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Problems With Neighbours' Children

By: Sarah Clark (ILEX) - Updated: 25 Mar 2017 | comments*Discuss
 
Child Parent Neighbour Property Noise

You don’t want to be labelled a complainer, but sometimes your neighbours’ children can be more of a nuisance than a blessing. Older neighbours may remember a time when you could pay an unruly child’s parents a visit and you would know that any issues would be swiftly resolved, but these days you have to be extremely wary of what you say and do about children in the neighbourhood.

What to Do About Noisy Children

Whether you appreciate it or not, there’s not much that you can do about excessive noise during the day from children. Kids are exuberant by nature and it would seem a little bit churlish to try to curb normal noise levels, even if the screaming and shouting is getting a bit too much.

If it really is becoming an issue, your only course of action is to ask their parents nicely to have a word with them. If you work shifts or simply need peace and quiet to concentrate while working at home, a quiet word might be the best way forward. Explaining that you need to sleep some afternoons may make the parents try to keep their offspring’s noise down.

Noise is a common complaint – recent research by Noise Concern revealed that 43% of people had been bothered by some form of neighbour noise.

Excessive noise levels were also blamed for forcing about half a million people to move in 2006, just to get away from their annoying and Noisy Neighbours, according the National Society for Clean Air and Environmental Protection (NSCA). At the time, their representative Mary Stevens said that many problems with neighbours were simply a result of being inconsiderate, and could easily be resolved by using a little common sense...

What to Do if Children Damage Your Property

Your first course of action, especially if the damage was clearly accidental, is to make a conciliatory approach to the child’s parents.

As far as the law is concerned, you can technically sue a child for the cost of the damage if they are old enough to understand what they were doing, but this kind of legal action is rare and somewhat frowned upon by the courts. It’s also a fact that not many children have the cash lying around in their piggy bank to pay for the cost of a broken window!

If damage has been done, and an approach to the perpetrator’s parents hasn’t been successful, you can consider suing the parents of the child. This is only appropriate in cases where there has been negligence on behalf of the parent(s) – for example, if they trusted their child with something dangerous like an air gun. They could also be considered liable for the damages if you can prove that they failed to exercise the control expected of a parent, given the child’s age.

“Can I Have my Ball Back?”

It can be irritating but it’s just a fact of neighbourhood life that kids playing ball games will occasionally mislay one into your garden. If children throw or kick a ball into your garden or onto your property, you should hand it back to them, keep hold of it for them to collect from you, or throw it back over if you find it later on.

The children should not trespass onto your property to pick it up, although in practice many probably do. If there is any damage to your garden caused by kids trampling over it, you would be entitled to compensation for any financial damages that were caused.

Still need more information? Read more about ASBOs, parenting contracts, penalty notices and parenting orders in our feature: children and anti-social behaviour.

