s horrendous. We have heard the parents talking to them in a soft voice which is not teaching them right from wrong. The noise from the kids is so stressful. The kids seem to have the upper hand and allowed to do whatever they want. The water hose goes on & its 10 times worse. We have tried the radio on high volume to drown the noise. It has become unbearable. It’s such a pleasure when we get a break from the screams & shouting.. & yes we have tried making our point, unfortunately the parents are both unreasonable. Bringing up 3 children of our own was never like this. Screaming & Shouting would of been a total embarrassment. Children need to know the difference between right & wrong. Shouting, screaming & causing constant noise is unacceptable. Children playing and having fun does not mean they have to scream & shout!!
Chrissy - 13-Aug-20 @ 11:02 PM
I amso fed upwithall the noise my neighbours and their children make daily. Today their friend's children came to their house,I heard loud noises looked out and saw the children climbing over my side of the big gates.I was really pissed off with all the noise plus kids climbing over the gates, it's not a park or playground but my side of the house. I told them to stop climbing the gates for health and safety reasons and all that noise. Next, the next door woman came and said that they are only children. And her friend was her guest. All very well but what about some consideration for her neighbours. Such selfish behaviour,both her and her husband are extremely noisy shutting their garage door very loudly and allowing her kids to play in the garden well past 23:00hrs. Absolutely,no consideration for anyone else. Finally, today I lost it and told her the truth. Of course,Iwant to be neighbourly but since lockdown they have been having good time and great holiday. I will be very happy when lockdown is over and the neighbours go back totheir jobs.Some people have just been having extended holiday and no concerns about coronovirus.
mickey - 13-Aug-20 @ 6:21 PM
I am at the end of my teather I work from home and all the kids congregate on my and my neighbors front my gardens a mess because of them and if it's not the kids playing ( howling the road down) it's the parents screaming at them to go play etc this can go from 8 am to 11pm your monsters right to play should not affect my right to work sit in my garden or be able to watch TV without the volume on full go get a job scummy mummy's and daddy's and stop sitting smoking weed and drinking in your PJ's and seriously I hate your little angels I think they are snot nosed gobby little swear words giving birth doesn't make you a parent stop acting worse than the kids and learn to respect your area a old lady down road has complained and the parents say he's a grumpy swear word he's not he like you who keep chucking your kids out so you can sit n watch your soap operas wants the same peace and quiet you get I wish there was child free housing groups because I hate your kids and would move to one in a heartbeat housing associations need to realise old people next to a house with 5 kids and childless working adults doesn't work go out all the scummy dole parents together we dont want them or there snot nosed Banshee soundalikes
Shut them up - 12-Aug-20 @ 11:01 PM
I feel like an insane menopausal angry person, but this lock down has meant all the children from rest of the estate come and play behind and around my detached house on edges of estate. They scream and shout constantly. The ages are between 2 and 16 years old I would say and this goes on from 10 am to 10 pm and it’s sending me and my dogs round the bend. Grrrrrr
Kez - 7-Aug-20 @ 8:27 PM
I have new neighbours who have moved into the flat upstairs over a month ago. Their little boy is around 4-5 years old and is extremely heavy footed, as indeed is the dad - my ceiling reverberates when the boy is running and jumping around, some of which I believe is when he jumps off their furniture and then I get a very loud "boom" on the floor. I have contacted them 3 times about this as I am getting constant headaches from the thudding but it is still going on. I cannot relax inside my own home due to this and he woke me up this afternoon when I was asleep as I was not feeling well. What can I do to get them to curb his thudding and stamping?I do appreciate that he is young and full of energy but they also need to appreciate how badly this is affecting me, which just seems to be going over their head.
