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Problems With Neighbours' Children

By: Sarah Clark (ILEX) - Updated: 6 Aug 2017 | comments*Discuss
 
Child Parent Neighbour Property Noise

You don’t want to be labelled a complainer, but sometimes your neighbours’ children can be more of a nuisance than a blessing. Older neighbours may remember a time when you could pay an unruly child’s parents a visit and you would know that any issues would be swiftly resolved, but these days you have to be extremely wary of what you say and do about children in the neighbourhood.

What to Do About Noisy Children

Whether you appreciate it or not, there’s not much that you can do about excessive noise during the day from children. Kids are exuberant by nature and it would seem a little bit churlish to try to curb normal noise levels, even if the screaming and shouting is getting a bit too much.

If it really is becoming an issue, your only course of action is to ask their parents nicely to have a word with them. If you work shifts or simply need peace and quiet to concentrate while working at home, a quiet word might be the best way forward. Explaining that you need to sleep some afternoons may make the parents try to keep their offspring’s noise down.

Noise is a common complaint – recent research by Noise Concern revealed that 43% of people had been bothered by some form of neighbour noise.

Excessive noise levels were also blamed for forcing about half a million people to move in 2006, just to get away from their annoying and Noisy Neighbours, according the National Society for Clean Air and Environmental Protection (NSCA). At the time, their representative Mary Stevens said that many problems with neighbours were simply a result of being inconsiderate, and could easily be resolved by using a little common sense...

What to Do if Children Damage Your Property

Your first course of action, especially if the damage was clearly accidental, is to make a conciliatory approach to the child’s parents.

As far as the law is concerned, you can technically sue a child for the cost of the damage if they are old enough to understand what they were doing, but this kind of legal action is rare and somewhat frowned upon by the courts. It’s also a fact that not many children have the cash lying around in their piggy bank to pay for the cost of a broken window!

If damage has been done, and an approach to the perpetrator’s parents hasn’t been successful, you can consider suing the parents of the child. This is only appropriate in cases where there has been negligence on behalf of the parent(s) – for example, if they trusted their child with something dangerous like an air gun. They could also be considered liable for the damages if you can prove that they failed to exercise the control expected of a parent, given the child’s age.

“Can I Have my Ball Back?”

It can be irritating but it’s just a fact of neighbourhood life that kids playing ball games will occasionally mislay one into your garden. If children throw or kick a ball into your garden or onto your property, you should hand it back to them, keep hold of it for them to collect from you, or throw it back over if you find it later on.

The children should not trespass onto your property to pick it up, although in practice many probably do. If there is any damage to your garden caused by kids trampling over it, you would be entitled to compensation for any financial damages that were caused.

Still need more information? Read more about ASBOs, parenting contracts, penalty notices and parenting orders in our feature: children and anti-social behaviour.

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Rie - Your Question:
I am having problems with my neighbours complaint about the children playing in the garden. We both work and the 2 younger children go to nursery full time. We don't get home till after 6pm and the children are in bed at 7 and 8. We also have an 13 year old who enjoys playing football. He trains 5 nights a week so the children only really play in their own garden at the weekends. The older child was playing in the garden at 9:30 at night when the neighbour came out and aggressively started shouting at him for making so much noise. I don't want to start an argument what can I do

Our Response:
There's not much you can do to stop a neighbour complaining at you in this way - if you find it's getting too much, have a polite word with them and tell them that what your family is doing is not unreasonable. (Make sure the noise stops at 10pm to be sure of this). If you feel that mediation or some other kind of alternative dispute resolution is needed ask Citizens' Advice for contacts.
ProblemNeighbours - 8-Aug-17 @ 12:35 PM
I am having problems with my neighbours complaint about the children playing in the garden. We both work and the 2 younger children go to nursery full time. We don't get home till after 6pm and the children are in bed at 7 and 8. We also have an 13 year old who enjoys playing football. He trains 5 nights a week so the children only really play in their own garden at the weekends. The older child was playing in the garden at 9:30 at night when the neighbour came out and aggressively started shouting at him for making so much noise. I don't want to start an argument what can I do
Rie - 6-Aug-17 @ 9:18 AM
We have a family at the back of us and the child is obsessive about football slamming the leather ball off the neighbours gable end from 16:00 till gone 10:30 pmCan not speak to parents as they claim racism at every interaction and the mother truthfully does not care.It is unbearable as the continual thud can be heard through shut patio doors and over tv.Several complaints have been to runnymede and they do nothing. So the question is why can't one of the many adults take this annoying kid and his football down to the local park - 10 mins down the road
Pigeon - 2-Jun-17 @ 10:04 PM
I have just moved into a new build estate and everyone has moved in at the same time, I'm having some issues with the neighbours kids though. It's started with throwing balls into our garden (sometimes 5/6 by the time we got in from work) and the kids were staring over our fence constantly without saying anything!We asked what their problem was and ended up in an argument with the parents! Since then the kids feel like they have won and know we can't say anything back so we stopped throwing the balls back over and we're waiting until the kids came round to get them which has caused this issue to stop. We have also spent a lot of money on screening and trellis to block their garden so that they can't peer over the fence, however they still peer out the window and shout silly comments and giggle! I know they are just small kids but they have no manners and are so cheeky! We feel like we are being intimated by a group of children! We just want to be able to go into our garden without wondering whats going to happen Any suggestions?
Rach - 27-May-17 @ 7:07 PM
Daisy - Your Question:
Two kids from my street have been playing football outside my house with two others teenagers from a street nearby. They were repeatedly kicking their ball into my garden and coming in to get it back, so I asked them to stop. It has happened a few times since.Tonight they were running in and out of my garden after the ball again and I asked them to stop. This illicited a pretty rude response from the two who don't live nearby and they started deliberately running into my garden making noises. I went out again and saw that my hedge had been damaged by their games. I told them to stop and said it wasn't on to be behaving like this. They did stop, but I'm concerned they'll be back before long. What is the best way to deal with something like this? The two boys from my street were apologetic but the other two were quite confrontational. I'm a woman living alone and not used to having to deal with things like this! Would be grateful for any advice.