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Good day, I need help. I am the neighbour with the child living upstairs. I live above a couple aged 60/65, they seemed nice at first but now things are getting uncomfortable at best. I moved in with a one month old. He is now 14 months. I have carpets, with underlay. He honestly is the kind of baby that is crying all the time and I am not just saying that, he is a happy baby, at 2 am he wakes up to play. I swiftly put him back to bed. When he was teething he was up all hours and I was back and forth. I don't flush my toilet after 10pm. I don't play lound music or turn my telly up...because I have really good hearing. I can hear my neighbours on the phone and their TV etc. I turn my radio on BBC 4 or LBC every Friday while I clean my house. My son is asleep buy 9pm every night. I had an argument with my partner on the 8th Jan...it was very loud, lasted 20 mins and there was swearing ...I had ordered a cab to pick up my sonso that's how I know how long it lasted. We never argued like that before or since. My neighbour called the council and said I am a nuisance. He reported the argument and said he hears me playing the radio. He told them I come in late in the evening, I am always banging on the floor and it sounds like the ceiling is falling down. Today @ 2pm my son dropped a toy in the bath and he banged the ceiling. I just sat on the floor and cried. He is always banging the ceiling...even when I am just watching the TV in the evening...he says it's due to noise. He told me hears me walking. I had asked him to text me if there is any noise but he never has. I saw him a few days after the argument and asked if i was ok and said that if I have loud arguments the people in the block will report me.He has knocked on the doors of the other persons in the block who all also own their homes and asked them if they have heard me because I am driving him crazy. They have all told me at some point that they feel sorry for me, because they never hear me. The council has contacted each of them to check. They have told me that though the carpet is in place ect because of the number of complaints they have received from him I may lose my home, because everyone has a different tolerance level. I don't know what to do...I don't know what further steps I can take to reduce the noise, I currently spend as little time in my house as possible, because my son has learned to say shhhhh and I worry that by stopping him from just being a baby I am messing him up. Hehas jusy learned to walk and falls over a lot, which puts me on edge as my neighbour bags the ceiling. I am turning into a nervous reckand really need some help.
T - 25-Mar-17 @ 12:09 AM
Oh Katriona - you are in exactly the same situation as me, almost word for word!I was brought up to be respectful to other people, not be a nuisance or anti social, but that doesn't apply to some people sadly. We can't use our garden as the "lovely"kids next door throw missiles at us when we are out. I have carried out advice to the letter on how to deal with it, but realise that I am dealing with narcissists - as I believe you are. They are never wrong and will NEVER admit liability for anything. Let's hope for both our sakes these antisocial nightmares move on!
Springtime 64 - 22-Feb-17 @ 11:04 AM
I dont hate kids and not old fashioned - yes I was a kid once (but I had more respect for neighbours and was brought up not to cause them grief) and I wasn't feral by nature as my neighbour's kids are. I now pray for rain and dread weekends and school holidays. I'm scared to leave my house and I hate living there - I feel trapped. Why should I have to put up with feral noisy screaming kids who will insist in making my life a misery and making me ill, all because I have in the past asked them to keep the noise down etc. politely!!!I had their mum (who I used to get on with) banging on the door saying if I didn't like it I should move (I wish I could!) and that her kids will play where and how they like. How can you reason with feral disrespectful feral people like this? Now their new trick is to ride up and down my fence (on the pavement and in the road of the cul-de-sac) and they torment my dog (if in garden - shouting and screaming to make him bark) and the wall of my living room is adjacent to the pavement so I have to endure them going up the whole length of the house on scooters, bikes and skateboards - so I cant sit INSIDE or OUTSIDE.This is driving me insane.Ive had rubbish thrown over my fence, roses CUT in my garden - even an anonymous note complaining my dog barks - there's a reason he does, THEM.My dog is not left out in the garden unattended, but is very ill and is frequently sick and pees/pukes all the time.I cant understand why the parents don't keep them away to defuse the situation, but this is only going to get worse - with me being arrested when I finally break - THEN the authorities will take note and I will be in Holloway or will end up topping myself.
Katriona25 - 21-Feb-17 @ 4:51 PM
