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How to Deal With a Neighbour 'Stalking' You

By: Sarah Clark (ILEX) - Updated: 18 Nov 2023 | comments*Discuss
 
Neighbour Stalking Stalker Harassment

Stalking by neighbours – or anyone, in fact – is one of those crimes that is often joked about, but can be very unnerving and at times even frightening. If you suspect that you are a victim of stalking, whether it’s a stranger or a neighbour, one of the main things to do is to try and keep calm. Stalkers and people who are out to harass others are often just looking for a reaction, and if you try to stay aloof and appear unconcerned, even if you are feeling anything but, they may lose interest and leave you alone.

Harassment covers pretty much all forms of unwanted behaviour, from mildly irritating to actual physical violence. Harassment can be a criminal offence and Laws Exist To Protect You . If the neighbour concerned is also watching or following you, making constant attempts to contact you or even sending you unwanted gifts, harassment becomes 'stalking'.

It may seem innocent at first – a neighbour seems to be a bit over friendly perhaps, and in all honesty, it could be a misunderstanding or a one-off. But if the strange or unwanted behaviour happens repeatedly (and repeatedly just means more than once) or you’re feeling distressed or frightened by the behaviour, trust your instincts. Stalking is a criminal offence so don’t blame yourself and don’t think that you have to put up with it, whether it’s a neighbour or a stranger.

Keep Hold of the Evidence

If things escalate, make sure that you keep a note of all incidents that you consider to be harassment or stalking and tell people, other neighbours, or your friends and relatives, what’s going on. You can enlist the help of willing neighbours who might be able to keep an eye out for the perpetrator – if they deliver anything, or are hanging around your property, for example.

If the person who is stalking you also uses text, email, or the post to get to you, you should keep evidence of these as they can be used if you need to take the matter up formally. Don’t be tempted to respond – that’s what the stalker wants you to do.

In addition to hard evidence, Keep A Diary Of Events, making sure that you note down anything suspicious, times, dates and events. Write down anything that your neighbour says or does that could be construed as stalking as soon as it happens, as only evidence that’s recorded ‘contemporaneously’ – that is, immediately – can be used in any future court proceedings if they become necessary.

Being Stalked on the Telephone

If part of your stalker’s campaign involves telephone calls, you should keep a record of dates and times of the calls and anything that was said. If the caller hasn’t disguised their number, make a note of that too, or if being stalked via a land line, try 1471 to see if they slip up and reveal their number.

BT may be able to help if the stalker has your landline number. Call the BT Nuisance Calls Bureau on 0800 661 441 if you are a BT customer. On your mobile, save any malicious text messages for evidence.

If You Feel in Danger

If you ever feel as if you are in imminent danger, call 999 straight away and don’t worry about feeling foolish if the threat later dissipates – it’s better to be safe than sorry.

Try to stay calm and not show any fear or emotion. Don’t lose your temper or attempt to confront your stalker, again, the bully is looking for a reaction, so you should try not to let them have what they are looking for, even if you’re angry or frightened. If you notice your stalker, try to get away from them and into a public area or into your or a friendly neighbour’s home.

If the harassment carries on, your only option is to Contact The Local Police.

