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Being Bullied by a Neighbour? What You Can Do

By: Sarah Clark (ILEX) - Updated: 25 Apr 2017 | comments*Discuss
 
Bully Bullies Neighbour Harassment

If you, or anyone in your household, feel as though you’re being bullied in your neighbourhood or even your own home, it can potentially make your life unbearable. You have the right to feel safe in your own neighbourhood and protected from harassment, so don’t let a bully take that away from you or your loved ones.

Children Being Bullied

Bullying is a common problem, especially with children. In some cases, a bullying incident may be a one-off, a trivial falling out between children, and isn’t necessarily anything to worry about.

Listen to what your child is saying about the bullies and keep an eye on the situation. It may all blow over.In the meantime, arm your children with strategies to deal with the actions the bullies are taking, such as trying to ignore minor things, asking the bully to stop, and telling an adult.

If a child is being picked on frequently, you could try walking with them to school, supervising play areas or speaking to the parents of the bully or bullies and trying to resolve the issues amicably.

In very serious cases, or examples where there have been actual physical violence, it might be possible as a last resort to take out a restraining order, making the parents and the bullies stay away from your child. If the situation has become that serious or dangerous, it’s advisable to involve the police, get some information on your legal options, and consult a lawyer. Thankfully, it’s rare for childhood bullying to need that sort of intervention.

What’s Considered Bullying?

Bullying and harassment, especially when adults are involved, can be subtle, hard to pinpoint and consist of many separate incidents which can turn into persistent bullying when they are carried out repeatedly or over a long period of time. It is important to know how you are protected under the Protection From Harassment Act.

If you’re being subjected to any form of unwanted behaviour from a neighbour, it can be described as bullying. It could take the form of constant harassment, physical or verbal abuse. Name calling or teasing constantly can be bullying if they upset you or cause you any distress. Some bullies may choose to simply 'blank' you or spread rumours about you. Serious cases may even involve threatening or anti-social behaviour.

In some cases, neighbourhood bullies can be so subtle and their actions can become so regular that their behaviour can be overlooked. That doesn’t make it right. Long term, bullying can cause mental and physical health problems, and affect your well-being.

What to Do if You’re Being Bullied

The very nature of adult bullies make them hard to reason with. You can try avoiding the culprit and hoping they get bored with annoying you, if the bullying is mild.

Kill them with kindness. If the bully sees you as a threat, try befriending them, even if you don’t want to. If you turn the tables and act as if you’re willing to be friendly, you could get a positive response. Try a friendly 'hello' or offer to help them with something. This might not work, but is worth trying as a first course of action.

Try being assertive, too. Use assertive body language, stand straight, don’t avoid eye contact, and confront them with statements like, "I've noticed that you seem to be trying to bully me and I would like you to stop."

If all else fails, or the bullying becomes serious or physical, involve the authorities.

If there’s a discrimination element (you’re being bullied because of your race, gender, disability, sexuality or religion), contact your local authority who may be able to take action. Some local authorities have Safer Neighbourhood Teams who work with communities to identify and address local concerns.

In some cases, a local authority can apply for a court order against the perpetrator, banning them from carrying out anti-social behaviour, nuisance or threats against you or your household, and even evict them if they carry on.

You may be able to take out a civil injunction against the bully. Take advice from a solicitor about your options and what you need to do if that’s the case. Find out more about the Proection from Harassment Act here.

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My neighbor has threatened me messed with my electric bring drink and drugs to the house he picks on everyone in the house brakes windows brings drug dealers to the house. The list goes on and on he picks on who ever he sees he hsd ago at the lady that delivers my parcles one day just because he had to much to drink yet again you call the landlord he does nothing call the old bill they dont even come round to help i do t know what to do its making me ill all the stress when i leave my flat will he have ago at me hes pinched my post aswell taking signs down that i have put up for the post man its a joke
Locket - 25-Apr-17 @ 11:23 PM
L - Your Question:
A neighbour has been sending me threatening and abusive letters, some anonymous and making threats for almost 3 years. I have complained to police, the housing provider and the anti social behaviour officer at my local council. All they say is that she is not to send me anonymous letters. She came to my house for no reason day before yesterday, thrust her forefinger against my face and screamed at the top of her voice "How dare you!" (I don't know what I am accuse of, as I have neither said nor done anything to her. What can I do to protect myself against her. I am really frightened that next time she will physically attack me.

