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Being Bullied by a Neighbour? What You Can Do

By: Sarah Clark (ILEX) - Updated: 23 Jun 2018 | comments*Discuss
 
Bully Bullies Neighbour Harassment

If you, or anyone in your household, feel as though you’re being bullied in your neighbourhood or even your own home, it can potentially make your life unbearable. You have the right to feel safe in your own neighbourhood and protected from harassment, so don’t let a bully take that away from you or your loved ones.

Children Being Bullied

Bullying is a common problem, especially with children. In some cases, a bullying incident may be a one-off, a trivial falling out between children, and isn’t necessarily anything to worry about.

Listen to what your child is saying about the bullies and keep an eye on the situation. It may all blow over.In the meantime, arm your children with strategies to deal with the actions the bullies are taking, such as trying to ignore minor things, asking the bully to stop, and telling an adult.

If a child is being picked on frequently, you could try walking with them to school, supervising play areas or speaking to the parents of the bully or bullies and trying to resolve the issues amicably.

In very serious cases, or examples where there have been actual physical violence, it might be possible as a last resort to take out a restraining order, making the parents and the bullies stay away from your child. If the situation has become that serious or dangerous, it’s advisable to involve the police, get some information on your legal options, and consult a lawyer. Thankfully, it’s rare for childhood bullying to need that sort of intervention.

What’s Considered Bullying?

Bullying and harassment, especially when adults are involved, can be subtle, hard to pinpoint and consist of many separate incidents which can turn into persistent bullying when they are carried out repeatedly or over a long period of time. It is important to know how you are protected under the Protection From Harassment Act.

If you’re being subjected to any form of unwanted behaviour from a neighbour, it can be described as bullying. It could take the form of constant harassment, physical or verbal abuse. Name calling or teasing constantly can be bullying if they upset you or cause you any distress. Some bullies may choose to simply 'blank' you or spread rumours about you. Serious cases may even involve threatening or anti-social behaviour.

In some cases, neighbourhood bullies can be so subtle and their actions can become so regular that their behaviour can be overlooked. That doesn’t make it right. Long term, bullying can cause mental and physical health problems, and affect your well-being.

What to Do if You’re Being Bullied

The very nature of adult bullies make them hard to reason with. You can try avoiding the culprit and hoping they get bored with annoying you, if the bullying is mild.

Kill them with kindness. If the bully sees you as a threat, try befriending them, even if you don’t want to. If you turn the tables and act as if you’re willing to be friendly, you could get a positive response. Try a friendly 'hello' or offer to help them with something. This might not work, but is worth trying as a first course of action.

Try being assertive, too. Use assertive body language, stand straight, don’t avoid eye contact, and confront them with statements like, "I've noticed that you seem to be trying to bully me and I would like you to stop."

If all else fails, or the bullying becomes serious or physical, involve the authorities.

If there’s a discrimination element (you’re being bullied because of your race, gender, disability, sexuality or religion), contact your local authority who may be able to take action. Some local authorities have Safer Neighbourhood Teams who work with communities to identify and address local concerns.

In some cases, a local authority can apply for a court order against the perpetrator, banning them from carrying out anti-social behaviour, nuisance or threats against you or your household, and even evict them if they carry on.

You may be able to take out a civil injunction against the bully. Take advice from a solicitor about your options and what you need to do if that’s the case. Find out more about the Proection from Harassment Act here.