"Kids are exuberant by nature and it would seem a little bit churlish to try to curb normal noise levels, even if the screaming and shouting is getting a bit too much." 'Churlish' ? How is it churlish if your entire quality of life is being wrecked by the parents complete lack of consideration for their neighbours - they should be sorting out the offspring that they decided to have and keep them in line - not let them run riot. If anyone knows of any petitions to get the law changed around this area re: noise pollution then please post
Jolly - 22-Jan-17 @ 4:51 PM
Hi, my name is Stephen and I have read some stories on here and I totally understand on how people feel with the way the younger generations are allowed to behave in this era. Me myself have the same problem as you all have stated on this website. I have got a neighbour who has 3 brats named Sam, Zach and Phoebe krisp and the mother is called Kate Barker. They have no consideration or respect for anyone who lives next door to them or for anyone else in the community. This situation has gone on for 6 years and it has lead to me becoming very ill through the situation not being dealt with by the authorities. I am being told by the authorities that I should have to move from the place where I have always lived since I was a child myself, if I want to get peace and quiet. In the past I have had social services, environmental health and police involved in the situation, but they havenever dared doing anything about the problem. The little bastards play football and basketball in the house and sometimes it can go on for a few hours. The other things they are allowed to do is play the television loud, stamping their feet, banging on the walls etc. It is making me so ill that I might even have to start taking medication, because I will be left with no choice. In the 80s if children misbehaved, they would end up getting a damn good lethering and I will admit nearly all children need to have a damn good battering, to make them learn that they can't get away with misbehaving in the way parents let them do, because what parents don't understand is that people's health is being affected because of this and it is about time therese may got of her arse and changed the law back to that children can be lethered, if they misbehave.
Rambo - 19-Jan-17 @ 7:21 PM
I need some help and advise, I have been on my home over 3 years, a 2 bedroom flat on the ground floor as I'm disabled with 2 sons at home. My neighbour's above is a problem since we moved on, after going up to them a few times because their children and visitors children would make loads of noise until 2 or 3 in the morning,I've complaint to newham council countless of times, they've sent letters out, even used a noise monitor, but nothing was helpful. The conclusion from the noise monitor report stated the noise was coming from my own flat.Right now at 2:45 in the morning their at it, running around jumping and stamping no respect for us below them.I am frustrated now that I am considering looking into moving again.But I don't know if it's easy as that as it's council property. I really need some help because the lack of sleep is slowly killing me, it's too much.
Candeekay - 30-Dec-16 @ 2:51 AM
Anonymous - Your Question:
I'm not entirely sure what to do about my situation. New neighbors moved in almost a year ago now, and their two young children (twin girls) are almost always screaming, banging doors or generally being a nuisance.What makes it worse is that the parents scream right back at them. Now of course, I fully understand that the parents aren't in the best situation either - The mother has been brought to tears more than once because of her kids constantly acting up. Their father has walked out of the house multiple times, after rounds of shouting back-and-forth. At the same time, I'm fed up of hearing it. Depending on when I leave the house in the morning, I'll be leaving to the sounds of screaming from next door. I come back from work, and I still hear the screaming! At the weekends, when I'd like to sleep for an hour or two longer? Woken up by screaming and shouting that stops and starts at random points during the day, preventing me from focusing on much without drowning them out with louder noise. It's definitely not just my household that are affected by this - I wouldn't be surprised if the entire street could hear them, especially when the screaming carries on outside the house. It's getting to the point where I am losing my patience with these people, considering that I am a very patient person, and if something doesn't change I will be making some sort of complaint.Don't bother telling me to put headphones on, or turn the TV up - I shouldn't have to do the former and would be counterproductive to getting peace/quiet, and doing the latter would just create more unnecessary noise. Luckily I'll be moving out within the next year, but this isn't a problem that I feel will be going away anytime soon. If I'm not suffering because of it, the next people that live here will.I only want to know what the best thing to say to them in this situation is.