Our Response:
If you're concerned for your safety, you should contact your local police.
ProblemNeighbours - 20-Mar-17 @ 2:22 PM
A neighbour has been sending me threatening and abusive letters, some anonymous and making threats for almost 3 years. I have complained to police, the housing provider and the anti social behaviour officer at my local council. All they say is that she is not to send me anonymous letters. She came to my house for no reason day before yesterday, thrust her forefinger against my face and screamed at the top of her voice "How dare you!" (I don't know what I am accuse of, as I have neither said nor done anything to her. What can I do to protect myself against her. I am really frightened that next time she will physically attack me.
L - 17-Mar-17 @ 11:03 PM
So to put a long story short I have lived in my current place for almost 5 years the problems started due to my down stairs neighbours mum who doesn't even live in my street. My neighbour has been nice to me and knew me when I was child but his mum constantly harasses me and my partner. She constantly gives my partner and I dirty looks and will give us abuse for my dog been outside in my garden after I have taken her for a walk we let her run around the garden before we bring her in the house. We also have something in place to stop the dog from escaping the garden and the neighbours mum moves it to her sons back garden so I have to lift it back up and it is quite heavy. I spoke to her once about what she has been doing and she just started giving me abuse. I then spoke to my neighbour and he said he would speak to her about it but nothing has changed and I am at a complete lose on what I should do.
Lou - 25-Feb-17 @ 11:10 PM
We have suffered this over the last 11 years, police have visited numerous times and done nothing, it involves the neighbour across the street. Started with parking, we parked outside our own house, he didn't like it so parked his only car there (he has a drive for 4 cars) for the next 7 years, if anyone from our house parks there he is out staring and shouting. He has jumped on my mothers car bonnet because she parked there. Constantly staring at me. Constantly staring at anyone who visits our house. Stands in the window or on his drive just eyeballing you. We have cctv and he had calmed down, but now is starting again due to lights from our car shining on his house when we back down the drive (they are on auto) never seems to close his curtains though. I think the guy is after a fight, just a general dislike for us. Any advice appreciated.
JS - 23-Feb-17 @ 8:08 PM
Dee - Your Question:
I am being harassed daily in my area.We own our home and in area they throw rocks daily and abuse us everyday. I have had to uthinaise 3 dogs because they became severely distressed. I have children who are frightened and don't feel comfortable at all but they love home. They threaten to bash us,steel our vehicles and it's hard for the police to always attend because they are busy.The people who harass us are adults and children. We need help

