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How to Deal With a Neighbour 'Stalking' You

By: Sarah Clark (ILEX) - Updated: 21 May 2022 | comments*Discuss
 
Neighbour Stalking Stalker Harassment

Stalking by neighbours – or anyone, in fact – is one of those crimes that is often joked about, but can be very unnerving and at times even frightening. If you suspect that you are a victim of stalking, whether it’s a stranger or a neighbour, one of the main things to do is to try and keep calm. Stalkers and people who are out to harass others are often just looking for a reaction, and if you try to stay aloof and appear unconcerned, even if you are feeling anything but, they may lose interest and leave you alone.

Harassment covers pretty much all forms of unwanted behaviour, from mildly irritating to actual physical violence. Harassment can be a criminal offence and Laws Exist To Protect You . If the neighbour concerned is also watching or following you, making constant attempts to contact you or even sending you unwanted gifts, harassment becomes 'stalking'.

It may seem innocent at first – a neighbour seems to be a bit over friendly perhaps, and in all honesty, it could be a misunderstanding or a one-off. But if the strange or unwanted behaviour happens repeatedly (and repeatedly just means more than once) or you’re feeling distressed or frightened by the behaviour, trust your instincts. Stalking is a criminal offence so don’t blame yourself and don’t think that you have to put up with it, whether it’s a neighbour or a stranger.

Keep Hold of the Evidence

If things escalate, make sure that you keep a note of all incidents that you consider to be harassment or stalking and tell people, other neighbours, or your friends and relatives, what’s going on. You can enlist the help of willing neighbours who might be able to keep an eye out for the perpetrator – if they deliver anything, or are hanging around your property, for example.

If the person who is stalking you also uses text, email, or the post to get to you, you should keep evidence of these as they can be used if you need to take the matter up formally. Don’t be tempted to respond – that’s what the stalker wants you to do.

In addition to hard evidence, Keep A Diary Of Events, making sure that you note down anything suspicious, times, dates and events. Write down anything that your neighbour says or does that could be construed as stalking as soon as it happens, as only evidence that’s recorded ‘contemporaneously’ – that is, immediately – can be used in any future court proceedings if they become necessary.

Being Stalked on the Telephone

If part of your stalker’s campaign involves telephone calls, you should keep a record of dates and times of the calls and anything that was said. If the caller hasn’t disguised their number, make a note of that too, or if being stalked via a land line, try 1471 to see if they slip up and reveal their number.

BT may be able to help if the stalker has your landline number. Call the BT Nuisance Calls Bureau on 0800 661 441 if you are a BT customer. On your mobile, save any malicious text messages for evidence.

If You Feel in Danger

If you ever feel as if you are in imminent danger, call 999 straight away and don’t worry about feeling foolish if the threat later dissipates – it’s better to be safe than sorry.

Try to stay calm and not show any fear or emotion. Don’t lose your temper or attempt to confront your stalker, again, the bully is looking for a reaction, so you should try not to let them have what they are looking for, even if you’re angry or frightened. If you notice your stalker, try to get away from them and into a public area or into your or a friendly neighbour’s home.

If the harassment carries on, your only option is to Contact The Local Police.