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I am a 45 year old woman that lives in public housing in New York City. My neighbors have been harassing me since they moved in about 10 years ago. They are a family with two parents and about four children. I used to be okay with the wife. We would say "hello" and "how are you." to each other when we saw each other in passing. However the husband doesn't like me and my sons for some reason and the wife isn't allowed to talk to me. He makes nasty comments about me as he is standing in front of my apartment door and when I saw him once in front of my building. At the times that he does this, he is with lots of other people making noise and laughing. When they are in front of my apartment, noise is extremely loud and they love to bang my door. I am afraid to say anything because he threatens my family, especially my boys with harm. He even mentioned "popping" someone with his gun if the cops were called. It got to the point recently where I made a 311 call anonymously because I just don't feel safe with him around. I've lived here for 40 years in this same apartment. I call it home but it's not home when my neighbor's husband is around. The hardest part is that their kids have caught on to their father's behavior and have taken to disrespecting me when they see me. They used to be so sweet. They make nasty comments when they see me, they put garbage in front of my door and incessantly tap the adjoining walls to my apartment. I know it is them because I hear them laughing and running. I fear complaining to Housing Management because of retaliation. (The other day while I was going to the store, a car tried to run me over). I would love for there to be a constant police presence but it's not safe enough to speak up about that.
Em - 23-Jun-18 @ 3:18 AM
I'm being bullied spoken about and allegations made against me by 3 neighbour's.I ljve in a council house with my young child. I work and study. They've reported me to social services and fabricated stories and even one reported me to the police and i had to go to a voluntary interview about threats of violence which are untrue. I have msgs luckily to show this is untrue and contact was made by her. And that its nothing but tit for tat and definitely no threats made. Its depressing me i just want to move but even that is stressing me out just the thought.They're trying to get me kicked out of my home. Even moaning that i learned to cook indian food through my bf msging me saying noone wants to live to the smell of curries. My bf is indian. Its all realky pathetic.I just want to live in my home in harmony i dont even want to talk to any of them.
Sylv - 17-Jun-18 @ 11:39 PM
I just want to comment , I have been bullied and gossiped about for 3 years now. Constant complaints over opening a window or supposedly slamming a toilet seat. they put my garden fence in the bucket on one side, and the man underneath killed my tree, by chopping it down. I have had amonia allnover my door and mat.These are pensioners. They bully me because I was nice to them, and live on my own with a child. They began intimidating me,getting family members banging on walls and going to batter me because I sat in my kitchen all day (I work from home btw) they are so nosey. I am moving now thank God , I am now off sick from work, as I had a breakdown putting up with it for all those years and was in hospital. The whole street has ignored me. I called the police many a time, but because they are all best mates, the neighbours deny it all and I'm left. Even though I have evidence and audios. I just hope the next flat is ok.
rattylove - 7-Jun-18 @ 3:23 PM
Suzy - Your Question:
I am disabled pensioner and being bullied by neighbour because I had approved work by Council to keep me safe and assist me living in home. Frightened to go out as get verbal abuse from this woman. Yesterday looked in kitchen window 6.45am and frightened me, I have heard problems anyway. Afternoon left all my gates open and screamed at me.Asked police to come and see me. Waiting for further action.