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I want to say howdy to Jason in St. PETE FL. Am over in Lakelandabout 1.5hrs away from you. It seems when u live near the elderly that some can be a problem. I am sorry you have such a miserable neighbor. We are in our early 40's and moved into a mobile in a 55plus park. Have a neighbor across from us who is so intrusive. We got to the point where we didn't want to go outside because she would always be there and in our business. These people have absolutely nothing in their lives. They become obsessed and even jealous with someone. By these people I mean the retired and elderly.All our other neighbors are great.But I will have the boundaries discussion with her. I put up drapes on our patio, she has left us alone and got the message. But this morning she said hello to my husband he said hi and kept on. Avoided her like a plague. We will put our outdoor Xmas decorations today and if she comes over she is gonna get it. Politely but assertively. I will say it. That we wish to have our privacy respected. That her always showing up in all we do, and give her examples is intrusive and we wish to be left alone. That going forward she wants to wave hello that will be the extent of our interaction. I have a camera but will get another installed so it can be shown how many times she coincidentally shows up when we are outside. She has left us alone after we put up drapes but saying hello for 1st time in 2 weeks means she got thru her bipolar rejection and feels it's OK again to say hello trying to start things up again. No way.
Ducky - 18-Nov-23 @ 1:36 PM
Have a neighbor that sits in carport behind screens and watches us, when people go in and out next door (he lives 2doors away) he comes out of house or from behind screens outs hand on hood and watches until they are in and out(I suppose the neighbor is calling him for this) . It has happened for 3years. He yelled he was going to get us, beat us up , put us in jail. Took to Police, they said we are problem, because my husband wanted to explain property rights. We tried putting up fencing, but the yard in 650 feet only and expensive. So he has people sit across street from our yard and we watch them Go to his house before or after. We have cameras up.
Shar - 1-Nov-23 @ 12:08 PM
If your neighbours are stalking you you need to find out why there stalking you your neighbours cud just be flying monkeys stalking you for a sex predator or for a narcissistic stalkers if you are been stalk then you got to no your stalkers if you just move house your stalkers well follow you to your new address and they well tell your neighbours things about you to let them in most times neighbours well let them in you see stalkers and narcissistic well pay them to let them in and if they have no money they well indefinitely well let them in if your stalkers or narcissistic stalkers talk about you everyone where you live well think bad things about you your stalkers want and well destroy you and your neighbours well help them do so because your neighbours asbeen told that your a paedophiles or something like that is how stalkers get neighbours involved by telling them lis about youthey well offer them money cars do there house up everything they can to get in there but most of your neighbours well let them in to stalk you for the rite price
Jamesnice8 - 23-Sep-23 @ 5:16 PM
USA small town where the sheriff pretends to know the law, but apparently thinks it’s funny that a local born is stalking people. When I got fed up and tried to report it they refused to take a report saying that she moving just let her go and leave it alone. Because she was there every day and calling every day had 3-4 cameras including drones watching me. Then she somehow manipulated someone a block away from me to letting her live there for 6 months. Car lot empty grass area with one house between her clear view of my front door setting up a sensor light that triggered from my door to the tree in my yard. Tried chasing me off the highway but I have better driving skills and wow was she mad when she came around the bobber( semi with no trailer) that I used to get away from her,pointing at me as I slammed the brakes in the turning lane. Over a year and a half of this stuff and I honestly believe it’s still going on. She got a young helper who helped her get drones and helped her set up hard wired cameras and other equipment. He just as guilty as she is. There’s so much more to this that I can’t even begin to describe it all. She then moved down to where my son is living and I swear she is stalking him. She was in the army she seems to have some fantasy that she is some kind of law enforcement agent. How can the army train these people and be ok with turning them loose on the public? It’s sickening. These cops are so dirty In butler county Iowa that the whole department should be shut down. I’m currently working on finding a place to move away from this area. My biggest fear is she will fallow me. I don’t know why she has fixated on me. But she has even pointed a laser sighted gun at my head waited up for me to get home came out in the pouring rain to move rocks around in the front of her deck just to let me know she watching. How can I change my name and move without her knowing and what can I do about my grown son being watched? Because he doesn’t care and he doesn’t pay attention like I do. Thanks to her I am permanently hyper vigilant. I have researched and researched and I am so unset that nothing is being done to hold these stalkers accountable. She has destroyed my life. I have no peaceful enjoyment anymore because I am on guard all the time.
Karma - 4-Sep-23 @ 1:40 PM