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Kiki - 21-May-22 @ 10:39 AM
I'm a doctor. I have come to the conclusion this a 20th century disease. Young people possibly leaning percentage wise more to young men under 35 are bored. They aren't being mentally challenged. Without mental challenge a mind will fill with junk and seek more and more quick fix challenges. Stalking (especially from within the home) offers people a ' quick fix' that gives the perpetrator an easy buzz knowing they can seemingly innocently terrorise and harrass neighbors, co-workers without fear of reprisal. It can be something as simple as listening to your every move in the home 24/7 and letting you know by creaking a floor board/door or clicking a light switch each time you move from room to room, make a meal, just generally going about your normal day. The stalking neighbor however normal they seem are of low intelligence and lack social stimulus even if they appear to have a network of friends and family. They are inclined to surround themselves with other friends who tend to live nearby (a lot of younger people rent property) so it is easier to move around. So you may find yourself with a neighbor who rents a property below you or next door to you and has several friends/family who also rent maybe across the street from you or in the same building as you or a few streets away where you can be observed easily. Mobile phones and working from home have all lent stalking from within the home a new relentless freedom where unlimited amounts of time can now be devoted (almost like the jobs younger people can no longer get) to quite literally controlling the life of a neighbor by terrorising and harrassing them mentally in their own home, as mentioned earlier by staying silent and listen to your movements, but letting you 'know' they are listening by clicking a light switch (which can be clearly heard through thin walls) or creaking a floor board when you get up to do anything or closing a door in response to your movements. It is almost always in response to your movements, which is how you can tell you are being stalked/harrased. The neighbor will study your habits i.e shopping/work/recreation and either jump into their car and follow you or text a 'friend' or neighbor close by and they will follow you either to work/shops/pubs/other family members etc. Nothing is done. You will just be aware that you have a 24/7 'guard'. You will never be allowed the freedom to go anywhere without the neighbor or their co-stalker being nearby either sitting in the car outside your office until you go in or leave before they drive off, or hanging around the car park in the pub so you can see them when you arrive, again letting you know you are under constant watch, to walking round the supermarket watching you until you finish shopping, then they will rush to til ahead of you and buy a small bar of chocolate to 'justify' being there. You may find that no matter what time you go to bed they will text a co-stalker who will own a car with
Kiki - 21-May-22 @ 10:34 AM
I'm being stalked in my home too. My elderly female neighbour has a son and lives with her grandson, the family moved next door in 2013. It took years for me to realise what they were doing. They've set up a system to track and monitor me by amplifying the sound of our conversations in the living room. Whenever I or we left or leave home, the mother lurks outside with the son so he can see me. He stared into my bedroom window every day for two years and two months whilst his mother stood in the doorway watching with an odd expression. Then they began inviting groups of men to look into the window. The police instructed the group of males to move and they gravitated to standing outside of the property beside the bathroom. Her son knows when I'm home, which room I'm occupying whilst home and arrives immediately after my partner leaves the house. His mother and nephew provide him with this knowledge. He's broken into our home, vandalised and started a fire. He speaks to me through the window in every room. He smeared me to our neighbours and his mother contacts the police and local authority to make false complaints. They have even had the police open and close a rape investigation whilst listening and then laughing loudly afterwards. My relationship is abusive and he/they have caused me to be assaulted four or five times, they enjoyed doing this. The family pursue me physically as I move around the home and there's a disturbing shared sexual energy between them (the child was 12 when the mother and son began doing this together). The disturbing shared sexual energy is hypersexuality caused, in my opinion, by the psychiatric illness, malignant narcissism - the son and grandson are 'flying monkeys' to the mother (about 80 years old) and she created a co-dependent relationship with each, offering sexual gratification from stalking and peeping tom behaviours in exchange for her controlling and dominating both. It's difficult to be home and my thoughts are with anyone experiencing similar or any form of stalking. Everyone's home should be their sanctuary, stalkers who target victims in their home take so much away from the victim. Small pleasures like reading or enjoying the sunshine become an ordeal. My mind is damaged and sometimes it feels like there's nowhere to escape and this situation is endless. The police are powerless, they are in their home or just outside, it's not illegal to stand on a public path or park outside, this emboldens his behaviour. His mother infantilises his behaviour and mocks and ridicules me frequently. It's hard but I still manage to believe that good is a greater force and by trusting we are protected somehow we are. It's helped me to type this and I hope you find relief from sharing and talking of your experiences.
Geogra - 20-May-22 @ 3:04 PM