Our Response:
Start by dropping them a note - see our letter templates here which include an informal note followed by a more formal letter. If that doesn't alleviate the problem, you could try environmental health. You will need to be able to persuade them that this is more than just everyday "family noise" though.
ProblemNeighbours - 9-Nov-16 @ 2:21 PM
I'm not entirely sure what to do about my situation. New neighbors moved in almost a year ago now, and their two young children (twin girls) are almost always screaming, banging doors or generally being a nuisance. What makes it worse is that the parents scream right back at them. Now of course, I fully understand that the parents aren't in the best situation either - The mother has been brought to tears more than once because of her kids constantly acting up. Their father has walked out of the house multiple times, after rounds of shouting back-and-forth. At the same time, I'm fed up of hearing it. Depending on when I leave the house in the morning, I'll be leaving to the sounds of screaming from next door. I come back from work, and I still hear the screaming! At the weekends, when I'd like to sleep for an hour or two longer? Woken up by screaming and shouting that stops and starts at random points during the day, preventing me from focusing on much without drowning them out with louder noise. It's definitely not just my household that are affected by this - I wouldn't be surprised if the entire street could hear them, especially when the screaming carries on outside the house. It's getting to the point where I am losing my patience with these people, considering that I am a very patient person, and if something doesn't change I will be making some sort of complaint. Don't bother telling me to put headphones on, or turn the TV up - I shouldn't have to do the former and would be counterproductive to getting peace/quiet, and doing the latter would just create more unnecessary noise. Luckily I'll be moving out within the next year, but this isn't a problem that I feel will be going away anytime soon. If I'm not suffering because of it, the next people that live here will. I only want to know what the best thing to say to them in this situation is.
Anonymous - 8-Nov-16 @ 8:17 PM
I'm not entirely sure what to do about my situation. New neighbors moved in almost a year ago now, and their two young children (twin girls) are almost always screaming, banging doors or generally being a nuisance. What makes it worse is that the parents scream right back at them. Now of course, I fully understand that the parents aren't in the best situation either - The mother has been brought to tears more than once because of her kids constantly acting up. Their father has walked out of the house multiple times, after rounds of shouting back-and-forth. At the same time, I'm fed up of hearing it. Depending on when I leave the house in the morning, I'll be leaving to the sounds of screaming from next door. I come back from work, and I still hear the screaming! At the weekends, when I'd like to sleep for an hour or two longer? Woken up by screaming and shouting that stops and starts at random points during the day, preventing me from focusing on much without drowning them out with louder noise. It's definitely not just my household that are affected by this - I wouldn't be surprised if the entire street could hear them, especially when the screaming carries on outside the house. It's getting to the point where I am losing my patience with these people, considering that I am a very patient person, and if something doesn't change I will be making some sort of complaint. Don't bother telling me to put headphones on, or turn the TV up - I shouldn't have to do the former and would be counterproductive to getting peace/quiet, and doing the latter would just create more unnecessary noise. Luckily I'll be moving out within the next year, but this isn't a problem that I feel will be going away anytime soon. If I'm not suffering because of it, the next people that live here will. I only want to know what the best thing to say to them in this situation is.
Anonymous - 8-Nov-16 @ 8:08 PM
FED UP - Your Question:
Hello. as petty as this sounds, I live in an end bungalow surrounded by council houses. The area is generally good but some kids/teenagers like to think its amusing for them to build ramps with bits of wood (don't know where these wood come from!) and have a habit of building ramps right outside my living room window beside the steps leading to my front door.I reported to the local community police but they probably wont do anything as it was suggested I speak to them, in the dark?? I'd rather not. The 3 riding around weren't necessarily loud either but why, must they do stupid things like build bike ramps so close to my front door?I have a back door which I use more and sometimes come home from a few days of house sitting to find wood even in my nice garden. Nobody ever approaches these stupid lot. I happen to like being tidy but hate having to put up with hooligans rubbish as I am always cleaning up!Your homes Northumberland generally don't do anything either unless we know who the parents are. I can't wait until it gets really cold and dark and they're out less.am I being miserable or reasonable?There are plenty of other spaces to build a bike ramp. Just not directly outside my bungalow which I pay rent for!

