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Being Bullied by a Neighbour? What You Can Do

By: Sarah Clark (ILEX) - Updated: 5 Aug 2020 | comments*Discuss
 
Bully Bullies Neighbour Harassment

If you, or anyone in your household, feel as though you’re being bullied in your neighbourhood or even your own home, it can potentially make your life unbearable. You have the right to feel safe in your own neighbourhood and protected from harassment, so don’t let a bully take that away from you or your loved ones.

Children Being Bullied

Bullying is a common problem, especially with children. In some cases, a bullying incident may be a one-off, a trivial falling out between children, and isn’t necessarily anything to worry about.

Listen to what your child is saying about the bullies and keep an eye on the situation. It may all blow over.In the meantime, arm your children with strategies to deal with the actions the bullies are taking, such as trying to ignore minor things, asking the bully to stop, and telling an adult.

If a child is being picked on frequently, you could try walking with them to school, supervising play areas or speaking to the parents of the bully or bullies and trying to resolve the issues amicably.

In very serious cases, or examples where there have been actual physical violence, it might be possible as a last resort to take out a restraining order, making the parents and the bullies stay away from your child. If the situation has become that serious or dangerous, it’s advisable to involve the police, get some information on your legal options, and consult a lawyer. Thankfully, it’s rare for childhood bullying to need that sort of intervention.

What’s Considered Bullying?

Bullying and harassment, especially when adults are involved, can be subtle, hard to pinpoint and consist of many separate incidents which can turn into persistent bullying when they are carried out repeatedly or over a long period of time. It is important to know how you are protected under the Protection From Harassment Act.

If you’re being subjected to any form of unwanted behaviour from a neighbour, it can be described as bullying. It could take the form of constant harassment, physical or verbal abuse. Name calling or teasing constantly can be bullying if they upset you or cause you any distress. Some bullies may choose to simply 'blank' you or spread rumours about you. Serious cases may even involve threatening or anti-social behaviour.

In some cases, neighbourhood bullies can be so subtle and their actions can become so regular that their behaviour can be overlooked. That doesn’t make it right. Long term, bullying can cause mental and physical health problems, and affect your well-being.

What to Do if You’re Being Bullied

The very nature of adult bullies make them hard to reason with. You can try avoiding the culprit and hoping they get bored with annoying you, if the bullying is mild.

Kill them with kindness. If the bully sees you as a threat, try befriending them, even if you don’t want to. If you turn the tables and act as if you’re willing to be friendly, you could get a positive response. Try a friendly 'hello' or offer to help them with something. This might not work, but is worth trying as a first course of action.

Try being assertive, too. Use assertive body language, stand straight, don’t avoid eye contact, and confront them with statements like, "I've noticed that you seem to be trying to bully me and I would like you to stop."

If all else fails, or the bullying becomes serious or physical, involve the authorities.

If there’s a discrimination element (you’re being bullied because of your race, gender, disability, sexuality or religion), contact your local authority who may be able to take action. Some local authorities have Safer Neighbourhood Teams who work with communities to identify and address local concerns.

In some cases, a local authority can apply for a court order against the perpetrator, banning them from carrying out anti-social behaviour, nuisance or threats against you or your household, and even evict them if they carry on.

You may be able to take out a civil injunction against the bully. Take advice from a solicitor about your options and what you need to do if that’s the case. Find out more about the Proection from Harassment Act here.