Fred - 7-Aug-20 @ 8:17 PM
I have the exact same problem as one of the previous comments. Im just gonna copy and paste. The house attached to us (we live in a semi) had an extension built a couple of years ago. This itself took over a year to build. The heart of this is a big kitchen/dining/family space at the back with NO soundproofing. The sound from their tv, music and just talking in this space bounces off all the hard surfaces. So even when volume isn't particularly loud, it still feels like they are in the room with us. Our other next door neighbours (not attached) have only two levels of volume - loud or screaming. The kids are young so want to play in garden. Fair enough, but they SCREAM all the time and have done so since they moved in 4 or 5 years ago. Didn't mind so much when they were excited tots, but they are 8 and 10 now and getting louder! My hubby works 12 hour shifts, including nights. He gets no sleep through the day when they are in their garden. Since lockdown, I've been working from home and cannot even open windows as clients on phone think a child is being murdered in the background. We can't sit out and enjoy our garden in the sunshine because they're just shouting at each other all the time. We can't even have a peaceful bath because they're out the back screaming. The parents never come out and say "just try to be a bit quieter" or "stop winding each other up". When they do come out they talk just as loudly.We can even hear them screaming at each other when they are INSIDE their house. Their attached neighbours must be ruing the day they moved in. They are nice people but they are just so loud all of the time. It's really upsetting as we love where we live and we have done a lotvto our home to get it the way we wanted. But we've just become so frustrated and unhappy. This is not just since Covid. This has been 4-5 years now. I'm stressed about it all the time because I'm worried about my hubby and want him to be happy. I'd like to be able to enjoy my garden and resent that this can only be a snatched ten mins every now and then. I also feel guilty because they're just kids and want to play. I just don't know how much more I can take! ?? Lula - 2-Aug-20 @ 8:56 PM
J.J - 5-Aug-20 @ 10:45 AM
My children are adults, and we live in an older adult neighbourhood which is usually quiet. However, our neighbour has taken on babysitting his 10 year old twins who are nightmare screamers, bouncing basketballs (no net, just throwing it up and down the street and dinging cars).He just sends them out in the street to play while he watches TV inside all day.I found that the best way to keep them at a distance is to play either classical music or opera at a reasonable level - not loud even to draw complaints - but kids generally hate that kind of music so they just keep away and give me looks of disgust! In the city near us they play classical music in the subway because it has been found to stop teenagers from congregating.
Fin - 4-Aug-20 @ 1:26 PM
The house attached to us (we live in a semi) had an extension built a couple of years ago. This itself took over a year to build. The heart of this is a big kitchen/dining/family space at the back with NO soundproofing. The sound from their tv, music and just talking in this space bounces off all the hard surfaces. So even when volume isn't particularly loud, it still feels like they are in the room with us. Our other next door neighbours (not attached) have only two levels of volume - loud or screaming. The kids are young so want to play in garden. Fair enough, but they SCREAM all the time and have done so since they moved in 4 or 5 years ago. Didn't mind so much when they were excited tots, but they are 8 and 10 now and getting louder! My hubby works 12 hour shifts, including nights. He gets no sleep through the day when they are in their garden. Since lockdown, I've been working from home and cannot even open windows as clients on phone think a child is being murdered in the background. We can't sit out and enjoy our garden in the sunshine because they're just shouting at each other all the time. We can't even have a peaceful bath because they're out the back screaming. The parents never come out and say "just try to be a bit quieter" or "stop winding each other up". When they do come out they talk just as loudly.We can even hear them screaming at each other when they are INSIDE their house. Their attached neighbours must be ruing the day they moved in. They are nice people but they are just so loud all of the time. It's really upsetting as we love where we live and we have done a lotvto our home to get it the way we wanted. But we've just become so frustrated and unhappy. This is not just since Covid. This has been 4-5 years now. I'm stressed about it all the time because I'm worried about my hubby and want him to be happy. I'd like to be able to enjoy my garden and resent that this can only be a snatched ten mins every now and then. I also feel guilty because they're just kids and want to play. I just don't know how much more I can take! ??