I live in St Petersburg Florida and purchase my home on August 22nd 2005 I lived there happily until about 2 years ago when my neighbor across the street decided to call codes enforcement on me for issues that were not related to me in any way. He continued to report me to codes incessantly for stupidity. He couldn't talk to me like a man he's a loser old guy who has a big fat mortgage on his house while I have none. He called the cops more than 300 times in the last 2 years to report me for anything from walking down the alley at night to anything that he could think of at the last minute to try to get me in trouble. He even staged drugs and part of my house to get me arrested. This horror is real and it is turned me into a very reticent and hateful human being. If that man comes on my property it'll be the last thing he ever does. He is an imminent threat and I've told him not to talk to me but he sits outside and camps there documenting with his multiplex cinematic cameras system and a diary that he keeps of my Cummings and goings. If that's not stalking, I don't know what is. The police have taken his side because he's a senior citizen whereas I'm under the mark of being one. The cops are no good, corrupt and non sympathetic to the laws themselves. I don't trust them, they will say and do anything and even Rob your house while they're arresting you. The City of St Petersburg codes compliance department is the most pathetic lying, conniving cheating, thieving and evil empire that ever existed in the city government. The man across the street is the devil himself but, they can rest assured that they will never enter my home or threaten my security directly because I will defend myself.
Jason - 28-Jun-23 @ 1:24 AM
I live in St Petersburg Florida and purchase my home on August 22nd 2005 I lived there happily until about 2 years ago when my neighbor across the street decided to call codes enforcement on me for issues that were not related to me in any way. He continued to report me to codes incessantly for stupidity. He couldn't talk to me like a man he's a loser old guy who has a big fat mortgage on his house while I have none. He called the cops more than 300 times in the last 2 years to report me for anything from walking down the alley at night to anything that he could think of at the last minute to try to get me in trouble. He even staged drugs and part of my house to get me arrested. This horror is real and it is turned me into a very reticent and hateful human being. If that man comes on my property it'll be the last thing he ever does. He is an imminent threat and I've told him not to talk to me but he sits outside and camps there documenting with his multiplex cinematic cameras system and a diary that he keeps of my Cummings and goings. If that's not stalking, I don't know what is. The police have taken his side because he's a senior citizen whereas I'm under the mark of being one. The cops are no good, corrupt and non sympathetic to the laws themselves. I don't trust them, they will say and do anything and even Rob your house while they're arresting you. The City of St Petersburg codes compliance department is the most pathetic lying, conniving cheating, thieving and evil empire that ever existed in the city government. The man across the street is the devil himself but, they can rest assured that they will never enter my home or threaten my security directly because I will defend myself.
Jason - 28-Jun-23 @ 1:24 AM
I live in St Petersburg Florida and purchase my home on August 22nd 2005 I lived there happily until about 2 years ago when my neighbor across the street decided to call codes enforcement on me for issues that were not related to me in any way. He continued to report me to codes incessantly for stupidity. He couldn't talk to me like a man he's a loser old guy who has a big fat mortgage on his house while I have none. He called the cops more than 300 times in the last 2 years to report me for anything from walking down the alley at night to anything that he could think of at the last minute to try to get me in trouble. He even staged drugs and part of my house to get me arrested. This horror is real and it is turned me into a very reticent and hateful human being. If that man comes on my property it'll be the last thing he ever does. He is an imminent threat and I've told him not to talk to me but he sits outside and camps there documenting with his multiplex cinematic cameras system and a diary that he keeps of my Cummings and goings. If that's not stalking, I don't know what is. The police have taken his side because he's a senior citizen whereas I'm under the mark of being one. The cops are no good, corrupt and non sympathetic to the laws themselves. I don't trust them, they will say and do anything and even Rob your house while they're arresting you. The City of St Petersburg codes compliance department is the most pathetic lying, conniving cheating, thieving and evil empire that ever existed in the city government. The man across the street is the devil himself but, they can rest assured that they will never enter my home or threaten my security directly because I will defend myself.
Jason - 28-Jun-23 @ 1:23 AM
Hi, I have similar experience when I lived in a flat for 4 years. I thought been on the top floor which was 3rd floor will minimize hearing noises from below but found out I was so.wrong. Moved to a house where I was at the end of the terrace and was having the neighbours following me from room to room. Where they can't follow, they come out of their house so that you can see them. Basically stalking in my own house. I they do these things as a form.of intimidation and control.
Joy123 - 13-May-23 @ 8:22 PM