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Answer to the last comment I have been trying for 20 years to stop the same sort of harassment the parents in question say it's not their little darlings. You might have better luck with the police than I have.
Depressed - 5-Aug-20 @ 2:16 PM
Can someone please guide me if there is anything one can do to avoid being bullied by 9 year old kids in the neighbourhood. Me and my kids are suffering almost every other day due to their verbal attacks. Can someone please tell if there is any way out of it. Even the safe neighbourhood team is unable to coordinate with their parents. It's getting frustrating.
N - 5-Aug-20 @ 1:18 AM
Me again believe I am getting fed up too. Last night at 23.50 I was relaxing in my living room about to fall asleep when I heard shouting, screaming and very loud running which was aimed at me because they always refer me as that woman in that house. I know who it is there is a older more disabled couple the gentleman is alright but his wife thinks I deserved to be harrassed going back I think the ring leader is either a son or grandson of hers. What do have to do go out and physically hurt someone before they and the police get the message that this is out of order. I don't believe in violence and I have never hurt anyone.
Depressed - 4-Aug-20 @ 12:38 PM
A carry on from my last post. It sounded like the same woman from Sunday at 19.20 pm this evening went past my house and said "how are we going t get this cleared up dear, dear". I was trying to cutdown some follage this afternoon. And as my bin was filled up I couldn't throw it away it is only a small pile I assume that is what she is referring to. I have had enough of this constant bullying it s my house and she has no right
Depressed - 28-Jul-20 @ 7:24 PM
Yesterday two women went past my house and "no wonder everyone hates her." Then this morning some kid it sounded like one of the kids who have been harrasing me shouted "bully" as he went past. I hate confrontation because I always feel worse and like I'm in the wrong.
Depressed - 27-Jul-20 @ 10:31 AM
Hello, to whom it may concern, it is not right and unfair when a neighbour bully another neighbour cause they are from different race and don't speak same language. The area where I live, mostly all of the homes are the same race except my household. We get along with most of the neighbour but the neighbour across the street from us and with their guests who visit them, seems to bully us the most. They would purposely park in front of my home when there are spots closer to that house. I know i dont have the right but as a good neigbhour, be considerate and reasonable. There are times, When i get home from work and they are sitting outside, they will say hate words and spread bad rumors. During the pandemic it is getting worse. Everyday there are many visitors to their home. We do not bother any of the neighbours including the neighbour across the street. Neighbour bullying cause we are not from same race is not right. We are human. We just look different outside
Unfair - 25-Jul-20 @ 12:06 AM
my family has moved into this area. I feel like we are being bullying by this neighbour across the street from us. We are only race on the street and the rest of the neighbors are different race but in same culture. I don't want to be racist but it seem like they pick on us mostly than the rest of the neighbour cause we dont speak their language. When this neighbour are outside, sitting and talking to each other, I can hear them saying hate words and spreading words to other people everytime I come home from work. I feel like this neighbor are watching you at your every move so they know when to bother us. They always have their guests park in front of our home *there are other spots that are much closer to this neighbour and this neighbor driveway is available to park but these guests don't. *They purposely park in front of us so we have to beg for their guest to move their car so we can park. We do not even bother any other neighbours and this neighbour. Only time when we ask their guest if they can move so we can park at my home... but when we do ask their guest to move, the guest take their time to move. We ask so many time's if they can kindly not block us or park a bit up more into another space. At least be considerate and reasonable. These people always want to get their way. This have been happening for over 6 years now. Also When you try to fix something up around the outside of your home, they will compete with you aND do the same and will look down on you and spread rumors. We are not competing with them aND we are not trying to show off. We are trying to maintain the home. We don't bother any of thsee neighbor. Just want to come home and relax without any problem.
Stress - 23-Jul-20 @ 1:19 AM
I have a situation with a neighbour who is video taping and antagonizing my dogs.There is a constant threat to call bylaw and there has been screaming.Unfortunately this has resulted in a family member feeling threatened.What I are our rights
Skydive - 21-Jul-20 @ 6:47 PM