I'm being stalked in my home too. My elderly female neighbour has a son and lives with her grandson, the family moved next door in 2013. It took years for me to realise what they were doing. They've set up a system to track and monitor me by amplifying the sound of our conversations in the living room. Whenever I or we left or leave home, the mother lurks outside with the son so he can see me. He stared into my bedroom window every day for two years and two months whilst his mother stood in the doorway watching with an odd expression. Then they began inviting groups of men to look into the window. The police instructed the group of males to move and they gravitated to standing outside of the property beside the bathroom. Her son knows when I'm home, which room I'm occupying whilst home and arrives immediately after my partner leaves the house. His mother and nephew provide him with this knowledge. He's broken into our home, vandalised and started a fire. He speaks to me through the window in every room. He smeared me to our neighbours and his mother contacts the police and local authority to make false complaints. They have even had the police open and close a rape investigation whilst listening and then laughing loudly afterwards. My relationship is abusive and he/they have caused me to be assaulted four or five times, they enjoyed doing this. The family pursue me physically as I move around the home and there's a disturbing shared sexual energy between them (the child was 12 when the mother and son began doing this together). The disturbing shared sexual energy is hypersexuality caused, in my opinion, by the psychiatric illness, malignant narcissism - the son and grandson are 'flying monkeys' to the mother (about 80 years old) and she created a co-dependent relationship with each, offering sexual gratification from stalking and peeping tom behaviours in exchange for her controlling and dominating both. It's difficult to be home and my thoughts are with anyone experiencing similar or any form of stalking. Everyone's home should be their sanctuary, stalkers who target victims in their home take so much away from the victim. Small pleasures like reading or enjoying the sunshine become an ordeal. My mind is damaged and sometimes it feels like there's nowhere to escape and this situation is endless. The police are powerless, they are in their home or just outside, it's not illegal to stand on a public path or park outside, this emboldens his behaviour. His mother infantilises his behaviour and mocks and ridicules me frequently. It's hard but I still manage to believe that good is a greater force and by trusting we are protected somehow we are. It's helped me to type this and I hope you find relief from sharing and talking of your experiences.
Geogra - 20-May-22 @ 3:04 PM
I'm being stalked in my home too. My elderly female neighbour has a son and lives with her grandson, the family moved next door in 2013. It took years for me to realise what they were doing. They've set up a system to track and monitor me by amplifying the sound of our conversations in the living room. Whenever I or we left or leave home, the mother lurks outside with the son so he can see me. He stared into my bedroom window every day for two years and two months whilst his mother stood in the doorway watching with an odd expression. Then they began inviting groups of men to look into the window. The police instructed the group of males to move and they gravitated to standing outside of the property beside the bathroom. Her son knows when I'm home, which room I'm occupying whilst home and arrives immediately after my partner leaves the house. His mother and nephew provide him with this knowledge. He's broken into our home, vandalised and started a fire. He speaks to me through the window in every room. He smeared me to our neighbours and his mother contacts the police and local authority to make false complaints. They have even had the police open and close a rape investigation whilst listening and then laughing loudly afterwards. My relationship is abusive and he/they have caused me to be assaulted four or five times, they enjoyed doing this. The family pursue me physically as I move around the home and there's a disturbing shared sexual energy between them (the child was 12 when the mother and son began doing this together). The disturbing shared sexual energy is hypersexuality caused, in my opinion, by the psychiatric illness, malignant narcissism - the son and grandson are 'flying monkeys' to the mother (about 80 years old) and she created a co-dependent relationship with each, offering sexual gratification from stalking and peeping tom behaviours in exchange for her controlling and dominating both. It's difficult to be home and my thoughts are with anyone experiencing similar or any form of stalking. Everyone's home should be their sanctuary, stalkers who target victims in their home take so much away from the victim. Small pleasures like reading or enjoying the sunshine become an ordeal. My mind is damaged and sometimes it feels like there's nowhere to escape and this situation is endless. The police are powerless, they are in their home or just outside, it's not illegal to stand on a public path or park outside, this emboldens his behaviour. His mother infantilises his behaviour and mocks and ridicules me frequently. It's hard but I still manage to believe that good is a greater force and by trusting we are protected somehow we are. It's helped me to type this and I hope you find relief from sharing and talking of your experiences.
Geogra - 20-May-22 @ 3:04 PM