Our Response:
Could you find out their details from the other neighbours' children and write a polite note? If not, speak to your local PCSO, a word from him may be sufficient to stop this.
ProblemNeighbours - 25-May-17 @ 1:42 PM
Two kids from my street have been playing football outside my house with two others teenagers from a street nearby. They were repeatedly kicking their ball into my garden and coming in to get it back, so I asked them to stop. It has happened a few times since. Tonight they were running in and out of my garden after the ball again and I asked them to stop. This illicited a prettyrude response from the two who don't live nearby and they started deliberately running into my garden making noises. I went out again and saw that my hedge had been damaged by their games. I told them to stop and said it wasn't on to be behaving like this. They did stop, but I'm concerned they'll be back before long. What is the best way to deal with something like this? The two boys from my street were apologetic but the other two were quite confrontational. I'm a woman living alone and not used to having to deal with things like this! Would be grateful for any advice.
Daisy - 23-May-17 @ 11:16 PM
Hi, I have a question about legal rights my neighbor may have about my toddlers throwing things over the fence into their yard. First, about a year ago, it was bubbles and m&'s, by my step daughter (if you have a step child, you may know how difficult it is to teach one to adapt to new rules). I punished the older kid, and she personally apologized, along with making her stay to clean the pool and whatever else they wanted her to clean. Now, with my toddlers (ages 1 and 2), it has been a hassle keeping them from throwing their toys to one another and on the trampoline, to occasionally over the fence. They do not do it intentionally and I have apologized and told the neighbors they may throw it away if they prefer not to toss the items back. As for yesterday, it happened to be clumps of clay from the ground, into the their pool, which covers 2/3's of their yard, directly behind our fence. I have no clue as to when this happened, other than when I left their father watching them while I ran errands the day before. I apologized immediately, but before I could open my mouth, or offer to clean it myself, they turned it into an attack on my lack of parenting and not controlling my children. The conversation quickly escalated into a verbal attack, in which I turned and walked away. They then called the sheriffs department and the deputies said it wasn't a big deal. Now, I do take full responsibility for my children's throwing toys and am working hard to teach them this behavior is not allowed, and also willing to cover any damages that may come from it and clean up whatever they make a mess of. But, the neighbor doesn't care, just that it must stop! Theyalso told the officers something about a lack of tending to children and living conditions, which they quickly dismissed after spending some time in our home and meeting our children. Seriously though, what was their intentions with that?! Why would you try to make me out to be a terrible mother when I have only ever apologized and tried to be civil?At this point, what am I to expect from them, legal wise? What are their rights and mine in this situation? I just don't know what to do, other than hide inside my house and never let my little ones into the backyard. This has become so stressful and caused me so much anxiety. If anyone has any advice on dealing with rambunctious toddlers and taming the ravage toy playing, I'm open to any advice, but please no critisism. I don't know that my heart can handle much more of that. One person is enough. Thanks.
Frustrated101 - 23-May-17 @ 10:34 PM
I've moved away from a flat which had two groups of noisy neighbours living underneath me for 7 years. I finally get offered another flat elsewhere and yet again, there are kids screaming right outside my house. It's the same when you go to a shopping centre; kids are running amok shrieking like they were dying. I've developed tinnitus for wearing ear plugs so much. Recently, I've been diagnosed with Fibromyalgia and I know it's down to the stress. I leave my flat once a week to go stay with friends who have quiet places and the difference in the amount of sleep I can get there is amazing. I'm literally dreaming of living in a country shack miles from civilisation, just to get peace. Rent is high,don't we damn well deserve it? There MUST be more legal accountability to parents of noisy children. If kids live closely to other people's residences, they must NOT be allowed to scream.Otherwise, I can see lots of assault cases rising. It has changed my personality from one who worked for charity into one who hates most children because 90% of them seem to behave as feral animals, possessed by the devil. I never had the desire to be so destructive or raucous myself as a child, and respected my own neighbours' without having to be explained to me that being inconsiderate simply wasn't acceptable. Usually their mothers are utter brats themselves with no lives and no future. Myself, I'm getting out to the country, ZERO neighbours for 100% peace.
PeasedOff - 21-May-17 @ 7:09 PM
Bunny - Your Question:
I really am done with where I was housed , not only was I forced to live here without any say in the matter I can't take anymore of other people's children playing ball and throwing stones and swearing outside my house , I had to quit my weekend nights work due to not being able to sleep to work the night shifts , seems nothing I can do about it apart from maybe holding back a months rent and leave , myself and children were placed so far away from our family and everyone we knew and loved that it makes life feel even more hopeless and depressing all round , I feel so alone and with all the neighbours United against us we don't and never did stand a chance from day one , I'm so fed up with not being heard by the landlord of victory housing and feeling bullied and alone when it comes to our hole surroundings that I am feeling at a total loss.