Our Response:
Speak to your local police again or to your police community support officer.Ask them for advice on what they and you can do to alleviate this problem.
ProblemNeighbours - 8-Feb-17 @ 1:45 PM
I am being harassed daily in my area.We own our home and in area they throw rocks daily and abuse us everyday. I have had to uthinaise 3 dogs because they became severely distressed. I have children who are frightened and don't feel comfortable at all but they love home. They threaten to bash us,steel our vehicles and it's hard for the police to always attend because they are busy.The people who harass us are adults and children. We need help
Dee - 7-Feb-17 @ 11:20 AM
I am sick and tired of neighbours making false accusations about and my son saying I'm a racist or homophobic and making malicious. Calls to social services. Recently I fell down some stairs in comunial and fell into my neighbour. Who accused me of hitting her and said I'm a racist I used to get on with this polish lady but she always kept on about other neighbours. Saying untrue hurtful things about me and my son.all this stress has caused me to have seizures and just been diagnosed with epilepsy my son has autism. And is constantly. Been called a mong and a spaz by neighbours in our area I am not violent we just want to live our lives in peace these neighbours always get away with harassing us. Police told us we make ourselves vulnerable. And police accused me of been drunk and drugs.I am taking epilepsy medicinekeppra and clonazepam I do not drink and have never smoked or done drugs. I'm so upset. Please help any advice would be appreciated
Zozo - 7-Feb-17 @ 12:31 AM
My neighbor is causing issue since I moved into the property. First time when she started it was when I renewed my windows in my extension. She stopped my builders from working and they run off with my money. Then she was complaining about a tree in my garden which was in the middle of my 95 f garden and had nothing to do with her. To stop all the issue I cut the tree down even though I loved the tree which has cost me again money. Now she done a loft extension and forcing me to pay for the surveyor which was employed to have her extension done. Now I have claimed it at court but last night she has emailed me saying she will go to debt collection if I do not pay. Every night and day she emails me or post letters or does something what cause stress. I don't know where to get the right support for this kind of harassment. I'm in strong believe it has to do with my nationality. Can someone help me or point me to a right direction. I need to face bulling since I was a kid I cannot deal with this anymore. I'm single and working full time when I come home I just want to rest and have time for my self and not deal with this families who drives me to nuts. Please can someone help me. Many thanks in advance Rathy
Rathy - 31-Jan-17 @ 10:06 AM
been living in my house for 26 years , privately owned,people down road put buildings up with no planning permission, i reported themthey slagged me off to the girl nextwho also talked about me in the street to others and blackened my and my husbands name,she put a tall fence up all round garden and her builder came into my garden without permission, things have escalated since then a fall out with another neighbourwhos accused me of identity theft, talked about me to others again , and im feeling quite suicidal about it all now, dont get me wrong i wont do anythingi wouldnt give them the pleasure of getting rid of me. 2 neighbours came uninvited into my house and verbally abused me and threatened me and wont speak to me now to discuss this, the one neighbour had a key as she was avery good friend and looked after my animals and was always paid well but shes suddenly turned on me . ok she let me order something in her namebut i paid for it with my own money, but without thinking when i ordered something else it was done automatically in her name but as i had it on easypayshe says i stole her id, i sent the item back and had a refund never ever used any of her cardsetc, and the company have confirmed it, account now closed but shess still blabkening my name and i feel theyre all talking about me.its making me illive been to the police and they said theyd go and see her but she wouldnt open the door she never does.i also have a cctv camera that neighbours say is illegal its not its looking at a road opposite me .i have checked with the installers
shorty - 26-Jan-17 @ 7:44 PM
my parents put up with loud music from their neighbours son along with the daughters dog barking constantly .One she could not leave in her own house a sthe neighbours commplained. they went on holiday a couple of times a yr and the daughter had parties. my parents were in their late 70's going into their 80's. after my mum passed my i had move in with my dad as he was terrified of being on his own. since he has passed away i have my son and hisgirlfriend who had an accident thats left her totally deaf in 1 ear and partially deaf in the other. I dont watch much tv....put play the radio through it ....its not blaring that bad as i have asked a couple of other neighbours what they thought and they both agree its not that loud. I have had my back garden used as an ashtray and cigarette burns on my washing. I night the son had 2 prostitutes in and they were at the door wanting to fight with the girl. After speaking to the neighbour she put a table and chair at her window and started watching us going in and out. as a result i have put up a6 foot fence. so we then had the son playing guitars in his room at stupid oclock in the morning.They bang doors at 5 in the morning and have their tv on the wall. They have all sorts coming and going and they have now put a camera up at the window so when i go to work they are coming and chapping the door to shout at this poor girl. I cant prove its on my property but its too much of a coincidence. This is my parents house and i dont want to move both houses are bought . can you please advise if there is anywhere i can get some support as i am fed up with the intimidation
downhearted - 12-Dec-16 @ 1:19 PM
My mother is in her 90's and needs constant supervision. She has been in hospital 3 times of late with her heart. Her Neighbourgets his son and friendsto park across her drive so we cannot get in with our car to attend to her needs in the night and day. The last episode was this Friday when they blocked her drive and remained their to Sunday Evening. I talked to the neighbour and he just smiled and said his mate was pissed and couldn't drive. When I asked him to move it , he claimed his mate had lost his keys. Which is the same excuse he with a smile has given before. We feel that mum might not last much longer and she is so upset at this bullies stance. We called the Police today and they said it is only an offence if he blocks us in. I explained that if this had happened recently when mum had her stroke she would have most probably have died as they wouldn't have got her in the ambulance on time.
