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Problems With Neighbours' Children

By: Sarah Clark (ILEX) - Updated: 27 Nov 2020 | comments*Discuss
 
Child Parent Neighbour Property Noise

You don’t want to be labelled a complainer, but sometimes your neighbours’ children can be more of a nuisance than a blessing. Older neighbours may remember a time when you could pay an unruly child’s parents a visit and you would know that any issues would be swiftly resolved, but these days you have to be extremely wary of what you say and do about children in the neighbourhood.

What to Do About Noisy Children

Whether you appreciate it or not, there’s not much that you can do about excessive noise during the day from children. Kids are exuberant by nature and it would seem a little bit churlish to try to curb normal noise levels, even if the screaming and shouting is getting a bit too much.

If it really is becoming an issue, your only course of action is to ask their parents nicely to have a word with them. If you work shifts or simply need peace and quiet to concentrate while working at home, a quiet word might be the best way forward. Explaining that you need to sleep some afternoons may make the parents try to keep their offspring’s noise down.

Noise is a common complaint – recent research by Noise Concern revealed that 43% of people had been bothered by some form of neighbour noise.

Excessive noise levels were also blamed for forcing about half a million people to move in 2006, just to get away from their annoying and Noisy Neighbours, according the National Society for Clean Air and Environmental Protection (NSCA). At the time, their representative Mary Stevens said that many problems with neighbours were simply a result of being inconsiderate, and could easily be resolved by using a little common sense...

What to Do if Children Damage Your Property

Your first course of action, especially if the damage was clearly accidental, is to make a conciliatory approach to the child’s parents.

As far as the law is concerned, you can technically sue a child for the cost of the damage if they are old enough to understand what they were doing, but this kind of legal action is rare and somewhat frowned upon by the courts. It’s also a fact that not many children have the cash lying around in their piggy bank to pay for the cost of a broken window!

If damage has been done, and an approach to the perpetrator’s parents hasn’t been successful, you can consider suing the parents of the child. This is only appropriate in cases where there has been negligence on behalf of the parent(s) – for example, if they trusted their child with something dangerous like an air gun. They could also be considered liable for the damages if you can prove that they failed to exercise the control expected of a parent, given the child’s age.

“Can I Have my Ball Back?”

It can be irritating but it’s just a fact of neighbourhood life that kids playing ball games will occasionally mislay one into your garden. If children throw or kick a ball into your garden or onto your property, you should hand it back to them, keep hold of it for them to collect from you, or throw it back over if you find it later on.

The children should not trespass onto your property to pick it up, although in practice many probably do. If there is any damage to your garden caused by kids trampling over it, you would be entitled to compensation for any financial damages that were caused.

Still need more information? Read more about ASBOs, parenting contracts, penalty notices and parenting orders in our feature: children and anti-social behaviour.