I have a vile dog of a neighbor a few doors down that is stalking me because she is resentful and nasty. I suspect and have suspected that she has a personality disorder as well as dissociative personality. She also gets her husband involved in her nasty games and then gos around claiming she has a terminal Illness to make me appear to be the bad one. She is completely unhinged she has followed me to stores and has even hack my devices and my Google accounts as I keep finding the passwords being changed. The women and her husband do not leave me alone. I am also vulnerable as I have a mental illness as well las other ailments the women has given me when this all started she was calling me a whore in the streets verbally abusing me ect. Her husband is also very sick and a bully too. This all seems to start when I get my life together. I try to avoid her yet she always pops up I'm sick of her torment and nastiness. I just want her out of my life.
Thewomansafreak0 - 18-May-22 @ 11:38 PM
Every time when I went into my garden ,there must be some cars loudly drove pass my house, and I can feel they try to watch me . Every time I push out my garbage bin some car drove pass me and some cars even stop just because they could watch me for a while. Most importantly, every time I drove to work some cars must been followed me until I wen into the building. I know they are some neighbors live around my house and I was really sick of them and their stalking behavior.
LING - 19-Apr-22 @ 1:24 AM
I have had 2 male neighbours watching me for over 8 years (very creepy) I also should mention that they are in a relationship (GAY). I used to enjoy going in my garden and was enjoying a fresh start. At first I thought it was creepy and strange that they would not be around, until they heard me either going down my stairs or opening the gate. at least one would 100% be there most of the time it would be both. But after a while I would glance up and my thoughts of WHAT or WHY they would be watching me for. As if it were a friend and I watching a female in her garden would be disgusting and off key. PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE what can be done im scared as there are 2 of them and they don't think what they are doing is wrong.
Phil - 12-Apr-22 @ 9:31 PM
I would love to say just ignore these people because they'll soon get bored and stop their pathetic games..but, i relocated over 400 miles away in order to get my life back which was ruined after almost three years of a hate campaign i still have no idea as to why or what i was targeted for but to add insult to injury the neighbours i now have are as bad if not worse because i have never seen them but they shout abuse daily from underneath me no matter where i am, the rest of the time it's deadly silent apart from doors creaking open below seconds after i go into a different room, this is constant and i no longer trust anybody as when i try to explain what im putting up with they either look at me like im bonkers or the relevant authorities i reach out to just dismiss my concerns totally and make up ridiculous excuses as to the behaviour of these faceless nameless lifeless goons..and so they are basically allowing these idiots to do as they want..
itsjustju - 6-Apr-22 @ 3:00 PM
Hello i have a couple of questions, how do you catch a online stalker? A browser stalker? Long story a my upstairs neighbour has alliance with my next door neighbour who i really dislike. My mother once saw this next door woman exchange something with the upstairs man. I don’t know but i can assume ….. ,that. I need help because the upstairs neighbour is always in a speed downstairs whenever i tempt to make a recent delivery for my everyday life. Even when i look for help he does that, so i need help to catch them in the act but without them knowing. I can assume the upstairs neighbour has two alliances because one came to check on me. I also dislike the upstairs neighbour because long story short i don’t know who it might be but i have a feelingi have seen them before. I hqve nwver been into this sort of situation before because whenever i tempt to put up cameras for security, they always know. So how do i stop that?. I have no choice because one of his alliances came to chwck on me twice near the my living room window. The first time i was at home the second time I came from a friend’s house with a taxi, i am often worried for both my safety anf belongings because i have stuff needed for wvery day. I am a university student so i have things like computers more. Luckily i did getall my important stuff before my friend came to pick me up. I can’t hwlp bit feel anxhous because as soon as i saw this man he was shocked because he knew i’d seen him he turned a cornernext to when my bathroom window was and started drilling something in or out of the wall. I called the police foolishly i never told em about the grill because i was so shocked. I have tried to contact the landlord to let me look at the cctv but he is a stubborn person. So he leftme no choice but to set some C s for myself if you know what i mean myself. But he said no it’s a restricted private area. But for the more resson id its so private then why not allow access to any stalker?. Going back to the stalker he keeps informing someone about me everytime i itend to do some shopping, sometimes i have scjool work, i go to certian websites of my university or even whatever identity i have. Who i talk to they get a good listening. I have apps so whenever i receive certain notifications they emediently react and i can’t catch em doing that because i feel powerless. I want tobecome powerfull. I have tried contacting the police when i managed to take a photo of the stalker’s friend. There is a second stalker who plays his or her cards closer to the chest who i once had also a history just once. I was seeking help because i was asking about the area of theft. At the very beggining when someone tried to test my windows and i was new. I had no idea things would be this way and by test i mean testing to see if i was there. I had seen two boys running away once they knew i was there. I am not a drug dealer or a theif ,I am just a normal student whos int