Our Response:
Are there any support groups in your area that might help?The AGE UK advice line for example, may be able to provide advice.
ProblemNeighbours - 6-Jun-18 @ 10:21 AM
Been there.Lived here for almost 20 years without any problems of any kind Can confirm NO ONE helps Police council landlord belive their lies. Is this what my high council tax pays for? They were younger and more charismatic than us.Me and my husband are getting on a bit in years.I am disabled and he is small in stature.Ripe for being bullied by all! Some other neighbours even stirred up the trouble and added to the situation. Troublesome family have moved and now the neighbours that stirred and added to the trouble want to know us! Can you believe that? What a complete and utter eye opener! Those involved ought to be ashamed of themselves.
Annie - 5-Jun-18 @ 11:14 AM
I am disabled pensioner and being bullied by neighbour because I had approved work by Council to keep me safe and assist me living in home. Frightened to go out as get verbal abuse from this woman. Yesterdaylooked in kitchen window 6.45am and frightened me, I have heard problems anyway. Afternoon left all my gates open and screamed at me. Asked police to come and see me. Waiting for further action.
Suzy - 5-Jun-18 @ 7:38 AM
Hi I have a new neighbor who has only been in the flat below over a month and all he has done since he has moved in is make my life a misery. I don’t feel safe in my flat anymore I have to stay in my bedroom all the time because he constantly plays loud banging music in the living room so can’t sit in there. My housing association just told me to phone the police but I’m actually too scared to phone them incase he hears me phoning them. Also I think he does drugs too as my flat reeks of the smell of them and have to constantly leave all my windows open in my flat to get rid of the smell of them. I don’t know what to do. I’m at my wits end now and feel as if no one is helping me.
Kimmy1984 - 2-Jun-18 @ 10:37 PM
I left my story which I'm going thru and it posted but only stayed up few minutes I really don't want to have to write it all again. Any reason why this happened.
Ka - 2-Jun-18 @ 8:44 PM
I have suffered for almost 3 years with the neighbor above me she gets away with everything claiming shes being tested for bipolar so the mental health card gets played. Shes tried feeding my dog painkillers through the letterbox but because i.didnt have her on recording they wouldnt do anything. She decorates everyday constantly rewallpapering because she apparently has ocd all i hear is wallpaper being scraped off. Shes lied to the council about me saying im a bully and she doesnt want to live here anymore. Now theyve moved a woman in next door on the same floor whos only supposed to be living there with her son but now she has 3 sons a daughter herself and her dog in a 2 bed flat im constantly slagged off and i havent done anything. Im currently pregnant and need to sleep in the day i have anaemia and am constantly tired they boot footballs off my windows they are in the communal garden til late at night smoking drugs and shouting another neighbpur told them that they need to stop as when my babies here i wont need the stress to which one of the sone replied "well it will have to get used to it or it can move out" it being my unborn daughter. Im scared to go to the housing as the anti social behaviour officer believes anything anybody tells her and i always get warnings when ive done nothing. Im genuinely fed up and have been staying out of my home because i cant sleep and the anxiety is keeping me up at night.
feduptenant - 31-May-18 @ 12:10 PM
I am disappointed in my landlord as anti social behaviour and bullying is meant to be taken seriously and I have done everything by the book..since I have been reporting this,and my my neighbours were spoken to,things have escalated..my housing officer misinformed me,saying they have a plan of action,then wot she says does not happen.I have lost a stone in weight and am i anxious about going out the door..i am a target because i live on my own.i have gone out my way to help them on numerous occasions and because I have said..I am not willing to help you anymore because they continuously switch if I say I haven't got sumthing and get nasty.my neighbour is nearly 50yrs of age,and still continues to TRY to bully me on a daily basis watched by his 76yr old mother.if he ain't at the door.she is,so I've been told not to answer the door.well common sense told me that anyway.that's why it's escalated.cuzim ignoring them.i live on my own in a block of flats so im really finding it difficult to understand why this is occuring and ongoing as i have no faith in my housing or support from them.this plan of action they keep saying they are putting into action isnt happening..my father brought me up on his own and sadly he has passed away now but he taught me right from wrong .i always took on board what he said and his words to me once when growing up was always be kind,true and honest.never bully anyone or let anyone do the same to you..I am trying to stand up to these people and I'm getting absoloutley nowhere..my dad will be turning in his grave knowing this is happening to me.my 2 neighbours lack of empathy is alarming to be honest..michelle coventry
hilly - 17-May-18 @ 11:55 AM