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So I recently moved into my house and we have been fair to be good neighbours but the person who lived here before use wasn't a good neighbour all the kids around me hated her and would bang on her window set fires under the window (it sticks out alittle) and stick condoms to the door. We havnt had any issues till now, they has started aggressively banging the window i have a 1 year old it scares her. I dont know if I should say something or not im worried that if I do they will start being a night mare
Holli - 27-Nov-20 @ 5:09 PM
Vivi - 19-Aug-20 @ 6:21 PM Drive-by is definitely along the right lines but I think that I may have finally found the solution . I firmly believe,after years of extensive research, that the gene causing anti social tendencies can be isolated and edited. Although this alone won't solve the immediate problems at hand, these could be remedied by disposing of the said "hell children" by lethal injection at the same time the parents are retrospectively edited to make sure any further offspring are normal, law abiding citizens. The possibilities thereafter are limitless and vivi ....ve vill have peace and qviet !
MenGele - 26-Nov-20 @ 4:22 PM
Our primary concern is one of safety. Based on the crackling sounds and the smell of smoke, we believe that someone who lives next door is lighting sparklers (or something similar) in the house on a regular basis.In addition to our concern about a potential fire, we are subjected to excessive noise virtually every day and night, frequently making it impossible to sleep.This noise ranges from jumping, running, and throwing toys at the adjacent bedroom walls at all hours of the day and night – to violent door slamming so intense that pictures fall from our walls.Moreover, many nights and early mornings, we hear the sounds of loud thumping and a ball hitting our shared wall (which is our bedroom wall) between the hours of 10:00 p.m. and 3:00 a.m., and then often again starting around 7:30 AM. Over the last few days, we have tracked specific examples of the problems listed above.To give you additional context, below is a list of incidents that have occurred over the last couple of weeks: • Saturday, June 27, around 2 PM – We heard a crackling sizzling sound, and then shortly afterward we smelled smoke coming into our unit.I suspect this was someone next door lighting sparklers or something similar. • Monday, June 29, around 7:30 AM – We heard the same crackling and sizzling sound, which again, sounded and smelled like sparklers. • Wednesday, July 1, around 11 PM – Someone on the other side of the shared wall (our bedroom) was jumping and making loud scratching sounds against the wall.The continued until 12:15 AM. • Friday, July 3, at 8:40 AM – Once again, we heard and smelled sparklers adjacent to our bedroom wall. • Saturday, July 4 - Excessive noise all day – Loud running upstairs and jumping from morning until about noon; then a short break and unrelenting noise again from 1 PM to 6:10 PM. • Sunday, July 5, beginning at 7 AM – Someone was throwing a ball against the wall, and once again lit what we believe to a sparkler adjacent to our bedroom wall. • Monday, July 6, around 7 AM – More loud banging, and knocking against the bedroom wall. • We continued to smell and hear the sounds of what we believe to be sparklers being lit on all of the following days: o Tuesday, July 7, around 7:10 AM o Wednesday, July 8, around 1:15 PM o Thursday, July 9, around 1:35 PM o Friday, July 10, Friday at 1:20 PM o Saturday, July 11 at 7:30 AM. And the issue with the noise is only escalating.On Saturday and Sunday morning (July 11 and 12), beginning around 7:30 AM, someone was also throwing a ball against our bedroom wall for 2 hours. We are parents too, and we understand that children can be noisy.However, this level of persistent noise and especially, the concern about fire, has caused us a tremendous amount of stress and anxiety – particularly as we try to work from home.
Ben - 19-Nov-20 @ 6:46 PM
My other half and I have lived in our 2 bedroom house since the 1980s. Several neighbours have come and gone in that time and they've all been very nice, until the current ones moved in about 12 years ago. They were ok at first, seemed to be a nice couple, he's English, she's Polish and we got on alright with them - until she had a child. When the boy was a baby he was no bother,the problems started when he was around 5 and have gradually got worse as the years have gone by. He can't seem to walk around the house, he runs everywhere and all we hear is thump, stomp, thump hour after hour. He must be 9 or 10 years old by now, getting taller and heavier. The heavier he gets the more noise he's making.The only time we get any peace and quiet apart from when he's at school and overnight, is when the boys father's at home in the evenings and some weekends, he rightly won't allow him to run indoors. It's his mother who appears to have no consideration for us. We're elderly and don't want or need this at our age. I knocked on their door and had a word some time ago, but they denied that the boy runs around indoors and I got accused of making it up as "they never hear him". The father got quite nasty with