Our Response:
Sometimes these things are out of the control of a landlord especially if there is nothing illegal about what the children are doing. If the stones are causing actual damage, then you should cause the police as criminal damage is something they can take action for. Does your Housing Association offer an exchange/swap service? That might be your quickest route for a move.
ProblemNeighbours - 2-May-17 @ 12:38 PM
I really am done with where I was housed , not only was I forced to live here without any say in the matter I can't take anymore of other people's children playing ball and throwing stones and swearing outside my house , I had to quit my weekend nights work due to not being able to sleep to work the night shifts , seems nothing I can do about it apart from maybe holding back a months rent and leave , myself and children were placed so far away from our family and everyone we knew and loved that it makes life feel even more hopeless and depressing all round , I feel so alone and with all the neighbours United against us we don't and never did stand a chance from day one , I'm so fed up with not being heard by the landlord of victory housing and feeling bullied and alone when it comes to our hole surroundings that I am feeling at a total loss .
Bunny - 1-May-17 @ 3:17 PM
Following on from my previous post and in response to other posts. I know exactly what you mean re: praying for rain. The children at Copperwood DO have 'somewhere nice to play' - there's a really big park a 10 minute walk up the road - the 'parents' (in quotes because there's no sign of parenting) are just too lazy to take their children to the park. Likewise, other residents are moving away from Copperwood because it now bears more resemblance to a Trailer Park (childrens toys, dirty cutlery, dirty children's knickers left in Communal areas) than the lovely area it to used to be - it's really upsetting. My heart goes out to anyone else that suffers in this away - I think only other people who are experiencing this type of thing can fully understand how much this affects you.
Deb Bowyer - 30-Apr-17 @ 12:51 PM
We have lived in a quiet cul -de- sac for over 20 years but about a year and a half ago a single mother with her 3 children moved in across the road from us and have been nothing but trouble. The 2 boys are just so unruly and out of control. They have completely spoilt our neighbourhood. People have moved away because of them. The Mother has no control over them at all. They have norespect for other peoples property be it cars or houses, fences etc. Several od the streets residents have had words with the 2 boys but all you get is a load of abuse. The language that comes out of the youngest one who can only be about 6 is shocking he would put Roy Chubby Brown to shame!!! He is always egged on by his older brother who himself must be about 10-11. Another neighbour had asked them repeatedly to stop going into their garden to retrieve their football all the time. so as there is now a lock put on the gate to stop them from just going in they have found another way which is to climb through the neighbours hedge. gain they have been asked to stop doing it but they take no notice. The other day not only did they climb through the neighbours hedge they even had the cheek to start using the trampoline that is in the garden!!! Quite a few of the houses have gravel / little stones on their drives or at the front of the property and the youngest one is always throwing the stones all over the road and recently if one of the neighbours have told them off because of their ball constantly hitting their fence or car he throws handfuls of gravel / stones at their cars. One evening a neighbour was being dropped off by a friend and the little one rode his scooter right up to the back of the car and started banging his scooter against the bumper. The driver asked him what he was doing and then he went around to the side of the car and started doing the same to the back of the car. The driver then told him to move or she would run him over he gave her a load of abuse and rode off. I have had eggs thrown at my washing and all up the side of my house. How on earth the Mother didn't realise she was missing 4 or 5 eggs from her kitchen amazes me. The day that the rubbish is collected you will find them kicking everyone's food caddy bins all over the road. Each time we complain to the Mother she apologises and says she will keep them off the street. This she did for a while but then let them back out. The Police have been involved and Social Services but nothing seems to get through to them. They are just out of control!!! People are moving away because of them and I don't want to be one of them. Every evening when we return from work we are just praying for rain so that they won't be out in the street. Ideally we would just like them to move away but that doesn't look like it's going to happen anytime soon unfortunately. Yesterday when we and a neighbour returned home there was a lot of what looked like paper all over the road by where they. My neighbour just pick
Jab - 28-Apr-17 @ 8:04 AM
Deb36 - Your Question:
Just echoing Kat and 4everfrustrated - I live in a residential area consisting of maisonettes and flats - I've lived here for nearly 20 years and up until 4 or 5 years ago it was a lovely place to live - where residents showed respect and consideration towards one another. These days it's a living hell - weekends and school holidays are a nightmare where my home is invaded by the screaming and shouting of children treating the communal areas like a children's playground - at the last residents association meeting I attended people were clearly concerned (to say the least) about how Copperwood is going downhill - with several references made re: Feral children.It really affects your life, health and happiness and it's about time that more is done re: noise pollution from Children. In the summer I now stay away from my home until 9pm when (hopefully) parents have called their children in and I can at least enjoy a few hours peace. But WHY SHOULD I AVOID MY OWN HOME? Sick to death if it.