Bingoin on for 12 months now ivy jumped could get um done in now bullienus all over fb putting kids pics on mi adress frets to mi kids I ignored but still saying things I no nt mi loads of thngs mi daughter I’ll she gt cystic fibrosis thy say she dyin accusing mi breaking window thy did thm selfs say I fretan um wit knifes I nt like tht thy say I on drugs ad test negootive dnt go out suffered depression n thy harassing mi in no son on fb
Shaz - 16-May-18 @ 4:19 AM
NO ONE wants to know or help if you have a bullying intimidating neighbour!Ive done everything by the book re keeping diarys for the council, enviromental dept, local councillor, police ( all they say is report it to your council) Mediation didnt work. The alchoholic neighbour upstairs has broken most of the rules in his tenacy agreement and the council do nothing! He even broke them during his probationary period of his tenancy and the council did nothing!!!!! Ive been trying to move but cant find anywhere suitable! Even the council wont help me move they told me that my accomodation meets my needs, so I Im a prisoner in my own home!!! Im too frightened to go outside my front door!!! Im a frail pensioner my health has deteriorated, I have M.E. which has got worse over the past year, I literally want to crawl in a hole and die!!! Why Why Why wont councils abide by their own rules and deal with tenants that break their tenancy agreements!!!
Sue - 6-May-18 @ 7:47 AM
I have bought a house and applied for planning permission all four neighbourscomplained, this was fine. But now that I have started building work my next door neighbour, first sent a letter asking to be notified when the scaffolding goes up, which I did. Then she complained that our roof was high and had blocked her tv signal. Which I gave 60 pounds to sort out, as she said that’s how much it costs. She then complained to the council that the roof of my house was big, they came and inspected, it was ok. She then asked the builders if Indians were moving in. And know the builder dropped a hammer on her garage roof, which has caused no damage but she refused to let him pick his hammer up and has now complained that her roof has been damaged and all of it needs replacing. I feel scared to move there and feel that this neighbour has a problem with anything I do.
Fuspot - 3-May-18 @ 8:38 PM
I have a Neighbour. Who acts if he owns the Neighbourhood. He doesn't like me walking down a certain path, that leads directly in the block of flats. Where I live. He stands there, just stares at me, very oddly. Like a thousand yard stare. Outside in the front. I have been avoiding that route, for a few months now.
Alice - 2-May-18 @ 8:54 PM
Everywhere I have moved to,there has always been a neighbor or neighbors from HELL on my doorstep! Which can ONLY mean one thing? HUMAN BEINGS, ARE UNPLEASANT HORRIBLE CREATURES! So many of us are experiencing this occurrence, TOO OFTEN! Extinction is callingSOON!!!
zizxiz - 27-Apr-18 @ 3:05 PM
Hi my neighbour has assulted me twice with no provocation first time he had been drinking whisky and wine from a bottle second time he was banging on my door he asked me what my problem was I told him straight that he is then he slapped my face more recently though me and my wife come home from a nice evening out about 9.30 pm I forgot my self a bit and put my foot down bit to loud as I turned to go get the cat in no cat flap due to fire safety door is my front door I hear him yell something at me I look to see he's got hammer in his hand so ran inside phoned the police and because we live so close together the only option we have is to move the police have written a letter to our housing and council my wife has learning disabilities as well so I'm stressed had to take time of work for fear of this man who can't understand accidental noise and being done on purposenow police housing and doctors have recommended we move which isn't fair when this is the third time they been out to deal with this idiot im scared of being at home my wife jumps Everytime she sees him don't know what to do anymore
Inktec - 11-Apr-18 @ 5:53 AM
my friend is being bullied by 3 grown adults and family mosaic housing think she is the issue how the hell can a small woman in her 20s bully 3 middle aged adults all these adults are drug users as well and one has been found to make up complaints about her when she was abroad the managers hate my friend so do everything to try get her out it's sad don't you realise the toll you are putting on this girl it's disgusting how she is being treated
tedsa - 22-Feb-18 @ 8:15 PM
My neighbour has made my life hell since I asked them to turn their stereo down at 3am one morning, I had put up with this for quite some time and couldn't put up with it any longer as I was going into work half asleep, tried earplugs first. Since then I have had nasty comments said in a way for me to hear from her house, doors banging all hours with them laughing, threats, shouts of how she has complained to whoever and is going to get me out even if its in a box (her words), TV on all night loud enough for me to hear, its ridiculous another female in the house has also joined in. I have never seen or met the other female. I spoke to the council as they are tenants and was told there was nothing they could do as she was believed to have mental health problems,didn't actually say mental health just pointed to her head as wasn't allowed to discuss with me! I keep hoping that she will get fed up but it never stops. I feel sorry for her if she has m/h problems but, if so, she really needs someone to help her not just encourage it, because it is easier. I tend to think it is because I complained, the woman speaks, growls and squeals i.e bellows "oh myyyyy God" or "that is soooooooooooo cute" like a chav most of the time, really annoying as she is at least 60 years old, she just needs to bully someone. The previous owner used to rent this house out so no way of finding out if this has happened before. I tried the police following a specific threat but they cannot do anything unless I make it official, if I do, I think it will become really nasty and also if I choose to sell my house I will have to declare any complaints I make to the new owner and they will either pull out or want the price dropped. I work hard to pay for my house and I like it, why should I be forced out by such a rotten person?