me and suggested if we don't like it, we can move house.Since that day the boy makes even more noise, he runs stomps and thumps around the house like a rhinoceros, its so bad that the walls vibrate and the ornaments rattle in our glass cabinet. We live in (what was) a quietcul-de-sac and there's plenty of space outside if the boy feels the need to constantly run,there's a grassed play area just around the corner from here, a huge recreation ground 5 minutes walk away and their back garden's big enough to run around in. My husband, who's over 70, isn't well and needs to sleep a lot. I suffer from chronic migraines and often need to lie down in a quiet dark room. Our lives have become a misery thanks to the selfish neighbours. Everybody's entitled to a peaceful life and no one has the right to make other people's lives unbearable. We've lived in our house much longer than they have in theirs, it cost us a lot of money and many years of hard graft, all we want to do is to be able to enjoy it in our old age, but it seems to be too much to ask. Wouldn't it be wonderful if we could put all these noisy neighbours together living in a massive complex somewhere in the middle of nowhere. They wouldn't like that, even noisy neighbours don't want noisy neighbours and would be the first to complain.
Kia - 18-Nov-20 @ 11:52 PM
We live in a semi-detached bungalow (2 bed) so it's tiny but it's on a generous plot of land, gardens 3 side. When we moved in our attached neighbours who we found out are renting.. didn't have kids, you can see where this going. They now have a 5 year old and a 2 year old, which just scream all day everyday, I believe the 5 year old is now at school but when she gets home at 3-4pm the next 4-5 hours is just screaming, thudding and stuff being thrown around, she screams like one of those metal band singers. With it being a bungalow it essential makes our living room useless, and even our main bedroom is a noise pit, can't escape like in a 2 story. I am now permanently work from home and so it's only got worse. I don't hate kids and appreciate they are like that and want to have fun but it's extremely difficult to deal with it when it's just 24/7, they love to jump around at 5:30am too and we share floor joists. The parents never tell them to be quiet, but instead just shout and swear at them.. Think our only solution is to move sadly.
David - 17-Nov-20 @ 9:58 AM
I miss old times. I'm originally from Poland and was born in 1980. In my life I got a smack on my bottom a few times and only when every other method didn't work. My parents were caring and attentive. They were working hard but always found time to explain was was bad and good. No one dared to spit, shout, swear or talk back to the adults. We respected the elderly and on the buses, trains, gave up our seats for them. Nowadays I go to a park and see kids on the swings smoking cannabis, 10 year old girls with full make up and bright red nails throwing sweet wraps all over and a bin is 2 meters away. Older kids swear in front of toddlers, but no adult asks them to stop. Things have gone too far. I know, that child protection is much needed and fully agree children should never be abused or neglected, but it doesn't mean they are allowed to be rude, disrespectful and not taught any values. Parents should be liable for children's behaviour and make an effort to bring them up in a proper way. There are so many young bullies targeting adults. It's just not right, but nobody does anything about it.
Aura - 2-Nov-20 @ 1:35 PM
I totally understand what the above people mean about the younger generation and their behaviour as it seems to affect a huge number of people. Growing up we were taught to respect our neighbours and yes like normal children we crossed boundaries sometimes but if we were asked to behave we did. Some parents with disruptive children are normally disruptive themselves so it is a waste of time trying to ask them to teach their nuisance children to behave. Society today is a shambles with so much antisocial behaviour that you cannot go anywhere without seeing or hearing young people behaving badly. Parents should be made responsible and fined accordingly,just think of much revenue would be raised by these pinks!
Jj - 26-Oct-20 @ 7:25 PM
I used to live in a quiet cul de sac until Invitation homes and other rental properties bought the abandon homes around me. I live around several homes with kids and im not talking about one kid per household, these people have 4 kids per house so you can imagine the nuisance when they come out after coming back from school and on the weekend is a party out here. This house next door attracts so many children which can account for 20 at a time. This is such a nuisance if you could imagine, not to mention these homes are not even big enough for kids to be playing in between them. In addition there is a playground by the pool house but do they go up there to play?Nope you guessed right the hang out cul de sac it is, we have an HOA which we pay into and they “say” they cant do anything and that it is a neighbor issue. What a hell of a joke, im getting pushed out of a home I own from renters who will not move.by the way cops wont do anything either it does not matter how much tress passing these kids do.