Our Response:
Talk to your local council, the PCSO and your councillors (there may a committee that specifically deals with behaviour in certain areas etc). There may be some action you can take to help keep the children off the street (i.e finding somewhere nice for them to play etc)
ProblemNeighbours - 25-Apr-17 @ 10:35 AM
Just echoing Kat and 4everfrustrated - I live in a residential area consisting of maisonettes and flats - I've lived here for nearly 20 years and up until 4 or 5 years ago it was a lovely place to live - where residents showed respect and consideration towards one another. These days it's a living hell - weekends and school holidays are a nightmare where my home is invaded by the screaming and shouting of children treating the communal areas like a children's playground - at the last residents association meeting I attended people were clearly concerned (to say the least) about how Copperwood is going downhill - with several references made re: Feral children. It really affects your life, health and happiness and it's about time that more is done re: noise pollution from Children. In the summer I now stay away from my home until 9pm when (hopefully) parents have called their children in and I can at least enjoy a few hours peace. But WHY SHOULD I AVOID MY OWN HOME? Sick to death if it.
Deb36 - 23-Apr-17 @ 6:14 PM
Just echoing Kat and 4everfrustrated - I live in a residential area consisting of maisonettes and flats - I've lived here for nearly 20 years and up until 4 or 5 years ago it was a lovely place to live - where residents showed respect and consideration towards one another. These days it's a living hell - weekends and school holidays are a nightmare where my home is invaded by the screaming and shouting of children treating the communal areas like a children's playground - at the last residents association meeting I attended people were clearly concerned (to say the least) about how Copperwood is going downhill - with several references made re: Feral children. It really affects your life, health and happiness and it's about time that more is done re: noise pollution from Children. In the summer I now stay away from my home until 9pm when (hopefully) parents have called their children in and I can at least enjoy a few hours peace. But WHY SHOULD I AVOID MY OWN HOME? Sick to death if it.
Deb36 - 19-Apr-17 @ 10:09 PM
This is for the attention of katriona25. Your story caught my eye and I just to let you know that you have my total sympathy and empathy. I live in a similar situation involving irresponsible uncooperative adults and wild children who run around as if they think the world is one big playground. And the adults who should know better just stand by without saying or doing anything to control their children. And when I dare to say anything, I get the typical hostile response with loads of attitude which just winds me up even more than the children who are the source of this problem. But what is more disheartening is the fact that even though I have reported this to the local housing officer, her attitude is the same. It's like, what do you expect me to do? And again I end up just feeling evermore wound up and increasingly desperate, depressed, frustrated and more and more angry. And like you it is getting to the point where I feel like ending my life rather than putting up with this anymore. If the day ever comes where I lose it with my neighbor I will regret it but I will make it clear that my landlord has been unhelpful and totally indifferent towards me and that has made the situation I am in even worse. Today I have endured more noise from my neighbor and her irritating grandchildren, and once again I have written to customer services, and once again I was told that my message would be passed onto the housing officer. But I have heard all of that and more before and nothing good has come from it. So until something is actually done to resolve this situation, that email is meaningless. This situation has made me realize just how unaccountable some housing officers and housing associations are. There does not seem to be anyone that can come to the aid of people like you and me and everyone else who have shared their bitter experiences on this website. No wonder why you and I feel so hopeless and disheartened to the point of wanting to die before our due time! Make no mistake Kat, The people who elected to local councils and central government have much to blame for the tormenting situations we find ourselves in. They don't create laws to allow swift action to be taken against people who are clearly anti social and indifferent to the misery they cause to their neighbors. That angers me more than the nuisance neighbors!
4everfrustrated - 10-Apr-17 @ 5:06 PM
Hi, I just want to say that I am enduring a similar irritating, immensely annoying, patience testing situation, with my neighbor who lives in as flat below me, and when she has her relatives around (sadly on a regular basis) they come with their children, and of course they run her flat as if it were an adventure playground totally unaware of the impact it has on me. I have approached my neighbor on numerous occasions to let her know how the behavior of her grandchildren affects me but she is totally unconcerned and if anything by her attitude to me she encourages her grandchildren to run riot all the more and that of course pushes my patience over and above breaking point. I have given up trying to reason with my neighbor and recently I have been trying to get my housing officer to intervene but that has sadly proved to be equally frustrating because nothing is ever done no matter how many times I call, write, or speak to a member of the customer services team. But I won't give up and have been trying very hard to get help from local Councillors in the hope that the housing officer will finally do something to try and resolve this tormenting situation. This situation is made worse by a complete lack of noise blocking material,so every time her grandchildren run around the sound invades my flat and I can't escape from the noise and it is really getting me down. I have endured this for 17 years and I can't take much more. I fear that one day I will lose control and snap completely and if that happens it won't be good for anyone and I of course don't want that to happen. But if a situation like this is allowed to drag on without anyone being willing to take responsibility, what is a man meant to do? Just sit here enduring this damn situation for the rest of my life? If my neighbor was reasonable and willing to work with me for the sake of peace then maybe things would not be so bad but she is unwilling and unreasonable and people like that always cause log jams. And the strange thing is she is one of those typical people who make a show of being a so called "christian" always remembering to attach the supposed "sign of Christianity" i.e the holly wreath, but conveniently forgetting the real hallmarks of Christianity, i.e. love for ones neighbor, by avoiding doing or allowing things which cause ones neighbor undue stress and torment. A typical ignorant self righteous self absorbed hypocrite. But I live in hope that one day she will get her come comeuppance, and I hope i'll be there to see it when it happens.
4everfrustrated - 10-Apr-17 @ 4:44 PM
T - Your Question:
Good day,I need help. I am the neighbour with the child living upstairs. I live above a couple aged 60/65, they seemed nice at first but now things are getting uncomfortable at best. I moved in with a one month old. He is now 14 months. I have carpets, with underlay. He honestly is not the kind of baby that is crying all the time and I am not just saying that, he is a happy baby, at 2 am he wakes up to play. I swiftly put him back to bed. When he was teething he was up all hours and I was back and forth. I don't flush my toilet after 10pm. I don't play lound music or turn my telly up.because I have really good hearing. I can hear my neighbours on the phone and their TV etc. I turn my radio on BBC 4 or LBC every Friday while I clean my house. My son is asleep buy 9pm every night.I had an argument with my partner on the 8th Jan.it was very loud, lasted 20 mins and there was swearing.I had ordered a cab to pick up my son so that's how I know how long it lasted. We never argued like that before or since. My neighbour called the council and said I am a nuisance. He reported the argument and said he hears me playing the radio. He told them I come in late in the evening, I am always banging on the floor and it sounds like the ceiling is falling down. Today @ 2pm my son dropped a toy in the bath and he banged the ceiling. I just sat on the floor and cried. He is always banging the ceiling.even when I am just watching the TV in the evening.he says it's due to noise. He told me hears me walking. I had asked him to text me if there is any noise but he never has. I saw him a few days after the argument and asked if I was ok and said that if I have loud arguments the people in the block will report me.He has knocked on the doors of the other persons in the block who all also own their homes and asked them if they have heard me because I am driving him crazy. They have all told me at some point that they feel sorry for me, because they never hear me. The council has contacted each of them to check. They have told me that though the carpet is in place ect because of the number of complaints they have received from him I may lose my home, because everyone has a different tolerance level.I don't know what to do.I don't know what further steps I can take to reduce the noise, I currently spend as little time in my house as possible, because my son has learned to say shhhhh and I worry that by stopping him from just being a baby I am messing him up. He has jusy learned to walk and falls over a lot, which puts me on edge as my neighbour bags the ceiling. I am turning into a nervous reck and really need some help.