The police have to deal with a lot of false claims and notice patterns about false claimants. If there was any evidence a civil court would act. As I can see in this case the only cited evidence for 'years' of abuse involving poo, squirrels and shooting she's mentioned is some recent phone footage of them target shooting with air guns in their own yard. She can't even produce evidence of the apparent count preceding she supposedly won. As if courts award $5000 for neighbours shooting at your property and throwing human waste at you, those are both criminal offenses. Jennifer has an issue with her neighbours and is using poor race relations resulting from BLM protests to attack them on social media. You might end up bullying an innocent family who are unable to resolve a neighbourly dispute because Jennifer has other grievances.
Shelby Azzclapper - 17-Jul-20 @ 10:15 AM
See #StandWithJennifer on twitter What can be done? Police say they have to be harmed to do anything about the neighbor.
Jennifer in Nassau C - 15-Jul-20 @ 12:52 AM
Fed up. Thanks for your support it helps to know I'm not alone. I have called the police because my neighbours little darlings where going in my garden and shouting abuse at me. But of course it wasn't her children. I have even told the police about the fact I'm being harassed. It has been going on for 20 yrs with just me and even longer when my parents where here. The good news is I have almost cleared the air with 2 neighbours. But last week they did start moaning in the middle of the night saying I was being too load but not to me directly. A) I wasn't watching a dvd I was watching something on YouTube and B) my tv was on volume 1 any lower It would be on mute. I just can't win.
Depressed - 14-Jul-20 @ 9:48 PM
My neighbor constantly calls the city on us. First it was my dogs claiming they got out and tried to attack her. Which Never happened. We inherited my deceased mother in laws house and early one morning recently she told my husband she knew his name wasn't on the deed. Well we just got a letter from the tax office. We don't even have to look at her and she's nasty to us for reason. What can we do?
S - 12-Jul-20 @ 9:54 PM
Depressed I'm so sorry to hear this. Just wanted to say I hear you and know how you feel.I am going through something very similar with some idiots who live in my village, they mock me and laugh at me every time they see me inferring that I'm on drugs (I'm not and never have been, but have anxiety and dyspraxia which they seem to have picked up on as something that's 'different' about me and used it as a reason to pick on me). I too was bullied at high school so I know what you mean about it triggering horrible memories and feelings. I live in a tiny town so see them just about every time I leave my house. Anyway I digress, the point is I know exactly how you feel and there is no way you should have to go through this, these people are disgusting for thinking they have the right to go round making people feel this way and deserve to be punished for it quite honestly. I would suggest you go to the authorities and put in a complaint for harassment and explain just how seriously it is affecting you, which is exactly what I'm now planning on doing. We can't let these awful people get away with it and we'll see who's laughing after they find out they are being cautioned by authorities ??
Fed up - 12-Jul-20 @ 12:17 AM
We have neighbours who have made our lives hell for the past year & i don't know what to do.It started with their teenage son throwing lighted cigarettes & matches at a chair we had in our garden & when I told him to stop he called me a c***.His father was in the property & was obviously aware of the situation but chose to ignore it.From then on it has gone from bad to worse.Dogs barking all day as they are left alone at the property then let out in the dead of night.Nights consist of dogs running around & barking in the back garden & neighbours shouting "shut up" at them.I wear earplugs every night & yet still my sleep is disturbed.I am exhausted.They stand at their back door staring at us - the intimidation is unbearable.I have covered our back windows with reflective covering in order for us just to be able to enter the rear of the property without fear of comeback.They smoke constantly so we cannot open our windows as then our house reeks of smoke.We have informed them of this & in response they moved their garden furniture closer to our house so the situation is worse.If we open the front door for fresh air, they move to the front & smoke there.They shout,spit, "play fight ", & use the most foul language in their garden & their extended family regularly come round to intimidate us further.I have informed their landlord but he has not helped.Last weekend my daughter was trying to talk with the woman when her husband came out of the property shouting , using foul language & beingextremely aggressive towards my daughter.She was very shaken up by the incident.At 9.30 that night their daughter, who does not live at the property, banged on our front door shouting abuse .She has now informed my daughters place of work (a school) that my daughter should be subject to a safeguarding due to her (my daughters) behaviour . I no longer feel safe in my own home . I am at a loss what to do.I am physically & mentally exhausted & my daughter is taking medication. We are 2 females on our own. Please help
Scared - 8-Jul-20 @ 12:31 PM