Stressed - 12-Feb-18 @ 4:08 PM
I forgot to mention... in leaving I am now homeless... (until my lease ends) I am currently still trying to endure the antisocial behaviour which sucks... because to the council it is classed as "intentionally homeless". See? They don't care if you have to endure years of antisocial, or bullying from people and so if you try to get yourself away from that, you are the one to blame. My future will be cold nights, couch hopping, walking miles and probably dying in the cold.
Limpa - 11-Feb-18 @ 3:20 PM
After living in an area for 6 years I am fed up with the antisocial behaviour I have had to deal with, a next door neighbour. To make things worse at the start of DEC 2017, there was more antisocial behaviour in our area. Ppl destroying and vandalizing things, ppl who may or may not live in the area coming near where I live. Messing with my property and others along the line. I returned home and couldn't get my lock to work, seems someone tried to get in my home numerous occasions when I go out and someone is watching my every move. I made a mistake introducing myself to two crazy neighbours on the other side. They turned sour last year for no reason, so I ignored them. And then all of a sudden (one) of them pretends to be nice to get information out of me. So I caught on they are also in on the anti-socialness. It doesn't take a scientist to work out how vicious some people can be. You know recruiting more than one person around an area to hate or spy on someone? Because if they live over the other side, how do they know when I am in or not inside my home. All there is around the area now is drug dealers, thugs, crazy people, and all you hear is smashing, banging (deliberate) for no reason whatsoever. I was advised to have left several years ago, I couldn't and didn't try and now it has got the better of me. I feel really crappy, I just feel upset most of the time. The only way I will be able to get over this is to get far away from the area and the people who live in the area. It just goes to show that you can live in peace, (well sort of) I have another neighbour who owns their property and thinks they are above the law, and things they can dictate me, but I ignored that person because I saw them as no threat but now there is a threat. Druggies and scum just hanging near our homes, and it's easy access for them. It's the people who live around my area who are the ones who are doing all of this. The police and council are no help, they don't do anything. There's no cameras around the area. And if you get a camera you are then "accused" of spying on people, you just can't win. So the only solution is to move or get far away from those people.
Limpa - 11-Feb-18 @ 3:15 PM
SweetiePol - Your Question:
I'm not sure what if anything I can do about these issues but they sure are getting me down! I own my house and have a housing association property next door to me separated by a passageway which I own. The tenants have lived there for probably 9 ish years and mostly we get on. Because I rarely say anything about their behaviour! When I have done in the past she makes me out to be unreasonable and basically she thinks she can do what she wants when she wants and complaining about it just makes me a horrible person! Since I complained that someone visiting her blocked my car on my driveway so I couldn't go out she's been evil. She ended up threatening me because I complained and ever since there is incessant noise: banging, , door slamming, shouting and the kids thundering up and downstairs. It's every day and it starts at exactly 8am and ends at precisely 11pm. As it is within the hours and is not antisocial hours she's doing it deliberately so I can't complain to environmental health. It's really irritating and is so loud it sounds like it's in my house! In the past her son scraped his bike down the side of my car causing £400 of damage I had to pay for. The car is parked on my drive and I've asked her a million times to keep her kids out of my garden and all she says is she's not responsible for all the other kids as it is 5 or 6 kids from the street that play with her kids as well. I've asked her to tell her kids to stay out of my garden and I'll tell the others but nothing works. I've ended up barricading the end of the fence with 2 wheelie bins to keep them out! They bounce footballs off my car practically all summer and that's apparently acceptable as I'm "moaning" if I dare say anything and she accuses me of victimising her kids and they can't play out because of me. They have a 50' garden at the back and a huge park a 5 minute walk away so absolutely play football in the front garden which is about 10' square!! I've had this for over 8 years now and I'm getting to the end of my tether with it all. Can anyone give me some advice on what to do? Ive talked to her a million times and it has no effect except they do it all the more.