Mishu - 28-Sep-21 @ 12:16 AM
Hello i have a couple of questions, how do you catch a online stalker? A browser stalker? Long story a my upstairs neighbour has alliance with my next door neighbour who i really dislike. My mother once saw this next door woman exchange something with the upstairs man. I don’t know but i can assume ….. ,that. I need help because the upstairs neighbour is always in a speed downstairs whenever i tempt to make a recent delivery for my everyday life. Even when i look for help he does that, so i need help to catch them in the act but without them knowing. I can assume the upstairs neighbour has two alliances because one came to check on me. I also dislike the upstairs neighbour because long story short i don’t know who it might be but i have a feelingi have seen them before. I hqve nwver been into this sort of situation before because whenever i tempt to put up cameras for security, they always know. So how do i stop that?. I have no choice because one of his alliances came to chwck on me twice near the my living room window. The first time i was at home the second time I came from a friend’s house with a taxi, i am often worried for both my safety anf belongings because i have stuff needed for wvery day. I am a university student so i have things like computers more. Luckily i did getall my important stuff before my friend came to pick me up. I can’t hwlp bit feel anxhous because as soon as i saw this man he was shocked because he knew i’d seen him he turned a cornernext to when my bathroom window was and started drilling something in or out of the wall. I called the police foolishly i never told em about the grill because i was so shocked. I have tried to contact the landlord to let me look at the cctv but he is a stubborn person. So he leftme no choice but to set some C s for myself if you know what i mean myself. But he said no it’s a restricted private area. But for the more resson id its so private then why not allow access to any stalker?. Going back to the stalker he keeps informing someone about me everytime i itend to do some shopping, sometimes i have scjool work, i go to certian websites of my university or even whatever identity i have. Who i talk to they get a good listening. I have apps so whenever i receive certain notifications they emediently react and i can’t catch em doing that because i feel powerless. I want tobecome powerfull. I have tried contacting the police when i managed to take a photo of the stalker’s friend. There is a second stalker who plays his or her cards closer to the chest who i once had also a history just once. I was seeking help because i was asking about the area of theft. At the very beggining when someone tried to test my windows and i was new. I had no idea things would be this way and by test i mean testing to see if i was there. I had seen two boys running away once they knew i was there. I am not a drug dealer or a theif ,I am just a normal student whos int
Mishu - 28-Sep-21 @ 12:13 AM
Neighbors knocked wall dwn in attic bugged my car absolutely horrendous Don’t my feel safe Plz help me
Nins - 19-Sep-21 @ 8:01 AM
Neibours knocked wall dwn in attic bugg d my electric and car Absolutely horrendous I’m alone Don’t know how much more I can take Please help??
Nins - 19-Sep-21 @ 7:58 AM
My neighbour likes to film my kids, and my neighbours kids,covertly, also hangs out of the window late at night filming me, and muttering insults. Even had the cheek to ring the police, on us over something she started.
Google - 1-Sep-21 @ 12:36 AM
Here's an update. My stalker neighbour is rarely home now. His druggy mates have stopped coming over to my place, looking for him. He's left me alone. I no longer get followed or hang-up calls. His landlord ,(& I found out, is my landlord, too). Our landlord has evicted my neighbour for 'drug dealing'. He has 2 weeks to leave.( I won't need to move to get away from him). I was also told "he has to remove all of the video cameras before he leaves the house."
Al - 3-Aug-21 @ 11:27 AM
I had my younger male neighbour watching & following me. We were friends for awhile & we'd text each other. Then put up video cameras all around his house, facing my house & back yard & he built a high fence. He was sneaking around at night to make my large dog bark. He's shout obscenities at me when I had a male friend in my house. He had different people, coming & going, staying a few minutes & leaving. Another neighbour asked me "is your neighbour a druggy & dealer"? I said "I don't know, we don't talk anymore & he told me "don't text me anymore",( I don't !). Then he said "we have to set boundaries". "What?" He's the one, stalking me, not the other way around !Now I get 'hang-up' calls from different numbers & his druggy mates coming to my house, asking me "where is he?" I tell them "I don't know & I don't care". I'll move when my lease ends. I'm glad I'm only renting, so I can get away from this 'Psycho neighbour'.Al.
Al - 1-Aug-21 @ 6:02 AM