Fighting words are those that "by their very utterance inflict injury or tend to incite an immediate breach of the peace." So, essentially a call to imminent and specific lawless action. However, while the supreme court keeps asserting that "fighting words" can be regulated, no set of language that has come before them in the past half-century has actually constituted fighting words. So, unclear what language would actually qualify I reported this while ago but it has gotten so far. They are exploding me now in the house I'm staying at. They don't want to leave but I hear the phones dropping from high areas and keep waking up to loud banging down stairs and them making noises abusing me verbally, I'm sick and tired of the waiting for me to respond to the police, they said they want to sue that they are recording littleexcuses... Told them to go but they have another day and I Hurd they said they are staying to continueanother week Exploding us. It's abuse he's allowing to disturb people's homes. Everyone outside expect someone to call cops andcalling it out like everyone is and he's not doing nothing about it but allowing it to stay in house ((Classifying the Types of Liars · Deceitful liars: those who lie to others about facts · Duplicitous liars: those who lie to others about their values · Delusional)) In killers and psychopaths, however, these brain processes are effectively desensitized… Telling a lie and a truth is one and the same for them. Trying to sue being a hypocrite to get info to switch up what they will say to police and court. Repeating "stalking to sue." Racing by provoking to show proof abusing Address where stalking harassing been accrue everyday HATE CRIME TRYING TO HARM. Group gang exploding that person to Lie their abuse on someone home. 2075 Wallace ave and Brady, Bronx, NY, 10462 4 Floor, DOOR#411 Door 411 right side first door getting out the elevator.
Juli - 12-May-23 @ 6:12 PM
Fighting words are those that "by their very utterance inflict injury or tend to incite an immediate breach of the peace." So, essentially a call to imminent and specific lawless action. However, while the supreme court keeps asserting that "fighting words" can be regulated, no set of language that has come before them in the past half-century has actually constituted fighting words. So, unclear what language would actually qualify I reported this while ago but it has gotten so far. They are exploding me now in the house I'm staying at. They don't want to leave but I hear the phones dropping from high areas and keep waking up to loud banging down stairs and them making noises abusing me verbally, I'm sick and tired of the waiting for me to respond to the police, they said they want to sue that they are recording littleexcuses... Told them to go but they have another day and I Hurd they said they are staying to continueanother week Exploding us. It's abuse he's allowing to disturb people's homes. Everyone outside expect someone to call cops andcalling it out like everyone is and he's not doing nothing about it but allowing it to stay in house ((Classifying the Types of Liars · Deceitful liars: those who lie to others about facts · Duplicitous liars: those who lie to others about their values · Delusional)) In killers and psychopaths, however, these brain processes are effectively desensitized… Telling a lie and a truth is one and the same for them. 2075 Wallace ave and Brady 10462 Group traffican h Door 411 right side first door getting out the elevator
Julie - 12-May-23 @ 5:53 PM
I’m posting on here as I really don’t know what to do and hoping I can get some advise I had a new neighbour move next door to me a year and four months ago From the first day he moved in i haven’t had one day where he hasn’t blasted music singing so loud you feel like he’s in the same room as you this goes on all day and into the late evening myself and my daughter haven’t slept a full night since he moved in I didn’t say anything at first but after six months of putting up with it wehad had enough i work andmy daughter is at college and it was affecting thay but also us mentally I suffer with ptsd due to fleeing an abusive relationship and was placed here for safety reasonswe reported tje noise to our housing association they told him his behaviour wasn’t acceptable so he then started retaliating by getting louder making stupid noise late at night tappingon the walls and antagonising my dog when he is in the back garden I reported it again it eventually got passed to our local council anti social behaviour team we were offered mediation he refused to do it But now his behaviour is actually turned wierd and I really am frightened He installed cameras outside his house which he’s well within his rights to do but he’s only got them installed to watch me he’s got three outthe front of his house he’s positioned them so there is one where he can see me coming in and out of our street one so he can see me walking past hisgate and one pointing into my front garden there is one in his back garden looking into my garden everytime me or my daughter are in our garden he comes to his window and either records us on his phone or try’s to hide behind his curtain and record us Or he leans right out of his window glaring at us until we feel uncomfortable and go inside he knows exactly what times I’m coming and going from my house as he told another neighbour he hates me and is watching me and told them he knows what time I leave he told the neighbour he’s gonna get me back that beighbour reported it but nothing got done about it . Two weeks agoI was coming home from work and he said to me I know where you work and was laughing at me And only two days ago as I was coming out of work he was driving past my work could be coincidence but I doubt it My freind said he is stalking me but I don’t know I don’t know what to do
Esme - 6-May-23 @ 1:42 AM