GAMan - 19-Oct-20 @ 10:58 PM
Is there anyone we could ring in terms of child welfare or protection? I don’t mind the sound of kids day to day, we live in a terrace - but we have a child shrieking on one side (I’ve videoed it and shown it around, no one has heard a sound like it) and besides from being hell on Earth - I am genuinely concerned at what is making a child make that noise? (possibly behavioural difficulties, but why would the parents not just tell us?)
Em - 12-Oct-20 @ 8:23 AM
I just wanna know why my neighbors child constantly wants to come into my house. it's nothing special but should I be worried is a child trying to tell me something. Sometg rose their dog has also nibbled me twice. I was always under that impression that dog should be tied up and not running around their front lawn. I don't want to complain about anything cuz well I'm moving shortly. Overall the really good neighbour so I'll just let it go for now I guess.
Moe - 8-Oct-20 @ 7:34 PM
OMG. The lockdown has turned the previously quiet park opposite my flat into a child magnet.Right now there are kids loudly babbling and singing and shouting over and over and over, it's a din you cannot escape from.I am working from home and it is devolving into a nightmare where I cannot wait for cold rainy days!I mean, when I was an "exuberant kid," I was not allowed to scream like this in public!What is this ???!What are parents THINKING? I empathize, the lockdown and all - kids being kids - but there has to be empathy on both sides!
Hexbreaker - 5-Oct-20 @ 4:47 PM
Ok-a different perspective- I am genuinely sorry about all your negative experiences. I am the parent of two kids a five year old and a 2 year old. Both can be problematic but the latter is a screaming machine at times and when not in a good mood eg just woken up in afternoon, or fighting with his sibling (multiple times a day) or when he is sick with an earache his screaming is like nothing else and would only be consolable after 20 minutes or more. Some neighbours are miserable as a result and I feel sorry for them. Can someone suggest how to deal with sick children apart from giving them paracetamol/ibuprofen etc and attempting to console them? I am aware of all disciplining specifics (when appropriate) FYI
Parent with noisy ki - 29-Sep-20 @ 3:38 PM
(continued) - So what does it leave me with? A graveyard? Not even the dead get the privilege of peace these days, with brats playing hide and seek behind the stones, and teenagers hiding behind them to smoke.One thing's for sure, I'm never having children.
AM - 8-Sep-20 @ 10:48 PM
I think we (all of us posting on here) should fund our own little zen village and live in peace, in a 0 tolerance to unnecessary noise environment. What a dream!! I'm sure our health would improve. I've been troubled by loud neighbours my entire life and I can tell you that, rich or poor neighbourhoods, city, beach, countryside, there is no escape unless you move to a very remote part of the world (i.e. a desert or jungle!!) or live on a huge guarded estate. Otherwise, it's a gamble. All it takes is for one inconsiderate person or family to ruin the peace. I lived in a gated community when I was a child, and the parties were endless. I remember trying to do homework with my quiet and considerate parents, but no one else worked like we did (the company my dad worked for paid for our house so we didn't own it and weren't rich). Often I would suddenly be woken by drunk obnoxious laughter from people walking to their house after a party. Think live bands, champagne on tap, pool parties for older kids, magicians getting hired.. all sorts. And the dreaded noise from renovations. Bored rich people finding ways to keep themselves entertained. Then I lived in student acommodation and you can only imagine what this entails. I'm surprised I was able to focus at all with the little sleep I was allowed from the constant partying. Then I lived by the sea, what should have been a beautiful peaceful area where I could hear the waves, in a very small affordable studio flat I loved - but one day my peace came to an abrupt end - ' party yachts ' decided to stop in the middle of the sea and the partying went on all night on some days. I finally had to move to the city to work, and the walls were paper thin - I could hear every washing machine, TV from the deaf neighbour, loud heavy metal music from another, teenagers littering.. it was terrible. I called the anti social helpline and was told the noise tolerance threshold in cities was higher. So, clever me decided to save up and get a mortgage in the country, and now I can truly confirm there is no getting away from noise unless you're a millionaire. Trampolines, parties, screaming brats, everything you all describe. Some will even knock on doors and run off screaming, smashing balls up against my car (even dented it), chalk drawings on my driveway, it's just one huge play park.. just imagine a bunch of wild spoiled brats whose parents may as well not exist, they run the place. It's a mixed neighbourhood unlike the gated community I grew up in, but it's run by children. I now want to buy a farmhouse in the middle of nowhere but have been warned dogs are allowed to bark mad, heavy machinery noise, and the risk of them building anything in your vicinity - think HS2!!! It would also be very difficult to sell such a house. A retirement village? They get family visiting all the time! They even have play areas so you can be sure to hear screaming toddlers being spoiled by the grand parents. So what does it lea