I have a neighbour who is very socially awkward. I'm not a person who enjoys small talk because it makes me feel uncomfortable so I try to avoid it not because I don't like you but because it makes me feel uncomfortable. It's was a normal day for me and I was walking my dog at my yard but all of a sudden my neighbour said his first words to me. I have never spoken to him since I moved in the neighbourhood the past 10,11 years. And the first words he spoke to me was"hey you come here" I said excuse me?he said it again only with an aggressive authorative tone "COME HERE" I said no. Hey went away and 10 seconds later he came back and said "SAY NO IF YOU DONT WANT TO!" And he left. But the following days he began to just stand outside next to my house. Whenever I went outside he would come out and stand there and stare to the point he would whistle to me trying to call me the behaviour would persist to the point I couldnt walk my dog I couldnt sit in the kitchen since he would call me whenever I'm in the kitchen. It was raining heavily and there was a thunderstorm my two brothers and Iwere about to finish something during that rain and thunderstorm but they couldnt see him and couldnt hear him whistle to me I told my brother about him because he was standing outside the raining weather with a thunderstorm and he would whisle to me. My brother talked to him so he stopped. But the next day he talked to me and said "why did you rat me out?,you should be apologizing to me right now. He stopped for 2 weeks but continued to the point when it was at night at 1 in the morning I was checking my Dog she was stuck to something so I had to get her out of it only to find him staring at me the behaviour persisted after that to the point I informed his mother he stopped for a while but continued. I told him I'm not interested I dont want him and I hate him and I will never love him but all he said was that his parents are not around I should come inside. People who have more authority than him warn him but he persist. My home is everything I'm not a person who has everything so I cherish whatever I have and my home is very important but to have that invaded by someone who doesnt care about you makes me mad it's been 4 months since this happened. And recently when I started walking my dog again he would always be there watching me at the same time I walk my dog,so I stopped walking my dog again.
Sam - 22-Jul-21 @ 11:42 AM
I have a neighbour who is very socially awkward. I'm not a person who enjoys small talk because it makes me feel uncomfortable so I try to avoid it not because I don't like you but because it makes me feel uncomfortable. It's was a normal day for me and I was walking my dog at my yard but all of a sudden my neighbour said his first words to me. I have never spoken to him since I moved in the neighbourhood the past 10,11 years. And the first words he spoke to me was"hey you come here" I said excuse me?he said it again only with an aggressive authorative tone "COME HERE" I said no. Hey went away and 10 seconds later he came back and said "SAY NO IF YOU DONT WANT TO!" And he left. But the following days he began to just stand outside next to my house. Whenever I went outside he would come out and stand there and stare to the point he would whistle to me trying to call me the behaviour would persist to the point I couldnt walk my dog I couldnt sit in the kitchen since he would call me whenever I'm in the kitchen. It was raining heavily and there was a thunderstorm my two brothers and Iwere about to finish something during that rain and thunderstorm but they couldnt see him and couldnt hear him whistle to me I told my brother about him because he was standing outside the raining weather with a thunderstorm and he would whisle to me. My brother talked to him so he stopped. But the next day he talked to me and said "why did you rat me out?,you should be apologizing to me right now. He stopped for 2 weeks but continued to the point when it was at night at 1 in the morning I was checking my Dog she was stuck to something so I had to get her out of it only to find him staring at me the behaviour persisted after that to the point I informed his mother he stopped for a while but continued. I told him I'm not interested I dont want him and I hate him and I will never love him but all he said was that his parents are not around I should come inside. People who have more authority than him warn him but he persist. My home is everything I'm not a person who has everything so I cherish whatever I have and my home is very important but to have that invaded by someone who doesnt care about you makes me mad it's been 4 months since this happened. And recently when I started walking my dog again he would always be there watching me at the same time I walk my dog,so I stopped walking my dog again.
Amakha - 22-Jul-21 @ 11:39 AM
New neighbor stalks me right in front of his wife.Follows me and openly stares and tries to look at my body.Was conspicuously holding a golf umbrella in front of my body and he's circling like a hummingbird trying to look.Please help.Backyards connect and every time i open my back door he is there opening his.Acts like a rapist.
Do Not Follow - 5-Jul-21 @ 9:05 PM
My situation began when I started to grey-rock a male 60 year old who lives about 15 feet from my unit.We got on OK for a few weeks but he started trying to infiltrate and control everything I did.That was when I deliberately avoided talking with him but not being rude or abrasive, just a nod or a wave.He was having none of it. When I had visitors, he came over to ask for random items such as a screw driver or can opener and I knew he already had them.What he really wanted was for me to invite him in to join us.No.Just, no.When I saw my guests out to their cars, he would go outside to check his meter box or sweep up non-existent dirt from his side of the driveway. Eventually, he opened his front door whenever I opened mine.Then he would close it when I closed mine.This happened many times a day.One night I came home and he was opening and slamming his door.He'd go into our communal driveway and scream expletives and call me names that I won't repeat here.Suddenly, he was vandalizing my porch and urinating on the timber. I called the police who interviewed us separately.He told them I was a crazy #$%^ and #$%&&.We went to court and the magistrate ordered him to stay away from my premises for 12 months.It didn't stop him.He knew when I was catching a bus and I watched him from the bus as he walked up to my back gate to have a look into my yard. That was six years ago and he will not stop.His stalking is escalating and I have not reacted to it at all but inside, I am exhausted to the point of depression.I have had cancer and its treatments and surgeries during all of this, not that he was aware of that and knowing about it would have made him more violent.It is violence of the most insidious and systematic kind. He continues to pass me in the driveway.He hears my door shut and then he goes out through his back door so he can pass me.It's unnerving. I have to move ASAP.As long as I keep on staying non-reactive, the worse he will get and I fear for my physical safety.I hate my life right now.I hate him more