My husband recently passed away, and these neighbors just moved in not even a month ago. I started noticing the neighbor he is a military man using his phone filming. My girls going out of the house in the house or when even when they have friends over he even goes on top of his roof to film on my property he also has drums fly over my property, but apparently having Cameras pointing at my windows, my windows in the bathroom and my windows in my rooms my front door my back door he’s got sensors in my driveways and my back doors and front doors. I went to the place about it. The protective order was dropped. I also took him to court him and his wife to court, because his wife is now stocking me as well only know them because of their actions, I don’t know who else to turn to all I’m trying to do is protect me my children and my property. As of right now he’s got over 30 cameras, pointing in the back of my house in about 15 in the front of my house not including the six beside each of our houses I got ATT but somehow the Wi-Fi connection hasn’t been working since they moved in. Please help.
Chel - 13-Mar-23 @ 12:57 PM
My husband recently passed away, and these neighbors just moved in not even a month ago. I started noticing the neighbor he is a military man using his phone filming. My girls going out of the house in the house or when even when they have friends over he even goes on top of his roof to film on my property he also has drums fly over my property, but apparently having Cameras pointing at my windows, my windows in the bathroom and my windows in my rooms my front door my back door he’s got sensors in my driveways and my back doors and front doors. I went to the place about it. The protective order was dropped. I also took him to court him and his wife to court, because his wife is now stocking me as well only know them because of their actions, I don’t know who else to turn to all I’m trying to do is protect me my children and my property. As of right now he’s got over 30 cameras, pointing in the back of my house in about 15 in the front of my house not including the six beside each of our houses I got ATT but somehow the Wi-Fi connection hasn’t been working since they moved in. Please help.
Chel - 12-Mar-23 @ 7:09 PM
I have been living at my home for over 20 years a family moved in next door violated property line called police had land surveyed again and remarked.His brother or cousin has stalked us for a few years he wants this house he now getting more aggressive with friends pulls in driveway and property damage. Sent out roofers and others to my home. when they have left not neighborhood but drove back to his house in back of cul de sac.They stalked change carsrumor has it him and others in back or x cons and sex offenders.He and his brother do have a crime past for stealing and selling drugs.Can not move because of new laws in state. Be sued if they home invade while out got less than 11 years left on mom mortgage.what can I do???
Pb - 18-Feb-23 @ 6:09 AM
My husband son and I moved in our home 7 almost 8 years ago.We have a neighbor who lives not on top of us us but within eye sight and walking distance.He started coming over the minter we moved in.It got worse to where he would only come when my husband was sleeping or gone to work. When I would take my son outside he would pop up or be banging on my door.If I went out somewhere he had tracked how long I was gone for talking about down to the second when I returned after months of this I was terrified and my husband went outside who was sleeping when he woke up and spoke to him.He did not return until yesterday when I was at work and my husband took my son to the doctor where he waited until we were all gone and then left a note specifically for me.Now I'm freaking out realizing that that situation has never really cleared up as I know now he watched our home and waited until we were gone to leave this note.
Anonymous - 24-Jan-23 @ 9:35 AM
I have been dealing with a neighbor who lives below my apartment unit that blasts music so loud, that ground in my apartment literally shakes. I reached out to my management and they continuously ignored me until a 4th attempt. They sent out notices and my neighbor began to retaliate. He began playing music loud when I come home from work, or creating loud banging noises. I then began working remotely and he started rushing out of his apt the same exact timeand posturing like he is ready to fight me. It happened multiple days in a row at different times. I stayed home for a week bc no matter what time I go out, he is following me out next to my car. I've tried parking far off in different spaces to avoid him but he has even moved his car in the middle of the night to park beside mine. I filed a non emergency police report, and they spoke to my apt manager but they do not care and haven't done anything about it. They also don't even know who this man is living in the apt. My lease doesn't end until July 2023. I can't escape bc he is right below my unit, knows when I come and go, keeps up with where I park in different places. The police says they cannot do anything without video evidence. Any advice would be helpful. Thanks
Dawn - 10-Jan-23 @ 5:35 PM
I have been dealing with a neighbor who lives below my apartment unit that blasts music so loud, that ground in my apartment literally shakes. I reached out to my management and they continuously ignored me until a 4th attempt. They sent out notices and my neighbor began to retaliate. He began playing music loud when I come home from work, or creating loud banging noises. I then began working remotely and he started rushing out of his apt the same exact timeand posturing like he is ready to fight me. It happened multiple days in a row at different times. I stayed home for a week bc no matter what time I go out, he is following me out next to my car. I've tried parking far off in different spaces to avoid him but he has even moved his car in the middle of the night to park beside mine. I filed a non emergency police report, and they spoke to my apt manager but they do not care and haven't done anything about it. They also don't even know who this man is living in the apt. My lease doesn't end until July 2023. I can't escape bc he is right below my unit, knows when I come and go, keeps up with where I park in different places. The police says they cannot do anything without video evidence. Any advice would be helpful. Thanks