I have a neighbor that has been using the city officials as weapons announomusly for 10 years. The minute I turn down my street i say to my self, welcome to hell. I never know when I'll get that pounding on my door. The 1st time I had just moved in. Someone cut my riding mower belt, almost killing me backwards down 45 degree hill. If I didn't react by jumping off. So my mower sat next to my house. The code enforcement guy banged like a cop, shaking my house. He stood at my door, as i looked through the peep hole, cop truck, cop uniform and he stood right shoulder towards my door, left hand on hidden hip and commanded me, "sir please step outside and let me see your hands." As he started to tell me about the complaint, like in a fog, I slowly noticed him patch said code enforcement, as did his truck. As he turned he had no gun just a stance.I explained that I was home from work passing kidney stones. He said he didn't care. I can say my mind wasn't right between the drugs and the pain. He ordered me around the side of my house which is the only flat spot. He asked about my mowers and said I either fix it in 5 days or its gone, with a fine. He went through my cars and my 85 Camaro that still has the Florida title, on purpose. He said title it in Kentucky, insure it and it better run in 5 days or its gone. He wouldn't let me go to the rest room so at some point I pissed blood all over the sidewalk. He didn't care. He left. I had to go title the car the next day and they said I could get a antique plate for which it can just sit in any condition. 5 days and $1000 later I proved everything was good, gave him the antique plate quote from the DMV. Still in pain and standing in my drive he said, "I dont care about you law paper, i make the law around here boy". He then polked me in the chest and said in 5 days. I wrote a letter to the chief of police and I never heard from him again. For the next 10 years I would get random calls and a city official would knock, for which I refuse to answer my door. I check my security camera and if I don't know them, leave a note. Same for deliveries or phone calls. Recently I built a shed in my 45 degree backyard, for which I was visited by a city official about permits. I paid for the permit and I had a metal shed on the flat side yard I was told I need a permit or take it down. I paid for that permit as well. I decided to built a real wooden 12x12 shed. We argued over an aluminium shed as a shed but since I can pick it up (no floor) and move it that its not a shed but it was easier to pay. As I started to build, I was shutdown by yet another city official. I said I have a permit for my other shed. She got back to me saying there is no record of it. I wasn't able to find it. I'm 54 and diabetic so my vision is not real good so Its hard for me to read things. I spent 3 nights going through files. I did go through all the trouble to get a copy of the cancelled check. She said that doesnt prove it was for a sh
Empty - 4-Jul-20 @ 11:57 PM
My parents bought my home 62 years ago.I grew up here andI moved back after my mother’s death 23 years ago. A few years before Mum died a young couple bought the house next door. At first everything was OK but then problems started because of their constant offensive language and the fact they left 2 big dogs barking all day ,as well as things like boundary issues and the dumping of rubbish behind an old stone wall across a narrow path from our garden.We all helped her and spoke to the couple and things seemed to calm down. When I moved in I got on OK with the neighbours at first and was in work most of the time but over the years the problems have come back so much so that we don’t speak anymore. In the time I have lived here some of the things I have had to cope with are rubbish left for months on end in the lane acrossthe end of my garden and more fly tipping behind the wall, dirty water and dregs from their 5 large bins flooding the lane,a washing machine being drained into the lane, dogs left in the house for a week while they went on holiday, whining and barking at night until someone went around to feed and let them out once a day. I've hadthreatening notes left on my car when one of the other neighbours reported them to the RSPCA for keeping 2 dogs in a green house during a snowy winter, They have taken things from my garden, or not returned anything that may have blown over. Young teenagers and their friends were left alone every Friday and Saturday night partying until the early hours of the morning while their mother was staying with her boyfriend after her divorce, guttering for an extension was cut into the side of my house without any discussion or any adherence to the Party Wall Act, builders dug under the border and failing to replace a retaining wall to contain my soil, hammering and drilling sometimes until 1 a.m., spreading their cars out to save spaces for each other, an abusive note sent form their 18 year old daughter because I moved my car outside my house to unload it after she drove off, if I ever park outside their house the woman tries to intimidate me by parking inches away from my car for the next couple of weeks. They have reached over about a meter into my garden to cut chunks out of my shrubs even though these are always kept cut back well away from their fence. This is only ever done when I’m not here and this has stopped me going out as I’m worried about what they’ll do next. I reported them for criminal damage the last time but they tell visitors and make out I'm in the wrong and laugh about it now. These are just a few of the problems and because I live alone and hate confrontation I have only ever spoken to her about the most serious of these issues such as the kids or rubbish. I used to feel sorry for this woman because her first husband was a drinker but other neighbours told me she was the one who drove him to drink, and after he leftit became apparent that she was the real bully and her new h