Our Response:
Are you allowed to fence your garden off?
ProblemNeighbours - 6-Oct-16 @ 12:00 PM
Hello.. as petty as this sounds, I live in an end bungalow surrounded by council houses. The area is generally good but some kids/teenagers like to think its amusing for them to build ramps with bits of wood (don't know where these wood come from!) and have a habit of building ramps right outside my living room window beside the steps leading to my front door. I reported to the local community police but they probably wont do anything as it was suggested I speak to them, in the dark?? I'd rather not. The 3 riding around weren't necessarily loud either but why, must they do stupid things like build bike ramps so close to my front door? I have a back door which I use more and sometimes come home from a few days of house sitting to find wood even in my nice garden. Nobody ever approaches these stupid lot. I happen to like being tidy but hate having to put up with hooligans rubbish as I am always cleaning up! Your homes Northumberland generally don't do anything either unless we know who the parents are. I can't wait until it gets really cold and dark and they're out less...am I being miserable or reasonable? There are plenty of other spaces to build a bike ramp. Just not directly outside my bungalow which I pay rent for!
FED UP - 4-Oct-16 @ 8:52 PM
My neighbours make a big fuss about their attendance at the local church.How wonderful it is that their children have all been baptised and take an active role in church life.I wonder then, how they manage to explain their antisocial behaviour and that of their "perfect" church going children.I have heard the F word more often come tumbling out of the mouth of the ten year old son than the teenage lad living the other side! His siblings are no better and the cousins are equally fluent in gutter language! I have been on the receiving end of it myself, I asked them not to throw stones at my dog and was told to eff off! According to parents they are never naughty and couldn't do such things. I think there is a prayer that tells us to take Christian teachings and apply them "not only with our lips, but in our lives" Another case of "appearing" to be holier than thou!
Bob65 - 22-Sep-16 @ 12:41 PM
I have lived in a quiet semi rural area for the past 15 years which has now been ruined by new houses being built. Kids who live in the house nearby have taken to playing football right outside my bungalow, kicking the ball at my fence and generally being a nuisance. The parents don't care and the local council are useless.
Julie - 4-Sep-16 @ 1:49 PM
We just had a run in with the kids across the street from us.we have lived here 16yrs and they are renting for about two. Last week they decided to put a toy on the trunk of my car as a prank, but I cannot prove they did it so when I got home from work if the were gathered across the street I would watch from a window to make sure they were not tresspassing. So yesterday the were all over there about 6 of them. My sister was like those kids are still outside and I said yes. So I went about my business greeting my animals when I hear my sister say get away from my car. I look out the window and one kid is in my driveway and the other across the street throwing tennis balls back in forth hitting our cars. So they notice we were watching so they waived and stared then started gesturing and one sat down in the middle of the street and staring back at us so they just started throwing tennis balls in our yard on purpose. That was it I went outside crossed the street and told then to stop and stay out of my yard. They said of course they were not doing anything and why don't I go get cameras? so I said is your mother home. He said go ahead and get her I don't care I'm already in trouble anyway he proceed to call me a liar and creep for watching him. The mother said I can only talk to my kids Idk who the others are. She asked me if I had any proof and I said that is why I'm keeping an eye out and im telling you about it. She did apologize or tell her kids to get inside and tell the others to go home instead she listened as her kid back talked saying this is bs pacing around mad.she says I'm not sure what else you want me to say I told them stay out of your yard. I said ok so I went talked to the other kids mom who has been my neighbor this whole time. She knows us so she made the her kid say sorry.we said thank you and now we are getting cameras idk if I made it worse but now we can watch them.
bella - 2-Sep-16 @ 2:55 PM
O my gee i know everyone says this but i am sooo relieved it is not just us who has these issues ..... we are in Nottingham and are active in looking for a new home we see no other choice every bang and scream makesus jump and we have not much of a life and we PAY to live here!!!
patch - 31-Aug-16 @ 6:55 PM
Commonsense - you are utterly spot on! Please try conveying that to our neighbours who do all the negative points in your list, but none of the positive! They are a complete nightmare and no one does anything about it. Their children and family can do no wrong, when it comes to others however, that's an entirely different matter! What can be done to educate people?
SensibleSuze - 28-Aug-16 @ 4:52 PM
Children are loud by nature, this is true, if they are unchecked and being allowed to not show any thought for anyone else. Everyone is entitled to enjoy their gardens, children and adults. So here is a few tips: 1. If your child is going to kick a ball to the height of a fence....parent take them to a park or open space. 2. Your child loves his trampoline...take him to somewhere that has a bouncy something. 3. If your child wants to play in the garden and scream and shout excessively, go out and tell them to be respectful of their neighbours. Just because you own a garden Doesn'tmean to say you own the street gardens. Kids aren't King. We love them and we should be teaching them to be respectful not to be a nuisance.
Commonsense - 26-Aug-16 @ 7:11 PM
According to our district bylaw, which I am reading tonight, it seems humans can not talk louder than normal conversation, in our neighbourhood. A child is indeed a human, and I am in awe of this by-law.Can it be true? Can I find some peace? (7334, 8163) Not permissible: (d) any noises or sounds, where audible from a Premise other than the Premises from which such noise or sound originates, the occurrence of which extends continuously or discontinuously for 15 minutes or more, created by the following: (8163) (i) gathering of two or more persons, where at least one human voice is raised beyond the level of ordinary conversation