AM - 8-Sep-20 @ 10:45 PM
Neibour kids not going to school Screaming domestics how do I appoint this
0 - 3-Sep-20 @ 3:16 AM
I totally agree with you all!!iv dreamt so many times as how i could poison the neighbourhood kids and get away with it!!and the parents!!!HEHEHE!!THEY DRIVE ME MAD!!! I live with my sisters and have done so in the same house for over 40years. We have been noisy as kids ourselves but not nowhere near as these kids that live here now in my street!!We had manners andwhen told off we stopped NOT back chat like these kids do!! Yesterday i got into a slanging match with two 12 year olds!! Over the past 2 weeks theyve been petting my cat and then teasing her...and you can imagine what that leads to when they get bored of them! Last year some kid kicked her in her face and cut her eye open had to take her to the vets ..she didnt go out after that for nearly a year. Now shes started going out again and the kids start to gather around her so i told them they werent allowed to come in the garden to touch her. Well that was it!!the abuse the shouting and screaming started!!then gathering around my house and trying to intimidate us!!these devil of a kids are only the ages of between 6 and 12 but they think they can ruin my life!. I told the parents but all they say is they are kids!!they can play where they like!!no sympathy or thought for me that i have to put up with their behaviour. I told them how would they like it if kids sat across their houses and screamed and shouted all day long?!!all i got was they just kids!!! Then since a couple of days now the two 12yr olds sit acoss my house on a nieghbours shed and wave across through my living room window!when i record them they shout you cant record kids!!its an offence!!!LAYING DOWN THE LAW TO ME!! then they swear and stick two fingers up!! Iv had to go tell the parents and all i got was we will talk to them but they just kids!!!it annoyed me so i said some harsh words and threatened them that my brotherinlaw and his friends will soon put a stop to this well that was it!!!i pissed the mum off and then boy she started oh is that a threat then in that case i will ring my gypsy family and community up then we will see what happens!! I ended up swearing at her and got into a verbal slanging match!fearing for my own safety i then pretended i was on the phone to the police at this point after a few more swears the mum slammed shut her door and i didnt see her then. Later in the evening me and my family decided to go eatout at a restaurant as it was 50% off!!!and to let off steam for the events that took place in the day!! when we returned her lights were still on that was at 1am!!she probably thought my brotherinlaw might come with all his friends and she probably couldnt sleep!!lol! That put a smile on my face!! I let my cat out as i dont let her out in the day anymore. I had to wait for her to return though that was at 3am...now im knackered! but at least the cruel kids cant harm her nomore!! Its raining today so i can have some peace and quiet but it wont last!! Iv done kickboxing and sometimes i would lo
Rox - 27-Aug-20 @ 4:34 PM
I totally agree with you all!!iv dreamt so many times as how i could poison the neighbourhood kids and get away with it!!and the parents!!!HEHEHE!!THEY DRIVE ME MAD!!! I live with my sisters and have done so in the same house for over 40years. We have been noisy as kids ourselves but not nowhere near as these kids that live here now in my street!!We had manners andwhen told off we stopped NOT back chat like these kids do!! Yesterday i got into a slanging match with two 12 year olds!! Over the past 2 weeks theyve been petting my cat and then teasing her...and you can imagine what that leads to when they get bored of them! Last year some kid kicked her in her face and cut her eye open had to take her to the vets ..she didnt go out after that for nearly a year. Now shes started going out again and the kids start to gather around her so i told them they werent allowed to come in the garden to touch her. Well that was it!!the abuse the shouting and screaming started!!then gathering around my house and trying to intimidate us!!these devil of a kids are only the ages of between 6 and 12 but they think they can ruin my life!. I told the parents but all they say is they are kids!!they can play where they like!!no sympathy or thought for me that i have to put up with their behaviour. I told them how would they like it if kids sat across their houses and screamed and shouted all day long?!!all i got was they just kids!!! Then since a couple of days now the two 12yr olds sit acoss my house on a nieghbours shed and wave across through my living room window!when i record them they shout you cant record kids!!its an offence!!!LAYING DOWN THE LAW TO ME!! then they swear and stick two fingers up!! Iv had to go tell the parents and all i got was we will talk to them but they just kids!!!it