Our Response:
It's unlikely the environmental health services will take action about this kind of family noise, especially if it's as normal as you say it is. If you are renting - talk to your landlord first of all, tell them about your lifestyle and routine as you have done above and tell them that you are feeling intimidated by the neighbour. They may not be able to do much but at least you've let them know and they could try and put in some more sound insulation etc. Do the same with Environmental Health...as we said, it's unlikely they will even consider taking any further action than the investigative work they've already done. If the neighbour continues banging on their ceiling and complaining to you about the noise, just simply explain that you are beingas quiet as you can with a young child in the home and that you feel your quality of life is being affected by his constant complaining and banging. If it gets worse, contact Citizens' Advice to see if there's anything you can do in terms of local support about this intimidatory behaviour.
ProblemNeighbours - 27-Mar-17 @ 10:26 AM
Good day,I need help. I am the neighbour with the child living upstairs. I live above a couple aged 60/65, they seemed nice at first but now things are getting uncomfortable at best. I moved in with a one month old. He is now 14 months. I have carpets, with underlay. He honestly is not the kind of baby that is crying all the time and I am not just saying that, he is a happy baby, at 2 am he wakes up to play. I swiftly put him back to bed. When he was teething he was up all hours and I was back and forth. I don't flush my toilet after 10pm. I don't play lound music or turn my telly up.because I have really good hearing. I can hear my neighbours on the phone and their TV etc. I turn my radio on BBC 4 or LBC every Friday while I clean my house. My son is asleep buy 9pm every night.I had an argument with my partner on the 8th Jan.it was very loud, lasted 20 mins and there was swearing.I had ordered a cab to pick up my son so that's how I know how long it lasted. We never argued like that before or since. My neighbour called the council and said I am a nuisance. He reported the argument and said he hears me playing the radio. He told them I come in late in the evening, I am always banging on the floor and it sounds like the ceiling is falling down. Today @ 2pm my son dropped a toy in the bath and he banged the ceiling. I just sat on the floor and cried. He is always banging the ceiling.even when I am just watching the TV in the evening.he says it's due to noise. He told me hears me walking. I had asked him to text me if there is any noise but he never has. I saw him a few days after the argument and asked if I was ok and said that if I have loud arguments the people in the block will report me.He has knocked on the doors of the other persons in the block who all also own their homes and asked them if they have heard me because I am driving him crazy. They have all told me at some point that they feel sorry for me, because they never hear me. The council has contacted each of them to check. They have told me that though the carpet is in place ect because of the number of complaints they have received from him I may lose my home, because everyone has a different tolerance level.I don't know what to do.I don't know what further steps I can take to reduce the noise, I currently spend as little time in my house as possible, because my son has learned to say shhhhh and I worry that by stopping him from just being a baby I am messing him up. He has jusy learned to walk and falls over a lot, which puts me on edge as my neighbour bags the ceiling. I am turning into a nervous reck and really need some help.
T - 25-Mar-17 @ 12:09 AM
Oh Katriona - you are in exactly the same situation as me, almost word for word!I was brought up to be respectful to other people, not be a nuisance or anti social, but that doesn't apply to some people sadly. We can't use our garden as the "lovely"kids next door throw missiles at us when we are out. I have carried out advice to the letter on how to deal with it, but realise that I am dealing with narcissists - as I believe you are. They are never wrong and will NEVER admit liability for anything. Let's hope for both our sakes these antisocial nightmares move on!
Springtime 64 - 22-Feb-17 @ 11:04 AM
I dont hate kids and not old fashioned - yes I was a kid once (but I had more respect for neighbours and was brought up not to cause them grief) and I wasn't feral by nature as my neighbour's kids are. I now pray for rain and dread weekends and school holidays. I'm scared to leave my house and I hate living there - I feel trapped. Why should I have to put up with feral noisy screaming kids who will insist in making my life a misery and making me ill, all because I have in the past asked them to keep the noise down etc. politely!!!I had their mum (who I used to get on with) banging on the door saying if I didn't like it I should move (I wish I could!) and that her kids will play where and how they like. How can you reason with feral disrespectful feral people like this? Now their new trick is to ride up and down my fence (on the pavement and in the road of the cul-de-sac) and they torment my dog (if in garden - shouting and screaming to make him bark) and the wall of my living room is adjacent to the pavement so I have to endure them going up the whole length of the house on scooters, bikes and skateboards - so I cant sit INSIDE or OUTSIDE.This is driving me insane.Ive had rubbish thrown over my fence, roses CUT in my garden - even an anonymous note complaining my dog barks - there's a reason he does, THEM.My dog is not left out in the garden unattended, but is very ill and is frequently sick and pees/pukes all the time.I cant understand why the parents don't keep them away to defuse the situation, but this is only going to get worse - with me being arrested when I finally break - THEN the authorities will take note and I will be in Holloway or will end up topping myself.