Karine - 10-Jan-23 @ 5:34 PM
I have been dealing with a neighbor who lives below my apartment unit that blasts music so loud, that ground in my apartment literally shakes. I reached out to my management and they continuously ignored me until a 4th attempt. They sent out notices and my neighbor began to retaliate. He began playing music loud when I come home from work, or creating loud banging noises. I then began working remotely and he started rushing out of his apt the same exact timeand posturing like he is ready to fight me. It happened multiple days in a row at different times. I stayed home for a week bc no matter what time I go out, he is following me out next to my car. I've tried parking far off in different spaces to avoid him but he has even moved his car in the middle of the night to park beside mine. I filed a non emergency police report, and they spoke to my apt manager but they do not care and haven't done anything about it. They also don't even know who this man is living in the apt. My lease doesn't end until July 2023. I can't escape bc he is right below my unit, knows when I come and go, keeps up with where I park in different places. The police says they cannot do anything without video evidence. Any advice would be helpful. Thanks
Karine - 10-Jan-23 @ 5:33 PM
My neighbor built his ground up thirty feet bringing it to the top of my fence.He and his relatives with stand there and watch my friends, relatives for hours.We built our fence up 10 feet, he then put cameras high up on the trees on my pool, hot tub and decks and also on my drive and front and back yard total 10 tree cameras.He put his boat directly next to my back yard he sits in it during snow storms and makebates watching us. I received their delivers from Amazon which including a stun gun, a camera jam blocker (he tries to black out my cameras) and tried to jam my WIFI.My unique last name shows up as WIFI connections near me.I know they have been in my house it has a weird smell and my dog got sick a few weeks later I pulled up he was removing a hose near my fence and several empty bottles of anti freeze.
Ree ree - 21-Dec-22 @ 3:56 PM
A first for everything... My situ is as follows...Bought my condo 4/22 and all well, neighbor next door/male, about 25y old moved in a week before me, all well, then....His first condo living and Mother owns the unit but she does not reside. This Son of hers, went from Q U I E T to downright COCKY come Dec/22, playing his low frequency bass (((((((BOOM)))))) at all hours of the wee morning, banging cupboards, I MEAN PUMMELL THEM after his drug induced state, the noise SO GREAT !!!!!!! coming through the walls directly into my unit, I had had enough !! . I emailed the President of the building, a lengthy email outlining the issue and about 72 hrs later I feel strongly he spoke to him or his mother, well the noise stopped, and then him being 25 yrs old going on 16 yrs, snuck in a couple of BOOMS !!!! between 11pm-0700 ....Again I reached out to the President. WELL....VENGEANCE KICKED IN AND NOW I HAVE A STALKER LIVING BESIDE ME, A TOTAL MISFIT. Went to the police and they said, because there is NOTHING tangible that they can work with, time for me to MOVE!! I just moved in !!!! ...This creep follows, more like runs from room to room using his HEAT SENSOR and infar red heat to my person at night. The latter, from his unit andwith the BEAMS/RAYS finds the beams and rays onto my person....I am scared period...I have no family/siblings to stay with....He is riding rough shot over my person, I am under the hand of a CONTROL FREAK !!!How can this be in this day and age....All these so called equipments can be bought on line and delivered totheir doors...He is the perpetrator, I am the victim, and I have to move ???....I wait till he goes out before I can have a bath, etc, etc... ALL of this because of the constant BOOMS!!!!!!! and I spoke up and this is the end result, STALKING, HARRASSING ME, and YES-TERRORIZE....He also has a tape recorder and an AMPLIFER*****, recording my 'PEE' !!!!!! ...He has no friends goes to work and back to his apt where he remains in his bedroom 98% of the time upon returning home...No doubt a porno freak.....Like tonight----I hard him go out, digging his heels into the carpet as he crossed by door and BEHOLD .....HERE HE SNEAKS BACK IN, he gave the illusion that he was GOING OUT and here he is. He came back I believe to see me have a bath, etc...He knows I dont bathe when he is there so TRICKERY ON HIS PART.....Not that easy to just leave, as I own this unit, if I was renting, well, month by month...I am at my wits end with him...Strange behaviours, parking across the street, 30 min just looking up at the building, parks his car down the street to give the idea that he is not home, lingers around the underground parkage, a aHOLY TERROR behind his doors and a COWARD IN PERSON.....I don't know where to turn.....I have another 4 mnths until I can sell, selling before incurs that sales tax...Appreciate any suggestions...Thankyou !I AM HIS TARGET, THE STALKING FROM WITHIN HIS CONFINES AND TRYING TO GUESS
PERRY - 18-Dec-22 @ 2:59 AM
My neighbor stalked me in the past a couple years ago. He lives right across from me in my apartment building. It started with him telling me he loved me and trying to kiss me. I told him I didn't want to talk to him any more. He starts knocking on my door every day multiple times a day. I would never answer. He did this for three months straight. He stopped when I left a note on my door that I was calling the police. I told him after to stop saying hi to me but he still does it every time he sees me.
Me - 15-Dec-22 @ 11:14 PM