annoyed me so i said some harsh words and threatened them that my brotherinlaw and his friends will soon put a stop to this well that was it!!!i pissed the mum off and then boy she started oh is that a threat then in that case i will ring my gypsy family and community up then we will see what happens!! I ended up swearing at her and got into a verbal slanging match!fearing for my own safety i then pretended i was on the phone to the police at this point after a few more swears the mum slammed shut her door and i didnt see her then. Later in the evening me and my family decided to go eatout at a restaurant as it was 50% off!!!and to let off steam for the events that took place in the day!! when we returned her lights were still on that was at 1am!!she probably thought my brotherinlaw might come with all his friends and she probably couldnt sleep!!lol! That put a smile on my face!! I let my cat out as i dont let her out in the day anymore. I had to wait for her to return though that was at 3am...now im knackered! but at least the cruel kids cant harm her nomore!! Its raining today so i can have some peace and quiet but it wont last!! Iv done kickboxing and sometimes i would lo
Rox - 27-Aug-20 @ 4:34 PM
Literally counting down the days until the children can return to school. I have been driven mad by the sound of three teenage boys. These boys do not play like normal children... I have other children in my area and I am not bothered by the noise they make while playing in theirs gardens. I get the sound of a basket ball most mornings before 9 am from this lot... before that it the trampoline or noisy scooter every hour with out fail. These boys fight, wrestle, scream and swear at each other. We even had one night where there was threats to stab and kill. Not one word from their so called parents. When they first moved in over 5 years ago, we tried to have a polite word to be told... children will be children. I agree with another poster on this subject... the parents should take full responsibility for their little angels and not just excuse their behaviour on being children. I was constantly telling my daughter to be mindful of the noise she made, especially in the evenings when people that have been at WORK ALL DAY (mother doesn’t work) want to relax. Don’t even get me started on the weekly BBQ the smoke that comes over to our garden is obscene. He also decided to BBQ up some chicken at 7am in the morning, I mean WHO DOES THAT???
Andrea - 24-Aug-20 @ 3:29 PM
Literally counting down the days until the children can return to school. I have been driven mad by the sound of three teenage boys. These boys do not play like normal children... I have other children in my area and I am not bothered by the noise they make while playing in theirs gardens. I get the sound of a basket ball most mornings before 9 am from this lot... before that it the trampoline or noisy scooter every hour with out fail. These boys fight, wrestle, scream and swear at each other. We even had one night where there was threats to stab and kill. Not one word from their so called parents. When they first moved in over 5 years ago, we tried to have a polite word to be told... children will be children. I agree with another poster on this subject... the parents should take full responsibility for their little angels and not just excuse their behaviour on being children. I was constantly telling my daughter to be mindful of the noise she made, especially in the evenings when people that have been at WORK ALL DAY (mother doesn’t work) want to relax. Don’t even get me started on the weekly BBQ the smoke that comes over to our garden is obscene. He also decided to BBQ up some chicken at 7am in the morning, I mean WHO DOES THAT???
Andrea - 24-Aug-20 @ 3:07 PM
And as for Baha’s ridiculous comment on 7th July I DO live in a detached house that is probably about 50 yards from the brats but they are SO loud I can still here them in every room. I do accept that I have to cope with noise from children during the day and of course they must play and have fun, but my neighbour should also respect the fact that everyone else might, just might want a little respite on the odd summer’s evening.
Maggie - 23-Aug-20 @ 3:43 PM
The thing we must remember here is that it is not the children’s fault necessarily. Parents must bear all the responsibility for what their young children do as they are the only ones who can do something about it but so many don’t, won’t or can’t! Sometimes I want to murder the kids next door and, on occasion I just hate them but, at that age, they aren’t going to be aware of how much they are annoying people as probably we weren’t as kids until we were told to pipe down as there are other people who didn’t want to listen to their racket. The 4 brats here have gone off to Northumberland for a week along with their whiny dog and inconsiderate parents and I cannot tell you what it is doing for my wellbeing. The peace is overwhelming. Trouble is, they’ll be back before I know it.
Maggie - 23-Aug-20 @ 3:36 PM
My issue is with children hanging off and breaking large branches the three beautiful trees that are outside my house on a non designated play area. It drives me mad to see 11 and 12 year old boys and girls ruin and destroy or vandalise the limited trees there. The sooner schools re open to engage these morons from innocent nature the better. Parents are obviously uneducated, thick imbeciles to allow such behaviour.