paul - 27-Nov-16 @ 3:55 PM
Also please explain what you mean by anti social behavior that apparently we have been causing? Is watching tv anti social behavior? Or is going to the toilet anti social behavior? or even walking to and from another room anti social behavior? So the other tenants live in the same flat as us and no how our door works is that what you're trying to say? So every time we go out our front door we will have to do it slowly to keep the tenant below us happy. Well I'm sorry but then you will need to send someone in to fix our door because I will not be spending 5 minutes trying to close a door slowly which is pathetic. So unless you have real evidence and not word of mouth do not send threatening eviction emails to us again. Thank you so much for not replying to any other part of the email I sent you and tomorrow morning I will going to someone above yourself to deal with this situation since it seems you are incapable of addressing real problems and you are now making false accusations about us. Thanks you I know it's a long read but I'm just looking for some advice if anyone has any
E410474 - 14-Nov-16 @ 9:54 PM
questioning why we walked in our spare room, saying that "we're at it with the noise", saying we were lying about the wasps yet there was over 200 dead ones in all the landings. Saying that every single neighbor in this block is fed up with us. Asking us why we feel the need to hoover up every evening when we get home from work. Also saying we use our toilet too much. She also questioned why on Saturdays we feel the need to go out and come back in early in the mornings. I asked her if the "noise" was that bad why hadn't she just came to our door and spoke to us or phone the police to which I got an angry reply which she called us pathetic children trying to play families. I don't appreciate being intimidated and shouted at by an older woman in her 50's when I'm only 21 years old. As you can imagine I'm not happy with this situation and the way we are being treated. Without evidence you should not be sending us emails threatening us to be evicted. You have took the woman below us side without contacting us and asking us ourselves. I would recommend telling the woman below not to speak to us again as I don't appreciate her being aggressive towards us or I will be phoning the police for harassment and feeling threatened. I would also recommend you to tell her to record the "excessive noise" or actually phone the police to have hard evidence. To which I will be installing a cctv monitor in our living room by the end of the week to record 24/7 to prove there is no "excessive noise" coming from our flat. As I have stated before I completely understand that we live in a block of flats and have neighbors and have to respect them but they also have to respect us as well regardless of what age we are. As you can imagine I am not very happy with this situation and being bullied for us being younger. If this bullying continues I will be taking this further but I will not be bullied out of our flat that we pay for every month just like everyone else. If or when you decide to email back I will be expecting an apology rather than a threatening eviction email. 5 hours later he replied this Afternoon We have an obligation to all tenants regarding anti social behaviour. This has been reported by more than one person hence why my email has been sent. With regards the communal door the other tenants have stated it does bang if it is left to close by itself but if this is shut carefully it creates no noise. Moving forward I have asked the complainants to get a Ref number from the police when issues are raised regarding noise so these are logged correctly but hopefully this will be the end of the matter. Regards So I then replied this Good afternoon Steven, I actually find your email back insulting and degrading to be quite honest. Please tell me what exactly the problem is? It is "excessive noise" or now as you are saying "anti social behavior"? Also please explain what you mean by anti social behavior that apparently we
E410474 - 14-Nov-16 @ 9:51 PM
because her bedroom is below our spare room so I'll make sure from now on we don't use our spare room to keep her happiness up. She also has a problem with the way we shut our front door so I believe that would be up to yourselves to fix as it bangs when it shuts and there is nothing we can do about that. Our floorboards are also quite creaky so that would be up to yourselves to fix as well to keep the woman below happy. I also find it quite hard to believe that there is "excessive noise" coming from our flat considering my partner is away working the majority of the time so it is just myself in the flat which I work 5 days a week and i leave this flat every morning at 6:30am and don't get back until 6pm so that's how i find it quite hard to believe. At the weekends we either stay in or we go out which seems to be an issue either way because if we go out and come back late at night then there is problem but if we stay in and don't go out there is also a problem as she stated yesterday. So please give me your opinion on what we should do if she's not happy with us going out or staying in? Should we live somewhere else but still pay monthly for this flat because that seems to be the only way this issue will be dealt with. I also understand very clearly that we live in a block flat and have neighbors and have to respect others but that also means other people need to respect us as well so if us sitting up late at night watching tv is going to be an issue then I think the tenant below should highly consider giving her notice as we are not going to be bullied out of our flat. I am very upset with what has happened and the way we are getting treated which is due to us being younger. I think it's a bit of joke how you can email us straight away about "excessive noise" but yet can't seem to do anything for long enough about a wasp infestation in our flat or our washing machine breaking. This is the second time we have had a neighbor shout at us which to me I think is very rude and shows the lack of respect our neighbors have for us being younger instead of coming and chapping our door and having a civil conversation like adults. The first time our neighbor above us started screaming at us from his window when we walked outside when we were going to work for the way we shut our front door. But yet he's allowed to do that but nothing can be done about him trying to walk into our flat because he's that out his face or playing his music and drums full blast all day and night and growing drugs in his flat. I find it funny how that doesn't interest yourselves as once when I phoned up and said about him nothing could be done by yourselves. We haven't had a problem or encounter with our neighbor above us since he shouted at us as we no longer close any door that is in our flat to keep him happy. This time we have had our neighbor come at us quite intimidatingly and cause a scene and shout at us in the hall questioning why we walked in our spa