My neighbour stalks and mimics me,He watches me from his window when I leave my home,When I open my blinds ten mins later his are open the exact same way mine are,He has watched my kids play on the street by standing at his door watching them,I changed out one evening let's go to the park of course ten mins later he is there watching us,He doesn't talk or say anything just watches,it is creepy ,I am a man and this man makes me feel on edge and creeped out,I put it down to racism or else he's mentally ill but it gets really agitating and annoying I've warned him before to stop looking at me but he just does it,He's also made false noise complaints against me,I wish he would just move ,I've lived here over ten years he has lived here over 3,Wtf is his problem
Chaz - 10-Dec-22 @ 12:59 AM
I have been at my current address for almost 3 years now and my neighbor moved in last year summer (2021) only to renovate his apartment including the plumbing system. He says that he is a plumber when I first told him about the situation, of which he said he would fix by the weekend sometime last year. He managed to manipulate the system so that whenever he chooses the dirty water on his side comes up in my tub. The pressure of the water goes up and down and in between all of that is a clicking sound as if to chip in and out. The same thing when I'm sitting on the toilet of which slows down and stops or completely stops the water from filling up in the tank. This wasn't happening when the previous neighbors were there. At one point I knocked on the wall while I was in the shower to let him know what he was doing and he returned a knock on the wall and began playing with the water turning it off and on while he continued knocking. The first time it actually happened the guy I'm seeing was taking a shower and out of the blue it came up so I banged on the wall really hard and the water was turned off. As soon as the guy I am seeing left it all started again and the funniest thing is that he didn't say a word. Everytime I'm in the bathroom taking a shower, brushing my teeth or even using the toilet he has his water on blast and it doesn't matter what time of day it is. Early morning, mid-day, late nights he's there. It would seem as if there is a camera inside the apartment but I prefer to not think so far ahead. I suffer with scoliosis in my neck and shoulders, back problems, cold/hot problems in my foot so I don't need stalking to be added to my problems. Please help what can I do legally?
Anonymous - 29-Sep-22 @ 2:49 AM
I have been at my current address for almost 3 years now and my neighbor moved in last year summer (2021) only to renovate his apartment including the plumbing system. He says that he is a plumber when I first told him about the situation, of which he said he would fix by the weekend sometime last year. He managed to manipulate the system so that whenever he chooses the dirty water on his side comes up in my tub. The pressure of the water goes up and down and in between all of the is a clicking sound as if to chip in and out. The same thing when I'm sitting on the toilet of which slows and stops the water from filling up in the tank. This wasn't happening when the previous neighbors were there. At one point I knocked on the wall while I was in the shower to let him know what he was doing and he returned a knock on the wall and began playing with the water turning it off and on while he continued knocking. The first time it actually happened the guy I'm seeing was taking a shower and out of the blue it came up so I banged on the wall really hard and the water was turned off. As soon as the guy I am seeing left it all started again and the funniest thing is that he didn't say a word. Everytime I'm in the bathroom taking a shower, brushing my teeth or even using the toilet he has his water on blast and it doesn't matter what time of day it is. Early morning, mid-day, late nights he's there. It would seem as if there is a camera inside the apartment but I prefer to not think so far ahead. I suffer with scoliosis in my neck and shoulders, back problems, cold/hot problems in my foot so I don't need stalking to be added to my problems. Please help what can I do legally?
DB - 29-Sep-22 @ 2:41 AM
My neighbor under neath me is completely moist. The first 3 days I moved in she knocked on my door and told me how she was why the last tenant moved out . I glared at her ! The harassment started after the 3rd month of me being there . She left smashed things outside my door . Called the police on me for coughing , blamed me for a fence that i was unaware of when the police knocked on my door . I'm a famous musicianand this girl wants to be a singer. She screams at me through walls and wants my attention . It's stalking . I've gathered up plenty of evidence after installing cctv in my flat after a previous bad time I was fully prepared for this person . I always Said the next person that messes with me after I've been violated most of my life is getting punished so that's exactly what will be to her if she carries on the childish behaviour over the structure of the building makes you want to throttle them but best to stay calm and collective and professional and let these uneducated wannabees reep what they sow . The moment anyone attacks me that's when I completely ruin their life same as my life was previously by other people . X x ?God bless u all God sees all . Many are sheep in wolves clothing they want what you have but they can't work hard for it and anyone befriending them people aswel will be to blame
anonymous - 29-Sep-22 @ 12:35 AM
I have a neighbor that is stalking me. Everytime I leave or come home, they come to there door & purposely look threw the peep whole & make a noise letting me know that they are stalking me. When I first moved, I wanted to be friends. Out of no where the stalking began. I'm a single mom. I live alone with my son. I've never gotten into a fight or argument. I'm honest, humble & nice. If anyone ever needed anything I would help if I could. It's sad.. I want nothing but good for everyone. I also pray for everyone & the world. But still some how I am picked on..????????