Peter - 22-Aug-20 @ 9:15 PM
I really don’t know what to do. I don’t want to come across as a male version of a Karen but the next door neighbor that I loved recently moved after living peacefully next door for the last four years. In their place, a family with three bratty children has moved in. These children have no discipline (NONE). There is a heated pool inside a screened in porch and these kids go at it from 8 in the morning until all hours at night. My room is on the back side of the house so I hear all of it. I got used to the silence and am in my late fifties. There are really no children on our street. What happened to discipline and respect for your neighbors? I’m really not confrontational and don’t want to say anything. These kids keep me awake at night and wake me up in the morning. Should I send an anonymous letter? Report them to the homeowners association?
Oliver82 - 22-Aug-20 @ 8:38 PM
I too have a problem with next door’s children aged 2, 6, 9 and 10. In their own right they are perfectly okay kids to interact with but they are so noisy. The problem is that their parents are bringing them up ‘without boundaries” so these kids do what they want, when they want and forever how long they want. They go to bed when their parents go to bed as well which means the noise goes on into the summer evenings. Also a hot tub has been introduced on our side of their house so much screaming and laughing goes on. All through this lockdown the noise has been intense and because where we live is rural all their friends come here because there is the space to run around. I really do not blame the children at all, it’s the parents of course. When I finally ‘snapped’ was when they were all hot-tubbing at 9.30 pm during a recent perfect summer evening. A neighbour four doors down could hear it from her bed. Oh! the noise! I did mention to the mum the next day that one expected the noise during mornings and afternoons but, really, evening’s AS WELL, all I got was “yes I know, it is difficult because they are so noisy,” and that was it. I tried to convey to her that all of her neighbours, which means 5 houses are affected by this. The 2 year old indulges in unfettered screaming bouts frequently because she is not getting what she wants and she is allowed to scream herself out. Also, the mother has decided to home school them from now on. Are you all feeling really sorry for me now? There are occasions when, wherever I am in my (detached) house I can hear them. I have resorted to wax earplugs which do work but should I really have to do that in my own home. Okay, I have never had children but surely parents should consider the impact their offspring have on others. I feel guilty even having a lawn mower going or when my husband chainsaws the odd bit of wood.Before she had the children where we live was a haven of peace and quiet. I tell myself it won’t last as they will grow up but it doesn’t help me now.
Maggie - 21-Aug-20 @ 12:23 PM
Gosh how I feel for all of you. When we were children, we were taught manners and sometimes a hard slap across our face emphasized to have manners. Now it's called abuse but trust me, we learned. Now I know why there are adult communities (mostly in the U.S.) and if I could live for the rest of my life without hearing a kid screaming, I would be in Heaven. I have lived in my home since 1975 and have had my share of hell screaming kids. All of my friends have been in the same position. Several of them had to endure hell kids bouncing a ball against a brick wall ALL DAY LONG. Then when the ball bounced into their yards, the hell kids climbed over the fence to toss it back. My friends would yell at the kids to get out of their yard, even called the cops, cops could not do that much, the parents did nothing and my friends had to put up with this day in day out evening into the evenings on a summer day. They had beautiful back yards and could not even enjoy themselves. They were so thankful when the hell kids and the hell parents moved away. I would cry, just cry when hell kids lived next door and they would scream and scream and scream ALL DAY LONG. The neighborhood kids were like thugs taking over the street and playing kickball or tossing a football. They would refuse to move when people were trying to driven into their own driveways. My friends would yell at the kids, cuss them out, the parents would come out and a screaming match began then the cops would come. Talking to the parents did nothing. Over the years my friends and I would discuss if the hell kids and their hell parents were gunned down in a drive by, what a better world this would be. If I could live for the rest of my life, never, ever having to hear a kid scream, I would be so much happier. And prayer does not help stopping hell kids screaming. Currently my friends and do not have to contend with hell kids as we did in the past. Hopefully this will continue. If I could win a big lotto or make a lot of money, I would move away as quickly as I could and live on an estate where I would hire private guards to keep kids out. I sure as heck would. Give me horses, chickens, dogs, cats, goats, elephants, anything but kids.