Our Response:
Have you tried talking to the neighbour'slandlord about this?
ProblemNeighbours - 30-Jan-18 @ 11:36 AM
I'm not sure what if anything I can do about these issues but they sure are getting me down! I own my house and have a housing association property next door to me separated by a passageway which I own. The tenants have lived there for probably 9 ish years and mostly we get on... Because I rarely say anything about their behaviour! When I have done in the past she makes me out to be unreasonable and basically she thinks she can do what she wants when she wants and complaining about it just makes me a horrible person! Since I complained that someone visiting her blocked my car on my driveway so I couldn't go out she's been evil. She ended up threatening me because I complained and ever since there is incessant noise: banging, , door slamming, shouting and the kids thundering up and downstairs. It's every day and it starts at exactly 8am and ends at precisely 11pm. As it is within the hours and is not antisocial hours she's doing it deliberately so I can't complain to environmental health. It's really irritating and is so loud it sounds like it's in my house! In the past her son scraped his bike down the side of my car causing £400 of damage I had to pay for. The car is parked on my drive and I've asked her a million times to keep her kids out of my garden and all she says is she's not responsible for all the other kids as it is 5 or 6 kids from the street that play with her kids as well. I've asked her to tell her kids to stay out of my garden and I'll tell the others but nothing works. I've ended up barricading the end of the fence with 2 wheelie bins to keep them out! They bounce footballs off my car practically all summer and that's apparently acceptable as I'm "moaning" if I dare say anything and she accuses me of victimising her kids and they can't play out because of me. They have a 50' garden at the back and a huge park a 5 minute walk away so absolutely play football in the front garden which is about 10' square!! I've had this for over 8 years now and I'm getting to the end of my tether with it all. Can anyone give me some advice on what to do? Ive talked to her a million times and it has no effect except they do it all the more.
SweetiePol - 28-Jan-18 @ 6:32 PM
I live in a converted house with four flats, I've lived here for 15 years and I get on with the other three neighbours but one of the neighbours has OCD and over 15 years if its not one thing its another.A while back it was because my boyfriend took the recycling out and put it in her box accidentally, then the other day she had ago stating I leave rubbish strooned everywhere,when I quizzed her as I said I certainly do not, she said about three years ago there was a cardboard box left on my garden table and she had to clear it up (its meant to be a shared garden and I do not recall) but three years on why bring it up?She's had ago about me doing my exercise in my front room in the evening, so I bought a thick mat.One time playing one song loud at 7.30pm and halfway through that song was at my front door screaming at me telling me I was selfish.There has been numerous other occasions, I am a considerate neighbour I don't have parties or play loud music at night, I don't walk around in high heels in the flat be untidy or anything else. The latest is that next doors cat comes in and sits on her doormat, then tried to get in her flat, apparently this is my fault because I have my own cat and cat flap in main front door.I bought cat repellent and used it on all the neighbours door mats, she came home and had ago at me for it said it was messy, then said I wasn't doing anything to try and discourage the neighbours cat (because she has not witnessed me chucking her out). I said how can you say that when I've bought repellent and you've not seen me kicking the cat out. I told her if she has an issue with that cat to take it up with next door and to stop having ago at me. She kept on and on and on, I lost it.I told her she is bordering on harassment and to stop. Its causing me distress, I feel I cannot be myself or do my own thing in my own flat.We own our properties not rented.I literally do not know what to do, its that bad of late I want to move and get away from her.None of the other neighbours like her and think she is a pain in the you know what!
Anno - 4-Jan-18 @ 9:08 PM
I live in a converted house with four flats, I've lived here for 15 years and I get on with the other three neighbours but one of the neighbours has OCD and over 15 years if its not one thing its another.A while back it was because my boyfriend took the recycling out and put it in her box accidentally, then the other day she had ago stating I leave rubbish strooned everywhere,when I quizzed her as I said I certainly do not, she said about three years ago there was a cardboard box left on my garden table and she had to clear it up (its meant to be a shared garden and I do not recall) but three years on why bring it up?She's had ago about me doing my exercise in my front room in the evening, so I bought a thick mat.One time playing one song loud at 7.30pm and halfway through that song was at my front door screaming at me telling me I was selfish.There has been numerous other occasions, I am a considerate neighbour I don't have parties or play loud music at night, I don't walk around in high heels in the flat be untidy or anything else. The latest is that next doors cat comes in and sits on her doormat, then tried to get in her flat, apparently this is my fault because I have my own cat and cat flap in main front door.I bought cat repellent and used it on all the neighbours door mats, she came home and had ago at me for it said it was messy, then said I wasn't doing anything to try and discourage the neighbours cat (because she has not witnessed me chucking her out). I said how can you say that when I've bought repellent and you've not seen me kicking the cat out. I told her if she has an issue with that cat to take it up with next door and to stop having ago at me. She kept on and on and on, I lost it.I told her she is bordering on harassment and to stop. Its causing me distress, I feel I cannot be myself or do my own thing in my own flat.We own our properties not rented.I literally do not know what to do, its that bad of late I want to move and get away from her.None of the other neighbours like her and think she is a pain in the you know what!
Anno - 4-Jan-18 @ 11:02 AM