Anonymous - 3-Jul-20 @ 8:59 AM
My parents bought my home 62 years ago.I grew up here andI moved back here after my mother’s death 23 years ago A few years before she died a young couple bought the house next door. At first everything was OK but then problems started because of their constant offensive language and the fact they left 2 big dogs barking all day ,as well as things like boundary issues and the dumping of rubbish behind an old stone wall across a narrow path from our garden.We all helped her and spoke to the couple and things seemed to calm down. When I moved in I got on OK with the neighbours at first and was in work most of the time, but over the years the problems have come back so much so that we don’t speak anymore. In the time I have lived here some of the things I have had to cope with are • Rubbish left for months on end in the lane across the end of my garden and more fly tipping behind a 100 year old wall in the lane • Dirty water and dregs from their 5 large bins flooding the lane • A washing machine being drained into the lane • Dogs left in the house for a week while they went on holiday, so alone at night, whining and barking until someone went around to feed and let them out once a day. • threatening notes left on my car when one of the other neighbours reported them to the RSPCA for keeping 2 dogs in a green house during a snowy winter • things being taken from my garden, or not returned if blown over - only trivial but annoying • young teenagers and their friends left alone every Friday and Saturday night partying until the early hours of the morning while their mother was staying with her boyfriend after her divorce. • guttering for an extension cut into the side of my house without any discussion or any adherence to the Party Wall Act • builders digging under the border and failing to replace a retaining wall to contain my soil. • hammering and drilling until 1 a.m. on Boxing Night. • spreading their cars out to save spaces for each other and stop me parking • an abusive note sent form their 18 year old daughter because I moved my car outside my house to unload it after she drove off • if I do ever park outside their house the woman tries to intimidate me by parking inches away from my car even if she has lots of space. • reaching over the fence about 1.5minto my garden to cut chunks out of my shrubs even though these are always kept cut back well away from their fence. This is only ever done when I’m not here and this has stopped me going out as I’m worried about what they’ll do next. • 2 days of constant verbal abuse when I refused to let them take an old boundary fence down because they threatened to rip up my shrubs as well These are just a few of the problems and because I live alone and hate confrontation I have only ever spoken to her about the most serious of these such as the kids or rubbish. I used to feel sorry for this woman because her first husband was a drinker but other neighbours told me she was the
Anonymous - 2-Jul-20 @ 1:00 PM
I have had a couple of neighbours around after I sent the letters. And both have said it isn't them. I feel bad now but I had to get it out my system.
Depressed - 1-Jul-20 @ 4:44 PM
I think the neighbours are ganging up on me again. I am trying my hardest to sort out my garden. I have a gardening bin that gets emptied every 2 weeks. I have filled it up but I still have clippings. Whatever I do it is not good enough. She is going around all the neighbours to make a complaint I think. I live on my own and I have nobody to defend me. I tell my family who live on the other side Leicester and they think I am being paranoid ut I know I'm not. I really can't take anymore can anyone help me
Depressed - 1-Jul-20 @ 1:04 PM
I have a neighbour upstairs in our block,and everytime I try to use my disability shower,he "if he's on his own",or has his mates around stamp their heels into the ceiling,until my shower stops.I haven't had one for a week so far because of it,I just cant take anymore.I cant leave my flat,for fear of being broken into,because he deals drugs and the amount of customers he's had coming back and for.I wont even take my dog for a walk,or in the communal garden.What a lovely life for a single woman of 51 and suffers disabilities.This tenant has caused problems for me since I moved in 6 and half yes ago.Leaving this block and disgusting street cant come quick enough for me.
md - 30-Jun-20 @ 11:42 PM