E410474 - 14-Nov-16 @ 9:48 PM
Hi there looking for a bit of advice. I'm 21 years old and me and my boyfriend moved into our first flat together about 4 months ago and we've had problems since we moved in with the neighbor below us. At the weekend there we had my sister and her boyfriend up to watch the UFC. None of us were drinking as my sister doesn't drink. We literally just sat and watched tv all night. The next evening me and my partner were walking out of our flat and the neighbor below came out of her door and started screaming at us saying she was going to our landlord, asking why we were awake during the night, asking why we walked into our spare room, calling us names saying the noise is a joke. Saying it's every weekend which isn't true because we've been out the last few weekends which I told her and she was like well I can hear you shut your door after you get in from a night out (our front door is a fire door and to shut it it bangs) so today we got an email from the letting agency saying this Morning We have had several complaints from the building regarding excessive noise issues relating to your property, if this continues we will be serving notice on the property and you will be removed. Several of our tenants have stated they will be giving notice on theirproperties which would result in a significant financial cost to ourselves please accept this as a final warning. Please read section 3.2 of your tenancy agreement. To which I have replied Further to our phone call I'm not happy with our conversation. We actually feel bullied and have felt bullied since we moved in here. I find it quite insulting to have an email sent to us and not even a phone call. To also give us a final warning is a joke. Where is the first, second or third warning? We have also phoned the police and asked them if there has been a complaint made about us and there has been none made. We also asked them if someone was to phone up and complain about noise would they come out? There answer was yes they would have to follow it up. So i don't understand how on the phone you could say to me that they wouldn't come out and it would have to be dealt with by yourselves. I also don't believe that it would have been 3 tenants that have phoned up and complained when there is only 1 tenant below us? We also spoke to our neighbors next door and they haven't phoned up so I'm a bit confused? So unless the tenant above us can hear us walking about I find it quite impossible. I didn't realize there was a rule that we are not allowed to be awake after a certain time and watch our tv. If our tv was too loud then our neighbor below us should have came to us at the time not the next day when we were walking down the stairs to start shouting at us and questioning why we were walking about. I also didn't realize we weren't allowed to walk about our own flat that we pay monthly for. The woman below us also seems to have an issue with us walking into our spare roo
E410474 - 14-Nov-16 @ 9:43 PM
I live in housing association house the area is nice the street is nice. There is just one family that wreaks it. The kids are cheeky and bully my kids. Have fell out with the parents as they don't believe there kids do wrong. Parents would walk up and down pass my living room window make you feel intimadtes . Not nice family and they get away with everything. If you even tell the housing assocarion. They just ring the family up and make it worst. Housing don't care about you.They have a handbook with all these rules in it about social behaver . This family has broken alot of these rules. Yet still get away with everything.And ive suffer metal illness because of them. Yet housing still don't care . It's a joke! !
p1nky - 11-Nov-16 @ 4:27 PM
Hello I am not from civilized country,I'm from Pakistan. I am suffering from trouble maker neighbours and whole street fellows who are sponsored by my aunt. My aunt is our big enemy since 40 plus years. She continuely harassing, poising neighborhood's ears from 40 years. We migrated to other city but her devil sources 24/7 chases us. We had same harrassment issue and With extremely dangerous neibhours. They throw breaks in our House, throw stones,cut electricity,don't let us get gas electric bills. From morning till night and in whole night neibhours hitt the walls makes terrible noises. If we open the door they fight by putting false allegations and starts abusing and hitting. There is so much to tell which is impossible, but after changing tenth city and several houses with same situation my hope is dead with peace. I've one years old baby she has got life threatsI am being chased where Ever I go. Here no law and no humanity everyone religiouly help cruels and ruin vulnerable. I went to UK and in second visit I decided to seek asylum but my enemies did so much help so we could not win.my aunt involved my brothers wife,my two sisters who always betrayed people and immigration. We are totally hopeless
Sam - 20-Oct-16 @ 8:58 PM
ive got a problem with a neighbour and we have only lived in this property for 4 months he has already had 3 written warning from our housing association and now we are having environmental health involved to try and get him evicted but now instead of making noise at night he is doing it during the day making it unbearable to be in our home at all, we are now being intimidated because the housing association decided to ring him and ask him IF he was doing what we reported of course he denied it and now is winding us up - he screams foul language at the top of his voice, does screamed yawning at the top of his voice which can be heard as clear as day and at some points can be heard outside and banging on the adjoining wall as he goes up and down the stairs - according to our housing association the yawning is daily living despite the fact its so loud it can be heard outside and yelled at the top of his voice im now at my wits end with it - his friends are stopping outside my house and staring up at my windows from across the road I really don't know what to do anymore because housing association don't seem to want to do their job properly and he keeps having violent arguments with random people and throwing stuff at the adjoining wall as well and I have a partner with ADHD and I don't know what to do anymore I cant move because we spent all our savings on this place and me and my partner don't work because I look after him with him being in hospital at the moment