Cherry - 27-Jun-21 @ 9:50 AM
My neighbors front door looks at my front door he has his whole apartment set up to watch me go out the door. He does not work and is constantly harassing me with unwanted attention. I now work at home and have decided to quit engaging with him. It’s called grey rocking a person. I do laundry every Tuesday before work at 6:15am when coming out of the laundry he is walking toward with a weird smile on his face. He creepy. When I go to but my laundry in the dryer half hour later he is waiting for in a small space as if to trap me. Started asking me questions. He is very nosy! I now have to find other places to do laundry. He listens to when I unlock my door and will step out his door at the same time. I have checked his background and he is 2 unlawful gun charges along with menacing over 20 years ago! Although do these people really change. He has charming personality and was making lots of neighbors friends but all have separated themselves from him. I’m his only target now. He was working 3 other women too. Asking them out offering to fix their cars or help them with house repairs. I’m documenting everything thing he does to me. Thank God for articles like theses that help to open our eyes. This man has been disrespecting my boundaries for a long time. I just could not put my finger on the problem. Now I see!! Protect yourself.
Shyatoo - 24-Jun-21 @ 3:33 AM
My neighbors front door looks at my front door he has his whole apartment set up to watch me go out the door. He does not work and is constantly harassing me with unwanted attention. I now work at home and have decided to quit engaging with him. It’s called grey rocking a person. I do laundry every Tuesday before work at 6:15am when coming out of the laundry he is walking toward with a weird smile on his face. He creepy. When I go to but my laundry in the dryer half hour later he is waiting for in a small space as if to trap me. Started asking me questions. He is very nosy! I now have to find other places to do laundry. He listens to when I unlock my door and will step out his door at the same time. I have checked his background and he is 2 unlawful gun charges along with menacing over 20 years ago! Although do these people really change. He has charming personality and was making lots of neighbors friends but all have separated themselves from him. I’m his only target now. He was working 3 other women too. Asking them out offering to fix their cars or help them with house repairs. I’m documenting everything thing he does to me. Thank God for articles like theses that help to open our eyes. This man has been disrespecting my boundaries for a long time. I just could not put my finger on the problem. Now I see!! Protect yourself.
Shyatoo - 24-Jun-21 @ 2:36 AM
My neighbors front door looks at my front door he has his whole apartment set up to watch me go out the door. He does not work and is constantly harassing me with unwanted attention. I now work at home and have decided to quit engaging with him. It’s called grey rocking a person. I do laundry every Tuesday before work at 6:15am when coming out of the laundry he is walking toward with a weird smile on his face. He creepy. When I go to but my laundry in the dryer half hour later he is waiting for in a small space as if to trap me. Started asking me questions. He is very nosy! I now have to find other places to do laundry. He listens to when I unlock my door and will step out his door at the same time. I have checked his background and he is 2 unlawful gun charges along with menacing over 20 years ago! Although do these people really change. He has charming personality and was making lots of neighbors friends but all have separated themselves from him. I’m his only target now. He was working 3 other women too. Asking them out offering to fix their cars or help them with house repairs. I’m documenting everything thing he does to me. Thank God for articles like theses that help to open our eyes. This man has been disrespecting my boundaries for a long time. I just could not put my finger on the problem. Now I see!! Protect yourself.
Shyatoo - 24-Jun-21 @ 2:30 AM
Why in the he'll do our taxes give them time..... Okay everyone whom touches my house...I live i n a house not touching the street so neighbors all around . I'm the only one with a job. Get if they are not reproducing children they can't afford then if not doing that they have nothing going on so they stick their nose jamming it up my Ass. Get relate with everything people have mentioned. So though its just focus me off when I'm getting ready for work and they are all out on their porch sound nothing. I make a dollar or two above minimum wage, so not much and they take out money from my check to enable these to lack me sleep to the point I feel asleep at my job and by the grace of god I manages to keep my job but was sent home. Just descussting how they pace and harass the mail man for their monthly federal aka our taxes...as if they are intitled to that money. The world just sending the message that this is what they think is right. The system needs to be trashed. My father when I was young was dealing with this same problem. This makes me feel very insufficient due to nothing change changed. Its retarded we stand next to the way things are as if we are representing,.... I'm kinda ashamed due to I disagree and believes this shouldn't be this way. No change. Makes me resent life. Uniforcantly it should be as simple as you spot something or someone wrong then you should change it. Disappointed that's not how it is but we voted of selfs out of power long before I was ever born. Depressing and Unnessary stress.