Our obnoxious neighbours of just over 5 years have all but moved out! Yippee. From Day 1 we have had to suffer bullying, harassment, criminal damage, new fence of 3 months cracked, an attempt to smash me in the face with his crutch, door chipped by lots of stones and branches thrown at it,outside light broken by one of numerous balls kicked at our door and windows, a dirty nappy and dog poo thrown in our garden, dirty water thrown at my clean washing, door and windows, awful verbal abuse, threats to kill me and flood our house, noise from their 4 kids beyond a tolerable level, heard more than 10 houses away inside their house, and listening and spying on us or any visitors we get all the time. They come out to smoke every time I open the door or gate, usually he says "shes out there", she comes out to smoke, this takes place 3 feet from our window. She knows I am asthmatic, threw her butts in our garden, puffed smoke in my face when passing, and has banged on the wall when I coughed as I had bronchitis, but says its a fake cough. All during the lockdown they and their friends opposite have never kept their distance. In fact the friends came over to cuddle the kids on a daily basis! The female friend claims to be a care worker for the vulnerable! Now she has all but gone, she has possibly started spreading lies about me on our village facebook page! Someone wanted to know if the rumours about cats and dogs being poisoned is true, as she is shortly moving into the village. Her reply did not specifically name anyone, but it is apparent to several I know who she is referring to. 1st post: 2 cats were poisoned in the village in the same road 2 houses apart. Thats proof it happens in the village. 2nd post: there is a particular neighbour who shall we say is not a fan of people and will stop at nothing. 3rd post: not scaremongering at all. Cat intentionally poisoned is a fact. 4th post 2 cats were down (our road name), towards end of last year 2 houses apart. 5th post: yes it was reported! Then neighbour other side chimed in, saying their cat was poisoned last Nov same week as neighbour one door down. First neighbour is a compulsive liar, she has claimed to have the virus, while allowing friends in house, chain smoking and going shopping, to have broken her foot, no bandage or cast on foot, no bruising, hardly a limp. She claims her children have all sorts wrong with them, one cannot play in the garden due to a bone problem, but has regularly been on the trampoline, (next to our window, and we were overlooked in the house and garden, younger kid saying "is Cathy out there?"), another to be severely asthmatic, but all their kids scream and screech all day long. This neighbour hardly gets on with anyone, I think only about 4 lots of people, has complained about anything and everything, usually parking, especially if we have workmen who park on our drive or one of the public spaces. They even had the police called on them by people opposite after a very
CathyB - 30-Jun-20 @ 6:15 PM
Why did it grown when sticking up for myself. After my neighbour and his family blocked the shared driveway for 30th time I made a complaint and now non stop harassment. He glares into my house, glares at my parents coming and going, stands at his door and stares at me. They said this was all my fault !! He has also pushed into my mum and was almost going to attack me. He and his wife rent their property but the housing association will do nothing. I had to install a door bell camera and wear a body camera as I feel so unsafe coming and going from my house.
TMAC - 26-Jun-20 @ 8:08 PM
I am sorry to bore everyone on this website but I have to physically get my worries and upset about my bullying neighbours in some form of writing. Today I ended up crying because they were talking and laughing about me yet again. It is either I write it down or I'm going to go around and give them a mouth full then they have won. I fed up with feeling like this everyday. I'm already on anti depressants and I can't take this anymore it's like being back at school. Nobody cares about my feelings apparently I don't have any.
Depressed - 24-Jun-20 @ 3:20 PM
I made a comment yesterday that seems to have been removed, but since yesterday when my neighbour found out that I had put up my story,things have suddenly improved and the bullying, abuse, harrassement and intimidation seems to have stopped.
MADDY - 24-Jun-20 @ 3:13 PM
I can't believe in this age of equality there are still ignorant people especially black and transgender people. No one should be living in fear or have to move of because who they are and what they do in their own home. The way soc, kaz and jenna are being treated is disgusting.
Depressed - 18-Jun-20 @ 9:20 PM
I live with my boyfriend in Atlanta Georgia, I have lived in this neighborhood apartment complex 2 months short of 2 years. It has been a slow decline with my relationship and any interactions with my neighbors quickly turns sour. We have gotten a lot of complaints for arguing and fighting and that has really subsided but my manager has her picks who inform her of everything they see. However now it seems everyone in this neighborhood likes to start sh@$ in some way. They all just are constantly bad mouthing my man and it is as though they have all ganged up on us. It is very ridiculous how these people act they try to get all in your business, truthfully they no nothing about us. My neighbors daughter comes over a lot and there is starting to be confrontations with her. I am not used to living like this, I grew up in a middle class family and I am living in neighborhood that has changed due to gentrification, it used to be really bad area. I am caucasian