Katriona25 - 21-Feb-17 @ 4:51 PM
"Kids are exuberant by nature and it would seem a little bit churlish to try to curb normal noise levels, even if the screaming and shouting is getting a bit too much." 'Churlish' ? How is it churlish if your entire quality of life is being wrecked by the parents complete lack of consideration for their neighbours - they should be sorting out the offspring that they decided to have and keep them in line - not let them run riot. If anyone knows of any petitions to get the law changed around this area re: noise pollution then please post
Jolly - 22-Jan-17 @ 4:51 PM
Hi, my name is Stephen and I have read some stories on here and I totally understand on how people feel with the way the younger generations are allowed to behave in this era. Me myself have the same problem as you all have stated on this website. I have got a neighbour who has 3 brats named Sam, Zach and Phoebe krisp and the mother is called Kate Barker. They have no consideration or respect for anyone who lives next door to them or for anyone else in the community. This situation has gone on for 6 years and it has lead to me becoming very ill through the situation not being dealt with by the authorities. I am being told by the authorities that I should have to move from the place where I have always lived since I was a child myself, if I want to get peace and quiet. In the past I have had social services, environmental health and police involved in the situation, but they havenever dared doing anything about the problem. The little bastards play football and basketball in the house and sometimes it can go on for a few hours. The other things they are allowed to do is play the television loud, stamping their feet, banging on the walls etc. It is making me so ill that I might even have to start taking medication, because I will be left with no choice. In the 80s if children misbehaved, they would end up getting a damn good lethering and I will admit nearly all children need to have a damn good battering, to make them learn that they can't get away with misbehaving in the way parents let them do, because what parents don't understand is that people's health is being affected because of this and it is about time therese may got of her arse and changed the law back to that children can be lethered, if they misbehave.
Rambo - 19-Jan-17 @ 7:21 PM
I need some help and advise, I have been on my home over 3 years, a 2 bedroom flat on the ground floor as I'm disabled with 2 sons at home. My neighbour's above is a problem since we moved on, after going up to them a few times because their children and visitors children would make loads of noise until 2 or 3 in the morning,I've complaint to newham council countless of times, they've sent letters out, even used a noise monitor, but nothing was helpful. The conclusion from the noise monitor report stated the noise was coming from my own flat.Right now at 2:45 in the morning their at it, running around jumping and stamping no respect for us below them.I am frustrated now that I am considering looking into moving again.But I don't know if it's easy as that as it's council property. I really need some help because the lack of sleep is slowly killing me, it's too much.
Candeekay - 30-Dec-16 @ 2:51 AM
Anonymous - Your Question:
I'm not entirely sure what to do about my situation. New neighbors moved in almost a year ago now, and their two young children (twin girls) are almost always screaming, banging doors or generally being a nuisance.What makes it worse is that the parents scream right back at them. Now of course, I fully understand that the parents aren't in the best situation either - The mother has been brought to tears more than once because of her kids constantly acting up. Their father has walked out of the house multiple times, after rounds of shouting back-and-forth. At the same time, I'm fed up of hearing it. Depending on when I leave the house in the morning, I'll be leaving to the sounds of screaming from next door. I come back from work, and I still hear the screaming! At the weekends, when I'd like to sleep for an hour or two longer? Woken up by screaming and shouting that stops and starts at random points during the day, preventing me from focusing on much without drowning them out with louder noise. It's definitely not just my household that are affected by this - I wouldn't be surprised if the entire street could hear them, especially when the screaming carries on outside the house. It's getting to the point where I am losing my patience with these people, considering that I am a very patient person, and if something doesn't change I will be making some sort of complaint.Don't bother telling me to put headphones on, or turn the TV up - I shouldn't have to do the former and would be counterproductive to getting peace/quiet, and doing the latter would just create more unnecessary noise. Luckily I'll be moving out within the next year, but this isn't a problem that I feel will be going away anytime soon. If I'm not suffering because of it, the next people that live here will.I only want to know what the best thing to say to them in this situation is.