CazzApril13 - 17-Oct-16 @ 12:15 PM
Thanks @Happy for your comments and I agree that people suffer greatly from problems with their neighbours, but to make a sweeping statement about all children having no respect is an insultto those of us who encounter incredibly nice, respectful children on a daily basis.
GetaLife - 29-Sep-16 @ 11:49 AM
Her getalife, you seem to have had a sense of humor failure buddy! Try removing that bug from your butt and chill. Neighbors can be bullies and their kids too or perhaps you are one of those parents who lets their kids disrespect other folks because you are too lazy and politically correct to bother. Hey and this is a bullying section, know what it's like to be bullied? Guess not, go watch some comedy, think you need it.
99problems - 28-Sep-16 @ 6:03 PM
HAHA Getalife, do you live in the real world? Come and spend some time in my town - plenty for kids to do but some prefer to wreck the park that has been provided for them and vandalize people's property. Not all kids, most are great. Mine are adults out in the world now, but when you see a group of 12 year olds try to set fire to a retirement bungalow - with elderly people inside, you wonder what the parents are doing. As for footballs, I played in my garden when I was a lad, but ours weren't proper footballs and didn't cause damage. Just been to replace a window and fence for an elderly chap whose neighbours kids have smashed to bits - deliberately. He always returned the balls, and never complained. Perhaps he should feel shame? No, we live in the real world, not the fluffy pink planet you are orbiting!
Swifty - 28-Sep-16 @ 2:52 PM
Dear getalife, can understand your point, but do you live next door to a problem family? I work in the social sector and have a greater understanding of the issues raised than most. I also happen to live next door to a family of 6 children all with behavioural problems. I have had so much damage done to my property I can no longer afford to fix everything. My parents are affected by cancer and dementia and I have a serious health issue. I mostly have to ignore what my neighbours do as they have threatened me. Perhaps the poster below has other issues and this is the last straw? Walk a mile in their shoes before judging, you don't know what other people suffer privately, as I have had to do with my problem neighbours. Thank you.
Happy - 28-Sep-16 @ 2:31 PM
My neighbour lives above me and constantly bangs and slams her draws at all times of the night. Even though I reported this, she just got louder. It is causing a lot of distress to myself and my small kids as now I suffer from high blood pressure. We have put up with loud music at 2 in the morning and even her running up and down her corridor at 1 in the morning.During the day she will slam all her doors and start banging with a hammer in the room. During school run she shouts and swears at her two girls which is not nice to hear. Even though I tried saying hello and being friendly she still has not changed. I am now looking to move and I will try and get on with what I have to do in the mean time. I am not the only person she bullies it's the man above us and the the young couple bellow me. She has got away with so much. All the help they say is in place to protect us really is not. I feel I have to protect my family myself.
Nads - 26-Sep-16 @ 2:32 PM
@FedUp. What a sweeping generalisation! This kind of intolerance to neighbours is making any problems of today much worse than they really are. All kids play ball and occasionally they will go into a neighbour's garden. Is it really an issue if they nip and retrieve it? Maybe you're just to frightening for them to be able to pluck up the courage to ask first? Most children do have respect for both property and authority but by making them all out to be worthless criminals, you are contributing to a widening generation gap, a poor sense of community and making children feel like they have no sense of worth in society. Shame on you.
GetaLife - 23-Sep-16 @ 10:13 AM
Dear Kat - this is how it is in 2016. Children have no respect for their or anyone else's property Parents have no respect Grandparents have no respect Children are untouchable and are not held to account FOR ANYTHING including criminal acts If they spin a sob story (like next door to me) they become everyone's favourite charity case - they are no more disadvantaged than anyone else Legal wise - you have to return balls,no, kids are not supposed to enter your garden (but often do) Can you get a dog? We are going to get a rescue dog as soon as possible and it is going to enjoy the taste of balls!!;)
FedUp - 22-Sep-16 @ 9:29 AM
Hi I need some advise. I am getting really sick and tired of having kids throw their ball in my garden. This is happening all the time now, they even broke my fence which I luckily fixed otherwise could of cost a lot of money which I do not have. I do not want this to be a issue but its making me really unhappy now, I work away and im scared of coming back from work to see a football through my window. Their garden backs on to my house where the window is. I have just had enough. I have not give the ball back because this is getting out of control. How ever one of the kids tried to get in to my garden. Surly that is Illegal? Any advice welcome I have had enough
kat - 17-Sep-16 @ 7:07 PM
Janet - Your Question:
Moved into my dream cottage 9 years ago. 4 years ago my current neighbour and her 2 dogs + cat moved in. She has made my life miserable. Told housing they wan't do anything as her word against mine. If I make recordings I will be prosecuted for breach of her privacy. She lies and manipulates to get what she wants. Already 2 other neighbours scared of her. So scared they won't report her bullying and deny when asked by housing, out of fear. Over 4 years of near weekly paperwork of how she has bullied and intimidated me and others. Housing do nothing but shrug. What else can I do?