I live in a converted house with four flats, I've lived here for 15 years and I get on with the other three neighbours but one of the neighbours has OCD and over 15 years if its not one thing its another.A while back it was because my boyfriend took the recycling out and put it in her box accidentally, then the other day she had ago stating I leave rubbish strooned everywhere,when I quizzed her as I said I certainly do not, she said about three years ago there was a cardboard box left on my garden table and she had to clear it up (its meant to be a shared garden and I do not recall) but three years on why bring it up?She's had ago about me doing my exercise in my front room in the evening, so I bought a thick mat.One time playing one song loud at 7.30pm and halfway through that song was at my front door screaming at me telling me I was selfish.There has been numerous other occasions, I am a considerate neighbour I don't have parties or play loud music at night, I don't walk around in high heels in the flat be untidy or anything else. The latest is that next doors cat comes in and sits on her doormat, then tried to get in her flat, apparently this is my fault because I have my own cat and cat flap in main front door.I bought cat repellent and used it on all the neighbours door mats, she came home and had ago at me for it said it was messy, then said I wasn't doing anything to try and discourage the neighbours cat (because she has not witnessed me chucking her out). I said how can you say that when I've bought repellent and you've not seen me kicking the cat out. I told her if she has an issue with that cat to take it up with next door and to stop having ago at me. She kept on and on and on, I lost it.I told her she is bordering on harassment and to stop. Its causing me distress, I feel I cannot be myself or do my own thing in my own flat.We own our properties not rented.I literally do not know what to do, its that bad of late I want to move and get away from her.None of the other neighbours like her and think she is a pain in the you know what!
Anno - 3-Jan-18 @ 9:39 PM
The lady next door is a bully and will not let us live in peace. She is constantly harassing us. They switched or water supply off several times when we came home from work. They kept drilling at nighttime hours to wake us and my child up and all because we painted their fence that faced our side. We have tried to negotiate with them and apologise but the lady is set on fighting with us. We think that she has mental health problems but will not seek help. We own our home and have put a lot of effort into making it welcoming but these people will not let us live in peace. They are set on making our lives a living hell. They have received an harassment order and noise abatement notices from the council. They have slashed neighbours tyres and slashed possessions with a knife in the past but have still not been stopped.
Kin - 23-Dec-17 @ 9:31 PM
I liveinasheltered housing community, we havecoffee morningsanda weeklybingogame,justrecentlyI havediscoveredthatthetwo lady'sthat prepareandrun theafternoonare beingverballybullied tothe extentthat theyhave both been in tearsand no longerwishtocontinue,we havetriedtotalktoour warden butare told that theyneed toremainimpartial. Thebully iscompletelyunapproachableand a few of the otherresidentshave now stoppedgoing to thecoffee mornings , I havesent anemailtoourHousingofficer wonderedifyoucouldgive me some moreadviceonhowtodeal with this .
wren - 14-Dec-17 @ 7:10 PM
Hello, My parents are being harassed by their neighbour - 1 male, 1 female and 4 kids - due to them being granted permission to build on their land. The neighbour has suddenly started making accusations about extended members of the family which is causing my parents severe anxiety and stress. I cannot stand to see my parents upset anymore - it's heartbreaking. I'm totally lost in how I can help them. What makes it worse is my mum befriended the mum and used to buy the kids Christmas presents. She now feels totally betrayed. The father has started to try and turn the other neighbours against my parents in a very childish way. My parents don't deserve this.
Sandra - 7-Dec-17 @ 10:14 PM
We are constantly harassed, intimidated and bullied by our neighbours.They throw trash into our garden and out the front of the house, have tried to break in at 5:00am, shine floodlights on our home and film us with a spy cam pointing into our house around the clock.We are bullied 24/7 and they are trying to set us up - getting people to stand outside our front door, and across the street looking into our house.We feel very isolated and are afraid to go out.We are stuck here now as we've had to report the issue - which means we won't be able to sell the property when rennovated.Our post started going missing and we were victims of attempted ID fraud.We have been followed home on numerous occasions and have no idea where to turn.They are very cunning, friends with everyone and probably related to most people in the street.We are really scared - I feel suicide is the only option left.We're scared that if we go to the police they will be relatives - it's a small town.We really need help and would greatly appreciate any advice on how to end this constant bullying.
Freedom - 7-Dec-17 @ 2:04 PM
Iv lived here in a small house for around four years, the walls are very thin. To start with we was not aware of this so we made noise as a young couple late at night. Our neighbours have done nothing but bully us over noise. Instead of talking to us like human beings or reporting us to the council they have sent their friends an family to have a go at us. It's very intimidating and wrong, why do they feel just because we used to be noisy that they are allowed to verbally abuse us. Sadly we got in n argument recently I was fed up an finally dared answer back which resulted in them calling social services on us. I just don't know if I should go to the police about the harassment we have recieved I want to because who gives them the right to go around bullying people. They also reported us to the council for apparently screaming late at night which we was not it was a malicious report because we got in to a disagreement. My point is got a problem with me report me because I'm sick of being shouted at an bullied. She thought I had put rubbish in her bin so she sent a friend to have a go at me for it. I had not put rubbish in her bin at all, she sent her friend to argue with us an with the neighbours on the other side too. Just really childish tac tics I'm so fed up of this woman
Zozo - 6-Dec-17 @ 12:20 AM
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