LoveGod - 28-Aug-22 @ 10:42 PM
Hello Ladies from the USA. I felt compelled to comment as I have experienced all of this and if feels to good to be validated. I think I can see some themes and it seems most of the neighbor stalking is spearheaded by some derelict (demon possessed) female. I do believe gang stalking is the mark of a woman as it is true cowardice. Also like many others have stated, it’s painfully obvious the police are paid or compensated NOT to shoot these worthless vermin down. It’s also pretty clear it’s an expensive operation. I just want to say we are not crazy and we need each other as a support system. I would get a big dog (I did) and anything else that can irreversibly maime or slay a fully grown adult and know that you (we) will win. These people are soulless so, God walks with us and will vindicate. Also, try consulting a cult expert, and forget any help from friends and family these godless heathens know we’re surrounded by cowards…Jesus Saves
Americana - 15-Aug-22 @ 5:20 AM
I have the unfortunate circumstance of living near people who hate my guts. They have done so for years and have bullied me mercilessly. They only stopped when I told them what for unfortunately now I'm the bad one? How can it be when they have done this for years tried to make me paranoid tried to make me I'll ect. Wish I didnt ever talk to them tbh. To say nasty is an understatement they have violated my privacy and my state of mind on numerous occasions. Our next door neighbor has shouted abuse at us called us a bunch of names wished my family dead. The list gos on and on.
Donewithidiots - 20-Jun-22 @ 9:34 PM
Don't despair. You are stronger than you think.This forum is testament to a new and very sad phenomenon taking place in the world. You are quite correct. It is men and women and what you are experiencing is bullying in a particularly nasty form. I would advise you to document everything no matter how trivial you think it is, and also find a way to get back to your family, hiding away or moving away simply doesn't work it actually excites and incites, perversely, even worse behaviour as the bullies treat it like a game. They enjoy seeing what they can get you to do.Live your life. Try to find work and learn to stare through the bullies who follow you or turn a deaf ear to your banger next door. For you they no longer exist.Start to make new friends. Strong friends. There are still plenty of normal and genuinely nice people out there. Don't be afraid to try and make friends maybe at a church or class of some sort, painting, music. Anything you think you would enjoy and if you are followed feel sorry for them and don't acknowledge it. They are doing it anyway aren't they. Hope this helps and I wish you very good luck and happiness in the future. Kiki.
Kiki - 31-May-22 @ 10:52 PM
I am being stalked by a gang of men and women. It started with my ex after we parted and it got so bad I moved over 100 miles away on police advice. To my horror, the ex then followed me and managed to get some of my new neighbours involved. The intimidation has been relentless. This ex has done some truly disgusting things to me. He set my wheelie bin alight which almost burned my window frames as he had moved it against my outside window. He called police on me to lie and say I am cultivating cannabis in my property. The police searched my home and obviously found nothing. He then called them again and for a second time the police visited my home to search for cannabis and once again found nothing. This stalker was driving past my home at all hours and either constantly bibbed his horn or at night, shone his headlights through my bedroom window. He got people from around the area I had lived for years to help in his intimidation and I got too scared to leave my home. My mental health deteriorated with all the stress and I lost my job over it. So I call the police but he tells them it’s me stalking him and the police could do nothing as it was his word against mine. So the police advise me to move as far as I can to get away from him. I moved over 100 miles away only to be followed and stalked again. This time he has got my down stairs neighbour involved and he has been intimidating me for over a year now. I did try and approach my neighbour to tell him I know he is involved but it escalated and he got so angry almost hit me and then got into his car and attempted to run me over. The police were called but he lied saying I have mental health and that he did nothing of the sort. So I’m trapped. I have no job, no money, am away from family miles away and am still being stalked and intimidated. So I’m fighting back, I have to as it’s obvious the police cannot or will not help me. I’ve started setting my alarm for early morning and just letting it ring and ring. To disturb this neighbour just like he’s disturbing me. I have also started banging back at him when he starts making deliberate noise, especially of a night. I want him to assault me, as the police will have to do something then. I will also tell the police to check his smart phone to get the evidence he is in contact with my stalking ex. These men have made my life a misery. At one point I truly wanted to end it all. I felt sad, scared and alone. This downstairs neighbour has got about five people from around the area to help intimidate me. The one old woman brings her dog outside my window and stands there outside making her dog bark constantly. I’ve also been followed the local shops too. I am not sure if it will ever stop but I have no choice to stay and put up with things. It’s obvious the police cannot do anything as it’s his word against mine and the housing providers are unsympathetic. I have no one to help. I prey every day for Karma, for justice. I hope one day I get it. I’ve had
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