Our Response:
Start by dropping them a note - see our letter templates here which include an informal note followed by a more formal letter. If that doesn't alleviate the problem, you could try environmental health. You will need to be able to persuade them that this is more than just everyday "family noise" though.
ProblemNeighbours - 9-Nov-16 @ 2:21 PM
I'm not entirely sure what to do about my situation. New neighbors moved in almost a year ago now, and their two young children (twin girls) are almost always screaming, banging doors or generally being a nuisance. What makes it worse is that the parents scream right back at them. Now of course, I fully understand that the parents aren't in the best situation either - The mother has been brought to tears more than once because of her kids constantly acting up. Their father has walked out of the house multiple times, after rounds of shouting back-and-forth. At the same time, I'm fed up of hearing it. Depending on when I leave the house in the morning, I'll be leaving to the sounds of screaming from next door. I come back from work, and I still hear the screaming! At the weekends, when I'd like to sleep for an hour or two longer? Woken up by screaming and shouting that stops and starts at random points during the day, preventing me from focusing on much without drowning them out with louder noise. It's definitely not just my household that are affected by this - I wouldn't be surprised if the entire street could hear them, especially when the screaming carries on outside the house. It's getting to the point where I am losing my patience with these people, considering that I am a very patient person, and if something doesn't change I will be making some sort of complaint. Don't bother telling me to put headphones on, or turn the TV up - I shouldn't have to do the former and would be counterproductive to getting peace/quiet, and doing the latter would just create more unnecessary noise. Luckily I'll be moving out within the next year, but this isn't a problem that I feel will be going away anytime soon. If I'm not suffering because of it, the next people that live here will. I only want to know what the best thing to say to them in this situation is.
Anonymous - 8-Nov-16 @ 8:17 PM
I'm not entirely sure what to do about my situation. New neighbors moved in almost a year ago now, and their two young children (twin girls) are almost always screaming, banging doors or generally being a nuisance. What makes it worse is that the parents scream right back at them. Now of course, I fully understand that the parents aren't in the best situation either - The mother has been brought to tears more than once because of her kids constantly acting up. Their father has walked out of the house multiple times, after rounds of shouting back-and-forth. At the same time, I'm fed up of hearing it. Depending on when I leave the house in the morning, I'll be leaving to the sounds of screaming from next door. I come back from work, and I still hear the screaming! At the weekends, when I'd like to sleep for an hour or two longer? Woken up by screaming and shouting that stops and starts at random points during the day, preventing me from focusing on much without drowning them out with louder noise. It's definitely not just my household that are affected by this - I wouldn't be surprised if the entire street could hear them, especially when the screaming carries on outside the house. It's getting to the point where I am losing my patience with these people, considering that I am a very patient person, and if something doesn't change I will be making some sort of complaint. Don't bother telling me to put headphones on, or turn the TV up - I shouldn't have to do the former and would be counterproductive to getting peace/quiet, and doing the latter would just create more unnecessary noise. Luckily I'll be moving out within the next year, but this isn't a problem that I feel will be going away anytime soon. If I'm not suffering because of it, the next people that live here will. I only want to know what the best thing to say to them in this situation is.
Anonymous - 8-Nov-16 @ 8:08 PM
FED UP - Your Question:
Hello. as petty as this sounds, I live in an end bungalow surrounded by council houses. The area is generally good but some kids/teenagers like to think its amusing for them to build ramps with bits of wood (don't know where these wood come from!) and have a habit of building ramps right outside my living room window beside the steps leading to my front door.I reported to the local community police but they probably wont do anything as it was suggested I speak to them, in the dark?? I'd rather not. The 3 riding around weren't necessarily loud either but why, must they do stupid things like build bike ramps so close to my front door?I have a back door which I use more and sometimes come home from a few days of house sitting to find wood even in my nice garden. Nobody ever approaches these stupid lot. I happen to like being tidy but hate having to put up with hooligans rubbish as I am always cleaning up!Your homes Northumberland generally don't do anything either unless we know who the parents are. I can't wait until it gets really cold and dark and they're out less.am I being miserable or reasonable?There are plenty of other spaces to build a bike ramp. Just not directly outside my bungalow which I pay rent for!