Vivi - 19-Aug-20 @ 6:35 PM
Oh my gosh! How I feel for all of you.I remember when I was a child and we were taught manners. Now I know why there are adult communities (mostly in the U.S.). I have lived in my home since 1975 and had my share of hell screaming kids and their hell parents who allow their kids to be hell kids. All of my friends have had, in one way or another,to put up with hell kids screaming, yelling, playing on the street and refusing to move, running across their lawns and when they talked to their parents, the parent did nothing. Several of them had the hell kids who would bounce a ball ALL DAY LONG against a wall separating their homes. They had lovely back yards but because of the ball slamming constantly against the wall, they could not even enjoy their own back yard. There were times when I would just start to cry from the constant, non-stop screaming, screaming and yelling and yelling when hell kids lived next door. My friends and I have discussed this often and even agree if the hell kids and their hell parents were gunned down in a driveby what a blessing this would be. I sure as heck do not believe kids are "jewels from Heaven." If we got rid of 75% of hell kids and their hell parents and brought back 50 percent of the animals on the extinction list, what a wonderful world this would be.
Vivi - 19-Aug-20 @ 6:21 PM
What is the recourse for children old enough to know better (~P6, etc) who are harassing you?Coming into your garden, menacing occupants from the windows, etc.?
LH - 16-Aug-20 @ 1:04 PM
Very interesting reading these posts. We have a 4 year old & a 6 year old next door who constantly shout & scream with no discipline from there parents whatsoever. You can hear them down the street when they are inside the house. From the garden it’s horrendous. We have heard the parents talking to them in a soft voice which is not teaching them right from wrong. The noise from the kids is so stressful. The kids seem to have the upper hand and allowed to do whatever they want. The water hose goes on & its 10 times worse. We have tried the radio on high volume to drown the noise. It has become unbearable. It’s such a pleasure when we get a break from the screams & shouting.. & yes we have tried making our point, unfortunately the parents are both unreasonable. Bringing up 3 children of our own was never like this. Screaming & Shouting would of been a total embarrassment. Children need to know the difference between right & wrong. Shouting, screaming & causing constant noise is unacceptable. Children playing and having fun does not mean they have to scream & shout!!
Chrissy - 13-Aug-20 @ 11:02 PM
I amso fed upwithall the noise my neighbours and their children make daily. Today their friend's children came to their house,I heard loud noises looked out and saw the children climbing over my side of the big gates.I was really pissed off with all the noise plus kids climbing over the gates, it's not a park or playground but my side of the house. I told them to stop climbing the gates for health and safety reasons and all that noise. Next, the next door woman came and said that they are only children. And her friend was her guest. All very well but what about some consideration for her neighbours. Such selfish behaviour,both her and her husband are extremely noisy shutting their garage door very loudly and allowing her kids to play in the garden well past 23:00hrs. Absolutely,no consideration for anyone else. Finally, today I lost it and told her the truth. Of course,Iwant to be neighbourly but since lockdown they have been having good time and great holiday. I will be very happy when lockdown is over and the neighbours go back totheir jobs.Some people have just been having extended holiday and no concerns about coronovirus.
mickey - 13-Aug-20 @ 6:21 PM
I am at the end of my teather I work from home and all the kids congregate on my and my neighbors front my gardens a mess because of them and if it's not the kids playing ( howling the road down) it's the parents screaming at them to go play etc this can go from 8 am to 11pm your monsters right to play should not affect my right to work sit in my garden or be able to watch TV without the volume on full go get a job scummy mummy's and daddy's and stop sitting smoking weed and drinking in your PJ's and seriously I hate your little angels I think they are snot nosed gobby little swear words giving birth doesn't make you a parent stop acting worse than the kids and learn to respect your area a old lady down road has complained and the parents say he's a grumpy swear word he's not he like you who keep chucking your kids out so you can sit n watch your soap operas wants the same peace and quiet you get I wish there was child free housing groups because I hate your kids and would move to one in a heartbeat housing associations need to realise old people next to a house with 5 kids and childless working adults doesn't work go out all the scummy dole parents together we dont want them or there snot nosed Banshee soundalikes
Shut them up - 12-Aug-20 @ 11:01 PM
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