Mae - 24-Aug-16 @ 8:09 AM
Apps such as Animal Whistle are available that produce frequencies higher than most adults can hear, but children can and probably find very annoying, perhaps they go indoors to get away from it. Connect via Bluetooth from your iPad/iPhone etc to a Bluetooth speaker discreetly positioned in your garden! There are also devices that supposedly deter Mosquitos in the same way, they operate at higher frequencies, unsure if humans can hear this though.
Octopus - 23-Aug-16 @ 2:44 PM
PS OUR LOCAL COUNCIL CLAIM UNLESS WE KNOW WHO THE PARENTS OF THE BRATS ARE THEY CANNOT DO ANYTHING. A SECURITY CAMERA WOULD BE WONDERFUL ON THE FRONT OF MY BUNGALOW BUT AGAIN, CANNOT AFFORD ONE!
KATZ13fedup - 27-Jun-16 @ 10:45 PM
Hi to your advice I cannot afford a fence as am on benefits and my dad and I paid and put down new paving slabs to cover the gravel that the kids seemed to love kicking it and throwing about again, the council refused to help saying that it wasn't their problem. I was angry today as I had tree bark put down over my front garden to prevent kids from running over it which seemed to work as have put some plants in it but unfortunately the tree bark was thrown about the front path where I was not best pleased at seeing the mess and it was obvious it was from my garden as you can recognise tree bark. Its dirty stuff which is why I am amazed at the stuff being thrown around but were I live the kids do what they like and hardly anyone tells them off. Oh how I wish I could afford a high fence or to move somewhere where I would find out properly if the area had loads of kids. Bah to whoever built the bungalows around council houses in Seghill, northumberland. Anyone wanting to move here ask around. Luckily our local police seem willing to help more than YourHomes Northumberland.
katz13fedup - 27-Jun-16 @ 10:42 PM
Me and my family have had a problem with the children around our house ever since we moved in. The children were jealous that we had an alley way on the right side of our house which we have to share with a neighbour who doesn't like us. Basically, the children always ride right on our driveways and on the grass, right by our windows. We aren't allowed any privacy as they keep looking in all the time. The children all about me and my family like we are some sort of bad family. We are always the ones they target the most. The children also kick balls at our house and are way too noisy. We've tried speaking with their parents, but they don't seem bothered as they never watch their children. We have also tried speaking with the council, but they don't seem to be doing anything as they class these children as "innocent and harmless, and say they are not doing anything wrong, they are just being children". Me and my family do not know what to do anymore, we're stuck! ??
Ducks123 - 25-Jun-16 @ 6:20 PM
I am having similar problems my house is the end terrace house that faces a grouped open court yard type area The other end terrace doubles as religious teaching school for under 13year olds so depsite there being 3 parks with green areas within 5minute walking distance up wards of 7-15 chlidren will be playing outside in court yard daily Large number of them are very sweet and if they are being a particularly noisey if I ask politely they will calm down, same with if I explain why doing handstands against me front door is not idea a from damage point of view and b because might not know they are there and open door hurting them accidently they stop However the younger boys have decided the wall of my house is now a goal post and the two oldest boys 11-13 years spend upto 3-5 hours a day kicking ball so hard it shakes the wall of the house up tp 10pm at night I have asked politely so many times to not stop playing but to use the teaching terrance houses wall or kick with less force and it just makes pair of them worst Can not locate a parent to speak to about matter and force of ball hitting wall has actually caused kithen items to fall off stands and break Last two times spoken with eldest boy who is main issue I got not my fing fault I am so good at football Had enough can no longer use my living room if they are outside as eldest starts kicking ball harder at wall saying I am mean blank for watching them, not at all the case would just like to sit on my sofa or use living room without issues
cat - 21-Jun-16 @ 8:32 PM
Two new neighbours moved in and No. 10 started stirring up trouble all around the neighbourhood, getting other neighbours to fall out over idle gossip and bad mouthing people. She then got 4 neighbours on her side and got them to gang up on me. If this wasn't enough, she then tried to get over friendly with my husband. Offering him lifts and flirting with him. We put her in her place and guess what she called the police on us telling lies. I have been told to stay away from her. Which is great because I do not want anything to do with her. Now she is stalking us. I rang the police and they say she is trying to provoke me and just ignore her. Her children are always outside screaming and shouting all the time making a mess. Her husband is always out and she never gets any attention from him. Why are people like this? Sad eh? At least I know I am better than her, as I would not behave like that. If you are reading this dear. I feel so sorry for your awful life. Take some advice and take control of your life instead of others.
Beingharrassed - 14-Jun-16 @ 8:46 AM
Hi MD, I totally agree with every word you have said, and that too of Tointy.I live on a private road that I pay public liability insurance for but yet, the brats in neighbouring streets feel its their right to play football on it.Their ball is constantly hitting my car and damaging my plants and my solar lights, in fact, I dont have a solar light left as they were all broken by the ball.Sometimes one of the parents join the brats in a game, again, outside my door. Our area is open plan front gardens but the brats seem to think its a communal playground! I blame the parents...they are the ones at fault for raising disrespectful brats! The more I ask them to take the ball away from my property the more they stay there and continue to damage my plants, car etc... well, its going to come to a head because myself and my husband have had enough and my husband is now going to confront the parents in the next few days.I cant even leave my car in my own driveway when i go on holiday as when i got back from holiday last summer there was a large hole in my front garden where I later found out that one of the brats ripped my grass out with his bare hands! I approached his father, who did apologise but less than a year later the same brat kicked the ball off my car.Im at my wits end and am considering selling up and moving to somewhere I can have peace and maintain a nice undamaged garden.And before anyone tells me to wise up, I have a teenage son who when growing up NEVER disrespected anyones property as my husband and I raised him to respect others and their belongings!! Some parents just dont give a damn!!!