and I am transgender. I got breast implants since I have lived here and its always something being said about me. I feel so uncomfortable and I know most of this discomfort is because of my bad relationship. Most people didnt know about my situation until my boyfriend started screaming it out when he was drinking early on. I am at a point where things I used to could deal with, I can't anymore. The confrontations are ongoing with my boyfriend and now with the neighbors. I fantasize about leaving this relationship/abandoning everything and moving on. It has become to much to bear. I may be gone by the end of this month. I hope to find some type of solace from some article I scroll upon after searching things like...unequality in a relationship, how to leave a relationship, dealing with nosey neighbors....good luck everyone your in my prayers..lets give it to the Lord!!
Jenna - 18-Jun-20 @ 1:29 AM
I have been threatened by one of my neighbours telling me to watch my back as she's warning me that another neighbour is going to report me because I have a friend close and I went to his house to help strip some wallpaper.its the 1st I had been out in 12 weeks as I am in sheilding. But he is the only friend or family I have and mentally I feel very depressed.both the 2 neighbours watch everything that's going on everyday to the point where the minute I open my door 1 of them is out to see why my door is open.he told me he can here my step move which I find a bit freaky the other 1 just sits by the window and involves herself in everyone's life.i feel totally trappedin my own house and dont want to live here now.
Dena - 17-Jun-20 @ 11:22 AM
Hi, just hoping for some advice as to what I can do. I moved into my house in November last year I have just started to have work done on my garden. There were two very large 50 foot conifers at the back of the garden they were dangerous and they blocked any light from getting into my living room. I hired a professional tree surgeon to have them cut down he said he would have to check for any nests and if there were any he wouldn’t he able to cut them down until the nests were gone. He came and checked and there were no nests so I had them cut down. As they were in my garden i did not think I would have to ask any of the neighbours about having them removed. I got home from work on Saturday to find my neighbour at the side of me has put an extension on his fence taking it to 9 and a half foot. It looks so unsightly from my side as it is backed with ugly black plastic. I tried to have a discussion about it with them and explained how awful it looks on my side I was really nice about it as I hate confrontation and wanted to keep it friendly. He told me that I had ruined his house by having the trees cut down and he liked them for privacy. He said he only bought his house because of them two trees in my garden which I find hard to believe! I explained to him they were dangerous and took up a lot of space in my garden and he started becoming very confrontational. He asked me if i had a brain. There is no reasoning with them and I get the feeling that they like to intimidate people to get their own way. The man particularly strikes me as a bit of a bully. I now feel I can’t have anything done in my front or back garden because I am scared there will be an issue. I love my house and the neighbours it’s just one set of neighbours that have a problem. All my others neighbours are glad I have had them cut down because It has made their houses so much lighter. I don’t want conflicts with my neighbours but they are being so unreasonable and now I have to look at the 9 and a half foot eye sore he has put up it’s ruined my garden and blocks light coming in.
S - 15-Jun-20 @ 11:03 PM
I went out in my back garden at 8.50 am to 10.30am cutting it down. My gardening wheelie bin is already full so I can't put any more cuttings until tomorrow when it gets emptied. I heard my neighbours moaning. One said to the other it takes more than 5 minutes. And then the neighbour directly at the house next door went out to inspect. Even though I am trying to cut my garden to please them they still aren't happy. I feel like I'm on eggshells all the time.
Depressed - 15-Jun-20 @ 2:43 PM
I have a meoghbour who has been threatening and intimidating since the day I bought my flat 18 years ago.My parents loved here for about 9 years while inwas out of country and they were equally vile to them.They constantly slam their front door which shakes my flats. They are loud, smoke weed which permeates into my flat through the floor boards.Throughout lockdown they have broken the social distancing rules.If I retaliate and shout for them to stop slamming the door I get a barrage of abuse through the floor. I have just recorded the latest rant.Being called various nasty names.I work.from.home so they assume I'm not working as I dont leave the house regularly. Everything is on their terms. No respect for anyone else.The abuse they put my parents through was horrendous.They did report it and keep records but nothing was ever done. At the end of my tether to be honest. Really dont know where to go or who to speak to.If I report them it will only get worse.They have no respect for authority whatsoever.
Soc - 11-Jun-20 @ 4:20 PM
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