Our Response:
If your neighbour is causing you an actual nuisance on a regular basis and is interfering with your enjoyment of your property, the environmental health officer will be willing to investigate. They may be able to serve an abatement notice or liaise with the housing department to find a solution.
ProblemNeighbours - 9-Sep-16 @ 11:02 AM
Moved into my dream cottage 9 years ago. 4 years ago my current neighbourand her 2 dogs + cat moved in. She has made my life miserable. Told housing they wan't do anything as her word against mine. If I make recordings I will be prosecuted for breach of her privacy. She lies and manipulates to get what she wants. Already 2 other neighbours scared of her. So scared they won't report her bullying and deny when asked by housing, out of fear. Over 4 years of near weekly paperwork of how she has bullied and intimidated me and others. Housing do nothing but shrug. What else can I do?
Janet - 8-Sep-16 @ 7:00 AM
i live in a semi in Renfrewshire.had my house exterior painted last year......immediate neighbour took umbridge to my choice of surround colour & told me i had lost the f***ing plot in a torrent of abuse directed at me.......the aggression came as a complete surprise & i went about my business in shock!!it's hardly purple with orange spots....it's a brighter magnolia than others!!nobody else gives a stuff!!cue subsequent abuse like kicking footballs at divider fence & shouting insults among other things!!there's only 1 of me with my dog......there's 4 of them with their dog!!they seldom go anywhere,they're always at home & life is awkward.meantime,i spend half the month abroad,make no noise,never have parties etc....would love to have a neighbour like me!!
dodgydoggy - 5-Sep-16 @ 6:50 PM
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