maggiemay - 14-Jun-16 @ 12:04 AM
@Mother of four, Absolutely agree with everything you say. We have almost identical problems with child next door and also a number of 'looked after' kids and associated 'mates' that inhabit the rented house next to us.During half term, they were out at 7.30 am until 6 pm.Screaming. throwing rocks, tree branches, rubbish, plant pots, glass etc,etc,etc over our fence.They have ruined our fences and broken plants.Would love a greenhouse but dare not have one - might as well paint a target on it. They have now taken to climbing on a shed adjacent to ours to throw stuff into our garden.Then, the 'sound of Summer' - thump, thump, thump, the never ending bang of the football on our fence.One of them waits until we are sitting out in the garden and starts kicking it repeatedly, hoping, I think to smash the fence completely.The 'responsible adults' don't care, that has been made crystal clear to us.They rent, so they will move on and do the same elsewhere.There is a fundamental problem with the way kids are brought up today - these kids next to us are not kids whose parents are on benefits, the parents have flash cars, big houses and money to burn. Problem is, you dare not question them or they ramp up the anti social/threatening behaviour big time.I really feel for you and everyone else in the same boat.
Summerbreeze - 8-Jun-16 @ 10:22 AM
@Roxy. You know absolutely nothing!I have got four children and they have been little monsters at times, having said that, when spoken to, they have been totally respectful, and have apologised to my neighbours.I threw over 10,yes, footballs today from my neighbours kids. It's not actually the neighbours kid but the twit he plays with. I have spoken to them AND the parents many times and so have two of my kids. The little b*****d keeps doing it and upto know has damaged several plants and little garden lights that my daughter saved up to buy me.So Roxy, don't come on here claiming all people hate kids, have no kids or are old farts that have had there run.
Motheroffour - 24-May-16 @ 11:02 PM
I don't want to sound like a moaning old person and know kids have to play, but I am getting really fed up of my neighbours 12 year old kid kicking a hard football against our adjoining 5ft thin panel fence on a near enough daily basis with the ball coming over. I live in a housing association house (no ball games signs at back, which is ignored) and our back gardens are very small where half of it is a driveway. The sound vibrates along into the house, the ball has hit my kitchen window and I also have a rabbit who I'm scared will get hurt or any of my other pets, I daren't have a car due to risk of damage. I have been very polite and patient numerously asking the lad to be careful and have even spoken to the mother, explaining that I have hip problems so can't keep going out to retrieve a ball, but within a breath it's over again. My children are about to take their GCSE'S and the noise disturbs them from revising. The lad has even trespassed into my garden to get his ball. I am a placid person, but this has become frustrating as I don't even feel I can relax in my own home or back garden
Teenzy - 8-May-16 @ 11:40 AM
I would like to add my story to this. I have two adult children. I have raised them to be respectful of property etc. I am living across from a neighbour who is the same age as myself but has a young daughter (11 years old), she has another 4 older children/adults. Well this girl has hit my car so many times with a very heavy football that she has caused dents. I dont feel comfortable approaching mother as they are a very aggressive family. I have asked nicely many times, then not so nicely etc. Her response is to tell me to eff off and that it is her street. She also throws stones and I find them all around my front door and car. Housing association said that I need to prove damage is intentional. I had enough last week and phoned the community officer who came around and then went across to speak to them. Since then it has escalated and I really dont want to waste police officers time so my only option is cctv. It seems that some people think that its ok and just say that they are being children etc. My next door neighbours children are absolutely lovely and respectful and cause no damage anywhere when playing football. So as much as some will say just being kids it basically boils down to a lack of parenting and people who complain are made out as if they are grumpy kill joys. The neighbour across the road where this child lives has two cars parked in front and they are both full of dings, dents and scratches so clearly no respect for their own property either
Kay - 26-Apr-16 @ 5:28 PM
Firstly in reply to Lois, you sound like a very mature and sensible young person and I am sure no one begrudges you and your friends playing in your garden. But do you or any of your friends do the following; throw broken bottles, glass, stones, pieces of wood, use foul language, break fences, smash neighbours property and generally make their life a misery? I am guessing not, but that is what my neighbours children do and have done for almost ten years. I have children your age and they don't do these things either, but not everyone has the same upbringing and, unfortunately they don't just like to play - they like to cause trouble. Katie, I absolutely agree with you and have similar experience of a small village. Next door rent and don't give a monkeys what their kids get up to! Madam next door plays on Facebook games all day, meanwhile kids wreck our property! But don't you dare tell them off!! It's a total nightmare!
Daisychains - 5-Apr-16 @ 11:09 PM
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