Our Response:
Are you allowed to fence your garden off?
ProblemNeighbours - 6-Oct-16 @ 12:00 PM
Hello.. as petty as this sounds, I live in an end bungalow surrounded by council houses. The area is generally good but some kids/teenagers like to think its amusing for them to build ramps with bits of wood (don't know where these wood come from!) and have a habit of building ramps right outside my living room window beside the steps leading to my front door. I reported to the local community police but they probably wont do anything as it was suggested I speak to them, in the dark?? I'd rather not. The 3 riding around weren't necessarily loud either but why, must they do stupid things like build bike ramps so close to my front door? I have a back door which I use more and sometimes come home from a few days of house sitting to find wood even in my nice garden. Nobody ever approaches these stupid lot. I happen to like being tidy but hate having to put up with hooligans rubbish as I am always cleaning up! Your homes Northumberland generally don't do anything either unless we know who the parents are. I can't wait until it gets really cold and dark and they're out less...am I being miserable or reasonable? There are plenty of other spaces to build a bike ramp. Just not directly outside my bungalow which I pay rent for!
FED UP - 4-Oct-16 @ 8:52 PM
My neighbours make a big fuss about their attendance at the local church.How wonderful it is that their children have all been baptised and take an active role in church life.I wonder then, how they manage to explain their antisocial behaviour and that of their "perfect" church going children.I have heard the F word more often come tumbling out of the mouth of the ten year old son than the teenage lad living the other side! His siblings are no better and the cousins are equally fluent in gutter language! I have been on the receiving end of it myself, I asked them not to throw stones at my dog and was told to eff off! According to parents they are never naughty and couldn't do such things. I think there is a prayer that tells us to take Christian teachings and apply them "not only with our lips, but in our lives" Another case of "appearing" to be holier than thou!
Bob65 - 22-Sep-16 @ 12:41 PM
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