Lula - 2-Aug-20 @ 8:56 PM
The house attached to us (we live in a semi) had an extension built a couple of years ago. This itself took over a year to build. The heart of this is a big kitchen/dining/family space at the back with NO soundproofing. The sound from their tv, music and just talking in this space bounces off all the hard surfaces. So even when volume isn't particularly loud, it still feels like they are in the room with us. Our other next door neighbours (not attached) have only two levels of volume - loud or screaming. The kids are young so want to play in garden. Fair enough, but they SCREAM all the time and have done so since they moved in 4 or 5 years ago. Didn't mind so much when they were excited tots, but they are 8 and 10 now and getting louder! My hubby works 12 hour shifts, including nights. He gets no sleep through the day when they are in their garden. Since lockdown, I've been working from home and cannot even open windows as clients on phone think a child is being murdered in the background. We can't sit out and enjoy our garden in the sunshine because they're just shouting at each other all the time. We can't even have a peaceful bath because they're out the back screaming. The parents never come out and say "just try to be a bit quieter" or "stop winding each other up". When they do come out they talk just as loudly.We can even hear them screaming at each other when they are INSIDE their house. Their attached neighbours must be ruing the day they moved in. They are nice people but they are just so loud all of the time. It's really upsetting as we love where we live and we have done a lotvto our home to get it the way we wanted. But we've just become so frustrated and unhappy. This is not just since Covid. This has been 4-5 years now. I'm stressed about it all the time because I'm worried about my hubby and want him to be happy. I'd like to be able to enjoy my garden and resent that this can only be a snatched ten mins every now and then. I also feel guilty because they're just kids and want to play. I just don't know how much more I can take! ??
Lula - 2-Aug-20 @ 8:55 PM
I live on an end house with an open plan garden that the council won't allow me to fence off. The neighbours on 1 side are perfect,say hello if we pass but mostly keep to themselves the same as me. The neighbour on the other side however is a nightmare. She has 2 kids but people seem to congregate at hers and the kids think I have a communal garden! There's currently 7 adults sitting on her front wall, in pjs and dressing gowns, drinking alcohol....and around 10 kids running riot. I've asked at least 6 times this week if the kids will please stop playing in the garden, had 2 suspiciously quiet nights and then tonight this ??
MillyMolly - 1-Aug-20 @ 8:32 PM
Can anyone advise as to how long neighbours canbe working on a house ie renovating? A couple bought my next door neighbours house when he died. They started work in August 2018, the noise was horrendous this carried on for months sporadically but intensely. I was glad they couldn't work on the house during the lockdown peace at last even for a short time. As soon as the lockdown was lifted they were back and have been banging and drilling every weekend since. We have put up with this for 2 years now and no end in sight. It's a terrace property, there are housing estates around that have been built faster. At the end of my tether now. Any advice welcome.
KL - 1-Aug-20 @ 5:27 PM
Hey oh my god I am not alone since lockdown 2 of my neighbours have totally changed alloweibg young kids to play in the car park for hours on r f without watching I er them, they play in the road in tricycles Bikes and pushchairs Screaming for no reason And leave all their stuff in the car park bays so none of us Who work can get in to park !! The noise is unbearable on a day off and like you have said they play right outside my house not their own !!!! And the 40 ft trampoline is unbearable again with nuttty Screaming patent fo nothing
Boo - 29-Jul-20 @ 8:12 PM
Unfortunately there is nothing you can do apart from wear earplugs (I do). Many parents are so protective about their obnoxious howler monkey brats you can’t say a damn thing or the standard “you don’t have kids do you?” response is trotted out like that is the solution? – have kids yourself & join in the screaming/squealing just like everybody else….?. What about people who work from home or students?...... are they supposed to just suck it up because little Bratleigh likes to scream like a banshee morning until night & the parents don't give a damn?...… These parents are selfish, inconsiderate, and massively entitled & they pass this on to their noisy children…….who become bellowing entitled adults with zero respect for their neighbours & so the whole cycle continues?..
LilyR - 27-Jul-20 @ 6:40 PM
We have an open drive, gates are not an option and our cars have been dented and scratched numerous times with by so many children on the street, they all seem to migrate to play right outside, they never play outside their own homes. We've had football damage to the cars, stones thrown and dented the cars, We've arrived home to find the children sat on the driveway refusing to move, they are in and out of our garden and neighbours, We've tried explaining it is not their property and they shouldn'tbe coming on to it, we've talked too about the damage done to the vehicles and nothing, not the council or the police seem to care .. This has been going on for years, we can't afford to move, life is hell, the noise of the football pounding is like someone slamming a sledgehammer in to the house wall. The houses that are owned (ex council) the residents are wonderful, the ones that remain council homes are the ones the council move families in to and are the ones where the children come from.
Will_S - 25-Jul-20 @ 10:54 PM
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