Bubbles - 23-Jun-21 @ 8:22 AM
Nosey neighbours peeky blinders are sad retards. These kind of people should be locked in a mental hospital because clearly - the medication ain’t working. Spying on people should be a criminal offence as you are causing harm emotionally to the other person/persons. Behaviour is about who’s we act and how we react through communication and body language. They are Ill so show empathy for that Ill deluded pain in the arse . Show your own strength by moving past what the ill person is doing - as this will never change and it’s only only damaging your own health . It’s a waste of energy , worry, moaning and time . Don’t give them anymore of your time . This person most probably doesn’t work because they are ill in the head and on benefits. You live the better life that they are jealous of which is why they are obsessed.You are up here and they are down there. Game over!
Krystal - 21-Jun-21 @ 2:16 PM
So after a year I have had similar experience. Disruptions everyday. &am to 9pm. Cutting my tree in middle of night to take my privacy from window. comes down loud and discusses my schedule with my neighbor. Everyday. Ive changed things up but they still seem to know when Im up. Im 3rd shift nurse. Cant sleep for my shift. Disrupts well being. very tough nights at work let alone dont get my rest. 1 yr later lease month to month until I get out. Hard finding during pandemic. Sad part these managers also sit out my apt. staring at my place. Took picture of me at window. Try not to let it get a rise out of me. But when you hear noises outside your door dont you look. And when you hear ladder or someone on roof. this makes me angry
min - 15-Jun-21 @ 1:14 AM
My neighbor is a married man, his wife about 6 months ago got hired as a Care giver and is hardly ever home now.The man doesnt work and is always home, I used to walk my dog around the property, all of a sudden he would be right behind me, so I stopped walking my dog. Most recently it escalated to following me when I run errands, Market, washing my car at the car wash, but on Tuesday 6-1-21 I saw him were I go to buy water, I dont get the water in the city I live in, I go to get water where my Mom used to live, all of a sudden before I parked my car he walks right beside my car, I got scared, what the hell is he doing here, there's no way this os a coincidence.SHOULD TELL HIS WIFE HES MAKING ME UNCOMFORTABLE,PLEASE HELP ME!!!!
Uncomfortable - 5-Jun-21 @ 12:40 AM
I'm dealing with a very unpleasant neighbor at the moment who watches my comings and goings constantly and discusses me with her friend down the road. They phone each other when I go out and return. This neighbor also phones me late at night to moan at me and criticise the way I live my life.She also insists on calling round to 'discuss things', without any warning. I really need to move but it's difficult during the pandemic.
Fed up Frank - 22-May-21 @ 4:04 PM
Holy cow! I'm having a similar situation with my brother-in-law and sister. My family has a ranch I Colorado and that is where my parents retired. So trying to keep this short, because it's been going on for over a year, I have been out here almost seven years doing my best to care for my aging parents. I lived in their house for five years, keep in mind I'm 52, and then moved to a little house my grandfather lived in. Well my sister, no longer so, immediately came out to yell at me for moving there, told me it wasn't my house and I had to leave. Meanwhile, she lives in a mansion my father bought on a foreclosure and rarely pay for just the mortgage. Anyway, my brother-in-law brings his huge family out here and hide in the forest with those camouflage suits that can make you look like a rock when you fall to the ground. Night and day. I'm in the middle of a thousand acres by myself. Creepy to say least. And they have the house wired to shake if they don't like what I do. It's absolutely maddening! I still don't what to do. Everyone thinks that I'm crazy.
Charlie - 18-May-21 @ 10:05 PM
Fraud medical set ups for elzhimner situation usingimplantable audioimplants...forblocking your thoughts... to make seem like your forgettingthings...but it been all planned for you to make you look like yourloosing it... for aMental institutions set up?...Unknowns putting implantsto control you for the set up in one of them? No one will help you either, but law and someone should be! They say you can't implant cell phone invisible implants to stereo music under your skin or in a tooth ...excetra..so it does not disturb other people! what if it was used for a set up for revenge of someone ...the voice implants to make you hear voices no one else can hear.... this stuff is in other countries but used differently with authorizations excetra like real telepathy, .but no one says anything about that here? Can anyone explain that? This is a game I heard about in our area don't know if it is true but it's frightening don't you all think? It's called electric harassment!? and even a neighbor could do this anyone in-fact could do this to a person but real sneaky maybe as an impersonator !!! I am like holy Crud! An unknown gang guy or person was heard talking about this he says it does what they want! I was like................ What?' Read: "The invisible crime" a true story! nothing is unbelievable anymore! I hope no one has a neighbor/or knows anyonelike that! The robotic future is here!?
Sherbert - 22-Apr-21 @ 4:25 AM
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